This is a modern-English version of The Intermediate Sex: A Study of Some Transitional Types of Men and Women, originally written by Carpenter, Edward.
It has been thoroughly updated, including changes to sentence structure, words, spelling,
and grammar—to ensure clarity for contemporary readers, while preserving the original spirit and nuance. If
you click on a paragraph, you will see the original text that we modified, and you can toggle between the two versions.
Scroll to the bottom of this page and you will find a free ePUB download link for this book.
The Intermediate Sex
The Intersex Community
Works by Edward Carpenter
Edward Carpenter's Works
- ANGELS’ WINGS
- ART OF CREATION
- CIVILIZATION: ITS CAUSE AND CURE
- DAYS WITH WALT WHITMAN
- DRAMA OF LOVE AND DEATH
- ENGLAND’S IDEAL
- FROM ADAM’S PEAK TO ELEPHANTA
- HEALING OF NATIONS
- INTERMEDIATE TYPES
- AMONG PRIMITIVE FOLK
- IOLÄUS: AN ANTHOLOGY OF FRIENDSHIP
- LOVE’S COMING OF AGE
- MY DAYS AND DREAMS
- PAGAN AND CHRISTIAN CREEDS
- PROMISED LAND
- TOWARDS DEMOCRACY
- TOWARDS INDUSTRIAL FREEDOM
- VISIT TO A GÑANI
- CHANTS OF LABOUR
The Intermediate
Sex
A Study of Some Transitional Types
of Men and Women
A Study of Some Transitional Types
of Men and Women
BY
EDWARD CARPENTER
BY
EDWARD CARPENTER

LONDON: GEORGE ALLEN & UNWIN LTD.
RUSKIN HOUSE, 40 MUSEUM STREET, W.C.1
LONDON: GEORGE ALLEN & UNWIN LTD.
RUSKIN HOUSE, 40 MUSEUM STREET, W.C.1
First published | 1908 |
Reprinted | 1909 |
” | 1912 |
” | 1916 |
” | 1918 |
” | 1921 |
“There are transitional forms between the metals and non-metals; between chemical combinations and simple mixtures, between animals and plants, between phanerogams and cryptogams, and between mammals and birds.… The improbability may henceforth be taken for granted of finding in Nature a sharp cleavage between all that is masculine on the one side and all that is feminine on the other; or that any living being is so simple in this respect that it can be put wholly on one side, or wholly on the other, of the line.”
There are transitional forms between metals and non-metals; between chemical combinations and simple mixtures, between animals and plants, between flowering plants and non-flowering plants, and between mammals and birds.… From now on, we can assume that it’s unlikely to find a clear division in nature between everything that is masculine on one side and everything that is feminine on the other; or that any living being is so straightforward in this regard that it can be placed entirely on one side or entirely on the other of the line.
O. Weininger.
O. Weininger.
Prefatory Note
TO FIRST EDITION
The following papers, now collected in book-form, have been written—and some of them published—on various occasions during the last twelve or fourteen years, and in the intervals of other work; and this must be my excuse for occasional repetitions or overlapping of matter, which may be observable among them. I have thought it best, however, to leave them as they stand, as in this way each is more complete in itself. The second essay, which gives its title to the book, has already appeared in my “Love’s Coming-of-Age” (edition 1906), but is reprinted here as belonging more properly to this volume.
The following papers, now gathered in book form, were written—and some of them published—on various occasions over the last twelve or fourteen years, during breaks from other work. This is my justification for the occasional repetitions or overlaps that you might notice among them. I believe it's best to keep them as they are, as this makes each one more complete on its own. The second essay, which gives its title to the book, has already been published in my “Love’s Coming-of-Age” (1906 edition), but it is included here because it fits better in this collection.
A collection of quotations from responsible writers, who touch on various sides of the subject, is added at the end, to form an Appendix—which the author thinks will prove helpful, though he does not necessarily endorse all the opinions presented.
A collection of quotes from reputable writers, who address different aspects of the topic, is included at the end as an Appendix—something the author believes will be useful, though he doesn't necessarily agree with all the opinions shared.
E. C.
E.C.
Contents
Page | ||
Introduction | 7 | |
I. | Intro | 9 |
II. | The Middle Sex | 16 |
III. | The Homogenic Connection | 39 |
IV. | Love in Education | 83 |
V. | The Role of the Uranian in Society | 107 |
Appendix | 131 |
Introductory
The subject dealt with in this book is one of great, and one may say growing, importance. Whether it is that the present period is one of large increase in the numbers of men and women of an intermediate or mixed temperament, or whether it merely is that it is a period in which more than usual attention happens to be accorded to them, the fact certainly remains that the subject has great actuality and is pressing upon us from all sides. It is recognised that anyhow the number of persons occupying an intermediate position between the two sexes is very great, that they play a considerable part in general society, and that they necessarily present and embody many problems which, both for their own sakes and that of society, demand solution. The literature of the question has in consequence already grown to be very extensive, especially on the Continent, and includes a great quantity of scientific10 works, medical treatises, literary essays, romances, historical novels, poetry, etc. And it is now generally admitted that some knowledge and enlightened understanding of the subject is greatly needed for the use of certain classes—as, for instance, medical men, teachers, parents, magistrates, judges, and the like.
The topic tackled in this book is one of significant, and increasingly so, importance. Whether it's due to the current surge in the number of individuals with an intermediate or mixed temperament, or simply that there is more attention being given to them than usual, it’s clear that this subject is very relevant and pressing. It is acknowledged that there are indeed many people occupying a middle ground between the two sexes, and they play a notable role in society at large. Additionally, they inevitably present and embody numerous issues that, for their own benefit and that of society, require solutions. As a result, the literature on this topic has become quite extensive, especially in Europe, encompassing a wide range of scientific10 works, medical papers, literary essays, novels, historical narratives, poetry, and more. It is now widely recognized that a certain level of knowledge and thoughtful understanding of this subject is essential for various groups—such as medical professionals, educators, parents, magistrates, judges, and others.
That there are distinctions and gradations of Soul-material in relation to Sex—that the inner psychical affections and affinities shade off and graduate, in a vast number of instances, most subtly from male to female, and not always in obvious correspondence with the outer bodily sex—is a thing evident enough to anyone who considers the subject; nor could any good purpose well be served by ignoring this fact—even if it were possible to do so. It is easy of course (as some do) to classify all these mixed or intermediate types as bad. It is also easy (as some do) to argue that just because they combine opposite qualities they are likely to be good and valuable. But the subtleties and complexities of Nature cannot be despatched in this off-hand manner. The great probability is that, as in any other class of human beings, there will be among these too, good and bad, high and low, worthy11 and unworthy—some perhaps exhibiting through their double temperament a rare and beautiful flower of humanity, others a perverse and tangled ruin.
That there are differences and variations in the essence of the soul related to gender—that the inner emotional connections and affinities subtly transition from male to female in many cases, not always aligning perfectly with physical sex—is clear to anyone who thinks about it. Ignoring this fact serves no real purpose, even if it were possible to do so. It's easy (as some do) to label all these mixed or intermediate types as bad. It’s also easy (as some do) to argue that because they combine opposite qualities, they must be good and valuable. But the complexities of Nature can't be simplified so easily. The most likely scenario, as with any other group of people, is that among these individuals there will be both good and bad, high and low, worthy11 and unworthy—some may display through their dual nature a unique and beautiful aspect of humanity, while others may reveal a twisted and chaotic state.
Before the facts of Nature we have to preserve a certain humility and reverence; nor rush in with our preconceived and obstinate assumptions. Though these gradations of human type have always, and among all peoples, been more or less known and recognised, yet their frequency to-day, or even the concentration of attention on them, may be the indication of some important change actually in progress. We do not know, in fact, what possible evolutions are to come, or what new forms, of permanent place and value, are being already slowly differentiated from the surrounding mass of humanity. It may be that, as at some past period of evolution the worker-bee was without doubt differentiated from the two ordinary bee-sexes, so at the present time certain new types of human kind may be emerging, which will have an important part to play in the societies of the future—even though for the moment their appearance is attended by a good deal of confusion and misapprehension. It may be so; or it may not. We do not know; and the12 best attitude we can adopt is one of sincere and dispassionate observation of facts.
Before the facts of nature, we need to maintain a certain humility and respect; we shouldn't rush in with our pre-set and stubborn beliefs. Although different human types have always been somewhat known and recognized by various cultures, the prevalence of these types today, or the heightened focus on them, might indicate a significant change that is taking place. We do not know what possible evolutions might come or what new, lasting forms are already slowly emerging from the general population. It’s possible that, just as the worker bee was clearly distinguished from the two common bee sexes at some point in the past, certain new human types may be developing now, which could play an important role in future societies—even if their emergence is currently accompanied by a lot of confusion and misunderstanding. It could be true, or it could not be. We simply don’t know; and the12 best approach we can take is one of genuine and objective observation of the facts.
Of course wherever this subject touches on the domain of love we may expect difficult queries to arise. Yet it is here probably that the noblest work of the intermediate sex or sexes will be accomplished, as well as the greatest errors committed. It seems almost a law of Nature that new and important movements should be misunderstood and vilified—even though afterwards they may be widely approved or admitted to honour. Such movements are always envisaged first from whatever aspect they may possibly present, of ludicrous or contemptible. The early Christians, in the eyes of Romans, were chiefly known as the perpetrators of obscure rites and crimes in the darkness of the catacombs. Modern Socialism was for a long time supposed to be an affair of daggers and dynamite; and even now there are thousands of good people ignorant enough to believe that it simply means “divide up all round, and each take his threepenny bit.” Vegetarians were supposed to be a feeble and brainless set of cabbage-eaters. The Women’s movement, so vast in its scope and importance, was nothing but an absurd attempt to make women “the apes of13 men.” And so on without end; the accusation in each case being some tag or last fag-end of fact, caught up by ignorance, and coloured by prejudice. So commonplace is it to misunderstand, so easy to misrepresent.
Of course, whenever this topic intersects with love, we can expect tough questions to come up. Yet, it’s probably here that the greatest achievements of the intermediate sex or sexes will take place, along with the biggest mistakes. It seems almost like a natural law that new and significant movements should be misunderstood and criticized—even though later on they might be widely accepted or recognized. These movements are always first viewed in the most ridiculous or contemptible light. The early Christians, in the eyes of Romans, were mainly seen as the ones committing obscure rituals and crimes in the darkness of the catacombs. For a long time, modern Socialism was thought to be all about daggers and explosives; and even now, there are thousands of well-meaning people who are uninformed enough to think it simply means “divide everything up and let everyone take their share.” Vegetarians were seen as a weak and brainless group of vegetable eaters. The Women’s movement, which is so vast in scope and importance, was dismissed as a silly attempt to make women “the monkeys of men.” And this pattern goes on endlessly; in each case, the accusation is based on a small fragment of truth, picked up by ignorance and tainted by bias. Misunderstanding is so common, and it's so easy to misrepresent.
That the Uranian temperament, especially in regard to its affectional side, is not without faults must naturally be allowed; but that it has been grossly and absurdly misunderstood is certain. With a good deal of experience in the matter, I think one may safely say that the defect of the male Uranian, or Urning,1 is not sensuality—but rather sentimentality. The lower, more ordinary types of Urning are often terribly sentimental; the superior types strangely, almost incredibly emotional; but neither as a rule (though of course there must be exceptions) are so sensual as the average normal man.
That the Uranian temperament, especially when it comes to emotions, has its flaws is definitely true; however, it has also been wildly and irrationally misunderstood. Based on my considerable experience with this, I can confidently say that the issue with the male Uranian, or Urning,1 is not about sensuality, but more about sentimentality. The more typical, lower types of Urning can be extremely sentimental; the higher types tend to be unusually, almost unbelievably emotional; but generally speaking, (with some exceptions, of course) they are not as sensual as the average normal man.
This immense capacity of emotional love represents of course a great driving force. Whether in the individual or in society, love is eminently creative. It is their great genius for attachment which gives to the best Uranian types their penetrating influence and activity, and which often makes14 them beloved and accepted far and wide even by those who know nothing of their inner mind. How many so-called philanthropists of the best kind (we need not mention names) have been inspired by the Uranian temperament, the world will probably never know. And in all walks of life the great number and influence of folk of this disposition, and the distinguished place they already occupy, is only realised by those who are more or less behind the scenes. It is probable also that it is this genius for emotional love which gives to the Uranians their remarkable youthfulness.
This immense capacity for emotional love is, of course, a significant driving force. Whether in individuals or in society, love is incredibly creative. It's their strong ability to form attachments that gives the best Uranian types their impactful influence and activity, which often makes14 them beloved and accepted far and wide, even by those who don’t understand their inner thoughts. How many of the so-called philanthropists of the highest caliber (we need not name names) have been inspired by the Uranian temperament, the world will probably never fully know. In all aspects of life, the large number and influence of people with this disposition, along with the distinguished position they already hold, are realized only by those who are somewhat behind the scenes. It's also likely that this knack for emotional love is what gives the Uranians their exceptional youthfulness.
Anyhow, with their extraordinary gift for, and experience in, affairs of the heart—from the double point of view, both of the man and of the woman—it is not difficult to see that these people have a special work to do as reconcilers and interpreters of the two sexes to each other. Of this I have spoken at more length below (chaps. ii. and v.). It is probable that the superior Urnings will become, in affairs of the heart, to a large extent the teachers of future society; and if so that their influence will tend to the realisation and expression of an attachment less exclusively sensual than the average of to-day, and to the diffusion of this in all directions.
Anyway, with their remarkable ability and experience in romantic matters—from both the man's and woman's perspective—it's clear that these individuals have a unique role to play as mediators and interpreters between the two sexes. I've discussed this in more detail below (chaps. ii. and v.). It's likely that the advanced Urnings will become, in matters of love, the educators of future society; and if so, their influence will help foster a connection that is less exclusively physical than what we see today, spreading this understanding in all directions.
While at any rate not presuming to speak with authority on so difficult a subject, I plead for the necessity of a patient consideration of it, for the due recognition of the types of character concerned, and for some endeavour to give them their fitting place and sphere of usefulness in the general scheme of society.
While I don't claim to have all the answers on such a complex topic, I urge for a careful look at it, for the proper acknowledgment of the different character types involved, and for some effort to find them their appropriate roles and areas of contribution in the broader framework of society.
One thing more by way of introductory explanation. The word Love is commonly used in so general and almost indiscriminate a fashion as to denote sometimes physical instincts and acts, and sometimes the most intimate and profound feelings; and in this way a good deal of misunderstanding is caused. In this book (unless there be exceptions in the Appendix) the word is used to denote the inner devotion of one person to another; and when anything else is meant—as, for instance, sexual relations and actions—this is clearly stated and expressed.
One more thing to explain up front. The word "Love" is often used so broadly and carelessly that it can refer to physical instincts and actions at times, and at other times it refers to the deepest, most personal feelings. This leads to a lot of misunderstandings. In this book (unless there are exceptions in the Appendix), the word is meant to signify the deep commitment of one person to another; and when something different is intended—like sexual relationships and actions—that will be clearly stated.
II
The Intermediate Sex.
“Urning men and women, on whose book of life Nature has written her new word which sounds so strange to us, bear such storm and stress within them, such ferment and fluctuation, so much complex material having its outlet only towards the future; their individualities are so rich and many-sided, and withal so little understood, that it is impossible to characterise them adequately in a few sentences.”—Otto de Joux.
“Urning men and women, whose life story Nature has inscribed her new term which sounds so unfamiliar to us, carry such turmoil and tension within them, such restless energy and change, so much complex material aimed only at the future; their individualities are so rich and multifaceted, and yet so poorly understood, that it is impossible to describe them fully in just a few sentences.”—Otto de Joux.
In late years (and since the arrival of the New Woman amongst us) many things in the relation of men and women to each other have altered, or at any rate become clearer. The growing sense of equality in habits and customs—university studies, art, music, politics, the bicycle, etc.—all these things have brought about a rapprochement between the sexes. If the modern woman is a little more masculine in some ways than her predecessor, the modern man (it is to be hoped), while by no means effeminate, is a little more sensitive in temperament and artistic in feeling than the17 original John Bull. It is beginning to be recognised that the sexes do not or should not normally form two groups hopelessly isolated in habit and feeling from each other, but that they rather represent the two poles of one group—which is the human race; so that while certainly the extreme specimens at either pole are vastly divergent, there are great numbers in the middle region who (though differing corporeally as men and women) are by emotion and temperament very near to each other.2 We all know women with a strong dash of the masculine temperament, and we all know men whose almost feminine sensibility and intuition seem to belie their bodily form. Nature, it might appear, in mixing the elements which go to compose each individual, does not always keep her two groups of ingredients—which represent the two sexes—properly apart, but often throws them crosswise in a somewhat baffling manner, now this way and now that; yet wisely, we must think—for if a severe distinction of elements were always maintained the two sexes would soon drift into far latitudes and absolutely cease to understand each other. As it is, there are some remarkable and (we think) indispensable types of character18 in whom there is such a union or balance of the feminine and masculine qualities that these people become to a great extent the interpreters of men and women to each other.
In recent years (and since the emergence of the New Woman), many aspects of how men and women relate to each other have changed, or at least become clearer. The growing sense of equality in daily life—whether in university education, art, music, politics, cycling, and so on—has fostered a rapprochement between the sexes. If the modern woman is a bit more masculine in some ways than her predecessor, we can hope that the modern man, while definitely not effeminate, is a bit more sensitive and artistic in feeling than the original John Bull. It's becoming accepted that the sexes do not, and shouldn't, exist as two completely separated groups in habits and feelings, but rather represent the two poles of one group—which is the human race. While the extreme examples at either end are very different, many individuals in the middle, who differ physically as men and women, are emotionally and temperamentally quite similar.2 We all recognize women who have a strong masculine side, and we all know men whose almost feminine sensitivity and intuition seem to contradict their physical form. Nature, it seems, doesn't always keep the elements that create individuals—representing the two sexes—separate, but often mixes them in an unpredictable way, now this way and now that. Yet we must believe this is a wise choice—if there were a strict division between the elements, the two sexes would soon become so different that they wouldn’t understand each other at all. As things stand, there are some remarkable and (we believe) essential character types in whom there is such a blend of feminine and masculine qualities that they become significant interpreters between men and women.18
There is another point which has become clearer of late. For as people are beginning to see that the sexes form in a certain sense a continuous group, so they are beginning to see that Love and Friendship—which have been so often set apart from each other as things distinct—are in reality closely related and shade imperceptibly into each other. Women are beginning to demand that Marriage shall mean Friendship as well as Passion; that a comrade-like Equality shall be included in the word Love; and it is recognised that from the one extreme of a ‘Platonic’ friendship (generally between persons of the same sex) up to the other extreme of passionate love (generally between persons of opposite sex) no hard and fast line can at any point be drawn effectively separating the different kinds of attachment. We know, in fact, of Friendships so romantic in sentiment that they verge into love; we know of Loves so intellectual and spiritual that they hardly dwell in the sphere of Passion.
There's another point that has become clearer recently. As people start to realize that the sexes form a continuous group in a certain sense, they're also beginning to see that Love and Friendship—which have often been viewed as completely separate—are actually closely related and blend into each other seamlessly. Women are starting to insist that Marriage should represent Friendship as well as Passion; that a comrade-like Equality should be part of what Love means; and it's acknowledged that from the one extreme of a ‘Platonic’ friendship (usually between people of the same sex) to the other extreme of passionate love (usually between people of the opposite sex), there’s no clear line that can be drawn to separate the different types of attachment. In fact, we know of Friendships so romantic in sentiment that they nearly cross into love; we know of Loves so intellectual and spiritual that they barely exist in the realm of Passion.
A moment’s thought will show that the general19 conceptions indicated above—if anywhere near the truth—point to an immense diversity of human temperament and character in matters relating to sex and love; but though such diversity has probably always existed, it has only in comparatively recent times become a subject of study.
A moment's thought will show that the general19 ideas mentioned above—if they are at all accurate—suggest a huge variety of human temperament and character in areas related to sex and love; however, while this diversity has likely always been present, it has only recently become a focus of study.
More than thirty years ago, however, an Austrian writer, K. H. Ulrichs, drew attention in a series of pamphlets (Memnon, Ara Spei, Inclusa, etc.) to the existence of a class of people who strongly illustrate the above remarks, and with whom specially this paper is concerned. He pointed out that there were people born in such a position—as it were on the dividing line between the sexes—that while belonging distinctly to one sex as far as their bodies are concerned they may be said to belong mentally and emotionally to the other; that there were men, for instance, who might be described as of feminine soul enclosed in a male body (anima muliebris in corpore virili inclusa), or in other cases, women whose definition would be just the reverse. And he maintained that this doubleness of nature was to a great extent proved by the special direction of their love-sentiment. For in such cases, as indeed might be expected, the (apparently) masculine person20 instead of forming a love-union with a female tended to contract romantic friendships with one of his own sex; while the apparently feminine would, instead of marrying in the usual way, devote herself to the love of another feminine.
More than thirty years ago, an Austrian writer, K. H. Ulrichs, highlighted in a series of pamphlets (Memnon, Ara Spei, Inclusa, etc.) the existence of a group of people who strongly illustrate the points mentioned earlier, and this paper is particularly focused on them. He pointed out that some people are born in a position—essentially on the dividing line between the sexes—such that while they clearly belong to one sex physically, they can be considered to belong mentally and emotionally to the other. For instance, there are men who might be described as having a feminine soul trapped in a male body (anima muliebris in corpore virili inclusa), and vice versa, women whose description would be the opposite. He argued that this duality of nature is largely reflected in the unique direction of their romantic feelings. In such cases, as might be expected, the (apparently) masculine person20 tends not to seek a romantic relationship with a female but rather forms close friendships with someone of his own sex, while the seemingly feminine individual does not pursue a traditional marriage but dedicates herself to loving another feminine person.
People of this kind (i.e., having this special variation of the love-sentiment) he called Urnings;3 and though we are not obliged to accept his theory about the crosswise connexion between ‘soul’ and ‘body,’ since at best these words are somewhat vague and indefinite; yet his work was important because it was one of the first attempts, in modern times, to recognise the existence of what might be called an Intermediate sex, and to give at any rate some explanation of it.4
People like this (i.e., those with this unique form of love) he referred to as Urnings; and while we’re not required to accept his theory regarding the connection between ‘soul’ and ‘body,’ since these terms are at best somewhat unclear and vague, his work was significant because it was one of the first modern attempts to acknowledge the existence of what could be considered an Intermediate sex and to provide at least some explanation for it.
Since that time the subject has been widely studied and written about by scientific men and others, especially on the Continent (though in21 England it is still comparatively unknown), and by means of an extended observation of present-day cases, as well as the indirect testimony of the history and literature of past times, quite a body of general conclusions has been arrived at—of which I propose in the following pages to give some slight account.
Since then, many scientists and others have extensively studied and written about the topic, particularly in Europe (though it's still relatively unknown in England). Through a thorough observation of current cases and the indirect evidence found in historical records and literature, a significant collection of general conclusions has been formed. I plan to provide a brief overview of these conclusions in the following pages.
Contrary to the general impression, one of the first points that emerges from this study is that ‘Urnings,’ or Uranians, are by no means so very rare; but that they form, beneath the surface of society, a large class. It remains difficult, however, to get an exact statement of their numbers; and this for more than one reason: partly because, owing to the want of any general understanding of their case, these folk tend to conceal their true feelings from all but their own kind, and indeed often deliberately act in such a manner as to lead the world astray—(whence it arises that a normal man living in a certain society will often refuse to believe that there is a single Urning in the circle of his acquaintance, while one of the latter, or one that understands the nature, living in the same society, can count perhaps a score or more)—and partly because it is indubitable that the numbers do vary very greatly, not only in different countries22 but even in different classes in the same country. The consequence of all this being that we have estimates differing very widely from each other. Dr. Grabowsky, a well-known writer in Germany, quotes figures (which we think must be exaggerated) as high as one man in every 22, while Dr. Albert Moll (Die Conträre Sexualempfindung, chap. 3) gives estimates varying from 1 in every 50 to as low as 1 in every 500.5 These figures apply to such as are exclusively of the said nature, i.e., to those whose deepest feelings of love and friendship go out only to persons of their own sex. Of course, if in addition are included those double-natured people (of whom there is a great number) who experience the normal attachment, with the homogenic tendency in less or greater degree superadded, the estimates must be greatly higher.
Contrary to popular belief, one of the first things that stands out from this study is that ‘Urnings,’ or Uranians, are not as rare as people think; instead, they represent a significant group within society beneath the surface. However, it's still difficult to provide an accurate count of their numbers for several reasons: partly because, due to the lack of general understanding of their situation, these individuals tend to hide their true feelings from everyone except those like them, and often act in ways that mislead others. This leads a typical person living in a particular society to often deny that there is a single Urning among their acquaintances, while one of them, or someone who understands their nature, might recognize several in the same environment. Additionally, it’s undeniable that the numbers vary significantly not only between different countries22 but also within different social classes in the same country. As a result, we have estimates that differ widely from one another. Dr. Grabowsky, a well-known author in Germany, cites figures (which we believe are probably exaggerated) as high as one in every 22, while Dr. Albert Moll (Die Conträre Sexualempfindung, chap. 3) provides estimates ranging from 1 in every 50 to as low as 1 in every 500.5 These figures refer specifically to those individuals who exclusively identify with this nature, i.e., those whose deepest feelings of love and friendship are directed solely toward people of their own sex. Naturally, if we also consider those who have a dual nature (of which there are many) and experience normal attachments along with varying degrees of same-sex attraction, the estimates would be significantly higher.
In the second place it emerges (also contrary to the general impression) that men and women of the exclusively Uranian type are by no means necessarily morbid in any way—unless, indeed, their peculiar temperament be pronounced in itself23 morbid. Formerly it was assumed as a matter of course, that the type was merely a result of disease and degeneration; but now with the examination of the actual facts it appears that, on the contrary, many are fine, healthy specimens of their sex, muscular and well-developed in body, of powerful brain, high standard of conduct, and with nothing abnormal or morbid of any kind observable in their physical structure or constitution. This is of course not true of all, and there still remain a certain number of cases of weakly type to support the neuropathic view. Yet it is very noticeable that this view is much less insisted on by the later writers than by the earlier. It is also worth noticing that it is now acknowledged that even in the most healthy cases the special affectional temperament of the ‘Intermediate’ is, as a rule, ineradicable; so much so that when (as in not a few instances) such men and women, from social or other considerations, have forced themselves to marry and even have children, they have still not been able to overcome their own bias, or the leaning after all of their life-attachment to some friend of their own sex.
In the second place, it turns out (contrary to popular belief) that men and women of the exclusively Uranian type are not necessarily unhealthy in any way—unless, of course, their unique temperament is inherently unhealthy. It used to be taken for granted that this type resulted solely from illness and degeneration; however, after examining the actual evidence, it appears that, on the contrary, many are vibrant, healthy individuals of their gender, strong and well-developed in body, with sharp minds, high moral standards, and no abnormal or unhealthy traits evident in their physical makeup or constitution. This isn’t true for everyone, and there are still some weakly types that support the neuropathic perspective. However, it’s noticeable that later writers emphasize this viewpoint much less than earlier ones. It’s also important to note that it’s now recognized that even in the healthiest cases, the special emotional temperament of the ‘Intermediate’ is generally permanent; so much so that when (in many cases) such men and women, for social or other reasons, have forced themselves to marry and even have children, they have still been unable to overcome their own preferences, or the attachment they have felt throughout their lives for some friend of the same sex.23
This subject, though obviously one of considerable interest and importance, has been hitherto,24 as I have pointed out, but little discussed in this country, partly owing to a certain amount of doubt and distrust which has, not unnaturally perhaps, surrounded it. And certainly if the men and women born with the tendency in question were only exceedingly rare, though it would not be fair on that account to ignore them, yet it would hardly be necessary to dwell at great length on their case. But as the class is really, on any computation, numerous, it becomes a duty for society not only to understand them but to help them to understand themselves.
This topic, while clearly very interesting and important, has been discussed very little in this country, as I've noted. This is partly due to some doubt and distrust that has understandably surrounded it. If the people with this tendency were extremely rare, it wouldn't be fair to overlook them. However, it wouldn't be necessary to spend extensive time discussing their situation. But since this group is actually quite large by any estimation, it's society's responsibility to not only understand them but also to help them understand themselves.
For there is no doubt that in many cases people of this kind suffer a great deal from their own temperament—and yet, after all, it is possible that they may have an important part to play in the evolution of the race. Anyone who realises what Love is, the dedication of the heart, so profound, so absorbing, so mysterious, so imperative, and always just in the noblest natures so strong, cannot fail to see how difficult, how tragic even, must often be the fate of those whose deepest feelings are destined from the earliest days to be a riddle and a stumbling-block, unexplained to themselves, passed over in silence by others.6 To call people25 of such temperament ‘morbid,’ and so forth, is of no use. Such a term is, in fact, absurdly inapplicable to many, who are among the most active, the most amiable and accepted members of society; besides, it forms no solution of the problem in question, and only amounts to marking down for disparagement a fellow-creature who has already considerable difficulties to contend with. Says Dr. Moll, “Anyone who has seen many Urnings will probably admit that they form a by no means enervated human group; on the contrary, one finds powerful, healthy-looking folk among them;” but in the very next sentence he says that they “suffer severely” from the way they are regarded; and in the manifesto of a considerable community of such people in Germany occur these words, “The rays of sunshine in the night of our existence are so rare, that we are responsive and deeply grateful for the least movement, for every single voice that speaks in our favour in the forum of mankind.”7
For sure, in many cases, people like this struggle a lot because of their own temperament—and yet, it’s possible they have an important role in the development of humanity. Anyone who understands what Love is—the dedication of the heart, so deep, so consuming, so mysterious, so necessary, and often incredibly strong in the noblest characters—can’t help but see how challenging and even tragic the fate of those whose deepest feelings have been a puzzle and a hurdle from the very beginning must be, unexplained to themselves and ignored by others.6 Calling people25 with such temperament ‘morbid’ or something similar doesn't help. That label doesn't really apply to many of them, who are some of the most active, friendly, and accepted members of society; besides, it doesn’t solve the problem at hand and just serves to put down someone who is already dealing with significant challenges. Dr. Moll says, “Anyone who has seen many Urnings will probably agree that they form a very much alive human group; on the contrary, you find strong, healthy-looking individuals among them;” but in the very next sentence, he notes that they “suffer severely” from how they are viewed. And in the manifesto of a significant community of such people in Germany, these words appear: “The rays of sunshine in the night of our existence are so rare that we are receptive and deeply grateful for the slightest gesture, for every single voice that supports us in the arena of mankind.”7
In dealing with this class of folk, then, while I do not deny that they present a difficult problem, I think that just for that very reason their26 case needs discussion. It would be a great mistake to suppose that their attachments are necessarily sexual, or connected with sexual acts. On the contrary (as abundant evidence shows), they are often purely emotional in their character; and to confuse Uranians (as is so often done) with libertines having no law but curiosity in self-indulgence is to do them a great wrong. At the same time, it is evident that their special temperament may sometimes cause them difficulty in regard to their sexual relations. Into this subject we need not just now enter. But we may point out how hard it is, especially for the young among them, that a veil of complete silence should be drawn over the subject, leading to the most painful misunderstandings, and perversions and confusions of mind; and that there should be no hint of guidance; nor any recognition of the solitary and really serious inner struggles they may have to face! If the problem is a difficult one—as it undoubtedly is—the fate of those people is already hard who have to meet it in their own persons, without their suffering in addition from the refusal of society to give them any help. It is partly for these reasons, and to throw a little light where it may be needed, that I have thought it might be27 advisable in this paper simply to give a few general characteristics of the Intermediate types.
In dealing with this group of people, while I acknowledge that they present a challenging issue, I believe that this is exactly why their26 situation needs to be discussed. It's a big mistake to assume that their connections are necessarily sexual or linked to sexual activities. In fact, as considerable evidence indicates, they are often purely emotional. Confusing Uranians (as is commonly done) with libertines who only follow their curiosity for self-indulgence is a significant injustice. At the same time, it's clear that their unique temperament can sometimes create difficulties in their sexual relationships. We don’t need to delve into that topic right now. However, it is important to highlight how challenging it is, especially for the younger ones, to have a complete silence surrounding this subject, which leads to painful misunderstandings, distortions, and mental confusion; and that there is no guidance or recognition of the solitary, serious internal struggles they may face! If the issue is indeed complex—as it certainly is—it’s already tough for those individuals who have to navigate it firsthand, without added suffering from society's refusal to offer any support. It is partly for these reasons, and to shed some light where it might be necessary, that I thought it would be27 helpful in this paper to simply outline a few general characteristics of the Intermediate types.
As indicated then already, in bodily structure there is, as a rule, nothing to distinguish the subjects of our discussion from ordinary men and women; but if we take the general mental characteristics it appears from almost universal testimony that the male tends to be of a rather gentle, emotional disposition—with defects, if such exist, in the direction of subtlety, evasiveness, timidity, vanity, etc.; while the female is just the opposite, fiery, active, bold and truthful, with defects running to brusqueness and coarseness. Moreover, the mind of the former is generally intuitive and instinctive in its perceptions, with more or less of artistic feeling; while the mind of the latter is more logical, scientific, and precise than usual with the normal woman. So marked indeed are these general characteristics that sometimes by means of them (though not an infallible guide) the nature of the boy or girl can be detected in childhood, before full development has taken place; and needless to say it may often be very important to be able to do this.
As mentioned earlier, in terms of physical structure, there’s usually nothing that sets the subjects of our discussion apart from regular men and women. However, when we look at general mental characteristics, it seems, according to nearly everyone, that males tend to be quite gentle and emotional, with potential flaws in subtlety, evasiveness, timidity, vanity, and similar traits. In contrast, females are usually fiery, active, bold, and honest, albeit with tendencies toward brusqueness and coarseness. Additionally, males generally have intuitive and instinctive perceptions, often with a degree of artistic sensitivity, while females are typically more logical, scientific, and precise than is common for women. These distinct traits are so pronounced that they can sometimes help identify whether a child is a boy or a girl even before they are fully developed, which can be quite important in many cases.
It was no doubt in consequence of the observation of these signs that K. H. Ulrichs proposed28 his theory; and though the theory, as we have said, does not by any means meet all the facts, still it is perhaps not without merit, and may be worth bearing in mind.
It was probably because of noticing these signs that K. H. Ulrichs put forward28 his theory; and although, as we've mentioned, the theory doesn't cover all the facts, it still holds some value and might be worth considering.
In the case, for instance, of a woman of this temperament (defined we suppose as “a male soul in a female body”) the theory helps us to understand how it might be possible for her to fall bonâ fide in love with another woman. Krafft-Ebing gives8 the case of a lady (A.), 28 years of age, who fell deeply in love with a younger one (B.). “I loved her divinely,” she said. They lived together, and the union lasted four years, but was then broken by the marriage of B. A. suffered in consequence from frightful depression; but in the end—though without real love—got married herself. Her depression however only increased and deepened into illness. The doctors, when consulted, said that all would be well if she could only have a child. The husband, who loved his wife sincerely, could not understand her enigmatic behaviour. She was friendly to him, suffered his caresses, but for days afterwards remained “dull, exhausted, plagued with irritation of the spine, and nervous.” Presently29 a journey of the married pair led to another meeting with the female friend—who had now been wedded (but also unhappily) for three years.
In the case of a woman with this kind of temperament (let's say “a male soul in a female body”), the theory helps us understand how she could genuinely fall in love with another woman. Krafft-Ebing mentions8 a woman (A.) who was 28 years old and fell deeply in love with a younger woman (B.). “I loved her divinely,” she said. They lived together, and their relationship lasted four years, but then it ended when B. got married. A. suffered from severe depression as a result, but eventually—though not for real love—she got married too. However, her depression only got worse and turned into an illness. The doctors, when consulted, said everything would get better if she could just have a child. The husband, who truly loved his wife, couldn’t understand her puzzling behavior. She was friendly towards him, accepted his affection, but for days afterwards, she remained “dull, exhausted, plagued with irritation of the spine, and nervous.” Eventually,29 a trip for the couple led to another meeting with her female friend, who had now been married (but also unhappily) for three years.
“Both ladies trembled with joy and excitement as they fell into each other’s arms, and were thenceforth inseparable. The man found that this friendship relation was a singular one, and hastened the departure. When the opportunity occurred, he convinced himself from the correspondence between his wife and her ‘friend’ that their letters were exactly like those of two lovers.”
“Both women shook with joy and excitement as they embraced, becoming inseparable from that moment on. The man realized that this friendship was quite unusual and quickly arranged to leave. When the chance arose, he convinced himself from the correspondence between his wife and her 'friend' that their letters were just like those of two lovers.”
It appears that the loves of such women are often very intense, and (as also in the case of male Urnings) life-long.9 Both classes feel themselves blessed when they love happily. Nevertheless, to many of them it is a painful fact that—in consequence of their peculiar temperament—they are, though fond of children, not in the position to found a family.
It seems that the loves of these women are often very intense and, like in the case of male Urnings, they can last a lifetime.9 Both groups feel fortunate when they experience love joyfully. However, for many of them, it’s a painful truth that—due to their unique temperament—they are, despite their affection for children, unable to start a family.
We have so far limited ourselves to some very general characteristics of the Intermediate race. It may help to clear and fix our ideas if we now describe more in detail, first, what may be called the extreme and exaggerated types of the race, and then the more normal and perfect types. By30 doing so we shall get a more definite and concrete view of our subject.
We have so far focused on some very broad traits of the Intermediate race. It might help to clarify and solidify our thoughts if we now describe in more detail, first, what can be considered the extreme and exaggerated versions of the race, and then the more typical and ideal versions. By30 doing this, we will gain a clearer and more tangible understanding of our topic.
