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SENECA’S MORALS
OF
A HAPPY LIFE, BENEFITS, ANGER
AND CLEMENCY.
TRANSLATED BY SIR ROGER L’ESTRANGE.
TRANSLATED BY SIR ROGER L’ESTRANGE.
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Table of Contents. Added by the transcriber.
Table of Contents. Added by the transcriber.
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TO THE READER.
It has been a long time my thought to turn Seneca into English; but whether as a translation or an abstract, was the question. A translation, I perceive, it must not be, at last, for several reasons. First, it is a thing already done to my hand, and of above sixty years’ standing; though with as little credit, perhaps, to the Author, as satisfaction to the Reader. Secondly, There is a great deal in him, that is wholly foreign to my business: as his philosophical treatises of Meteors, Earthquakes, the Original of Rivers, several frivolous disputes betwixt the Epicureans and the Stoics, etc., to say nothing of his frequent repetitions of the same thing again in other words, (wherein he very handsomely excuses himself, by saying, “That he does but inculcate over and over the same counsels to those that over and over commit the same faults.”)Thirdly, His excellency consists rather in a rhapsody of divine and extraordinary hints and notions, than in any regulated method of discourse; so that to take him as he lies, and so to go through with him, were utterly inconsistent with the order and brevity which I propound; my principal design, being only to digest, and comviiimonplace his Morals, in such sort, that any man, upon occasion, may know where to find them. And I have kept myself so close to this proposition, that I have reduced all his scattered Ethics to their proper heads, without any additions of my own, more than of absolute necessity for the tacking of them together. Some other man in my place would perhaps make you twenty apologies for his want of skill and address, in governing this affair; but these are formal and pedantic fooleries, as if any man that first takes himself for a coxcomb in his own heart, would afterwards make himself one in print too. This Abstract, such as it is, you are extremely welcome to; and I am sorry it is no better, both for your sakes and my own, for if it were written up to the spirit of the original, it would be one of the most valuable presents that ever any private man bestowed upon the public; and this, too, even in the judgment of both parties, as well Christian as Heathen, of which in its due place.
I've been thinking for a long time about putting Seneca into English; but I wasn't sure whether to do it as a translation or an abstract. In the end, it can't be a translation for several reasons. First, it’s something that’s already been done for me, and that’s been around for over sixty years, though it might not bring much credit to the Author or satisfaction to the Reader. Second, there’s a lot in his work that isn’t relevant to my purpose, like his philosophical writings on Meteors, Earthquakes, the Origin of Rivers, and various trivial debates between the Epicureans and the Stoics, not to mention his frequent restatements of the same ideas in different words (he justifies this by saying, “I’m just reinforcing the same advice for those who keep making the same mistakes.”) Third, his brilliance lies more in a collection of divine and extraordinary hints and notions, rather than in a structured method of discussion; so taking him as he is and going through his work that way would completely go against the order and brevity I aim for. My main goal is simply to organize and summarize his Morals in such a way that anyone can easily find them when needed. I’ve stuck closely to this purpose by grouping all his scattered Ethics under their proper heads, without adding anything of my own, except what’s absolutely necessary to tie them together. Someone else in my position might offer you a bunch of excuses for not being skilled or polished enough in handling this task, but that just feels like pretentious nonsense, as if anyone who thinks of themselves as foolish would then want to come across that way in print. This Abstract, as it is, is yours to have, and I regret it isn’t better, both for your sake and mine; if it had been written to match the spirit of the original, it would be one of the most valuable gifts any private person ever gave to the public; and this would be recognized by both sides, Christians and Pagans alike, as I’ll explain in due time.
Next to my choice of the Author and of the subject, together with the manner of handling it, I have likewise had some regard, in this publication, to the timing of it, and to the preference of this topic of Benefits above all others, for the groundwork of my first essay. We are fallen into an age of vain philosophy (as the holy apostle calls it) and so desperately overrun with Drolls and Sceptics, that there is hardly any thing so certain or so sacred, that is not exposed to question and contempt, insomuch, that betwixt the hypocrite and the Atheist, the very foundations of religion and good manners are shaken, and the two tables of the Decalogue dashed to pieces the one against the other; the laws of government are subjected to the fancies of the vulgar; public authorityix to the private passions and opinions of the people; and the supernatural motions of grace confounded with the common dictates of nature. In this state of corruption, who so fit as a good honest Christian Pagan for a moderator among Pagan Christians?
Next to my choice of the Author and the subject, along with how I handle it, I've also considered the timing of this publication and why I've chosen this topic of Benefits over all others as the foundation for my first essay. We’ve entered an era of vain philosophy (as the holy apostle puts it) and are so overwhelmed by Drolls and Skeptics that almost nothing is considered certain or sacred, exposed to doubt and ridicule. Between the hypocrite and the Atheist, the very foundations of religion and good manners are shaken, and the two tables of the Decalogue clash violently against each other; the laws of governance are subject to the whims of the masses; public authorityix is influenced by the personal passions and opinions of the people; and the supernatural workings of grace are confused with the basic principles of nature. In this state of corruption, who better than a good honest Christian Pagan to act as a moderator among Pagan Christians?
To pass now from the general scope of the whole work to the particular argument of the first part of it, I pitched upon the theme of Benefits, Gratitude, and Ingratitude, to begin withal, as an earnest of the rest, and a lecture expressly calculated for the unthankfulness of these times; the foulest undoubtedly, and the most execrable of all others, since the very apostasy of the angels: nay, if I durst but suppose a possibility of mercy for those damned spirits, and that they might ever be taken into favor again, my charity would hope even better for them than we have found from some of our revolters, and that they would so behave themselves as not to incur a second forfeiture. And to carry the resemblance yet one point farther, they do both of them agree in an implacable malice against those of their fellows that keep their stations. But, alas! what could Ingratitude do without Hypocrisy, the inseparable companion of it, and, in effect, the bolder and blacker devil of the two? for Lucifer himself never had the face to lift up his eyes to heaven, and talk to the Almighty at the familiar rate of our pretended patriots and zealots, and at the same time to make him party to a cheat. It is not for nothing that the Holy Ghost has denounced so many woes, and redoubled so many cautions against hypocrites; plainly intimating at once how dangerous a snare they are to mankind, and no less odious to God himself; which is sufficiently denoted in the force of that dreadful expression, And your portion shallx be with hypocrites. You will find in the holy scriptures (as I have formerly observed) that God has given the grace of repentance to persecutors, idolaters, murderers, adulterers, etc., but I am mistaken if the whole Bible affords you any one instance of a converted hypocrite.
To move from the overall theme of this work to the specific argument of the first part, I chose to focus on Benefits, Gratitude, and Ingratitude as a starting point, as a sincere prelude to the rest, and a discussion specifically aimed at the ungratefulness of our times; which are undoubtedly the worst and most despicable of all, since the very fall of the angels. Indeed, if I dared to imagine a chance of mercy for those damned spirits, and that they could ever be favorably regarded again, my compassion would hope for better from them than we have seen from some of our rebels, and that they would act in a way to avoid a second disgrace. To take this comparison a step further, both share a relentless hatred towards those among them who maintain their positions. But, alas! what could Ingratitude do without Hypocrisy, its inseparable partner, and, in reality, the bolder and more sinister of the two? For Lucifer himself never had the audacity to look up to heaven and speak to the All-powerful as our so-called patriots and zealots do, while simultaneously involving Him in a deception. It is not without reason that the Holy Spirit has proclaimed so many woes and issued countless warnings against hypocrites; clearly indicating how dangerous they are to humanity and just as repugnant to God Himself; a fact underscored by that terrifying phrase, And your portion shallx be with hypocrites. As I have pointed out before, you will find in the holy scriptures that God has offered the grace of repentance to persecutors, idolaters, murderers, adulterers, and so on, but I would be mistaken if you could find even one instance in the whole Bible of a converted hypocrite.
To descend now from truth itself to our own experience have we not seen, even in our days, a most pious (and almost faultless) Prince brought to the scaffold by his own subjects? The most glorious constitution upon the face of the earth, both ecclesiastical and civil, torn to pieces and dissolved? The happiest people under the sun enslaved? Our temples sacrilegiously profaned, and a license given to all sorts of heresy and outrage? And by whom but by a race of hypocrites? who had nothing in their mouths all this while but the purity of the gospel, the honor of the king, and the liberty of the people, assisted underhand with defamatory papers, which were levelled at the king himself through the sides of his most faithful ministers. This PROJECT succeeded so well against one government, that it is now again set afoot against another; and by some of the very actors too in that TRAGEDY, and after a most gracious pardon also, when Providence had laid their necks and their fortunes at his majesty’s feet. It is a wonderful thing that libels and libellers, the most infamous of practices and of men; the most unmanly sneaking methods and instruments of mischief; the very bane of human society, and the plague of all governments; it is a wonderful thing (I say) that these engines and engineers should ever find credit enough in the world to engage a party; but it would be still more wonderful if the same trick should passxi twice upon the same people, in the same age, and from the same IMPOSTORS. This contemplation has carried me a little out of my way, but it has at length brought me to my text again, for there is in the bottom of it the highest opposition imaginable of ingratitude and obligation.
To shift now from the truth itself to our own experience, haven’t we seen, even in our time, a deeply religious (and nearly flawless) Prince led to the executioner by his own people? The most magnificent constitution on earth, both religious and civil, torn apart and dismantled? The happiest people in the world enslaved? Our places of worship disrespectfully violated, and a freedom granted to all kinds of heresy and wrongdoing? And by whom but a group of hypocrites? who have only spoken of the purity of the gospel, the honor of the king, and the liberty of the people, secretly aided by defamatory papers aimed at the king himself through the actions of his most loyal ministers. This PROJECT worked so effectively against one government that it is now being revived against another; and by some of the very players in that TRAGEDY, even after receiving a generous pardon, when Providence had placed their lives and fortunes at his majesty’s feet. It’s astonishing that libels and libellers, the most disgraceful of practices and men; the most cowardly and deceptive methods of harm; the very poison of human society and the curse of all governments; it’s amazing (I say) that these tools and their creators should ever gain enough credibility in the world to rally a faction; but it would be even more astonishing if the same trick were to workxi twice on the same people, in the same age, and by the same IMPOSTORS. This reflection has taken me a bit off track, but it has finally led me back to my main point, for within it lies the greatest contrast imaginable between ingratitude and obligation.
The reader will, in some measure, be able to judge by this taste what he is farther to expect; that is to say, as to the cast of my design, and the simplicity of the style and dress; for that will still be the same, only accompanied with variety of matter. Whether it pleases the world or no, the care is taken; and yet I could wish that it might be as delightful to others upon the perusal, as it has been to me in the speculation. Next to the gospel itself, I do look upon it as the most sovereign remedy against the miseries of human nature: and I have ever found it so, in all the injuries and distresses of an unfortunate life. You may read more of him, if you please, in the Appendix, which I have here subjoined to this Preface, concerning the authority of his writings, and the circumstances of his life; as I have extracted them out of Lipsius.
The reader will have some idea of what to expect from this taste, meaning the nature of my design and the simplicity of the style and presentation; that will be consistent, but with a variety of content. Whether or not it pleases the world, the effort has been made; still, I hope it proves as enjoyable to others in reading as it has been for me in creating it. Next to the gospel itself, I consider it the most powerful remedy against the hardships of human nature: I have always found it so in all the struggles and challenges of an unfortunate life. You can read more about him if you'd like in the Appendix, which I’ve included here with this Preface, discussing the authority of his writings and the circumstances of his life, as I have pulled them from Lipsius.
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OF SENECA’S WRITINGS.
It appears that our author had among the ancients three professed enemies. In the first place Caligula, who called his writings, sand without lime; alluding to the starts of his fancy, and the incoherence of his sentences. But Seneca was never the worse for the censure of a person that propounded even the suppressing of Homer himself; and of casting Virgil and Livy out of all public libraries. The next was Fabius, who taxes him for being too bold with the eloquence of former times, and failing in that point himself; and likewise for being too quaint and finical in his expressions; which Tacitus imputes, in part to the freedom of his own particular inclination, and partly to the humor of the times. He is also charged by Fabius as no profound philosopher; but with all this, he allows him to be a man very studious and learned, of great wit and invention, and well read in all sorts of literature; a severe reprover of vice; most divinely sententious; and well worth the reading, if it were only for his morals; adding, that if his judgment had been answerable to his wit, it had been much the more for his reputation; but he wrote whatever came next; so that I would advise the reader (says he) to distinguish where he himself did not, for there are many things in him, not only to be approved, but admired; and it was great pity that he that could do what he would, should not always make the best choice. His third adversary is Agellius,xiii who falls upon him for his style, and a kind of tinkling in his sentences, but yet commends him for his piety and good counsels. On the other side, Columela calls him a man of excellent wit and learning; Pliny, the prince of erudition; Tacitus gives him the character of a wise man, and a fit tutor for a prince; Dio reports him to have been the greatest man of his age.
It seems that our author had three well-known enemies among the ancients. First was Caligula, who referred to his writings as sand without lime; this pointed to the random nature of his ideas and the lack of coherence in his sentences. However, Seneca was not affected by the criticism of someone who even suggested banning Homer and removing Virgil and Livy from all public libraries. The second was Fabius, who accused him of being too bold with the eloquence of earlier times, while failing in that regard himself, as well as being overly elaborate and finicky in his expressions. Tacitus partly attributes this to his personal tendencies and partly to the spirit of the times. Fabius also claims he wasn’t a deep philosopher, but despite all this, he acknowledges him as a very studious and learned man, witty and inventive, well-read in all types of literature; he was also a strict critic of vice, highly insightful, and worth reading, if only for his morals. He adds that if his judgment had matched his wit, his reputation would have been even greater, but he wrote whatever came to mind next. Therefore, I would advise the reader (he says) to distinguish what he himself did not, as there are many things in him that are not just to be appreciated but admired; it's a shame that someone who could do whatever he wanted did not always make the best choices. His third opponent is Agellius,xiii who criticizes his style and the musical quality of his sentences, yet praises him for his piety and good advice. On the other hand, Columela calls him a man of excellent wit and learning; Pliny describes him as the prince of erudition; Tacitus portrays him as a wise man, and a suitable teacher for a prince; Dio reports him to have been the greatest man of his age.
Of those pieces of his that are extant, we shall not need to give any particular account: and of those that are lost, we cannot, any farther than by lights to them from other authors, as we find them cited much to his honor; and we may reasonably compute them to be the greater part of his works. That he wrote several poems in his banishment, may be gathered partly from himself, but more expressly out of Tacitus, who says, “that he was reproached with his applying himself to poetry, after he saw that Nero took pleasure in it, out of a design to curry favor.” St. Jerome refers to a discourse of his concerning matrimony. Lactantius takes notice of his history, and his books of Moralities: St. Augustine quotes some passages of his out of a book of Superstition; some references we meet with to his books of Exhortations: Fabius makes mention of his Dialogues: and he himself speaks of a treatise of his own concerning Earthquakes, which he wrote in his youth, but the opinion of an epistolary correspondence that he had with St. Paul, does not seem to have much color for it.
Of the works of his that still exist, we don’t need to go into detail about them. As for the ones that are lost, we can only reference them through other authors, who mention them frequently with great respect, so we can reasonably assume that most of his works are missing. It can partly be inferred from his own writings, but more clearly from Tacitus, that he wrote several poems during his exile. Tacitus mentions that he was criticized for turning to poetry after noticing Nero enjoyed it, suggesting he was trying to win favor. St. Jerome refers to one of his talks about marriage. Lactantius mentions his history and his books on ethics. St. Augustine quotes some sections from his book on superstition; we also find references to his books on encouragement. Fabius mentions his dialogues. He himself talks about a paper he wrote on earthquakes when he was young, but the idea of him having a correspondence with St. Paul through letters doesn’t seem very likely.
Some few fragments, however, of those books of his that are wanting, are yet preserved in the writings of other eminent authors, sufficient to show the world how great a treasure they have lost by the excellency of that little that is left.
Some fragments of his missing books are still found in the writings of other notable authors, enough to demonstrate how significant a loss the world has suffered because of the brilliance of the few things that remain.
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Seneca, says Lactantius, that was the sharpest of all the Stoics, how great a veneration has he for the Almighty! as for instance, discoursing of a violent death; “Do you not understand?” says he, “the majesty and the authority of your Judge; he is the supreme Governor of heaven and earth, and the God of all your gods; and it is upon him that all those powers depend which we worship for deities.” Moreover, in his Exhortations, “This God,” says he, “when he laid the foundations of the universe, and entered upon the greatest and the best work in nature, in the ordering of the government of the world, though he was himself All in all, yet he substituted other subordinate ministers, as the servants of his commands.” And how many other things does this Heathen speak of God like one of us!
Seneca, according to Lactantius, who was the most insightful of all the Stoics, had a deep reverence for the Almighty. For example, when discussing a violent death, he said, “Do you not understand the majesty and authority of your Judge? He is the supreme Governor of heaven and earth, and the God of all your gods; all the powers we worship as deities depend on him.” Furthermore, in his Exhortations, he states, “This God, when he laid the foundations of the universe and took on the greatest and best work in nature—the governance of the world—though he was everything in all, appointed other subordinate ministers as servants of his commands.” And how many other things does this pagan say about God that sound just like us!
Which the acute Seneca, says Lactantius again, saw in his Exhortations. “We,” says he, “have our dependence elsewhere, and should look up to that power, to which we are indebted for all that we can pretend to that is good.”
Which the sharp-witted Seneca, Lactantius says again, recognized in his Exhortations. “We,” he says, “rely on something greater, and should look up to that power, from which we owe everything good we can claim.”
And again, Seneca says very well in his Morals, “They worship the images of the God,” says he, “kneel to them, and adore them, they are hardly ever from them, either plying them with offerings or sacrifices, and yet, after all this reverence to the image, they have no regard at all to the workman that made it.”
And again, Seneca expresses it well in his Morals, “They worship the images of God,” he says, “kneel before them and adore them, but they rarely consider the person who made them, whether by giving offerings or sacrifices, and despite all this reverence for the image, they pay no attention at all to the craftsman who created it.”
Lactantius again. “An invective,” says Seneca in his Exhortations, “is the masterpiece of most of our philosophers; and if they fall upon the subject of avarice, lust, ambition, they lash out into such excess of bitterness, as if railing were a mark of their profession. They make me think of gallipotsxv in an apothecary’s shop, that have remedies without and poison within.”
Lactantius again. “A harsh criticism,” says Seneca in his Exhortations, “is the crowning achievement of most of our philosophers; and when they tackle the topics of greed, desire, ambition, they unleash such intense bitterness, as if insulting was a signature of their profession. They remind me of jars in an apothecary’s shop, filled with cures on the outside and poison on the inside.”
Lactantius still. “He that would know all things, let him read Seneca; the most lively describer of public vices and manners, and the smartest reprehender of them.”
Lactantius still. “If you want to know everything, read Seneca; he’s the most vivid describer of social flaws and behaviors, and the sharpest critic of them.”
And again; as Seneca has it in the books of Moral Philosophy, “He is the brave man, whose splendor and authority is the least part of his greatness, that can look death in the face without trouble or surprise; who, if his body were to be broken upon the wheel, or melted lead to be poured down his throat, would be less concerned for the pain itself, than for the dignity of bearing it.”
And once more; as Seneca states in his writings on Moral Philosophy, “The true brave person is one whose glory and power are the smallest part of their greatness, someone who can confront death without fear or shock; who, if they were to be tortured or have molten lead poured down their throat, would care less about the pain itself and more about maintaining the dignity of enduring it.”
Let no man, says Lactantius, think himself the safer in his wickedness for want of a witness; for God is omniscient, and to him nothing can be a secret. It is an admirable sentence that Seneca concludes his Exhortations withal: “God,” says he, “is a great, (I know not what), an incomprehensible Power; it is to him that we live, and to him that we must approve ourselves. What does it avail us that our consciences are hidden from men, when our souls lie open to God?” What could a Christian have spoken more to the purpose in this case than this divine Pagan? And in the beginning of the same work, says Seneca, “What is it that we do? to what end is it to stand contriving, and to hide ourselves? We are under a guard, and there is no escaping from our keeper. One man may be parted from another by travel, death, sickness; but there is no dividing us from ourselves. It is to no purpose to creep into a corner where nobody shall see us. Ridiculous madness! Make it the case, that no mortal eyexvi could find us out, he that has a conscience gives evidence against himself.”
Let no one, Lactantius says, think they're safer in their wrongdoing just because no one is watching; God knows everything, and nothing is hidden from Him. Seneca ends his Exhortations with a powerful statement: “God,” he says, “is a great, incomprehensible Power; we live for Him, and we must prove ourselves to Him. What good does it do us if our consciences are hidden from people when our souls are exposed to God?” What could a Christian say that’s more relevant to this topic than this divine pagan? At the start of the same work, Seneca asks, “What are we doing? What’s the point of scheming and trying to hide? We are always under watch, and there’s no escaping our overseer. One person can be separated from another by travel, death, or illness; but we cannot escape from ourselves. It’s pointless to hide in a corner where no one can see us. What ridiculous madness! Even if no human eye could find us, a person with a conscience still testifies against themselves.”
It is truly and excellently spoken of Seneca, says Lactantius, once again; “Consider,” says he “the majesty, the goodness, and the venerable mercies of the Almighty; a friend that is always at hand. What delight can it be to him the slaughter of innocent creatures or the worship of bloody sacrifices? Let us purge our minds, and lead virtuous and honest lives. His pleasure lies not in the magnificence of temples made with stone, but in the pity and devotion of consecrated hearts.”
Lactantius often speaks highly of Seneca, saying, “Think about the greatness, kindness, and respect of the Almighty; He is a friend who is always there. What joy does He find in the killing of innocent beings or in the rituals of bloody sacrifices? Let's cleanse our minds and live virtuous and honest lives. His pleasure isn’t in the grandeur of stone temples but in the compassion and devotion of dedicated hearts.”
In the book that Seneca wrote against Superstitions, treating of images, says St. Austin, he writes thus: “They represent the holy, the immortal, and the inviolable gods in the basest matter, and without life or motion; in the forms of men, beasts, fishes, some of mixed bodies, and those figures they call deities, which, if they were but animated, would affright a man, and pass for monsters.” And then, a little farther, treating of Natural Theology, after citing the opinions of philosophers, he supposes an objection against himself: “Somebody will perhaps ask me, would you have me then to believe the heavens and the earth to be gods, and some of them above the moon, and some below it? Shall I ever be brought to the opinion of Plato, or of Strabo the Peripatetic? the one of which would have God to be without a body, and the other without a mind.” To which he replies, “And do you give more credit then to the dreams of T. Tatius, Romulus, Hostilius, who caused, among other deities, even Fear and Paleness to be worshipped? the vilest of human affections; the one being the motion of an affrighted mind, and the other not so much the disease as thexvii color of a disordered body. Are these the deities that you will rather put your faith in, and place in the heavens?” And speaking afterward of their abominable customs, with what liberty does he write! “One,” says he, “out of zeal, makes himself an eunuch, another lances his arms; if this be the way to please their gods, what should a man do if he had a mind to anger them? or, if this be the way to please them, they do certainly deserve not to be worshipped at all. What a frenzy is this to imagine that the gods can be delighted with such cruelties, as even the worst of men would make a conscience to inflict! The most barbarous and notorious of tyrants, some of them have perhaps done it themselves, or ordered the tearing of men to pieces by others; but they never went so far as to command any man to torment himself. We have heard of those that have suffered castration to gratify the lust of their imperious masters, but never any man that was forced to act it upon himself. They murder themselves in their very temples, and their prayers are offered up in blood. Whosoever shall but observe what they do, and what they suffer, will find it so misbecoming an honest man, so unworthy of a freeman, and so inconsistent with the action of a man in his wits, that he must conclude them all to be mad, if it were not that there are so many of them; for only their number is their justification and their protection.”
In the book that Seneca wrote against Superstitions, discussing images, St. Augustine says: “They portray the holy, immortal, and untouchable gods in the most degrading materials, lifeless and motionless; in the shapes of humans, animals, fish, and some mixed forms, which they call deities. If these were animated, they would terrify people and be seen as monsters.” Then, a little later, while discussing Natural Theology and after mentioning the views of philosophers, he anticipates a challenge to his beliefs: “Someone might ask me, do you want me to believe that the heavens and the earth are gods, some above the moon and some below it? Will I ever be inclined to accept the views of Plato or Strabo the Peripatetic? One believes God is incorporeal, while the other thinks He lacks a mind.” To this, he responds, “And do you trust more the absurdities of T. Tatius, Romulus, Hostilius, who made it a point to worship even Fear and Paleness among other deities? The lowest of human feelings; one being the reaction of a terrified mind, and the other being more about the pale color of a distressed body. Are these the deities you’d prefer to believe in and place in the heavens?” And later, when discussing their disgusting practices, how freely he writes! “One person, out of zeal, turns himself into a eunuch, another cuts his arms; if this is how to please their gods, what should a person do if they wanted to upset them? Or, if this is how to please them, they definitely don’t deserve to be worshipped at all. What madness is it to think that the gods would be pleased by such cruelty, which even the worst men would hesitate to impose? The most brutal tyrants, some of whom may have done it themselves or commanded others to tear people apart, never went as far as to order anyone to inflict torment on themselves. We’ve heard of those who underwent castration to satisfy the cravings of their ruthless masters, but never anyone forced to do it to themselves. They take their own lives in their temples, and their prayers are drenched in blood. Anyone who observes what they do and what they endure will find it unbecoming of a decent person, unworthy of a free man, and completely inconsistent with the behavior of someone in their right mind, leading to the conclusion that they must all be mad, if not for the sheer number of them; for only their quantity serves as their justification and protection.”
When he comes to reflect, says St. Augustine, upon those passages which he himself had seen in the Capitol, he censures them with liberty and resolution; and no man will believe that such things would be done unless in mockery or frenzy. What lamentation is there in the Egyptian sacrifices forxviii the loss of Osiris? and then what joy for the finding of him again? Which he makes himself sport with; for in truth it is all a fiction; and yet those people that neither lost any thing nor found any thing, must express their sorrows and their rejoicings to the highest degree. “But there is only a certain time,” says he, “for this freak, and once in a year people may be allowed to be mad. I came into the Capitol,” says Seneca, “where the several deities had their several servants and attendants, their lictors, their dressers, and all in posture and action, as if they were executing their offices; some to hold the glass, others to comb out Juno’s and Minerva’s hair; one to tell Jupiter what o’clock it is; some lasses there are that sit gazing upon the image, and fancy Jupiter has a kindness for them. All these things,” says Seneca, a while after, “a wise man will observe for the law’s sake more than for the gods; and all this rabble of deities, which the superstition of many ages has gathered together, we are in such manner to adore, as to consider the worship to be rather matter of custom than of conscience.” Whereupon St. Augustine observes, that this illustrious senator worshipped what he reproved, acted what he disliked, and adored what he condemned.
When St. Augustine thinks about the events he witnessed in the Capitol, he criticizes them openly and confidently; no one would believe such things could happen except as a joke or in madness. What kind of mourning is there in the Egyptian rituals for the loss of Osiris? And what joy is there when he’s found again? Augustine mocks this; it’s all just a story. Yet, those who neither lost anything nor found anything have to show their sadness and joy to the fullest extent. “But there’s only a certain time,” he says, “for this nonsense, and once a year, people can act crazy. I walked into the Capitol,” Seneca says, “where each god had their own servants and attendants, their lictors, their stylists, all poised as if carrying out their duties; some are there to hold the mirror, others to comb Juno’s and Minerva’s hair; one person to tell Jupiter the time; and some young women sit staring at the statue, thinking Jupiter is fond of them. All these things,” Seneca later adds, “a wise person observes more for the sake of the law than for the gods; and this crowd of deities, accumulated through ages of superstition, should be honored more out of tradition than out of true belief.” St. Augustine notes that this notable senator worshipped what he criticized, acted out what he disapproved of, and revered what he condemned.