In the first place, then, the extreme specimens—as in most cases of extremes—are not particularly attractive, sometimes quite the reverse. In the male of this kind we have a distinctly effeminate type, sentimental, lackadaisical, mincing in gait and manners, something of a chatterbox, skilful at the needle and in woman’s work, sometimes taking pleasure in dressing in woman’s clothes; his figure not unfrequently betraying a tendency towards the feminine, large at the hips, supple, not muscular, the face wanting in hair, the voice inclining to be high-pitched, etc.; while his dwelling-room is orderly in the extreme, even natty, and choice of decoration and perfume. His affection, too, is often feminine in character, clinging, dependent and jealous, as of one desiring to be loved almost more than to love.10
First of all, the most extreme examples—like in most cases of extremes—aren't particularly appealing, and sometimes they're quite the opposite. In the male of this type, we find a distinctly effeminate individual, sentimental, lazy, affected in walk and behavior, somewhat of a chatterbox, skilled with a needle and in typically female tasks, sometimes enjoying dressing in women's clothing; his physique often shows a tendency toward femininity, wide at the hips, flexible, not muscular, with a face lacking facial hair and a voice that tends to be high-pitched, etc.; while his living space is extremely tidy, almost neat, with specific choices in decoration and fragrance. His affection is often feminine as well, clingy, dependent, and jealous, like someone who wants to be loved almost more than they want to love.10
On the other hand, as the extreme type of the homogenic female, we have a rather markedly aggressive person, of strong passions, masculine manners and movements, practical in the conduct31 of life, sensuous rather than sentimental in love, often untidy, and outré in attire;11 her figure muscular, her voice rather low in pitch; her dwelling-room decorated with sporting-scenes, pistols, etc., and not without a suspicion of the fragrant weed in the atmosphere; while her love (generally to rather soft and feminine specimens of her own sex) is often a sort of furor, similar to the ordinary masculine love, and at times almost uncontrollable.
On the other hand, as the extreme type of the homogenic female, we have a quite noticeably aggressive person, with strong passions, masculine traits and movements, practical in everyday life, more sensuous than sentimental in love, often messy, and flamboyant in style; her figure is muscular, her voice is relatively low; her living room is decorated with sports scenes, guns, etc., and there’s often a hint of a strong smell of weed in the air; meanwhile, her love (usually directed towards softer and more feminine versions of her own gender) is often a kind of obsession, similar to typical masculine love, and at times nearly uncontrollable.
These are types which, on account of their salience, everyone will recognise more or less. Naturally, when they occur they excite a good deal of attention, and it is not an uncommon impression that most persons of the homogenic nature belong to either one or other of these classes. But in reality, of course, these extreme developments are rare, and for the most part the temperament in question is embodied in men and women of quite normal and unsensational exterior. Speaking of this subject and the connection between effeminateness and the homogenic nature in men, Dr.32 Moll says: “It is, however, as well to point out at the outset that effeminacy does not by any means show itself in all Urnings. Though one may find this or that indication in a great number of cases, yet it cannot be denied that a very large percentage, perhaps by far the majority of them, do not exhibit pronounced Effeminacy.” And it may be supposed that we may draw the same conclusion with regard to women of this class—namely, that the majority of them do not exhibit pronounced masculine habits. In fact, while these extreme cases are of the greatest value from a scientific point of view as marking tendencies and limits of development in certain directions, it would be a serious mistake to look upon them as representative cases of the whole phases of human evolution concerned.
These are types that, because of their prominence, everyone will recognize to some extent. Naturally, when they appear, they grab a lot of attention, and it's not uncommon to think that most people with a similar nature fit into one of these categories. But in reality, these extreme examples are rare, and for the most part, the temperament in question is found in men and women who have quite ordinary and unremarkable appearances. Speaking about this topic and the link between effeminacy and the similar nature in men, Dr. Moll says: “It is important to point out from the start that effeminacy does not appear in all Urnings. While you may find certain signs in many cases, it cannot be denied that a very large percentage, possibly the majority, do not show pronounced effeminacy.” It can be assumed that we can draw the same conclusion regarding women of this group—namely, that most of them do not show pronounced masculine traits. In fact, while these extreme cases are extremely valuable from a scientific perspective as indicators of tendencies and limits of development in specific directions, it would be a serious mistake to view them as representative examples of the entire spectrum of human evolution involved.
If now we come to what may be called the more normal type of the Uranian man, we find a man who, while possessing thoroughly masculine powers of mind and body, combines with them the tenderer and more emotional soul-nature of the woman—and sometimes to a remarkable degree. Such men, as said, are often muscular and well-built, and not distinguishable in exterior structure and the carriage of body from others of their own33 sex; but emotionally they are extremely complex, tender, sensitive, pitiful and loving, “full of storm and stress, of ferment and fluctuation” of the heart; the logical faculty may or may not, in their case, be well-developed, but intuition is always strong; like women they read characters at a glance, and know, without knowing how, what is passing in the minds of others; for nursing and waiting on the needs of others they have often a peculiar gift; at the bottom lies the artist-nature, with the artist’s sensibility and perception. Such an one is often a dreamer, of brooding, reserved habits, often a musician, or a man of culture, courted in society, which nevertheless does not understand him—though sometimes a child of the people, without any culture, but almost always with a peculiar inborn refinement. De Joux, who speaks on the whole favourably of Uranian men and women, says of the former: “They are enthusiastic for poetry and music, are often eminently skilful in the fine arts, and are overcome with emotion and sympathy at the least sad occurrence. Their sensitiveness, their endless tenderness for children, their love of flowers, their great pity for beggars and crippled folk are truly womanly.” And in another passage he indicates the artist-nature,34 when he says: “The nerve-system of many an Urning is the finest and the most complicated musical instrument in the service of the interior personality that can be imagined.”
If we look at what can be called the more typical type of Uranian man, we see a guy who, while having strong masculine qualities of mind and body, blends in the softer and more emotional soul-nature often associated with women—and sometimes to an impressive extent. These men, as mentioned, are usually muscular and well-built, and outwardly they don’t differ in appearance or posture from others of their own33 sex; however, they are very emotionally complex, gentle, sensitive, compassionate, and loving, “full of storm and stress, of ferment and fluctuation” in their hearts. Their logical thinking may be well-developed or not, but their intuition is always strong; like women, they can read people at a glance and know, without understanding how, what others are thinking. They often have a natural gift for caring for and meeting the needs of others. At the core lies an artistic nature, with the sensitivity and perception of an artist. Such a person is often a dreamer, with brooding, reserved tendencies, frequently a musician or someone cultured, sought after in social circles, though society often doesn't truly understand him—sometimes he may come from humble beginnings without any formal culture, but almost always possesses a unique inherent refinement. De Joux, who generally speaks positively about Uranian men and women, says about the former: “They are passionate about poetry and music, are often exceptionally skilled in the fine arts, and are moved with emotion and sympathy at the slightest sad event. Their sensitivity, endless tenderness for children, love of flowers, and deep compassion for the poor and disabled are genuinely womanly.” In another passage, he highlights the artistic nature,34 saying: “The nervous system of many an Urning is the finest and most intricate musical instrument imaginable, serving the inner personality.”
It would seem probable that the attachment of such an one is of a tender and profound character; indeed, it is possible that in this class of men we have the love sentiment in one of its most perfect forms—a form in which from the necessities of the situation the sensuous element, though present, is exquisitely subordinated to the spiritual. Says one writer on this subject, a Swiss, “Happy indeed is that man who has won a real Urning for his friend—he walks on roses, without ever having to fear the thorns”; and he adds, “Can there ever be a more perfect sick-nurse than an Urning?” And though these are ex parte utterances, we may believe that there is an appreciable grain of truth in them. Another writer, quoted by De Joux, speaks to somewhat the same effect, and may perhaps be received in a similar spirit. “We form,” he says, “a peculiar aristocracy of modest spirits, of good and refined habit, and in many masculine circles are the representatives of the higher mental and artistic element. In us dreamers and enthusiasts lies the35 continual counterpoise to the sheer masculine portion of society—inclining, as it always does, to mere restless greed of gain and material sensual pleasures.”
It seems likely that the bond of someone like this is both tender and deep; in fact, it’s possible that among this group of men we find the love sentiment in one of its most ideal forms—a form where, due to the nature of the situation, the physical aspect, while present, is beautifully secondary to the spiritual. One writer on this topic, a Swiss, says, “Happy is the man who has found a true Urning for his friend—he walks on roses, without ever having to worry about the thorns”; he adds, “Can there be a better caregiver than an Urning?” And while these are biased statements, we can believe there’s a valuable truth in them. Another writer, quoted by De Joux, expresses a similar view and can perhaps be taken in the same light. “We create,” he says, “a unique aristocracy of modest individuals, with good and refined manners, and in many male circles, we represent the higher intellectual and artistic element. In us, dreamers and enthusiasts, lies the35constant balance to the purely masculine part of society—which inevitably leans toward mere restless greed for wealth and physical pleasures.”
That men of this kind despise women, though a not uncommon belief, is one which hardly appears to be justified. Indeed, though naturally not inclined to “fall in love” in this direction, such men are by their nature drawn rather near to women, and it would seem that they often feel a singular appreciation and understanding of the emotional needs and destinies of the other sex, leading in many cases to a genuine though what is called ‘Platonic’ friendship. There is little doubt that they are often instinctively sought after by women, who, without suspecting the real cause, are conscious of a sympathetic chord in the homogenic which they miss in the normal man. To quote De Joux once more: “It would be a mistake to suppose that all Urnings must be woman-haters. Quite the contrary. They are not seldom the faithfulest friends, the truest allies, and most convinced defenders of women.”
That men like this look down on women, even though it's a common belief, really isn't justified. In fact, even though they aren't naturally inclined to "fall in love" with women, these men are often drawn to them. They tend to have a unique appreciation and understanding of women's emotional needs and lives, which can lead to genuine but what is called ‘Platonic’ friendships. There's no doubt that women often seek them out instinctively, feeling a connection that they don't find in typical men. To quote De Joux again: "It would be a mistake to think that all Urnings must hate women. Quite the opposite. They are often the most loyal friends, the truest allies, and the strongest defenders of women."
To come now to the more normal and perfect specimens of the homogenic woman, we find a type in which the body is thoroughly feminine and36 gracious, with the rondure and fulness of the female form, and the continence and aptness of its movements, but in which the inner nature is to a great extent masculine; a temperament active, brave, originative, somewhat decisive, not too emotional; fond of out-door life, of games and sports, of science, politics, or even business; good at organisation, and well-pleased with positions of responsibility, sometimes indeed making an excellent and generous leader. Such a woman, it is easily seen, from her special combination of qualities, is often fitted for remarkable work, in professional life, or as manageress of institutions, or even as ruler of a country. Her love goes out to younger and more feminine natures than her own; it is a powerful passion, almost of heroic type, and capable of inspiring to great deeds; and when held duly in leash may sometimes become an invaluable force in the teaching and training of girlhood, or in the creation of a school of thought or action among women. Many a Santa Clara, or abbess-founder of religious houses, has probably been a woman of this type; and in all times such women—not being bound to men by the ordinary ties—have been able to work the more freely for the interests of their sex, a cause37 to which their own temperament impels them to devote themselves con amore.
To move on to the more typical and ideal examples of the homogenic woman, we see a type where the body is completely feminine and36 graceful, with the curves and fullness of the female form, along with the self-control and suitability of its movements, but where the inner nature is mostly masculine; a personality that is active, courageous, creative, somewhat decisive, and not overly emotional; someone who enjoys outdoor activities, games, sports, science, politics, or even business; skilled at organizing, and quite satisfied with taking on responsibilities, often becoming an excellent and generous leader. This type of woman, with her unique blend of qualities, is clearly suited for significant work, whether in a professional setting, managing institutions, or even leading a country. Her love tends to focus on younger and more feminine individuals than herself; it is an intense passion, almost heroic in nature, and can inspire great achievements; when properly channeled, it can become a powerful asset in mentoring and guiding young girls, or in establishing a movement or school of thought among women. Many Santa Claras, or founders of religious communities, have likely been women of this kind; throughout history, such women—who are not tied to men by typical bonds—have been able to work more freely for the benefit of their gender, a cause37 that their own temperament drives them to commit to con amore.
I have now sketched—very briefly and inadequately it is true—both the extreme types and the more healthy types of the ‘Intermediate’ man and woman: types which can be verified from history and literature, though more certainly and satisfactorily perhaps from actual life around us. And unfamiliar though the subject is, it begins to appear that it is one which modern thought and science will have to face. Of the latter and more normal types it may be said that they exist, and have always existed, in considerable abundance, and from that circumstance alone there is a strong probability that they have their place and purpose. As pointed out there is no particular indication of morbidity about them, unless the special nature of their love-sentiment be itself accounted morbid; and in the alienation of the sexes from each other, of which complaint is so often made to-day, it must be admitted that they do much to fill the gap.
I have now outlined—albeit very briefly and inadequately, it's true—both the extreme types and the more balanced types of the ‘Intermediate’ man and woman: types that can be verified through history and literature, although perhaps more reliably and satisfactorily from actual life around us. And though this subject may be unfamiliar, it seems to be one that modern thought and science will need to address. As for the latter and more normal types, it can be said that they exist, and have always existed, in considerable numbers, and just from that fact alone, there is a strong likelihood that they have their own place and purpose. As mentioned, there’s no specific sign of illness about them, unless the unique nature of their romantic feelings is itself considered to be unhealthy; and regarding the growing distance between the sexes that is often complained about today, it must be acknowledged that these types do a lot to bridge that gap.
The instinctive artistic nature of the male of this class, his sensitive spirit, his wavelike emotional temperament, combined with hardihood of intellect and body; and the frank, free nature of the female, her masculine independence and strength38 wedded to thoroughly feminine grace of form and manner; may be said to give them both, through their double nature, command of life in all its phases, and a certain freemasonry of the secrets of the two sexes which may well favour their function as reconcilers and interpreters. Certainly it is remarkable that some of the world’s greatest leaders and artists have been dowered either wholly or in part with the Uranian temperament—as in the cases of Michel Angelo, Shakespeare, Marlowe, Alexander the Great, Julius Cæsar, or, among women, Christine of Sweden, Sappho the poetess, and others.
The natural artistic instincts of the males in this group, along with their sensitive spirits and emotional temperaments, paired with their intellectual and physical toughness; and the open, liberated nature of the females, with their independent strength and thoroughly feminine grace in both form and behavior; can be seen as giving them a shared ability to navigate life in all its complexities, along with a deep understanding of the secrets of both genders that helps them act as mediators and interpreters. It's certainly noteworthy that some of history's greatest leaders and artists have had the Uranian temperament, whether fully or partially, as seen in figures like Michelangelo, Shakespeare, Marlowe, Alexander the Great, Julius Caesar, and among women, Christine of Sweden, Sappho the poetess, and others.38
III
The Homogenic Attachment
In its various forms, so far as we know them, Love seems always to have a deep significance and a most practical importance to us little mortals. In one form, as the mere semi-conscious Sex-love, which runs through creation and is common to the lowest animals and plants, it appears as a kind of organic basis for the unity of all creatures; in another, as the love of the mother for her offspring—which may also be termed a passion—it seems to pledge itself to the care and guardianship of the future race; in another, as the marriage of man and woman, it becomes the very foundation of human society. And so we can hardly believe that in its homogenic form, with which we are here concerned, it has not also a deep significance, and social uses and functions which will become clearer to us, the more we study it.
In all its different forms, as far as we know, love always seems to hold deep meaning and practical importance for us ordinary humans. In one version, as the somewhat unconscious sexual love that flows through nature and is shared by the simplest animals and plants, it acts as a kind of organic foundation for the unity of all living beings. In another version, as the love a mother has for her children—which can also be seen as a strong passion—it commits to the nurturing and protection of the next generation. In yet another, as the union between a man and a woman, it becomes the very cornerstone of human society. Therefore, it’s hard to believe that in its same-sex form, which we’re discussing here, it doesn’t also have profound meaning, along with social uses and roles that will become clearer to us as we explore it further.
To some perhaps it may appear a little strained40 to place this last-mentioned form of attachment on a level of importance with the others, and such persons may be inclined to deny to the homogenic12 or homosexual love that intense, that penetrating, and at times overmastering character which would entitle it to rank as a great human passion. But in truth this view, when entertained, arises from a want of acquaintance with the actual facts; and it may not be amiss here, in the briefest possible way, to indicate what the world’s History, Literature, and Art has to say to us on this aspect of the subject, before going on to further considerations. Certainly, if the confronting of danger and the endurance of pain and distress for the sake of the loved one, if sacrifice, unswerving devotion and life-long union, constitute proofs of the reality and intensity (and let us say healthiness) of an affection, then these proofs have been given in numberless cases of such attachment, not only as existing between men, but as between women, since the world began. The records of chivalric love, the feats of enamoured knights for their ladies’ sakes, the41 stories of Hero and Leander, etc., are easily paralleled, if not surpassed, by the stories of the Greek comrades-in-arms and tyrannicides—of Cratinus and Aristodemus, who offered themselves together as a voluntary sacrifice for the purification of Athens; of Chariton and Melanippus,13 who attempted to assassinate Phalaris, the tyrant of Agrigentum; or of Cleomachus who in like manner, in a battle between the Chalkidians and Eretrians, being entreated to charge the latter, “asked the youth he loved, who was standing by, whether he would be a spectator of the fight; and when he said he would, and affectionately kissed Cleomachus and put his helmet on his head, Cleomachus with a proud joy placed himself in the front of the bravest of the Thessalians and charged the enemy’s cavalry with such impetuosity that he threw them into disorder and routed them; and the Eretrian cavalry fleeing in consequence, the Chalkidians won a splendid victory.”14
To some, it might seem a bit forced to place this last form of attachment on the same level of importance as the others, and those people might be inclined to deny that homogenic or homosexual love has that intense, penetrating, and sometimes overpowering nature that would qualify it as a significant human passion. But the truth is that this perspective usually comes from a lack of familiarity with the actual facts; and it’s worth briefly highlighting what the world’s History, Literature, and Art say about this aspect of the subject before moving on to further discussion. Clearly, if facing danger and enduring pain and hardship for a loved one, as well as sacrifice, unwavering devotion, and lifelong commitment, are signs of the reality and intensity (let’s call it healthiness) of an affection, then these signs have been demonstrated in countless instances of such attachments, not only among men but also among women, since the dawn of time. The records of chivalric love, the heroic deeds of enamored knights for their ladies, and the stories of Hero and Leander, among others, can easily be matched—or even surpassed—by the tales of Greek comrades-in-arms and assassins of tyrants—of Cratinus and Aristodemus, who offered themselves as a voluntary sacrifice for the purification of Athens; of Chariton and Melanippus, who attempted to assassinate Phalaris, the tyrant of Agrigentum; or of Cleomachus, who, during a battle between the Chalcidians and Eretrians, was urged to charge the latter. He asked the youth he loved, who stood nearby, whether he would watch the fight; when the youth replied that he would, he affectionately kissed Cleomachus and placed his helmet on his head. Cleomachus, filled with pride and joy, positioned himself at the front of the bravest Thessalians and charged the enemy’s cavalry with such force that he disrupted and defeated them. As a result of the Eretrian cavalry fleeing, the Chalcidians secured a magnificent victory.
The annals of all nations contain similar records—though probably among none has the ideal of this love been quite so enthusiastic and heroic as among the post-Homeric Greeks. It is well42 known that among the Polynesian Islanders—for the most part a very gentle and affectionate people, probably inheriting the traditions of a higher culture than they now possess—the most romantic male friendships are (or were) in vogue. Says Herman Melville in “Omoo” (chap. 39), “The really curious way in which all Polynesians are in the habit of making bosom friends is deserving of remark.… In the annals of the island (Tahiti) are examples of extravagant friendships, unsurpassed by the story of Damon and Pythias—in truth much more wonderful; for notwithstanding the devotion—even of life in some cases—to which they led, they were frequently entertained at first sight for some stranger from another island.” So thoroughly recognised indeed were these unions that Melville explains (in “Typee,” chap. 18) that if two men of hostile tribes or islands became thus pledged to each other, then each could pass through the enemy’s territory without fear of molestation or injury; and the passionate nature of these attachments is indicated by the following passage from “Omoo” (another book of Melville’s):—“Though little inclined to jealousy in ordinary love-matters, the Tahitian will hear of no rivals in his friendship.”
The histories of all nations have similar accounts—though probably none has the concept of this love been as enthusiastic and heroic as among the Greeks after Homer. It is well42 known that among the Polynesian Islanders—mostly a very gentle and affectionate people, likely inheriting the traditions of a higher culture than they currently have—the most romantic male friendships are (or were) popular. Herman Melville writes in “Omoo” (chap. 39), “The really interesting way in which all Polynesians tend to make close friends deserves attention.… In the history of the island (Tahiti), there are examples of extraordinary friendships, unmatched by the story of Damon and Pythias—in fact, much more remarkable; for despite the devotion—even risking their lives in some cases—to which they led, they often welcomed new acquaintances from other islands at first sight.” These bonds were so well acknowledged that Melville explains (in “Typee,” chap. 18) that if two men from opposing tribes or islands became pledged to each other, then each could travel through the enemy’s territory without fear of harm or injury; and the intense nature of these connections is highlighted by this passage from “Omoo” (another book by Melville):—“Though not very prone to jealousy in typical romantic matters, the Tahitian will tolerate no rivals in his friendship.”
Even among savage races lower down than these in the scale of evolution, and who are generally accused of being governed in their love-relations only by the most animal desires, we find a genuine sentiment of comradeship beginning to assert itself—as among the Balonda15 and other African tribes, where regular ceremonies of the betrothal of comrades take place, by the transfusion of a few drops of blood into each other’s drinking-bowls, by the exchange of names,16 and the mutual gift of their most precious possessions; but unfortunately, owing to the obtuseness of current European opinion on this subject, these and other such customs have been but little investigated and have by no means received the attention that they ought.
Even among primitive cultures further down the evolutionary spectrum, often thought to be driven in their romantic relationships solely by basic animal instincts, we see a real sense of friendship starting to emerge—like among the Balonda15 and other African tribes, where they hold formal ceremonies to bond as friends. This includes sharing a few drops of blood in each other’s drinking bowls, exchanging names,16 and giving each other their most valued possessions. Unfortunately, because of the narrow-mindedness of prevailing European views on this topic, these and similar customs haven’t been well studied and certainly haven't received the recognition they deserve.
When we turn to the poetic and literary utterances of the more civilised nations on this subject we cannot but be struck by the range and intensity of the emotions expressed—from the beautiful threnody of David over his friend whose love was passing the love of women, through the vast panorama of the Homeric Iliad, of which the44 heroic friendship of Achilles and his dear Patroclus forms really the basic theme, down to the works of the great Greek age—the splendid odes of Pindar burning with clear fire of passion, the lofty elegies of Theognis, full of wise precepts to his beloved Kurnus, the sweet pastorals of Theocritus, the passionate lyrics of Sappho, or the more sensual raptures of Anacreon. Some of the dramas of Æschylus and Sophocles—as the “Myrmidones” of the former and the “Lovers of Achilles” of the latter—appear to have had this subject for their motive17; and many of the prose-poem dialogues of Plato were certainly inspired by it.
When we look at the poetic and literary expressions of the more advanced nations on this topic, we're struck by the range and depth of the emotions expressed—from the beautiful lament of David for his friend whose love surpassed that of women, through the vast landscape of the Homeric Iliad, where the strong bond between Achilles and his dear Patroclus is truly the central theme, to the works of the great Greek era—the stunning odes of Pindar filled with passionate fire, the elevated elegies of Theognis, full of wise advice to his beloved Kurnus, the charming pastorals of Theocritus, the passionate lyrics of Sappho, and the more sensual delights of Anacreon. Some of the plays by Æschylus and Sophocles—like the “Myrmidones” by the former and the “Lovers of Achilles” by the latter—seem to have centered around this theme, and many of Plato’s prose-poem dialogues were undoubtedly inspired by it.
Then coming to the literature of the Roman age, whose materialistic spirit could only with difficulty seize the finer inspiration of the homogenic love, and which in such writers as Catullus and Martial could only for the most part give expression to its grosser side, we still find in Vergil, a noble and notable instance. His second Eclogue bears the marks of a genuine passion; and, according to some,18 he there under the name45 of Alexis immortalises his own love for the youthful Alexander. Nor is it possible to pass over in this connection the great mass of Persian literature, and the poets Sadi, Hafiz, Jami, and many others, whose names and works are for all time, and whose marvellous love-songs (“Bitter and sweet is the parting kiss on the lips of a friend”) are to a large extent, if not mostly, addressed to those of their own sex.19
Then, looking at the literature from the Roman era, which was largely materialistic and had a hard time grasping the deeper essence of same-sex love, we mostly see a focus on its more crude aspects in writers like Catullus and Martial. However, we do find a significant and admirable example in Vergil. His second Eclogue shows real passion; some believe he immortalizes his feelings for the young Alexander under the name Alexis. Additionally, we can't overlook the vast body of Persian literature, including the works of poets like Sadi, Hafiz, Jami, and many others, whose names and contributions will endure. Their beautiful love songs, like “Bitter and sweet is the parting kiss on the lips of a friend,” are often directed toward those of their own gender.
Of the mediæval period in Europe we have of course but few literary monuments. Towards its close we come upon the interesting story of Amis and Amile (thirteenth century), unearthed by Mr. W. Pater from the Bibliotheca Elzeviriana.20 Though there is historic evidence of the prevalence of the passion we may say of this period that its ideal was undoubtedly rather the chivalric love than the love of comrades. But with the Renaissance in Italy and the Elizabethan period in England the latter once more comes to evidence in a burst of poetic utterance,21 which culminates46 perhaps in the magnificent sonnets of Michel Angelo and of Shakespeare; of Michel Angelo whose pure beauty of expression lifts the enthusiasm into the highest region as the direct perception of the divine in mortal form;22 and of Shakespeare—whose passionate words and amorous spirituality of friendship have for long enough been47 a perplexity to hide-bound commentators. Thence through minor writers (not overlooking Winckelmann23 in Germany) we pass to quite modern times—in which, notwithstanding the fact that the passion has been much misunderstood and misinterpreted, two names stand conspicuously forth—those of Tennyson, whose “In Memoriam” is perhaps his finest work, and of Walt Whitman, the enthusiasm of whose poems on Comradeship is only paralleled by the devotedness of his labors for his wounded brothers in the American Civil War.
Of the medieval period in Europe, we obviously have very few literary landmarks. Towards the end of this era, we discover the intriguing tale of Amis and Amile (thirteenth century), brought to light by Mr. W. Pater from the Bibliotheca Elzeviriana.20 While there is historical evidence of the dominance of romantic passion during this time, we can say that its ideal was certainly more chivalric love than the love between friends. However, with the Renaissance in Italy and the Elizabethan period in England, the latter once again emerges with a surge of poetic expression,21 which perhaps peaks in the magnificent sonnets of Michelangelo and Shakespeare; of Michelangelo, whose pure beauty of expression elevates enthusiasm to the highest realm as a direct vision of the divine in human form;22 and of Shakespeare—whose passionate words and loving spirituality of friendship have long been46 a puzzle for rigid commentators. From there, through lesser-known writers (not forgetting Winckelmann23 in Germany), we move into modern times—in which, despite the fact that the passion has often been misunderstood and misinterpreted, two names stand out prominently—those of Tennyson, whose “In Memoriam” is possibly his greatest work, and of Walt Whitman, whose fervor for Comradeship in his poems is only matched by his dedication to helping his wounded brothers in the American Civil War.
It will be noticed that here we have some of the very greatest names in all literature concerned; and that their utterances on this subject equal if they do not surpass, in beauty, intensity and humanity of sentiment, whatever has been written in praise of the other more ordinarily recognised love.
It’s noticeable that we have some of the greatest names in all of literature involved here; their thoughts on this subject are as beautiful, intense, and heartfelt as anything written in praise of the more commonly acknowledged love.
And when again we turn to the records of Art, and compare the way in which man’s sense of Love and Beauty has expressed itself in the portrayal of the male form and the female form respectively we find exactly the same thing. The48 whole vista of Greek statuary shows the male passion of beauty in high degree. Yet though the statues of men and youths (by men sculptors) preponderate probably considerably, both in actual number and in devotedness of execution, over the statues of female figures, it is, as J. A. Symonds says in his “Life of Michel Angelo,” remarkable that in all the range of the former there are hardly two or three that show a base or licentious expression, such as is not so very uncommon in the female statues. Knowing as we do the strength of the male physical passion in the life of the Greeks, this one fact speaks strongly for the sense of proportion which must have characterised this passion—at any rate in the most productive age of their Art.
And when we look back at the records of Art, and compare how humanity’s feelings of Love and Beauty have been expressed in the depiction of male and female forms, we see the same pattern. The whole realm of Greek sculpture clearly demonstrates a high degree of male appreciation for beauty. Although the statues of men and youths (created by male sculptors) likely outnumber and show more dedication in execution than those of female figures, it is noteworthy, as J. A. Symonds mentions in his “Life of Michel Angelo,” that among all these works, there are hardly two or three that display a vulgar or immoral expression, which is often seen in the statues of women. Considering the intensity of male physical desire in Greek life, this fact strongly indicates a sense of proportion that must have defined this passion—at least during the most productive period of their Art.
In the case of Michel Angelo we have an artist who with brush and chisel portrayed literally thousands of human forms; but with this peculiarity, that while scores and scores of his male figures are obviously suffused and inspired by a romantic sentiment, there is hardly one of his female figures that is so,—the latter being mostly representative of woman in her part as mother, or sufferer, or prophetess or poetess, or in old age, or in any aspect of strength or tenderness,49 except that which associates itself especially with romantic love. Yet the cleanliness and dignity of Michel Angelo’s male figures are incontestable, and bear striking witness to that nobility of the sentiment in him, which we have already seen illustrated in his sonnets.24
In the case of Michelangelo, we have an artist who, with brush and chisel, depicted literally thousands of human forms. However, there’s a unique aspect: while many of his male figures are clearly filled with romantic sentiment, very few of his female figures are. Most of them represent women in roles like mother, sufferer, prophetess, poetess, or in old age, or in any aspect of strength or tenderness, except for the one closely linked to romantic love. Still, the cleanliness and dignity of Michelangelo’s male figures are undeniable and serve as strong evidence of the nobility of sentiment in him, which we have already seen illustrated in his sonnets.49
This brief sketch may suffice to give the reader some idea of the place and position in the world of the particular sentiment which we are discussing; nor can it fail to impress him—if any reference is made to the authorities quoted—with a sense of the dignity and solidity of the sentiment, at any rate as handled by some of the world’s greatest men. At the same time it would be affectation to ignore the fact that side by side with this view of the subject there has been another current of opinion leading people—especially in quite modern times in Europe—to look upon attachments of the kind in question with much suspicion and disfavour.25 And it may be necessary here to say a few words on this latter view.
This brief overview should give readers an idea of the sentiment we're discussing and its place in the world. Any reference to the cited authorities will surely highlight the dignity and strength of this sentiment, especially as presented by some of the greatest figures in history. At the same time, it would be disingenuous to overlook the fact that alongside this perspective, there has been a contrasting opinion, particularly in modern Europe, leading many to view these kinds of attachments with suspicion and disapproval.25 It might be necessary to discuss this latter viewpoint briefly.
The origin of it is not far to seek. Those who have no great gift themselves for this kind of friendship—who are not in the inner circle of it, so to speak, and do not understand or appreciate its deep emotional and romantic character, have nevertheless heard of certain corruptions and excesses; for these latter leap to publicity. They have heard of the debaucheries of a Nero or a Tiberius; they have noted the scandals of the Police Courts; they have had some experience perhaps of abuses which may be found in Public Schools or Barracks; and they (not unnaturally) infer that these things, these excesses and sensualities, are the motive of comrade-attachments, and the object for which they exist; nor do they easily recognise any more profound and intimate bond. To such people physical intimacies of any kind (at any rate between males) seem inexcusable. There is no distinction in their minds between the simplest or most naive expression of feeling and the gravest abuse of human rights and decency; there is no distinction between a genuine heart-attachment and a mere carnal curiosity. They see certain51 evils that occur or have occurred, and they think, perfectly candidly, that any measures are justifiable to prevent such things recurring. But they do not see the interior love-feeling which when it exists does legitimately demand some expression. Such folk, in fact, not having the key in themselves to the real situation hastily assume that the homogenic attachment has no other motive than, or is simply a veil and a cover for, sensuality—and suspect or condemn it accordingly.
The origin of it is not hard to find. Those who don’t have much of a gift for this kind of friendship—who aren’t part of the inner circle, so to speak, and don’t grasp or appreciate its deep emotional and romantic nature—have still heard about certain corruptions and excesses because those tend to attract attention. They’ve heard about the debaucheries of Nero or Tiberius; they’ve noticed the scandals in the Police Courts; and they may have encountered some issues that can be found in Public Schools or Barracks. They (not surprisingly) conclude that these things, these excesses and sensualities, are the main reasons for these friendships and the purpose behind them; they also struggle to recognize any deeper and more intimate connection. To these people, physical intimacies of any kind (especially between men) seem unjustifiable. They don’t see a difference in their minds between the simplest or most innocent expression of feelings and the worst violations of human rights and decency; they can’t tell the difference between a genuine heart connection and mere physical curiosity. They see certain51 evils that happen or have happened and believe, quite openly, that any measures are justifiable to prevent such things from happening again. But they fail to recognize the inner love that, when it exists, rightfully requires some expression. These individuals, in fact, lacking insight into the real situation, hastily assume that a same-sex attachment has no other motive than—or is simply a façade for—sensuality and thus suspect or condemn it accordingly.
Thus arises the curious discrepancy of people’s views on this important subject—a discrepancy depending on the side from which they approach it.
Thus comes the interesting difference in people's views on this important topic—a difference that depends on the perspective from which they approach it.
On the one hand we have anathemas and execrations, on the other we have the lofty enthusiasm of a man like Plato—one of the leaders of the world’s thought for all time—who puts, for example, into the mouth of Phædrus (in the “Symposium”) such a passage as this26: “I know not any greater blessing to a young man beginning life than a virtuous lover, or to the lover than a beloved youth. For the principle which ought to be the guide of men who would nobly live—that principle, I say, neither kindred, nor52 honour, nor wealth, nor any other motive is able to implant so well as love. Of what am I speaking? Of the sense of honour and dishonour, without which neither states nor individuals ever do any good or great work.… For what lover would not choose rather to be seen of all mankind than by his beloved, either when abandoning his post or throwing away his arms? He would be ready to die a thousand deaths rather than endure this. Or who would desert his beloved or fail him in the hour of danger? The veriest coward would become an inspired hero, equal to the bravest, at such a time; love would inspire him. That courage which, as Homer says, the god breathes into the soul of heroes, love of his own nature inspires into the lover.” Or again in the “Phædrus” Plato makes Socrates say27: “In like manner the followers of Apollo and of every other god, walking in the ways of their god, seek a love who is to be like their god, and when they have found him, they themselves imitate their god, and persuade their love to do the same, and bring him into harmony with the form and ways of the god as far as they can; for they have no feelings of envy or jealousy towards53 their beloved, but they do their utmost to create in him the greatest likeness of themselves and the god whom they honour. Thus fair and blissful to the beloved when he is taken, is the desire of the inspired lover, and the initiation of which I speak into the mysteries of true love, if their purpose is effected.”
On one hand, we have curses and condemnations, and on the other, there’s the elevated enthusiasm of someone like Plato—one of the greatest thinkers of all time—who has Phædrus say in the "Symposium": “I can’t think of a greater blessing for a young man starting out in life than a virtuous lover, or for the lover than a cherished youth. The principle that should guide those who want to live nobly—that principle, I say, is best instilled by love, more than family, honor, wealth, or any other motive. What do I mean? It’s the sense of honor and dishonor, without which neither societies nor individuals achieve anything truly good or great. … For what lover would prefer to be seen by everyone rather than by his beloved, whether he's fleeing from a post or laying down his arms? He would rather face a thousand deaths than go through that. And who would abandon his beloved or fail to support him in a moment of danger? Even the greatest coward would become an inspired hero, equal to the bravest, at such a time; love would give him strength. That courage which, as Homer says, the god instills into the souls of heroes, love inherently inspires in the lover.” Likewise, in the "Phædrus," Plato quotes Socrates saying: “In the same way, followers of Apollo and other gods, walking in their god's paths, seek a love who resembles their god, and once they find him, they imitate their god and encourage their love to do the same, aligning him as much as possible with the traits and ways of the god; for they feel no envy or jealousy toward their beloved, but strive to make him reflect the greatest likeness of themselves and the god they revere. Thus, the desire of the inspired lover is beautiful and blissful for the beloved when he is taken, and the initiation I’m referring to in the true mysteries of love, if their aim is achieved.”
With these few preliminary remarks we may pass on to consider some recent scientific investigations of the matter in hand. In late times—that is, during the last thirty years or so—a group of scientific and capable men chiefly in Germany, France, and Italy, have made a special and more or less impartial study of it. Among these may be mentioned Dr. Albert Moll of Berlin; R. von Krafft-Ebing, one of the leading medical authorities of Vienna, whose book on “Sexual Psychopathy” has passed into its tenth edition; Dr. Paul Moreau (“Des Aberrations du sens génésique”); Cesare Lombroso, the author of various works on Anthropology; M. A. Raffalovich (“Uranisme et unisexualité”); Auguste Forel (“Die Sexuelle Frage”); Mantegazza; K. H.54 Ulrichs; and last but not least, Dr. Havelock Ellis, of whose great work on the Psychology of Sex the second volume is dedicated to the subject of “Sexual Inversion.”28 The result of these investigations has been that a very altered complexion has been given to the subject. For whereas at first it was easily assumed that the phenomena were of morbid character, and that the leaning of the love-sentiment towards one of the same sex was always associated with degeneracy or disease, it is very noticeable that step by step with the accumulation of reliable information this assumption has been abandoned. The point of view has changed; and the change has been most marked in the latest authors, such as A. Moll and Havelock Ellis.
With these few introductory comments, we can move on to discuss some recent scientific studies on the topic at hand. In recent times—that is, over the past thirty years or so—a group of knowledgeable scientists, mainly from Germany, France, and Italy, have conducted a focused and fairly unbiased examination of it. Notable figures include Dr. Albert Moll in Berlin; R. von Krafft-Ebing, a leading medical expert from Vienna, whose book “Sexual Psychopathy” has reached its tenth edition; Dr. Paul Moreau (“Des Aberrations du sens génésique”); Cesare Lombroso, known for various works on anthropology; M. A. Raffalovich (“Uranisme et unisexualité”); Auguste Forel (“Die Sexuelle Frage”); Mantegazza; K. H. Ulrichs; and last but definitely not least, Dr. Havelock Ellis, whose significant work on the psychology of sex has its second volume dedicated to the topic of “Sexual Inversion.” The outcome of these studies has fundamentally changed the understanding of the subject. Initially, it was often assumed that these phenomena were pathological and that same-sex attraction was always linked to degeneration or illness; however, it is clear that with the gathering of reliable evidence, this assumption has been gradually dismissed. The perspective has shifted, with this change being especially prominent among more recent authors like A. Moll and Havelock Ellis.
It is not possible here to go into anything like a detailed account of the works of these various authors, their theories, and the immense number of interesting cases and observations which they have contributed; but some of the general conclusions which flow from their researches may be pointed out. In the first place their labors have55 established the fact, known hitherto only to individuals, that sexual inversion—that is the leaning of desire to one of the same sex—is in a vast number of cases quite instinctive and congenital, mentally and physically, and therefore twined in the very roots of individual life and practically ineradicable. To Men or Women thus affected with an innate homosexual bias, Ulrichs gave the name of Urning,29 since pretty widely accepted by scientists. Some details with regard to “Urnings,” I have given in the preceding paper, but it should be said here that too much emphasis cannot be laid on the distinction between these born lovers of their own kind, and that class of persons, with whom they are so often confused, who out of mere carnal curiosity or extravagance of desire, or from the dearth of opportunities for a more normal satisfaction (as in schools, barracks, etc.) adopt some homosexual practices. It is the latter class who become chiefly prominent in the public eye, and who excite, naturally enough, public reprobation. In their case the attraction is felt, by themselves and all concerned, to be merely sensual and morbid. In the case of56 the others, however, the feeling is, as said, so deeply rooted and twined with the mental and emotional life that the person concerned has difficulty in imagining himself affected otherwise than he is; and to him at least his love appears healthy and natural, and indeed a necessary part of his individuality.
It’s not possible to provide a detailed account of the work of these various authors, their theories, and the many fascinating cases and observations they have contributed. However, some general conclusions from their research can be highlighted. First, their efforts have established the fact, previously known only to a few, that sexual inversion—meaning a desire for someone of the same sex—occurs quite instinctively and is often congenital, both mentally and physically. Therefore, it is deeply rooted in an individual's life and practically impossible to change. Ulrichs referred to men or women with an innate homosexual inclination as Urnings, a term that has gained acceptance among scientists. I provided some details about "Urnings" in the previous paper, but it’s important to emphasize the distinction between these genuine lovers of their own kind and the group that is often confused with them. The latter group engages in homosexual practices out of mere curiosity, excessive desire, or due to a lack of opportunities for more typical relationships (like in schools, military barracks, etc.). This latter group tends to attract public attention and, understandably, public disapproval. For them, the attraction is experienced as purely sensual and unhealthy. In contrast, for the others, the feelings are so deeply ingrained and intertwined with their mental and emotional lives that they find it hard to imagine being affected in any other way; to them, their love feels healthy and natural, and indeed a necessary part of their identity.
In the second place it has become clear that the number of individuals affected with ‘sexual inversion’ in some degree or other is very great—much greater than is generally supposed to be the case. It is however very difficult or perhaps impossible to arrive at satisfactory figures on the subject,30 for the simple reasons that the proportions vary so greatly among different peoples and even in different sections of society and in different localities, and because of course there are all possible grades of sexual inversion to deal with, from that in which the instinct is quite exclusively directed towards the same sex, to the other extreme in which it is normally towards the opposite sex but capable, occasionally and under exceptional attractions, of inversion towards its own—this last condition being probably among some peoples very widespread, if not universal.
In the second place, it has become clear that the number of people affected by 'sexual inversion' to some degree is very large—much larger than is usually thought. However, it is very difficult, or maybe even impossible, to get accurate statistics on this topic,30 for the simple reason that the proportions vary widely among different cultures and even within different parts of society and in various localities. Additionally, there are all possible degrees of sexual inversion to consider, ranging from those whose attraction is entirely towards the same sex, to those whose attraction is typically towards the opposite sex but can occasionally shift towards the same sex under exceptional circumstances—this last condition is likely very common, if not universal, among some cultures.
In the third place, by the tabulation and comparison of a great number of cases and “confessions,” it has become pretty well established that the individuals affected with inversion in marked degree do not after all differ from the rest of mankind, or womankind, in any other physical or mental particular which can be distinctly indicated.31 No congenital association with any particular physical conformation or malformation has yet been discovered; nor with any distinct disease of body or mind. Nor does it appear that persons of this class are usually of a gross or specially low type, but if anything rather the opposite—being mostly of refined, sensitive nature and including, as Krafft-Ebing points out (“Psychopathia Sexualis,” seventh ed., p. 227) a great number “highly gifted in the fine arts, especially music and poetry”; and, as Mantegazza says,32 many persons of high literary and social distinction. It is true that Krafft-Ebing insists on the generally strong sexual equipment of this class of persons (among men), but he hastens to58 say that their emotional love is also “enthusiastic and exalted,”33 and that, while bodily congress is desired, the special act with which they are vulgarly credited is in most cases repugnant to them.34
In the third place, through the tabulation and comparison of a large number of cases and “confessions,” it has been established that individuals significantly affected by inversion do not actually differ from the rest of humanity in any other physical or mental characteristic that can be clearly identified.31 No congenital link with any specific physical condition or abnormality has been found, nor with any unique mental or physical illness. It also seems that people in this group are not typically of a coarse or particularly low type; rather, they are mostly of a refined and sensitive nature, including, as Krafft-Ebing points out (“Psychopathia Sexualis,” seventh ed., p. 227), many who are “highly gifted in the fine arts, especially music and poetry”; and, as Mantegazza notes,32 many individuals of high literary and social standing. It is true that Krafft-Ebing emphasizes the generally strong sexual characteristics of this group (among men), but he quickly adds that their emotional love is also “enthusiastic and exalted,”33 and while they desire physical intimacy, the specific act they are commonly associated with is repugnant to them in most cases.34
The only distinct characteristic which the scientific writers claim to have established is a marked tendency to nervous development in the subject, not infrequently associated with nervous maladies; but—as I shall presently have occasion to show—there is reason to think that the validity even of this characteristic has been exaggerated.
The only clear characteristic that the scientific writers say they have established is a strong tendency towards nervous development in the subject, often linked with nervous disorders; but—as I will soon show—there's reason to believe that the validity of this characteristic has been overstated.
Taking the general case of men with a marked exclusive preference for persons of their own sex, Krafft-Ebing says (“P.S.” p. 256): “The sexual life of these Homosexuals is mutatis mutandis just the same as in the case of normal sex-love.… The Urning loves, deifies his male beloved one, exactly as the woman-wooing man does his beloved. For him, he is capable of the greatest sacrifice, experiences the torments of unhappy, often unrequited, love, of faithlessness on his beloved’s part, of jealousy, and so forth. His attention is enchained only by the male form59 … The sight of feminine charms is indifferent to him, if not repugnant.” Then he goes on to say that many such men, notwithstanding their actual aversion to intercourse with the female, do ultimately marry—either from ethical, as sometimes happens, or from social considerations. But very remarkable—as illustrating the depth and tenacity of the homogenic instinct35—and pathetic too, are the records that he gives of these cases; for in many of them a real friendship and regard between the married pair was still of no avail to overcome the distaste on the part of one to sexual intercourse with the other, or to prevent the experience of actual physical distress after such intercourse, or to check the continual flow of affection to some third person of the same sex; and thus unwillingly, so to speak, this bias remained a cause of suffering to the end.
Taking the general case of men who have a strong preference for their own sex, Krafft-Ebing states (“P.S.” p. 256): “The sexual life of these homosexuals is mutatis mutandis just like that of heterosexual love.… The Urning loves and idolizes his male partner just as a heterosexual man does his beloved. For him, he is capable of great sacrifice and goes through the pain of unreciprocated love, betrayal from his beloved, jealousy, and so on. His attention is captivated solely by the male form59… The sight of feminine beauty doesn’t interest him, and is often off-putting.” He then notes that many of these men, despite their aversion to sexual relations with women, end up marrying—sometimes for ethical reasons, or social pressures. However, it’s quite remarkable—as an illustration of the strength and persistence of the same-sex attraction35—and sadly touching, are the cases he records; for in many instances, even a genuine friendship and respect between the married couple couldn’t overcome one partner’s dislike for sexual relations with the other, nor prevent feelings of actual physical discomfort after such encounters, or stop the continuous flow of affection towards another man; and thus, unwillingly, this inclination remained a source of pain until the end.
I have said that at the outset it was assumed that the Homogenic emotion was morbid in itself, and probably always associated with distinct disease, either physical or mental, but that the progress60 of the inquiry has served more and more to dissipate this view; and that it is noticeable that the latest of the purely scientific authorities are the least disposed to insist upon the theory of morbidity. It is true that Krafft-Ebing clings to the opinion that there is generally some neurosis, or degeneration of a nerve-centre, or inherited tendency in that direction, associated with the instinct; see p. 190 (seventh ed.), also p. 227, where he speaks, rather vaguely, of “an hereditary neuropathic or psychopathic tendency”—neuro(psycho)pathische Belastung. But it is an obvious criticism on this that there are few people in modern life, perhaps none, who could be pronounced absolutely free from such a Belastung! And whether the Dorian Greeks or the Polynesian Islanders or the Albanian mountaineers, or any of the other notably hardy races among whom this affection has been developed, were particularly troubled by nervous degeneration we may well doubt!
I have mentioned that initially it was thought that the Homogenic emotion was unhealthy in itself, likely always linked to some kind of disease, whether physical or mental. However, as the investigation has progressed, this perspective has gradually faded. It's evident that the most recent scientific authorities are the least likely to stick to the idea of it being unhealthy. Krafft-Ebing still holds the belief that there is usually some neurosis or degeneration of a nerve center, or inherited tendency in that direction, connected to the instinct; see p. 190 (seventh ed.), also p. 227, where he vaguely refers to “an hereditary neuropathic or psychopathic tendency”—neuro(psycho)pathische Belastung. However, it's worth noting that there are very few people in modern life, maybe none, who could be considered completely free from such a Belastung! And whether the Dorian Greeks, Polynesian Islanders, Albanian mountaineers, or any of the other notably resilient groups where this emotion has emerged, were particularly affected by nervous degeneration is something we can certainly question!
As to Moll, though he speaks36 of the instinct as morbid (feeling perhaps in duty bound to do so), it is very noticeable that he abandons the ground of its association with other morbid symptoms—as61 this association, he says, is by no means always to be observed; and is fain to rest his judgment on the dictum that the mere failure of the sexual instinct to propagate the species is itself pathological—a dictum which in its turn obviously springs from that pre-judgment of scientists that generation is the sole object of love,37 and which if pressed would involve the good doctor in awkward dilemmas, as for instance that every worker-bee is a pathological specimen.
As for Moll, although he refers to the instinct as morbid (perhaps feeling it’s his duty to say so), it’s quite noticeable that he steps away from linking it to other morbid symptoms—he claims this association isn’t always present; instead, he rests his judgment on the idea that the mere inability of the sexual instinct to reproduce is itself a pathology—an idea that clearly stems from the biased view of scientists that reproduction is the sole purpose of love, which, if pushed, would put the good doctor in uncomfortable positions, like saying every worker bee is a pathological case.
Finally we find that Havelock Ellis, one of the latest writers of weight on this subject, in chapter vi. of his “Sexual Inversion,” combats the idea that this temperament is necessarily morbid; and suggests that the tendency should rather be called an anomaly than a disease. He says (2nd edition, p. 186)38 “Thus in sexual inversion we have what may fairly be called a ‘sport’ or variation, one of those organic aberrations which we see throughout living nature in plants and in animals.”39
Finally, we find that Havelock Ellis, one of the more recent serious writers on this topic, in chapter vi. of his “Sexual Inversion,” challenges the notion that this temperament is inherently unhealthy; instead, he proposes that it should be viewed as an anomaly rather than a disease. He states (2nd edition, p. 186)38 “Thus in sexual inversion we have what may fairly be called a ‘sport’ or variation, one of those organic aberrations which we see throughout living nature in plants and in animals.”39
With regard to the nerve-degeneration theory, while it may be allowed that sexual inversion is not uncommonly found in connection with the specially nervous temperament, it must be remembered that its occasional association with nervous troubles or disease is quite another matter; since such troubles ought perhaps to be looked upon as the results rather than the causes of the inversion. It is difficult of course for outsiders not personally experienced in the matter to realise the great strain and tension of nerves under which those persons grow up from boyhood to manhood—or from girl to womanhood—who find their deepest and strongest instincts under the ban of the society around them; who before they clearly understand the drift of their own natures discover that they are somehow cut off from the sympathy and understanding of those nearest to them; and who know that they can never give expression to their tenderest yearnings of affection without exposing themselves to the possible charge of actions stigmatised as odious crimes.40 That such a strain,63 acting on one who is perhaps already of a nervous temperament, should tend to cause nervous prostration or even mental disturbance is of course obvious; and if such disturbances are really found to be commoner among homogenic lovers than among ordinary folk we have in these social causes probably a sufficient explanation of the fact.
Regarding the nerve-degeneration theory, while it can be acknowledged that sexual inversion is often linked to a particularly nervous temperament, it’s important to note that its occasional connection with nervous issues or diseases is a different story; these troubles should be viewed more as outcomes rather than causes of the inversion. It's understandably difficult for those who haven’t personally gone through it to grasp the immense strain and tension on the nerves that individuals feel growing up from boyhood to manhood—or from girlhood to womanhood—when their most profound instincts are at odds with societal norms. These individuals often realize early on that they are somehow isolated from the empathy and understanding of those closest to them, and they know that expressing their deepest feelings of affection could lead to accusations of engaging in what society deems as abhorrent crimes.40 It’s clear that such a strain, particularly affecting someone who may already have a nervous disposition, could lead to nervous breakdowns or even mental disturbances. If it turns out that these disturbances are indeed more common among homosexual lovers than among the general population, social factors may provide a significant explanation for this occurrence.
Then again in this connexion it must never be forgotten that the medico-scientific enquirer is bound on the whole to meet with those cases that are of a morbid character, rather than with those that are healthy in their manifestation, since indeed it is the former that he lays himself out for. And since the field of his research is usually a great modern city, there is little wonder if disease colours his conclusions. In the case of Dr. Moll, who carried out his researches largely under the guidance of the Berlin police (whose acquaintance with the subject would naturally be limited to its least satisfactory sides), the only marvel is that his verdict is so markedly favorable as it is. As Krafft-Ebing says in his own preface, “It is the64 sad privilege of Medicine, and especially of Psychiatry, to look always on the reverse side of life, on the weakness and wretchedness of man.”
Then again, in this context, it should never be forgotten that the medical and scientific investigator is primarily going to encounter cases that are of a morbid nature, rather than those that show healthy characteristics, since it’s the former that he focuses on. And since the area of his research is usually a large modern city, it’s not surprising that illness influences his conclusions. In the case of Dr. Moll, who conducted his research largely under the guidance of the Berlin police (whose understanding of the subject would naturally be limited to its less favorable aspects), the only surprising thing is how positive his findings are. As Krafft-Ebing states in his own preface, “It is the64 sad privilege of Medicine, and especially of Psychiatry, to always see the darker side of life, the weakness and suffering of humanity.”
Having regard then to the direction in which science has been steadily moving in this matter, it is not difficult to see that the epithet “morbid” will probably before long be abandoned as descriptive of the homogenic bias—that is, of the general sentiment of love towards a person of the same sex. That there are excesses of the passion—cases, as in ordinary sex-love, where mere physical desire becomes a mania—we may freely admit; but as it would be unfair to judge of the purity of marriage by the evidence of the Divorce courts, so it would be monstrous to measure the truth and beauty of the attachment in question by those instances which stand most prominently perhaps in the eye of the modern public; and after all deductions there remains, we contend, the vast body of cases in which the manifestation of the instinct has on the whole the character of normality and healthfulness—sufficiently so in fact to constitute this a distinct variety of the sexual passion. The question, of course, not being whether the instinct is capable of morbid and extravagant manifestation—for that can easily be65 proved of any instinct—but whether it is capable of a healthy and sane expression. And this, we think, it has abundantly shown itself to be.
Considering the direction that science has been moving in this area, it's clear that the term “morbid” will likely be dropped as a description of the homogenic bias—that is, the general feeling of love for someone of the same sex. While we can acknowledge that there can be extremes in this passion—like in heterosexual love, where simple physical desire can turn into an obsession—we should not judge the quality of marriage solely based on divorce cases. Similarly, it would be unreasonable to assess the truth and beauty of same-sex attachments by the more negative examples that might attract public attention. After all, even after accounting for those instances, we believe there remains a substantial number of cases where this instinct is, for the most part, normal and healthy—enough to qualify it as a distinct variety of the sexual passion. The real question isn't whether this instinct can have morbid and extreme expressions—because any instinct can be shown to have that potential—but whether it can be expressed in a healthy and rational way. We believe it has clearly demonstrated that it can.
Anyhow the work that Science has practically done has been to destroy the dogmatic attitude of the former current opinion from which itself started, and to leave the whole subject freed from a great deal of misunderstanding, and much more open than before. If on the one hand its results have been chiefly of a negative character, and it admits that it does not understand the exact place and foundation of this attachment; on the other hand since it recognises the deeply beneficial influences of an intimate love-relation of the usual kind on those concerned, it also allows that there are some persons for whom these necessary reactions can only come from one of the same sex as themselves.
Anyway, the work that Science has actually accomplished has been to challenge the rigid mindset of the previous dominant beliefs it stemmed from, and to clarify the entire topic, freeing it from a lot of misunderstandings and making it much more open than before. While its findings have mostly been of a negative nature, and it acknowledges that it doesn’t fully grasp the exact role and basis of this attachment, it also recognizes the deeply positive effects that a close romantic relationship of the usual kind can have on those involved. It accepts that there are some people for whom these essential reactions can only come from someone of the same sex.
“Successful love,” says Moll (p. 125) “exercises a helpful influence on the Urning. His mental and bodily condition improves, and capacity of work increases—just as it happens in the case of a normal youth with his love.” And further on (p. 173) in a letter from a man of this kind occur these words:—“The passion is I suppose so powerful, just because one looks for everything66 in the loved man—Love, Friendship, Ideal, and Sense-satisfaction.… As it is at present I suffer the agonies of a deep unresponded passion, which wake me like a nightmare from sleep. And I am conscious of physical pain in the region of the heart.” In such cases the love, in some degree physically expressed, of another person of the same sex, is allowed to be as much a necessity and a condition of healthy life and activity, as in more ordinary cases is the love of a person of the opposite sex.
“Successful love,” says Moll (p. 125) “has a positive effect on the Urning. His mental and physical condition improves, and his ability to work increases—just like what happens with a typical young man in love.” Later on (p. 173) in a letter from a man like this, he writes:—“The passion is, I suppose, so intense because you expect everything from the man you love—Love, Friendship, Ideals, and Sensual Satisfaction.… Right now, I’m suffering the torment of a deep, unreciprocated passion that wakes me from sleep like a nightmare. I also feel actual pain in my heart.” In such cases, the love, expressed in some physical way, for another person of the same sex is seen as just as necessary and essential for a healthy life and activity, as the love for someone of the opposite sex is in more typical situations.
If then the physical element which is sometimes present in the love of which we are speaking is a difficulty and a stumbling-block, it must be allowed that it is a difficulty that Nature confronts us with, and which cannot be disposed of by mere anathema and execration. The only theory—from K. H. Ulrichs to Havelock Ellis—which has at all held its ground in this matter, is that in congenital cases of sex-inversion there is a mixture of male and female elements in the same person; so that for instance in the same embryo the emotional and nervous regions may develop along feminine lines while the outer body and functions may determine themselves as distinctly masculine, or vice versa. Such cross-development may take place obviously67 in a great variety of ways, and thus possibly explain the remarkable varieties of the Uranian temperament; but in all such cases, strange as may be the problems thus arising, these problems are of Nature’s own producing and can hardly be laid to the door of the individual who has literally to bear their cross. For such individuals expressions of feeling become natural, which to others seem out of place and uncalled for; and not only natural, but needful and inevitable. To deny to such people all expression of their emotion, is probably in the end to cause it to burst forth with the greater violence; and it may be suggested that our British code of manners, by forbidding the lighter marks of affection between youths and men, acts just contrary to its own purpose, and drives intimacies down into less open and unexceptionable channels.
If the physical aspect that sometimes comes with the love we’re discussing is a challenge and an obstacle, we have to admit it’s a challenge that Nature presents to us, and it can’t simply be dismissed with harsh words and condemnation. The only theory—from K. H. Ulrichs to Havelock Ellis—that has really held up in this area is that in cases of congenital gender inversion, there is a blend of male and female traits within the same person; for example, in the same embryo, the emotional and nervous aspects might develop along feminine lines while the outer body and functions lean distinctly masculine, or vice versa. This cross-development can clearly happen in many different ways, potentially explaining the amazing varieties of the Uranian temperament. But in all these cases, no matter how strange the issues that arise may be, those issues are generated by Nature itself and shouldn’t be blamed on the individuals who have to bear them. For these individuals, expressing their feelings feels natural, even if it seems inappropriate or unnecessary to others; and it’s not just natural, but also essential and unavoidable. To deny such individuals any expression of their emotions can ultimately lead to those feelings erupting with even more intensity. It can be argued that our British social norms, which discourage displays of affection among young men, end up doing the opposite of what they intend, pushing these connections into less open and acceptable ways.
With regard to this physical element it must also be remembered that since the homogenic love—whether between man and man, or between woman and woman—can from the nature of the case never find expression on the physical side so freely and completely as is the case with the ordinary love, it must tend rather more than the latter to run along emotional channels, and68 to find its vent in sympathies of social life and companionship. If one studies carefully the expression of the Greek statues (see p. 9, supra) and the lesson of the Greek literature, one sees clearly that the ideal of Greek life was a very continent one: the trained male, the athlete, the man temperate and restrained, even chaste, for the sake of bettering his powers. It was round this conception that the Greeks kindled their finer emotions. And so of their love: a base and licentious indulgence was not in line with it. They may not have always kept to their ideal, but there it was. And I am inclined to think that the homogenic instinct (for the reasons given above) would in the long run tend to work itself out in this direction. And consonant with this is the fact that this passion in the past (as pointed out by J. Addington Symonds in his paper on “Dantesque and Platonic Ideals of Love”41) has, as a matter of fact, inspired such a vast amount of heroism and romance—only paralleled indeed by the loves of Chivalry, which of course, owing to their special character, were subject to a similar Transmutation.
Regarding this physical aspect, it's important to note that same-sex love—whether between men or between women—can never fully express itself physically in the same way as typical heterosexual love. As a result, it often tends to manifest more through emotional connections and finds its expression in social bonding and companionship. A close look at the expressions in Greek statues (see p. 9, supra) and the themes in Greek literature reveals that the ideal in Greek life was one of moderation: the disciplined male, the athlete, someone who is temperate and restrained, even chaste, in order to enhance his abilities. This conception ignited their nobler emotions. Their love also reflected this ideal; indulgence in base and immoral behavior was not aligned with it. While they may not have always lived up to this ideal, it was certainly present. I believe that the same-sex attraction—which I mentioned before—tends to evolve in this direction over time. Additionally, it’s notable that this passion in history (as J. Addington Symonds pointed out in his essay “Dantesque and Platonic Ideals of Love”41) has inspired a significant amount of heroism and romance, comparable only to the loves of Chivalry, which also, due to their unique nature, underwent a similar transformation.
In all these matters the popular opinion has69 probably been largely influenced by the arbitrary notion that the function of love is limited to child-breeding; and that any love not concerned in the propagation of the race must necessarily be of dubious character. And in enforcing this view, no doubt the Hebraic and Christian tradition has exercised a powerful influence—dating, as it almost certainly does, from far-back times when the multiplication of the tribe was one of the first duties of its members, and one of the first necessities of corporate life.42 But nowadays when the need has swung round all the other way it is not unreasonable to suppose that a similar revolution will take place in people’s views of the place and purpose of the non-child-bearing love.43
In all these matters, public opinion has69 probably been shaped by the arbitrary idea that the only purpose of love is to have children; and that any love not related to procreation must be questionable. And in promoting this view, undoubtedly, the Hebrew and Christian traditions have had a strong impact—dating back to times when increasing the tribe was one of the main responsibilities of its members and one of the primary needs of community life.42 But nowadays, when the need has shifted in the opposite direction, it isn’t unreasonable to think that a similar change will happen in how people view the role and purpose of love that doesn’t involve having children.43
I have now said enough I think to show that though much in relation to the homogenic attachment is obscure, and though it may have its special pitfalls and temptations—making it quite necessary to guard against a too great latitude70 on the physical side; yet on its ethical and social sides it is pregnant with meaning and has received at various times in history abundant justification. It certainly does not seem impossible to suppose that as the ordinary love has a special function in the propagation of the race, so the other has its special function in social and heroic work, and in the generation—not of bodily children—but of those children of the mind, the philosophical conceptions and ideals which transform our lives and those of society. J. Addington Symonds, in his privately printed pamphlet, “A Problem in Greek Ethics” (now published in a German translation),44 endeavours to reconstruct as it were the genesis of comrade-love among the Dorians in early Greek times. Thus:—“Without sufficiency of women, without the sanctities of established domestic life, inspired by the memories of Achilles and venerating their ancestor Herakles, the Dorian warriors had special opportunity for elevating comradeship to the rank of an enthusiasm. The incidents of emigration into a foreign country—perils of the sea, passages of rivers and mountains, assaults of fortresses and cities, landings on a hostile71 shore, night-vigils by the side of blazing beacons, foragings for food, picquet service in the front of watchful foes—involved adventures capable of shedding the lustre of romance on friendship. These circumstances, by bringing the virtues of sympathy with the weak, tenderness for the beautiful, protection for the young, together with corresponding qualities of gratitude, self-devotion, and admiring attachment into play, may have tended to cement unions between man and man no less firm than that of marriage. On such connections a wise captain would have relied for giving strength to his battalions, and for keeping alive the flames of enterprise and daring.” The author then goes on to suggest that though in such relations as those indicated the physical probably had some share, yet it did not at that time overbalance the emotional and spiritual elements, or lead to the corruption and effeminacy of a later age.
I think I've said enough to show that, while much about the idea of same-sex attachment is unclear and may have its own pitfalls and temptations—making it crucial to be cautious about being too lenient on the physical side—there's a lot of significance on its ethical and social sides, which has received ample justification throughout history. It certainly doesn’t seem impossible to believe that, just as conventional love has a specific role in procreating the human race, the other kind has its own special purpose in social and heroic endeavors, and in creating—not physical children—but those “children of the mind,” the philosophical ideas and ideals that transform our lives and society. J. Addington Symonds, in his privately printed pamphlet, “A Problem in Greek Ethics” (now available in German translation), attempts to reconstruct the origins of brotherly love among the Dorians in early Greek times. He states: “Without enough women, without the sanctity of established domestic life, inspired by the memories of Achilles and honoring their ancestor Herakles, the Dorian warriors had a unique opportunity to elevate comradeship to the level of an enthusiasm. The experiences of migrating to foreign lands—dangers at sea, crossing rivers and mountains, sieges of fortresses and cities, landing on hostile shores, keeping watch next to blazing beacons, foraging for food, and serving on the front lines against watchful enemies—were adventures that added a touch of romance to friendship. These circumstances, by highlighting virtues like compassion for the weak, appreciation for beauty, protection for the young, alongside qualities such as gratitude, selflessness, and deep attachment, likely fostered bonds between men that were as strong as marriage. A strategic leader would have relied on such connections to strengthen his troops and keep the spirit of enterprise and bravery alive.” The author then suggests that although physical aspects probably played a role in these relationships, they did not outweigh the emotional and spiritual elements at that time, nor did they lead to the corruption and softness seen in later ages.
At Sparta the lover was called Eispnêlos, the inspirer, and the younger beloved Aïtes, the hearer. This alone would show the partly educational aspects in which comradeship was conceived; and a hundred passages from classic literature might be quoted to prove how deeply72 it had entered into the Greek mind that this love was the cradle of social chivalry and heroic life. Finally it seems to have been Plato’s favorite doctrine that the relation if properly conducted led up to the disclosure of true philosophy in the mind, to the divine vision or mania, and to the remembrance or rekindling within the soul of all the forms of celestial beauty. He speaks of this kind of love as causing a “generation in the beautiful”45 within the souls of the lovers. The image of the beloved one passing into the mind of the lover and upward through its deepest recesses reaches and unites itself to the essential forms of divine beauty there long hidden—the originals as it were of all creation—and stirring them to life excites a kind of generative descent of noble thoughts and impulses, which henceforward modify the whole cast of thought and life of the one so affected.
At Sparta, the lover was called Eispnêlos, the inspirer, and the younger beloved Aïtes, the hearer. This alone highlights the educational aspects of their comradeship. Numerous examples from classic literature could illustrate how deeply ingrained the idea of this love was in the Greek mindset, seen as the foundation of social chivalry and heroic life. Ultimately, it seems that Plato believed this relationship, if properly managed, could lead to a revelation of true philosophy in the mind, a divine vision or mania, and a rekindling of all forms of celestial beauty within the soul. He referred to this type of love as causing a “generation in the beautiful”45 within the souls of the lovers. The image of the beloved entering the mind of the lover and ascending through its deepest layers connects with the essential forms of divine beauty that had been hidden there—the prototypes of all creation. This stirring to life triggers a generative outpouring of noble thoughts and impulses, which then reshape the entire perspective and life of the person affected.
If there is any truth—even only a grain or two—in these speculations, it is easy to see that the love with which we are specially dealing is a very important factor in society, and that its neglect, or its repression, or its vulgar misapprehension, may be matters of considerable danger or damage to73 the common-weal. It is easy to see that while on the one hand marriage is of indispensable importance to the State as providing the workshop as it were for the breeding and rearing of children, another form of union is almost equally indispensable to supply the basis for social activities of other kinds. Every one is conscious that without a close affectional tie of some kind his life is not complete, his powers are crippled, and his energies are inadequately spent. Yet it is not to be expected (though it may of course happen) that the man or woman who have dedicated themselves to each other and to family life should leave the care of their children and the work they have to do at home in order to perform social duties of a remote and less obvious, though may be more arduous, character. Nor is it to be expected that a man or woman single-handed, without the counsel of a helpmate in the hour of difficulty, or his or her love in the hour of need, should feel equal to these wider activities. If—to refer once more to classic story—the love of Harmodius had been for a wife and children at home, he would probably not have cared, and it would hardly have been his business, to slay the tyrant. And unless on the other hand each of the friends had had the74 love of his comrade to support him, the two could hardly have nerved themselves to this audacious and ever-memorable exploit. So it is difficult to believe that anything can supply the force and liberate the energies required for social and mental activities of the most necessary kind so well as a comrade-union which yet leaves the two lovers free from the responsibilities and impedimenta of family life.
If there’s any truth—even just a bit—in these speculations, it's clear that the love we're discussing is a significant factor in society. Neglecting it, pushing it down, or misunderstanding it can be quite dangerous and harmful to the community. It's evident that, on one hand, marriage is crucial for the state because it acts as a foundation for raising children. On the other hand, another type of union is equally essential for fostering various social activities. Everyone knows that life feels incomplete without a close emotional bond; it limits our abilities and uses our energy inefficiently. However, it's not realistic to expect that someone committed to each other and family life should abandon their children and home responsibilities to engage in more abstract, though possibly more challenging, social duties. It’s also unreasonable to think that a person can tackle broader activities alone, without the support of a partner during tough times, or without their love when they need it most. To refer back to a classic story, if Harmodius had been focused on a wife and kids at home, he likely wouldn't have cared about or felt it's his responsibility to take down the tyrant. And unless both friends had the love of each other to bolster their courage, they probably wouldn't have been able to undertake such a bold and unforgettable act. Thus, it’s hard to believe that anything else can provide the strength and energy needed for vital social and mental activities as effectively as a partnership that keeps both lovers free from the burdens and complexities of family life.
For if the slaughter of tyrants is not the chief social duty nowadays, we have with us hydra-headed monsters at least as numerous as the tyrants of old, and more difficult to deal with, and requiring no little courage to encounter. And beyond the extirpation of evils we have solid work waiting to be done in the patient and life-long building up of new forms of society, new orders of thought, and new institutions of human solidarity—all of which in their genesis must meet with opposition, ridicule, hatred, and even violence. Such campaigns as these—though different in kind from those of the Dorian mountaineers described above—will call for equal hardihood and courage, and will stand in need of a comradeship as true and valiant. And it may indeed be doubted whether the higher heroic and spiritual75 life of a nation is ever quite possible without the sanction of this attachment in its institutions, adding a new range and scope to the possibilities of love.46
For if taking down tyrants isn't the main social responsibility today, we are still faced with dangerous issues just as numerous as the tyrants of the past, and they're even harder to confront, requiring significant courage to face. Beyond eradicating these evils, we have significant work ahead in patiently and consistently building new societal structures, fresh ways of thinking, and new institutions that promote human solidarity—all of which will inevitably encounter resistance, mockery, animosity, and even violence in their beginnings. These endeavors—while different from those of the Dorian mountaineers mentioned earlier—will demand the same level of bravery and courage, and will need a camaraderie that is both genuine and bold. It can indeed be questioned whether the elevated heroic and spiritual life of a nation can ever truly exist without this bond reflected in its institutions, which expands the possibilities of love.
Walt Whitman, the inaugurator, it may almost be said, of a new world of democratic ideals and literature, and—as one of the best of our critics has remarked—the most Greek in spirit and in performance of modern writers, insists continually on this social function of “intense and loving comradeship, the personal and passionate attachment of man to man.” “I will make,” he says, “the most splendid race the sun ever shone upon, I will make divine magnetic lands.… I will make inseparable cities with their arms about each others’ necks, by the love of comrades.” And again, in “Democratic Vistas,” “It is to the development,76 identification, and general prevalence of that fervid comradeship (the adhesive love at least rivaling the amative love hitherto possessing imaginative literature, if not going beyond it), that I look for the counterbalance and offset of materialistic and vulgar American Democracy, and for the spiritualisation thereof.… I say Democracy infers such loving comradeship, as its most inevitable twin or counterpart, without which it will be incomplete, in vain, and incapable of perpetuating itself.”
Walt Whitman, the pioneer of a new era of democratic ideals and literature, and—as one of our top critics noted—the most Greek in spirit and execution among modern writers, constantly emphasizes the social role of “intense and loving comradeship, the deep personal connection between people.” “I will create,” he declares, “the most magnificent race the sun has ever shone on, I will create divine magnetic lands.… I will create inseparable cities wrapped in each others’ arms, through the love of comrades.” And again, in “Democratic Vistas,” “It is the development, 76 identification, and widespread presence of that passionate comradeship (the bond of love at least rivaling the romantic love that has dominated imaginative literature, if not surpassing it) that I seek to counterbalance and offset the materialistic and crude American Democracy, and for its spiritual elevation.… I say Democracy implies such loving comradeship, as its most inevitable twin or counterpart, without which it will be incomplete, in vain, and unable to sustain itself.”
Yet Whitman could not have spoken, as he did, with a kind of authority on this subject, if he had not been fully aware that through the masses of the people this attachment was already alive and working—though doubtless in a somewhat suppressed and un-self-conscious form—and if he had not had ample knowledge of its effects and influence in himself and others around him. Like all great artists he could but give form and light to that which already existed dim and inchoate in the heart of the people. To those who have dived at all below the surface in this direction it will be familiar enough that the homogenic passion ramifies widely through all modern society, and that among the masses of the people as among the77 classes, even below the stolid surface and reserve of British manners, letters pass and enduring attachments are formed, differing in no very obvious respect from those correspondences which persons of opposite sex knit with each other under similar circumstances; but that hitherto while this relation has occasionally, in its grosser forms and abuses, come into public notice through the police reports, etc., its more sane and spiritual manifestations—though really a moving force in the body politic—have remained unrecognised.
Yet Whitman couldn't have spoken with such authority on this topic if he hadn't been fully aware that this attachment was already alive and active among the masses—though probably in a somewhat suppressed and unacknowledged way—and if he didn't have a deep understanding of its effects and influence on himself and those around him. Like all great artists, he could only give form and clarity to what already existed faintly and inchoately in the hearts of the people. For those who have explored this topic more deeply, it’s well-known that the same-sex passion spreads widely through modern society, and that among the masses, just like among the upper classes, even beneath the stoic surface and reserve of British manners, letters are exchanged and lasting connections are formed, similar to those friendships that people of the opposite sex develop under comparable circumstances. However, while this relationship has occasionally been acknowledged in its cruder forms and abuses through police reports, its healthier and more spiritual expressions—which are actually a significant force in the political realm—have gone unrecognized.