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SENECA’S LIFE AND DEATH.
It has been an ancient custom to record the actions and the writings of eminent men, with all their circumstances, and it is but a right that we owe to the memory of our famous author. Seneca was by birth a Spaniard of Cordova, (a Roman colony of great fame and antiquity.) He was of the family of Annæus, of the order of knights; and the father, Lucius Annæus Seneca, was distinguished from the son, by the name of the Orator. His mother’s name was Helvia, a woman of excellent qualities. His father came to Rome in the time of Augustus, and his wife and children soon followed him, our Seneca yet being in his infancy. There were three brothers of them, and never a sister. Marcus Annæus Novatus, Lucius Annæus Seneca, and Lucius Annæus Mela; the first of these changed his name for Junius Gallio, who adopted him; to him it was that he dedicated his treatise of Anger, whom he calls Novatus too; and he also dedicated his discourse of a Happy Life to his brother Gallio. The youngest brother (Annæus Mela) was Lucan’s father. Seneca was about twenty years of age in the fifth year of Tiberius, when the Jews were expelled from Rome. His father trained him up to rhetoric, but his genius led him rather to philosophy; and he applied his wit to morality and virtue. He was a great hearer of the celebrated men of those times; as Attalus, Sotion,xx Papirius, Fabianus, (of whom he makes often mention,) and he was much an admirer also of Demetrius the Cynic, whose conversation he had afterwards in the Court, and both at home also and abroad, for they often travelled together. His father was not at all pleased with his humor of philosophy, but forced him upon the law, and for a while he practiced pleading. After which he would needs put him upon public employment: and he came first to be quæstor, then prætor, and some will have it that he was chosen consul; but this is doubtful.
It has been an age-old tradition to document the actions and writings of notable people, along with all their circumstances, and it is only fair that we honor the memory of our renowned author. Seneca was originally from Cordova, Spain, a Roman colony of great repute and history. He belonged to the family of Annæus, part of the knightly order; his father, Lucius Annæus Seneca, was distinguished from the son by the title of the Orator. His mother’s name was Helvia, a woman of admirable qualities. His father moved to Rome during the reign of Augustus, and his wife and children soon joined him, with our Seneca still being an infant at the time. There were three brothers, and no sisters. They were Marcus Annæus Novatus, Lucius Annæus Seneca, and Lucius Annæus Mela; the first changed his name to Junius Gallio after being adopted by him; to him, Seneca dedicated his treatise on Anger, referring to him as Novatus as well; he also dedicated his work on a Happy Life to his brother Gallio. The youngest brother (Annæus Mela) was the father of Lucan. Seneca was about twenty years old during the fifth year of Tiberius, at the time when the Jews were expelled from Rome. His father educated him in rhetoric, but his interest leaned more towards philosophy; he focused his intellect on morality and virtue. He was a keen listener to the prominent figures of that era, such as Attalus, Sotion, xx Papirius, and Fabianus, whom he frequently mentions. He was also a great admirer of Demetrius the Cynic, whose company he enjoyed later both in the Court and daily life, as they often traveled together. His father was not pleased with his philosophical inclinations and insisted he pursue law, and for a time, he practiced pleading. Eventually, his father sought to place him in public office: first, he became a quæstor, then a prætor, and some say he was even chosen as consul, though that remains uncertain.
Seneca finding that he had ill offices done him at court, and that Nero’s favor began to cool, he went directly and resolutely to Nero, with an offer to refund all that he had gotten, which Nero would not receive; but however, from that time he changed his course of life, received few visits, shunned company, went little abroad; still pretending to be kept at home, either by indisposition or by his study. Being Nero’s tutor and governor, all things were well so long as Nero followed his counsel. His two chief favorites were Burrhus and Seneca, who were both of them excellent in their ways: Burrhus, in his care of military affairs, and severity of discipline; Seneca for his precepts and good advice in the matter of eloquence, and the gentleness of an honest mind; assisting one another, in that slippery age of the prince (says Tacitus) to invite him, by the allowance of lawful pleasures, to the love of virtue. Seneca had two wives; the name of the first is not mentioned; his second was Paulina, whom he often speaks of with great passion. By the former he had his son Marcus.
Seneca realized that he had been mistreated at court and that Nero’s favor was starting to wane. So, he went directly and confidently to Nero, offering to return everything he had received, but Nero refused. From that point on, Seneca changed his lifestyle, took few visitors, avoided company, and rarely went out, claiming he was either unwell or deep in study. As Nero’s tutor and advisor, everything went smoothly as long as Nero heeded his advice. His two main favorites were Burrhus and Seneca, both exceptional in their own ways: Burrhus was dedicated to military matters and strict discipline, while Seneca was known for his teachings and wise advice on eloquence, along with the kindness of an honest mind. They supported each other during Nero's unstable reign (as Tacitus notes) to guide him, by allowing him legitimate pleasures, toward a love of virtue. Seneca had two wives; the name of the first is not mentioned, while his second was Paulina, whom he often spoke of with deep affection. With his first wife, he had a son named Marcus.
In the first year of Claudius he was banished into Corsica, when Julia, the daughter of Germanicus,xxi was accused by Messalina of adultery and banished too, Seneca being charged as one of the adulterers. After a matter of eight years or upwards in exile, he was called back, and as much in favor again as ever. His estate was partly patrimonial, but the greatest part of it was the bounty of his prince. His gardens, villas, lands, possessions, and incredible sums of money, are agreed upon at all hands; which drew an envy upon him. Dio reports him to have had 250,000l. sterling at interest in Britanny alone, which he called in all at a sum. The Court itself could not bring him to flattery; and for his piety, submission, and virtue, the practice of his whole life witnesses for him. “So soon,” says he, “as the candle is taken away, my wife, that knows my custom, lies still, without a word speaking, and then do I recollect all that I have said or done that day, and take myself to shrift. And why should I conceal or reserve anything, or make any scruple of inquiring into my errors, when I can say to myself, Do so no more, and for this once I will forgive thee?” And again, what can be more pious and self-denying than this passage, in one of his epistles? “Believe me now, when I tell you the very bottom of my soul: in all the difficulties and crosses of my life, this is my consideration—since it is God’s will, I do not only obey, but assent to it; nor do I comply out of necessity, but inclination.”
In the first year of Claudius, he was banished to Corsica when Julia, the daughter of Germanicus, was accused by Messalina of adultery and also banished. Seneca was accused as one of the adulterers. After about eight years in exile, he was called back and regained as much favor as ever. His estate was partly inherited, but most of it was given to him by the emperor. His gardens, villas, land, possessions, and huge amounts of money are widely acknowledged, which made him the target of envy. Dio reports that he had 250,000 pounds sterling earning interest in Brittany alone, which he called in all at once. The Court itself could not sway him to flatter anyone; and for his piety, humility, and virtue, his entire life serves as evidence. “As soon,” he says, “as the candle is taken away, my wife, who knows my routine, lies still without saying a word, and then I reflect on everything I’ve said or done that day and take myself to confession. And why should I hide or hold back anything, or hesitate to examine my mistakes, when I can say to myself, ‘Don’t do that again, and for this once I’ll forgive you?’” And again, what could be more devout and selfless than this statement in one of his letters? “Believe me now when I say this is the deepest truth of my soul: in all the challenges and hardships of my life, this is my thought—since it’s God’s will, I not only obey, but I also accept it; I don’t comply out of necessity, but out of desire.”
“Here follows now,” says Tacitus, “the death of Seneca, to Nero’s great satisfaction; not so much for any pregnant proof against him that he was of Piso’s conspiracy; but Nero was resolved to do that by the sword which he could not effect by poison. For it is reported, that Nero had corrupted Cleonicus (a freeman of Seneca’s) to give his master poison,xxii which did not succeed. Whether that the servant had discovered it to his master, or that Seneca, by his own caution and jealousy, had avoided it; for he lived only upon a simple diet, as the fruits of the earth, and his drink was most commonly river water.
“Now, here’s what happened,” says Tacitus, “Seneca’s death, which made Nero very happy; not so much because of any solid evidence that he was involved in Piso’s conspiracy, but because Nero was determined to accomplish what he couldn’t do with poison by using a sword. It's said that Nero had bribed Cleonicus (one of Seneca’s freedmen) to poison his master, but that plan failed. It’s unclear whether the servant revealed the plot to Seneca or if Seneca, due to his own caution and suspicion, managed to avoid it; he lived on a very simple diet, mostly fruits from the earth, and he typically drank river water.”xxii
“Natalis, it seems, was sent upon a visit to him (being indisposed) with a complaint that he would not let Piso come at him; and advising him to the continuance of their friendship and acquaintance as formerly. To whom Seneca made answer, that frequent meetings and conferences betwixt them could do neither of them any good; but that he had a great interest in Piso’s welfare. Hereupon Granius Silvanus (a captain of the guard) was sent to examine Seneca upon the discourse that passed betwixt him and Natalis, and to return his answer. Seneca, either by chance or upon purpose, came that day from Campania, to a villa of his own, within four miles of the city; and thither the officer went the next evening, and beset the place. He found Seneca at supper with his wife Paulina, and two of his friends; and gave him immediately an account of his commission. Seneca told him, that it was true that Natalis had been with him in Piso’s name, with a complaint that Piso could not be admitted to see him; and that he excused himself by reason of his want of health, and his desires to be quiet and private; and that he had no reason to prefer another man’s welfare before his own. Cæsar himself, he said, knew very well that he was not a man of compliment, having received more proofs of his freedom than of his flattery. This answer of Seneca’s was delivered to Cæsar in the presence of Poppæa, and Tigellinus, the intimate confidants of this barbarousxxiii prince: and Nero asked him whether he could gather anything from Seneca as if he intended to make himself away? The tribune’s answer was, that he did not find him one jot moved with the message: but that he went on roundly with his tale, and never so much as changed countenance for the matter. Go back to him then, says Nero, and tell him, that he is condemned to die. Fabius Rusticus delivers it, that the tribune did not return the same way he came, but went aside to Fenius (a captain of that name) and told him Cæsar’s orders, asking his advice whether he should obey them or not; who bade him by all means to do as he was ordered. Which want of resolution was fatal to them all; for Silvanus also, that was one of the conspirators, assisted now to serve and to increase those crimes, which he had before complotted to revenge. And yet he did not think fit to appear himself in the business, but sent a centurion to Seneca to tell him his doom.
"Natalis was sent to visit him (since he was unwell) with a complaint that Piso couldn’t see him and suggested they maintain their friendship as before. Seneca replied that frequent meetings wouldn’t benefit either of them, but he was genuinely concerned about Piso’s wellbeing. Following this, Granius Silvanus, a captain of the guard, was sent to question Seneca about his conversation with Natalis and to deliver his response. Seneca, either by accident or design, had returned that day from Campania to one of his villas, just four miles from the city. The officer arrived the next evening and surrounded the place. He found Seneca at dinner with his wife Paulina and two friends, and immediately informed him about his mission. Seneca confirmed that Natalis had visited him on Piso’s behalf, saying that Piso couldn’t be admitted to see him; he explained that he was unwell and preferred to be quiet and private, adding that he had no reason to prioritize someone else’s welfare over his own. He remarked that Cæsar himself knew he was not one for flattery, having shown more evidence of his honesty than his sycophancy. This response was relayed to Cæsar in front of Poppæa and Tigellinus, close confidants of the cruel prince, who asked if Seneca seemed likely to take his own life. The tribune reported that Seneca seemed completely unaffected by the message; he continued his conversation without even changing his expression. ‘Go back to him,’ Nero said, ‘and tell him that he is condemned to die.’ Fabius Rusticus stated that the tribune didn’t return the same way he had come but went to Fenius, another captain, and communicated Cæsar’s orders, asking for his advice on whether to follow them. Fenius told him to do as ordered. This lack of conviction proved disastrous for all of them; Silvanus, a conspirator, ended up aiding the very crimes he had plotted to avenge. Yet he chose not to confront Seneca himself, instead sending a centurion to deliver his fate."
“Seneca, without any surprise or disorder, calls for his will; which being refused him by the officer, he turned to his friends, and told them that since he was not permitted to requite them as they deserved, he was yet at liberty to bequeath them the thing of all others that he esteemed the most, that is, the image of his life; which should give them the reputation both of constancy and friendship, if they would but imitate it; exhorting them to a firmness of mind, sometimes by good counsel, otherwhile by reprehension, as the occasion required. Where, says he, is all your philosophy now? all your premeditated resolutions against the violences of Fortune? Is there any man so ignorant of Nero’s cruelty, as to expect, after the murder of his mother and his brother, that he should ever spare the life of his governor and tutor? After some general expresxxivsions to this purpose, he took his wife in his arms, and having somewhat fortified her against the present calamity, he besought and conjured her to moderate her sorrows, and betake herself to the contemplations and comforts of a virtuous life; which would be a fair and ample consolation to her for the loss of her husband. Paulina, on the other side, tells him her determination to bear him company, and wills the executioner to do his office. Well, says Seneca, if after the sweetness of life, as I have represented it to thee, thou hadst rather entertain an honorable death, I shall not envy thy example; consulting, at the same time, the fame of the person he loved, and his own tenderness, for fear of the injuries that might attend her when he was gone. Our resolution, says he, in this generous act, may be equal, but thine will be the greater reputation. After this the veins of both their arms were opened at the same time. Seneca did not bleed so freely, his spirits being wasted with age and a thin diet; so that he was forced to cut the veins of his thighs and elsewhere, to hasten his dispatch. When he was far spent, and almost sinking under his torments, he desired his wife to remove into another chamber, lest the agonies of the one might work upon the courage of the other. His eloquence continued to the last, as appears by the excellent things he delivered at his death; which being taken in writing from his own mouth, and published in his own words, I shall not presume to deliver them in any other. Nero, in the meantime, who had no particular spite to Paulina, gave orders to prevent her death, for fear his cruelty should grow more and more insupportable and odious. Whereupon the soldiers gave all freedom and encouragement to her servants to bind up her wounds, and stop the blood,xxv which they did accordingly; but whether she was sensible of it or not is a question. For among the common people, who are apt to judge the worst, there were some of opinion, that as long as she despaired of Nero’s mercy, she seemed to court the glory of dying with her husband for company; but that upon the likelihood of better quarter she was prevailed upon to outlive him; and so for some years she did survive him, with all piety and respect to his memory; but so miserably pale and wan, that everybody might read the loss of her blood and spirits in her very countenance.
Seneca, without any surprise or chaos, asks for his will; but when the officer denies him, he turns to his friends and tells them that since he can't repay them as they deserve, he can still leave them the thing he values most, which is the example of his life. This example should give them a reputation for both constancy and friendship if they choose to follow it, urging them to maintain a strong mind, at times with good advice, other times with criticism, as needed. He asks, where is all your philosophy now? Where are your premeditated resolutions against the brutalities of Fortune? Is there anyone so unaware of Nero's cruelty that they would expect him to spare the life of his governor and tutor after murdering his mother and brother? After some general thoughts on this, he took his wife in his arms, and after trying to strengthen her against the present calamity, he urged her to calm her sorrows and focus on the contemplation and comforts of a virtuous life, which would be a significant consolation for the loss of her husband. Paulina, on her side, expressed her intention to join him and instructed the executioner to carry out his duty. Seneca replied, if after embracing the sweetness of life, as I have shown you, you would rather face an honorable death, I won’t envy your choice; considering both the reputation of the woman he loved and his own tenderness, fearing the harm that might come to her when he was gone. He stated that their decision in this noble act might be equal, but her reputation would be greater. After that, they both opened the veins in their arms simultaneously. Seneca didn’t bleed as freely because his strength was diminished by age and a light diet, forcing him to cut the veins in his thighs and elsewhere to expedite his death. When he was very weak and nearly collapsing from his suffering, he asked his wife to move to another room, so that their pain would not affect each other's courage. His eloquence remained until the end, as evidenced by the profound things he said at his death; which were recorded from his own words, and I won’t attempt to present them in any other way. Meanwhile, Nero, who bore no personal grudge against Paulina, ordered that her death be prevented, fearing his cruelty might become increasingly unbearable and detestable. As a result, the soldiers allowed her servants the freedom and support to bind her wounds and stop the bleeding, which they did; but whether she was aware of it or not remains in question. Among the common people, who often judge harshly, some believed that as long as she despaired of Nero’s mercy, she seemed to seek the honor of dying alongside her husband; but when the possibility of better treatment arose, she was persuaded to outlive him; and for several years, she did survive him, with all piety and respect to his memory; but so woefully pale and wan that anyone could see the loss of her blood and spirit in her very face.
“Seneca finding his death slow and lingering, desires Statius Annæus (his old friend and physician) to give him a dose of poison, which he had provided beforehand, being the same preparation which was appointed for capital offenders in Athens. This was brought him, and he drank it up, but to little purpose; for his body was already chilled, and bound up against the force of it. He went at last into a hot bath, and sprinkling some of his servants that were next him, this, says he, is an oblation to Jupiter the deliverer. The fume of the bath soon dispatched him, and his body was burnt, without any funeral solemnity, as he had directed in his testament: though this will of his was made in the height of his prosperity and power. There was a rumor that Subrius Flavius, in a private consultation with the centurions, had taken up this following resolution, (and that Seneca himself was no stranger to it) that is to say, that after Nero should have been slain by the help of Piso, Piso himself should have been killed too; and the empire delivered up to Seneca, as one that well deserved it, for his integrity and virtue.”
Seneca, finding his death slow and prolonged, asked his old friend and doctor, Statius Annæus, to give him a dose of poison he had prepared beforehand, the same kind used for capital offenders in Athens. This was brought to him, and he drank it, but it was of little use; his body was already cold and resistant to it. Eventually, he went into a hot bath, and while splashing some water on his nearby servants, he said, "This is an offering to Jupiter the Deliverer." The steam from the bath quickly finished him off, and his body was cremated without any funeral rites, as he had instructed in his will, even though he made that will during the height of his success and power. There was a rumor that Subrius Flavius, in a private meeting with the centurions, had come to the following decision (and that Seneca was aware of it): that after Nero was killed with Piso’s help, Piso himself would also be killed, and the empire would be handed over to Seneca, for he truly deserved it because of his integrity and virtue.
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SENECA OF BENEFITS.
CHAPTER I.
OF BENEFITS IN GENERAL.
It is, perhaps, one of the most pernicious errors of a rash and inconsiderate life, the common ignorance of the world in the matter of exchanging benefits. And this arises from a mistake, partly in the person that we would oblige, and partly in the thing itself. To begin with the latter: “A benefit is a good office, done with intention and judgment;” that is to say, with a due regard to all the circumstances of what, how, why, when, where, to whom, how much, and the like; or otherwise: “It is a voluntary and benevolent action that delights the giver in the comfort it brings to the receiver.” It will be hard to draw this subject, either into method or compass: the one, because of the infinite variety and complication of cases; the other, by reason of the large extent of it: for the whole business (almost) of mankind in society falls under this head; the duties of kings and subjects, husbands and wives, parents and children, masters and servants, natives and strangers, high and low, rich and poor, strong and weak, friends and enemies.28 The very meditation of it breeds good blood and generous thoughts; and instructs us in honor, humanity, friendship, piety, gratitude, prudence, and justice. In short, the art and skill of conferring benefits is, of all human duties, the most absolutely necessary to the well-being, both of reasonable nature, and of every individual; as the very cement of all communities, and the blessing of particulars. He that does good to another man does good also to himself; not only in the consequence, but in the very act of doing it; for the conscience of well-doing is an ample reward.
One of the most harmful mistakes in a hasty and thoughtless life is the widespread ignorance about the nature of exchanging benefits. This ignorance stems from a misunderstanding, both about the person we want to help and about the act itself. Starting with the latter: “A benefit is a good deed, done with intention and thoughtfulness;” meaning that it takes into account all the circumstances of what, how, why, when, where, to whom, how much, and so forth; or in other words: “It is a voluntary and kind action that gives joy to the giver through the happiness it brings to the receiver.” It's challenging to fully explore this topic, both in terms of organization and scope: the former due to the endless variety and complexity of situations, and the latter because almost the entire spectrum of human interactions falls under this category; including the responsibilities of kings and subjects, husbands and wives, parents and children, masters and servants, locals and outsiders, the affluent and the impoverished, the powerful and the weak, friends and foes.28 Simply contemplating this subject fosters goodwill and noble thoughts, teaching us about honor, compassion, friendship, devotion, gratitude, wisdom, and fairness. In short, the art and skill of giving benefits is, among all human responsibilities, the most essential for the well-being of both humanity as a whole and each person; it acts as the vital glue of communities and the blessings of individuals. When someone does good for another, they also do good for themselves; not only in the results but in the very act of doing it; for knowing you've done well is its own great reward.
Of benefits in general, there are several sorts; as necessary, profitable, and delightful. Some things there are, without which we cannot live; others without which we ought not to live; and some, again, without which we will not live. In the first rank are those which deliver us from capital dangers, or apprehensions of death: and the favor is rated according to the hazard; for the greater the extremity, the greater seems the obligation. The next is a case wherein we may indeed live, but we had better die; as in the question of liberty, modesty, and a good conscience. In the third place, follow those things which custom, use, affinity, and acquaintance, have made dear to us; as husbands, wives, children, friends, etc., which an honest man will preserve at his utmost peril. Of things profitable there is a large field, as money, honor, etc., to which might be added, matters of superfluity and pleasure. But we shall open a way to the circumstances of a benefit by some previous and more general deliberations upon the thing itself.
There are several types of benefits in general: necessary, profitable, and delightful. Some things are essential for us to survive; others are things we should not live without; and then there are those things we choose not to live without. At the top are the things that protect us from serious dangers or the fear of death: the value of these is measured by the risk involved; the more severe the threat, the greater the obligation feels. Next are those situations where we can survive but might be better off dead; this includes issues of freedom, decency, and a clear conscience. Finally, we have those things that are cherished due to familiarity, relationships, and bonds, like spouses, children, friends, etc., which a decent person will protect at all costs. For profitable things, there's a wide range, including money, reputation, etc., along with things deemed excessive and pleasurable. However, we should first explore some basic and broader discussions about the concept of benefit itself.
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CHAPTER II.
SEVERAL SORTS OF BENEFITS.
We shall divide benefits into absolute and vulgar; the one appertaining to good life, the other is only matter of commerce. The former are the more excellent, because they can never be made void; whereas all material benefits are tossed back and forward, and change their master. There are some offices that look like benefits, but are only desirable conveniences, as wealth, etc., and these a wicked man may receive from a good, or a good man from an evil. Others, again, that bear the face of injuries, which are only benefits ill taken; as cutting, lancing, burning, under the hand of a surgeon. The greatest benefits of all are those of good education, which we receive from our parents, either in the state of ignorance or perverseness; as, their care and tenderness in our infancy; their discipline in our childhood, to keep us to our duties by fear; and, if fair means will not do, their proceeding afterwards to severity and punishment, without which we should never have come to good. There are matters of great value, many times, that are but of small price; as instructions from a tutor, medicine from a physician, etc. And there are small matters again, which are of great consideration to us: the gift is small, and the consequence great; as a cup of cold water in30 a time of need may save a man’s life. Some things are of great moment to the giver, others to the receiver: one man gives me a house; another snatches me out when it is falling upon my head; one gives me an estate; another takes me out of the fire, or casts me out a rope when I am sinking. Some good offices we do to friends, others to strangers; but those are the noblest that we do without pre-desert. There is an obligation of bounty, and an obligation of charity; this in case of necessity, and that in point of convenience. Some benefits are common, others are personal; as if a prince (out of pure grace) grant a privilege to a city, the obligation lies upon the community, and only upon every individual as a part of the whole; but if it be done particularly for my sake, then am I singly the debtor for it. The cherishing of strangers is one of the duties of hospitality, and exercises itself in the relief and protection of the distressed. There are benefits of good counsel, reputation, life, fortune, liberty, health, nay, and of superfluity and pleasure. One man obliges me out of his pocket; another gives me matter of ornament and curiosity; a third, consolation. To say nothing of negative benefits; for there are that reckon it an obligation if they do a body no hurt; and place it to account, as if they saved a man, when they do not undo him. To shut up all in one word; as benevolence is the most sociable of all virtues, so it is of the largest extent; for there is not any man, either so great or so little, but he is yet capable of giving and of receiving benefits.
We’ll break down benefits into absolute and vulgar; the first relates to a good life, while the latter is just about commerce. The former are superior because they can never be taken away; meanwhile, material benefits shift back and forth and change hands. There are some roles that seem like benefits but are just nice conveniences, like wealth, which a bad person might get from a good one, or a good person from a bad one. Others appear to be injuries but are actually benefits misunderstood, like cutting, lancing, or burning done by a surgeon. The greatest benefits of all come from good education that we receive from our parents, whether they're ignorant or misguided; this includes their care and support in our early years, their discipline during our childhood to ensure we fulfill our duties out of fear, and, if gentle methods fail, their eventual use of harshness and punishment, without which we’d never improve. Often, there are valuable things that are low in cost, like lessons from a tutor or medicine from a doctor. Conversely, there are small acts that carry significant importance for us: a little gift can have a huge impact; like a cup of cold water in a moment of need might save a life. Some things mean a lot to the giver, while others hold value for the receiver: one person gives me a house, another saves me when it’s about to collapse on me; one provides me an estate, while another pulls me from the fire or throws me a rope when I'm drowning. We do kind acts for friends and for strangers, but the best ones are those we do without expecting anything in return. There are obligations of generosity and obligations of charity; the former is in cases of necessity, and the latter is for convenience. Some benefits are shared, while others are personal; for instance, if a prince grants a privilege to a city out of pure kindness, the obligation falls on the community as a whole, but if it is granted specifically for my benefit, then I alone owe that debt. Caring for strangers is part of hospitality, involving relief and protection for those in distress. There are benefits from good advice, reputation, life, fortune, liberty, health, and even excess and pleasure. One person helps me financially; another provides me with something decorative and interesting; a third offers consolation. Not to mention negative benefits; some consider it an obligation if they don't harm someone and count it as if they saved a life by merely not ruining it. To sum it up, just as goodwill is the most sociable of all virtues, it is also the most far-reaching; for there is no person, whether great or small, who isn’t capable of giving and receiving benefits.
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CHAPTER III.
A SON MAY OBLIGE HIS FATHER, AND A SERVANT HIS MASTER.
The question is (in the first place) whether it may not be possible for a father to owe more to a son, in other respects, than the son owes to his father for his being? That many sons are both greater and better than their fathers, there is no question; as there are many other things that derive their beings from others, which yet are far greater than their original. Is not the tree larger than the seed? the river than the fountain? The foundation of all things lies hid, and the superstructure obscures it. If I owe all to my father, because he gives me life, I may owe as much to a physician that saved his life; for if my father had not been cured, I had never been begotten: or, if I stand indebted for all that I am to my beginning, my acknowledgment must run back to the very original of all human beings. My father gave me the benefit of life: which he had never done, if his father had not first given it to him. He gave me life, not knowing to whom; and when I was in a condition neither to feel death nor to fear it. That is the great benefit, to give life to one that knows how to use it, and that is capable of the apprehension of death. It is true, that without a father I could never have had a being; and so, without a nurse, that being had never been improved:32 but I do not therefore owe my virtue either to my nativity or to her that gave me suck. The generation of me was the last part of the benefit: for to live is common with brutes; but to live well is the main business; and that virtue is all my own, saving what I drew from my education. It does not follow that the first benefit must be the greatest, because without the first the greatest could never have been. The father gives life to the son but once; but if the son save the father’s life often, though he do but his duty, it is yet a greater benefit. And again, the benefit that a man receives is the greater, the more he needs it; but the living has more need of life than he that is not yet born; so that the father receives a greater benefit in the continuance of his life than the son in the beginning of it. What if a son deliver his father from the rack; or, which is more, lay himself down in his place? The giving of him a being was but the office of a father; a simple act, a benefit given at a venture: beside that, he had a participant in it, and a regard to his family. He gave only a single life, and he received a happy one. My mother brought me into the world naked, exposed, and void of reason; but my reputation and my fortune are advanced by my virtue. Scipio (as yet in his minority) rescued his father in a battle with Hannibal, and afterward from the practices and persecution of a powerful faction; covering him with consulary honors, and the spoils of public enemies. He made himself as eminent for his moderation as for his piety and military knowledge: he was the defender and the establisher of his country: he left the empire without a competitor, and made himself as well the ornament of Rome as the security of it:33 and did not Scipio, in all this, more than requite his father barely for begetting of him? Whether did Anchises more for Æneas, in dandling the child in his arms; or Æneas for his father, when he carried him upon his back through the flames of Troy, and made his name famous to future ages among the founders of the Roman Empire? T. Manlius was the son of a sour and imperious father, who banished him his house as a blockhead, and a scandal to the family. This Manlius, hearing that his father’s life was in question, and a day set for his trial, went to the tribune that was concerned in his cause, and discoursed with him about it: the tribune told him the appointed time, and withal (as an obligation upon the young man) that his cruelty to his son would be part of his accusation. Manlius, upon this, takes the tribune aside, and presenting a poniard to his breast, “Swear,” says he, “that you will let this cause fall, or you shall have this dagger in the heart of you; and now it is at your choice which way you will deliver my father.” The tribune swore and kept his word, and made a fair report of the whole matter to the council. He that makes himself famous by his eloquence, justice, or arms, illustrates his extraction, let it be never so mean; and gives inestimable reputation to his parents. We should never have heard of Sophroniscus, but for his son Socrates; nor for Aristo and Gryllus, if it had not been for Xenophon and Plato.
The question is whether a father could owe more to a son in certain ways than the son owes his father for simply existing. There's no doubt that many sons are greater and better than their fathers; there are many things that come from others but are far greater than their origins. Isn't the tree bigger than the seed? The river than the spring? The foundation of everything is hidden, and the structure above it obscures it. If I owe everything to my father because he gave me life, I could also owe just as much to a doctor who saved his life; without my father's recovery, I would never have been born. Or, if I owe everything I am to my beginning, then my gratitude must trace back to the very source of all human life. My father gave me life, which he could never have done if his father had not first given it to him. He gave me life without knowing who I would be and when I couldn't feel fear or even death. The true gift is giving life to someone who can appreciate it and understand death. It's true that without a father, I wouldn't exist, and without a nurse, my existence wouldn't have flourished. But I don't owe my virtue to my birth or to the woman who nursed me. My generation was just the final part of the gift; living is common to animals, but living well is what truly matters, and that virtue is entirely my own, aside from what I gained through my education. It doesn't mean that the first benefit is the greatest just because nothing greater could exist without it. A father gives life to a child just once, but if the child often saves the father's life, even if it’s out of duty, that’s a much greater benefit. Additionally, the more someone needs something, the greater the benefit they receive. The living individual needs life more than one who is not yet born, meaning the father benefits more from the continuation of his life than the son does from his mere beginning. What if a son saves his father from torture or, even more, takes his place? Giving life is merely a father's role—a simple act, a benefit done at random. Besides that, the father had a personal stake in it and a consideration for his family. He gave just one life, and he received a rewarding one. My mother brought me into the world without clothes, completely exposed and without reason, but my reputation and fortune have been built by my virtue. Scipio, still a minor, saved his father in battle against Hannibal and later from the scheming and persecution of a powerful faction, honoring him with consul titles and victories over public enemies. He established himself as notable for both his moderation and his dedication to his country: he secured the empire without rivals and became a revered figure in Rome. In all this, didn’t Scipio do more than just repay his father for bringing him into existence? Did Anchises do more for Aeneas by cradling him as a child, or did Aeneas do more for his father by carrying him through the flames of Troy, making his name famous among the founders of the Roman Empire? T. Manlius was the son of a strict and domineering father who cast him out of the house as a fool and a disgrace. Hearing that his father's life was at stake and a trial was set, this Manlius approached the tribune handling the case and discussed it. The tribune informed him of the date and noted that his father’s cruelty would be part of the charges against him. Manlius then took the tribune aside and, presenting a dagger to his heart, said, "Swear that you'll let this case drop, or you'll feel this dagger. Now it’s up to you which way you’ll save my father." The tribune swore and honored that promise, giving a favorable report to the council. Those who gain fame through their eloquence, sense of justice, or military prowess elevate their lineage, no matter how humble. We wouldn't have known Sophroniscus if it weren't for his son Socrates, nor Aristo and Gryllus if there hadn't been Xenophon and Plato.
This is not to discountenance the veneration we owe to parents; nor to make children the worse, but the better; and to stir up generous emulations: for, in contests of good offices, both parties are happy; as well the vanquished as those that overcome. It is the only honorable dispute that can arise betwixt34 a father and son, which of the two shall have the better of the other in the point of benefits.
This doesn't mean we should disrespect the respect we owe to our parents; nor does it make children worse, but better, and encourages healthy competition. In contests of kindness, both sides can find happiness—both the one who loses and the one who wins. It's the only honorable disagreement that can happen between a father and son about who can do more good for the other.
In the question betwixt a master and a servant, we must distinguish betwixt benefits, duties, and actions ministerial. By benefits, we understand those good offices that we receive from strangers, which are voluntary, and may be forborne without blame. Duties are the parts of a son and wife, and incumbent upon kindred and relations. Offices ministerial belong to the part of a servant. Now, since it is the mind, and not the condition of a person, that prints the value upon the benefit, a servant may oblige his master, and so may a subject his sovereign, or a common soldier his general, by doing more than he is expressly bound to do. Some things there are, which the law neither commands nor forbids; and here the servant is free. It would be very hard for a servant to be chastised for doing less than his duty, and not thanked for it when he does more. His body, it is true, is his master’s, but his mind is his own: and there are many commands which a servant ought no more to obey than a master to impose. There is no man so great, but he may both need the help and service, and stand in fear of the power and unkindness, even of the meanest of mortals. One servant kills his master; another saves him, nay, preserves his master’s life, perhaps, with the loss of his own: he exposes himself to torment and death; he stands firm against all threats and batteries: which is not only a benefit in a servant, but much the greater for his being so.
In the relationship between a master and a servant, we need to differentiate between benefits, duties, and ministerial actions. By benefits, we mean the good deeds we receive from strangers, which are voluntary and can be omitted without blame. Duties refer to the responsibilities of a son and a wife and are obligations for relatives and kin. Ministerial offices pertain to a servant's role. Since it is the mind, not the condition of a person, that assigns value to a benefit, a servant can serve his master just as a subject can serve his sovereign, or a common soldier can serve his general, by doing more than what they are explicitly required to do. There are some actions that the law neither commands nor prohibits; in these cases, the servant has freedom. It would be quite unfair for a servant to be punished for doing less than his duty but not recognized for doing more. True, the servant's body belongs to the master, but his mind is his own: there are many commands a servant should obey no more than a master should impose. No one is so great that they can’t need help and service, or fear the power and unkindness of even the lowest of people. One servant might kill his master, while another saves him, even risking his own life in the process. He puts himself in danger of torture and death; he stands strong against all threats and attacks, which is not just a benefit from a servant but is even more significant because of his role.
When Domitius was besieged in Corfinium, and the place brought to great extremity, he pressed his servant so earnestly to poison him, that at last he was prevailed upon to give him a potion; which, it35 seems, was an innocent opiate, and Domitius outlived it: Cæsar took the town, and gave Domitius his life, but it was his servant that gave it him first.
When Domitius was trapped in Corfinium and the situation became dire, he urged his servant so persistently to poison him that the servant eventually agreed to give him a drink. It turned out to be a harmless opiate, and Domitius survived it. Caesar captured the town and spared Domitius's life, but it was his servant who first granted him that chance.
There was another town besieged, and when it was upon the last pinch, two servants made their escape, and went over to the enemy: upon the Romans entering the town, and in the heat of the soldiers’ fury, these two fellows ran directly home, took their mistress out of her house, and drove her before them, telling every body how barbarously she had used them formerly, and that they would now have their revenge; when they had her without the gates, they kept her close till the danger was over; by which means they gave their mistress her life, and she gave them their freedom. This was not the action of a servile mind, to do so glorious a thing, under an appearance of so great a villainy; for if they had not passed for deserters and parricides, they could not have gained their end.
There was another town under siege, and when things were at their worst, two servants managed to escape and went over to the enemy. When the Romans entered the town, in the heat of the soldiers’ rage, these two men ran straight home, dragged their mistress out of her house, and forced her to walk in front of them, telling everyone how cruel she had treated them in the past and that they were out for revenge. Once they got her outside the gates, they kept her safe until the danger had passed; this way, they saved her life, and she granted them their freedom. This was not the act of someone with a servile mindset, doing something so honorable while pretending to commit such a terrible act; if they hadn't been seen as deserters and traitors, they wouldn't have achieved their goal.
With one instance more (and that a very brave one) I shall conclude this chapter.
With one more example (and it's a really brave one), I’ll finish this chapter.
In the civil wars of Rome, a party coming to search for a person of quality that was proscribed, a servant put on his master’s clothes, and delivered himself up to the soldiers as the master of the house; he was taken into custody, and put to death, without discovering the mistake. What could be more glorious, than for a servant to die for his master, in that age, when there were not many servants that would not betray their masters? So generous a tenderness in a public cruelty; so invincible a faith in a general corruption; what could be more glorious, I say, than so exalted a virtue, as rather to choose death for the reward of his fidelity, than the greatest advantages he might otherwise have had for the violation of it?
During the civil wars in Rome, a group came to find a noble person who had been condemned. A servant put on his master's clothing and turned himself in to the soldiers as if he were the master. He was taken into custody and executed without revealing the error. What could be more glorious than a servant dying for his master at a time when very few servants wouldn’t betray their masters? Such noble compassion amid public cruelty; such unwavering faith in a time of widespread corruption. What could be more glorious than such a remarkable virtue, choosing death for the sake of his loyalty instead of the greatest rewards he could have gained by betraying it?
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CHAPTER IV.
IT IS THE INTENTION, NOT THE MATTER, THAT MAKES THE
BENEFIT.
The good-will of the benefactor is the fountain of all benefits; nay it is the benefit itself, or, at least, the stamp that makes it valuable and current. Some there are, I know, that take the matter for the benefit, and tax the obligation by weight and measure. When anything is given them, they presently cast it up; “What may such a house be worth? such an office? such an estate?” as if that were the benefit which is only the sign and mark of it: for the obligation rests in the mind, not in the matter; and all those advantages which we see, handle, or hold in actual possession by the courtesy of another, are but several modes or ways of explaining and putting the good-will in execution. There needs no great subtlety to prove, that both benefits and injuries receive their value from the intention, when even brutes themselves are able to decide this question. Tread upon a dog by chance, or put him to pain upon the dressing of a wound; the one he passes by as an accident; and the other, in his fashion, he acknowledges as a kindness: but, offer to strike at him, though you do him no hurt at all, he flies yet in the face of you, even for the mischief that you barely meant him.
The goodwill of the benefactor is the source of all benefits; in fact, it is the benefit itself, or at least, the mark that makes it valuable and valid. Some people, I know, view the benefit as just the item and measure the obligation by its weight and value. When they receive something, they immediately calculate, “What’s that house worth? What about that office? And that estate?” as if that were the entire benefit, which is only a symbol of it: because the obligation lies in the mind, not in the material things; and all those advantages we see, touch, or hold thanks to someone else’s kindness are just different ways of expressing and putting that goodwill into action. It's not hard to show that both benefits and injuries get their value from intent, as even animals can figure this out. If you accidentally step on a dog or cause it pain while tending to a wound, it will overlook the first as an accident but will recognize the second, in its own way, as a kindness. However, if you make a move to strike at it, even if you don’t actually hurt it, it will react aggressively due to the harm you intended.
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It is further to be observed, that all benefits are good; and (like the distributions of Providence) made up of wisdom and bounty; whereas the gift itself is neither good nor bad, but may indifferently be applied, either to the one or to the other. The benefit is immortal, the gift perishable: for the benefit itself continues when we have no longer either the use or the matter of it. He that is dead was alive; he that has lost his eyes, did see; and, whatsoever is done, cannot be rendered undone. My friend (for instance) is taken by pirates; I redeem him; and after that he falls into other pirates’ hands; his obligation to me is the same still as if he had preserved his freedom. And so, if I save a man from any misfortune, and he falls into another; if I give him a sum of money, which is afterwards taken away by thieves; it comes to the same case. Fortune may deprive us of the matter of a benefit, but the benefit itself remains inviolable. If the benefit resided in the matter, that which is good for one man would be so for another; whereas many times the very same thing, given to several persons, work contrary effects, even to the difference of life or death; and that which is one body’s cure proves another body’s poison. Beside that, the timing of it alters the value; and a crust of bread, upon a pinch, is a greater present than an imperial crown. What is more familiar than in a battle to shoot at an enemy and kill a friend? or, instead of a friend, to save an enemy? But yet this disappointment, in the event, does not at all operate upon the intention. What if a man cures me of a wen with a stroke that was designed to cut off my head? or, with a malicious blow upon my stomach, breaks an imposthume? or, what if he saves my life with a draught that was38 prepared to poison me? The providence of the issue does not at all discharge the obliquity of the intent. And the same reason holds good even in religion itself. It is not the incense, or the offering, that is acceptable to God, but the purity and devotion of the worshipper: neither is the bare will, without action, sufficient, that is, where we have the means of acting; for, in that case, it signifies as little to wish well, without well-doing, as to do good without willing it. There must be effect as well as intention, to make me owe a benefit; but, to will against it, does wholly discharge it. In fine, the conscience alone is the judge, both of benefits and injuries.
It should also be noted that all benefits are good, and like the gifts of Providence, made up of wisdom and generosity. However, the gift itself isn't inherently good or bad, as it can be applied either way. The benefit is everlasting, while the gift can fade away: the benefit remains even when we no longer have the use or essence of it. A person who has died was once alive; someone who has lost their sight could see; and anything that's been done can't be undone. For example, if my friend is captured by pirates and I rescue him, but then he gets captured again, my obligation to him remains the same as if he had kept his freedom. Similarly, if I save someone from one misfortune and they face another, or if I help them financially only for that money to be stolen, the situation is the same. Luck can strip us of the substance of a benefit, but the benefit itself remains untouched. If the benefit depended on the material aspect, what is good for one person would also be good for another; yet often the same thing given to different people can have opposite effects, even leading to life or death; what heals one person could poison another. Additionally, timing affects the value; a piece of bread offered in dire need can mean more than a royal crown. How common is it in battle to accidentally shoot a friend instead of an enemy, or to save an enemy instead of a friend? Yet, this disappointment in the outcome doesn’t change the intention. What if someone cures me of a growth with a strike meant to be fatal? Or, with a harmful jab in my stomach, ends up resolving an abscess? Or, if they save my life with a drink intended to poison me? The outcome doesn’t negate the wrong nature of the intention. This principle holds true even in matters of faith. It’s not the incense or offering that's acceptable to God, but the sincerity and devotion of the person offering it. Furthermore, the mere desire to do good without action isn't enough, especially when we have the means to act; wishing someone well without actually doing good is as ineffective as doing good without the intent to help. There must be both action and intention for me to owe someone a benefit; however, if I intend to act against it, that completely nullifies it. Ultimately, conscience alone serves as the judge of both benefits and injuries.
It does not follow now, because the benefit rests in the good-will, that therefore the good-will should be always a benefit; for if it be not accompanied with government and discretion, those offices, which we call benefits, are but the works of passion, or of chance; and many times, the greatest of all injuries. One man does me good by mistake; another ignorantly; a third upon force: but none of these cases do I take to be an obligation; for they were neither directed to me, nor was there any kindness of intention; we do not thank the seas for the advantages we receive by navigation; or the rivers with supplying us with fish and flowing of our grounds; we do not thank the trees either for their fruits or shades, or the winds for a fair gale; and what is the difference betwixt a reasonable creature that does not know and an inanimate that cannot? A good horse saves one man’s life; a good suit of arms another’s; and a man, perhaps, that never intended it, saves a third. Where is the difference now betwixt the obligation of one and of the other? A man falls into a river, and the fright cures him of the ague; we39 may call this a kind of lucky mischance, but not a remedy. And so it is with the good we receive, either without, or beside, or contrary to intention. It is the mind, and not the event, that distinguishes a benefit from an injury.
It doesn't follow that because a benefit comes from goodwill, that goodwill should always be considered a benefit. If goodwill isn’t paired with proper governance and judgment, what we call benefits turn out to be mere acts of passion or chance, often causing significant harm. One person might help me by accident; another might do so out of ignorance; a third might be compelled to act. But I don't see any obligation in these situations because they weren’t aimed at me, nor was there any genuine intention behind them. We don’t thank the seas for the advantages we get from navigation or the rivers for providing us with fish and nourishing our lands; we don’t thank the trees for their fruit or shade or the winds for a favorable breeze. What’s the difference between a rational being who doesn’t know and an inanimate object that can’t know? A good horse saves one person's life; a good suit of arms saves another's; and maybe a man who never intended it saves a third. What’s the difference between the obligation of one and the other? A man falls into a river, and the shock cures his fever; we might call this a sort of lucky coincidence, but not a cure. The same applies to the good we receive, whether it’s without, aside from, or against intention. It’s the mind, not the outcome, that separates a benefit from an injury.
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THERE MUST BE JUDGMENT IN A BENEFIT, AS WELL AS MATTER
AND INTENTION; AND ESPECIALLY IN THE CHOICE
OF THE PERSON.
As it is the will that designs the benefit, and the matter that conveys it, so it is the judgment that perfects it; which depends upon so many critical niceties, that the least error, either in the person, the matter, the manner, the quality, the quantity, the time, or the place, spoils all.
As the will determines the benefit, and the matter delivers it, so the judgment refines it; and this depends on so many critical details that even the smallest mistake, whether in the person, the matter, the manner, the quality, the quantity, the time, or the place, ruins everything.
The consideration of the person is a main point: for we are to give by choice, and not by hazard. My inclination bids me oblige one man; I am bound in duty and justice to serve another; here it is a charity, there it is pity; and elsewhere, perhaps, encouragement. There are some that want, to whom I would not give; because, if I did, they would want still. To one man I would barely offer a benefit; but I would press it upon another. To say the truth, we do not employ any more profit than that which we bestow; and it is not to our friends, our acquaintances or countrymen, nor to this or that condition of men, that we are to restrain our bounties; but wheresoever there is a man, there is a place and occasion for a benefit. We give to some that are good already; to others, in hope to make them so: but we must do all with discretion; for we are as well answerable for what we give as for what we receive;41 nay, the misplacing of a benefit is worse than the not receiving of it; for the one is another man’s fault; but the other is mine. The error of the giver does oft-times excuse the ingratitude of the receiver: for a favor ill-placed is rather a profusion than a benefit. It is the most shameful of losses, an inconsiderate bounty. I will choose a man of integrity, sincere, considerate, grateful, temperate, well-natured, neither covetous nor sordid: and when I have obliged such a man, though not worth a groat in the world, I have gained my end. If we give only to receive, we lose the fairest objects of our charity: the absent, the sick, the captive, and the needy. When we oblige those that can never pay us again in kind, as a stranger upon his last farewell, or a necessitous person upon his death-bed, we make Providence our debtor, and rejoice in the conscience even of a fruitless benefit. So long as we are affected with passions, and distracted with hopes and fears, and (the most unmanly of vices) with our pleasures, we are incompetent judges where to place our bounties: but when death presents itself, and that we come to our last will and testament, we leave our fortunes to the most worthy. He that gives nothing, but in hopes of receiving, must die intestate. It is the honesty of another man’s mind that moves the kindness of mine; and I would sooner oblige a grateful man than an ungrateful: but this shall not hinder me from doing good also to a person that is known to be ungrateful: only with this difference, that I will serve the one in all extremities with my life and fortune, and the other no farther than stands with my convenience. But what shall I do, you will say, to know whether a man will be grateful or not? I will follow probability, and hope the best. He that sows is not42 sure to reap; nor the seaman to reach his port; nor the soldier to win the field: he that weds is not sure his wife shall be honest, or his children dutiful: but shall we therefore neither sow, sail, bear arms, nor marry? Nay, if I knew a man to be incurably thankless, I would yet be so kind as to put him in his way, or let him light a candle at mine, or draw water at my well; which may stand him perhaps in great stead, and yet not be reckoned as a benefit from me; for I do it carelessly, and not for his sake, but my own; as an office of humanity, without any choice or kindness.
The consideration of the person is a key point: we should give by choice, not by chance. My inclination might lead me to help one person, but I have a duty and justice to serve another; sometimes it’s charity, sometimes pity, and other times, maybe encouragement. There are people in need that I wouldn’t give to, because even if I did, they'd still be in need. To one person, I might offer a small benefit, but to another, I would insist on helping them. The truth is, we don’t gain any more than what we give; and we shouldn’t limit our generosity to friends, acquaintances, or fellow countrymen, nor to any particular group of people, because wherever there’s a person, there’s an opportunity to help. We give to some who are already good; to others, we hope to make them better. But we must act with discretion, because we are just as responsible for what we give as for what we receive;41 indeed, misplacing a benefit is worse than not giving one at all; the one is someone else's fault, but the other is mine. A giver’s mistake often excuses the recipient’s ingratitude: a poorly placed favor is more waste than a benefit. An inconsiderate bounty is the most shameful loss. I will choose a person of integrity—sincere, thoughtful, appreciative, moderate, and good-natured—neither greedy nor selfish; and if I help such a person, even if they have no money, I’ve achieved my goal. If we only give to receive, we miss the best opportunities for charity: the absent, the sick, the imprisoned, and the needy. When we help those who can never repay us in kind, like a stranger saying goodbye or a needy person on their deathbed, we make Providence our debtor and take joy in the knowledge of a selfless act. As long as we’re distracted by passions, hopes, and fears—and the most unmanly vice, our pleasures—we’re poor judges of where to direct our generosity: but when death confronts us, and we come to our last will and testament, we leave our fortunes to the most deserving. Whoever gives only in hopes of receiving must die without a will. It's the integrity of another person’s character that inspires my kindness; I would rather help a grateful person than an ungrateful one. However, this won’t stop me from doing good for someone known to be ungrateful; it just means I’ll support the grateful person in every way possible, while helping the ungrateful one only when it’s convenient for me. But what should I do, you might ask, to know if a person will be grateful? I will follow probabilities and hope for the best. The one who sows isn’t guaranteed a harvest; nor is the sailor sure to reach his destination; nor is the soldier certain to win the battle. The one who marries can’t be sure that their spouse will be faithful or that their children will be dutiful. So should we then refrain from sowing, sailing, fighting, or marrying? No, even if I knew someone was hopelessly ungrateful, I would still be kind enough to help them find their way, or let them use my candle or draw water from my well; that might be really helpful for them, and it wouldn’t be seen as a favor from me because I do it carelessly, not for their sake, but for my own, as a humane act without any personal investment.
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THE MATTER OF OBLIGATIONS, WITH ITS CIRCUMSTANCES.
Next to the choice of the person follows that of the matter; wherein a regard must be had to time, place, proportion, quality; and to the very nicks of opportunity and humor. One man values his peace above his honor, another his honor above his safety; and not a few there are that (provided they may save their bodies) never care what becomes of their souls. So that good offices depend much upon construction. Some take themselves to be obliged, when they are not; others will not believe it, when they are; and some again take obligations and injuries, the one for the other.
Next to choosing the person, we need to consider the matter; we have to think about timing, location, balance, quality, and the little details of opportunity and mood. Some people value their peace more than their honor, while others prioritize their honor over their safety. And there are many who, as long as they can keep their bodies safe, don’t care what happens to their souls. So, good actions depend a lot on interpretation. Some feel obligated when they’re not, others don’t believe they are when they actually are, and some confuse obligations with offenses.
For our better direction, let it be noted, “That a benefit is a common tie betwixt the giver and receiver, with respect to both:” wherefore it must be accommodated to the rules of discretion; for all things have their bounds and measures, and so must liberality among the rest; that it be neither too much for the one nor too little for the other; the excess being every jot as bad as the defect. Alexander bestowed a city upon one of his favorites; who modestly excusing himself, “That it was too much for him to receive.” “Well, but,” says Alexander, “it is not too much for me to give.” A haughty certainly, and an imprudent speech; for that which was not fit44 for the one to take could not be fit for the other to give. It passes in the world for greatness of mind to be perpetually giving and loading of people with bounties; but it is one thing to know how to give, and another thing not to know how to keep. Give me a heart that is easy and open, but I will have no holes in it; let it be bountiful with judgment, but I will have nothing run out of it I know not how. How much greater was he that refused the city than the other that offered it? Some men throw away their money as if they were angry with it, which is the error commonly of weak minds and large fortunes. No man esteems of anything that comes to him by chance; but when it is governed by reason, it brings credit both to the giver and receiver; whereas those favors are, in some sort, scandalous, that make a man ashamed of his patron.
For our better understanding, let's note that “a benefit is a connection between the giver and receiver, concerning both.” Therefore, it must follow the rules of discretion; everything has its limits, and generosity must too; it shouldn’t be too much for one or too little for the other; the excess is just as bad as the deficiency. Alexander gave a city to one of his favorites, who modestly declined, saying, “It’s too much for me to accept.” Alexander replied, “Well, it’s not too much for me to give.” That certainly came off as arrogant and unwise; what wasn’t suitable for one to accept couldn’t be suitable for the other to give. In society, people often consider it a mark of greatness to endlessly give and shower others with gifts; but knowing how to give is one thing, and knowing how to keep is another. I want a heart that is open and generous, but I don’t want any holes in it; let it give wisely, but I won’t have anything leak out that I can't control. How much greater was the one who refused the city than the one who offered it? Some people waste their money as if they’re upset with it, which is a common mistake among those with weak minds and large fortunes. No one values something that comes to them by chance; but when it’s guided by reason, it brings respect to both the giver and receiver; while certain favors can be, in a way, embarrassing, making a person feel ashamed of their benefactor.