It is hardly needful in these days when social questions loom so large upon us to emphasise the importance of a bond which by the most passionate and lasting compulsion may draw members of the different classes together, and (as it often seems to do) none the less strongly because they are members of different classes. A moment’s consideration must convince us that such a comradeship may, as Whitman says, have “deepest relations to general politics.” It is noticeable, too, in this deepest relation to politics that the movement among women towards their own liberation and emancipation, which is taking place all over the civilised world, has been accompanied by a marked development of the homogenic passion78 among the female sex. It may be said that a certain strain in the relations between the opposite sexes which has come about owing to a growing consciousness among women that they have been oppressed and unfairly treated by men, and a growing unwillingness to ally themselves unequally in marriage—that this strain has caused the womenkind to draw more closely together and to cement alliances of their own. But whatever the cause may be it is pretty certain that such comrade-alliances—and of quite devoted kind—are becoming increasingly common, and especially perhaps among the more cultured classes of women, who are working out the great cause of their sex’s liberation; nor is it difficult to see the importance of such alliances in such a campaign. In the United States where the battle of women’s independence is also being fought, the tendency mentioned is as strongly marked.
It's hardly necessary these days, when social issues are so prominent, to stress the importance of a relationship that, through the most passionate and lasting drive, can bring together people from different classes—and it often seems to do so even more strongly because they come from different backgrounds. A moment's thought will show us that such camaraderie can, as Whitman puts it, have "deepest relations to general politics." It's also worth noting that this deep connection to politics coincides with the movement among women for their own liberation and emancipation, which is happening all over the civilized world, and has been accompanied by a noticeable rise in same-sex attraction among women. One could argue that a certain tension in the relationships between men and women—a result of women becoming aware of their oppression and unfair treatment by men, along with a growing reluctance to enter unequal marriages—has led women to come together more closely and form their own alliances. Whatever the reason, it's clear that these bonds of friendship—often quite devoted—are becoming more common, particularly among more educated women who are championing the cause of their gender's liberation; and it's easy to see how important these alliances are in that struggle. In the United States, where the fight for women's independence is also underway, this trend is equally evident.
A few words may here be said about the legal aspect of this important question. It has to be remarked that the present state of the Law, both in Germany and Britain—arising as it does partly out of some of the misapprehensions above alluded to, and partly out of the sheer unwillingness of legislators to discuss the question—is really79 impracticable. While the Law rightly seeks to prevent acts of violence or public scandal, it may be argued that it is going beyond its province when it attempts to regulate the private and voluntary relations of adult persons to each other. The homogenic affection is a valuable social force, and in some cases a necessary element of noble human character—yet the Act of 1885 makes almost any familiarity in such cases the possible basis of a criminal charge. The Law has no doubt had substantial ground for previous statutes on this subject—dealing with a certain gross act; but in so severely condemning the least familiarity between male persons47 we think it has gone too far. It has undertaken a censorship over private morals (entirely apart from social results) which is beyond its province, and which—even if it were its province—it could not possibly fulfil;48 it has opened wider than ever before the door to a real, most serious social evil and crime—that of blackmailing; and it80 has thrown a shadow over even the simplest and most ordinary expressions of an attachment which may, as we have seen, be of great value in the national life.
A few words can be said here about the legal aspect of this important issue. It's worth noting that the current state of the law, both in Germany and Britain—arising partly from some of the misunderstandings mentioned earlier and partly from legislators' reluctance to tackle the issue—is really79 unworkable. While the law rightly aims to prevent acts of violence or public scandal, it could be argued that it oversteps its boundaries when it tries to regulate the private and voluntary relationships between adults. Homosexual affection is a valuable social force and, in some cases, a necessary component of good human character—yet the Act of 1885 makes almost any intimacy in such cases a potential basis for criminal charges. The law has undoubtedly had valid reasons for past statutes on this topic—targeting certain egregious acts; however, in so harshly condemning even the slightest familiarity between men47 we believe it has gone too far. It has imposed a censorship over private morals (entirely aside from social consequences) that is beyond its scope and which—even if it were its responsibility—it could not possibly manage;48 it has opened wider than before the path to a serious social evil and crime—blackmail; and it80 has cast a shadow over even the simplest and most ordinary expressions of affection that may, as we have seen, hold great value in national life.
That the homosexual feeling, like the heterosexual, may lead to public abuses of liberty and decency; that it needs a strict self-control; and that much teaching and instruction on the subject is needed; we of course do not deny. But as, in the case of persons of opposite sex, the law limits itself on the whole to a maintenance of public order, the protection of the weak from violence and insult,49 and of the young from their inexperience; so we think it should be here. The much-needed teaching and the true morality on the subject must be given—as it can only be given—by the spread of proper education and ideas, and not by the clumsy bludgeon of the statute-book.50
That homosexual feelings, just like heterosexual ones, can lead to public violations of freedom and decency; that they require strict self-control; and that a lot of education and guidance on the topic is necessary; we certainly acknowledge. However, just as the law generally focuses on maintaining public order, protecting the vulnerable from violence and insults,49 and shielding the young from their inexperience in the case of opposite-sex relationships, we believe it should also apply to this. The much-needed education and genuine morality on the topic must come from the promotion of proper education and ideas, not from the heavy-handed approach of the law.50
Having thus shown the importance of the homogenic or comrade-attachment, in some form, in national life, it would seem high time now that the modern peoples should recognise this in their institutions, and endeavour at least in their public opinion and systems of education to understand this factor and give it its proper place. The undoubted evils which exist in relation to it, for instance in our public schools as well as in our public life, owe their existence largely to the fact that the whole subject is left in the gutter so to speak—in darkness and concealment. No one offers a clue of better things, nor to point a way out of the wilderness; and by this very non-recognition the passion is perverted into its least satisfactory channels. All love, one would say, must have its responsibilities, else it is liable to degenerate, and to dissipate itself in mere sentiment or sensuality. The normal marriage between man and woman leads up to the foundation of the household and the family; the love between parents and children implies duties and cares on both sides. The homogenic attachment left unrecognised, easily loses some of its best quality and becomes an ephemeral or corrupt thing. Yet, as we have seen, and as I am pointing out in the82 following chapter, it may, when occurring between an elder and younger, prove to be an immense educational force; while, as between equals, it may be turned to social and heroic uses, such as can hardly be demanded or expected from the ordinary marriage. It would seem high time, I say, that public opinion should recognise these facts; and so give to this attachment the sanction and dignity which arise from public recognition, as well as the definite form and outline which would flow from the existence of an accepted ideal or standard in the matter. It is often said how necessary for the morality of the ordinary marriage is some public recognition of the relation, and some accepted standard of conduct in it. May not, to a lesser degree, something of the same kind (as suggested in the next chapter) be true of the homogenic attachment? It has had its place as a recognised and guarded institution in the elder and more primitive societies; and it seems quite probable that a similar place will be accorded to it in the societies of the future.
Having shown the importance of homogenic or comrade attachment in national life, it's about time modern societies recognize this in their institutions and at least try, through public opinion and education systems, to understand this factor and give it the respect it deserves. The clear issues related to it, observed in our public schools and public life, largely stem from the fact that this entire topic is left in the shadows—ignored and hidden. No one provides a clue to better alternatives or a way out of this confusion; and by failing to acknowledge it, this passion is misdirected into less fulfilling paths. Love, it seems, must come with responsibilities; otherwise, it risks degenerating into mere sentimentality or undesired desires. A normal marriage between a man and a woman forms the basis of a household and family; the love between parents and children involves responsibilities and care from both sides. When homogenic attachment goes unrecognized, it can easily lose its best qualities and become something fleeting or corrupt. However, as we've seen, and as I’m highlighting in the82 following chapter, it can be a powerful educational force when it occurs between an elder and a younger person; likewise, when it happens among peers, it can lead to social and heroic actions, which are often not expected from conventional marriage. It seems urgent that public opinion acknowledges these realities and grants this attachment the approval and respect that come with public recognition, along with a clear form and outline emerging from a widely accepted standard or ideal. It’s often said that public acknowledgment and an accepted standard of conduct are crucial for the morality of ordinary marriage. Might, to some extent, something similar (as suggested in the next chapter) be true for homogenic attachment? It has held its place as a recognized and protected institution in older and more primitive societies, and it’s quite likely that a similar standing will be given to it in future societies.
IV
Affection in Education
The place of Affection, and the need of it, as an educative force in school-life, is a subject which is beginning to attract a good deal of attention. Hitherto Education has been concentred on intellectual (and physical) development; but the affections have been left to take care of themselves. Now it is beginning to be seen that the affections have an immense deal to say in the building up of the brain and the body. Their evolution and organisation in some degree is probably going to become an important part of school management.
The role of affection, and the need for it as an educational force in school life, is a topic that's starting to gain a lot of attention. Until now, education has focused primarily on intellectual (and physical) development, while emotional needs have largely been overlooked. It's now becoming apparent that emotions play a significant role in developing the brain and body. Their growth and organization will likely become an essential part of school management.
School friendships of course exist; and almost every one remembers that they filled a large place in the outlook of his early years; but he remembers, too, that they were not recognised in any way, and that in consequence the main part of their force and value was wasted. Yet it is84 evident that the first unfolding of a strong attachment in boyhood or girlhood must have a profound influence; while if it occurs between an elder and a younger school-mate, or—as sometimes happens—between the young thing and its teacher, its importance in the educational sense can hardly be overrated.
School friendships definitely exist, and almost everyone recalls how significant they were during their childhood. However, they also remember that these friendships weren’t acknowledged in any meaningful way, which meant that much of their strength and value was lost. Still, it’s clear that the initial development of a strong bond in childhood has a deep impact; especially when it takes place between an older and a younger classmate, or sometimes between a student and their teacher, the educational significance of such relationships can’t be overstated.
That such feelings sometimes take quite intense and romantic forms few will deny. I have before me a letter, in which the author, speaking of an attachment he experienced when a boy of sixteen for a youth somewhat older than himself, says:—
That such feelings can sometimes be quite intense and romantic is something few would dispute. I have in front of me a letter where the writer, reflecting on an attachment he felt at the age of sixteen for a young man a bit older than him, says:—
“I would have died for him ten times over. My devices and plannings to meet him (to come across him casually, as it were) were those of a lad for his sweetheart, and when I saw him my heart beat so violently that it caught my breath, and I could not speak. We met in——, and for the weeks that he stayed there I thought of nothing else—thought of him night and day—and when he returned to London I used to write him weekly letters, veritable love-letters of many sheets in length. Yet I never felt one particle of jealousy, though our friendship lasted for some years. The passion, violent and extravagant as it was, I believe to have been perfectly free from sex-feeling and perfectly wholesome and good for me. It distinctly contributed to my growth.85 Looking back upon it and analysing it as well as I can, I seem to see as the chief element in it an escape from the extremely narrow Puritanism in which I was reared, into a large sunny ingenuous nature which knew nothing at all of the bondage of which I was beginning to be acutely conscious.”
“I would have died for him ten times over. My plans to meet him (to run into him casually, so to speak) were like those of a young man in love, and when I saw him, my heart raced so hard that it took my breath away, and I couldn't say a word. We met in——, and for the weeks he stayed there, he was all I thought about—day and night. When he returned to London, I wrote him weekly letters, genuine love letters that were many pages long. Yet, I never felt a bit of jealousy, even though our friendship lasted for several years. The passion, as intense and extravagant as it was, seemed completely free of sexual feelings and was perfectly healthy and good for me. It certainly helped me grow.85 Looking back on it and analyzing it as best as I can, I see the main aspect of it as an escape from the extremely narrow Puritanism I was raised in, into a bright and open nature that had no clue about the constraints I was starting to become painfully aware of.”
Shelley in his fragmentary “Essay on Friendship” speaks in the most glowing terms of an attachment he formed at school, and so does Leigh Hunt in his “Autobiography.” Says the latter:—
Shelley in his incomplete “Essay on Friendship” speaks in the most enthusiastic terms about a bond he developed at school, and so does Leigh Hunt in his “Autobiography.” The latter says:—
“If I had reaped no other benefit from Christ Hospital, the school would be ever dear to me from the recollection of the friendships I formed in it, and of the first heavenly taste it gave me of that most spiritual of the affections.… I shall never forget the impression it made on me. I loved my friend for his gentleness, his candour, his truth, his good repute, his freedom even from my own livelier manner, his calm and reasonable kindness.… I doubt whether he ever had a conception of a tithe of the regard and respect I entertained for him, and I smile to think of the perplexity (though he never showed it) which he probably felt sometimes at my enthusiastic expressions; for I thought him a kind of angel.”
“If I had gained no other benefit from Christ Hospital, the school would still hold a special place in my heart because of the friendships I made there and the first taste it gave me of the most spiritual kind of love. I will never forget the impact it had on me. I admired my friend for his gentleness, honesty, truthfulness, good reputation, and even his calm demeanor compared to my more energetic personality. I wonder if he ever realized just how much regard and respect I had for him, and I can’t help but smile thinking about the confusion (though he never showed it) he might have felt at my enthusiastic praise, because I saw him as a kind of angel.”
It is not necessary, however, to quote authorities86 on such a subject as this.51 Any one who has had experience of schoolboys knows well enough that they are capable of forming these romantic and devoted attachments, and that their alliances are often of the kind especially referred to as having a bearing on education—i.e., between an elder and a younger. They are genuine attractions, free as a rule, and at their inception, from secondary motives. They are not formed by the elder one for any personal ends. More often, indeed, I think they are begun by the younger, who naively allows his admiration of the elder one to become visible. But they are absorbing and intense, and on either side their influence is deeply felt and long remembered.
It isn’t necessary to quote experts86 on a topic like this.51 Anyone who has dealt with schoolboys knows that they can form romantic and devoted bonds, often of the type that are significant for education—i.e., between an older and a younger individual. These connections are genuine attractions, usually pure and free from ulterior motives at the start. The older person doesn’t seek any personal gain from them. More often, I believe, they are initiated by the younger one, who openly shows his admiration for the older. But these relationships are intense and all-consuming, and their impact is strongly felt and remembered for a long time on both sides.
That such attachments may be of the very greatest value is self-evident. The younger boy looks on the other as a hero, loves to be with him, thrills with pleasure at his words of praise or kindness, imitates, and makes him his pattern and standard, learns exercises and games, contracts habits, or picks up information from him. The elder one, touched, becomes protector and helper; the unselfish side of his nature is drawn out, and he develops a real affection and tenderness towards87 the younger. He takes all sorts of trouble to initiate his protégé in field sports or studies; is proud of the latter’s success; and leads him on perhaps later to share his own ideals of life and thought and work.
That such connections can be incredibly valuable is clear. The younger boy sees the other as a hero, loves spending time with him, gets excited by his compliments or kindness, copies him, and looks to him as a role model. He learns activities and games, picks up habits, and absorbs information from him. The older boy, touched by this admiration, becomes a protector and a helper; his selfless side emerges, and he develops genuine affection and care for the younger one. He goes out of his way to introduce his protégé to sports or studies, feels proud of his success, and encourages him to eventually share his own ideals of life, thoughts, and work.
Sometimes the alliance will begin, in a corresponding way, from the side of the elder boy. Sometimes, as said, between a boy and a master such an attachment, or the germ of it, is found; and indeed it is difficult to say what gulf, or difference of age, or culture, or class in society, is so great that affection of this kind will not on occasion overpass it. I have by me a letter which was written by a boy of eleven or twelve to a young man of twenty-four or twenty-five. The boy was rather a wild, “naughty” boy, and had given his parents (working-class folk) a good deal of trouble. He attended, however, some sort of night-school or evening class and there conceived the strongest affection (evidenced by this letter) for his teacher, the young man in question, quite spontaneously, and without any attempt on the part of the latter to elicit it; and (which was equally important) without any attempt on his part to deny it. The result was most favorable; the one force which could really reach the boy88 had, as it were, been found; and he developed rapidly and well.
Sometimes the bond will start, in a similar way, from the side of the older boy. Sometimes, as mentioned, between a boy and a teacher, such an attachment, or its beginnings, can be found; and it’s really hard to determine what gap, difference in age, culture, or social class is so vast that this kind of affection won't occasionally bridge it. I have a letter written by a boy around eleven or twelve years old to a young man who was about twenty-four or twenty-five. The boy was quite wild, a "troublesome" kid, and had caused his working-class parents a fair amount of stress. However, he attended some kind of night school or evening class and there he formed a strong attachment (as shown in this letter) to his teacher, the young man in question, completely on his own, without any effort from the latter to foster it; and (equally important) without any effort from him to deny it. The outcome was very positive; the one force that could truly connect with the boy88 had, in a sense, been found; and he developed quickly and positively.
The following extract is from a letter written by an elderly man who has had large experience as a teacher. He says—
The following extract is from a letter written by an older man who has extensive experience as a teacher. He says—
“It has always seemed to me that the rapport that exists between two human beings, whether of the same or of different sexes, is a force not sufficiently recognised, and capable of producing great results. Plato fully understood its importance, and aimed at giving what to his countrymen was more or less sensual, a noble and exalted direction.… As one who has had much to do in instructing boys and starting them in life, I am convinced that the great secret of being a good teacher consists in the possibility of that rapport; not only of a merely intellectual nature, but involving a certain physical element, a personal affection, almost indescribable, that grows up between pupil and teacher, and through which thoughts are shared and an influence created that could exist in no other way.”
“It has always seemed to me that the rapport between two people, whether the same gender or not, is a force that is not sufficiently recognized and can lead to significant outcomes. Plato fully grasped its importance and aimed to give what was more or less sensual to his fellow citizens a noble and elevated direction. As someone who has spent a lot of time teaching boys and helping them start their lives, I am convinced that the key to being a good teacher lies in that rapport; not just an intellectual connection but also involving a certain physical element, a personal affection that is almost indescribable, which develops between student and teacher, allowing thoughts to be shared and an influence to be created that couldn't exist in any other way.”
And it must be evident to every one that to the expanding mind of a small boy to have a relation of real affection with some sensible and helpful elder of his own sex must be a priceless boon. At that age love to the other sex has hardly declared89 itself, and indeed is not exactly what is wanted. The unformed mind requires an ideal of itself, as it were, to which it can cling or towards which it can grow. Yet it is equally evident that the relation and the success of it, will depend immensely on the character of the elder one, on the self-restraint and tenderness of which he is capable, and on the ideal of life which he has in his mind. That, possibly, is the reason why Greek custom, at least in the early days of Hellas, not only recognised friendships between elder and younger youths as a national institution of great importance, but laid down very distinct laws or rules concerning the conduct of them, so as to be a guide and a help to the elder in what was acknowledged to be a position of responsibility.
It must be clear to everyone that for the developing mind of a young boy, having a genuine bond of affection with a wise and supportive older male is an invaluable gift. At that age, feelings for the opposite sex have barely emerged and aren't necessarily what he needs. The immature mind needs a sort of ideal to aspire to and connect with as it grows. However, it's also clear that the success of this relationship will greatly depend on the character of the older person, including their ability to demonstrate self-discipline and kindness, as well as the life ideals they hold. This could explain why Greek customs, especially in the early days of Greece, not only recognized friendships between older and younger boys as an important national practice, but also established clear guidelines or rules to govern these relationships, serving as a guide and support for the older individual in their acknowledged role of responsibility.
In Crete, for instance,52 the friendship was entered into in quite a formal and public way, with the understanding and consent of relatives; the position of the elder was clearly defined, and it became his business to train and exercise the younger in skill of arms, the chase, etc.; while the latter could obtain redress at law if the elder subjected him to insult or injury of any kind. At90 the end of a certain period of probation, if the younger desired it he could leave his comrade; if not, he became his squire or henchman—the elder being bound to furnish his military equipments—and they fought thenceforward side by side in battle, “inspired with double valor, according to the notions of the Cretans, by the gods of war and love.”53 Similar customs prevailed in Sparta, and, in a less defined way, in other Greek states; as, indeed, they have prevailed among many semi-barbaric races on the threshold of civilisation.
In Crete, for example,52 friendships were formed in a very formal and public manner, with the understanding and consent of family members. The role of the elder was clearly established, and it was his responsibility to train and prepare the younger individual in skills like combat and hunting. Meanwhile, the younger one could seek legal protection if the elder ever disrespected or harmed him. At90 the end of a specified trial period, if the younger person wished, he could leave his mentor; if he chose not to, he would continue as his squire or assistant—the elder obligated to provide his military gear—and from that point on, they fought together in battles, “filled with double courage, according to the beliefs of the Cretans, by the gods of war and love.”53 Similar practices existed in Sparta, and, in a less formal manner, in other Greek states; indeed, these customs have also been seen among many semi-barbaric cultures at the edge of civilization.
When, however, we turn to modern life and the actual situation, as for instance in the public schools of to-day, it may well be objected that we find very little of the suggested ideal, but rather an appalling descent into the most uninspiring conditions. So far from friendship being an institution whose value is recognised and understood, it is at best scantily acknowledged, and is often actually discountenanced and misunderstood. And though attachments such as we have portrayed exist, they exist underground, as it were, at their peril, and half-stifled in an atmosphere which can only be described as that of the91 gutter. Somehow the disease of premature sexuality seems to have got possession of our centres of education; wretched practices and habits abound, and (what is perhaps their worst feature) cloud and degrade the boys’ conception of what true love or friendship may be.
When we look at modern life and the current situation, especially in today's public schools, it can be argued that we see very little of the ideal we've suggested, but rather a shocking decline into extremely uninspiring conditions. Instead of friendship being an institution that is valued and understood, it is at best barely acknowledged, and often actually frowned upon and misunderstood. While the kinds of connections we've described do exist, they are often hidden, risking exposure, and are stifled in an environment that can only be described as that of the91 gutter. Somehow, the issue of premature sexuality seems to have taken over our educational centers; terrible practices and habits are widespread, and (perhaps their worst aspect) they cloud and degrade the boys’ understanding of what true love or friendship can be.
To those who are familiar with large public schools the state of affairs does not need describing. A friend (who has placed some notes at my disposal) says that in his time a certain well-known public school was a mass of uncleanness, incontinence, and dirty conversation, while at the same time a great deal of genuine affection, even to heroism, was shown among the boys in their relations with one another. But “all these things were treated by masters and boys alike as more or less unholy, with the result that they were either sought after or flung aside according to the sexual or emotional instinct of the boy. No attempt was made at discrimination. A kiss was by comparison as unclean as the act of fellatio, and no one had any gauge or principle whatever on which to guide the cravings of boyhood.” The writer then goes into details which it is not necessary to reproduce here. He (and others) were initiated in the mysteries of sex by the dormitory92 servant; and the boys thus corrupted mishandled each other.
To those who are familiar with large public schools, the situation doesn't need explaining. A friend (who has shared some notes with me) says that during his time, a certain well-known public school was full of messiness, inappropriate behavior, and crude talk, while at the same time there was a lot of genuine affection, even to the point of heroism, among the boys in their relationships with each other. But “all these things were seen by both teachers and students as more or less unacceptable, resulting in them being either pursued or rejected based on the boy's sexual or emotional instincts. There was no effort made to differentiate. A kiss was considered just as dirty as the act of fellatio, and no one had any measure or principle to guide the desires of youth.” The writer then goes into details that aren't necessary to reproduce here. He (and others) were introduced to the complexities of sex by the dormitory servant, and the boys who were thus corrupted mishandled each other.
Naturally in any such atmosphere as this the chances against the formation of a decent and healthy attachment are very large. If the elder youth happen to be given to sensuality he has here his opportunity; if on the other hand he is not given to it, the ideas current around probably have the effect of making him suspect his own affection, and he ends by smothering and disowning the best part of his nature. In both ways harm is done. The big boys in such places become either coarse and licentious or hard and self-righteous; the small boys, instead of being educated and strengthened by the elder ones, become effeminate little wretches, the favorites, the petted boys, and the “spoons” of the school. As time goes on the public opinion of the school ceases to believe in the possibility of a healthy friendship; the masters begin to presume (and not without reason) that all affection means sensual practices, and end by doing their best to discourage it.
Naturally, in an environment like this, the chances against forming a decent and healthy attachment are very high. If the older boys are into sensuality, they have plenty of opportunities here. On the flip side, if they’re not into that, the popular ideas around might make them doubt their own feelings, leading them to suppress and reject the best parts of themselves. Either way, it's damaging. The older boys in these settings become either crude and promiscuous or tough and self-righteous. The younger boys, instead of being educated and uplifted by the older ones, become weak little followers, the favorites, the pampered ones, and the “spoons” of the school. As time passes, the school’s culture stops believing in the possibility of healthy friendships; the teachers start to assume (not without reason) that all affection equates to sexual activity and end up trying to discourage it.
Now this state of affairs is really desperate. There is no need to be puritanical, or to look upon the lapses of boyhood as unpardonable93 sins; indeed, it may be allowed, as far as that goes, that a little frivolity is better than hardness and self-righteousness; yet every one feels, and must feel, who knows anything about the matter, that the state of our schools is bad.
Now, this situation is really dire. There's no need to be overly strict or to see the mistakes of youth as unforgivable sins; in fact, it's fair to say that a bit of fun is preferable to being harsh and self-righteous. Still, everyone who has any understanding of the issue feels, and must feel, that the condition of our schools is poor.93
And it is so because, after all, purity (in the sense of continence) is of the first importance to boyhood. To prolong the period of continence in a boy’s life is to prolong the period of growth. This is a simple physiological law, and a very obvious one; and whatever other things may be said in favour of purity, it remains perhaps the most weighty. To introduce sensual and sexual habits—and one of the worst of these is self-abuse—at an early age, is to arrest growth, both physical and mental.
And that's because, ultimately, purity (in the sense of self-control) is extremely important for boys. Extending the period of self-control in a boy's life means extending the period of growth. This is a straightforward physiological fact, and it's quite obvious; and while there are many arguments in favor of purity, this one is perhaps the most significant. Introducing sensual and sexual habits—one of the worst being self-abuse—at a young age halts growth, both physically and mentally.
And what is even more, it means to arrest the capacity for affection. I believe affection, attachment—whether to the one sex or the other—springs up normally in the youthful mind in a quite diffused, ideal, emotional form—a kind of longing and amazement as at something divine—with no definite thought or distinct consciousness of sex in it. The sentiment expands and fills, as it were like a rising tide, every cranny of the emotional and moral nature; and the94 longer (of course within reasonable limits) its definite outlet towards sex is deferred, the longer does this period of emotional growth and development continue, and the greater is the refinement and breadth and strength of character resulting. All experience shows that a too early outlet towards sex cheapens and weakens affectional capacity.
And what's more, it means to hinder the ability to love. I believe that affection and attachment—whether toward one gender or the other—naturally arise in the young mind in a broad, idealistic, emotional way—a kind of yearning and wonder as if encountering something divine—with no clear thought or distinct awareness of sex involved. This feeling grows and fills, almost like a rising tide, every part of the emotional and moral self; and the longer (within reason) its specific focus on sex is postponed, the longer this period of emotional growth and development lasts, leading to greater refinement, breadth, and strength of character. All experience shows that an early focus on sex diminishes and weakens the capacity for affection.
Yet this early outlet it is which is the great trouble of our public schools. And it really does not seem unlikely that the peculiar character of the middle-class man of to-day, his undeveloped affectional nature and something of brutishness and woodenness, is largely due to the prevalent condition of the places of his education. The Greeks, with their wonderful instinct of fitness, seem to have perceived the right path in all this matter; and, while encouraging friendship, as we have seen, made a great point of modesty in early life—the guardians and teachers of every well-born boy being especially called upon to watch over the sobriety of his habits and manners.54
Yet this early outlet is what causes major issues in our public schools. It really doesn’t seem far-fetched to think that the unique character of today’s middle-class men, with their underdeveloped emotional nature and a bit of roughness and stiffness, is largely a result of the current state of their educational environments. The Greeks, with their amazing sense of appropriateness, seem to have understood the right approach in all of this; they encouraged friendship while also emphasizing modesty during formative years—guardians and teachers of every well-born boy were especially called to keep an eye on the discipline of his habits and manners.54
We have then in education generally, it seems to me (and whether of boys or of girls), two great currents to deal with, which cannot be ignored, and which certainly ought to be candidly recognized and given their right direction. One of these currents is that of friendship. The other is that of the young thing’s natural curiosity about sex. The latter is of course, or should be, a perfectly legitimate interest. A boy at puberty naturally wants to know—and ought to know—what is taking place, and what the uses and functions of his body are. He does not go very deep into things; a small amount of information will probably satisfy him; but the curiosity is there, and it is pretty certain that the boy, if he is a boy of any sense or character, will in some shape or another get to satisfy it.
In education today, it seems to me that we have two important issues to address, regardless of whether we're talking about boys or girls. These issues can't be overlooked and should be openly acknowledged and properly guided. One of these issues is friendship. The other is the natural curiosity young people have about sex. This curiosity is completely legitimate. A boy going through puberty naturally wants to understand what’s happening and what the functions of his body are. He may not delve too deeply; a little information will likely suffice. However, the curiosity exists, and it's very likely that a sensible boy will find a way to satisfy it, one way or another.
The process is really a mental one. Desire—except in some abnormal cases—has not manifested itself strongly; and there is often perhaps generally, an actual repugnance at first to anything like sexual practices; but the wish for information exists and is, I say, legitimate enough.55 In almost all human societies except,96 curiously, the modern nations, there have been institutions for the initiation of the youth of either sex into these matters, and these initiations have generally been associated, in the opening blossom of the young mind, with inculcation of the ideals of manhood and womanhood, courage, hardihood, and the duties of the citizen or the soldier.56
The process is really a mental one. Desire—except in some unusual cases—hasn't shown itself strongly; and there is often, perhaps generally, an initial aversion to anything resembling sexual practices. However, the desire for knowledge exists and is, I believe, completely valid.55 In almost all human societies except, oddly enough, the modern nations, there have been systems for initiating young people of either gender into these topics. These initiations have usually been connected, in the early development of the young mind, with teaching the ideals of manhood and womanhood, bravery, resilience, and the responsibilities of a citizen or a soldier.56
But what does the modern school do? It shuts a trap-door down on the whole matter. There is a hush; a grim silence. Legitimate curiosity soon becomes illegitimate of its kind; and a furtive desire creeps in, where there was no desire before. The method of the gutter prevails. In the absence of any recognition of schoolboy needs, contraband information is smuggled from one to another; chaff and ‘smut’ take the place of sensible and decent explanations; unhealthy practices follow; the sacredness of sex goes its way, never to return, and the school is filled with premature and morbid talk and thought about97 a subject which should, by rights, only just be rising over the mental horizon.
But what does the modern school do? It slams a trapdoor shut on the whole issue. There’s a silence; a heavy stillness. Legitimate curiosity quickly turns into something questionable; and a sneaky desire creeps in where there was none before. The gutter's way of thinking takes over. With no acknowledgment of students' needs, illegal information gets passed around; gossip and inappropriate talk replace sensible and decent explanations; unhealthy behaviors emerge; the sanctity of sex fades away, never to return, and the school is filled with premature and distorted discussions and thoughts about97 a topic that should, ideally, only just be coming into view.
The meeting of these two currents, of ideal attachment and sexual desire, constitutes a rather critical period, even when it takes place in the normal way—i.e., later on, and at the matrimonial age. Under the most favorable conditions a certain conflict occurs in the mind at their first encounter. But in the modern school this conflict, precipitated far too soon, and accompanied by an artificial suppression of the nobler current and a premature hastening of the baser one, ends in simple disaster to the former. Masters wage war against incontinence, and are right to do so. But how do they wage it? As said, by grim silence and fury, by driving the abscess deeper, by covering the drain over, and by confusing when it comes before them—both in their own minds and those of the boys—a real attachment with that which they condemn.
The meeting of these two forces, emotional attachment and sexual desire, represents a pivotal moment, even when it happens in the usual way—i.e., later in life and at the age for marriage. Under favorable circumstances, a certain conflict arises in the mind during their first encounter. However, in today’s environment, this conflict arises much too early and is accompanied by an artificial suppression of the higher feelings and an accelerated development of the lower ones, leading to a complete failure of the former. Educators fight against promiscuity, and they are justified in doing so. But how do they fight it? As mentioned, with grim silence and rage, by pushing the problem deeper, by covering it up, and by mixing up—both in their own thoughts and in those of the boys—genuine attachment with what they criticize.
Not long ago the headmaster of a large public school coming suddenly out of his study chanced upon two boys embracing each other in the corridor. Possibly, and even probably, it was the simple and natural expression of an unsophisticated attachment. Certainly, it was nothing that98 in itself could be said to be either right or wrong. What did he do? He haled the two boys into his study, gave them a long lecture on the nefariousness of their conduct, with copious hints that he knew what such things meant, and what they led to, and ended by punishing both condignly. Could anything be more foolish? If their friendship was clean and natural, the master was only trying to make them feel that it was unclean and unnatural, and that a lovely and honorable thing was disgraceful; if the act was—which at least is improbable—a mere signal of lust—even then the best thing would have been to assume that it was honorable, and by talking to the boys, either together or separately, to try and inspire them with a better ideal; while if, between these positions, the master really thought the affection though honorable would lead to things undesirable, then, plainly, to punish the two was only to cement their love for each other, to give them a strong reason for concealing it, and to hasten its onward course. Yet every one knows that this is the kind of way in which the subject is treated in schools. It is the method of despair. And masters (perhaps not unnaturally) finding that they have not the time which would be99 needed for personal dealing with each boy, nor the forces at their command by which they might hope to introduce new ideals of life and conduct into their little community, and feeling thus utterly unable to cope with the situation, allow themselves to drift into a policy of mere silence with regard to it, tempered by outbreaks of ungoverned and unreasoning severity.
Not long ago, the headmaster of a large public school stepped out of his office and unexpectedly came across two boys hugging each other in the hallway. It was likely just a simple and innocent expression of genuine friendship. Clearly, it wasn’t something that could be definitively labeled as right or wrong. What did he do? He brought the two boys into his office, lectured them for a long time about the wrongdoing of their actions, implying that he understood what such things meant and what they could lead to, and ended up punishing both of them severely. Could anything be more ridiculous? If their friendship was pure and natural, the headmaster was only making them feel that it was dirty and unnatural, labeling something beautiful and honorable as shameful; if the act was—which is at least unlikely—a mere expression of lust, even then the best approach would have been to treat it as honorable and to talk to the boys, either together or separately, to inspire them with a better vision of friendship; and if he truly believed that the affection, although honorable, would lead to undesirable outcomes, then, clearly, punishing them would only strengthen their bond, give them a solid reason to hide it, and accelerate its development. Yet everyone knows this is how the subject is generally handled in schools. It is a method of despair. And teachers (perhaps understandably), realizing they lack the time needed for personal engagement with each student, and the resources to instill new ideals of life and behavior within their small community, feel utterly helpless and resort to a strategy of mere silence on the topic, occasionally interrupted by fits of unreasonable and harsh discipline.
I venture to think that school-masters will never successfully solve the difficulty until they boldly recognize the two needs in question, and proceed candidly to give them their proper satisfaction.
I believe that teachers will never successfully solve the problem until they confidently acknowledge the two needs involved and honestly work to meet them properly.
The need of information—the legitimate curiosity—of boys (and girls) must be met, (1) partly by classes on physiology, (2) partly by private talks and confidences between elder and younger, based on friendship. With regard to (1) classes of this kind are already, happily, being carried on at a few advanced schools, and with good results. And though such classes can only go rather generally into the facts of motherhood and generation they cannot fail, if well managed, to impress the young minds, and give them a far grander and more reverent conception of the matter than they usually gain.
The need for information—the genuine curiosity—of boys and girls must be addressed, (1) partly through classes on physiology, and (2) partly through private conversations and confidences between older and younger individuals, built on friendship. Regarding (1), classes like this are already, thankfully, being held at a few progressive schools, and they're producing good results. While these classes can only cover the basics of motherhood and reproduction, if they are well conducted, they are sure to leave a significant impression on young minds, providing them with a much deeper and more respectful understanding of the topic than they typically receive.
But (2) although some rudimentary teaching100 on sex and lessons in physiology may be given in classes, it is obvious that further instruction and indeed any real help in the conduct of life and morals can only come through very close and tender confidences between the elder and the younger, such as exist where there is a strong friendship to begin with. It is obvious that effective help can only come in this way, and that this is the only way in which it is desirable that it should come. The elder friend in this case would, one might say, naturally be, and in many instances may be, the parent, mother or father—who ought certainly to be able to impress on the clinging child the sacredness of the relation. And it is much to be hoped that parents will see their way to take this part more freely in the future. But for some unexplained reason there is certainly often a gulf of reserve between the (British) parent and child; and the boy who is much at school comes more under the influence of his elder companions than his parents. If, therefore, boys and youths cannot be trusted and encouraged to form decent and loving friendships with each other, and with their elders or juniors—in which many delicate questions could be discussed and the tradition of sensible and manly101 conduct with regard to sex handed down—we are indeed in a bad plight and involved in a vicious circle from which escape seems difficult.
But (2) even though some basic education100 about sex and physiology might be taught in classrooms, it's clear that any deeper guidance and real support for navigating life and morals can only come from very close and caring conversations between older and younger individuals, which typically happen in a strong friendship. It's clear that effective support can only come this way, and it's the only way it should ideally come. In this case, the older friend would naturally be the parent, mother or father—who should certainly be able to convey the importance of this relationship to the child. It's greatly hoped that parents will start to embrace this role more openly in the future. However, for some unknown reason, there often seems to be a gap of reserve between (British) parents and their children; the boy who spends a lot of time at school often finds himself influenced more by older peers than by his parents. So, if boys and young men can't be trusted and encouraged to build decent and loving friendships with each other, and with older or younger companions—where many sensitive topics could be discussed and the tradition of sensible and mature101 behavior regarding sex could be passed down—we're really in a tough situation, caught in a vicious cycle that's hard to break.
And so (we think) the need of attachment must also be met by full recognition of it, and the granting of it expression within all reasonable limits; by the dissemination of a good ideal of friendship and the enlistment of it on the side of manliness and temperance. Is it too much to hope that schools will in time recognise comradeship as a regular institution—considerably more important, say, than “fagging”—an institution having its definite place in the school life, in the games and in the studies, with its own duties, responsibilities, privileges, etc., and serving to ramify through the little community, hold it together, and inspire its members with the two qualities of heroism and tenderness, which together form the basis of all great character?