It is a matter of great prudence, for the benefactor to suit the benefit to the condition of the receiver: who must be either his superior, his inferior, or his equal; and that which would be the highest obligation imaginable to the one, would perhaps be as great a mockery and affront to the other; as a plate of broken meat (for the purpose) to a rich man were an indignity, which to a poor man is a charity. The benefits of princes and of great men, are honors, offices, monies, profitable commissions, countenance, and protection: the poor man has nothing to present but good-will, good advice, faith, industry, the service and hazard of his person, an early apple, peradventure, or some other cheap curiosity: equals indeed may correspond in kind; but whatsoever the present be, or to whomsoever we offer it, this general rule must be observed, that we always design the good and satisfaction of the receiver, and never45 grant anything to his detriment. It is not for a man to say, I was overcome by importunity; for when the fever is off, we detest the man that was prevailed upon to our destruction. I will no more undo a man with his will, than forbear saving him against it. It is a benefit in some cases to grant, and in others to deny; so that we are rather to consider the advantage than the desire of the petitioner. For we may in a passion earnestly beg for (and take it ill to be denied too) that very thing, which, upon second thoughts, we may come to curse, as the occasion of a most pernicious bounty. Never give anything that shall turn to mischief, infamy, or shame. I will consider another man’s want or safety; but so as not to forget my own; unless in the case of a very excellent person, and then I shall not much heed what becomes of myself. There is no giving of water to a man in a fever; or putting a sword into a madman’s hand. He that lends a man money to carry him to a bawdy-house, or a weapon for his revenge, makes himself a partaker of his crime.
It's really important for a giver to match their gift to the situation of the receiver, who could be someone above them, below them, or on the same level. What might be an incredible favor for one person could be an insult or mockery to another. For instance, giving a wealthy person a plate of leftovers would be demeaning, while it would be a generous offer for someone poor. The gifts from kings and powerful people are usually honors, jobs, money, valuable assignments, support, and protection. In contrast, the less fortunate can only offer goodwill, good advice, loyalty, hard work, personal service, maybe a fresh apple, or some other inexpensive token. People of equal status might exchange similar kinds of gifts, but regardless of what the gift is or who it's given to, the key principle is to always prioritize the good and satisfaction of the recipient and never give anything that could harm them. It's no excuse to say, "I was pressured," because once the heat of the moment is over, we often regret allowing someone to lead us to our downfall. I won't undo someone willingly, just as I won't hold back from saving them if they’re against it. Sometimes it's beneficial to grant a request, while in other situations, it's better to deny it; we should focus more on what is truly beneficial rather than just on what the requester wants. We might desperately demand something that, after reconsideration, we realize was a terrible mistake. Avoid giving anything that could lead to harm, disgrace, or shame. I’ll think about another person's needs or safety, but not at the cost of my own, unless it's for someone truly exceptional, in which case I might not care about my own well-being. You wouldn’t give water to someone with a fever, nor put a sword in the hands of someone who is insane. If you lend someone money to go to a brothel or give them a weapon for revenge, you're sharing in their wrongdoing.
He that would make an acceptable present, will pitch upon something that is desired, sought for, and hard to be found; that which he sees nowhere else, and which few have; or at least not in that place or season; something that may be always in his eye, and mind him of his benefactor. If it be lasting and durable, so much the better; as plate, rather than money; statues than apparel; for it will serve as a monitor to mind the receiver of the obligation, which the presenter cannot so handsomely do. However, let it not be improper, as arms to a woman, books to a clown, toys to a philosopher: I will not give to any man that which he cannot receive, as if I threw a ball to a man without hands; but I will46 make a return, though he cannot receive it; for my business is not to oblige him, but to free myself: nor anything that may reproach a man of his vice or infirmity; as false dice to a cheat; spectacles to a man that is blind. Let it not be unseasonable neither; as a furred gown in summer, an umbrella in winter. It enhances the value of the present, if it was never given to him by anybody else, nor by me to any other; for that which we give to everybody is welcome to nobody.
If you want to give a thoughtful gift, choose something that’s wanted, sought after, and hard to find; something unique that isn’t easily available, or at least not in that location or time; something that the recipient can always see and that reminds them of you. It’s even better if it’s something that lasts, like silverware instead of cash, or statues instead of clothing; because it serves as a reminder of the kindness they received, which is a message that’s harder for the giver to convey directly. However, it shouldn’t be inappropriate, like giving weapons to a woman, books to someone who doesn’t read, or toys to someone wise. I won’t give someone something they can’t use, like tossing a ball to a person without hands; but I will make an effort, even if they can’t accept it, because my goal isn’t to put them in debt to me but to relieve my own sense of obligation. Also, I won’t give anything that might embarrass someone over their faults or weaknesses, like giving loaded dice to a cheater or glasses to a blind person. Timing matters too; I won’t give a heavy coat in summer or an umbrella in winter. A gift is more valuable if it’s something they’ve never received from anyone else, including me; because gifts that are given to everyone are welcome to no one.
The particularity does much, but yet the same thing may receive a different estimate from several persons; for there are ways of marking and recommending it in such a manner, that if the same good office be done to twenty people, every one of them shall reckon himself peculiarly obliged as a cunning whore, if she has a thousand sweethearts, will persuade every one of them she loves him best. But this is rather the artifice of conversation than the virtue of it.
The specifics do a lot, but the same action can be viewed differently by different people; there are ways to highlight and present it so that if the same good deed is done for twenty individuals, each one of them will feel uniquely indebted, just like a clever woman who, with a thousand admirers, will make each of them believe that she loves him the most. However, this is more about the tricks of conversation than the essence of it.
The citizens of Megara send ambassadors to Alexander in the height of his glory, to offer him, as a compliment, the freedom of their city. Upon Alexander’s smiling at the proposal, they told him, that it was a present which they had never made but to Hercules and himself. Whereupon Alexander treated them kindly, and accepted of it; not for the presenters’ sake, but because they had joined him with Hercules; now unreasonably soever; for Hercules conquered nothing for himself, but made his business to vindicate and to protect the miserable, without any private interest or design; but this intemperate young man (whose virtue was nothing else but a successful temerity) was trained up from his youth in the trade of violence; the common47 enemy of mankind, as well of his friends as of his foes, and one that valued himself upon being terrible to all mortals: never considering, that the dullest creatures are as dangerous and as dreadful, as the fiercest; for the poison of a toad, or the tooth of a snake, will do a man’s business, as sure as the paw of a tiger.
The citizens of Megara send ambassadors to Alexander at the peak of his power to offer him, as a gesture, the freedom of their city. When Alexander smiled at the offer, they explained that it was a gift they had only given to Hercules and him. Alexander then treated them kindly and accepted the gift, not for their sake, but because they had compared him to Hercules, even if it was an unreasonable comparison. Hercules achieved nothing for himself; his purpose was to defend and protect the vulnerable without any selfish motives. In contrast, this reckless young man—whose so-called virtue was just successful boldness—had been raised in a world of violence, being a common enemy of all humankind, both friends and foes. He prided himself on being fearsome to everyone, neglecting that even the least threatening creatures can be just as dangerous and terrifying as the fiercest ones; the venom of a toad or the bite of a snake can be as lethal as the claw of a tiger.
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THE MANNER OF OBLIGING.
There is not any benefit so glorious in itself, but it may yet be exceedingly sweetened and improved by the manner of conferring it. The virtue, I know, rests in the intent, the profit in the judicious application of the matter; but the beauty and ornament of an obligation lies in the manner of it; and it is then perfect when the dignity of the office is accompanied with all the charms and delicacies of humanity, good-nature, and address; and with dispatch too; for he that puts a man off from time to time, was never right at heart.
There’s no benefit so great in itself, but it can be made even sweeter and better by the way it's given. I know the good comes from the intent, and the value is in the careful application of the matter; but the beauty and appeal of a favor lie in the way it's presented. It’s truly perfect when the weight of the role is paired with all the charm and kindness of humanity, good nature, and social grace; and with efficiency too; because someone who keeps putting a person off isn’t genuine at heart.
In the first place, whatsoever we give, let us do it frankly: a kind benefactor makes a man happy as soon as he can, and as much as he can. There should be no delay in a benefit but the modesty of the receiver. If we cannot forsee the request, let us, however, immediately grant it, and by no means suffer the repeating of it. It is so grievous a thing to say, I BEG; the very word puts a man out of countenance; and it is a double kindness to do the thing, and save an honest man the confusion of a blush. It comes too late that comes for the asking: for nothing costs us so dear as that we purchase with our prayers: it is all we give, even for heaven itself; and even there too, where our petitions are at the49 fairest, we choose rather to present them in secret ejaculations than by word of mouth. That is the lasting and the acceptable benefit that meets the receiver half-way. The rule is, we are to give, as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers. Nay, if there should be occasion for delay, let us, however, not seem to deliberate; for demurring is next door to denying; and so long as we suspend, so long are we unwilling. It is a court-humor to keep people upon the tenters; their injuries are quick and sudden, but their benefits are slow. Great ministers love to rack men with attendance, and account it an ostentation of their power to hold their suitors in hand, and to have many witnesses of their interest. A benefit should be made acceptable by all possible means, even to the end that the receiver, who is never to forget it, may bear it in his mind with satisfaction. There must be no mixture of sourness, severity, contumely, or reproof, with our obligations; nay, in case there should be any occasion for so much as an admonition, let it be referred to another time. We are a great deal apter to remember injuries than benefits; and it is enough to forgive an obligation that has the nature of an offence.
First of all, whatever we give, let’s do it openly: a kind benefactor makes someone happy as soon as possible, and as much as they can. There shouldn’t be any delay in giving a benefit, only the modesty of the receiver. If we can’t foresee the request, let’s grant it immediately, and don’t let the person have to ask again. It’s really painful to say, I BEG; that word can make someone feel embarrassed; it’s doubly kind to act without making an honest person blush. It’s too late when it comes only when asked: nothing costs us as much as what we buy with our requests; it’s everything we give, even when it’s for heaven itself; and even there, where our requests are at their 49 best, we prefer to present them in quiet thoughts rather than by speaking. That’s the lasting and appreciated benefit that meets the receiver halfway. The rule is we should give as we would receive: cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; because there’s no grace in a benefit that lingers. If there’s a need for delay, let’s not appear to hesitate; because pausing is almost the same as denying; as long as we hold back, we seem unwilling. It's frustrating to keep people waiting; their hurts are quick and sudden, but their benefits are slow. Important people like to keep others waiting, showcasing their power by holding their requests in limbo and having many witnesses to their influence. A benefit should be made palatable by all means, so that the receiver, who should never forget it, remembers it fondly. There mustn’t be any hint of bitterness, severity, disdain, or criticism mixed with our obligations; and if there’s any need for a reminder, let it wait for another time. We tend to remember injuries more than benefits; it’s enough to forgive a kindness that feels like an offense.
There are some that spoil a good office after it is done and others, in the very instant of doing it. There be so much entreaty and importunity; nay, if we do but suspect a petitioner, we put on a sour face; look another way; pretend haste, company, business; talk of other matters, and keep him off with artificial delays, let his necessities be never so pressing; and when we are put to it at last, it comes so hard from us that it is rather extorted than obtained; and50 not so properly the giving of a bounty, as the quitting of a man’s hold upon the tug, when another is too strong for him; so that this is but doing one kindness for me, and another for himself: he gives for his own quiet, after he has tormented me with difficulties and delays. The manner of saying or of doing any thing, goes a great way in the value of the thing itself. It was well said of him that called a good office, that was done harshly, and with an ill will, a stony piece of bread; it is necessary for him that is hungry to receive it, but it almost chokes a man in the going down. There must be no pride, arrogance of looks, or tumor of words, in the bestowing of benefits; no insolence of behavior, but a modesty of mind, and a diligent care to catch at occasions and prevent necessities. A pause, an unkind tone, word, look, or action, destroys the grace of a courtesy. It corrupts a bounty, when it is accompanied with state, haughtiness, and elation of mind, in the giving of it. Some have a trick of shifting off a suitor with a point of wit, or a cavil. As in the case of the Cynic that begged a talent of Antigonus: “That is too much,” says he, “for a Cynic to ask;” and when he fell to a penny, “That is too little,” says he, “for a prince to give.” He might have found a way to have compounded this controversy, by giving him a penny as to a Cynic and a talent as from a prince. Whatsoever we bestow, let it be done with a frank and cheerful countenance: a man must not give with his hand, and deny with his looks. He that gives quickly, gives willingly.
Some people ruin a good favor after it's done, and others do it while they’re in the process. There’s so much begging and pressure; if we even suspect someone is asking for something, we put on a sour face, look away, pretend to be busy with something else, and talk about unrelated matters to stall them, no matter how urgent their needs are. When we finally help them, it’s so begrudgingly that it feels more like they forced it out of us than like a genuine offer; it’s more about letting go of a grip when someone else is too strong for us. This is just doing one favor for me and another for themselves: they give for their own peace of mind after making me suffer through difficulties and delays. The way we say or do something greatly affects how valuable it is. It was well said about an ungracious good deed that it’s like a “stony piece of bread”; it's necessary for a hungry person to take, but it nearly chokes them as it goes down. There should be no pride, arrogance, or inflated language in giving gifts; no rudeness, but instead a humble attitude and a genuine effort to recognize opportunities and prevent needs. A pause, an unfriendly tone, word, look, or action ruins the grace of kindness. It taints goodwill when accompanied by pompousness, arrogance, and a high-and-mighty attitude in the act of giving. Some people have a knack for dodging requests with humor or clever remarks. Like when the Cynic asked Antigonus for a talent: “That’s too much for a Cynic to ask,” he replied. When the request dropped to a penny, Antigonus said, “That’s too little for a prince to give.” He could have solved that by giving a penny like a Cynic and a talent like a prince. Whatever we give, it should be with a genuine and cheerful attitude: a person shouldn't give with their hands but turn away with their expression. Those who give quickly do so willingly.
We are likewise to accompany good deeds with good words, and say, (for the purpose,) “Why should you make such a matter of this? why did not you come to me sooner? why would you make use of51 any body else? I take it ill that you should bring me a recommendation; pray let there be no more of this, but when you have occasion hereafter, come to me upon your own account.” That is the glorious bounty, when the receiver can say to himself; “What a blessed day has this been to me! never was any thing done so generously, so tenderly, with so good a grace. What is it I would not do to serve this man? A thousand times as much another way could not have given me this satisfaction.” In such a case, let the benefit be never so considerable, the manner of conferring it is yet the noblest part. Where there is harshness of language, countenance, or behavior, a man had better be without it. A flat denial is infinitely before a vexatious delay: as a quick death is a mercy, compared with a lingering torment. But to be put to waitings and intercessions, after a promise is passed, is a cruelty intolerable. It is troublesome to stay long for a benefit, let it be never so great; and he that holds me needlessly in pain, loses two precious things, time, and the proof of friendship. Nay, the very hint of a man’s want comes many times too late. “If I had money,” said Socrates, “I would buy me a cloak.” They that knew he wanted one should have prevented the very intimation of that want. It is not the value of the present, but the benevolence of the mind, that we are to consider. “He gave me but a little, but it was generously and frankly done; it was a little out of a little: he gave it me without asking; he pressed it upon me; he watched the opportunity of doing it, and took it as an obligation upon himself.” On the other side, many benefits are great in show, but little or nothing perhaps in effect, when they come hard, slow, or at unawares. That which is given with52 pride and ostentation, is rather an ambition than a bounty.
We should also pair good deeds with good words and ask, “Why are you making such a big deal out of this? Why didn't you come to me sooner? Why would you ask someone else? I'm disappointed that you brought me a recommendation; let's skip that in the future and just come to me directly when you need something.” That's the true generosity when the recipient thinks, “What a wonderful day this has been for me! I've never received anything so generously, so kindly, with such great grace. What wouldn't I do to help this person? A thousand times more in any other way could not have brought me this satisfaction.” In such cases, no matter how significant the benefit is, the way it's given is the most important part. When there's harshness in words, expressions, or actions, it's better not to receive help at all. A direct refusal is far better than a frustrating delay: like a quick death is a mercy compared to prolonged suffering. But being made to wait and needing to beg after a promise has been made is utterly cruel. It’s frustrating to wait long for a benefit, no matter how significant it is; the person who unnecessarily keeps me in pain is wasting two precious things: time and the essence of friendship. Moreover, sometimes the hint of someone's need comes too late. “If I had money,” Socrates said, “I'd buy myself a cloak.” Those who knew he needed one should have stepped in before he even hinted at his need. It's not the value of the gift that matters, but the generosity behind it. “He gave me just a little, but it was done in a generous and sincere way; it was a small amount from a small source: he provided it without me asking; he insisted on giving it to me; he saw the perfect moment to do it and saw it as an obligation to himself.” On the other hand, many gifts may look grand but are actually insignificant when they come reluctantly, slowly, or unexpectedly. A gift given with pride and showiness is more about ambition than true generosity.
Some favors are to be conferred in public, others in private. In public the rewards of great actions; as honors, charges, or whatsoever else gives a man reputation in the world; but the good offices we do for a man in want, distress, or under reproach, these should be known only to those that have the benefit of them. Nay, not to them neither, if we can handsomely conceal it from whence the favor came; for the secrecy, in many cases, is a main part of the benefit. There was a good man that had a friend, who was both poor and sick, and ashamed to own his condition: he privately conveyed a bag of money under his pillow, that he might seem rather to find than receive it. Provided I know that I give it, no matter for his knowing from whence it comes that receives it. Many a man stands in need of help that has not the face to confess it: if the discovery may give offence, let it lie concealed; he that gives to be seen would never relieve a man in the dark. It would be too tedious to run through all the niceties that may occur upon this subject; but, in two words, he must be a wise, a friendly, and a well-bred man, that perfectly acquits himself in the art and duty of obliging: for all his actions must be squared according to the measures of civility, good-nature and discretion.
Some favors are meant to be given in public, while others are best in private. In public, we recognize the rewards of significant actions, like honors, positions, or anything else that boosts a person's reputation in the world. However, the help we offer to someone in need, distress, or facing criticism should be known only to those directly benefiting from it. In fact, it's even better if we can discreetly hide the source of the favor; privacy can often be a key part of the benefit. There was a good man who had a friend who was both poor and sick, and too ashamed to admit his situation. He secretly placed a bag of money under his pillow so it would appear as though his friend found it rather than receiving it. As long as I know I am giving it, it doesn't matter if the recipient knows where it came from. Many people need help but lack the confidence to ask for it: if revealing the source could cause offense, it’s better to keep it hidden; someone who gives to be seen wouldn't truly help a person in need. It would be too tedious to cover all the subtleties involved in this issue, but in short, one must be wise, kind, and well-mannered to successfully navigate the art and obligation of helping others, as all actions should align with principles of civility, good-nature, and discretion.
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CHAPTER VIII.
THE DIFFERENCE AND VALUE OF BENEFITS.
We have already spoken of benefits in general; the matter and the intention, together with the manner of conferring them. It follows now, in course, to say something of the value of them; which is rated, either by the good they do us, or by the inconvenience they save us, and has no other standard than that of a judicious regard to circumstance and occasion. Suppose I save a man from drowning, the advantage of life is all one to him, from what hand soever it comes, or by what means; but yet there may be a vast difference in the obligation. I may do it with hazard, or with security, with trouble, or with ease; willingly, or by compulsion; upon intercession, or without it: I may have a prospect of vain-glory or profit: I may do it in kindness to another, or an hundred by-ends to myself; and every point does exceedingly vary the case. Two persons may part with the same sum of money, and yet not the same benefit: the one had it of his own, and it was but a little out of a great deal; the other borrowed it, and bestowed upon me that which he wanted for himself. Two boys were sent out to fetch a certain person to their master: the one of them hunts up and down, and comes home again weary, without finding him; the other falls to play with his companions at the wheel of Fortune, sees54 him by chance passing by, delivers him his errand, and brings him. He that found him by chance deserves to be punished; and he that sought for him, and missed him, to be rewarded for his good-will.
We’ve already talked about benefits in general; the matter and the intention, along with the way they are given. Next, it’s time to discuss the value of those benefits, which is determined by either the good they bring us or the trouble they save us. There’s no other measure than a careful consideration of the situation and circumstances. If I save a person from drowning, the value of their life is the same, no matter where the help comes from or how it’s done; however, the obligation can vary greatly. I might save them at great risk or with little danger, with effort or with ease, willingly or under duress, on someone else's request or without it. I might be looking for recognition or a reward, or I might be helping for the sake of someone else, or even for a hundred other reasons, and each of these factors changes the situation significantly. Two people can give away the same amount of money but result in very different benefits: one person gave from their own wealth, which was just a small part of a large sum; the other borrowed it and sacrificed something they needed for themselves. Two boys were sent to get someone for their master: one searched everywhere and came back tired without finding him; the other played with his friends at the wheel of Fortune, happened to see him pass by, delivered the message, and brought him back. The one who found him by chance should be punished, while the one who searched and didn’t find him should be rewarded for their effort.
In some cases we value the thing, in others the labor and attendance. What can be more precious than good manners, good letters, life, and health? and yet we pay our physicians and tutors only for their service in the professions. If we buy things cheap, it matters not, so long as it is a bargain: it is no obligation from the seller, if nobody else will give him more for it. What would not a man give to be set ashore in a tempest? for a house in a wilderness? a shelter in a storm? a fire, or a bit of meat, when a man is pinched with hunger or cold? a defence against thieves, and a thousand other matters of moment, that cost but little? And yet we know that the skipper has but his freight for our passage; and the carpenters and bricklayers do their work by the day. Those are many times the greatest obligations in truth, which in vulgar opinions are the smallest: as comfort to the sick, poor captives; good counsel, keeping of people from wickedness, etc. Wherefore we should reckon ourselves to owe most for the noblest benefits. If the physician adds care and friendship to the duty of his calling, and the tutor to the common method of his business, I am to esteem them as the nearest of my relations: for to watch with me, to be troubled for me, and to put off all other patients for my sake, is a particular kindness: and so it is in my tutor, if he takes more pains with me than with the rest of my fellows. It is not enough, in this case, to pay the one his fees, and the other his salary; but I am indebted to them over and above for their friendship. The meanest55 of mechanics, if he does his work with industry and care, it is an usual thing to cast in something by way of reward more than the bare agreement: and shall we deal worse with the preservers of our lives, and the reformers of our manners? He that gives me himself (if he be worth taking) gives the greatest benefit: and this is the present which Æschines, a poor disciple of Socrates, made to his master, and as a matter of great consideration: “Others may have given you much,” says he, “but I am the only man that has left nothing to himself.” “This gift,” says Socrates, “you shall never repent of; for I will take care to return it better than I found it.” So that a brave mind can never want matter for liberality in the meanest condition; for Nature has been so kind to us, that where we have nothing of Fortune’s, we may bestow something of our own.
In some cases, we value the thing, and in others, the labor and attendance. What could be more valuable than good manners, education, life, and health? Yet, we only pay our doctors and instructors for their services in their professions. If we buy things at a low price, it doesn't matter as long as it's a good deal: there's no obligation from the seller if no one else would offer him more. What wouldn't a person give to be safely ashore during a storm? For a house in the wilderness? A roof over their head in a storm? A fire, or a piece of meat when someone is suffering from hunger or cold? Protection against thieves, and a thousand other important things that cost so little? And still, we know that the captain only gets paid for our passage, and the carpenters and bricklayers work for a daily wage. Often, the greatest obligations in reality are those that people tend to undervalue: like providing comfort to the sick or poor prisoners; good advice, keeping people away from evil, etc. Therefore, we should consider ourselves most indebted for the noblest benefits. If the doctor adds care and friendship to his duty, and the tutor takes a particular interest in me, I must regard them as my closest relations: to stay with me, to worry about me, and to prioritize my needs over others is an exceptional kindness. The same goes for my tutor if he puts in more effort with me than with my classmates. It's not enough to just pay the doctor his fees and the tutor his salary; I owe them beyond that for their friendship. Even the least skilled worker, if he does his job diligently and carefully, it's common to give him a little extra as a reward beyond the initial agreement: so why should we treat the saviors of our lives and the reformers of our behavior any worse? He who gives me himself (if he is worth having) gives the greatest gift: and this is the present that Æschines, a poor disciple of Socrates, offered to his master, which was a significant gesture: “Others may have given you a lot,” he said, “but I am the only one who has kept nothing for myself.” “You will never regret this gift,” said Socrates, “for I will ensure to return it even better than I received it.” So, a noble-minded person can always find reasons for generosity, even in the most humble circumstances; for Nature has been kind to us, ensuring that where we lack Fortune’s gifts, we can still offer something of our own.
It falls out often, that a benefit is followed with an injury; let which will be foremost, it is with the latter as with one writing upon another; it does in a great measure hide the former, and keep it from appearing, but it does not quite take it away. We may in some cases divide them, and both requite the one, and revenge the other; or otherwise compare them, to know whether I am creditor or debtor. You have obliged me in my servant, but wounded me in my brother; you have saved my son, but have destroyed my father; in this instance, I will allow as much as piety, and justice, and good nature, will bear; but I am not willing to set an injury against a benefit. I would have some respect to the time; the obligation came first; and then, perhaps, the one was designed, the other against his will; under these considerations I would amplify the benefit, and lessen the injury; and extinguish the one with the56 other; nay, I would pardon the injury even without the benefit, but much more after it. Not that a man can be bound by one benefit to suffer all sorts of injuries; for there are some cases wherein we lie under no obligation for a benefit; because a greater injury absolves it: as, for example, a man helps me out of a law-suit, and afterwards commits a rape upon my daughter; where the following impiety cancels the antecedent obligation. A man lends me a little money, and then sets my house on fire; the debtor is here turned creditor, when the injury outweighs the benefit. Nay, if a man does but so much as repent the good office done, and grow sour and insolent upon it, and upbraid me with it; if he did it only for his own sake, or for any other reason than for mine, I am in some degree, more or less, acquitted of the obligation. I am not at all beholden to him that makes me the instrument of his own advantage. He that does me good for his own sake, I will do him good for mine.
Often, a benefit comes with a drawback; regardless of which appears first, the latter tends to overshadow the former, concealing it but not completely removing it. In some situations, we can separate the two, rewarding one and avenging the other, or we can weigh them to determine if I owe something or am owed something. You’ve helped me with my servant, but hurt me with my brother; you’ve saved my son, but harmed my father. In this case, I will consider what is right, just, and kind, but I’m not inclined to offset an injury against a benefit. I will consider the timing; the obligation was given first, and perhaps one was intentional, while the other was out of your control. With this in mind, I would amplify the benefit and minimize the injury, effectively canceling one with the other; indeed, I would forgive the injury even without the benefit, but much more so after it. Not that a person should feel compelled to endure all kinds of injuries because of one benefit; there are situations where a benefit is nullified by a greater harm: for instance, if someone helps me win a lawsuit and then assaults my daughter; the wrongdoer cancels the previous obligation. If someone lends me some money and then sets my house on fire, the borrower becomes the lender here, as the harm surpasses the benefit. Furthermore, if a person regrets the good deed, becomes bitter or arrogant about it, or criticizes me for it; if their motivation was solely for themselves or for reasons other than my benefit, I am to some extent relieved of the obligation. I owe nothing to someone who treats me as a means to their own gain. If someone does me a favor for their own benefit, I will do them one for mine.
Suppose a man makes suit for a place, and cannot obtain it, but upon the ransom of ten slaves out of the galleys. If there be ten, and no more, they owe him nothing for their redemption; but they are indebted to him for the choice, where he might have taken ten others as well as these. Put the case again, that by an act of grace so many prisoners are to be released, their names to be drawn by lot, and mine happens to come out among the rest: one part of my obligation is to him that put me in a capacity of freedom, and the other is to Providence for my being one of that number. The greatest benefits of all have no witnesses, but lie concealed in the conscience.
Suppose a man is trying to get a position but can only secure it by paying the ransom for ten slaves from the galleys. If there are exactly ten, he doesn't owe them anything for their release; instead, they owe him for the opportunity since he could have chosen any ten, not just these. Now, imagine that due to a gracious act, a certain number of prisoners will be released, and my name is drawn along with others: part of my obligation is to the person who facilitated my freedom, and the other part is to fate for me being among that selected group. The biggest blessings often go unnoticed and are hidden in the conscience.
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There is a great difference betwixt a common obligation and a particular; he that lends my country money, obliges me only as a part of the whole. Plato crossed the river, and the ferry-man would take no money of him: he reflected upon it as honor done to himself; and told him, “That Plato was in debt.” But Plato, when he found it to be no more than he did for others, recalled his words, “For,” says he, “Plato will owe nothing in particular for a benefit in common; what I owe with others, I will pay with others.”
There’s a big difference between a general obligation and a specific one; when someone lends my country money, they’re only obligating me as part of the larger whole. Plato once crossed a river, and the ferryman refused to take any money from him. Plato saw it as an honor to himself and remarked, “That Plato is in debt.” But when he realized it was the same treatment given to everyone else, he reconsidered and said, “For, Plato owes nothing specifically for a benefit shared; what I owe with others, I will pay with others.”
Some will have it that the necessity of wishing a man well is some abatement to the obligation in the doing of him a good office. But I say, on the contrary, that it is the greater; because the good-will cannot be changed. It is one thing to say, that a man could not but do me this or that civility, because he was forced to do it; and another thing, that he could not quit the good-will of doing it. In the former case, I am a debtor to him that imposeth the force, in the other to himself. The unchangeable good-will is an indispensable obligation: and, to say, that nature cannot go out of her course, does not discharge us of what we owe to Providence. Shall he be said to will, that may change his mind the next moment? and shall we question the will of the Almighty, whose nature admits no change? Must the stars quit their stations, and fall foul one upon another? must the sun stand still in the middle of his course, and heaven and earth drop into confusion? must a devouring fire seize upon the universe; the harmony of the creation be dissolved; and the whole frame of nature swallowed up in a dark abyss; and will nothing less than this serve to convince the world of their audacious and impertinent58 follies? It is not to say, that these heavenly bodies are not made for us; for in part they are so; and we are the better for their virtues and motions, whether we will or not; though, undoubtedly, the principal cause is the unalterable law of God. Providence is not moved by anything from without; but the Divine will is an everlasting law, an immutable decree; and the impossibility of variation proceeds from God’s purpose of preserving; for he never repents of his first counsels. It is not with our heavenly as with our earthly father. God thought of us and provided for us, before he made us: (for unto him all future events are present.) Man was not the work of chance; his mind carries him above the slight of fortune, and naturally aspires to the contemplation of heaven and divine mysteries. How desperate a frenzy is it now to undervalue, nay, to contemn and to disclaim these divine blessings, without which we are utterly incapable of enjoying any other!
Some believe that wishing someone well reduces our obligation to help them. But I argue the opposite: it actually increases that obligation because good intentions can’t be changed. It’s one thing to say someone had to show me a kindness because they were forced, and another to say they couldn’t escape their desire to do it. In the first case, I owe a debt to the person who imposed the force; in the second, I owe it to the person for their willingness. This unchanging goodwill is an essential obligation. To claim that nature cannot deviate from its course doesn't free us from what we owe to Providence. Can someone who might change their mind in an instant truly be said to will something? And can we doubt the will of the Almighty, whose nature doesn’t allow for change? Must the stars abandon their positions and collide into each other? Must the sun stop in its path, causing chaos in heaven and earth? Must a consuming fire engulf the universe, harmony of creation be shattered, and the entire fabric of nature be swallowed by a dark abyss for the world to realize their foolishness? It’s not accurate to say these heavenly bodies are not made for us; in part, they are, and we benefit from their virtues and movements, whether we acknowledge it or not. Undoubtedly, the main reason is the unchangeable law of God. Providence isn’t influenced by anything external; instead, the Divine will is an eternal law, an unchanging decree. The impossibility of change comes from God’s purpose to preserve, as He never regrets His original plans. Our heavenly Father’s ways are unlike those of our earthly fathers. God thought of us and prepared for us before He created us: (for to Him, all future events are present.) Humanity was not a result of chance; we have a mind that elevates us above the whims of fortune and naturally seeks to understand heaven and divine truths. How utterly foolish it is to underestimate, dismiss, or reject these divine blessings, without which we are completely incapable of enjoying anything else!
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CHAPTER IX.
AN HONEST MAN CANNOT BE OUTDONE IN COURTESY.
It passes in the world for a generous and magnificent saying, that “it is a shame for a man to be outdone in courtesy;” and it is worth the while to examine, both the truth of it, and the mistake. First, there can be no shame in a virtuous emulation; and, secondly, there can be no victory without crossing the cudgels, and yielding the cause. One man may have the advantage of strength, of means, of fortune; and this will undoubtedly operate upon the events of good purposes, but yet without any diminution to the virtue. The good will may be the same in both, and yet one may have the heels of the other; for it is not in a good office as in a course, where he wins the plate that comes first to the post: and even there also, chance has many times a great hand in the success. Where the contest is about benefits; and that the one has not only a good will, but matter to work upon, and a power to put that good intent in execution; and the other has barely a good-will, without either the means, or the occasion, of a requital; if he does but affectionately wish it, and endeavor it, the latter is no more overcome in courtesy than he is in courage that dies with his sword in his hand, and his face to the enemy, and without shrinking maintains his station: for where fortune is par60tial, it is enough that the good-will is equal. There are two errors in this proposition: first, to imply that a good man may be overcome; and then to imagine that anything shameful can befall him. The Spartans prohibited all those exercises where the victory was declared by the confession of the contendant. The 300 Fabii were never said to be conquered, but slain; nor Regulus to be overcome, though he was taken prisoner by the Carthaginians. The mind may stand firm under the greatest malice and iniquity of fortune; and yet the giver and receiver continue upon equal terms: as we reckon it a drawn battle, when two combatants are parted, though the one has lost more blood than the other. He that knows how to owe a courtesy, and heartily wishes that he could requite it, is invincible; so that every man may be as grateful as he pleases. It is your happiness to give, it is my fortune that I can only receive. What advantage now has your chance over my virtue? But there are some men that have philosophized themselves almost out of the sense of human affections; as Diogenes, that walked naked and unconcerned through the middle of Alexander’s treasures, and was, as well in other men’s opinions as in his own, even above Alexander himself, who at that time had the whole world at his feet: for there was more that the one scorned to take than that the other had it in his power to give: and it is a greater generosity for a beggar to refuse money than for a prince to bestow it. This is a remarkable instance of an immovable mind, and there is hardly any contending with it; but a man is never the less valiant for being worsted by an invulnerable enemy; nor the fire one jot the weaker for not consuming an incombustible body; nor a sword ever a whit the61 worse for not cleaving a rock that is impenetrable; neither is a grateful mind overcome for want of an answerable fortune. No matter for the inequality of the things given and received, so long as, in point of good affection, the two parties stand upon the same level. It is no shame not to overtake a man, if we follow him as fast as we can. That tumor of a man, the vain-glorious Alexander, was used to make his boast, that never any man went beyond him in benefits; and yet he lived to see a poor fellow in a tub, to whom there was nothing that he could give, and from whom there was nothing that he could take away.
People often say that "it's shameful for a man to be outdone in kindness," and it's worth looking into the truth and the misunderstanding behind this idea. First, there's no shame in healthy competition, and second, you can't claim a win without some level of conflict or giving in. One person might have advantages like strength, wealth, or luck, which can definitely influence positive outcomes, but it doesn't take away from their virtue. The good intentions can be the same in both parties, yet one may have the upper hand; it’s not like racing, where the one who crosses the finish line first takes home the prize. Even in racing, luck often plays a significant role in who wins. When the competition is about doing good, and one person has both good intentions and the means to act on them while the other has only good intentions without the ability or opportunity to return the favor, the one with lesser means isn’t less courteous than a brave person who fights valiantly but is ultimately defeated; it’s about equal goodwill. There are two mistakes in this thinking: first, suggesting that a good person can truly be defeated, and second, imagining that any shame can come to them. The Spartans forbade competitions where victory was determined by the loser admitting defeat. The 300 Fabii were never considered to have been "conquered," just "killed"; nor was Regulus said to be “overcome,” even when captured by the Carthaginians. A strong mind can withstand great malice and misfortune while the giver and receiver stand equally. We consider it a tie in battle when two fighters are separated, even if one has lost more blood. A person who knows how to appreciate a kindness and sincerely wishes they could reciprocate is unbeatable, so anyone can express gratitude as much as they like. It's better for you to give, and it's my misfortune that I can only accept. What advantage does your luck have over my virtue? But some people have thought themselves out of feeling human emotions; like Diogenes, who walked carelessly through Alexander’s treasures, feeling superior to Alexander himself, who had the world at his feet. Diogenes valued more the things he refused than Alexander could ever give; it's a greater act of generosity for a beggar to turn down money than for a prince to give it. This illustrates a strong mind, one that’s difficult to challenge; a person isn't any less brave for being outmatched by an unbeatable opponent, just as fire isn’t weaker for not burning something that can’t catch fire, nor is a sword any less sharp for not cutting a solid rock; neither is a grateful heart defeated by an unbalanced fortune. The difference in what is given and received doesn’t matter as long as both parties hold equal goodwill. There’s no shame in not surpassing someone if we’re at least trying our hardest to keep up. That puffed-up Alexander used to brag that no one ever outdid him in kindness, yet he lived to see a poor man in a tub, to whom he had nothing to offer, and from whom he could take nothing away.
Nor is it always necessary for a poor man to fly to the sanctuary of an invincible mind to quit scores with the bounties of a plentiful fortune; but it does often fall out, that the returns which he cannot make in kind are more than supplied in dignity and value. Archelaus, a king of Macedon, invited Socrates to his palace: but he excused himself, as unwilling to receive greater benefits than he was able to requite. This perhaps was not pride in Socrates, but craft; for he was afraid of being forced to accept of something which might possibly have been unworthy of him; beside, that he was a man of liberty, and loath to make himself a voluntary slave. The truth of it is, that Archelaus had more need of Socrates than Socrates of Archelaus; for he wanted a man to teach him the art of life and death, and the skill of government, and to read the book of Nature to him, and show him the light at noon-day: he wanted a man that, when the sun was in an eclipse, and he had locked himself up in all the horror and despair imaginable; he wanted a man, I say, to deliver him from his apprehensions, and to expound the62 prodigy to him, by telling him, that there was no more in it than only that the moon was got betwixt the sun and the earth, and all would be well again presently. Let the world judge now, whether Archelaus’ bounty, or Socrates’ philosophy, would have been the greater present: he does not understand the value of wisdom and friendship that does not know a wise friend to be the noblest of presents. A rarity scarce to be found, not only in a family, but in an age; and nowhere more wanted than where there seems to be the greatest store. The greater a man is, the more need he has of him; and the more difficulty there is both of finding and of knowing him. Nor is it to be said, that “I cannot requite such a benefactor because I am poor, and have it not;” I can give good counsel; a conversation wherein he may take both delight and profit; freedom of discourse, without flattery; kind attention, where he deliberates; and faith inviolable where he trusts; I may bring him to a love and knowledge of truth; deliver him from the errors of his credulity, and teach him to distinguish betwixt friends and parasites.
It's not always necessary for a poor person to seek refuge in a strong mind to balance the scales with the gifts of great fortune; often, the returns that he can't provide in kind are more than compensated for in dignity and value. Archelaus, a king of Macedon, invited Socrates to his palace; however, Socrates declined because he didn't want to receive benefits he couldn't repay. This might not have been pride in Socrates, but rather wisdom; he feared being forced to accept something that could be beneath him. Moreover, he was a man of freedom, and he was reluctant to make himself a voluntary servant. The truth is, Archelaus needed Socrates more than Socrates needed Archelaus; he sought someone to teach him the art of life and death, the skills of governance, to interpret nature for him, and to illuminate his dark times. He wanted a person who could lift him from his fear during an eclipse when he felt trapped in despair; he needed someone to explain that it was merely the moon passing between the sun and the earth, and everything would be normal again soon. Now let the world decide whether Archelaus’ bounty or Socrates’ philosophy would have been a greater gift: those who don’t recognize the value of wisdom and friendship don't understand that having a wise friend is the greatest gift. Such a rarity is hard to find, not just in a family but in an entire era; and nowhere is it more needed than where there seems to be an abundance. The greater a person is, the more he needs wisdom, making it more challenging to find and recognize. It's not right to say, “I can't repay such a benefactor because I'm poor and have nothing”; I can offer good advice, a conversation that is both enjoyable and beneficial, open dialogue without flattery, attentive support in decision-making, and unwavering trust. I can guide him toward love and understanding of the truth, free him from the traps of gullibility, and teach him to differentiate between true friends and sycophants.
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CHAPTER X.
THE QUESTION DISCUSSED, WHETHER OR NOT A MAN MAY GIVE
OR RETURN A BENEFIT TO HIMSELF?
There are many cases, wherein a man speaks of himself as of another. As, for example, “I may thank myself for this; I am angry at myself; I hate myself for that.” And this way of speaking has raised a dispute among the Stoics, “whether or not a man may give or return a benefit to himself?” For, say they, if I may hurt myself, I may oblige myself; and that which were a benefit to another body, why is it not so to myself? And why am I not as criminal in being ungrateful to myself as if I were so to another body? And the case is the same in flattery and several other vices; as, on the other side, it is a point of great reputation for a man to command himself. Plato thanked Socrates for what he had learned of him; and why might not Socrates as well thank Plato for that which he had taught him? “That which you want,” says Plato, “borrow it of yourself.” And why may not I as well give to myself as lend? If I may be angry with myself, I may thank myself; and if I chide myself, I may as well commend myself, and do myself good as well as hurt; there is the same reason of contraries: it is a common thing to say, “Such a man hath done himself an injury.” If an injury, why not a benefit? But I say, that no man can be a debtor to64 himself; for the benefit must naturally precede the acknowledgment; and a debtor can no more be without a creditor than a husband without a wife. Somebody must give, that somebody may receive; and it is neither giving nor receiving, the passing of a thing from one hand to the other. What if a man should be ungrateful in the case? there is nothing lost; for he that gives it has it: and he that gives and he that receives are one and the same person. Now, properly speaking, no man can be said to bestow any thing upon himself, for he obeys his nature, that prompts every man to do himself all the good he can. Shall I call him liberal, that gives to himself; or good-natured, that pardons himself; or pitiful, that is affected with his own misfortunes? That which were bounty, clemency, compassion, to another, to myself is nature. A benefit is a voluntary thing; but to do good to myself is a thing necessary. Was ever any man commended for getting out of a ditch, or for helping himself against thieves? Or what if I should allow, that a man might confer a benefit upon himself; yet he cannot owe it, for he returns it in the same instant that he receives it. No man gives, owes, or makes a return, but to another. How can one man do that to which two parties are requisite in so many respects? Giving and receiving must go backward and forward betwixt two persons. If a man give to himself, he may sell to himself; but to sell is to alienate a thing, and to translate the right of it to another; now, to make a man both the giver and the receiver is to unite two contraries. That is a benefit, which, when it is given, may possibly not be requited; but he that gives to himself, must necessarily receive what he gives; beside, that all benefits are given for the65 receiver’s sake, but that which a man does for himself, is for the sake of the giver.
There are many situations where someone talks about themselves as if they were another person. For example, “I can thank myself for this; I’m angry at myself; I hate myself for that.” This way of speaking has sparked a debate among the Stoics: “Can a person give or return a favor to themselves?” They argue that if I can hurt myself, then I can also help myself; and if something is a benefit to someone else, why isn’t it a benefit to me? Why shouldn’t I be just as guilty of being ungrateful to myself as I would be to someone else? The same applies to flattery and various other vices; conversely, it is highly regarded when someone can control themselves. Plato thanked Socrates for what he had learned from him; so why couldn’t Socrates thank Plato for what he had taught him? “Whatever you need,” says Plato, “borrow it from yourself.” And why couldn’t I just as easily give to myself as lend? If I can be angry with myself, I can thank myself; and if I scold myself, I can also praise myself, doing myself good as well as harm; the reasoning is the same for both sides: it’s common to say, “Such a person has done themselves an injury.” If that’s an injury, why not a benefit? However, I argue that no one can be a debtor to 64 themselves; because a benefit has to come before the acknowledgment, and a debtor can’t exist without a creditor, just as a husband needs a wife. Someone has to give for someone else to receive; and when something just passes from one hand to the other, it isn’t really giving or receiving. What if someone were ungrateful in that situation? Nothing is lost; the giver still has it. The giver and receiver are the same person. So, properly speaking, no one can be said to give anything to themselves, because they are just following their nature, which drives everyone to do the best they can for themselves. Should I call someone generous for giving to themselves, or kind for forgiving themselves, or compassionate for feeling bad about their own troubles? What would be considered generosity, kindness, or compassion towards someone else is just natural for oneself. A benefit is something voluntary, but doing good for oneself is necessary. Has anyone ever been praised for getting out of a ditch or for defending themselves against thieves? Even if I allow that someone could do a favor for themselves, they can’t owe it because they return it at the same moment they receive it. No one gives, owes, or pays back, except to another person. How can one person do something that requires two parties for so many reasons? Giving and receiving must go back and forth between two people. If someone gives to themselves, they might as well sell to themselves; but to sell is to transfer something and give the rights to another; making someone both giver and receiver combines two opposites. A benefit, which may not be reciprocated when given, is different because when someone gives to themselves, they must immediately receive what they give; additionally, all benefits are given for the receiver’s sake, but what a person does for themselves is for the sake of the giver.
This is one of those subtleties, which, though hardly worth a man’s while, yet it is not labor absolutely lost neither. There is more of trick and artifice in it than solidity; and yet there is matter of diversion too; enough perhaps to pass away a winter’s evening, and keep a man waking that is heavy-headed.
This is one of those little things that, while it may not seem worth a man's time, isn't completely pointless either. There's more cleverness and strategy to it than substance; yet it can still be entertaining enough to get through a winter evening and keep someone who's feeling drowsy awake.
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CHAPTER XI.
HOW FAR ONE MAN MAY BE OBLIGED FOR A BENEFIT DONE TO
ANOTHER.
The question now before us requires distinction and caution. For though it be both natural and generous to wish well to my friend’s friend, yet a second-hand benefit does not bind me any further than to a second-hand gratitude: so that I may receive great satisfaction and advantage from a good office done to my friend, and yet lie under no obligation myself; or, if any man thinks otherwise, I must ask him, in the first place, Where it begins? and, How it extends? that it may not be boundless. Suppose a man obliges the son, does that obligation work upon the father? and why not upon the uncle too? the brother? the wife? the sister? the mother? nay, upon all that have any kindness for him? and upon all the lovers of his friends? and upon all that love them too? and so in infinitum. In this case we must have recourse, as is said heretofore, to the intention of the benefactor, and fix the obligation upon him unto whom the kindness was directed. If a man manures my ground, keeps my house from burning or falling, it is a benefit to me, for I am the better for it, and my house and land are insensible. But if he save the life of my son, the benefit is to my son; it is a joy and a comfort to me, but no obligation. I am as much concerned as I ought to be in67 the health, the felicity, and the welfare of my son, as happy in the enjoyment of him; and I should be as unhappy as is possible in his loss; but it does not follow that I must of necessity lie under an obligation for being either happier or less miserable, by another body’s means. There are some benefits, which although conferred upon one man, may yet work upon others; as a sum of money may be given to a poor man for his own sake, which in the consequence proves the relief of his whole family; but still the immediate receiver is the debtor for it; for the question is not, to whom it comes afterward to be transferred, but who is the principal? and upon whom it was first bestowed? My son’s life is as dear to me as my own; and in saving him you preserve me too: in this case I will acknowledge myself obliged to you, that is to say, in my son’s name; for in my own, and in strictness, I am not; but I am content to make myself a voluntary debtor. What if he had borrowed money? my paying of it does not at all make it my debt. It would put me to the blush perhaps to have him taken in bed with another man’s wife; but that does not make me an adulterer. It is a wonderful delight and satisfaction that I receive in his safety; but still this good is not a benefit. A man may be the better for an animal, a plant, a stone; but there must be a will, an intention, to make it an obligation. You save the son without so much as knowing the father, nay, without so much as thinking of him; and, perhaps you would have done the same thing even if you had hated him.
The question now in front of us requires distinction and caution. While it's both natural and generous to wish well for my friend’s friend, a second-hand benefit doesn’t bind me any more than a second-hand gratitude: I can feel great satisfaction and gain from a good deed done for my friend, yet have no obligation myself; or if anyone thinks differently, I have to ask him, first, where does it start? and how does it extend? so that it isn't unlimited. If a man helps the son, does that obligation also apply to the father? Why not to the uncle? the brother? the wife? the sister? the mother? What about everyone who cares for him? And what about all the people who love his friends? And everyone who loves them too? And so in infinitum. In this case, we must look, as was mentioned before, to the benefactor's intention and define the obligation to the person for whom the kindness was intended. If a man tends my garden, prevents my house from burning or falling apart, it’s a benefit to me, as I’m better off because of it, and my house and land are inanimate. But if he saves my son’s life, the benefit goes to my son; it brings me joy and comfort, but no obligation. I care as much as I should about my son’s health, happiness, and well-being, as happy as I am to have him; and I would feel as miserable as possible at his loss; but that doesn’t mean I necessarily owe a debt for being either happier or less miserable because of someone else. Some benefits, although given to one person, can still affect others; for example, money might be given to a poor man for his own sake, which could end up benefiting his whole family; but still, the immediate receiver is the one indebted for it; the question is not where it goes afterward, but who is the primary recipient? and to whom was it first given? My son’s life is as precious to me as my own; by saving him, you also save me: in this case, I will acknowledge my obligation to you, meaning in my son’s name; for in my own name, and strictly speaking, I am not; but I am willing to make myself a voluntary debtor. What if he borrowed money instead? My paying it doesn’t make it my debt at all. It might make me blush to find him in bed with another man’s wife; but that doesn’t make me an adulterer. I gain wonderful joy and satisfaction from his safety; but still, this good is not an obligation. A man might benefit from an animal, a plant, or a stone; but there must be a will, an intention, to create an obligation. You save the son without even knowing the father, and perhaps without even thinking about him; and you might have done the same thing even if you hated him.
But without any further alteration of dialogue, the conclusion is this; if you meant him the kindness, he is answerable for it, and I may enjoy the fruit of68 it without being obliged by it: but if it was done for my sake, then I am accountable; or howsoever, upon any occasion, I am ready to do you all the kind offices imaginable; not as the return of a benefit, but as the earnest of a friendship; which you are not to challenge neither, but to entertain as an act of honor and of justice, rather than of gratitude. If a man find the body of my dead father in a desert, and give it a burial; if he did it as to my father, I am beholden to him: but if the body was unknown to him, and that he would have done the same thing for any other body, I am no farther concerned in it than as a piece of public humanity.
But without changing the dialogue any further, here's the conclusion: if you intended to be kind to him, he’s responsible for it, and I can benefit from it without feeling obligated. But if it was done for my sake, then I am accountable; regardless, in any situation, I'm ready to do everything I can for you, not as a repayment for a favor, but as a sign of friendship, which you shouldn’t demand but should appreciate as an act of honor and fairness rather than gratitude. If someone finds my dead father's body in a remote place and gives it a proper burial, and he did it because it was my father, then I owe him a debt. But if he didn’t know who the body was and would have done the same for any other body, then I’m only concerned about it as a matter of general humanity.
There are, moreover, some cases wherein an unworthy person may be obliged and for the sake of others: and the sottish extract of an ancient nobilty may be preferred before a better man that is but of yesterday’s standing. And it is but reasonable to pay a reverence even to the memory of eminent virtues. He that is not illustrious in himself, may yet be reputed so in the right of his ancestors: and there is a gratitude to be entailed upon the offspring of famous progenitors. Was it not for the father’s sake that Cicero the son was made counsel? and was it not the eminence of one Pompey that raised and dignified the rest of his family? How came Caligula to be emperor of the world? a man so cruel, that he spilt blood as greedily as if he were to drink it; the empire was not given to himself, but to his father Germanicus. A brave man deserved that for him, which he could never have challenged upon his own merit. What was it that preferred Fabius Persicus, (whose very mouth was the uncleanest part about him,) what was it but the 300 of that family that so69 generously opposed the enemy for the safety of the commonwealth?
There are, moreover, some situations where an unworthy person may be favored for the sake of others: and the foolish legacy of an ancient nobility may be chosen over a better person who is just starting out. It's only reasonable to show respect even to the memory of great virtues. Someone who isn't distinguished in their own right might still be recognized because of their ancestors: and there’s a gratitude that comes with being the offspring of famous forebears. Was it not because of the father that Cicero the son was made consul? And wasn’t it the greatness of Pompey that elevated and honored the rest of his family? How did Caligula become emperor of the world? A man so cruel that he spilled blood as eagerly as if he were drinking it; the empire was not given to him, but to his father Germanicus. A brave man deserved what he could never have claimed on his own merit. What was it that promoted Fabius Persicus, (whose very mouth was the dirtiest part of him), if not the 300 from that family who valiantly opposed the enemy for the safety of the republic?
Nay, Providence itself is gracious to the wicked posterity of an honorable race. The counsels of heaven are guided by wisdom, mercy, and justice. Some men are made kings of their proper virtues, without any respect to their predecessors: others for their ancestors’ sakes, whose virtues, though neglected in their lives, come to be afterward rewarded in their issues. And it is but equity, that our gratitude should extend as far as the influence of their heroical actions and examples.
No, Providence itself is kind to the wicked descendants of an honorable lineage. The decisions of heaven are guided by wisdom, mercy, and justice. Some people become kings because of their own virtues, regardless of their predecessors; others are made kings because of their ancestors, whose virtues, although overlooked in their lifetimes, are later rewarded in their descendants. It's only fair that our gratitude should reach as far as the impact of their heroic actions and examples.
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CHAPTER XII.
THE BENEFACTOR MUST HAVE NO BY-ENDS.
We come now to the main point of the matter in question: that is to say, whether or not it be a thing desirable in itself, the giving and receiving of benefits? There is a sect of philosophers that accounts nothing valuable but what is profitable, and so makes all virtue mercenary; an unmanly mistake to imagine, that the hope of gain, or fear of loss, should make a man either the more or less honest. As who should say, “What will I get by it, and I will be an honest man?” Whereas, on the contrary, honesty is a thing in itself to be purchased at any rate. It is not for a body to say, “It will be a charge, a hazard, I shall give offence,” etc. My business is to do what I ought to do: all other considerations are foreign to the office. Whensoever my duty calls me, it is my part to attend, without scrupulizing upon forms or difficulties. Shall I see an honest man oppressed at the bar, and not assist him, for fear of a court faction? or not second him upon the highway against thieves, for fear of a broken head? and choose rather to sit still, the quiet spectator of fraud and violence? Why will men be just, temperate, generous, brave, but because it carries along with it fame and a good conscience? and for the same reason, and no other, (to apply it to the sub71ject in hand,) let a man also be bountiful. The school of Epicurus, I am sure, will never swallow this doctrine: (that effeminate tribe of lazy and voluptuous philosophers;) they will tell you, that virtue is but the servant and vassal of pleasure. “No,” says Epicurus, “I am not for pleasure neither without virtue.” But, why then for pleasure, say I, before virtue? Not that the stress of the controversy lies upon the order only; for the power of it, as well as the dignity, is now under debate. It is the office of virtue to superintend, to lead, and to govern; but the parts you have assigned it, are to submit, to follow, and to be under command. But this, you will say, is nothing to the purpose, so long as both sides are agreed, that there can be no happiness without virtue: “Take away that,” says Epicurus, “and I am as little a friend to pleasure as you.” The pinch, in short, is this, whether virtue itself be the supreme good or the only cause of it? It is not the inverting of the order that will clear this point; (though it is a very preposterous error, to set that first which should be last.) It does not half so much offend me; ranging of pleasure before virtue, as the very comparing of them; and the bringing of the two opposites, and professed enemies, into any sort of competition.