So, we believe that the need for attachment should be met by fully recognizing it and allowing it to be expressed within reasonable limits. We should promote a strong ideal of friendship and encourage it alongside qualities like strength and self-control. Is it too much to hope that schools will eventually see camaraderie as an established part of their culture—much more significant than things like “fagging”? This would be an institution with a clear role in school life, influencing activities and studies, with its own duties, responsibilities, and privileges, helping to connect the community and inspire its members with both bravery and compassion, which together form the foundation of great character.
But here it must be said that if we are hoping for any great change in the conduct of our large boys’ schools, the so-called public schools are not the places in which to look for it—or at any rate for its inception. In the first place these institutions are hampered by powerful traditions which naturally make them conservative; and in the102 second place their mere size and the number of boys make them difficult to deal with or to modify. The masters are overwhelmed with work; and the (necessary) division of so many boys into separate ‘houses’ has this effect that a master who introduces a better tradition into his own house has always the prospect before him that his work will be effaced by the continual and perhaps contaminating contact with the boys from the other houses. No, it will be in smaller schools, say of from 50 to 100 boys, where the personal influence of the headmaster will be a real force reaching each boy, and where he will be really able to mould the tradition of the school, that we shall alone be able to look for an improved state of affairs.57
But we should note that if we’re expecting any significant change in how our large boys’ schools operate, the so-called public schools aren't the place to find it—or at least not the starting point. First of all, these institutions are held back by strong traditions that naturally make them conservative; and second, their sheer size and the number of boys involved make them challenging to manage or change. The teachers are swamped with work, and the (necessary) division of so many boys into separate ‘houses’ means that if a teacher introduces a better tradition in his own house, he faces the constant risk that his efforts will be undone by the ongoing, and possibly negative, interactions with boys from other houses. No, we will find the potential for improvement in smaller schools, with around 50 to 100 boys, where the personal influence of the headmaster can truly impact each boy and where he can genuinely shape the school's traditions; that is where we can expect to see a better situation.
No doubt the first steps in any reform of this kind are difficult; but masters are greatly hampered by the confusion in the public mind, to which we have already alluded—which so often persists in setting down any attachment between two boys, or between a boy and his teacher, to nothing but sensuality. Many masters quite understand the situation, but feel themselves helpless in the face of public opinion. Who so fit (they sometimes feel) to enlighten a young boy and guide his growing mind as one of themselves, when the bond of attachment exists between the two? Like the writer of a letter quoted in the early part of this paper they believe that “a personal affection, almost indescribable, grows up between pupil and teacher, through which thoughts are shared and an influence created that could exist in no other way.” Yet when the pupil comes along of whom all this might be true, who shows by his pleading looks the sentiment which animates him, and the profound impression which he is longing, as it were, to receive from his teacher, the latter belies himself, denies his own104 instinct and the boy’s great need, and treats him distantly and with coldness. And why? Simply because he dreads, even while he desires it, the boy’s confidence. He fears the ingenuous and perfectly natural expression of the boy’s affection in caress or embrace, because he knows how a bastard public opinion will interpret, or misinterpret it; and rather than run such a risk as this he seals the fountains of the heart, withholds the help which love alone can give, and deliberately nips the tender bud which is turning to him for light and warmth.58
No doubt, the initial steps in any reform like this are tough, but teachers are severely hindered by the confusion in the public's mindset, which we've already mentioned—this often leads people to view any bond between two boys, or between a boy and his teacher, as nothing more than lust. Many teachers fully grasp the situation but feel powerless in the face of public opinion. Who better (they sometimes wonder) to guide a young boy and support his developing thoughts than one of their own kind, especially when there's a bond between them? Like the author of a letter referenced earlier in this paper, they believe that “a personal affection, almost indescribable, forms between pupil and teacher, creating a shared understanding and influence that couldn't happen in any other way.” Yet, when the student arrives, embodying all of this, and showing through his eager looks the feelings he has and the deep impression he seeks from his teacher, the teacher contradicts himself, denies his own instincts and the boy’s genuine needs, and acts coldly and distantly. And why? Simply because he fears, even as he longs for it, the boy’s trust. He worries about the honest and completely natural expression of the boy’s affection through touch or embrace because he knows how misguided public opinion will interpret or misinterpret it; and rather than risk that, he shuts down his heart, withholds the support that only love can provide, and intentionally stunts the growth of the tender bud that is reaching out to him for light and warmth.58
The panic terror which prevails in England with regard to the expression of affection of this kind has its comic aspect. The affection exists, and is known to exist, on all sides; but we must bury our heads in the sand and pretend not to see it. And if by any chance we are compelled to recognize it, we must show our vast discernment by suspecting it. And thus we fling on the dust-heap one of the noblest and most precious elements in human nature. Certainly, if the denial and suspicion of all natural affection were beneficial, we105 should find this out in our schools; but seeing how complete is its failure there to clarify their tone it is sufficiently evident that the method itself is wrong.
The fear that grips England about showing this kind of affection has a humorous side. The love is real and everyone knows it exists, yet we bury our heads in the sand and pretend not to notice. And if we have to acknowledge it, we demonstrate our great awareness by suspecting it. This way, we toss aside one of the most noble and valuable parts of human nature. Surely, if denying and being suspicious of all natural affection was helpful, we would see the benefits in our schools; however, since it clearly doesn't improve their atmosphere, it's obvious that the approach itself is flawed.
The remarks in this paper have chiefly had reference to boys’ schools; but they apply in the main to girls’ schools, where much the same troubles prevail—with this difference, that in girls’ schools friendships instead of being repressed are rather encouraged by public opinion; only unfortunately they are for the most part friendships of a weak and sentimental turn, and not very healthy either in themselves or in the habits they lead to. Here too, in girls’ schools, the whole subject wants facing out; friendship wants setting on a more solid and less sentimental basis; and on the subject of sex, so infinitely important to women, there needs to be sensible and consistent teaching, both public and private. Possibly the co-education of boys and girls may be of use in making boys less ashamed of their feelings, and girls more healthy in the expression of them.
The comments in this paper mainly focus on boys' schools, but they mostly apply to girls' schools as well, where similar issues exist—except that in girls' schools, friendships are often encouraged by societal expectations rather than suppressed. Unfortunately, these friendships tend to be somewhat weak and sentimental, which isn't very healthy for either the friendships themselves or the behaviors they promote. In girls' schools, this topic also needs to be addressed; friendships should be established on a stronger and less sentimental foundation. Furthermore, regarding the topic of sex, which is extremely important for women, there needs to be sensible and consistent education, both publicly and privately. Co-education of boys and girls might help make boys less embarrassed about their feelings and help girls express theirs in a healthier way.
At any rate the more the matter is thought of, the clearer I believe will it appear that a healthy affection must in the end be the basis of education,106 and that the recognition of this will form the only way out of the modern school-difficulty. It is true that such a change would revolutionise our school-life; but it will have to come, all the same, and no doubt will come pari passu with other changes that are taking place in society at large.
Anyway, the more we think about it, the clearer it will be that a healthy relationship needs to be the foundation of education,106 and recognizing this is the only way to overcome the current challenges in schools. It's true that this change would completely transform our school life; however, it has to happen, and it will likely happen alongside other changes happening in society as a whole.
V
The Place of the Uranian
in Society
Whatever differing views there may be on the many problems which the Intermediate sexes present—and however difficult of solution some of the questions involved—there is one thing which appears to me incontestable: namely that a vast number of intermediates do actually perform most valuable social work, and that they do so partly on account and by reason of their special temperament.
Whatever different opinions there are on the various issues that the Intermediate sexes present—and however hard it is to solve some of the related questions—there's one thing that seems undeniable to me: a significant number of intermediates genuinely contribute valuable work to society, and they do this partly because of their unique temperament.
This fact is not generally recognised as it ought to be, for the simple reason that the Uranian himself is not recognised, and indeed (as we have already said) tends to conceal his temperament from the public. There is no doubt that if it became widely known who are the Uranians, the world would be astonished to find so many of its great or leading men among them.
This fact isn't recognized as much as it should be because the Uranian themselves aren't acknowledged, and as we've already mentioned, they often hide their true nature from the public. There's no doubt that if it became well-known who the Uranians are, the world would be surprised to find so many of its prominent figures among them.
I have thought it might be useful to indicate some of the lines along which valuable work is being performed, or has been performed, by people of this disposition; and in doing this I do not of course mean to disguise or conceal the fact that there are numbers of merely frivolous, or feeble or even vicious homosexuals, who practically do no useful work for society at all—just as there are of normal people. The existence of those who do no valuable work does not alter the fact of the existence of others whose work is of great importance. And I wish also to make it clearly understood that I use the word Uranians to indicate simply those whose lives and activities are inspired by a genuine friendship or love for their own sex, without venturing to specify their individual and particular habits or relations towards those whom they love (which relations in most cases we have no means of knowing). Some Intermediates of light and leading—doubtless not a few—are physically very reserved and continent; others are sensual in some degree or other. The point is that they are all men, or women, whose most powerful motive comes from the dedication to their own kind, and is bound up with it in some way. And if it seems strange and anomalous that109 in such cases work of considerable importance to society is being done by people whose affections and dispositions society itself would blame, this is after all no more than has happened a thousand times before in the history of the world.
I thought it might be helpful to highlight some of the ways valuable work is being done, or has been done, by people with this mindset; and I want to be clear that this doesn’t mean I’m hiding the fact that there are many frivolous, weak, or even harmful homosexuals who contribute very little to society—just like there are among straight people. The existence of those who don’t contribute valuable work doesn’t change the fact that there are others whose contributions matter a lot. I also want to clarify that I use the term Uranians to refer only to those whose lives and activities are driven by genuine friendship or love for their own sex, without trying to categorize their specific habits or relationships with those they love (which we usually have no way of knowing). Some Intermediates of light and guidance—probably quite a few—are very reserved and self-controlled; others are somewhat sensual. The crucial point is that they are all individuals whose strongest motivation comes from their commitment to their own kind and is somehow tied to that. And if it seems odd or out of place that significant work for society is being done by people whose affections and orientations society tends to criticize, this is really no different from what has happened countless times throughout history.
As I have already hinted, the Uranian temperament (probably from the very fact of its dual nature and the swift and constant interaction between its masculine and feminine elements) is exceedingly sensitive and emotional; and there is no doubt that, going with this, a large number of the artist class, musical, literary or pictorial, belong to this description. That delicate and subtle sympathy with every wave and phase of feeling which makes the artist possible is also very characteristic of the Uranian (the male type), and makes it easy or natural for the Uranian man to become an artist. In the ‘confessions’ and ‘cases’ collected by Krafft-Ebing, Havelock Ellis and others, it is remarkable what a large percentage of men of this temperament belong to the artist class. In his volume on “Sexual Inversion,”59 speaking of the cases collected by himself, Ellis says:—“An examination of my cases reveals the interesting fact that thirty-two of them, or sixty-eight per110 cent., possess artistic aptitude in varying degree. Galton found, from the investigation of nearly one thousand persons, that the general average showing artistic taste in England is only about thirty per cent. It must also be said that my figures are probably below the truth, as no special point was made of investigating the matter, and also that in many of my cases the artistic aptitudes are of high order. With regard to the special avocations of my cases, it must of course be said that no occupation furnishes a safeguard against inversion. There are, however, certain occupations to which inverts are specially attracted. Acting is certainly one of the chief of these. Three of my cases belong to the dramatic profession, and others have marked dramatic ability. Art, again, in its various forms, and music, exercise much attraction. In my experience, however, literature is the avocation to which inverts seem to feel chiefly called, and that moreover in which they may find the highest degree of success and reputation. At least half-a-dozen of my cases are successful men of letters.”
As I’ve already suggested, the Uranian temperament (likely due to its dual nature and the quick, ongoing interaction between its masculine and feminine sides) is extremely sensitive and emotional. There’s no doubt that many artists—whether in music, literature, or visual arts—fit this description. That delicate and subtle empathy with every emotion and mood, which makes someone an artist, is also a strong trait of the Uranian (the male type), making it easy or natural for him to become an artist. In the “confessions” and “cases” collected by Krafft-Ebing, Havelock Ellis, and others, it’s striking how many men with this temperament are artists. In his book on “Sexual Inversion,”59 discussing the cases he collected, Ellis states: “An examination of my cases reveals the interesting fact that thirty-two of them, or sixty-eight percent, have artistic talent to varying degrees. Galton discovered, from investigating nearly a thousand people, that the general average showing artistic taste in England is only about thirty percent. It should also be noted that my numbers are probably lower than the actual truth, as no specific effort was made to investigate this, and in many cases, the artistic talents are quite significant. Regarding my cases’ specific occupations, it must be said that no job protects against inversion. However, there are certain professions that attract inverts more strongly. Acting is definitely one of the top ones. Three of my cases are in the acting profession, and others have strong dramatic skills. Art, in its various forms, and music are also very appealing. In my experience, though, literature seems to be the field that inverts are most drawn to and where they can achieve the highest level of success and recognition. At least half a dozen of my cases are successful writers.”
Of Literature in this connection, and of the great writers of the world whose work has been partly inspired by the Uranian love, I have myself111 already spoken.60 It may further be said that those of the modern artist-writers and poets who have done the greatest service in the way of interpreting and reconstructing Greek life and ideals—men like Winckelmann, Goethe, Addington Symonds, Walter Pater—have had a marked strain of this temperament in them. And this has been a service of great value, and one which the world could ill have afforded to lose.
Of literature in this context, and of the great writers of the world whose work has been partly inspired by Uranian love, I have personally111 already mentioned.60 It can also be said that many modern artist-writers and poets who have made significant contributions to interpreting and reconstructing Greek life and ideals—such as Winckelmann, Goethe, Addington Symonds, and Walter Pater—have had a strong influence of this temperament in them. This has been an invaluable service, and one that the world would have struggled to lose.
The painters and sculptors, especially of the renaissance period in Italy, yield not a few examples of men whose work has been similarly inspired—as in the cases of Michel Angelo, Lionardo, Bazzi, Cellini, and others. As to music, this is certainly the art which in its subtlety and tenderness—and perhaps in a certain inclination to indulge in emotion—lies nearest to the Urning nature. There are few in fact of this nature who have not some gift in the direction of music—though, unless we cite Tschaikowsky, it does not appear that any thorough-going Uranian has attained to the highest eminence in this art.
The painters and sculptors, particularly from the Renaissance period in Italy, provide several examples of individuals whose work has been inspired in a similar way—as seen in the cases of Michelangelo, Leonardo, Bazzi, Cellini, and others. When it comes to music, this is definitely the art that, with its subtlety and tenderness—and perhaps a tendency to indulge in emotion—relates most closely to the Urning nature. In fact, there are very few people of this nature who don't have some talent in music—though, unless we mention Tchaikovsky, it seems that no comprehensive Uranian has reached the highest levels of achievement in this art.
Another direction along which the temperament very naturally finds an outlet is the important112 social work of Education. The capacity that a man has, in cases, of devoting himself to the welfare of boys or youths, is clearly a thing which ought not to go wasted—and which may be most precious and valuable. It is incontestable that a great number of men (and women) are drawn into the teaching profession by this sentiment—and the work they do is, in many cases, beyond estimation. Fortunate the boy who meets with such a helper in early life! I know a man—a rising and vigorous thinker and writer—who tells me that he owes almost everything mentally to such a friend of his boyhood, who took the greatest interest in him, saw him almost every day for many years, and indeed cleared up for him not only things mental but things moral, giving him the affection and guidance his young heart needed. And I have myself known and watched not a few such teachers, in public schools and in private schools, and seen something of the work and of the real inspiration they have been to boys under them. Hampered as they have been by the readiness of the world to misinterpret, they still have been able to do most precious service. Of course here and there a case occurs in which privilege is abused; but113 even then the judgment of the world is often unreasonably severe. A poor boy once told me with tears in his eyes of the work a man had done for him. This man had saved the boy from drunken parents, taken him from the slums, and by means of a club helped him out into the world. Many other boys he had rescued, it appeared, in the same way—scores and scores of them. But on some occasion or other he got into trouble, and was accused of improper familiarities. No excuse, or record of a useful life, was of the least avail. Every trumpery slander was believed, every mean motive imputed, and he had to throw up his position and settle elsewhere, his life-work shattered, never to be resumed.
Another direction where temperament naturally expresses itself is through the essential social work of education. The ability of a person to dedicate themselves to the welfare of boys or young people is something that shouldn't be wasted—and it can be incredibly valuable. It's clear that many men (and women) are drawn to teaching by this passion—and the work they do is often invaluable. A lucky boy is the one who finds such a mentor in his early life! I know a man—a rising and dynamic thinker and writer—who tells me that he owes almost everything intellectually to a childhood friend who took a genuine interest in him, saw him nearly every day for many years, and helped him not only with intellectual matters but also moral guidance, providing the love and direction his young heart required. I have also known and observed several such teachers, in both public and private schools, and witnessed the significant impact they have on their students. Despite facing challenges from a world that is quick to misinterpret their intentions, they have still managed to provide invaluable service. Sure, there are occasional cases of abuse of privilege; however, even then, the judgment from society can be extremely harsh. A boy once told me, with tears in his eyes, about the help a man provided for him. This man saved the boy from his alcoholic parents, took him out of the slums, and helped him find his way into the world through a club. It turned out he had rescued many other boys in the same manner—dozens of them. But at some point, he faced trouble and was accused of inappropriate behavior. No justification or record of his good work mattered at all. Every ridiculous rumor was believed, and every negative motive was assumed. He had to resign from his position and move elsewhere, leaving behind his life's work, never to be continued.
The capacity for sincere affection which causes an elder man to care so deeply for the welfare of a youth or boy, is met and responded to by a similar capacity in the young thing of devotion to an elder man. This fact is not always recognised; but I have known cases of boys and even young men who would feel the most romantic attachments to quite mature men, sometimes as much as forty or fifty years of age, and only for them—passing by their own contemporaries of either sex, and caring only to win a return affection114 from these others. This may seem strange, but it is true. And the fact not only makes one understand what riddles there are slumbering in the breasts of our children, but how greatly important it is that we should try to read them—since here, in such cases as these, the finding of an answering heart in an elder man would probably be the younger one’s salvation.
The ability to genuinely care, which leads an older man to deeply invest in the well-being of a young person, is matched by a similar ability in the youth to be devoted to an older man. This isn't always recognized; however, I’ve seen instances where boys and even young men develop romantic feelings for much older men, sometimes as much as forty or fifty years older, and only for them—overlooking their peers of any gender and solely wanting to gain affection in return from these older figures. This might seem odd, but it’s true. This reality not only reveals the complex emotions that our children carry but also emphasizes how crucial it is for us to understand them—because in such situations, finding a responsive heart in an older man could likely be the younger person's salvation.114
How much of the enormous amount of philanthropic work done in the present day—by women among needy or destitute girls of all sorts, or by men among like classes of boys—is inspired by the same feeling, it would be hard to say; but it must be a very considerable proportion. I think myself that the best philanthropic work—just because it is the most personal, the most loving, and the least merely formal and self-righteous—has a strong fibre of the Uranian heart running through it; and if it should be said that work of this very personal kind is more liable to dangers and difficulties on that account, it is only what is true of the best in almost all departments.
How much of the huge amount of philanthropic work being done today—by women helping underprivileged or struggling girls of all kinds, or by men assisting similar groups of boys—is driven by the same motivation is hard to determine; but it certainly has to be a substantial percentage. Personally, I believe that the most impactful philanthropic work—because it is the most personal, the most caring, and the least just formal or self-righteous—has a strong thread of the Uranian spirit woven through it; and if it’s argued that this very personal type of work is more prone to risks and challenges because of that, it’s just as true for the best efforts in nearly every field.
Eros is a great leveler. Perhaps the true Democracy rests, more firmly than anywhere else, on a sentiment which easily passes the bounds115 of class and caste, and unites in the closest affection the most estranged ranks of society. It is noticeable how often Uranians of good position and breeding are drawn to rougher types, as of manual workers, and frequently very permanent alliances grow up in this way, which although not publicly acknowledged have a decided influence on social institutions, customs and political tendencies—and which would have a good deal more influence could they be given a little more scope and recognition. There are cases that I have known (although the ordinary commercial world might hardly believe it) of employers who have managed to attach their workmen, or many of them, very personally to themselves, and whose object in running their businesses was at least as much to provide their employees with a living as themselves; while the latter, feeling this, have responded with their best output. It is possible that something like the guilds and fraternities of the middle ages might thus be reconstructed, but on a more intimate and personal basis than in those days; and indeed there are not wanting signs that such a reconstruction is actually taking place.
Eros is a great equalizer. Maybe true democracy lies, more firmly than anywhere else, in a feeling that easily crosses the boundaries of class and caste and brings together the most disconnected parts of society in deep affection. It’s interesting how often people of good status and upbringing are attracted to rougher types, like manual workers, and often lasting partnerships form this way, which, though not publicly acknowledged, significantly impact social institutions, customs, and political trends—and they would have even more influence if they were given a little more room and recognition. There are situations I’ve seen (even if the typical business world might find it hard to believe) of employers who have managed to create a personal bond with their employees, many of whom, and whose goal in running their businesses was just as much to provide their workers with a livelihood as for themselves; while the workers, appreciating this, have responded with their best effort. It’s possible that something like the guilds and brotherhoods of the Middle Ages could be reimagined this way, but on a more personal and intimate level than back then; and indeed, there are signs that such a reimagining is already happening.
The “Letters of Love and Labour” written by116 Samuel M. Jones of Toledo, Ohio, to his workmen in the engineering firm of which he was master, are very interesting in this connection. They breathe a spirit of extraordinary personal affection towards, and confidence in, the employees, which was heartily responded to by the latter; and the whole business was carried on, with considerable success, on the principle of a close and friendly co-operation all round.61
The “Letters of Love and Labour” written by116 Samuel M. Jones from Toledo, Ohio, to his employees at the engineering firm where he was the owner, are quite fascinating in this context. They reflect an exceptional level of personal affection and trust towards the workers, which was warmly reciprocated by them; and the entire operation was conducted, with significant success, based on the principle of close and friendly cooperation all around.61
These things indeed suggest to one that it is possible that the Uranian spirit may lead to something like a general enthusiasm of Humanity, and that the Uranian people may be destined to form the advance guard of that great movement which will one day transform the common life by substituting the bond of personal affection and compassion for the monetary, legal and other external ties which now control and confine society. Such a part of course we cannot expect the Uranians to play unless the capacity for their kind of attachment also exists—though in a germinal and undeveloped state—in the breast of mankind at large. And modern thought and investigation117 are clearly tending that way—to confirm that it does so exist.
These ideas certainly suggest that the Uranian spirit could lead to a kind of widespread enthusiasm for Humanity, and that Uranian individuals may be meant to be at the forefront of a significant movement that will eventually change everyday life by replacing monetary, legal, and other external connections that currently dominate and restrict society with personal affection and compassion. However, we can't expect the Uranians to take on this role unless the ability for their type of attachment also exists—albeit in a nascent and underdeveloped form—in the hearts of people in general. Modern thought and research117 are clearly moving in that direction—to affirm that this capacity does exist.
Dr. E. Bertz in his late study of Whitman as a person of strongly homogenic temperament62 brings forward the objection that Whitman’s gospel of Comradeship as a means of social regeneration is founded on a false basis—because (so Dr. Bertz says) the gospel derives from an abnormality in himself, and therefore cannot possibly have a universal application or create a general enthusiasm. But this is rather a case of assuming the point which has to be proved. Whitman constantly maintains that his own disposition at any rate is normal, and that he represents the average man. And it may be true, even as far as his Uranian temperament is concerned, that while this was specially developed in him the germs of it are almost, if not quite, universal. If so, then the Comradeship on which Whitman founds a large portion of his message may in course of time become a general enthusiasm, and the nobler Uranians of to-day may be destined, as suggested, to be its pioneers and advance guard. As one of them himself has sung:—
Dr. E. Bertz, in his recent study of Whitman as a person with a strongly homogenous temperament62, argues that Whitman's idea of Comradeship as a way to rejuvenate society is based on a flawed premise—because, as Dr. Bertz claims, this idea stems from a personal abnormality and therefore can't be universally applied or inspire widespread enthusiasm. However, this seems like a case of assuming what needs to be proven. Whitman consistently asserts that his own disposition is normal and that he represents the average person. And it might actually be true, even regarding his Uranian temperament, that while it may be particularly developed in him, the seeds of it are nearly, if not entirely, universal. If that's the case, then the Comradeship that Whitman bases a significant part of his message on could potentially evolve into a widespread enthusiasm over time, and the nobler Uranians of today may indeed be destined, as suggested, to be its pioneers and forefront. As one of them has sung:—
To proceed. The Uranian, though generally high-strung and sensitive, is by no means always dreamy. He is sometimes extraordinarily and unexpectedly practical; and such a man may, and often does, command a positive enthusiasm among his subordinates in a business organisation. The same is true of military organisation. As a rule the Uranian temperament (in the male) is not militant. War with its horrors and savagery is somewhat alien to the type. But here again there are exceptions; and in all times there have been great generals (like Alexander, Cæsar, Charles XII. of Sweden, or Frederick II. of Prussia—not to speak of more modern examples) with a powerful strain in them of the homogenic nature, and a wonderful capacity for organisation and command, which combined with their personal interest in, or attachment to, their troops,119 and the answering enthusiasm so elicited, have made their armies well-nigh invincible.
To proceed. The Uranian, while generally high-strung and sensitive, isn't always dreamily lost in thought. Sometimes, he can be surprisingly practical, and such a person can, and often does, inspire genuine enthusiasm among his colleagues in a business setting. The same goes for military settings. Typically, the Uranian temperament (in males) isn't aggressive. War, with all its horrors and brutality, feels somewhat foreign to this personality type. But there are exceptions; throughout history, there have been great generals (like Alexander, Caesar, Charles XII of Sweden, or Frederick II of Prussia—not to mention more modern examples) who possess a strong degree of a homogenic nature, along with a remarkable ability for organization and leadership. When combined with their personal interest in or bond with their troops, the enthusiasm they generate makes their armies nearly unbeatable.119
The existence of this great practical ability in some Uranians cannot be denied; and it points to the important work they may some day have to do in social reconstruction. At the same time I think it is noticeable that politics (at any rate in the modern sense of the word, as concerned mainly with party questions and party government) is not as a rule congenial to them. The personal and affectional element is perhaps too remote or absent. Mere ‘views’ and ‘questions’ and party strife are alien to the Uranian man, as they are on the whole to the ordinary woman.
The presence of this significant practical skill in some Uranians is undeniable; it suggests the crucial role they may someday play in social reconstruction. At the same time, it’s noticeable that politics (at least in the modern sense, focused mostly on party issues and party governance) usually isn’t appealing to them. The personal and emotional aspects may be too distant or missing. Simply having ‘views’ and ‘issues’ and engaging in party conflict feels foreign to the Uranian man, just as it generally is for the typical woman.
If politics, however, are not particularly congenial, it is yet remarkable how many royal personages have been decidedly homogenic in temperament. Taking the Kings of England from the Norman Conquest to the present day, we may count about thirty. And three of these, namely, William Rufus, Edward II., and James I. were homosexual in a marked degree—might fairly be classed as Urnings—while some others, like William III., had a strong admixture of the same temperament. Three out of thirty yields a high ratio—ten per cent—and considering that sovereigns120 do not generally choose themselves, but come into their position by accident of birth, the ratio is certainly remarkable. Does it suggest that the general percentage in the world at large is equally high, but that it remains unnoticed, except in the fierce light that beats upon thrones? or is there some other explanation with regard to the special liability of royalty to inversion? Hereditary degeneracy has sometimes been suggested. But it is difficult to explain the matter even on this theory; for though the epithet ‘degenerate’ might possibly apply to James I., it would certainly not be applicable to William Rufus and William III., who, in their different ways, were both men of great courage and personal force—while Edward II. was by no means wanting in ability.
If politics aren’t particularly welcoming, it’s still remarkable how many royal figures have had similar temperaments. If we look at the Kings of England from the Norman Conquest to today, we can count about thirty. Out of these, three—William Rufus, Edward II, and James I—were notably homosexual and could be considered Urnings, while some others, like William III, had a significant degree of the same temperament. Three out of thirty is a high ratio—ten percent—and considering that monarchs don’t generally choose their roles but inherit them by birth, this ratio is certainly striking. Does it suggest that the overall percentage in the world is similarly high, but it goes unnoticed except under the intense scrutiny of the throne? Or is there another reason for the particular tendency of royalty towards inversion? Some have proposed hereditary degeneracy. However, it’s challenging to explain the issue even with this theory; while the term "degenerate" might somewhat apply to James I, it definitely wouldn’t fit William Rufus and William III, who were both, in their own ways, men of great courage and strength—while Edward II was far from lacking in ability.
But while the Uranian temperament has, in cases, specially fitted its possessors to become distinguished in art or education or war or administration, and enabled them to do valuable work in these fields; it remains perhaps true that above all it has fitted them, and fits them, for distinction and service in affairs of the heart.
But while the Uranian temperament has, in some cases, specifically prepared its holders to excel in art, education, war, or administration, allowing them to make meaningful contributions in these areas; it may still be true that, above all, it has equipped them, and continues to equip them, for distinction and service in matters of the heart.
It is hard to imagine human beings more skilled in these matters than are the Intermediates. For121 indeed no one else can possibly respond to and understand, as they do, all the fluctuations and interactions of the masculine and feminine in human life. The pretensive coyness and passivity of women, the rude invasiveness of men; lust, brutality, secret tears, the bleeding heart; renunciation, motherhood, finesse, romance, angelic devotion—all these things lie slumbering in the Uranian soul, ready on occasion for expression; and if they are not always expressed are always there for purposes of divination or interpretation. There are few situations, in fact, in courtship or marriage which the Uranian does not instinctively understand; and it is strange to see how even an unlettered person of this type will often read Love’s manuscript easily in cases where the normal man or woman is groping over it like a child in the dark. [Not of course that this means to imply any superiority of character in the former; but merely that with his double outlook he necessarily discerns things which the other misses.]
It's hard to imagine anyone more skilled in these matters than the Intermediates. For121 no one else can respond to and understand all the shifts and interactions of masculinity and femininity in human life like they do. The feigned coyness and passivity of women, the intrusive nature of men; desire, brutality, hidden tears, a bleeding heart; sacrifice, motherhood, subtlety, romance, angelic devotion—all these elements lie dormant in the Uranian soul, ready to be expressed when the time is right; and even if they aren't always expressed, they're always there for divination or interpretation. In fact, there are very few situations in courtship or marriage that the Uranian doesn't instinctively grasp; and it's interesting to see how even an uneducated person of this type can often read Love's script easily when a typical man or woman is struggling with it like a child in the dark. [This doesn't imply any superiority of character in the former; it simply means that with their dual perspective, they can discern things that others overlook.]
That the Uranians do stand out as helpers and guides, not only in matters of Education, but in affairs of love and marriage, is tolerably patent to all who know them. It is a common experience122 for them to be consulted now by the man, now by the woman, whose matrimonial conditions are uncongenial or disastrous—not generally because the consultants in the least perceive the Uranian nature, but because they instinctively feel that here is a strong sympathy with and understanding of their side of the question. In this way it is often the fate of the Uranian, himself unrecognised, to bring about happier times and a better comprehension of each other among those with whom he may have to deal. Also he often becomes the confidant of young things of either sex, who are caught in the tangles of love or passion, and know not where to turn for assistance.
It's clear that Uranians stand out as helpers and guides, not just in education but also in love and marriage matters, to anyone who knows them. It's common for both men and women with difficult or disastrous marital situations to consult them—not usually because the consultants recognize the Uranian nature, but because they instinctively sense a strong empathy and understanding for their perspective. As a result, the Uranian, often unrecognized, frequently plays a role in creating happier times and better understanding between those they interact with. They also often become the confidant for young people of any gender who find themselves caught up in the complexities of love or passion and don't know where to seek help.
I say that I think perhaps of all the services the Uranian may render to society it will be found some day that in this direction of solving the problems of affection and of the heart he will do the greatest service. If the day is coming as we have suggested—when Love is at last to take its rightful place as the binding and directing force of society (instead of the Cash-nexus), and society is to be transmuted in consequence to a higher form, then undoubtedly the superior types of Uranians—prepared for this service by long experience and devotion, as well as by much123 suffering—will have an important part to play in the transformation. For that the Urnings in their own lives put Love before everything else—postponing to it the other motives like money-making, business success, fame, which occupy so much space in most people’s careers—is a fact which is patent to everyone who knows them. This may be saying little or nothing in favor of those of this class whose conception of love is only of a poor and frivolous sort; but in the case of those others who see the god in his true light, the fact that they serve him in singleness of heart and so unremittingly raises them at once into the position of the natural leaders of mankind.
I believe that out of all the contributions the Uranian can make to society, it will eventually be recognized that their greatest impact lies in addressing the challenges of love and relationships. If the time is coming—as we've proposed—when love finally assumes its rightful role as the unifying and guiding force of society (instead of the financial connections), and consequently society evolves into a higher form, then undoubtedly the elite types of Uranians—prepared for this role through extensive experience, dedication, and significant suffering—will have a vital role in this transformation. It is clear to anyone familiar with them that the Urnings prioritize love above all else, setting aside other motivations like making money, achieving business success, or gaining fame, which occupy so much of the lives of most people. This may not offer much in support of those in this group whose understanding of love is shallow and trivial; however, for those who recognize the true essence of love, their unwavering and sincere service elevates them to the status of natural leaders of humanity.
From this fact—i.e., that these folk think so much of affairs of the heart—and from the fact that their alliances and friendships are formed and carried on beneath the surface of society, as it were, and therefore to some extent beyond the inquisitions and supervisions of Mrs. Grundy, some interesting conclusions flow.
From this fact—i.e., that these people care so much about matters of the heart—and from the fact that their relationships and friendships are formed and maintained beneath the surface of society, so to speak, and therefore somewhat beyond the scrutiny and oversight of Mrs. Grundy, some interesting conclusions can be drawn.
For one thing, the question is constantly arising as to how Society would shape itself if free: what form, in matters of Love and Marriage, it would take, if the present restrictions and sanctions were removed or greatly altered. At present in124 these matters, the Law, the Church, and a strong pressure of public opinion interfere, compelling the observance of certain forms; and it becomes difficult to say how much of the existing order is due to the spontaneous instinct and common sense of human nature, and how much to mere outside compulsion and interference: how far, for instance, Monogamy is natural or artificial; to what degree marriages would be permanent if the Law did not make them so; what is the rational view of Divorce; whether jealousy is a necessary accompaniment of Love; and so forth. These are questions which are being constantly discussed, without finality; or not infrequently with quite pessimistic conclusions.
For one thing, there's an ongoing question about how Society would shape itself if it were free: what form it would take regarding Love and Marriage if the current restrictions and rules were lifted or significantly changed. Right now in 124, the Law, the Church, and strong public opinion interfere, forcing the adherence to specific forms; and it becomes hard to determine how much of the existing order comes from the natural instincts and common sense of human nature, and how much is due to mere external pressure and interference: how natural or artificial Monogamy really is; how lasting marriages would be if the Law didn't enforce them; what the logical perspective on Divorce is; whether jealousy is an essential part of Love; and so on. These questions are constantly debated, often without any clear answers, and sometimes with rather pessimistic conclusions.
Now in the Urning societies a certain freedom (though not complete, of course) exists. Underneath the surface of general Society, and consequently unaffected to any great degree by its laws and customs, alliances are formed and maintained, or modified or broken, more in accord with inner need than with outer pressure. Thus it happens that in these societies there are such opportunities to note and observe human grouping under conditions of freedom, as do not occur in the ordinary world. And the results are both interesting and125 encouraging. As a rule I think it may be said that the alliances are remarkably permanent. Instead of the wild “general post” which so many good people seem to expect in the event of law being relaxed, one finds (except of course in a few individual cases) that common sense and fidelity and a strong tendency to permanence prevail. In the ordinary world so far has doubt gone that many to-day disbelieve in a life-long free marriage. Yet among the Uranians such a thing is, one may almost say, common and well known; and there are certainly few among them who do not believe in its possibility.
Now in Urning societies, a certain freedom (though not complete, of course) exists. Beneath the surface of general society, and not greatly influenced by its laws and customs, connections are formed, maintained, modified, or broken more in line with inner needs than with outside pressures. This is why these societies provide unique opportunities to observe human relationships under conditions of freedom that don’t happen in the everyday world. The results are both interesting and encouraging. Generally speaking, it can be said that these relationships tend to be remarkably stable. Instead of the chaotic "general post" that many well-meaning people expect if laws are relaxed, one usually finds (except in a few individual cases, of course) that common sense, loyalty, and a strong inclination toward permanence prevail. In the everyday world, doubt has grown to the point that many people today disbelieve in lifelong free marriage. Yet among the Uranians, such relationships are, one might say, common and well-known; and there are certainly few among them who doubt its possibility.
Great have been the debates, in all times and places, concerning Jealousy; and as to how far jealousy is natural and instinctive and universal, and how far it is the product of social opinion and the property sense, and so on. In ordinary marriage what may be called social and proprietary jealousy is undoubtedly a very great factor. But this kind of jealousy hardly appears or operates in the Urning societies. Thus we have an opportunity in these latter of observing conditions where only the natural and instinctive jealousy exists. This of course is present among the Urnings—sometimes rampant and violent,126 sometimes quiescent and vanishing almost to nil. It seems to depend almost entirely upon the individual; and we certainly learn that jealousy though frequent and widespread, is not an absolutely necessary accompaniment of love. There are cases of Uranians (whether men or women) who, though permanently allied, do not object to lesser friendships on either side—and there are cases of very decided objection. And we may conclude that something the same would be true (is true) of the ordinary Marriage, the property considerations and the property jealousy being once removed. The tendency anyhow to establish a dual relation more or less fixed, is seen to be very strong among the Intermediates, and may be concluded to be equally strong among the more normal folk.