We now come to the main point of the matter at hand: is giving and receiving benefits something desirable in itself? There’s a group of philosophers who regard nothing as valuable except what brings profit, which makes all virtue driven by self-interest—a misguided idea that suggests the hope of gain or fear of loss should affect a person's honesty. It’s like saying, “What will I gain from this, and then I’ll be an honest person?” In reality, honesty is something that should be valued no matter the cost. It’s not up to someone to say, “This will be a burden, a risk, I might offend someone,” etc. My job is to do what I should do: all other considerations are irrelevant. Whenever my duty calls, I should attend to it without worrying about the obstacles or difficulties. Should I watch an honest person being wronged in court and not help them because I’m afraid of the court's influence? Or not support someone being robbed on the road out of fear for my own safety? And choose instead to sit back and be a passive observer of wrongdoing? Why do people strive to be just, moderate, generous, and brave, if not for the sake of reputation and a clear conscience? For the same reason—and no other—let a person also be generous. I’m sure the school of Epicurus will never accept this view (that effeminate group of lazy and indulgent philosophers); they’ll argue that virtue is merely a servant to pleasure. “No,” says Epicurus, “I don’t believe in pleasure without virtue.” But then, why prioritize pleasure before virtue? It’s not just about the order; the importance of each is also up for debate. Virtue’s role is to oversee, lead, and govern, whereas the roles assigned to it are to submit, follow, and be controlled. But you might say this misses the main point, as both sides agree that happiness cannot exist without virtue: “Remove that,” Epicurus says, “and I’m no more a friend to pleasure than you are.” The crux of the matter is whether virtue itself is the highest good or just the means to achieve it. It’s not the reversal of their order that clarifies this issue; although it’s foolish to place what should be last in first position. I’m not nearly as bothered by the arrangement of pleasure before virtue as I am by comparing the two and suggesting that these opposing concepts, which are in direct conflict, should be seen as competitors.
The drift of this discourse is, to support the cause of benefits; and to prove, that it is a mean and dishonorable thing to give for any other end than for giving’s sake. He that gives for gain, profit, or any by-end, destroys the very intent of bounty; for it falls only upon those that do not want, and perverts the charitable inclinations of princes and of great men, who cannot reasonably propound to themselves any such end. What does the sun get by travelling about the universe; by visiting and comforting all72 the quarters of the earth? Is the whole creation made and ordered for the good of mankind, and every particular man only for the good of himself? There passes not an hour of our lives, wherein we do not enjoy the blessings of Providence, without measure and without intermission. And what design can the Almighty have upon us, who is in himself full, safe, and inviolable? If he should give only for his own sake, what would become of poor mortals, that have nothing to return him at best but dutiful acknowledgments? It is putting out of a benefit to interest only to bestow where we may place it to advantage.
The main point of this discussion is to advocate for the value of giving and to demonstrate that it's selfish and dishonorable to give for any reason other than the act of giving itself. Someone who gives for personal gain, profit, or any ulterior motive undermines the true spirit of generosity. True generosity should only benefit those in need and corrupts the charitable intentions of rulers and influential people, who should not have any such selfish goals in mind. What does the sun gain by traveling through the universe, visiting and uplifting all parts of the earth? Is everything created and arranged for the benefit of humanity, and is each individual only for their own benefit? Not a moment of our lives goes by without receiving the blessings of Providence, constantly and abundantly. What purpose could the Almighty have for us, being complete, safe, and unchanging in Himself? If He were to give only for His own interests, what would happen to us poor mortals, who can only offer Him respectful recognition in return? It's a missed opportunity to only give where we can benefit ourselves.
Let us be liberal then, after the example of our great Creator, and give to others with the same consideration that he gives to us. Epicurus’s answer will be to this, that God gives no benefits at all, but turns his back upon the world; and without any concern for us, leaves Nature to take her course: and whether he does anything himself, or nothing, he takes no notice, however, either of the good or of the ill that is done here below. If there were not an ordering and an over-ruling Providence, how comes it (say I, on the other side) that the universality of mankind should ever have so unanimously agreed in the madness of worshipping a power that can neither hear nor help us? Some blessings are freely given us; others upon our prayers are granted us; and every day brings forth instances of great and of seasonable mercies. There never was yet any man so insensible as not to feel, see, and understand, a Deity in the ordinary methods of nature, though many have been so obstinately ungrateful as not to confess it; nor is any man so wretched as not to be a partaker in that divine bounty. Some benefits, it73 is true, may appear to be unequally divided; but it is no small matter yet that we possess in common: and which Nature has bestowed upon us in her very self. If God be not bountiful, whence is it that we have all that we pretend to? That which we give, and that which we deny, that which we lay up, and that which we squander away? Those innumerable delights for the entertainment of our eyes, our ears, and our understandings? nay, that copious matter even for luxury itself? For care is taken, not only for our necessities, but also for our pleasures, and for the gratifying of all our senses and appetites. So many pleasant groves; fruitful and salutary plants; so many fair rivers that serve us, both for recreation, plenty, and commerce: vicissitudes of seasons; varieties of food, by nature made ready to our hands, and the whole creation itself subjected to mankind for health, medicine and dominion. We can be thankful to a friend for a few acres, or a little money: and yet for the freedom and command of the whole earth, and for the great benefits of our being, as life, health, and reason, we look upon ourselves as under no obligation. If a man bestows upon us a house that is delicately beautified with paintings, statues, gildings, and marble, we make a mighty business of it, and yet it lies at the mercy of a puff of wind, the snuff of a candle, and a hundred other accidents, to lay it in the dust. And is it nothing now to sleep under the canopy of heaven, where we have the globe of the earth for our place of repose, and the glories of the heavens for our spectacle? How comes it that we should so much value what we have, and yet at the same time be so unthankful for it? Whence is it that we have our breath, the comforts of light and of heat, the very74 blood that runs in our veins? the cattle that feed us, and the fruits of the earth that feed them? Whence have we the growth of our bodies, the succession of our ages, and the faculties of our minds? so many veins of metals, quarries of marble, etc. The seed of everything is in itself, and it is the blessing of God that raises it out of the dark into act and motion. To say nothing of the charming varieties of music, beautiful objects, delicious provisions for the palate, exquisite perfumes, which are cast in, over and above, to the common necessities of our being.
Let’s be generous then, following the example of our great Creator, and offer to others the same kindness he shows us. Epicurus would argue that God doesn’t give any benefits at all, but instead ignores the world and lets Nature run its course; whether he acts or not, he pays no attention to the good or bad happening down here. If there wasn’t a governing and guiding Providence, how is it, I ask, that all of humanity has so unanimously agreed to worship a power that can’t hear or assist us? Some blessings are freely given to us; others are granted in response to our prayers; and every day brings examples of significant and timely mercies. No one has ever been so unfeeling as not to recognize a Deity in the ordinary workings of nature, even though many have been so stubbornly ungrateful as not to admit it; nor is anyone so unfortunate as to be entirely excluded from that divine generosity. It’s true that some benefits may seem unevenly distributed, but it’s still considerable what we all share and what Nature has provided for us. If God isn’t generous, how do we have everything we claim? What we give, what we withhold, what we save, and what we waste? Those countless pleasures that entertain our eyes, ears, and minds? Even the sheer abundance for luxury itself? Care is taken not just for our needs, but also for our pleasures, and for satisfying all our senses and desires. So many lovely groves; fruitful and health-giving plants; so many beautiful rivers that serve us for enjoyment, abundance, and trade: seasonal changes; diverse foods, readily available thanks to nature; and all of creation itself subject to humanity for health, healing, and control. We can thank a friend for a few acres or a bit of cash, yet for the freedom and dominion over the entire earth, plus the great benefits of our existence like life, health, and reason, we feel no obligation. If someone gifts us a house adorned with paintings, statues, gilding, and marble, we make a huge deal out of it, even though it can easily be destroyed by a gust of wind, a candle’s flame, or countless other accidents. And isn’t it remarkable to sleep under the open sky, where we have the whole earth as our resting place and the wonders of the heavens as our view? Why do we place so much value on what we have and yet remain so ungrateful for it? Where do we get our breath, the warmth and light we enjoy, the very blood running in our veins? The livestock that nourish us and the produce of the earth that feeds them? From where do we receive our bodily growth, the passage of our years, and the capabilities of our minds? The many veins of metals, quarries of marble, etc.? The seed of everything exists within itself, and it’s the blessing of God that brings it forth from darkness into action and motion. Not to mention the delightful varieties of music, beautiful sights, tasty foods, and exquisite fragrances which are added on top of the basic necessities of our existence.
All this, says Epicurus, we are to ascribe to Nature. And why not to God, I beseech ye? as if they were not both of them one and the same power, working in the whole, and in every part of it. Or, if you call him the Almighty Jupiter; the Thunderer; the Creator and Preserver of us all: it comes to the same issue; some will express him under the notion of Fate; which is only a connexion of causes, and himself the uppermost and original, upon which all the rest depend. The Stoics represent the several functions of the Almighty Power under several appellations. When they speak of him as the father and the fountain of all beings, they call him Bacchus: and under the name of Hercules, they denote him to be indefatigable and invincible; and in the contemplation of him in the reason, order, proportion, and wisdom of his proceedings, they call him Mercury; so that which way soever they look, and under what name soever they couch their meaning, they never fail of finding him; for he is everywhere, and fills his own work. If a man should borrow money of Seneca, and say that he owes it to Amnæus or Lucius, he may change the name but not his creditor; for let him take which of the three75 names he pleases, he is still a debtor to the same person. As justice, integrity, prudence, frugality, fortitude, are all of them goods of one and the same mind, so that whichsoever of them pleases us, we cannot distinctly say that it is this or that, but the mind.
Epicurus says we should attribute all this to Nature. And why not to God, I ask? As if they weren't both one and the same force, operating throughout everything and in every part of it. Or, if you refer to him as Almighty Jupiter, the Thunderer, the Creator and Preserver of us all, it amounts to the same thing; some might express him in terms of Fate, which is just a connection of causes, with him being the supreme and original force on which everything else depends. The Stoics illustrate the various functions of the Almighty Power using different appellations. When they refer to him as the father and source of all beings, they call him Bacchus; under the name of Hercules, they present him as indefatigable and invincible; and when they contemplate him in the reason, order, proportion, and wisdom of his actions, they refer to him as Mercury; so no matter how they look at it or what name they use, they always find him because he is everywhere and fills his own creation. If someone borrows money from Seneca and claims to owe it to Amnæus or Lucius, they can change the name, but not their creditor; because no matter which of the three names they choose, they still owe the same person. Just as justice, integrity, prudence, and frugality are all aspects of one and the same mind, whatever pleases us cannot be distinctly identified as this or that, but it's all part of the mind.
But, not to carry this digression too far; that which God himself does, we are sure is well done; and we are no less sure, that for whatsoever he gives, he neither wants, expects, nor receives, anything in return; so that the end of a benefit ought to be the advantage of the receiver; and that must be our scope without any by-regard to ourselves. It is objected to us, the singular caution we prescribe in the choice of the person: for it were a madness, we say, for a husbandman to sow the sand: which, if true, say they, you have an eye upon profit, as well in giving as in plowing and sowing. And then they say again, that if the conferring of a benefit were desirable in itself, it would have no dependence upon the choice of a man; for let us give it when, how, or wheresoever we please, it would be still a benefit. This does not at all affect our assertion; for the person, the matter, the manner, and the time, are circumstances absolutely necessary to the reason of the action: there must be a right judgment in all respects to make it a benefit. It is my duty to be true to a trust, and yet there may be a time or a place, wherein I would make little difference betwixt the renouncing of it and the delivering of it up; and the same rule holds in benefits; I will neither render the one, nor bestow the other, to the damage of the receiver. A wicked man will run all risks to do an injury, and to compass his revenge; and shall not an honest man venture as far to do a good office? All benefits must76 be gratuitous. A merchant sells me the corn that keeps me and my family from starving; but he sold it for his interests, as well as I bought it for mine; and so I owe him nothing for it. He that gives for profit, gives to himself; as a physician or a lawyer, gives counsel for a fee, and only makes use of me for his own ends; as a grazier fats his cattle to bring them to a better market. This is more properly the driving of a trade than the cultivating of a generous commerce. This for that, is rather a truck than a benefit; and he deserves to be cozened that gives any thing in hope of a return. And in truth, what end should a man honorably propound? not profit; sure that is vulgar and mechanic; and he that does not contemn it can never be grateful. And then for glory, it is a mighty matter indeed for a man to boast of doing his duty. We are to give, if it were only to avoid not giving; if any thing comes of it, it is clear gain; and, at worst, there is nothing lost; beside, that one benefit well placed makes amends for a thousand miscarriages. It is not that I would exclude the benefactor neither for being himself the better for a good office he does for another. Some there are that do us good only for their own sakes; others for ours; and some again for both. He that does it for me in common with himself, if he had a prospect upon both in the doing it, I am obliged to him for it; and glad with all my heart that he had a share in it. Nay, I were ungrateful and unjust if I should not rejoice, that what was beneficial to me might be so likewise to himself.
But let's not go too far off track; whatever God does, we know it's done well, and we can also be certain that He doesn't want, expect, or receive anything in return for what He gives. Therefore, the purpose of a gift should be the benefit of the recipient, and that should be our goal without considering our own interests. People argue against our careful choice of who to give to, saying it would be crazy for a farmer to sow seeds in sand. If that's the case, they argue, then you are focused on profit in both giving and farming. They also claim that if giving a benefit were inherently desirable, it wouldn't depend on who the person is; it would still be a benefit no matter when, how, or where we give it. This doesn't challenge our point at all; the person, the matter, the manner, and the timing are all essential to the rationale behind the action: there needs to be sound judgment in every respect to make it a benefit. I have a duty to uphold a trust, and there may be times or places where I wouldn't see much difference between renouncing it and handing it over; the same principle applies to benefits: I won't offer one, nor give the other, if it harms the recipient. A wicked person will take any risks to cause harm and seek revenge; shouldn't an honest person take equal risks to do something good? All benefits should be given freely. A merchant sells me the grain that keeps me and my family from starving, but he sold it for his own interests, just as I bought it for mine; thus, I owe him nothing. Someone who gives for profit is really just serving themselves; a doctor or a lawyer provides advice for a fee and uses me for their own benefit, just like a farmer fattens cattle to sell them at a better price. This is more about doing business than engaging in a generous exchange. This kind of trade is more of a barter than a true benefit, and anyone who gives with the hope of a return deserves to be deceived. Truly, what noble aim should a person have? Not profit; that's too ordinary and practical; someone who doesn't look down on it can never be genuinely grateful. As for fame, it's quite something for someone to brag about fulfilling their duty. We should give simply to avoid not giving; if anything positive comes from it, that's a clear gain, and at the very least, there's nothing lost. Moreover, one well-placed benefit can make up for a thousand missteps. It's not that I would exclude the benefactor from being better off because of a good deed they do for another. Some do good solely for their own benefit; others do it for ours; and some do it for both. If someone helps me while also benefiting themselves, and they had both in mind while doing it, I am grateful to them; and I genuinely feel happy that what helps me also helps them. In fact, I would be ungrateful and unjust if I didn't celebrate the fact that what was good for me could also be good for them.
To pass now to the matter of gratitude and ingratitude. There never was any man yet so wicked as not to approve of the one, and detest the other; as the two things in the whole world, the one to be77 the most abominated, the other the most esteemed. The very story of an ungrateful action puts us out of all patience, and gives us a loathing for the author of it. “That inhuman villain,” we cry, “to do so horrid a thing:” not, “that inconsiderate fool for omitting so profitable a virtue;” which plainly shows the sense we naturally have, both of the one and of the other, and that we are led to it by a common impulse of reason and of conscience. Epicurus fancies God to be without power, and without arms; above fear himself, and as little to be feared. He places him betwixt the orbs, solitary and idle, out of the reach of mortals, and neither hearing our prayers nor minding our concerns; and allows him only such a veneration and respect as we pay to our parents. If a man should ask him now, why any reverence at all, if we have no obligation to him, or rather, why that greater reverence to his fortuitous atoms? his answer would be, that it was for their majesty and their admirable nature, and not out of any hope or expectation from them. So that by his proper confession, a thing may be desirable for its own worth. But, says he, gratitude is a virtue that has commonly profit annexed to it. And where is the virtue, say I, that has not? but still the virtue is to be valued for itself, and not for the profit that attends it. There is no question, but gratitude for benefits received is the ready way to procure more; and in requiting one friend we encourage many: but these accessions fall in by the by; and if I were sure that the doing of good offices would be my ruin, I would yet pursue them. He that visits the sick, in hope of a legacy, let him be never so friendly in all other cases, I look upon him in this to be no better than a raven, that watches a weak sheep only to78 peck out the eyes of it. We never give with so much judgment or care, as when we consider the honesty of the action, without any regard to the profit of it; for our understandings are corrupted by fear, hope, and pleasure.
Let's move on to the topic of gratitude and ingratitude. There has never been a person so wicked that they don’t appreciate the former and despise the latter; the two concepts are perceived as the most detestable and the most valued in the world. Just hearing about an ungrateful act frustrates us and makes us loathe the person responsible. “What a heartless villain,” we shout, “to commit such a horrible act,” rather than, “what a thoughtless fool for neglecting such a valuable virtue.” This clearly reflects our inherent understanding of both and shows that we are driven by a shared instinct of reason and conscience. Epicurus believes God lacks power and weapons; He is beyond fear and hardly feared at all. He imagines Him floating between the celestial spheres, alone and inactive, out of reach of humans, neither listening to our prayers nor caring about our issues; and grants Him only the same respect we give to our parents. If someone were to ask him why we should show any respect at all, if we owe Him nothing, or rather, why we should hold the atoms of chance in even higher regard, his reply would be that it’s due to their majesty and extraordinary nature, not out of any expectation or hope from them. So, according to him, something can be valued for its own merit. However, he argues that gratitude is a virtue typically linked to profit. I counter, where is the virtue that isn't? Still, virtue should be appreciated for its own sake, not for the benefits it might bring. No doubt, expressing gratitude for received favors is a sure way to gain more; and by reciprocating one friend, we encourage many others. But these advantages are secondary; and if I were certain that doing good deeds would lead to my downfall, I would still pursue them. A person who visits the sick hoping for an inheritance, no matter how friendly they may seem otherwise, strikes me as nothing more than a raven, waiting for a weak sheep only to gouge its eyes out. We never act with as much thought or care as when we focus on the integrity of the action, disregarding its potential benefits; our minds are tainted by fear, hope, and pleasure.
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THERE ARE MANY CASES WHEREIN A MAN MAY BE MINDED
OF A BENEFIT, BUT IT IS VERY RARELY TO BE CHALLENGED,
AND NEVER TO BE UPBRAIDED.
If the world were wise, and as honest as it should be, there would be no need of caution or precept how to behave ourselves in our several stations and duties; for both the giver and the receiver would do what they ought to do on their own accord: the one would be bountiful, and the other grateful, and the only way of minding a man of one good turn would be the following of it with another. But as the case stands, we must take other measures, and consult the best we can, the common ease and relief of mankind.
If the world were wise and as honest as it should be, we wouldn’t need any advice or guidelines on how to act in our different roles and responsibilities; both the giver and the receiver would naturally do what they’re supposed to do: one would be generous, and the other would be thankful, and the only way to remind someone of a good deed would be to follow it up with another. But since that’s not the reality, we have to take different approaches and do our best to consider the overall comfort and relief of people.
As there are several sorts of ungrateful men, so there must be several ways of dealing with them, either by artifice, counsel, admonition, or reproof, according to the humor of the person, and the degree of the offence: provided always, that as well in the reminding a man of a benefit, as in the bestowing of it, the good of the receiver be the principal thing intended. There is a curable ingratitude, and an incurable; there is a slothful, a neglectful, a proud, a dissembling, a disclaiming, a heedless, a forgetful, and a malicious ingratitude; and the application must be suited to the matter we have to work upon. A gentle nature may be reclaimed by authority, ad80vice, or reprehension; a father, a husband, a friend may do good in the case. There are a sort of lazy and sluggish people, that live as if they were asleep, and must be lugged and pinched to wake them. These men are betwixt grateful and ungrateful; they will neither deny an obligation nor return it, and only want quickening. I will do all I can to hinder any man from ill-doing, but especially a friend; and yet more especially from doing ill to me. I will rub up his memory with new benefits: if that will not serve, I will proceed to good counsel, and from thence to rebuke: if all fails, I will look upon him as a desperate debtor, and even let him alone in his ingratitude, without making him my enemy: for no necessity shall ever make me spend time in wrangling with any man upon that point.
There are different types of ungrateful people, and therefore, there are various ways to deal with them—whether through cleverness, advice, warning, or criticism—depending on the individual's personality and the severity of the offense. It’s important that, in reminding someone of a favor or in giving one, the main focus is on the benefit of the recipient. There’s ingratitude that can be fixed and ingratitude that can’t; there are lazy, neglectful, proud, deceitful, dismissive, careless, forgetful, and malicious forms of ingratitude, and our approach should match the situation at hand. A gentle person might respond well to authority, advice, or constructive criticism; a parent, spouse, or friend can positively influence the situation. Then there are people who are so lazy they seem to be asleep and need a push to wake up. These individuals are caught between being grateful and ungrateful; they won’t deny having received help, but they also won’t return the favor, only needing a little encouragement. I will do everything I can to prevent anyone from doing harm, especially a friend, and even more so when it concerns me. I’ll remind them of new favors I’ve done; if that doesn’t work, I’ll move on to giving good advice and then proceed to reproach them. If all else fails, I’ll consider them hopeless and leave them in their ingratitude without turning them into an enemy because I won’t waste my time arguing with anyone about it.
Assiduity of obligation strikes upon the conscience as well as the memory, and pursues an ungrateful man till he becomes grateful: if one good office will not do it, try a second, and then a third. No man can be so thankless, but either shame, occasion, or example, will, at some time or other, prevail upon him. The very beasts themselves, even lions and tigers, are gained by good usage: beside, that one obligation does naturally draw on another; and a man would not willingly leave his own work imperfect. “I have helped him thus far, and I will even go through with it now.” So that, over and above the delight and the virtue of obliging, one good turn is a shouting-horn to another. This, of all hints, is perhaps the most effectual, as well as the most generous.
The responsibility of obligation weighs on both the conscience and memory, and it chases an ungrateful person until they become grateful: if one good deed doesn’t work, try a second, then a third. No one can be so ungrateful that shame, opportunity, or role models won’t eventually influence them. Even animals, like lions and tigers, can be won over with kindness. Plus, one obligation naturally leads to another, and a person wouldn’t want to leave their own work unfinished. “I’ve helped him this far, so I’ll see it through.” So, beyond the pleasure and virtue of being helpful, one good deed encourages another. This, more than any other suggestion, is likely the most effective and generous.
In some cases it must be carried more home: as in that of Julius Cæsar, who, as he was hearing a cause, the defendant finding himself pinched; “Sir,81” says he, “do not you remember a strain you got in your ankle when you commanded in Spain; and that a soldier lent you his cloak for a cushion, upon the top of a craggy rock, under the shade of a little tree, in the heat of the day?” “I remember it perfectly well,” says Cæsar, “and that when I was ready to choke with thirst, an honest fellow fetched me a draught of water in his helmet.” “But that man, and that helmet,” says the soldier, “does Cæsar think that he could not know them again, if he saw them?” “The man, perchance, I might,” says Cæsar, somewhat offended, “but not the helmet. But what is the story to my business? you are none of the man.” “Pardon me, Sir,” says the soldier, “I am that very man; but Cæsar may well forget me: for I have been trepanned since, and lost an eye at the battle of Munda, where that helmet too had the honor to be cleft with a Spanish blade.” Cæsar took it as it was intended: and it was an honorable and a prudent way of refreshing his memory. But this would not have gone down so well with Tiberius: for when an old acquaintance of his began his address to him with, “You remember, Cæsar.” “No,” says Cæsar, (cutting him short,) “I do not remember what I WAS.” Now, with him, it was better to be forgotten than remembered; for an old friend was as bad as an informer. It is a common thing for men to hate the authors of their preferment, as the witnesses of their mean original.
In some cases, it needs to be taken more personally: like with Julius Caesar, who, while hearing a case, had the defendant, feeling cornered, say, “Sir,81 don’t you remember when you injured your ankle while leading in Spain? A soldier lent you his cloak for a cushion on a jagged rock under a small tree, trying to shield you from the heat?” “I remember that very well,” Caesar replies, “and that when I was about to die of thirst, a good guy brought me a drink of water in his helmet.” “But that man and that helmet,” says the soldier, “does Caesar think he wouldn't recognize them if he saw them again?” “I might recognize the man,” Caesar admits, a bit offended, “but not the helmet. But what does this have to do with my case? You aren’t that man.” “Forgive me, Sir,” says the soldier, “I actually am that man; but it’s understandable if Caesar forgot about me: I’ve been wounded since then and lost an eye in the battle of Munda, where that helmet was also split by a Spanish sword.” Caesar took it as it was meant: it was an honorable and wise way to jog his memory. However, this wouldn’t have gone over well with Tiberius: when an old acquaintance of his began his greeting with, “You remember, Caesar,” Tiberius cut him off, replying, “No, I do not remember who I was.” For Tiberius, it was better to be forgotten than remembered; an old friend was just as bad as an informer. It’s common for people to resent those who helped them rise, as they serve as reminders of their humble beginnings.
There are some people well enough disposed to be grateful, but they cannot hit upon it without a prompter; they are a little like school-boys that have treacherous memories; it is but helping them here and there with a word, when they stick, and they will go through with their lesson; they must be82 taught to be thankful, and it is a fair step, if we can but bring them to be willing, and only offer at it. Some benefits we have neglected; some we are not willing to remember. He is ungrateful that disowns an obligation, and so is he that dissembles it, or to his power does not requite it; but the worst of all is he that forgets it. Conscience, or occasion, may revive the rest; but here the very memory of it is lost. Those eyes that cannot endure the light are weak, but those are stark blind that cannot see it. I do not love to hear people say, “Alas! poor man, he has forgotten it,” as if that were the excuse of ingratitude, which is the very cause of it: for if he were not ungrateful, he would not be forgetful, and lay that out of the way which should be always uppermost and in sight. He that thinks as he ought to do, of requiting a benefit, is in no danger of forgetting it. There are, indeed, some benefits so great that they can never slip the memory; but those which are less in value, and more in number, do commonly escape us. We are apt enough to acknowledge that “such a man has been the making of us;” so long as we are in possession of the advantage he has brought us; but new appetites deface old kindnesses, and we carry our prospect forward to something more, without considering what we have obtained already. All that is past we give for lost; so that we are only intent upon the future. When a benefit is once out of sight, or out of use, it is buried.
Some people are inclined to be grateful, but they need a little push to remember it; they’re like schoolboys with unreliable memories. A little nudge here and there, and they can get through their lessons; they must be taught to be thankful, and it’s a good step if we can get them to be open to it. There are some benefits we’ve overlooked; some we’re unwilling to acknowledge. He is ungrateful who denies an obligation, and so is he who pretends it doesn’t exist or fails to repay it; but the worst is the one who simply forgets it. Conscience or circumstance may rekindle the others, but here the very memory is lost. Those eyes that can’t handle the light are weak, but those that can’t see it at all are completely blind. I dislike hearing people say, “Alas! Poor man, he has forgotten,” as if that excuses ingratitude, when it’s actually the reason for it: if he weren’t ungrateful, he wouldn’t forget and wouldn’t brush aside what should always be at the forefront of his mind. Anyone who thinks the way they should about repaying a favor is unlikely to forget it. There are indeed some favors so significant that they can never be forgotten; but the smaller, more numerous ones often slip our minds. We’re usually quick to acknowledge that “such a man has made us who we are,” as long as we still benefit from what he’s done; but new desires overshadow old kindnesses, and we focus on what’s ahead without appreciating what we’ve already gained. Everything that has happened is treated as lost, so we’re only focused on the future. Once a favor is out of sight or out of use, it’s as if it’s buried.
It is the freak of many people, they cannot do a good office but they are presently boasting of it, drunk or sober: and about it goes into all companies what wonderful things they have done for this man, and what for the other. A foolish and a dangerous83 vanity, of a doubtful friend to make a certain enemy. For these reproaches and contempts will set everybody’s tongue a walking; and people will conclude that these things would never be, if there were not something very extraordinary in the bottom of it. When it comes to that once, there is not any calumny but fastens more or less, nor any falsehood so incredible, but in some part or other of it, shall pass for a truth. Our great mistake is this, we are still inclined to make the most of what we give, and the least of what we receive; whereas we should do the clean contrary. “It might have been more, but he had a great many to oblige. It was as much as he could well spare; but he will make it up some other time,” etc. Nay, we should be so far from making publication of our bounties, as not to hear them so much as mentioned without sweetening the matter: as, “Alas, I owe him a great deal more than that comes to. If it were in my power to serve him, I should be very glad of it.” And this, too, not with the figure of a compliment, but with all humanity and truth. There was a man of quality, that in the triumviral proscription, was saved by one of Cæsar’s friends, who would be still twitting him with it; who it was that preserved him, and telling him over and over, “you had gone to pot, friend, but for me.” “Pr’ythee,” says the proscribed, “let me hear no more of this, or even leave me as you found me: I am thankful enough of myself to acknowledge that I owe you my life, but it is death to have it rung in my ears perpetually as a reproach; it looks as if you had only saved me to carry me about for a spectacle. I would fain forget the misfortune that I was once a prisoner, without being led in triumph every day of my life.”
Many people are really proud of themselves, even if they can't do a decent job, drunk or sober. They go around bragging to everyone about the amazing things they've done for this person and that one. It's a foolish and dangerous pride that can turn a questionable friend into a definite enemy. These insults and scorn will get people talking, and they'll start to think that something very strange must be going on if these situations even exist. Once that happens, no rumor will miss its mark, and no lie will seem too outrageous to be believed. Our big mistake is that we tend to emphasize what we give and downplay what we receive; instead, we should do the opposite. “It could have been more, but he has a lot of people to please. He gave as much as he could afford; he’ll make it up next time,” etc. In fact, we should go so far as to not even mention our generosity without softening it: “Oh, I owe him much more than that. If I could help him, I would gladly do so.” And we should say this not just as a polite gesture, but with genuine humanity and honesty. There was a nobleman who, during the political purges, was saved by one of Caesar’s friends, who kept reminding him of it, saying, “You would have been done for, my friend, if not for me.” “Please,” the man who was saved replied, “don’t bring this up anymore, or just leave me as you found me: I’m grateful enough to know that I owe you my life, but it feels like torture to hear it constantly as a reproach; it seems like you saved me just to show me off. I’d like to forget the time I was a prisoner without being paraded around every day for the rest of my life.”
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Oh! the pride and folly of a great fortune, that turns benefits into injuries! that delights in excesses, and disgraces every thing it does! Who would receive any thing from it upon these terms? the higher it raises us, the more sordid it makes us. Whatsoever it gives it corrupts. What is there in it that should thus puff us up? by what magic is it that we are so transformed, that we do no longer know ourselves? Is it impossible for greatness to be liberal without insolence? The benefits that we receive from our superiors are then welcome when they come with an open hand, and a clear brow; without either contumely or state; and so as to prevent our necessities. The benefit is never the greater for the making of a bustle and a noise about it: but the benefactor is much the less for the ostentation of his good deeds; which makes that odious to us, which would otherwise be delightful. Tiberius had gotten a trick, when any man begged money of him, to refer him to the senate, where all the petitioners were to deliver up the names of their creditors. His end perhaps was, to deter men from asking, by exposing the condition of their fortunes to an examination. But it was, however, a benefit turned unto a reprehension, and he made a reproach of a bounty.
Oh! the pride and foolishness of great wealth, which turns good things into harm! It revels in excess and tarnishes everything it touches! Who would want to gain anything under such circumstances? The higher it elevates us, the more petty it makes us. Whatever it gives, it corrupts. What is there in it that should inflate our egos? By what kind of magic are we transformed to the point where we no longer recognize ourselves? Is it impossible for greatness to be generous without arrogance? The gifts we receive from those above us are welcomed when they come with an open hand and a friendly demeanor; without scorn or pretense; and in a way that addresses our needs. The value of a gift isn't enhanced by making a big fuss about it: rather, the giver is diminished by showing off their good deeds, which turns something that could be delightful into something odious. Tiberius had a habit of sending anyone who begged him for money to the senate, where all petitioners had to reveal the names of their creditors. Perhaps his intention was to discourage people from asking by forcing them to expose their financial situations to scrutiny. But, nonetheless, it turned a kindness into a reprimand, making a gift into a source of shame.
But it is not enough yet to forbear the casting of a benefit in a man’s teeth; for there are some that will not allow it to be so much as challenged. For an ill man, say they, will not make a return, though it be demanded, and a good man will do it of himself: and then the asking of it seems to turn it into a debt. It is a kind of injury to be too quick with the former: for to call upon him too soon reproaches him, as if he would not have done it otherwise. Nor would I85 recall a benefit from any man so as to force it, but only to receive it. If I let him quite alone, I make myself guilty of his ingratitude: and undo him for want of plain dealing. A father reclaims a disobedient son, a wife reclaims a dissolute husband; and one friend excites the languishing kindness of another. How many men are lost for want of being touched to the quick? So long as I am not pressed, I will rather desire a favor, than so much as mention a requital; but if my country, my family, or my liberty, be at stake, my zeal and indignation shall overrule my modesty, and the world shall then understand that I have done all I could, not to stand in need of an ungrateful man. And in conclusion the necessity of receiving a benefit shall overcome the shame of recalling it. Nor is it only allowable upon some exigents to put the receiver in mind of a good turn, but it is many times for the common advantage of both parties.
But it's not enough to simply avoid throwing a favor in someone's face; there are some people who won't even allow it to be mentioned. They say that a bad person won't return a favor, even if you ask, and a good person will do it on their own: so asking for it seems to turn it into an obligation. It's somewhat disrespectful to push the former too quickly because reminding them too soon suggests they wouldn’t have done it otherwise. I wouldn’t want to take back a favor to force someone to return it; I only want to accept it. If I leave them completely alone, I’m guilty of their ingratitude and I hinder them by not being straightforward. A father tries to guide a disobedient son, a wife tries to reform a wayward husband; and one friend stirs up the fading affection of another. How many people miss out just because they aren't prompted to truly feel? As long as I’m not pressured, I’d prefer to ask for a favor than mention a repayment; but if my country, my family, or my freedom is at risk, my passion and frustration will take priority over my modesty, and the world will see that I've done everything possible to avoid needing an ungrateful person. In conclusion, the necessity of accepting a favor will outweigh the shame of reminding someone about it. It's not just acceptable to remind someone of a good deed in certain situations; it’s often beneficial for both parties.
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CHAPTER XIV.
HOW FAR TO OBLIGE OR REQUITE A WICKED MAN.
There are some benefits whereof a wicked man is wholly incapable; of which hereafter. There are others, which are bestowed upon him, not for his own sake, but for secondary reasons; and of these we have spoken in part already. There are, moreover, certain common offices of humanity, which are only allowed him as he is a man, and without any regard either to vice or virtue. To pass over the first point; the second must be handled with care and distinction, and not without some seeming exceptions to the general rule; as first, here is no choice or intention in the case, but it is a good office done him for some by-interest, or by chance. Secondly, There is no judgment in it neither, for it is to a wicked man. But to shorten the matter: without these circumstances it is not properly a benefit; or at least not to him; for it looks another way. I rescue a friend from thieves, and the other escapes for company. I discharge a debt for a friend, and the other comes off too: for they were both in a bond. The third is of a great latitude, and varies according to the degree of generosity on the one side, and of wickedness on the other. Some benefactors will supererogate, and do more than they are bound to do; and some men are so lewd, that it is dangerous to do87 them any sort of good; no, not so much as by way of return or requital.
There are some benefits that a wicked person is completely incapable of receiving; we will discuss those later. There are other benefits that are given to them, not for their own sake, but for secondary reasons; we have partially addressed these already. Additionally, there are certain common acts of humanity that are granted to them simply because they are human, regardless of their moral character. Skipping the first point, the second needs to be discussed carefully and with distinctions, and it may seem to have exceptions to the general rule. First, there's no choice or intention involved; it's a good deed done for some personal interest or by chance. Second, there’s no judgment in it either, because it's directed at a wicked person. To put it simply: without these circumstances, it's not truly a benefit, or at least not for them; it serves another purpose. I rescue a friend from thieves, and the other person escapes just by being there. I pay off a debt for a friend, and the other person is freed as well because they were both in the same situation. The third aspect has a wide range and changes based on the level of generosity on one side and the level of wickedness on the other. Some benefactors go above and beyond what they are obligated to do; while some people are so immoral that it's risky to do them any kind of good, not even as a way of returning a favor.
If the benefactor’s bounty must extend to the bad as well as the good; put the case, that I promise a good office to an ungrateful man; we are first to distinguish (as I said before) betwixt a common benefit and a personal; betwixt what is given for merit and what for company. Secondly, Whether or not we know the person to be ungrateful, and can reasonably conclude, that this vice is incurable. Thirdly, A consideration must be had of the promise, how far that may oblige us. The two first points are cleared both in one: we cannot justify any particular kindness for one that we conclude to be a hopelessly wicked man: so that the force of the promise is in the single point in question. In the promise of a good office to a wicked or ungrateful man, I am to blame if I did it knowingly; and I am to blame nevertheless, if I did it otherwise: but I must yet make it good, (under due qualifications,) because I promised it; that is to say, matters continuing in the same state, for no man is answerable for accidents. I will sup at such a place though it be cold; I will rise at such an hour though I be sleepy; but if it prove tempestuous, or that I fall sick of a fever, I will neither do the one nor the other. I promise to second a friend in a quarrel, or to plead his cause; and when I come into the field, or into the court, it proves to be against my father or my brother: I promise to go a journey with him, but there is no traveling upon the road for robbing; my child is fallen sick; or my wife is in labor: these circumstances are sufficient to discharge me; for a promise against law or duty is void in its own nature.
If a benefactor’s generosity includes both the bad and the good, let’s say I promise to do something nice for an ungrateful person. We need to first differentiate between a general benefit and a personal one; between what is given for merit and what is given for company. Secondly, we should consider whether we know the person is ungrateful and can reasonably conclude that this flaw is incurable. Thirdly, we must think about the promise and how far it obligates us. The first two points are tied together: we can’t justify showing kindness to someone we deem a hopelessly wicked person, which means the strength of the promise hinges on the specific situation. If I promise to do something good for a wicked or ungrateful person, I’m at fault if I did it knowingly; I’m still at fault if I didn’t know. However, I must still follow through, with the understanding that things stay the same, since no one can be held accountable for unforeseen events. I might say I’ll have dinner at a particular place even if it’s cold; I might say I’ll get up at a certain time even if I’m tired; but if a storm hits or I get sick with a fever, I won’t be able to do either. I may promise to support a friend in a fight or represent them in court, but if it turns out to be against my father or brother, or if I promised to travel with them but can’t due to robbery on the road, or if my child falls ill or my wife is in labor—these situations are enough to excuse me. A promise that goes against the law or my duties is invalid by its very nature.
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The counsels of a wise man are certain, but events are uncertain: and yet if I have passed a rash promise, I will in some degree punish the temerity of making it with the damage of keeping it, unless it turn very much to my shame or detriment, and then I will be my own confessor in the point, and rather be once guilty of denying, than always of giving. It is not with a benefit as with a debt—it is one thing to trust an ill paymaster, and another thing to oblige an unworthy person—the one is an ill man, and the other only an ill husband.
The advice of a wise person is reliable, but events can be unpredictable. Still, if I've made a hasty promise, I will somewhat make up for the recklessness of making it by taking on the consequences of keeping it, unless it brings me significant shame or harm. In that case, I'll own up to my choice and would rather be guilty of retracting my promise than always guilty of following through. A benefit isn’t the same as a debt—trusting someone who doesn’t pay well is different from obligating someone unworthy. One is a bad person, while the other is just a bad at managing their commitments.
There was a valiant fellow in the army, that Philip of Macedon took particular notice of, and he gave him several considerable marks of the kindness he had for him. This soldier put to sea and was cast away upon a coast where a charitable neighbor took him up half dead, carried him to the house, and there, at his own charge maintained and provided for him thirty days, until he was perfectly recovered, and, after all, furnished him over and above, with a viaticum at parting. The soldier told him the mighty matters that he would do for him in return, so soon as he should have the honor once again to see his master. To court he goes, tells Philip of the wreck, but not a syllable of his preserver, and begs the estate of this very man that kept him alive. It was with Philip as it was with many other princes, they give they know not what, especially in a time of war. He granted the soldier his request, contemplating at the same time, the impossibility of satisfying so many ravenous appetites as he had to please. When the good man came to be turned out of all, he was not so mealy-mouthed as to thank his majesty for not giving away his person too as well as his fortune; but in a bold, frank letter to Philip, made a89 just report of the whole story. The king was so incensed at the abuse, that he immediately commanded the right owner to be restored to his estate, and the unthankful guest and soldier to be stigmatized for an example to others.
There was a brave guy in the army whom Philip of Macedon noticed and showed a lot of kindness toward. This soldier set out to sea but ended up shipwrecked on a coast where a kind neighbor took him in, half dead. He carried him home and took care of him for thirty days at his own expense until he fully recovered. When the soldier left, the neighbor even gave him some money for his journey. The soldier promised to do great things for this man as soon as he had the honor of seeing his master again. He went to court, told Philip about the shipwreck, but didn’t mention his rescuer at all, and asked for the land of the very man who saved his life. Philip, like many other rulers, gave away things he didn’t fully understand, especially during a time of war. He granted the soldier's request, knowing it was impossible to satisfy so many greedy demands. When the kind man lost everything, he wasn’t shy about not thanking the king for not taking his life along with his fortune. Instead, he wrote a bold, straightforward letter to Philip detailing the whole situation. The king was so angered by the injustice that he immediately ordered the rightful owner to get his land back and punished the ungrateful soldier as a warning to others.
Should Philip now have kept this promise? First, he owed the soldier nothing. Secondly, it would have been injurious and impious; and, lastly, a precedent of dangerous consequence to human society; for it would have been little less than an interdiction of fire and water to the miserable, to have inflicted such a penalty upon relieving them; so that there must be always some tacit exception or reserve: if I can, if I may; or, if matters continue as they were.
Should Philip have kept this promise? First, he didn't owe the soldier anything. Second, it could have been harmful and wrong; and lastly, it would set a dangerous precedent for society. It would have been almost like denying help to those in need by punishing someone for assisting them. Therefore, there has to be some unspoken exception or condition: if I can, if I may; or, if things stay the same.
If it should be my fortune to receive a benefit from one that afterwards betrays his country, I should still reckon myself obliged to him for such a requital as might stand with my public duty; I would not furnish him with arms, nor with money or credit, or levy or pay soldiers; but I should not stick to gratify him at my own expense with such curiosities as might please him one way without doing mischief another. I would not do any thing that might contribute to the support or advantage of his party. But what should I do now in the case of a benefactor, that should afterwards become not only mine and my country’s enemy, but the common enemy of mankind! I would here distinguish betwixt the wickedness of a man and the cruelty of a beast—betwixt a limited or a particular passion and a sanguinary rage that extends to the hazard and destruction of human society. In the former case I would quit scores, that I might have no more to do with him; but if he comes once to delight in blood, and to act outrages with greediness—to study90 and invent torments, and to take pleasure in them—the law of reasonable nature has discharged me of such a debt. But this is an impiety so rare that it might pass for a portent, and be reckoned among comets and monsters. Let us therefore restrain our discourse to such men as we detest without horror; such men as we see every day in courts, camps, and upon the seats of justice; to such wicked men I will return what I have received, without making any advantage of their unrighteousness.
If I happen to benefit from someone who later betrays their country, I would still feel obligated to them for a return that aligns with my public duty. I wouldn’t provide them with weapons, money, or support, nor would I hire or pay soldiers; however, I wouldn’t hesitate to give them some curiosities that might please them without causing harm. I wouldn't do anything that would benefit their side. But what should I do if a benefactor turns not only into my enemy and my country’s enemy but also a common enemy of humanity? I would distinguish between a person's wickedness and a beast's cruelty—between a specific passion and a violent rage that jeopardizes human society. In the former case, I would settle the score to be free of any further dealings with them; but if they come to enjoy bloodshed and act with eagerness to inflict pain, to plot and create tortures, and to take pleasure in them—the natural law has released me from such a debt. But this is a kind of evil so rare that it would be seen as monstrous and comparable to comets and other unusual phenomena. Therefore, let’s limit our discussion to those men we despise but do not fear; such men we encounter daily in courts, at war, and in judgment seats; to these wicked men, I will return what I have received, without taking advantage of their wrongdoing.
It does not divert the Almighty from being still gracious, though we proceed daily in the abuse of his bounties. How many there are that enjoy the comfort of the light that do not deserve it; that wish they had never been born! and yet Nature goes quietly on with her work, and allows them a being, even in despite of their unthankfulness. Such a knave, we cry, was better used than I: and the same complaint we extend to Providence itself. How many wicked men have good crops, when better than themselves have their fruits blasted! Such a man, we say, has treated me very ill. Why, what should we do, but that very thing which is done by God himself? that is to say, give to the ignorant, and persevere to the wicked. All our ingratitude, we see, does not turn Providence from pouring down of benefits, even upon those that question whence they come. The wisdom of Heaven does all things with a regard to the good of the universe, and the blessings of nature are granted in common, to the worst as well as to the best of men; for they live promiscuously together; and it is God’s will, that the wicked shall rather fare the better for the good, than that the good shall fare the worse for the wicked. It is true that a wise prince will confer peculiar hon91ors only upon the worthy; but in the dealing of a public dole, there is no respect had to the manners of the man; but a thief or traitor shall put in for a share as well as an honest man. If a good man and a wicked man sail both in the same bottom, it is impossible that the same wind which favors the one should cross the other. The common benefits of laws, privileges, communities, letters, and medicines, are permitted to the bad as well as to the good; and no man ever yet suppressed a sovereign remedy for fear a wicked man might be cured with it. Cities are built for both sorts, and the same remedy works upon both alike. In these cases, we are to set an estimate upon the persons: there is a great difference betwixt the choosing of a man and the not excluding him: the law is open to the rebellious as well as to the obedient: there are some benefits which, if they were not allowed to all, could not be enjoyed by any. The sun was never made for me, but for the comfort of the world, and for the providential order of the seasons; and yet I am not without my private obligation also. To conclude, he that will oblige the wicked and the ungrateful, must resolve to oblige nobody; for in some sort or another we are all of us wicked, we are all of us ungrateful, every man of us.
It doesn't stop the Almighty from being gracious, even though we misuse His gifts every day. So many people enjoy the light who don’t deserve it and wish they had never been born! Yet, Nature keeps moving forward, allowing them to exist despite their ingratitude. We complain that some scoundrel is treated better than we are, and we extend that complaint to Providence itself. How many evil people have good harvests, while the better ones’ crops fail? We say, “That person has treated me badly.” But what should we do, except what God Himself does? That is, give to the ignorant and keep providing for the wicked. All our ingratitude doesn’t stop Providence from showering benefits, even on those who question their source. The wisdom of Heaven does everything with the good of the universe in mind, and the blessings of nature are given to everyone, both the worst and the best; they coexist together, and it is God’s will that the wicked benefit from the good, rather than the good suffer because of the wicked. A wise prince will award honors only to the deserving, but when it comes to a public distribution, there’s no regard for a person’s character; a thief or traitor can claim a share just like an honest person. If a good person and a wicked person sail in the same boat, it’s impossible for the same wind that helps one to hinder the other. The common benefits of laws, privileges, communities, knowledge, and medicine are available to both the bad and the good, and no one has ever withheld a major remedy for fear that it might heal a wicked person. Cities are built for both kinds of people, and the same remedy works for both alike. In these situations, we must assess the individuals: there’s a big difference between choosing someone and simply not excluding them. The law is open to the rebellious as well as the obedient: some benefits, if not shared by all, couldn’t be enjoyed by anyone. The sun wasn’t made just for me, but for the comfort of the world and the orderly change of the seasons; yet I am also not without my own responsibilities. In conclusion, if you try to support the wicked and the ungrateful, you will end up supporting no one; because in one way or another, we are all wicked, we are all ungrateful—each and every one of us.
We have been discoursing all this while how far a wicked man may be obliged, and the Stoics tell us at last, that he cannot be obliged at all. For they make him incapable of any good, and consequently of any benefit. But he has this advantage, that if he cannot be obliged, he cannot be ungrateful: for if he cannot receive, he is not bound to return. On the other side, a good man and an ungrateful, are a contradiction: so that at this rate there is no such92 thing as ingratitude in nature. They compare a wicked man’s mind to a vitiated stomach; he corrupts whatever he receives, and the best nourishment turns to the disease. But taking this for granted, a wicked man may yet so far be obliged as to pass for ungrateful, if he does not requite what he receives: for though it be not a perfect benefit, yet he receives something like it. There are goods of the mind, the body, and of fortune. Of the first sort, fools and wicked men are wholly incapable; to the rest they may be admitted. But why should I call any man ungrateful, you will say, for not restoring that which I deny to be a benefit? I answer, that if the receiver take it for a benefit, and fails of a return, it is ingratitude in him: for that which goes for an obligation among wicked men, is an obligation upon them: and they may pay one another in their own coin; the money is current, whether it be gold or leather, when it comes once to be authorized. Nay, Cleanthes carries it farther; he that is wanting, says he, to a kind office, though it be no benefit, would have done the same thing if it had been one; and is as guilty as a thief is, that has set his booty, and is already armed and mounted with a purpose to seize it, though he has not yet drawn blood. Wickedness is formed in the heart; and the matter of fact is only the discovery and the execution of it. Now, though a wicked man cannot either receive or bestow a benefit, because he wants the will of doing good, and for that he is no longer wicked, when virtue has taken possession of him; yet we commonly call it one, as we call a man illiterate that is not learned, and naked that is not well clad; not but that the one can read, and the other is covered.
We’ve been discussing how much a wicked person might be obligated, and the Stoics ultimately tell us that they aren’t obligated at all. They argue that such a person is incapable of any good and thus unable to receive any benefit. However, they do have this advantage: if they can’t be obligated, they also can’t be ungrateful. Since they can’t receive, they have no duty to give back. On the flip side, a good person who is ungrateful is a contradiction; therefore, there’s really no such thing as ingratitude in nature. They liken a wicked person’s mind to a dysfunctional stomach; it corrupts whatever it takes in, and even the best nourishment turns to poison. But if we accept this, a wicked person could still be seen as ungrateful if they don’t repay what they’ve received. Even if it’s not a complete benefit, they still get something similar. There are benefits of the mind, body, and fortune. The first type is entirely beyond the reach of fools and wicked people; the others are within their grasp. But you might ask, why would I call someone ungrateful for not returning something I claim isn’t a benefit? I would say that if the receiver sees it as a benefit and fails to repay, then it’s ingratitude on their part. What’s considered an obligation among wicked people is still an obligation for them; they can settle debts in their own way; the currency is valid whether it’s gold or leather once it’s accepted. In fact, Cleanthes goes further; he claims that someone who fails to perform a kind act—even if it’s not a benefit—would have done so if it had been one, and is as guilty as a thief who has stolen something, even if they’ve not yet harmed anyone. Wickedness resides in the heart; the actual occurrence is just the manifestation and execution of it. Now, although a wicked person can neither receive nor give a true benefit due to their lack of willingness to do good (and they cease to be wicked when virtue takes hold of them), we still often refer to it as such, just as we label an uneducated person as illiterate or someone poorly dressed as naked; it’s not that the former can’t read or the latter isn’t covered.
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CHAPTER XV.
A GENERAL VIEW OF THE PARTS AND DUTIES OF THE
BENEFACTOR.
The three main points in the question of benefits are, first, a judicious choice in the object; secondly, in the matter of our benevolence; and thirdly, a grateful felicity in the manner of expressing it. But there are also incumbent upon the benefactor other considerations, which will deserve a place in this discourse.
The three main points regarding benefits are, first, a thoughtful choice in the object; second, in the nature of our kindness; and third, a grateful happiness in the way we express it. However, there are also other important considerations for the benefactor that should be included in this discussion.
It is not enough to do one good turn, and to do it with a good grace too, unless we follow it with more, and without either upbraiding or repining. It is a common shift, to charge that upon the ingratitude of the receiver, which, in truth, is most commonly the levity and indiscretion of the giver; for all circumstances must be duly weighed to consummate the action. Some there are that we find ungrateful; but what with our forwardness, change of humor and reproaches, there are more that we make so. And this is the business: we give with design, and most to those that are able to give most again. We give to the covetous, and to the ambitious; to those that can never be thankful, (for their desires are insatiable,) and to those that will not. He that is a tribune would be prætor; the prætor, a consul; never reflecting upon what he was, but only looking forward to what he would be. People are still comput94ing, Must I lose this or that benefit? If it be lost, the fault lies in the ill bestowing of it; for rightly placed, it is as good as consecrated; if we be deceived in another, let us not be deceived in ourselves too. A charitable man will mend the matter: and say to himself, Perhaps he has forgot it, perchance he could not, perhaps he will yet requite it. A patient creditor will, of an ill paymaster, in time make a good one; an obstinate goodness overcomes an ill disposition, as a barren soil is made fruitful by care and tillage. But let a man be never so ungrateful or inhuman, he shall never destroy the satisfaction of my having done a good office.