There have been many debates throughout history about jealousy and how much of it is natural, instinctive, and universal versus how much is influenced by social opinions and a sense of ownership. In typical marriages, what we call social and possessive jealousy is definitely a significant factor. However, this type of jealousy rarely appears or has an effect in Urning societies. This gives us a chance to observe situations where only natural and instinctive jealousy exists. Of course, this does exist among the Urnings—sometimes it can be intense and aggressive, other times it fades to almost nothing. It seems to depend mostly on the individual; and we certainly see that, although jealousy is common and widespread, it’s not an essential part of love. There are Uranians (either men or women) who, even when in a permanent partnership, don’t mind having other friendships on either side—and there are others who strongly object. We can conclude that a similar situation would apply to typical marriages if we set aside property concerns and jealousy. The tendency to establish a somewhat fixed dual relationship is clearly very strong among Intermediates and is likely just as strong among more conventional people.
Again with regard to Prostitution. That there are a few natural-born prostitutes is seen in the Urning-societies; but prostitution in that world does not take the important place which it does in the normal world, partly because the law-bound compulsory marriage does not exist there, and partly because prostitution naturally has little chance and cannot compete in a world where alliances are free and there is an open field for127 friendship. Hence we may see that freedom of alliance and of marriage in the ordinary world will probably lead to the great diminution or even disappearance of Prostitution.
Again regarding prostitution. It's clear that there are a few naturally inclined prostitutes in Urning societies, but prostitution doesn't hold the same significance there as it does in the mainstream world. This is partly because compulsory marriage governed by the law doesn't exist in those societies, and partly because prostitution struggles to thrive where people can form alliances freely and friendships openly. Therefore, we can deduce that the freedom of alliances and marriage in the typical world is likely to lead to a significant decrease or even complete disappearance of prostitution.127
In these and other ways the experience of the Uranian world forming itself freely and not subject to outside laws and institutions comes as a guide—and really a hopeful guide—towards the future. I would say however that in making these remarks about certain conclusions which we are able to gather from some spontaneous and comparatively unrestricted associations, I do not at all mean to argue against institutions and forms. I think that the Uranian love undoubtedly suffers from want of a recognition and a standard. And though it may at present be better off than if subject to a foolish and meddlesome regulation; yet in the future it will have its more or less fixed standards and ideals, like the normal love. If one considers for a moment how the ordinary relations of the sexes would suffer were there no generally acknowledged codes of honor and conduct with regard to them, one then indeed sees that reasonable forms and institutions are a help, and one may almost wonder that the Urning128 circles are so well-conducted on the whole as they are.
In these and other ways, the experience of the Uranian world shaping itself freely and not bound by external laws and institutions serves as a guide—and truly a hopeful guide—for the future. However, I want to clarify that when I make these comments about the conclusions we can draw from some spontaneous and relatively unrestricted associations, I don't mean to argue against institutions and forms. I believe that Uranian love certainly suffers from a lack of recognition and standards. While it may currently be better off than if it were subjected to silly and intrusive regulations, in the future it will have more or less established standards and ideals, similar to normal love. If you think for a moment about how ordinary relationships between the sexes would suffer without widely accepted codes of honor and conduct, it becomes clear that reasonable forms and institutions are beneficial. One might even marvel at how well the Urning128 circles are generally managed.
I have said that the Urning men in their own lives put love before money-making, business success, fame, and other motives which rule the normal man. I am sure that it is also true of them as a whole that they put love before lust. I do not feel sure that this can be said of the normal man, at any rate in the present stage of evolution. It is doubtful whether on the whole the merely physical attraction is not the stronger motive with the latter type. Unwilling as the world at large is to credit what I am about to say, and great as are the current misunderstandings on the subject, I believe it is true that the Uranian men are superior to the normal men in this respect—in respect of their love-feeling—which is gentler, more sympathetic, more considerate, more a matter of the heart and less one of mere physical satisfaction than that of ordinary men.64 All this flows naturally from the presence of the feminine element in them, and its blending with the rest of their nature. It should be expected a priori, and it can be noticed at once by those who have any acquaintance with the Urning129 world. Much of the current misunderstanding with regard to the character and habits of the Urning arises from his confusion with the ordinary roué who, though of normal temperament, contracts homosexual habits out of curiosity and so forth—but this is a point which I have touched on before, and which ought now to be sufficiently clear. If it be once allowed that the love-nature of the Uranian is of a sincere and essentially humane and kindly type then the importance of the Uranian’s place in Society, and of the social work he may be able to do, must certainly also be acknowledged.
I’ve mentioned that Urning men prioritize love over money, career success, fame, and other motivations that drive the average person. I’m also confident that, as a group, they value love more than lust. I don’t think we can say the same about the average man, at least in today's world. It’s questionable whether physical attraction isn’t the stronger motivator for the latter. Despite the widespread reluctance to acknowledge this, and the many misunderstandings surrounding it, I believe that Uranian men are superior to normal men in this regard—specifically in their capacity for love—which is softer, more empathetic, more thoughtful, and more heartfelt, and less focused on mere physical gratification than that of typical men.64 This naturally stems from the presence of a feminine aspect in them, blending with other parts of their identity. One would expect this ahead of time, and it’s immediately noticeable to anyone familiar with the Urning community. Much of the current confusion regarding the character and behavior of Urning individuals comes from mistakenly linking them with the ordinary roué who, even though he has a normal disposition, engages in homosexual behaviors out of curiosity and other reasons—but I’ve addressed this before, and it should be clear now. If we accept that the love nature of Uranian individuals is genuine and fundamentally humane and kind, then we must also recognize the significance of their role in society and the social contributions they can make.
FOOTNOTES
2 See Appendix, pp. 139 and 140.
3 From Uranos, heaven; his idea being that the Uranian love was of a higher order than the ordinary attachment. For further about Ulrichs and his theories see Appendix, pp. 157-159.
3 From Uranos, which means heaven; he believed that Uranian love was at a higher level than typical relationships. For more on Ulrichs and his theories, see Appendix, pp. 157-159.
4 Charles G. Leland (“Hans Breitmann”) in his book “The Alternate Sex” (Wellby, 1904), insists much on the frequent combination of the characteristics of both sexes in remarkable men and women, and has a chapter on “The Female Mind in Man,” and another on “The Male Intellect in Woman.”
4 Charles G. Leland (“Hans Breitmann”) in his book “The Alternate Sex” (Wellby, 1904), emphasizes the common mix of qualities from both genders in exceptional individuals, and includes a chapter on “The Female Mind in Man,” and another on “The Male Intellect in Woman.”
5 Some late statistical inquiries (see “Statistische Untersuchungen,” von Dr. M. Hirschfeld, Leipzig, 1904) yield 1.5 to 2.0 per cent. as a probable ratio. See also Appendix, pp. 134-136.
5 Some recent statistical studies (see "Statistical Investigations," by Dr. M. Hirschfeld, Leipzig, 1904) suggest a likely ratio of 1.5 to 2.0 percent. See also Appendix, pp. 134-136.
6 For instances, see Appendix, pp. 149-153.
9 See Appendix, pp. 153-156.
11 Perhaps, like Queen Christine of Sweden, who rode across Europe, on her visit to Italy, in jack-boots and sitting astride of her horse. It is said that she shook the Pope’s hand, on seeing him, so heartily that the doctor had to attend to it afterwards!
11 Maybe, like Queen Christine of Sweden, who traveled across Europe to Italy wearing riding boots and sitting side-saddle on her horse. It’s said that she shook the Pope’s hand so vigorously when she met him that a doctor had to look at it afterward!
12 “Homosexual,” generally used in scientific works, is of course a bastard word. “Homogenic” has been suggested, as being from two roots, both Greek, i.e., “homos,” same, and “genos,” sex.
12 “Homosexual,” commonly used in academic texts, is obviously a mixed-up term. “Homogenic” has been proposed, as it comes from two Greek roots, i.e., “homos,” meaning same, and “genos,” meaning sex.
13 “Athenæus” xiii., ch. 78.
14 See Plutarch’s “Eroticus,” §xvii.
20 W. Pater’s “Renaissance,” pp. 8-16.
21 Among prose writers of this period, Montaigne, whose treatment of the subject is enthusiastic and unequivocal, should not be overlooked. See Hazlitt’s “Montaigne,” ch. xxvii.
21 Among prose writers of this time, Montaigne, whose approach to the topic is passionate and clear, should not be missed. See Hazlitt’s “Montaigne,” ch. xxvii.
22 I may be excused for quoting here the sonnet No. 54, from J. A. Symonds’ translation of the sonnets of Michel Angelo:—
22 I hope you’ll allow me to quote here sonnet No. 54 from J. A. Symonds’ translation of Michelangelo’s sonnets:—
The labours of von Scheffler, followed by J. A. Symonds, have now pretty conclusively established the pious frauds of the nephew, and the fact that the love-poems of the elder Michel Angelo were, for the most part, written to male friends.
The work of von Scheffler, along with that of J. A. Symonds, has now quite definitively proven the pious deceptions of the nephew, and that most of the love poems by the elder Michelangelo were written for male friends.
24 For a fuller collection of instances of this Friendship-love in the history of the world, see “Ioläus: an Anthology,” by E. Carpenter (George Allen, London. 3/- net). Also “Liebling-minne und Freundesliebe in der Welt-literatur,” von Elisar von Kupffer (Adolf Brand, Berlin, 1900).
24 For a more extensive collection of examples of this friendship love throughout history, check out “Ioläus: an Anthology,” by E. Carpenter (George Allen, London. 3/- net). Also, “Liebling-minne und Freundesliebe in der Welt-literatur,” by Elisar von Kupffer (Adolf Brand, Berlin, 1900).
27 Jowett, vol. ii., p. 130.
28 One ought also to mention some later writers, like Dr. Magnus Hirschfeld and Dr. von Römer, whose work though avowedly favourable to the Urning-movement, is in a high degree scientific and reliable in character.
28 It's also worth mentioning some later authors, such as Dr. Magnus Hirschfeld and Dr. von Römer, whose work, while openly supportive of the Urning movement, is highly scientific and reliable.
30 See, for estimates, Appendix, pp. 134-136.
30 Check out the estimates in the Appendix, pp. 134-136.
32 “Gli amori degli uomini.”
35 “How deep congenital sex-inversion roots may be gathered from the fact that the pleasure-dream of the male Urning has to do with male persons, and of the female with females.”—Krafft-Ebing, “P.S.,” 7th ed., p. 228.
35 “The depth of congenital sexual inversion can be understood by the fact that the male Urning's fantasies are about other males, while the female's fantasies are about other females.”—Krafft-Ebing, “P.S.,” 7th ed., p. 228.
37 See “Love’s Coming-of-Age,” p. 22.
40 “Though then before my own conscience I cannot reproach myself, and though I must certainly reject the judgment of the world about us, yet I suffer greatly. In very truth I have injured no one, and I hold my love in its nobler activity for just as holy as that of normally disposed men, but under the unhappy fate that allows us neither sufferance nor recognition I suffer often more than my life can bear.”—Extract from a letter given by Krafft-Ebing.
40 “Even though I can’t blame myself in my own conscience, and even though I must reject society's judgment of us, I still suffer a lot. I truly haven't harmed anyone, and I view my love, in its purest form, as just as sacred as that of normally functioning individuals. However, under the unfortunate circumstances that give us neither acceptance nor acknowledgment, I often endure more than I can handle in my life.” —Extract from a letter given by Krafft-Ebing.
42 See Appendix, pp. 162 and 163.
45 “Symposium,” Speech of Socrates.
__A_TAG_PLACEHOLDER_0__ “Symposium,” Socrates’ Speech.
46 It is interesting in this connection to notice the extreme fervour, almost of romance, of the bond which often unites lovers of like sex over a long period of years, in an unfailing tenderness of treatment and consideration towards each other, equal to that shown in the most successful marriages. The love of many such men, says Moll (p. 119), “developed in youth lasts at times the whole life through. I know of such men, who had not seen their first love for years, even decades, and who yet on meeting showed the old fire of their first passion. In other cases, a close love-intimacy will last unbroken for many years.”
46 It's interesting to note the intense, almost romantic bond that often forms between same-sex lovers over many years, characterized by an unwavering tenderness and consideration for one another, comparable to that seen in the happiest marriages. Moll (p. 119) states that “the love of many such men developed in youth can last a lifetime. I know of men who hadn't seen their first love in years, even decades, yet when they finally met, the spark of their initial passion was still there. In other cases, a deep love and intimacy can remain strong and unbroken for many years.”
48 Dr. Moll maintains (2nd ed., pp. 314, 315) that if familiarities between those of the same sex are made illegal, as immoral, self-abuse ought much more to be so made.
48 Dr. Moll argues (2nd ed., pp. 314, 315) that if relationships between people of the same sex are deemed illegal because they are considered immoral, then self-abuse should definitely be classified in the same way.
50 In France, since the adoption of the Code Napoleon, sexual inversion is tolerated under the same restrictions as normal sexuality; and according to Carlier, formerly Chief of the French Police, Paris is not more depraved in this matter than London. Italy in 1889 also adopted the principles of the Code Napoleon on this point. For further considerations with regard to the Law, see Appendix, pp. 164 and 165.
50 In France, since the adoption of the Code Napoleon, same-sex relationships are accepted under the same conditions as heterosexual relationships; and according to Carlier, the former Chief of the French Police, Paris is not any more immoral in this regard than London. Italy also adopted the principles of the Code Napoleon on this issue in 1889. For more insights regarding the Law, see Appendix, pp. 164 and 165.
51 For further instances, see Appendix, pp. 143-148.
51 For more examples, check the Appendix, pp. 143-148.
53 Müller.
__A_TAG_PLACEHOLDER_0__ Müller.
55 For a useful little manual on this subject, see “How We are Born,” by Mrs. N. J. (Daniel, London, price 2/-). For a general argument in favour of sex-teaching see “The Training of the Young in Laws of Sex,” by Canon Lyttelton, Headmaster of Eton College (Longmans, 2/6).
55 For a helpful little guide on this topic, check out “How We are Born” by Mrs. N. J. (Daniel, London, price 2/-). For a broader discussion supporting sex education, see “The Training of the Young in Laws of Sex” by Canon Lyttelton, Headmaster of Eton College (Longmans, 2/6).
57 With the rapid rise which is taking place, in scope and social status, of the state day-schools, it is probable that some change of opinion will take place with regard to the wisdom of sending young boys of ten to fourteen to upper-class boarding-schools. For a boy of fifteen or sixteen and upwards the boarding-school system may have its advantages. By that time a boy is old enough to understand some questions; he is old enough to have some rational ideal of conduct, and to hold his own in the pursuit of it; and he may learn in the life away from home a lot in the way of discipline, organization, self-reliance, etc. But to send a young thing, ignorant of life, and quite unformed of character, to take his chance by day and night in the public school as it at present exists, is—to say the least—a rash thing to do.
57 With the rapid rise in popularity and social status of state day schools, it’s likely that opinions will shift regarding the wisdom of sending boys aged ten to fourteen to elite boarding schools. For boys aged fifteen or sixteen and older, the boarding school system may be beneficial. By that age, a boy is mature enough to understand certain issues; he can grasp a rational idea of behavior and pursue it independently; and he can learn a lot about discipline, organization, and self-reliance from life away from home. However, sending a young, inexperienced child to navigate the public school system as it currently stands, both day and night, is—at the very least—an unwise decision.
63 John Addington Symonds.
__A_TAG_PLACEHOLDER_0__ John Addington Symonds.
64 See Appendix, pp. 172-174.
Appendix
“In this country [Britain] we have too long, from a sense of mock modesty, neglected the science relating to sex. In Germany this is not so. There we find workers who have elaborated for themselves a new science, and who have given to the world knowledge which is of the very utmost importance. We now know that there are females with strong male characteristics, and vice-versa. Anatomically and mentally we find all shades existing from the pure genus man to the pure genus woman. Thus there has been constituted what is well named by an illustrious exponent of the science ‘The Third Sex’.”—Dr. James Burnet, The Medical Times and Hospital Gazette, vol. xxxiv., No. 1497, 10th November, 1906. London.
“In this country [Britain], we've long ignored the science of sex due to a sense of false modesty. In Germany, that's not the case. There, researchers have developed a new science, providing the world with knowledge that's incredibly important. We now understand that some females exhibit strong male traits and vice versa. Anatomically and mentally, there are all variations, from the pure male to the pure female. This has led to the term coined by a notable figure in the field: ‘The Third Sex.’”—Dr. James Burnet, The Medical Times and Hospital Gazette, vol. xxxiv., No. 1497, 10th November, 1906. London.
“Every citizen of age to fulfil his duties as a citizen, whether he be a father or husband, teacher or pupil, master or servant, official or subordinate, has the right, and owes it as a duty, to know the facts of sexual inversion, to combat and to prevent debauchery, crime and vice, to learn and to teach others the place of inversion in Society, and its morals, the duties of the134 invert towards himself, and towards other inverts, towards the normal man, and towards women and children. And the duties of the normal man towards the invert are no less—no less difficult, no less indispensable.”—M. A. Raffalovich, “Uranisme et Unisexualité.” Paris, 1896.
“Every adult citizen, whether a father or husband, teacher or student, boss or employee, official or subordinate, has the right and the duty to understand the facts about sexual orientation, to fight against and prevent moral decay, crime, and vice, to learn about and teach others the role of orientation in society and its ethics, the responsibilities of those who identify as LGBTQ+ towards themselves and other LGBTQ+ individuals, towards heterosexual men, and towards women and children. The responsibilities of heterosexual men towards LGBTQ+ individuals are equally important—equally challenging, equally necessary.” —M.A. Raffalovich, “Uranisme et Unisexualité.” Paris, 1896.
“That sex inversion is not a chance phenomenon … appears from the fact that it has been observed at all times and in all places, and among peoples quite separate from each other.”—A. Moll, “Die Conträre Sexualempfindung,” 2nd Edition, p. 15. Berlin, 1893.
“That sexual inversion is not a random occurrence … is evident from the fact that it has been noted throughout history and in all cultures, among groups that are completely unrelated to each other.”—A. Moll, “Die Conträre Sexualempfindung,” 2nd Edition, p. 15. Berlin, 1893.
“Concerning the wide prevalence of sexual inversion, and of homosexual phenomena generally, there can be no manner of doubt. In Berlin, Moll states that he has himself seen between six hundred and seven hundred homosexual persons, and heard of some two hundred and fifty to three hundred others. I have much evidence as to its frequency both in England and the United States. In England, concerning which I can naturally speak with most assurance, its manifestations are well-marked for those whose eyes have been opened.… Among the professional and most cultured element of the middle class in England there must be a distinct percentage of inverts, which may sometimes be as much as five per cent., though such estimates must always be hazardous. Among women of the same class the percentage seems to be at least double—though here the phenomena are less definite and deepseated.”—Havelock Ellis, “Psychology of135 Sex,” vol. Sexual Inversion, pp. 29, 30. Philadelphia, 1901.
“There's no doubt about the widespread occurrence of sexual inversion and homosexual phenomena in general. In Berlin, Moll reports that he has personally encountered between six hundred and seven hundred homosexual individuals and learned of about two hundred and fifty to three hundred more. I have plenty of evidence regarding its prevalence in both England and the United States. In England, which I can naturally speak about with the most certainty, its signs are clearly visible to those who are aware. Among the professional and more cultured segments of the middle class in England, there’s likely a distinct percentage of inverts, which could sometimes be as high as five percent, though such estimates are always a bit uncertain. Among women in the same class, the percentage seems to be at least double, although the phenomena are less clear and pronounced.” —Havelock Ellis, “Psychology of135 Sex,” vol. Sexual Inversion, pp. 29, 30. Philadelphia, 1901.
“According to the information of De Joux in ‘The Disinherited of Love,’ the number of Urnings in all Europe is about five millions; about 4.5 per cent. of all males in Europe are Urnings, while only 0.1 per cent. of females are Urningins. A malady therefore—if malady it should be called—which is so widespread certainly demands our deepest interest; and it is strange that it is only since the ’70’s that this subject has been discussed in scientific literature.
“According to De Joux in ‘The Disinherited of Love,’ there are about five million Urnings in all of Europe; roughly 4.5 percent of all males in Europe are Urnings, while only 0.1 percent of females are Urningins. A condition, if that’s what we should call it, that is so widespread definitely deserves our attention; it’s odd that this topic has only been talked about in scientific literature since the 1970s."
“It is owing to this ignorance that the public mind has been dominated, and still is dominated, by the prejudice, that psychical hermaphroditism and sex-inversion are nothing but crimes, wilful crimes, whereas they proceed necessarily out of the inborn nature of such individuals.”—Norbert Grabowsky, “Die verkehrte Geschlechtsempfindung,” p. 16. Leipzig, 1894.
“It’s because of this ignorance that the public mindset has been influenced, and continues to be influenced, by the prejudice that psychical hermaphroditism and sexual inversion are simply crimes, deliberate crimes, when in reality they arise naturally from the inherent nature of those individuals.” —Norbert Grabowsky, “Die verkehrte Geschlechtsempfindung,” p. 16. Leipzig, 1894.
Dr. Hirschfeld, in his “Statistischen Untersuchunge über den Prozentensatz der Homosexuellen,” gives the result of various statistical investigations on this subject; and their remarkable agreement enables him to speak with some confidence. He says (p. 41), “Now we know that we must reckon the numbers of those who vary from the normal, not by fractions of thousands but by fractions of hundreds. The fact that, as a result of these circular enquiries and commissions about the same figure has emerged (for the proportion of exclusively homosexual persons), namely, a figure in the neighbourhood of 1½ per cent.—this136 extraordinary agreement cannot possibly be a chance, but must rest on a law—a law of nature—namely, that only 90 to 95 per cent. of mankind are normally sexual by birth; that about 1½ to 2 per cent. are born pure homosexuals (say about 1,000,000 in Germany); and that between the two classes there remain some 4 per cent. who are bisexual by nature.”
Dr. Hirschfeld, in his “Statistical Investigations on the Percentage of Homosexuals,” presents the findings of various statistical studies on this topic; their remarkable consistency allows him to speak with a degree of confidence. He states (p. 41), “Now we know that we should count the numbers of those who deviate from the norm, not in fractions of thousands but in fractions of hundreds. The fact that, as a result of these surveys and commissions, a similar figure has arisen (for the proportion of exclusively homosexual individuals), specifically a figure around 1½ percent—this136 extraordinary consensus cannot be mere coincidence, but must be based on a principle—a natural law—indicating that only 90 to 95 percent of people are normally sexual by nature; that about 1½ to 2 percent are born pure homosexuals (approximately 1,000,000 in Germany); and that between the two groups, there are about 4 percent who are bisexual by nature.”
And again (p. 60), “But what do these figures show? They show that of 100,000 inhabitants on the average only 94,600 are sexually normal, while 5,400 vary from the normal. Of these latter 1,500 are exclusively homosexual, and 3,900 bisexual. While of these last again 700 are predominantly homosexual; so that of 100,000 Germans, 2,200 (or 2.2 per cent.) are either exclusively or predominantly homosexual—making 1,200,000 for the whole German Fatherland.”
And again (p. 60), “But what do these numbers indicate? They show that out of 100,000 people on average, only 94,600 are sexually typical, while 5,400 differ from the norm. Of these, 1,500 are exclusively homosexual, and 3,900 are bisexual. Among these, 700 are predominantly homosexual; therefore, out of 100,000 Germans, 2,200 (or 2.2 percent) are either exclusively or predominantly homosexual—amounting to 1,200,000 for the entire German Fatherland.”
“Sexual inversion has usually been regarded as psycho-pathological, as a symptom of degeneration; and those who exhibit it have been considered as physically unfit. This view, however, is falling into disrepute, especially as Krafft-Ebing, its principal champion, abandoned it in the later editions of his work. None the less, it is not generally recognised that sexual inverts may be otherwise perfectly healthy, and with regard to other social matters quite normal. When they have been asked if they would have wished matters to be different with them in this respect, they almost invariably answer in the negative.”—O. Weininger, “Sex and Character,” ch. iv. Heinemann, London, 1906.
“Sexual inversion has typically been seen as a psychological disorder or a sign of degeneration, and those who experience it have been viewed as physically unfit. However, this perspective is losing credibility, especially since Krafft-Ebing, its main proponent, distanced himself from it in later editions of his work. Nevertheless, it is not widely acknowledged that sexual inverts can be otherwise perfectly healthy and quite normal concerning other social issues. When they have been asked if they would prefer to be different in this regard, they almost always respond negatively.”—O. Weininger, “Sex and Character,” ch. iv. Heinemann, London, 1906.
“It is a common belief that a male who experiences love for his own sex must be despicable, degraded, depraved, vicious, and incapable of humane or generous sentiments. If Greek history did not contradict this supposition, a little patient enquiry into contemporary manners would suffice to remove it.”—J. Addington Symonds, “A Problem in Modern Ethics,” p. 10.
“It is a common belief that a man who loves other men must be despicable, degraded, depraved, vicious, and incapable of humane or generous feelings. If Greek history didn’t contradict this idea, a little careful exploration of modern behaviors would be enough to disprove it.” —J. Addington Symonds, “A Problem in Modern Ethics,” p. 10.
“Mantegazza rightly insists that Urnings are found by no means only among the dregs of the people, but that they are rather to be noted in circles which in respect of culture, wealth, and social position rank among the first. Thus, among the aristocracy without doubt a great number of Urnings are to be found.”—A. Moll, op. cit. p. 76.
“Mantegazza rightly points out that Urnings aren't just found among the lowest classes of society; they're also present in circles that are at the top in terms of culture, wealth, and social status. Indeed, a significant number of Urnings can be found among the aristocracy.” —A. Moll, op. cit. p. 76.
“In no rank are there so many Urnings as among servants. One may say that every third male domestic is an Urning.”—De Joux, “Die Enterbten des Liebesglückes,” p. 193. Leipzig, 1893.
“In no position are there as many Urnings as among servants. One could say that every third male domestic worker is an Urning.”—De Joux, “Die Enterbten des Liebesglückes,” p. 193. Leipzig, 1893.
“It is therefore certain, as we have seen, that many Urnings come from nervous or pathologically disposed families.… All the same, I must say that there is no proof to hand in all cases of sex-inversion among men, that the individuals concerned are thus hereditarily weighted. And besides, there is the consideration that the extension, according to some authors, of hereditary trouble is at present so great that one may138 prove a tendency to nervous or mental maladies in almost everybody.”—A. Moll, op. cit., p. 221.
“It’s clear, as we’ve observed, that many Urnings come from families with nervous or pathological issues. However, I need to point out that there’s no evidence in all cases of sexual inversion among men that the individuals involved are definitely affected by heredity. Furthermore, it’s worth noting that, according to some authors, the reach of hereditary problems is currently so extensive that one might138 find a tendency towards nervous or mental disorders in almost everyone.” —A. Moll, op. cit., p. 221.
“The truth is that we can no more explain the inverted sex-feeling than we can the normal impulse; all the attempts at explanation of these things, and of Love, are defective.”—Ibid, p. 253.
“The truth is that we can’t explain the inverted sex feeling any more than we can explain the normal impulse; all the attempts to explain these things, and Love, are lacking.” —Ibid, p. 253.
“Among the penchants of Urnings one finds not infrequently a great partiality for Art and Music—and indeed, for active interest in the same as well as passive enjoyment … the Actor’s talent is especially noticeable among some.… But it must not be thought that Urnings are only capable of a special activity of the imagination. On the contrary, there are undoubted cases in which they contribute something in the scientific direction.… Also in Poetry do Urnings occasionally show exceptional talent; especially in love-verses addressed to men.”—Ibid, p. 80.
“Among the penchants of Urnings, there is often a strong preference for Art and Music—both in terms of active involvement and passive enjoyment… The talent of actors is particularly evident among some of them.… However, it shouldn’t be assumed that Urnings are only capable of a unique kind of imaginative activity. On the contrary, there are clear instances in which they contribute meaningfully to science.… Urnings also sometimes display exceptional talent in Poetry, especially in love poetry directed toward men.”—Ibid, p. 80.
“An examination of my cases [of Inverts] reveals the interesting fact that 68 per cent. possess artistic aptitude in varying degree. Galton found, from the investigation of nearly 1,000 persons that the average showing artistic tastes in England is only about 30 per cent.”—Havelock Ellis, “Sexual Inversion,” p. 173.
“Looking into my cases [of Inverts] shows the intriguing fact that 68 percent have artistic talent to some degree. Galton discovered, through his study of nearly 1,000 people, that the average showing artistic tastes in England is only about 30 percent.”—Havelock Ellis, “Sexual Inversion,” p. 173.
“In Antiquity, especially among the Greeks, there seem to have been numbers of men who in their emotional natures were hermaphrodites. I think that the study of psychical hermaphrodisy is most important,139 and will throw yet greater light on the psychology of Love itself. Observation so far already shows that the same individual at differing times can experience quite different sexual feelings.”—A. Moll, op. cit., p. 200.
“In ancient times, especially among the Greeks, there seemed to be many men who had emotional traits of both sexes. I believe that studying psychological hermaphroditism is very important,139 and will provide even more insight into the psychology of Love itself. Observations so far already indicate that the same person can feel different sexual emotions at different times.” —A. Moll, op. cit., p. 200.
“The Urning is capable, through the force of his love, of making the greatest sacrifices for his beloved, and on that account the love of the Urning has been often compared with Woman’s love. Just as the Woman’s love is stronger and more devoted than that of the normal man, just as it exceeds that of the Man in inwardness, so, according to Ulrichs should the Urning’s love in this respect stand higher than that of the woman-loving Man.”—Ibid, p. 118.
“The Urning can, through the strength of his love, make the greatest sacrifices for his beloved, which is why the Urning's love has often been compared to a woman's love. Just as a woman's love is stronger and more devoted than that of the typical man, and just as it is deeper than that of the man who loves women, Ulrichs argues that the Urning's love should be seen as superior to that of the man who loves women.” —Ibid, p. 118.
“Womanish men often know how to treat women better than manly men do. Manly men, except in most rare cases, learn how to deal with women only after long experience, and even then most imperfectly.”—O. Weininger, “Sex and Character,” ch. v.
“Sensitive men often know how to treat women better than traditional men do. Traditional men, except in very rare cases, learn how to deal with women only after a long time, and even then, it’s often not very well.” —O. Weininger, “Sex and Character,” ch. v.
“Is it really the case that all women and men are marked off sharply from each other, the women on the one hand alike in all points, the men on the other?… There are transitional forms between the metals and non-metals, between chemical combinations and simple mixtures, between animals and plants, between phanerogams and cryptogams, and between mammals and birds.… The improbability may henceforth be taken for granted of finding in Nature a sharp cleavage140 between all that is masculine on the one side and all that is feminine on the other; or that any living being is so simple in this respect that it can be put wholly on one side, or wholly on the other, of the line.”—Weininger, Ibid, introduction, p. 2.
“Is it really true that all women and men are clearly separated from each other, with women being the same in every way and men being entirely different?… There are transitional forms between metals and non-metals, between chemical compounds and simple mixtures, between animals and plants, between flowering plants and non-flowering plants, and between mammals and birds.… We can now assume it’s unlikely we’ll find a clear division in nature between anything masculine on one side and anything feminine on the other; or that any living being is so straightforward in this aspect that it can be entirely classified on one side or the other of the line.” —Weininger, Ibid, introduction, p. 2.
“Upon this, Chéron made a rather strange observation. ‘We have,’ she said, ‘with regard to sexual distinctions, notions that were not dreamed of by the primitive simplicity of the people of the age now gone by. From the fact that there are two sexes, and only two, they for a long time drew false inferences. They concluded that a woman is simply a woman, and a man simply a man. In reality this is not so; there are women who are very much women, and women who are very little so. Such differences, concealed in former times by costume and mode of life, and masked by prejudice, stand out clearly in our society. And not only so, but they become more accentuated and apparent in each generation.’”—Anatole France, “Sur la Pierre Blanche,” p. 301.
“On this, Chéron made a rather strange observation. ‘We have,’ she said, ‘when it comes to sexual distinctions, ideas that the simple people of the past could never have imagined. Because there are only two sexes, they long drew incorrect conclusions. They assumed that a woman is just a woman and a man is just a man. In reality, this isn’t the case; some women are very much women, and some women are barely so. These differences, hidden in the past by clothing and lifestyle, and obscured by prejudice, are now clearly visible in our society. Furthermore, they become even more pronounced in each generation.’”—Anatole France, “Sur la Pierre Blanche,” p. 301.
“In every human being there are present both male and female elements, only in normal persons (according to their sex) the one set of elements is more greatly developed than the other. The chief difference in the case of homosexual persons is that in them the male and female elements are more equalized; so that when, in addition, the general development is of a high grade, we find among this class the most perfect types of humanity.”—Dr. Arduin, “Die Frauenfrage,”141 in Jahrbuch der Sexuellen Zwischenstufen, vol. ii., p. 217. Leipzig, 1900.
“In every human being, both male and female traits exist; however, in typical individuals (based on their sex), one set of traits is usually more developed than the other. The main distinction for homosexual individuals is that their male and female traits are more balanced; thus, when their overall development is at a high level, we can observe among them the most refined examples of humanity.” —Dr. Arduin, “Die Frauenfrage,”141 in Jahrbuch der Sexuellen Zwischenstufen, vol. ii., p. 217. Leipzig, 1900.
“The notion that human beings were originally hermaphroditic is both ancient and widespread. We find it in the book of Genesis, unless indeed there be a confusion here between two separate theories of creation. God is said to have first made man in His image, male and female in one body, and to have bidden them multiply. Later on He created the woman out of part of this primitive man.” (See also the myth related by Aristophanes in Plato’s Symposium.)—Havelock Ellis, “Sexual Inversion,” p. 229.
“The idea that humans were originally hermaphroditic is both ancient and widespread. We see it in the book of Genesis, unless there’s a mix-up between two different creation theories. God is said to have first created man in His image, male and female in one body, and instructed them to multiply. Later, He created woman from a part of this original man.” (See also the myth told by Aristophanes in Plato’s Symposium.)—Havelock Ellis, “Sexual Inversion,” p. 229.
“When the sexual instinct first appears in early youth, it seems to be much less specialised than normally it becomes later. Not only is it, at the outset, less definitely directed to a specific sexual end, but even the sex of its object is sometimes uncertain.”—Ibid, p. 44.
“When the sexual instinct first emerges in early youth, it seems to be much less focused than it typically becomes later. Not only is it, at the beginning, less clearly aimed at a specific sexual goal, but even the gender of its target can be uncertain.” —Ibid, p. 44.
“In me the homosexual nature is singularly complete, and is undoubtedly congenital. The most intense delight of my childhood (even when a tiny boy in my nurse’s charge) was to watch acrobats and riders at the circus. This was not so much for the skilful feats as on account of the beauty of their persons. Even then I cared chiefly for the more lithe and graceful fellows. People told me that circus actors were wicked and would steal little boys, and so I came to look on my favorites as half-devil and half-angel. When I was142 older and could go about alone, I would often hang around the tents of travelling shows in hope of catching a glimpse of the actors. I longed to see them naked, without their tights, and used to lie awake at night, thinking of them and longing to be embraced and loved by them.”—Ibid, “case” ix., p. 62.
“In me, the homosexual nature is fully developed and is definitely something I was born with. The greatest joy of my childhood (even as a little boy in my nurse’s care) was watching acrobats and riders at the circus. It wasn’t just because of their impressive skills but because of their beauty. Even then, I was mostly drawn to the more agile and graceful ones. People warned me that circus performers were bad and would take little boys, so I started to see my favorites as part devil and part angel. As I got older and could explore on my own, I often lingered around the tents of traveling shows, hoping to catch a glimpse of the performers. I wanted to see them without their tights, and I would lie awake at night, dreaming about them and wishing to be held and loved by them.” —Ibid, “case” ix., p. 62.
“I was fifteen years and ten-and-a-half months old when the first erotic dream announced the arrival of puberty. I had had no previous experience of sex-satisfaction, either in the Urning direction or in any other. This occurrence therefore came about quite normally. From a much earlier time, however, I had been subject partly to tender yearnings and partly to sensual longing without definite form and purpose—the two emotions being always separate from each other and never experienced for one and the same young man. These aimless sensual longings plagued me often in hours of solitude; and I could not overcome them. They showed themselves first, during my fifteenth year, when I was at school at Detmold, in the following two ways:—First, they were awakened by a drawing in Normand’s “Saülen-ordnungen,” of the figure of a Greek god or hero, standing there in naked beauty. This image, a hundred times put away, came again a hundred times before my mind. (I need not say it did not cause the Urning temperament in me; it merely awoke what was slumbering there already—a thing that any other circumstance might have done.) Secondly, when studying in my little room, or when I lay upon my bed before going143 to sleep, the thought used suddenly and irresistibly to rise up in my mind—“If only a soldier would clamber through the window and come into my room!” Then my imagination painted me a splendid soldier-figure of twenty to twenty-two years old; and I was, as it were, all on fire. And yet my thoughts were quite vague, and undirected to any definite satisfaction; nor had I ever spoken a word with a real soldier.”—K. H. Ulrichs, “Memnon,” §77. Leipzig, 1898. See also “A Problem in Modern Ethics,” p. 73.
“I was fifteen years and ten-and-a-half months old when my first erotic dream marked the start of puberty. I hadn’t had any previous experience with sexual satisfaction, whether in the same-sex direction or otherwise. So this occurrence seemed quite normal. However, long before that, I had experienced tender yearnings and sensual longing without any clear form or purpose—these two emotions were always separate from each other and never directed at the same young man. These aimless sensual desires often plagued me during times alone; I couldn’t shake them off. They first appeared during my fifteenth year while I was studying in Detmold, in two ways: First, they were sparked by a drawing in Normand’s “Saülen-ordnungen,” featuring a Greek god or hero in stunning nakedness. I hidden that image away countless times, but it returned to my mind just as many times. (I should clarify that it did not cause my Urning feelings; it simply awakened something that was already there—something that could have been triggered by any other circumstance.) Secondly, while studying in my small room or lying on my bed before sleeping, a thought would suddenly and irresistibly pop into my mind—“If only a soldier would climb through the window and come into my room!” My imagination would then create a beautiful soldier figure around twenty to twenty-two years old; and I felt, in a way, completely consumed by desire. Yet my thoughts were quite vague and not aimed at any specific fulfillment; and I had never spoken a word to an actual soldier.” —K.H. Ulrichs, “Memnon,” §77. Leipzig, 1898. See also “A Problem in Modern Ethics,” p. 73.
“The friendships of this kind which I formed at School were two in number—I shall never forget the absorbing depth and intensity of them. I never talked about them to anyone else, they were much too sacred and serious for that, nor—strange as it may seem—did I ever speak of them to the boys themselves, or indeed, show any signs of affection towards them. If they had been told that I was devoted to their welfare, and willing to sacrifice myself and all I had to it (which was indeed the fact) they would have been simply astonished; more especially as they were both young boys not yet arrived at puberty.
“The friendships I formed at school were two in number—I’ll never forget how deep and intense they were. I never talked about them to anyone else; they were way too sacred and serious for that. Strangely enough, I also never mentioned them to the boys themselves or showed any signs of affection towards them. If they had known that I was dedicated to their well-being and ready to sacrifice myself and everything I had for them (which was actually true), they would have been completely shocked, especially since they were both young boys still not yet in their teenage years.”
“I am at present somewhat bitterly conscious that in these cases one of the strongest influences for good that ever came into my life was nine-tenths wasted. How much better it all might have been under more favourable surroundings it is impossible to imagine. Still, it was not without its good influence on me, though (owing to their complete ignorance of my feelings) it could have had none whatever on the boys.144 I was conscious of a bracing and inspiring effect on my whole nature, a confirmed health of body, and most of all, of a greatly increased capacity for work. And doubtless all this might have been intensified a thousand fold if I had been ever so little guided and encouraged by public opinion sanctioning these friendships.
“I’m currently aware, somewhat bitterly, that in these situations, one of the biggest positive influences in my life was nine-tenths wasted. It’s hard to imagine how much better things could have been in a more supportive environment. Still, it did have a positive impact on me, though (due to their complete ignorance of my feelings) it didn’t affect the boys at all.144 I felt a refreshing and uplifting effect on my entire being, a solid health of body, and most importantly, a significant boost in my ability to work. And surely all of this could have been amplified a thousand times if I had received even a little guidance and encouragement from public opinion supporting these friendships.”
“The Public School boy has after all strong feelings of honour and fairness: and I am sure much might be done by cultivating the Public Opinion of the school: making devoted and disinterested friendships highly thought of and praised, and condemning as base and mean the least attempt to befoul a young boy’s purity through a gross and selfish desire for personal gratification. School public opinion would, I am sure, tend quite readily to flow in such channels. But this would demand an openness of treatment of the whole question such as does not at present exist. That the greatest force the schoolmaster has at his command should be so ignored (and so needlessly) is more than absurd: it is monstrous. And it concerns him as a teacher quite as much as the boys themselves in their relations with each other. I believe that gaining a boy’s affection is the necessary preliminary to really teaching him anything. Otherwise you do not really teach him at all.”—Private letter.
“The Public School boy has, after all, strong feelings of honor and fairness; and I’m sure a lot could be achieved by fostering the school's Public Opinion: making dedicated and selfless friendships highly valued and praised, while condemning as low any attempt to tarnish a young boy's innocence due to a selfish desire for personal satisfaction. School public opinion would, I believe, naturally lean in such directions. However, this would require an openness in addressing the entire issue that currently doesn’t exist. That the greatest power the schoolmaster has at his disposal should be so ignored (and so unnecessarily) is not just absurd; it is monstrous. This matter concerns him as a teacher just as much as it does the boys in their interactions with one another. I believe that earning a boy’s affection is the essential first step to truly teaching him anything. Otherwise, you’re not really teaching him at all.” — Private letter.
“I could tell you a good deal of another equally strong friendship I formed (myself twenty-five, boy fourteen) which was one of the happiest events of my life. It was acknowledged on both sides, but perfectly145 restrained and pure: and we saw a great deal of each other during most of the school holidays for about a year. I could have done anything with that boy, my influence over him was for the time being I should say unlimited: and undoubtedly immense good accrued to us both.”—Ibid.
“I could tell you a lot about another equally strong friendship I formed (me being twenty-five, the boy fourteen) which was one of the happiest experiences of my life. It was acknowledged by both of us, but perfectly restrained and pure: we spent a lot of time together during most of the school holidays for about a year. I felt like I could do anything with that boy; my influence over him was, at the time, I’d say unlimited: and undoubtedly immense good came to us both.”—Ibid.
“In my own school-life—as a day scholar—I had two such friendships, though of course in a day school there was not the same possibility of their development. One was with an elder boy some five years my senior, and the other with a master some twelve years older than myself. I was a shy, timid youngster, and not having a robust physique did not enter much into the ordinary athletics of the school. My elder friend was a very delicate, gentle, refined boy with a purity and loftiness of mind in striking contrast to the filthy moral atmosphere of the school at that time, but he was never censorious or self-righteous. I feel that this friendship was the most powerful influence in my early life in keeping a high ideal of conduct before me—much more powerful than the influence of home, which I do not think I was at all conscious of.
“In my school days—as a day student—I had two friendships like that, although in a day school, those relationships couldn’t develop in the same way. One was with an older boy about five years ahead of me, and the other was with a teacher who was around twelve years older. I was a shy, timid kid, and not being very athletic, I didn't participate much in the typical sports at school. My older friend was a delicate, gentle, refined boy, possessing a purity and nobility of mind that stood in stark contrast to the toxic moral environment of the school at that time, but he was never judgmental or self-righteous. I believe this friendship had the most significant impact on my early life, helping me maintain a high standard of behavior—much more so than the influence of home, which I wasn't really aware of at all.”
“After he left school, for Cambridge, we used to write regularly to one another—long letters, hardly ever less than three sheets in length. I remember I used to think him the most handsome man I knew, but looking now at his photo, taken about that time and comparing it with others, I see that his features were inferior to many others of my school-fellows.146 At the end of his second year he died of consumption. It was during the Long Vacation, and I was abroad at the time. I remember I used to sit up late into the night writing very long letters to him about all I had seen, to interest him during his illness. I did not know how ill he really was, but I had a terrible fear that I should not see him again. When I got back and found he had just died the shock was awful. For weeks I felt as if I had not a friend in the whole world. I have never felt any loss so keenly either before or since.…
"After he left school to go to Cambridge, we used to write to each other regularly—long letters, hardly ever less than three pages long. I remember thinking he was the most handsome man I knew, but now, looking at his photo from that time and comparing it with others, I see that his features weren’t as good as many of my schoolmates'.146 At the end of his second year, he died of tuberculosis. It was during the summer break, and I was abroad at the time. I remember staying up late at night writing very long letters to him about everything I had seen, hoping to keep him interested during his illness. I didn’t know how sick he really was, but I had a terrible fear that I wouldn’t see him again. When I got back and found out he had just died, the shock was awful. For weeks, I felt like I didn’t have a friend in the world. I’ve never felt such a loss so deeply, either before or since."
“The other friendship with my mathematical master, though not so intimate, was still of a very affectionate character. I feel I owe a great deal to it—he laid the foundation of my ideal of a teacher’s duty to his pupils.”—Private letter.
“The other friendship with my math teacher, while not as close, was still very warm. I feel I owe a lot to it—he helped shape my idea of what a teacher's responsibility is to their students.”—Private letter.
“It is not new in itself; this, the feeling that drew Jesus to John, or Shakespeare to the youth of the sonnets, or that inspired the friendships of Greece, has been with us before, and in the new citizenship we shall need it again. The Whitmanic love of comrades is its modern expression; Democracy—as socially, not politically conceived—its basis. The thought as to how much of the solidarity of labour and the modern Trade-Union movement may be due to an unconscious faith in this principle of comradeship, is no idle one. The freer, more direct, and more genuine relationship between men, which is implied by it, must be the ultimate basis of the reconstructed Workshop.”—C. R.147 Ashbee, “Workshop Reconstruction and Citizenship,” p. 160.
“It’s not a new feeling; this feeling that connected Jesus to John, or Shakespeare to the young man in the sonnets, or inspired friendships in ancient Greece, has existed before, and in our new sense of community, we'll need it again. The Whitmanic love for comrades is its modern form; Democracy—as understood socially rather than politically—serves as its foundation. Considering how much of the unity in labor and the modern Trade Union movement may stem from an unconscious belief in this principle of comradeship is a thought worth exploring. The freer, more direct, and more genuine connections between people that this implies must be the essential foundation of the reimagined Workshop.” —C. R.147 Ashbee, “Workshop Reconstruction and Citizenship,” p. 160.
A case of passionate attachment between two Indian boys was told to the author of the present book by a master at a school in India. The boys—who were about sixteen years of age—were both at the same school, and were devoted friends; but the day came when they had to part. One was taken away by his parents to go to a distant part of the country. The other was inconsolable at the prospect. When the day arrived, and his companion was removed, he soon after went quietly to a well in the school precincts, jumped in, and was drowned. The news, sent on by wire, reached the departing friend while still on his journey. He said little, but at one of the stations left the train and disappeared. The train went on, but at a little distance out, the boy ran out of the bushes by the line, threw himself on the rails, and was killed.
A story about a deep bond between two Indian boys was shared with the author of this book by a teacher at a school in India. The boys, around sixteen years old, attended the same school and were close friends. However, the day came when they had to say goodbye. One was taken away by his parents to a far part of the country. The other couldn't bear the thought of being apart. When the day came for his friend to leave, he quietly went to a well in the school grounds, jumped in, and drowned. The news, sent by telegram, reached the departing friend while he was still traveling. He said little but got off the train at one of the stops and vanished. The train continued on, but shortly after, the boy emerged from the bushes by the tracks, threw himself onto the rails, and was killed.
The following is taken from one of the “cases” recorded by Havelock Ellis in his “Sexual Inversion”; “The earliest sex-impression that I am conscious of is at the age of nine or ten falling in love with a handsome boy who must have been about two years my senior. I do not recollect ever having spoken to him, but my desire, as far as I can recall, was that he should seize hold of and handle me. I have a distinct impression yet of how pleasurable even physical pain or cruelty would have been at his hands.”—Havelock Ellis, op. cit., “case” xiii., p. 71.
The following is taken from one of the “cases” recorded by Havelock Ellis in his “Sexual Inversion”: “The first sexual feeling I can remember is when I was around nine or ten and had a crush on a handsome boy who was about two years older than me. I don’t recall ever talking to him, but what I wanted, as far as I can remember, was for him to take hold of me and touch me. I still have a clear memory of how even physical pain or cruelty would have felt pleasurable coming from him.” —Havelock Ellis, op. cit., “case” xiii., p. 71.
“When I was about sixteen-and-a-half years old, there came into the house a boy about two years younger than myself, who became the absorbing thought of my school-days. I do not remember a moment, from the time I first saw him to the time I left school, that I was not in love with him, and the affection was reciprocated, if somewhat reservedly. He was always a little ahead of me in books and scholarship, but as our affection ripened we spent most of our spare time together, and he received my advances much as a girl who is being wooed, a little mockingly perhaps, but with real pleasure. He allowed me to fondle and caress him, but our intimacy never went further than a kiss, and about that even was the slur of shame; there was always a barrier between us, and we never so much as whispered to one another concerning those things of which all the school obscenely talked.”—Same case, p. 73.
“When I was about sixteen and a half, a boy who was about two years younger than me came into the house, and he became the main focus of my school days. I can't recall a moment from the time I first saw him until I left school when I wasn't in love with him, and he seemed to feel the same way, although a bit cautiously. He was always slightly ahead of me in academics, but as our feelings grew stronger, we spent most of our free time together. He reacted to my advances like a girl being courted—maybe a bit teasingly, but genuinely happy. He let me touch and cuddle him, but our relationship never progressed beyond a kiss, and even that came with a sense of shame; there was always something stopping us, and we never even whispered about the things that everyone else at school openly talked about.”—Same case, p. 73.
“At the age of twenty-one I began gradually to remark that I was not somehow like my comrades, that I had no pleasure in male occupations, that smoking, drinking, and card-playing gave me little satisfaction, and that I had a real death-horror of a brothel. And, as a matter of fact, I had never been in one, as on every occasion under some pretext or other I have succeeded in stealing off. I now began to think about myself; I felt myself frightfully desolate, miserable and unfortunate, and longed for a friend of the same nature as myself—yet without dreaming that there could be other such men. At the age of twenty-two149 I came to know a young man who at last cleared up my mind about sexual inversion and those affected with it, since he—an Urning, like myself—had fallen in love with me. The scales fell from my eyes, and I bless the day which brought light to me.… Towards woman in her sexual relation I feel a real horror, which the exercise of all my strongest powers of imagination would not avail to overcome; and indeed, I have never attempted to overcome it, since I am quite persuaded of the fruitlessness of such an attempt, which to me appears sinful and unnatural.”—Krafft-Ebing, “Psychopathia Sexualis,” 7th edition, “case” No. 122, p. 291. Stuttgart, 1892.
“At the age of twenty-one, I started to notice that I wasn't quite like my friends. I didn't enjoy typical male activities; smoking, drinking, and playing cards didn't bring me much joy, and I had a genuine fear of brothels. In fact, I had never been to one—I always managed to find an excuse to avoid it. I began to reflect on my situation; I felt incredibly lonely, miserable, and unfortunate, and I longed for a friend who was similar to me—though I never imagined there could be others like me. By the time I was twenty-two149, I met a young man who finally helped me understand sexual inversion and those who experience it, as he—an Urning, like me—had fallen in love with me. Everything became clear, and I am grateful for the day that brought me this understanding.… I feel a genuine horror towards women in sexual contexts, which I can't overcome no matter how hard I try; in fact, I've never tried to overcome it because I believe such attempts are pointless and, to me, seem sinful and unnatural.”—Krafft-Ebing, “Psychopathia Sexualis,” 7th edition, “case” No. 122, p. 291. Stuttgart, 1892.
“I can no longer exist without men’s love; without such I must ever remain at strife with myself.… If marriage between men existed I believe I should not be afraid of a life-long union—a thing which with a woman seems to be something impossible.… Since, however, this kind of love is reckoned criminal, by its satisfaction I can be at harmony with myself but never with the world, and necessarily in consequence must ever be somewhat out of tune; and all the more so because my character is open, and I hate lies of all kinds. This torment, to have always to conceal everything, has forced me to confess my anomaly to a few friends, of whose understanding and reticence I am sure. Although oftentimes my condition seems to me sad enough, by reason of the difficulty of satisfaction and the general contempt of manly love, yet I am often just a little proud on account of having150 these anomalous feelings. Naturally, I shall never marry—but this seems to me by no means a misfortune, although I am fond of family life, and up to now have passed my time only among my own relations. I live in the hope that later I shall have a permanent loved one; such indeed I must have, else would the future seem gray and drear, and every object which folk usually pursue—honour, high position, etc.—only vain and unattractive.
“I can’t imagine living without the love of men; without that, I’ll always be in conflict with myself.… If marriage were possible between men, I believe I wouldn't fear a lifelong commitment—something that seems impossible with a woman.… However, since this kind of love is considered wrong, I can find peace within myself only by suppressing it, but I’ll never be in sync with the world, which means I’ll always feel a bit out of place; and even more so because I’m an open person, and I can’t stand any form of dishonesty. This struggle, constantly having to hide everything, has led me to share my situation with a few friends, whom I trust to understand and keep it to themselves. Although I often feel sad about my situation due to the difficulty in finding fulfillment and the general disdain for male love, I also take a little pride in having150 these unique feelings. Naturally, I will never marry—but I don’t see that as a misfortune, even though I love family life, and until now, I’ve spent my time only with my own relatives. I hope that someday I’ll have a permanent partner; I need that, or my future would look dull and bleak, and everything people usually chase—like honor or high status—would seem pointless and unappealing.”
“Should this hope not be fulfilled, I know that I should be unable, permanently and with pleasure, to give myself to my calling, and that I should be capable of setting aside everything in order to gain the love of a man. I feel no longer any moral scruples on account of my anomalous leaning, and generally have never been troubled because I felt myself drawn to youths.… Up to now it has only seemed to me bad and immoral to do that which is injurious to another, or which I would not wish done to myself, and in this respect I can say that I try as much as possible not to infringe on the rights of others, and am capable of being violently roused by any injustice done to others.”—Ibid, p. 249, “case” No. 110 (official in a factory, age 31).
“Should this hope not be realized, I know I wouldn’t be able to fully commit to my career, and I could easily set everything aside to win a man's love. I no longer feel any moral objections about my unusual preference and, honestly, I’ve never felt troubled by being attracted to younger people. Until now, I’ve only considered it wrong and immoral to do something that harms another or that I wouldn’t want done to me. In that sense, I can honestly say I try my best not to violate others’ rights, and I can become very upset by any injustice inflicted on others.” —Ibid, p. 249, “case” No. 110 (official in a factory, age 31).
“My thoughts are by no means exclusively of the body or morbidly sensual. How often at the sight of a handsome youth does a deeply enthusiastic mood come upon me, and I offer a prayer, so to speak, in the glorious words of Heine—”Du bist wie eine151 Blume, so hold, so schön, so rein“.… Never has a young man yet guessed my love for him, I have never corrupted or damaged the morals of one, but for many have I here and there smoothed their pathway; and then I stick at no trouble and make sacrifices such as I can only make for them.
“My thoughts aren’t just focused on the body or overly sensual. How often, when I see a handsome young man, does a deeply passionate feeling wash over me, and I find myself offering a prayer, in a way, with the beautiful words of Heine—”Du bist wie eine151 Blume, so hold, so schön, so rein“.… No young man has ever realized my love for him; I’ve never corrupted or harmed anyone's morals, but I've helped many improve their paths. I don’t hesitate to put in effort and make sacrifices that I can only make for them.
“When thus I have a chance to have a loved friend near me, to teach, to support and help, when my unconfest love finds a loving response (though naturally not sexual), then all the unclean images fade more and more from my mind. Then does my love become almost platonic, and lifts itself up—only to sink again in the mire, when it is deprived of its proper activity.
“When I get the chance to have a dear friend close by, to teach, support, and help me, when my unacknowledged love finds a loving response (though not of a sexual nature), then all the impure thoughts start to fade from my mind. My love becomes almost platonic and rises up—only to sink back down when it lacks its rightful expression.”
“For the rest, I am—and I can say it without boasting—not one of the worst of men. Mentally more sensitive than most average folk, I take interest in everything that moves mankind. I am kindly-disposed, tender, and easily moved to pity, can do no injury to any animal, certainly not to a human being, but on the contrary am active in a human-friendly way, where and however I can.
“For the rest, I am—and I can say this without bragging—not one of the worst people. Mentally more sensitive than most average folks, I have a genuine interest in everything that affects humanity. I am kind-hearted, compassionate, and easily moved to compassion; I can't harm any animal, definitely not a human being. Instead, I actively try to help others whenever and however I can.”
“Though then before my own conscience I cannot reproach myself, and though I must certainly reject the judgment of the world about us, yet I suffer greatly. In very truth I have injured no one; and I hold my love in its nobler activity for just as holy as that of normally disposed men, but under the unhappy fate that allows us neither sufferance nor recognition, I suffer often more than my life can bear.”—Ibid, p. 268, “case” No. 114.
“Even though I can’t blame myself in my own conscience, and I definitely dismiss the judgment of the world about us, I still suffer a lot. The truth is, I haven't harmed anyone; I see my love as just as pure in its noblest form as that of people who are normally balanced. But due to the unfortunate circumstances that grant us neither tolerance nor acknowledgment, I often suffer more than I can handle.” —Ibid, p. 268, “case” No. 114.
“To depict all the misery, all the unfortunate situations, the constant dread of being found out in one’s peculiarity and of becoming impossible in society—to give an idea of all this is truly more than pen or words can compass. The very thought, so soon as it arises, of losing one’s social existence and of being rejected by everybody is more torment than can be imagined. In such a case, everything, everything would be forgotten that one had ever done in the way of good; in the consciousness of his lofty morality every normally disposed man would puff himself up, however frivolously he might really have acted in the matter of his love. I know many such normal folk whose unworthy conception of their love is indeed hard for me to understand.”—Ibid, p. 269.
“To explain all the misery, all the unfortunate situations, the constant fear of being discovered for one’s differences and becoming outcasts in society—conveying all this is truly beyond what words can express. Just the thought of losing one’s social life and being rejected by everyone is more painful than one can imagine. In such a situation, everything, absolutely everything good that one has ever done would be forgotten; in the awareness of his high moral standards, every typically well-adjusted person would inflate their sense of self, no matter how frivolously they might have acted in matters of love. I know many such typical people whose unworthy view of love is indeed difficult for me to understand.” —Ibid, p. 269.
“The torturing images of betrayed love prevent my sleeping, so that I am forced, now and again, to have recourse to chloral. My dreams are only a continuation of actual life, and just as painful. How all this will end I really know not; but I suppose these root-emotions must take their own course.… The only reasonable end of the struggle is Death.”—A. Moll, “Conträre Sexualempfindung,” 2nd edition, p. 123 (quotation from a letter).
“The agonizing images of betrayed love keep me awake, so I’m occasionally forced to rely on chloral. My dreams are just a continuation of real life, and just as painful. I really don’t know how all this will end; but I guess these deep emotions have to run their course.… The only logical outcome of the struggle is Death.”—A. Moll, “Conträre Sexualempfindung,” 2nd edition, p. 123 (quotation from a letter).
“Weary and worn, I have passed through every tempest of anguish and despair. Years of the most racking mental agony have gone over my head without killing me. Through the long night watches I have heard the unceasing hours toll. Sleep has never been153 thought of by me, but I have lain on my bed trying to read some book, or have knelt by my bedside and endeavoured to raise my heart and spirit in prayer for succour or forgiveness. At last, unable to hold out any longer, with mouth tight-closed and knitted brow the Charmer has deadened my senses for one or two brief hours; but only that I may wake to a stronger and clearer perception of my hopeless condition.
"Weary and worn, I have been through every storm of anguish and despair. Years of intense mental suffering have passed over me without killing me. During the long nights, I've heard the constant tolling of the hours. Sleep has never crossed my mind; I’ve just lain in bed trying to read some book or knelt by my bedside, trying to raise my heart and spirit in prayer for help or forgiveness. Finally, unable to hold on any longer, with my mouth tightly closed and my brow furrowed, the Charmer has dulled my senses for a brief hour or two; but only so I wake with a stronger and clearer awareness of my hopeless situation."
“How the days have got on I know not. How I can have lived so long through such misery I know not. But torture like this is cruelly slow, whilst it is sure. It is the nature of youth to be long-enduring where Love is put to the test and a kind of occasional flicker—a kind of mocking semblance of hope, as like to hope as the rushing meteor is to the enduring sun—helps to support the load of misery, and so to prolong it. I am hundreds of years old in this my wretchedness of every moment. I cannot battle against Love and crush it out—never! God has implanted the necessity of the sentiment in my heart; it is scarce possible not to ask oneself why has He implanted so divine an element in my nature, which is doomed to die unsatisfied, which is destined in the end to be my very death?”—From a manuscript left to the Author by an Urning.
“How the days have gone by, I don't know. How I've managed to live so long through this misery, I can't tell. But suffering like this is torturously slow, even though it's certain. It's in the nature of youth to endure for a long time when love is tested, and a fleeting glimmer—a mocking hint of hope, similar to how a shooting star compares to the steady sun—helps carry the weight of misery, thus extending it. I feel like I'm hundreds of years old in this endless wretchedness. I can't fight against love and extinguish it—never! God has placed the need for love in my heart; it seems almost impossible not to wonder why He has embedded such a divine aspect in my being, which is doomed to remain unfulfilled, ultimately destined to lead to my very demise?”—From a manuscript left to the Author by an Urning.
H. Ellis, in Appendix D. of his book on “Sexual Inversion,” speaks at some length on the School-friendships of girls: what they call “Flames” and “Raves”; of love at first sight; romance; courtship; meetings despite all obstacles; long letters; jealousy;154 the writing the beloved’s name everywhere, etc. These alliances are sometimes sexual, but oftener not so—though full of “psychic erethism.”
H. Ellis, in Appendix D of his book on “Sexual Inversion,” discusses in detail the friendships between girls, which they refer to as “Flames” and “Raves.” He covers topics like love at first sight, romance, courtship, sneaking in meetings despite all obstacles, writing long letters, and feeling jealous;154 as well as the tendency to write the name of the beloved everywhere, and so on. These relationships can be sexual but are often not—though they are filled with “psychic erethism.”
In the same Appendix he quotes a woman of thirty-three, who writes, “At fourteen I had my first case of love, but it was with a girl. It was insane, intense love, but had the same quality and sensations as my first love with a man at eighteen. In neither case was the object idealized: I was perfectly aware of their faults; nevertheless, my whole being was lost, immersed, in their existence. The first lasted two years, the second seven years. No love has since been so intense, but now these two persons, though living, are no more to me than the veriest stranger.”
In the same Appendix, he quotes a thirty-three-year-old woman who writes, “At fourteen, I experienced my first love, and it was with a girl. It was crazy, intense love, but it had the same feelings and sensations as my first love with a man when I was eighteen. In both cases, I didn’t idealize them; I was completely aware of their flaws. Still, I was fully absorbed in their existence. The first relationship lasted two years, the second lasted seven years. No love since has been so intense, but now those two people, even though they are alive, mean no more to me than a complete stranger.”
Another woman of thirty-five writes, “Girls between the ages of fourteen and eighteen at college or girls’ schools often fall in love with the same sex. This is not friendship. The loved one is older, more advanced, more charming or beautiful. When I was a freshman in college I knew at least thirty girls who were in love with a senior. Some sought her because it was the fashion, but I knew that my own homage and that of many others was sincere and passionate. I loved her because she was brilliant and utterly indifferent to the love shown her. She was not pretty, though at the time we thought her beautiful. One of her adorers, on being slighted, was ill for two weeks. On her return she was speaking to me when the object of our admiration came into the room. The shock was too great,155 and she fainted. When I reached the senior year I was the recipient of languishing glances, original verses, roses, and passionate letters written at midnight and three in the morning.”
Another woman in her thirties writes, “Girls between the ages of fourteen and eighteen in college or girls’ schools often fall in love with other girls. This isn't just friendship. The one they admire is older, more accomplished, more charming or beautiful. When I was a freshman in college, I knew at least thirty girls who were in love with a senior. Some were drawn to her because it was trendy, but I knew my own affection and that of many others was genuine and intense. I loved her because she was brilliant and completely uninterested in the love we showed her. She wasn't traditionally pretty, but at the time we thought she was beautiful. One of her admirers, feeling neglected, became ill for two weeks. When she came back, we were talking when the object of our admiration walked into the room. The shock was too much,155 and she fainted. By the time I reached my senior year, I was receiving longing looks, original poems, roses, and passionate letters written at midnight and three in the morning.”
“Passionate friendships among girls, from the most innocent to the most elaborate excursions in the direction of Lesbos, are extremely common in theatres, both among actresses, and even more among chorus and ballet-girls.”—Havelock Ellis, “Sexual Inversion,” p. 130.
“Intense friendships among girls, ranging from the most innocent to more elaborate adventures towards Lesbos, are very common in theaters, both among actresses and even more so among chorus and ballet girls.”—Havelock Ellis, “Sexual Inversion,” p. 130.
“The love of homosexual women is often very passionate, as is that of Urnings. Just like these, the former often feel themselves blessed when they love happily. Nevertheless, to many of them, as to the Urning, is the circumstance very painful that in consequence of their antipathy to the touch of the male they are not in the position to found a family. Sometimes, when the love of a homosexual woman is not responded to, serious disturbances of the nerve-system may ensue, leading even to paroxysms of fury.”—A. Moll, op. cit., p. 338.
“The love of queer women is often really passionate, just like that of Urnings. Much like these individuals, they often feel truly blessed when they love happily. However, for many of them, just like for the Urning, it is very painful that because of their aversion to male touch, they are unable to start a family. Sometimes, when a queer woman's love isn’t reciprocated, it can lead to serious nerve system issues, even causing outbursts of anger.”—A. Moll, op. cit., p. 338.
“It is noteworthy how many inverted women have, with more or less fraud, been married to the woman of their choice, the couple living happily together for long periods. I know of one case, probably unique, in which the ceremony was gone through without any deception on any side; a congenitally inverted English woman of distinguished intellectual ability, now dead, was attached to the wife of a clergyman, who, in full156 cognisance of all the facts of the case, privately married the two ladies in his own church.”—Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 146, footnote.
“It’s interesting how many inverted women have, with varying degrees of deception, married the women they love, and the couples have lived happily together for long stretches of time. I know of one case, likely unique, where the ceremony took place without any dishonesty from either side; a naturally inverted English woman of notable intellectual talent, now deceased, was in a relationship with the wife of a clergyman who, fully aware of all the details, privately married the two women in his own church.”—Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 146, footnote.
“Seven or eight girls, we are told (in Montaigne’s ‘Journal du Voyage en Italie,’ 1350), belonging to Chaumont, resolved to dress and to work as men; one of these came to Vitry to work as a weaver, and was looked upon as a well-conditioned young man, and liked by everyone. At Vitry she became betrothed to a woman, but, a quarrel arising, no marriage took place. Afterwards, ‘she fell in love with a woman whom she married, and with whom she lived for four or five months, to the wife’s great contentment, it is said; but having been recognised by some one from Chaumont, and brought to justice, she was condemned to be hanged. She said she would even prefer this to living again as a girl, and was hanged for using illicit inventions to supply the defects of her sex’.”—Ibid, p. 119.
“Seven or eight girls, as we learn from Montaigne’s 'Journal du Voyage en Italie,' 1350, from Chaumont, decided to dress and work as men. One of them came to Vitry to work as a weaver and was seen as a well-built young man, liked by everyone. In Vitry, she got engaged to a woman, but when a dispute arose, the marriage didn’t happen. Later, she fell in love with a woman whom she married, and they lived together for four or five months, much to the wife’s satisfaction, or so it’s said. However, she was recognized by someone from Chaumont and was brought to trial, where she was sentenced to be hanged. She reportedly said she would rather face this than live again as a girl, and she was hanged for using forbidden methods to overcome the limitations of her gender.” —Ibid, p. 119.
“It is evident that there must be some radical causes for the frequency of homosexuality among prostitutes. One such cause doubtless lies in the character of the prostitute’s relations with men; these relations are of a professional character, and, as the business element becomes emphasized, the possibility of sexual satisfaction diminishes; at the best also there lacks the sense of social equality, the feeling of possession, and scope for the exercise of feminine affection and devotion.”—Ibid, p. 149.
“It is clear that there must be some fundamental reasons for the high rate of homosexuality among prostitutes. One reason likely stems from the nature of the prostitute’s interactions with men; these interactions are professional, and as the business aspect becomes more prominent, the chance for sexual satisfaction decreases. Additionally, there is often a lack of social equality, feelings of possession, and opportunities for expressing feminine affection and devotion.” —Ibid, p. 149.
“Among the inscribed prostitutes of Berlin there are without doubt a great number who honour the love of women. I am told from well-informed sources, that about twenty-five per cent. of the prostitutes of Berlin have relations with other women.”—A. Moll, op. cit., p. 331.
“Among the registered prostitutes of Berlin, there are definitely a significant number who appreciate loving women. I’ve heard from reliable sources that about twenty-five percent of the prostitutes in Berlin have relationships with other women.” —A. Moll, op. cit., p. 331.
“Karl Heinrich Ulrichs (born in 1825 near Aurich), who for many years expounded and defended homosexual love, and whose views are said to have had some influence in drawing Westphal’s attention to the matter, was a Hanoverian legal official (Amts-assessor), himself sexually inverted. From 1864 onward, at first under the name of ‘Numa Numantius,’ and subsequently under his own name, Ulrichs published in various parts of Germany a long series of works dealing with this question, and made various attempts to obtain a revision of the legal position of the sexual invert in Germany.
“Karl Heinrich Ulrichs (born in 1825 near Aurich), who spent many years advocating for and defending homosexual love, and whose ideas are believed to have influenced Westphal's attention to the issue, was a legal official from Hanover (Amts-assessor), who identified as a sexual minority himself. Starting in 1864, initially under the pseudonym 'Numa Numantius' and later under his own name, Ulrichs published a long series of works across different parts of Germany addressing this topic, and he made several attempts to change the legal status of sexual minorities in Germany.”
“Although not a writer whose psychological views can carry much scientific weight, Ulrichs appears to have been a man of most brilliant ability, and his knowledge is said to have been of almost universal extent; he was not only well-versed in his own special subjects of jurisprudence and theology, but in many branches of natural science, as well as in archæology; he was also regarded by many as the best Latinist of his time. In 1880 he left Germany and settled in Naples, and afterwards at Aquila in the Abruzzi, whence he issued a Latin periodical. He died in 1895.”—Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 33.
“While Ulrichs may not be a writer whose psychological ideas hold much scientific credibility, he seems to have been an extraordinarily talented individual with broad knowledge across various fields. He was proficient not only in his main areas of expertise—jurisprudence and theology—but also well-informed in many branches of natural science and archaeology; many even considered him the best Latin scholar of his time. In 1880, he left Germany and moved to Naples, later settling in Aquila in the Abruzzi, where he published a Latin periodical. He passed away in 1895.”—Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 33.
Ulrichs enters into an elaborate classification of
human types, with a corresponding nomenclature,
which, though somewhat ponderous, has been of use.
Among males, for instance, he distinguishes the quite
normal man, whom he calls “Dioning,” from the invert,
whom he calls “Urning.” Among Urnings, again,
he distinguishes (1) those who are thoroughly manly
in appearance and in mental habit and character
(“Mannlings”), and who tend to love softer and
younger specimens of their own sex; (2) those who
are effeminate in appearance and cast of mind (“Weiblings”),
and who love rougher and older men; and
(3) those who are of a medium type (“Zwischen
Urnings”) and love young men. Then again there is
the “Urano-dioning,” who is born with a capacity
of love in both directions, i.e., for women and for men.
He is generally of the manly type. And besides these,
some sub-species, like the “Uraniaster,” who is a normal
man who has contracted the Urning habit, and
the “Virilised Urning,” who is an Urning who has
contracted the normal habit, though this is not really
natural to him! The whole may be set out in a table
as follows:—
Ulrichs presents a complex classification of human types, complete with a specific terminology that, while a bit heavy, has proven useful. Among males, for example, he differentiates the typical man, whom he names “Dioning,” from the invert, referred to as “Urning.” Within the Urnings, he further categorizes them into: (1) those who present a strong masculine appearance and mentality (“Mannlings”), who tend to be attracted to softer, younger versions of their own sex; (2) those with a more effeminate appearance and mindset (“Weiblings”), who prefer rougher, older men; and (3) those who fall in between (“Zwischen Urnings”) and are attracted to young men. Additionally, there’s the “Urano-dioning,” who has the ability to love both women and men, typically embodying a masculine type. Beyond these, there are some subcategories, such as the “Uraniaster,” a normal man who has developed the Urning inclination, and the “Virilised Urning,” an Urning who has adopted typical male behaviors, even though it doesn't come naturally to him! The entire classification can be summarized in a table as follows:—
The Human Male | ⎛ ⎢ ⎢ ⎢ ⎢ ⎢ ⎢ ⎝ |
(a) Normal Man or Dioning—called Uraniaster when he acquires Urning tendencies. (a) Normal Man or Dioning—called Uraniaster when he develops Urning tendencies. |
||
(b) Urning | ⎛ ⎢ ⎢ ⎢ ⎝ |
1. Mannling. | ||
2. Zwischen-Urning. | ||||
3. Weibling. | ||||
4. Also called Virilised Urning when he acquires the normal habit. 4. Also known as Virilised Urning when he adopts the typical behavior. |
||||
(c) Urano-dioning. |
If we add to this a corresponding table for the female we shall have an idea of the complication of Ulrichs’ system! Yet, complex as it is, and whatever criticisms we may make upon it, we must allow that it does not exceed the complexity of the real facts of Nature. (See K. H. Ulrichs’ “Memnon,” ch. iii.-v.)
If we also create a similar table for females, we'll get a sense of the complexity of Ulrichs' system! However, as complicated as it is, and no matter what critiques we may have, we have to admit that it doesn’t go beyond the complexity of actual nature. (See K.H. Ulrichs’ “Memnon,” ch. iii.-v.)
Krafft-Ebing’s analysis of the subject is fully as
elaborate as that of Ulrichs. It is given by J. A.
Symonds in the form of a table, as follows:—
Krafft-Ebing's analysis of the subject is just as detailed as Ulrichs'. It is presented by J.A. Symonds in the form of a table, as follows:—
Sexual Inversion | ⎛ ⎢ ⎢ ⎢ ⎢ ⎝ |
||||
Acquired | ⎛ ⎢ ⎝ |
Persistent. | |||
Episodical. | |||||
Congenital | ⎛ ⎢ ⎢ ⎢ ⎝ |
Psychic Hermaphrodites. | |||
Urnings | ⎛ ⎝ |
Male Habitus (Mannlings). | |||
Female Habitus (Weiblings). | |||||
Androgyni. |
And Symonds continues:—“What is the rational
explanation of the facts presented to us by the analysis
which I have formulated in this table, cannot as yet be
thoroughly determined. We do not know enough
about the law of sex in human beings to advance a
theory. Krafft-Ebing and writers of his school are
at present inclined to refer them all to diseases of the
nervous centres, inherited, congenital, excited by
early habits of self-abuse. The inadequacy of this
method I have already attempted to set forth; and
I have also called attention to the fact that it does not
sufficiently account for the phenomena known to us
through history and through every-day experience.”
[It should be noted that in later editions of his book
Krafft-Ebing considerably modifies the view that these160
sex-variations all indicate disease.]—“A Problem in
Modern Ethics,” p. 46.
And Symonds continues:—“What the rational explanation of the facts presented in the analysis I've outlined in this table is, can't yet be fully determined. We don't know enough about the laws of human sexuality to propose a theory. Krafft-Ebing and writers from his perspective currently tend to attribute everything to diseases of the nervous system, whether inherited, congenital, or triggered by early habits of self-abuse. I've already tried to show how insufficient this approach is; I've also pointed out that it doesn't adequately explain the phenomena known to us through history and everyday experience.” [It should be noted that in later editions of his book, Krafft-Ebing significantly revises the view that these160 sexual variations all signify disease.]—“A Problem in Modern Ethics,” p. 46.
Moll, speaking of the act so commonly credited to Urnings (sodomy), says:—“The common assumption is that the intercourse of Urnings consists in this. But it is a great error to suppose that this act is so frequent among them.”—A. Moll, op. cit., p. 139.
Moll, discussing the act often attributed to Urnings (sodomy), states: “The general belief is that the sexual relations of Urnings involve this. However, it's a significant mistake to think that this act occurs so often among them.” —A. Moll, op. cit., p. 139.
And Krafft-Ebing also speaks of it as rare among true Urnings, though not uncommon among old roués and debauchees of more normal temperament.—“Psychopathia Sexualis,” 7th edition, p. 258.
And Krafft-Ebing also mentions that it is rare among true Urnings, although it's not uncommon among older playboys and debauchees with more typical temperaments.—“Psychopathia Sexualis,” 7th edition, p. 258.
“The Urning denies not only the ‘unnaturalness’ of his leanings, but also their pathological character; he protests against comparison with the lame and the deaf. The occasional coincidence of sexual inversion with other really morbid conditions settles nothing, nor is the reminder that it is antagonistic to the purpose of race-propagation a proof; for who can assure us that Nature has intended all people for race-propagation? Even to the worker-bee Nature has not granted this function, although in her stunted female sex-organs there exists an undeniable indication or suggestion of sex-feeling.”—A. Moll, op. cit., p. 271. (From a letter by a sixty year old Urning.)
“The Urning not only rejects the idea that his feelings are ‘unnatural,’ but also denies that they are pathological; he objects to being compared to the lame and the deaf. The occasional overlap of sexual inversion with other genuinely unhealthy conditions proves nothing, nor is the fact that it contradicts the goal of reproduction evidence enough; who can say that Nature has intended everyone for reproduction? Even worker bees don’t have this role, despite their underdeveloped female sex organs that clearly suggest some form of sexual feeling.”—A. Moll, op. cit., p. 271. (From a letter by a sixty-year-old Urning.)
“Homosexuality, therefore, might be described as an abnormal variety of the sex-impulse, but hardly as a morbid variety. If you like, it might be termed an161 arrest of development or a kind of reversion. And this is quite in accord with the fact that the best experts in the subject have so far not discovered more psychic abnormalities among homosexuals than among heterosexuals—nor more degeneracy or signs of degeneracy.”—Consulting-Physician Dr. Paul Naecke, in Der Tag, 26th Oct., 1907.
“Homosexuality, then, could be described as an unusual form of the sexual drive, but hardly as an unhealthy one. If you prefer, it could be seen as a161halt in development or a sort of regression. This aligns with the fact that the leading experts in the field have not found more psychological issues among homosexuals than among heterosexuals—nor have they found more degeneracy or signs of degeneracy.”—Consulting-Physician Dr. Paul Naecke, in Der Tag, 26th Oct., 1907.
“As a result of these considerations Ulrichs concludes that there is no real ground for the persecution of Urnings except such as may be found in the repugnance felt by the vast numerical majority for an insignificant minority. The majority encourages matrimony, condones seduction, sanctions prostitution, legalises divorce, in the interest of its own sexual proclivities. It makes temporary or permanent unions illegal for the minority whose inversion of instinct it abhors. And this persecution, in the popular mind at any rate, is justified, like many other inequitable acts of prejudice or ignorance, by theological assumptions and the so-called mandates of revelation.”—“A Problem in Modern Ethics,” p. 83.
“As a result of these considerations, Ulrichs concludes that there’s no real reason for the persecution of Urnings except for the dislike felt by the vast majority for this small minority. The majority supports marriage, overlooks seduction, accepts prostitution, and legalizes divorce to serve its own sexual interests. It makes temporary or permanent unions illegal for the minority, whose different instincts it finds repulsive. This persecution, at least in the popular view, is justified—like many other unfair acts rooted in prejudice or ignorance—by religious beliefs and the so-called mandates of revelation.” —“A Problem in Modern Ethics,” p. 83.
“We understand by ‘homosexual’ a person who feels himself drawn to individuals of the same sex by feelings of real love. Whether or not he acts in accordance with this homosexual feeling is, from the scientific standpoint, beside the question. Just as there are normal folk who live chastely, so there are homosexual persons whose love bears a distinctly psychic, ideal and ‘platonic’ character.…
“We define ‘homosexual’ as someone who is attracted to individuals of the same sex with genuine feelings of love. Whether or not they act on these homosexual feelings is not the main point from a scientific perspective. Just like there are straight people who choose to live celibately, there are homosexual individuals whose love is distinctly emotional, ideal, and ‘platonic’ in nature.”
“The feminine impress, in the case of homosexual men, is in general best indicated by the presence of greater sensitiveness and receptivity, also by the dominance of the emotional life, by a strong artistic sense, especially in the direction of music, often too by a tendency to mysticism, and by various inclinations and habits feminine in the good or less good sense of the word. This blending of temperament, however, does not make the homosexual as such a less worthy person. He is indeed not of the same nature as the heterosexual, but he is of equal worth.”—Dr M. Hirschfeld’s evidence as medical specialist in the Moltké-Harden trial.
“The feminine impression in homosexual men is usually best reflected in their heightened sensitivity and openness, a strong emotional depth, an appreciation for art—especially music—as well as a tendency toward mysticism, along with various inclinations and habits that are considered feminine, whether positively or negatively. This mix of traits, however, does not make homosexuals any less worthy as individuals. While they may not share the same nature as heterosexuals, they hold equal value.” —Dr M. Hirschfeld's evidence as a medical specialist in the Moltké-Harden trial.
“One serious objection to recognising and tolerating sexual inversion has always been that it tends to check the population. This was a sound political and social argument in the time of Moses, when a small militant tribe needed to multiply to the full extent of its procreative capacity. It is by no means so valid in our age, when the habitable portions of the globe are rapidly becoming overcrowded. Moreover, we must bear in mind that society under the existing order sanctions female prostitution, whereby men and women, though normally procreative, are sterilized to an indefinite extent.”—J. A. Symonds, “A Problem in Modern Ethics,” p. 82.
“One serious objection to recognizing and accepting sexual inversion has always been that it tends to reduce the population. This was a valid political and social argument during the time of Moses, when a small, militant tribe needed to grow to its full reproductive potential. It’s no longer as relevant in our age, when the livable parts of the world are quickly becoming overcrowded. Furthermore, we must remember that society under the current system supports female prostitution, which leads to both men and women, who are normally capable of reproducing, being sterilized to an indefinite extent.”—J.A. Symonds, “A Problem in Modern Ethics,” p. 82.
“Before Justinian, both Constantine and Theodosius passed laws against sexual inversion, committing the163 offenders to ‘avenging flames.’ But these statutes were not rigidly enforced, and modern opinion on the subject may be said to flow from Justinian’s legislation. Opinion, in matters of custom and manners, always follows law. Though Imperial edicts could not eradicate a passion which is inherent in human nature, they had the effect of stereotyping extreme punishments in all the codes of Christian nations, and of creating a permanent social antipathy.”—Ibid, p. 13.
“Before Justinian, both Constantine and Theodosius made laws against sexual inversion, sentencing the163 offenders to ‘avenging flames.’ However, these laws were not strictly enforced, and modern views on the topic can be traced back to Justinian’s regulations. Public opinion, regarding customs and behaviors, generally aligns with the law. Although Imperial decrees couldn’t eliminate a passion that is part of human nature, they did institutionalize harsh punishments across all codes of Christian nations and foster a lasting social aversion.”—Ibid, p. 13.
“Our modern attitude is sometimes traced back to the Jewish Law and its survival in St. Paul’s opinion on this matter. But the Jewish Law itself had a foundation. Wherever the enlargement of the population becomes a strongly-felt social need—as it was among the Jews in their exaltation of family life, and as it was when the European populations were constituted—there homosexuality has been regarded as a crime, even punishable with death.… It was in the fourth century at Rome that the strong modern opposition to it was formulated in law. The Roman race had long been decaying; sexual perversions of all kinds flourished; the population was dwindling. At the same time Christianity with its Judaic-Pauline antagonism to homosexuality was rapidly spreading. The statesmen of the day, anxious to quicken the failing pulses of national life, utilised this powerful Christian feeling. Constantine, Theodosius, Valentinian, all passed laws against homosexuality—the last, at all events, ordaining as a penalty the vindices flammæ.” Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 206.
“Our modern perspective is sometimes linked to Jewish Law and St. Paul’s views on this issue. However, Jewish Law itself had a basis. Whenever the growth of the population is seen as a pressing social necessity—as it was among the Jews who valued family life, and as it was when European populations formed—homosexuality has been viewed as a crime, even punishable by death. It was in the fourth century in Rome that a strong modern legal opposition to it was established. The Roman population had been in decline for a long time; various sexual perversions thrived; the population was decreasing. Meanwhile, Christianity, with its Judaic-Pauline opposition to homosexuality, was spreading quickly. The leaders of the time, eager to revive the weakened national spirit, harnessed this strong Christian sentiment. Constantine, Theodosius, Valentinian—all enacted laws against homosexuality; the last, in any case, prescribing the penalty of vindices flammæ.” Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 206.
“At the present time, shoemakers, who make shoes to measure, deal more rationally with individuals than our teachers and school-masters do, in their application to moral principles. The sexually intermediate forms of individuals are treated exactly as if they were good examples of the ideal male or female types. There is wanted an ‘orthopædic’ treatment of the soul, instead of the torture caused by the application of ready-made conventional shapes. The present system stamps out much that is original, uproots much that is truly natural, and distorts much into artificial and unnatural forms.”—O. Weininger, “Sex and Character,” ch. v.
“At this time, shoemakers who craft custom shoes interact with people more sensibly than our teachers and educators do when it comes to applying moral principles. Individuals with non-binary sexual identities are treated as if they perfectly fit the ideal models of male or female types. What is needed is an 'orthopedic' approach to the soul, rather than the pain caused by forcing people into pre-made, conventional molds. The current system stifles much of what is original, uproots what is truly natural, and twists much into artificial and unnatural forms.” —O. Weininger, “Sex and Character,” ch. v.
“What is new in my view is that according to it homosexuality cannot be regarded as an atavism or as due to arrested embryonic development, or to incomplete differentiation of sex; it cannot be regarded as an anomaly of rare occurrence interpolating itself in customary complete separation of the sexes. Homosexuality is merely the sexual condition of those intermediate sexual forms that stretch from one ideal sexual condition to the other ideal sexual condition. In my view, all actual organisms have both homosexuality and heterosexuality.”—O. Weininger, “Sex and Character,” ch. iv.
“What is new in my opinion is that, according to this view, homosexuality cannot be seen as something primitive or a result of incomplete development, nor as a rare anomaly that disrupts the usual separation of the sexes. Homosexuality is simply the sexual state of the various forms that exist between one ideal sexual type and another. In my view, all living organisms possess both homosexuality and heterosexuality.” —O. Weininger, “Sex and Character,” ch. iv.
“How is it then that in our age reputed so philanthropic, whole classes of men, on account of inborn mental abnormalities, are marked down and banned, frantically persecuted, publicly branded, and threatened with the severest legal penalties? Any one would165 hardly believe what gross cases of justiciary murder, morally speaking, still take place in this matter even at the end of the nineteenth century. To the pitiful ignorance of the judges, to the thousand inherited prejudices of public opinion, as well as to the mental slavery of legislative bodies, must it be ascribed that the penal code of most civilised states is still in great measure formulated in the gloomy spirit of the Middle Ages.”—O. de Joux, “Die Enterbten des Liebesglückes,” p. 16.
“How is it that in our supposedly charitable age, entire groups of people, due to inherent mental differences, are still discriminated against, persecuted, publicly shamed, and threatened with harsh legal consequences? It's hard to believe that such blatant cases of judicial injustice, morally speaking, still occur even at the end of the nineteenth century. The ignorance of judges, the countless inherited biases of public opinion, and the mental constraints of legislative bodies contribute to the fact that the laws of most civilized countries are still largely shaped by the dark mindset of the Middle Ages.”—O. de Joux, “Die Enterbten des Liebesglückes,” p. 16.
“Up till now homosexual humanity has found itself in a peculiar position. Its mouth was closed, it could not speak. It was bound hand and foot and could not move. But now there has come an important change. Science has taken the part of these folk and defended their honour … I protest therefore earnestly that these men, whether by means of the Law or any other means, should no longer be branded in the name of Christianity.”—From a letter written by a Catholic priest in reply to a circular sent by the Humane-Science Committee of Berlin. (See “Jahrbuch der Sexuellen Zwischenstufen,” vol. ii., p. 177.)
“Until now, the LGBTQ+ community has found itself in a strange situation. Its voice was silenced, unable to speak out. It was restrained and unable to move. But now, a significant change has occurred. Science has taken a stand for these individuals and defended their dignity … I strongly protest that these people, whether through the Law or any other means, should no longer be stigmatized in the name of Christianity.”—From a letter written by a Catholic priest in response to a circular sent by the Humane-Science Committee of Berlin. (See “Jahrbuch der Sexuellen Zwischenstufen,” vol. ii., p. 177.)
“Thus the very basest of all trades, that of chantage [blackmailing] is encouraged by the law.… The miserable persecuted wretch, placed between the alternative of paying money down or of becoming socially impossible, losing a valued position, and seeing dishonour burst upon himself and family, pays; and still the more he pays the greedier becomes the vampire166 who sucks his life-blood, until at last there lies nothing else before him except total financial ruin or disgrace. Who will be astonished if the nerves of an individual in this position are not equal to the horrid strain? In some cases the nerves give way altogether.… Alter the law and instead of increasing vice you will diminish it. The temptation to ply a disgraceful profession with the object of extorting money would be removed.”—“A Problem in Modern Ethics,” pp. 56 and 86.
“Thus the very lowest of all trades, that of chantage [blackmailing], is supported by the law.… The miserable, persecuted individual, caught between the choice of paying up or becoming socially ostracized, losing a respected position, and facing shame for himself and his family, pays; and the more he pays, the greedier the vampire166 who drains his life-force becomes, until ultimately he faces nothing but total financial ruin or disgrace. Who would be surprised if the nerves of someone in this situation can’t handle the terrible pressure? In some cases, the nerves shatter completely.… Change the law, and instead of increasing vice, you'll reduce it. The temptation to engage in a disgraceful profession for the purpose of extorting money would be eliminated.”—“A Problem in Modern Ethics,” pp. 56 and 86.
“You will rightly infer that it is difficult for me to say exactly how I regard (morally) the homosexual tendency. Of this much, however, I am certain that even if it were possible I would not exchange my inverted nature for a normal one. I suspect that the sexual emotions and even inverted ones have a more subtle significance than is generally attributed to them; but modern moralists either fight shy of transcendental interpretations or see none, and I am ignorant and unable to solve the mystery these feelings seem to imply.”—Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 65, “case” ix.
“You can rightly guess that it’s hard for me to state exactly how I feel (morally) about the homosexual tendency. However, I’m certain of this: even if I could, I wouldn’t trade my inverted nature for a normal one. I think that sexual emotions, including inverted ones, have a deeper meaning than most people acknowledge; but modern moralists either avoid deep interpretations or don’t see any, and I’m not knowledgeable enough to solve the mystery that these feelings suggest.”—Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 65, “case” ix.
“I cannot regard my sexual feelings as unnatural or abnormal, since they have disclosed themselves so perfectly naturally and spontaneously within me. All that I have read in books or heard spoken about the ordinary sexual love, its intensity and passion, life-long devotion, love at first sight, etc., seems to me to be easily matched by my own experiences in homosexual167 form; and with regard to the morality of this complex subject, my feeling is that it is the same as should prevail in love between man and woman, namely: that no bodily satisfaction should be sought at the cost of another person’s distress or degradation. I am sure that this kind of love is, notwithstanding the physical difficulties that attend it, as deeply stirring and ennobling as the other kind, if not more so; and I think that for a perfect relationship the actual sex-gratifications (whatever they may be) probably hold a less important place in this love than in the other.”—Ibid, “case” vii., p. 58.
“I can't see my sexual feelings as unnatural or abnormal since they've emerged so naturally and spontaneously within me. Everything I've read in books or heard about typical sexual love—its intensity and passion, lifelong devotion, love at first sight, and so on—seems to be easily matched by my own experiences in homosexual form. Regarding the morality of this complex subject, I feel it's the same as what should apply to love between a man and a woman: that no physical satisfaction should come at the expense of another person's distress or degradation. I'm sure that this type of love is, despite the physical challenges that come with it, just as deeply moving and uplifting as the other kind, if not more so; and I believe that for a perfect relationship, the actual sexual gratifications (whatever they may be) probably play a less significant role in this love than in the other.” —Ibid, “case” vii., p. 58.
“I grew older, I entered my professional studies, and I was very diligent with them. I lived in a great capital, I moved much in general society. I had a large and lively group of friends. But always, over and over, I realised that, in the kernel, at the very root and fibre of myself, there was the throb and glow, the ebb and the surge, the seeking as in a vain dream to realise again that passion of friendship which could so far transcend the cold modern idea of the tie; the Over-Friendship, the Love-Friendship of Hellas, which meant that between man and man could exist—the sexual-psychic love. That was still possible! I knew that now. I had read it in the verses or the prose of the Greek or Latin or Oriental authors who have written out every shade of its beauty or unloveliness, its worth or debasement—from Theokritos to Martial, or Abu-Nuwas, to Platen, Michel-Angelo, Shakespeare. I had learned it from the statues of sculptors—in those168 lines so often vivid with a merely physical male beauty—works which beget, which sprang from, the sense of it in a race. I had half-divined it in the music of a Beethoven and a Tschaikowsky before knowing facts in the life-stories of either of them—or of an hundred other tone-autobiographists. And I had recognised what it all meant to most people to-day—from the disgust, scorn, and laughter of my fellow-men when such an emotion was hinted at.”—Imre: a memorandum, by Xavier Mayne, p. 110. Naples, R. Rispoli, 1906.
“I grew older, I started my professional studies, and I was very dedicated to them. I lived in a big city and socialized a lot. I had a large and lively group of friends. But time and again, I realized that deep down, at the core of my being, there was a pulse and warmth, the rise and fall, the yearning like a distant dream to once again capture that passion of friendship that could far exceed the cold modern concept of connection; the Over-Friendship, the Love-Friendship of Greece, which meant that between two men could exist—the sexual-psychic love. That was still possible! I knew that now. I had read about it in the poetry or prose of Greek, Roman, or Eastern authors who have captured every nuance of its beauty or ugliness, its value or degradation—from Theokritos to Martial, or Abu-Nuwas, to Platen, Michelangelo, Shakespeare. I had learned it from the sculptors’ statues—in those lines so often vibrant with a purely physical male beauty—works that emerged from the deep feeling in a culture. I had half-understood it in the music of Beethoven and Tchaikovsky before knowing the facts of their lives—or of a hundred other composers. And I recognized what it all meant to most people today—from the disgust, scorn, and laughter of my peers when such feelings were suggested.” —Imre: a memorandum, by Xavier Mayne, p. 110. Naples, R. Rispoli, 1906.
“Presently, during that same winter, accident opened my eyes wider to myself. Since then, I have needed no further knowledge from the Tree of my Good and Evil. I met with a mass of serious studies, German, Italian, French, English, from the chief European specialists and theorists on the similisexual topic; many of them with quite other views than those of my well-meaning but far too conclusive Yankee doctor (who had recommended marriage as a cure). I learned of the much-discussed theories of ‘secondary sexes’ and ‘intersexes.’ I learned of the theories and facts of homosexualism, of the Uranian Love, of the Uranian race, of the ‘Sex within a Sex.’ … I came to know their enormous distribution all over the world to-day; and of the grave attention that European scientists and jurists have been devoting to problems concerned with homosexualism. I could pursue intelligently the growing efforts to set right the public mind as to so ineradicable and misunderstood a phase of humanity.169 I realised that I had always been a member of that hidden brotherhood and Sub-Sex, or Super-Sex. In wonder too I informed myself of its deep instinctive freemasonries—even to organised ones—in every social class, every land, and every civilisation.”—Ibid, pp. 134, 135.
“During that same winter, an accident opened my eyes wider to who I am. Since then, I haven't needed any more knowledge from the Tree of my Good and Evil. I dove into serious studies—German, Italian, French, English—by the leading European experts and theorists on same-sex topics; many of them had very different views compared to my well-meaning but overly decisive American doctor (who suggested marriage as a solution). I learned about the widely debated theories of 'secondary sexes' and 'intersexes.' I explored the theories and facts about homosexuality, Uranian Love, the Uranian race, and the 'Sex within a Sex.' … I discovered their vast presence around the world today and the serious attention that European scientists and legal experts have been giving to issues related to homosexuality. I began to understand the growing efforts to correct public misconceptions about this deep-rooted and misunderstood aspect of humanity.169 I realized that I had always been part of that hidden brotherhood and Sub-Sex, or Super-Sex. In awe, I also learned about its profound instinctive connections—even organized ones—in every social class, every country, and every civilization.” —Ibid, pp. 134, 135.
“Thus in sexual inversion we have what may be fairly called a ‘sport’ or variation, one of those organic aberrations which we see throughout living nature, in plants and in animals.”… “All these organic variations which I have here mentioned to illustrate sexual inversion, are abnormalities. It is important that we should have a clear idea as to what abnormality is. Many people imagine that what is abnormal is necessarily diseased. That is not the case, unless we give the word disease an inconveniently and illegitimately wide extension. It is both inconvenient and inexact to speak of colour-blindness, criminality and genius as diseases in the same sense as we speak of scarlet fever, tuberculosis, or general paralysis as diseases.”—Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 186.
“Therefore, in sexual inversion, we have what could be reasonably described as a ‘sport’ or variation, one of those organic irregularities that we observe throughout living nature, in both plants and animals.”… “All these organic variations I’ve mentioned to illustrate sexual inversion are abnormalities. It’s essential that we have a clear understanding of what abnormality is. Many people think that what is abnormal is necessarily diseased. That’s not true, unless we give the term disease an unnecessarily and incorrectly broad definition. It is both impractical and inaccurate to categorize color-blindness, criminal behavior, and genius as diseases in the same way we refer to scarlet fever, tuberculosis, or general paralysis as diseases.”—Havelock Ellis, op. cit., p. 186.
“I have had for some time past a theory about this ‘Homogenic’ business—I do not suppose it is new—but it is that when man reaches a certain stage of development and approaches the totality of Human Nature, there gets to exist in him, though subordinately at first, a female element as well as a male. That is to say that as he passes the various barriers, he passes the170 barrier of sex too, on his way to become the complete Human—the Universal.”—From a private letter.
“I've been thinking for a while about this ‘Homogenic’ idea—I don’t think it’s a new one—but I believe that when a person reaches a certain level of development and comes closer to the full essence of Human Nature, they start to have, even if it's subtle at first, both a female and a male aspect within them. In other words, as they overcome different obstacles, they also transcend the barrier of gender on their journey to becoming a whole Human—the Universal.”—From a private letter.
“Great geniuses, men like Goethe, Shakespeare, Shelley, Byron, Darwin, all had the feminine soul very strongly developed in them.… As we are continually meeting in cities women who are one-quarter, or one-eighth, or so on, male … so there are in the Inner Self similar half-breeds, all adapting themselves to circumstances with perfect ease. The Greeks recognised that such a being could exist even in harmony with Nature, and so beautified and idealised it as Sappho.”—Charles G. Leland, “The Alternate Sex,” pp. 41, and 57. London, 1904.
“Great geniuses, like Goethe, Shakespeare, Shelley, Byron, and Darwin, all had a strong feminine side within them.… Just as we often encounter women in cities who are one-quarter or one-eighth male … there are similar mixed identities within the Inner Self, easily adapting to circumstances. The Greeks recognized that such a being could exist in harmony with Nature, and they celebrated and idealized it as Sappho.”—Charles G. Leland, “The Alternate Sex,” pp. 41, and 57. London, 1904.
“I have considered and inquired into this question for many years; and it has long been my settled conviction that no breach of morality is involved in homosexual love; that, like every other passion, it tends, when duly understood and controlled by spiritual feeling, to the physical and moral health of the individual and the race, and that it is only its brutal perversions which are immoral. I have known many persons more or less the subjects of this passion, and I have found them a particularly high-minded, upright, refined, and (I must add) pure-minded class of men.”—Communicated by Professor —— in Appendix to Havelock Ellis’s “Sexual Inversion,” p. 240.
“I have thought about and looked into this question for many years; and I have long believed that there is no moral violation in homosexual love. Like any other passion, when understood and guided by spiritual insight, it contributes to both the physical and moral well-being of the individual and society. It's only the violent distortions of it that are immoral. I’ve known many people who experience this passion, and I’ve found them to be a particularly noble, honest, refined, and (I must add) pure-minded group of men.” —Communicated by Professor — in Appendix to Havelock Ellis's “Sexual Inversion,” p. 240.
“What from the beginning struck me most, but171 now appears perfectly clear and indeed necessary is that among the homosexuals there is found the most remarkable class of men, namely, those whom I call supervirile. These men stand by virtue of the special variation of their soul-material, just as much above Man, as the normal sex man does above Woman. Such an individual is able to bewitch men by his soul-aroma, as they—though passively—bewitch him. But as he always lives in men’s society, and men, so to speak, sit at his feet, it comes about that such a supervirile often climbs the very highest steps of spiritual evolution, of social position, and of manly capacity. Hence it arises that the most famous names of the world and the history of culture stand rightly or wrongly on the list of homosexuals. Names like Alexander the Great, Socrates, Plato, Julius Cæsar, Michel Angelo, Charles XII. of Sweden, William of Orange, and so forth. Not only is this so, but it must be so. As certainly as a woman’s hero remains a spiritually inferior man, must a man’s hero—well be a man’s hero, if in any way he has the stuff for it.
“What struck me the most from the beginning, but now seems perfectly clear and actually necessary, is that among homosexuals, there exists a remarkable group of men, which I call supervirile. These men, due to their unique inner qualities, stand above Man just as the typical man stands above Woman. Such an individual can captivate men with his charisma, just as they—though in a passive way—captivate him. Since he lives among men, who essentially look up to him, it often leads to such a supervirile person reaching the highest levels of spiritual growth, social status, and masculinity. This is why many of the most renowned names in the world and cultural history are rightly or wrongly associated with homosexuality. Names like Alexander the Great, Socrates, Plato, Julius Cæsar, Michelangelo, Charles XII of Sweden, William of Orange, and others. Not only is this true, but it has to be true. Just as a woman's hero remains a spiritually lesser man, a man's hero—well has to be a man’s hero if he has the qualities for it.”
“Consequently the German penal code, in stamping homosexuality as a crime, puts the highest blossoms of humanity on the proscription list.”—Professor Dr. Jaeger, “Die Entdeckung der Seele,” pp. 268, 269.
“Because of this, the German penal code, by labeling homosexuality as a crime, places the greatest achievements of humanity on the prohibited list.”—Professor Dr. Jaeger, “Die Entdeckung der Seele,” pp. 268, 269.
“The licentious or garrulous or morbid types of inverts have been so honoured with publicity that the other types are even yet little known. The latter, in the maturity of their intellectual and moral nature,172 cease to look upon sex as the pivot of the universe. They cease to repine about their lot. They have their mission to fulfil here below, and they try to fulfil it as best they can. In the same way we find there are heterosexual (or normal) folk who at a certain stage of their growth free themselves from the sexual life.—M. A. Raffalovich, “Uranisme et Unisexualité,” p. 74.
“The indulgent, chatty, or morbid types of people who are attracted to the same sex have received so much attention that the other types are still not well known. The latter, as they develop their intellectual and moral character,172 stop seeing sex as the center of their world. They no longer complain about their situation. They have a purpose to fulfill in this life, and they try to do it as well as they can. Similarly, we find that heterosexual (or normal) individuals can, at a certain point in their lives, detach themselves from sexual activity.—M.A. Raffalovich, “Uranisme et Unisexualité,” p. 74.
“The well-bred, highly-cultured Urning is a complete Idealist; matter is for him only a symbol of thought, and the actual only the living expression of the Invisible.”—De Joux, “Die Enterbten des Liebesglückes,” p. 46.
“The well-bred, highly-cultured Urning is a complete Idealist; matter is just a symbol of thought for him, and the actual is merely the living expression of the Invisible.”—De Joux, “Die Enterbten des Liebesglückes,” p. 46.
“As nature and social law are so cruel as to impose a severe celibacy on him his whole being is consequently of astonishing freshness and superb purity, and his manners of life modest as those of a saint—a thing which, in the case of a man in blooming health and moving about in the world, is certainly very unusual.”—Ibid, p. 41.
“As nature and society are so harsh as to force him into a strict celibacy, he remains refreshingly pure and innocent. His lifestyle is as modest as that of a saint—which is quite unusual for a healthy man who is active in the world.” —Ibid, p. 41.
“If the soul of woman in its usual form represents a secret closed with seven seals, it is—when prisoned in the sturdy body of a man and fused with some of the motives of manhood, a far more enigmatic scripture of whose sibylline meaning one can never be really sure. Only the Urning can understand the Urning.”—Ibid, p. 63.
“If the essence of a woman usually symbolizes a secret held tight with seven locks, then when trapped in the strong body of a man and combined with some of his masculine drives, it becomes an even more complex text, with meanings that are never truly clear. Only the Urning can grasp the Urning.”—Ibid, p. 63.
“Because they (Urnings) themselves are of a very complex nature and put together of opposing elements, they seek out and love the simple, plain, and straightforward natures. Because they continually suffer from the rebellion of their desires against good taste and morals, they often long for a barbaric freedom. And because their every emotion is cut short, distracted, and worn out by the thousand doubts and suspicions of their Urning-minds, they gather to themselves men who are wont to live straight from feeling to action, and who work from untamed masterly instincts, as sure as the animals.”—Ibid, p. 97.
“Because they (Urnings) have a very complex nature made up of conflicting elements, they are drawn to and appreciate simple, straightforward people. They often struggle with the clash between their desires and societal norms, leading them to crave a more primal freedom. Additionally, their emotions are frequently interrupted, distracted, and exhausted by the many doubts and uncertainties of their Urning minds, prompting them to seek out individuals who act directly on their feelings and who operate from raw, instinctive drives, much like animals.” —Ibid, p. 97.
“It is true that we are often inferior to normal men in force of will, worldly wisdom, and sense of duty; but on the other hand, in depth and delicacy of feeling and every virtue of the heart, we are far superior. We cannot love women, but we lament with them, and help them on the hearth and by the cradle, in need and loneliness, as their most unselfish friends.… We do not despise women because they are weak, for we are much clearer-sighted, much less prejudiced than the so-called lords of creation, much nobler, more helpful, and just-minded than they.… Anyhow, if either of the sexes has cause to withhold its respect in any degree from the other—which has the most cause? Say what you will of them, the second and third sexes—women and Urnings—are ever so much better than the brutal egotistical Men, who to-day are plunged in grossest materialism; for, with whatever corruption, both the former are still of purer heart, easier kindled174 towards whatever is good, and more capable of genuine enthusiasm and love of their fellows, than the latter.”—Ibid, p. 204.
“It’s true that we often lack the willpower, street smarts, and sense of duty that normal men have; but on the flip side, when it comes to emotional depth, sensitivity, and every other virtue of the heart, we’re far superior. We can’t love women, but we empathize with them and support them at home and in raising children, during tough times and loneliness, as their most selfless friends.… We don’t look down on women for being weaker, because we have a clearer perspective and less bias than the so-called lords of creation; we’re much nobler, more helpful, and more fair than they are.… In any case, if either gender has a reason to lose respect for the other, which one has more reason? No matter how you view them, the second and third genders—women and Urnings—are so much better than the selfish, brutal Men, who are currently lost in the worst kind of materialism; because, despite any flaws, the former are still of purer heart, more easily inspired towards good, and more capable of genuine enthusiasm and love for others than the latter.”—Ibid, p. 204.
“Embodying as he does Love, Patience, Renunciation, Humility and Mildness, the Urning should seek to soothe with his gentle hand all hurts, and to heal all wounds, which are the results of weak Man’s original sinfulness. The tender emotions in his breast, his all too soft and easily troubled heart, his delicate sensitiveness and receptiveness of all that is lofty and pure, his mildness, goodness and inexhaustible patience—all these divine gifts of his soul point clearly to the conclusion that the great framer of the world meant to create in Urnings a noble priesthood, a race of Samaritans, a severely pure order of men, in order to offer a strong counterpoise to the immoral tendencies of the human race, which increase with its increasing culture.”—Ibid, p. 253.
“By embodying Love, Patience, Renunciation, Humility, and Mildness, the Urning should aim to soothe all hurts and heal every wound caused by humanity's original sinfulness. The tender emotions in his heart, alongside his overly gentle and easily troubled nature, his heightened sensitivity to everything that is noble and pure, his mildness, goodness, and boundless patience—all these divine gifts of his soul clearly indicate that the great creator of the world intended to establish in Urnings a noble priesthood, a community of Samaritans, a strictly pure order of men, to provide a strong counterbalance to the immoral tendencies of the human race, which grow alongside its advancing culture.”—Ibid, p. 253.
“When I review the cases I have brought forward and the mental history of the inverted I have known, I am inclined to say that if we can enable an invert to be healthy, self-restrained and self-respecting, we have often done better than to convert him to the mere feeble simulacrum of a normal man. An appeal to the paiderastia of the best Greek days, and the dignity, temperance, even chastity, which it involved, will sometimes find a ready response in the emotional enthusiastic nature of the congenital invert. The175 ‘manly’ love celebrated by Walt Whitman in ‘Leaves of Grass,’ although it may be of more doubtful value for general use, furnishes a wholesome and robust ideal to the invert who is insensitive to normal ideals. It is by some such method of self-treatment as this that most of the more highly intelligent men and women whose histories I have already briefly recorded have at last slowly and instinctively reached a condition of relative health and peace, physical and moral.”—Havelock Ellis, “Sexual Inversion,” p. 202.
“When I look back at the cases I’ve presented and the mental histories of those I’ve known who are inverted, I tend to think that if we can help someone who is inverted to be healthy, self-controlled, and self-respecting, we often achieve more than by merely turning them into the weak imitation of a normal person. Sometimes, an appeal to the paiderastia of the finest days in Greece, with all its dignity, moderation, and even chastity, resonates with the emotional and passionate nature of the congenital invert. The ‘manly’ love celebrated by Walt Whitman in ‘Leaves of Grass,’ while it may not be as universally valuable, provides a strong and healthy ideal for those who do not connect with typical ideals. It’s through such self-help methods that many highly intelligent men and women whose stories I’ve briefly described have gradually and instinctively achieved a state of relative health and peace, both physically and morally.” —Havelock Ellis, “Sexual Inversion,” p. 202.
“From America a lady writes:—‘Inverts should have the courage and independence to be themselves, and to demand an investigation. If one strives to live honourably, and considers the greatest good to the greatest number, it is not a crime nor a disgrace to be an invert. I do not need the law to defend me, neither do I desire to have any concessions made for me, nor do I ask my friends to sacrifice their ideals for me. I too have ideals which I shall always hold. All that I desire—and I claim it as my right—is the freedom to exercise this divine gift of loving, which is not a menace to society nor a disgrace to me. Let it once be understood that the average invert is not a moral degenerate nor a mental degenerate, but simply a man or a woman who is less highly specialised, less completely differentiated, than other men and women, and I believe the prejudice against them will disappear, and if they live uprightly they will surely win the esteem and consideration of all thoughtful people. I know what it is to be an invert—who feels himself176 set apart from the rest of mankind—to find one human heart who trusts him and understands him, and I know how almost impossible this is, and will be, until the world is made aware of these facts.”—Ibid, p. 213.
“From America a lady writes:—‘People who are different should have the courage and independence to be themselves and to demand an investigation. If you try to live honorably and consider the greatest good for the greatest number, it’s not a crime or a disgrace to be different. I don’t need the law to protect me, and I don’t want any special treatment, nor do I ask my friends to compromise their ideals for me. I also have ideals that I will always uphold. All I ask—and I see this as my right—is the freedom to share this divine ability to love, which is not a threat to society or a disgrace to me. Let it be clear that the average person who is different is not morally or mentally degenerate, but just someone who is less specialized, less fully developed, than others, and I believe the prejudice against them will vanish. If they live honorably, they will surely gain the respect and consideration of all thoughtful people. I know what it’s like to be someone who feels set apart from the rest of humanity—to find one human heart that trusts and understands him, and I know how nearly impossible this is, and will remain, until the world is aware of these truths.’”—Ibid, p. 213.
THE END.
THE END.
Printed in Great Britain by
UNWIN BROTHERS, LIMITED, THE GRESHAM PRESS, WOKING AND LONDON
Printed in Great Britain by
UNWIN BROTHERS, LIMITED, THE GRESHAM PRESS, WOKING AND LONDON
Download ePUB
If you like this ebook, consider a donation!