It’s not enough to do one good deed and do it graciously unless we follow it up with more and without any complaining or resentment. It’s a common excuse to blame the recipient's ingratitude when, in reality, it’s often the giver’s inconsistency and poor choices. All situations need to be carefully considered to complete the act. Some people seem ungrateful to us, but with our eagerness, mood swings, and criticisms, it’s often us who create that impression. And here’s the thing: we give with an agenda, mainly to those who can give the most in return. We give to the greedy and the ambitious; to those who can never be grateful, since their desires are endless, and to those who simply refuse. The person who’s a tribune wants to be a praetor; the praetor wants to be a consul; never reflecting on what they are, only focusing on what they want to become. People keep calculating, "Must I lose this or that benefit?" If it is lost, the blame lies in how it was given; if given properly, it’s as good as blessed. If we’re fooled by someone else, let’s not fool ourselves too. A charitable person will make the best of it and think, "Maybe he forgot, maybe he couldn’t, maybe he will repay it later." A patient creditor can eventually turn a bad debtor into a good one; persistent kindness can overcome a bad attitude, just as careful farming can turn a barren field fertile. But no matter how ungrateful or cruel someone is, they can never take away the satisfaction of my having done a good deed.
But what if others will be wicked? does it follow that we must be so too? If others will be ungrateful, must we therefore be inhuman? To give and to lose, is nothing; but to lose and to give still, is the part of a great mind. And the others in effect is the greater loss; for the one does but lose his benefit, and the other loses himself. The light shines upon the profane and sacrilegious as well as upon the righteous. How many disappointments do we meet with in our wives and children, and yet we couple still? He that has lost one battle hazards another. The mariner puts to sea again after a wreck. An illustrious mind does not propose the profit of a good office, but the duty. If the world be wicked, we should yet persevere in well-doing, even among evil men. I had rather never receive a kindness than never bestow one: not to return a benefit is the greater sin, but not to confer it is the earlier. We cannot propose to ourselves a more glorious example than that of the Almighty, who neither needs nor expects anything from us; and yet he is continually showering down and distributing his mercies and95 his grace among us, not only for our necessities, but also for our delights; as fruits and seasons, rain and sunshine, veins of water and of metal; and all this to the wicked as well as to the good, and without any other end than the common benefit of the receivers. With what face then can we be mercenary one to another, that have received all things from Divine Providence gratis? It is a common saying, “I gave such or such a man so much money: I would I had thrown it into the sea;” and yet the merchant trades again after a piracy, and the banker ventures afresh after a bad security. He that will do no good offices after a disappointment, must stand still, and do just nothing at all. The plow goes on after a barren year: and while the ashes are yet warm, we raise a new house upon the ruins of a former. What obligations can be greater than those which children receive from their parents? and yet should we give them over in their infancy, it were all to no purpose. Benefits, like grain, must be followed from the seed to the harvest. I will not so much as leave any place for ingratitude. I will pursue, and I will encompass the receiver with benefits; so that let him look which way he will, his benefactor shall be still in his eye, even when he would avoid his own memory: and then I will remit to one man because he calls for it; to another, because he does not; to a third, because he is wicked; and to a fourth, because he is the contrary. I will cast away a good turn upon a bad man, and I will requite a good one; the one because it is my duty, and the other that I may not be in debt.
But what if others are wicked? Does that mean we have to be as well? If others are ungrateful, do we have to be inhumane too? To give and lose is nothing, but to lose and still give is the mark of a great mind. The real loss is with the others; one only loses his benefit, while the other loses himself. The light shines on the profane and sacrilegious as much as it does on the righteous. How many disappointments do we face with our spouses and children, yet we still choose to stay together? Someone who has lost one battle risks another. The sailor sets out to sea again after a shipwreck. A noble mind doesn’t consider the profit of a good deed but rather the duty involved. Even if the world is wicked, we should keep doing good, even among evil people. I would rather never receive a kindness than never give one: not returning a favor is the greater sin, but not offering it is the earlier one. We can’t have a more glorious example than that of the Almighty, who doesn't need or expect anything from us; yet he constantly showers his mercies and grace upon us, not just for our needs but also for our pleasures, like fruits, seasons, rain, and sunshine, and for both the wicked and the good, with no other aim than the common benefit of everyone receiving. How can we then be mercenary with one another when we've received everything from Divine Providence for free? It's a common saying, "I gave so-and-so this amount of money; I wish I had thrown it into the sea," and yet the merchant trades again after a loss, and the banker risks again after bad investments. If someone won't do good after a disappointment, they’ll be stuck doing nothing at all. The plow continues after a bad year, and while the ashes are still warm, we build a new house on the ruins of the old one. What debts could be greater than those that children owe their parents? Yet if we were to give up on them in their infancy, it would all be pointless. Benefits, like crops, must be followed from seed to harvest. I won’t leave any room for ingratitude. I will pursue and surround the recipient with benefits; no matter which way they turn, their benefactor will always be in sight, even when they want to forget. I will let one person go because they ask for it; another, because they don't; a third, because they’re wicked; and a fourth, because they’re good. I will extend kindness to a bad person, and I will repay a good one; the first because it’s my duty, and the second so I don’t end up in debt.
I do not love to hear any man complain that he has met with a thankless man. If he has met but with one, he has either been very fortunate or very96 careful. And yet care is not sufficient: for there is no way to escape the hazard of losing a benefit but the not bestowing of it, and to neglect a duty to myself for fear another should abuse it. It is another’s fault if he be ungrateful, but it is mine if I do not give. To find one thankful man, I will oblige a great many that are not so. The business of mankind would be at a stand, if we should do nothing for fear of miscarriages in matters of certain event. I will try and believe all things, before I give any man over, and do all that is possible that I may not lose a good office and a friend together. What do I know but he may misunderstand the obligation? business may have put it out of his head, or taken him off from it: he may have slipt his opportunity. I will say, in excuse of human weakness, that one man’s memory is not sufficient for all things; it is but a limited capacity, so as to hold only so much, and no more: and when it is once full, it must let out part of what it had to take in anything beside; and the last benefit ever sits closest to us. In our youth we forget the obligations of our infancy, and when we are men we forget those of our youth. If nothing will prevail, let him keep what he has and welcome; but let him have a care of returning evil for good, and making it dangerous for a man to do his duty. I would no more give a benefit for such a man, than I would lend money to a beggarly spendthrift; or deposit any in the hands of a known knight of the post. However the case stands, an ungrateful person is never the better for a reproach; if he be already hardened in his wickedness, he gives no heed to it; and if he be not, it turns a doubtful modesty into an incorrigible impudence: beside that, he watches for all ill words to pick a quarrel with them.
I don’t like hearing anyone complain about dealing with an ungrateful person. If someone has encountered just one, they’ve either been really lucky or very96 cautious. But caution alone isn’t enough: the only way to avoid the risk of losing a favor is by not giving it in the first place, and I shouldn’t neglect my responsibilities out of fear that someone else might misuse them. It’s another’s fault if they’re ungrateful, but it’s my fault if I don’t give. To find one thankful person, I’ll happily help many who are not. Society would come to a halt if we waited to act because we were scared of failing in certain situations. I’ll aim to believe in people before I write them off and do everything I can to not lose both a good deed and a friend. How do I know he might just misunderstand the situation? Maybe life has distracted him from it, or he might have missed his chance. I have to remember that one person can’t remember everything; our memories have limits and can only hold so much at once. Once it’s full, it has to let go of some things to take in new ones, and the most recent favors tend to stick with us the most. In youth, we forget the duties from our childhood, and as adults, we forget the responsibilities from our youth. If nothing changes, he can keep what he has; but he should be careful about returning harm for kindness and making it risky for someone to do the right thing. I wouldn’t want to do a favor for such a person any more than I would lend money to a reckless spender or trust a known knight of the post. Regardless of the situation, an ungrateful person won’t gain anything from being scolded; if they’re already hardened in their wrongdoing, they won’t pay attention to it; and if they aren’t, it only turns any modesty into stubborn arrogance. Plus, they’ll look for every little offense to pick a fight.
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As the benefactor is not to upbraid a benefit, so neither to delay it: the one is tiresome, and the other odious. We must not hold men in hand, as physicians and surgeons do their patients, and keep them longer in fear and pain than needs, only to magnify the cure. A generous man gives easily, and receives as he gives, but never exacts. He rejoices in the return, and judges favorably of it whatever it be, and contents himself with bare thanks for a requital. It is a harder matter with some to get the benefit after it is promised than the first promise of it, there must be so many friends made in the case. One must be desired to solicit another; and he must be entreated to move a third; and a fourth must be at last besought to receive it; so that the author, upon the upshot, has the least share in the obligation. It is then welcome when it comes free, and without deduction; and no man either to intercept or hinder, or to detain it. And let it be of such a quality too, that it be not only delightful in the receiving, but after it is received; which it will certainly be, if we do but observe this rule, never to do any thing for another which we would not honestly desire for ourselves.
A benefactor shouldn't criticize a gift or delay giving it; one is annoying, and the other is unpleasant. We shouldn't keep people waiting, like doctors and surgeons do with their patients, extending their fear and pain just to show off the healing process. A generous person gives freely and accepts in the same spirit, but never demands anything in return. They take joy in what they receive, regardless of its nature, and are satisfied with just simple thanks as repayment. For some, it's harder to actually receive a promised benefit than to get the initial promise. This involves making many connections; one person has to ask another, who has to persuade a third, and a fourth person must eventually be asked to accept it, so the original giver ends up with the least recognition for the kindness. It’s received with gratitude when it comes easily, without complications, and without anyone trying to block or delay it. And it should be of such a quality that it's enjoyable both when given and after receiving it; this will happen if we follow the principle of never doing for others what we wouldn’t honestly want done for ourselves.
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CHAPTER XVI.
HOW THE RECEIVER OUGHT TO BEHAVE HIMSELF.
There are certain rules in common betwixt the giver and the receiver. We must do both cheerfully, that the giver may receive the fruit of his benefit in the very act of bestowing it. It is a just ground of satisfaction to see a friend pleased; but it is much more to make him so. The intention of the one is to be suited to the intention of the other; and there must be an emulation betwixt them, whether shall oblige most. Let the one say, that he has received a benefit, and let the other persuade himself that he has not returned it. Let the one say, I am paid, and the other, I am yet in your debt; let the benefactor acquit the receiver, and the receiver bind himself. The frankness of the discharge heightens the obligation. It is in conversation as in a tennis-court; benefits are to be tossed like balls; the longer the rest, the better are the gamesters. The giver, in some respect, has the odds, because (as in a race) he starts first, and the other must use great diligence to overtake him. The return must be larger than the first obligation to come up to it; and it is a kind of ingratitude not to render it with interest. In a matter of money, it is a common thing to pay a debt out of course, and before it be due; but we account ourselves to owe nothing for a good office; whereas the99 benefit increases by delay. So insensible are we of the most important affair of human life! That man were doubtless in a miserable condition, that could neither see, nor hear, nor taste, nor feel, nor smell; but how much more unhappy is he then that, wanting a sense of benefits, loses the greatest comfort in nature in the bliss of giving and receiving them? He that takes a benefit as it is meant is in the right; for the benefactor has then his end, and his only end, when the receiver is grateful.
There are certain rules in common between the giver and the receiver. We must both do it happily, so the giver can enjoy the benefits of their generosity in the very act of giving. It's satisfying to see a friend happy, but it's even better to make them happy. The intention of one should align with the intention of the other; there must be a friendly competition between them about who can be more generous. Let one say that they have received a benefit, while the other convinces themselves that they haven't repaid it yet. Let one say, I am paid, and the other, I still owe you; let the giver release the receiver from any debt, and the receiver feel obligated. The openness of this release enhances the obligation. In conversation it’s like a tennis court; benefits should be exchanged like balls; the longer the pause, the better the players are. The giver has an advantage because, like in a race, they start first, and the receiver has to make an effort to catch up. The return must be greater than the initial gift to match it; it’s kind of ungrateful not to repay with interest. In financial matters, it’s common to pay a debt early, even before it’s due; but we often think we don’t owe anything for a good deed, while the value of the benefit actually increases over time. How oblivious are we to the most important aspects of life! A person would certainly be in a terrible state if they couldn’t see, hear, taste, feel, or smell; but how much more miserable is someone who, lacking appreciation for benefits, misses out on the greatest joy in life—that of giving and receiving? Those who accept a benefit as it’s intended are in the right; the benefactor achieves their goal, and their only goal, when the receiver is thankful.
The more glorious part, in appearance, is that of the giver; but the receiver has undoubtedly the harder game to play in many regards. There are some from whom I would not accept of a benefit; that is to say, from those upon whom I would not bestow one. For why should I not scorn to receive a benefit where I am ashamed to own it? and I would yet be more tender too, where I receive, than where I give; for it is no torment to be in debt where a man has no mind to pay; as it is the greatest delight imaginable to be engaged by a friend, whom I should yet have a kindness for; if I were never so much disobliged. It is a pain to an honest and a generous mind to lie under a duty of affection against inclination. I do not speak here of wise men, that love to do what they ought to do; that have their passions at command; that prescribe laws to themselves, and keep them when they have done; but of men in a state of imperfection, that may have a good will perhaps to be honest, and yet be overborne by the contumacy of their affections. We must therefore have a care to whom we become obliged; and I would be much stricter yet in the choice of a creditor for benefits than for money. In the one case, it is but paying what I had, and the100 debt is discharged; in the other, I do not only owe more, but when I have paid that, I am still in arrear: and this law is the very foundation of friendship. I will suppose myself a prisoner; and a notorious villain offers to lay down a good sum of money for my redemption. First, Shall I make use of this money or not? Secondly, If I do, what return shall I make him for it? To the first point, I will take it; but only as a debt; not as a benefit, that shall ever tie me to a friendship with him; and, secondly, my acknowledgment shall be only correspondent to such an obligation. It is a school question, whether or not Brutus, that thought Cæsar not fit to live, (and put himself at the head of a conspiracy against him,) could honestly have received his life from Cæsar, if he had fallen into Cæsar’s power, without examining what reason moved him to that action? How great a man soever he was in other cases, without dispute he was extremely out in this, and below the dignity of his profession. For a Stoic to fear the name of a king, when yet monarchy is the best state of government; or there to hope for liberty, where so great rewards are propounded, both for tyrants and their slaves; for him to imagine ever to bring the laws to their former state, where so many thousand lives had been lost in the contest, not so much whether they should serve or not, but who should be their master: he was strangely mistaken, in the nature and reason of things, to fancy, that when Julius was gone, somebody else would not start up in his place, when there was yet a Tarquin found, after so many kings that were destroyed, either by sword or thunder: and yet the resolution is, that he might have received it, but not as a benefit; for at that rate I101 owe my life to every man that does not take it away.
The more impressive role, at first glance, is that of the giver; but the receiver definitely has the tougher position to navigate in many ways. There are some people from whom I wouldn't accept a favor; in other words, from those I wouldn't give one to. Why should I accept help that I’m ashamed to acknowledge? Plus, I would be more sensitive when receiving than when giving; it's not stressful to owe someone when you have no intention of repaying, but it's the greatest joy to be helped by a friend, even if I've been slighted. It pains an honest and generous person to feel obligated to show affection against their will. I'm not talking about wise people who do what they ought to do; those who control their passions; those who create their own rules and follow them afterwards; but rather about people who are imperfect, who might want to be honest but are overwhelmed by their emotions. So, we need to be careful about who we become indebted to; I would be even stricter in choosing who I owe favors to than I am about money. In the first case, I’m just paying back something I had, and the debt is cleared; in the second, I owe even more, and when I pay that off, I’m still in debt. This principle is the very foundation of friendship. Let's say I'm a prisoner, and a notorious criminal offers to pay a large sum for my freedom. First, should I accept this money? Second, if I do, how will I repay him? To the first question, I will accept it, but only as a debt; not as a favor that will tie me to him in friendship; and, second, my acknowledgment will only match that obligation. It’s a debated topic whether Brutus, who believed Caesar shouldn't live (and led a conspiracy against him), could honestly have accepted his life from Caesar if captured, without considering why he took that action. No matter how great he was in other respects, he was undeniably wrong in this situation, which went against the dignity of his role. For a Stoic to fear the title of king, although monarchy is the best form of government; or to hope for freedom, where such significant rewards are offered to both tyrants and their slaves; for him to think he could restore the laws after so many lives were lost, not just debating whether they should serve, but who their master would be: he was seriously mistaken about the nature and reasons of things, to believe that once Julius was gone, no one else would rise to take his place, especially when there was already a Tarquin found after so many kings were killed by violence or force. Yet the conclusion is, that he could have accepted it, but not as a favor; otherwise, I would owe my life to anyone who doesn’t take it away.
Græcinus Julius (whom Caligula put to death out of a pure malice to his virtue) had a considerable sum of money sent him from Fabius Persicus (a man of great and infamous example) as a contribution towards the expense of plays and other public entertainments; but Julius would not receive it; and some of his friends that had an eye more upon the present than the presenter, asked him, with some freedom, what he meant by refusing it? “Why,” says he, “do you think that I will take money where I would not take so much as a glass of wine?” After this Rebilus (a man of the same stamp) sent him a greater sum upon the same score. “You must excuse me,” says he to the messenger, “for I would not take any thing of Persicus neither.”
Græcinus Julius (whom Caligula had executed purely out of spite for his character) received a significant amount of money from Fabius Persicus (a man known for his notorious reputation) as a contribution for the costs of plays and other public entertainment. However, Julius refused to accept it. Some of his friends, focused more on the money than the source, boldly asked him why he wouldn’t take it. “Well,” he replied, “do you think I would accept money when I wouldn’t even take a glass of wine?” After this, Rebilus (a man of similar principles) sent him an even larger amount for the same reason. “I must decline,” he said to the messenger, “because I wouldn’t take anything from Persicus either.”
To match this scruple of receiving money with another of keeping it; and the sum not above three pence, or a groat at most. There was a certain Pythagorean that contracted with a cobbler for a pair of shoes, and some three or four days after, going to pay him his money, the shop was shut up; and when he had knocked a great while at the door, “Friend,” says a fellow, “you may hammer your heart out there, for the man that you look for is dead. And when our friends are dead, we hear no more news of them; but yours, that are to live again, will shift well enough,” (alluding to Pythagora’s transmigration). Upon this the philosopher went away, with his money chinking in his hand, and well enough content to save it: at last, his conscience took check at it; and, upon reflection, “Though the man be dead,” says he, “to others, he is alive to thee; pay him what thou owest him:” and102 so he went back presently, and thrust it into his shop through the chink of the door. Whatever we owe, it is our part to find where to pay it, and to do it without asking too; for whether the creditor be good or bad, the debt is still the same.
To balance this hesitation about receiving money with another hesitation about keeping it; and the amount not exceeding three pence, or a groat at most. There was a Pythagorean who made a deal with a cobbler for a pair of shoes, and a few days later, when he went to pay him, the shop was closed. After knocking for a long time at the door, a man said, “Friend, you can knock all you want, but the person you’re looking for is dead. And when our friends die, we don’t hear any more news about them; but yours, who will come back to life, will manage just fine,” (referring to Pythagoras’s belief in reincarnation). After this, the philosopher walked away, his money jingling in his hand, feeling satisfied to save it. Eventually, his conscience started to bother him; and upon reflection, he said, “Even if the man is dead, he is still alive to you; pay him what you owe him:” and so he went back immediately and slipped the money into his shop through the crack in the door. Whatever we owe, it’s our responsibility to find where to pay it, and to do it without asking too; because whether the creditor is good or bad, the debt remains the same.
If a benefit be forced upon me, as from a tyrant, or a superior, where it may be dangerous to refuse, this is rather obeying than receiving, where the necessity destroys the choice. The way to know what I have a mind to do, is to leave me at liberty whether I will do it or not; but it is yet a benefit, if a man does me good in spite of my teeth; as it is none, if I do any man good against my will. A man may both hate and yet receive a benefit at the same time; the money is never the worse, because a fool that is not read in coins refuses to take it. If the thing be good for the receiver, and so intended, no matter how ill it is taken. Nay, the receiver may be obliged, and not know it; but there can be no benefit which is unknown to the giver. Neither will I, upon any terms, receive a benefit from a worthy person that may do him a mischief: it is the part of an enemy to save himself by doing another man harm.
If a benefit is forced on me, like from a tyrant or someone in a position of power, where saying no could be risky, I’m not really receiving it—I’m just obeying, because the necessity takes away my choice. The best way to understand what I want to do is to let me decide whether I want to do it or not; however, it can still be considered a benefit if someone does something good for me against my wishes, just like it’s not a true benefit if I do something good for someone else against my will. A person can both dislike and yet benefit from something at the same time; the money doesn’t lose its value just because a fool who doesn’t know about coins refuses to take it. If something is good for the person receiving it and was intended to be so, it doesn’t matter how poorly it’s received. In fact, the recipient might be helped without even realizing it; but there’s no benefit if the giver is unaware of it. Also, I will not accept a benefit from someone deserving if it could cause them harm: it’s the act of an enemy to protect themselves by harming another person.
But whatever we do, let us be sure always to keep a grateful mind. It is not enough to say, what requital shall a poor man offer to a prince; or a slave to his patron; when it is the glory of gratitude that it depends only upon the good will? Suppose a man defends my fame; delivers me from beggary; saves my life; or gives me liberty, that is more than life; how shall I be grateful to that man? I will receive, cherish, and rejoice in the benefit. Take it kindly, and it is requited: not that the debt itself is discharged, but it is nevertheless a discharge of the103 conscience. I will yet distinguish betwixt the debtor that becomes insolvent by expenses upon whores and dice, and another that is undone by fire or thieves; nor do I take this gratitude for a payment, but there is no danger, I presume, of being arrested for such a debt.
But whatever we do, let's always keep a grateful mind. It's not enough to ask what a poor man can offer a prince or what a slave can give to his master when the beauty of gratitude lies in its reliance on good will. Imagine a person defends my reputation, rescues me from poverty, saves my life, or grants me freedom—something even more precious than life itself. How can I show my gratitude to that person? I will accept, appreciate, and celebrate the help. If I respond positively, that's my way of repaying, not that the debt is entirely cleared, but it still eases my conscience. I will also make a distinction between someone who becomes broke due to spending on vices like gambling and another who falls into disaster from fire or theft. And I don't see this gratitude as a form of payment, but I assume there’s little risk of being held accountable for such a debt.
In the return of benefits let us be ready and cheerful but not pressing. There is as much greatness of mind in the owing of a good turn as in doing of it; and we must no more force a requital out of season than be wanting in it. He that precipitates a return, does as good as say, “I am weary of being in this man’s debt:” not but that the hastening of a requital, as a good office, is a commendable disposition, but it is another thing to do it as a discharge; for it looks like casting off a heavy and a troublesome burden. It is for the benefactor to say when he will receive it; no matter for the opinion of the world, so long as I gratify my own conscience; for I cannot be mistaken in myself, but another may. He that is over solicitous to return a benefit, thinks the other so likewise to receive it. If he had rather we should keep it, why should we refuse, and presume to dispose of his treasure, who may call it in, or let it lie out, at his choice? It is as much a fault to receive what I ought not, as not to give what I ought; for the giver has the privilege of choosing his own time of receiving.
In returning favors, let’s be ready and happy, but not pushy. There’s just as much nobility in owing someone a good turn as in doing one; we shouldn’t rush to repay a kindness any more than we should neglect to do so. Someone who pressures for a return is essentially saying, “I’m tired of being in this person’s debt.” While wanting to repay a favor quickly is a positive attitude, it’s different to treat it like a chore, as if we’re trying to shake off a heavy, annoying burden. It’s the giver who gets to decide when they want to receive it; the opinions of others don’t matter as long as I’m at peace with my own conscience, because I can’t be wrong about myself, but someone else can. If someone is overly eager to repay a favor, they assume the other person is just as eager to receive it. If the giver would prefer we keep it, why should we refuse and assume control over their gift, when they can take it back or let it be according to their wishes? It’s just as wrong to accept something I shouldn’t as it is to withhold something I should give; the giver has the right to choose when they want to receive their offering.
Some are too proud in the conferring of benefits; others, in the receiving of them; which is, to say the truth, intolerable. The same rule serves both sides, as in the case of a father and a son; a husband and a wife; one friend or acquaintance and another, where the duties are known and common. There are some that will not receive a benefit but in pri104vate, nor thank you for it but in your ear, or in a corner; there must be nothing under hand and seal, no brokers, notaries, or witnesses, in the case: that is not so much a scruple of modesty as a kind of denying the obligation, and only a less hardened ingratitude. Some receive benefits so coldly and indifferently, that a man would think the obligation lay on the other side: as who should say, “Well, since you will needs have it so, I am content to take it.” Some again so carelessly, as if they hardly knew of any such thing, whereas we should rather aggravate the matter: “You cannot imagine how many you have obliged in this act: there never was so great, so kind, so seasonable a courtesy.” Furnius never gained so much upon Augustus as by a speech, upon the getting of his father’s pardon for siding with Antony: “This grace,” says he, “is the only injury that ever Cæsar did me: for it has put me upon a necessity of living and dying ungrateful.” It is safer to affront some people than to oblige them; for the better a man deserves, the worse they will speak of him: as if the possessing of open hatred to their benefactors were an argument that they lie under no obligation. Some people are so sour and ill-natured, that they take it for an affront to have an obligation or a return offered them, to the discouragement both of bounty and gratitude together. The not doing, and the not receiving, of benefits, are equally a mistake. He that refuses a new one, seems to be offended at an old one: and yet sometimes I would neither return a benefit, no, nor so much as receive it, if I might.
Some people are too proud when giving help; others are too proud when accepting it, which is, to be honest, just unacceptable. The same rule applies to both sides, like with a father and a son, a husband and wife, or between friends. There are those who will only accept help privately and thank you quietly, as if they are denying any obligation and just showing a lesser form of ingratitude. Some accept help so coldly and indifferently that you'd think the obligation falls on the other person, almost as if saying, "Well, since you insist, I guess I'll take it." Others take help so casually that they hardly acknowledge it, when we should instead emphasize the importance of the act: "You have no idea how many people you’ve helped with this gesture. There’s never been such a generous, timely kindness." Furnius gained more from Augustus with a statement regarding his father's pardon for siding with Antony: "This kindness," he said, "is the only wrong Caesar ever did to me, as it puts me in a position of having to live and die ungrateful." It can be safer to confront some people than to help them; because the more someone deserves, the more poorly they are talked about, as if openly resenting their benefactors proves they have no obligation. Some are so unpleasant that they take it as an insult to have help or gratitude offered to them, which discourages generosity and thankfulness alike. Not giving or not accepting help are both mistakes. Refusing a new gesture can seem like a rejection of an old one; yet sometimes I would prefer not to return help, or even to accept it, if I could.
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OF GRATITUDE.
He that preaches gratitude, pleads the cause both of God and man; for without it we can neither be sociable nor religious. There is a strange delight in the very purpose and contemplation of it, as well as in the action; when I can say to myself, “I love my benefactor; what is there in this world that I would not do to oblige and serve him?” Where I have not the means of a requital, the very meditation of it is sufficient. A man is nevertheless an artist for not having his tools about him; or a musician, because he wants his fiddle: nor is he the less brave because his hands are bound; or the worse pilot for being upon dry ground. If I have only will to be grateful, I am so. Let me be upon the wheel, or under the hand of the executioner; let me be burnt limb by limb, and my whole body dropping in the flames, a good conscience supports me in all extremes; nay, it is comfortable even in death itself; for when we come to approach that point, what care do we take to summon and call to mind all our benefactors, and the good offices they have done us, that we leave the world fair, and set our minds in order? Without gratitude, we can neither have security, peace, nor reputation: and it is not therefore the less desirable, because it draws many adventitious benefits along106 with it. Suppose the sun, the moon, and the stars, had no other business than only to pass over our heads, without any effect upon our minds or bodies; without any regard to our health, fruits, or seasons; a man could hardly lift up his eyes towards the heavens without wonder and veneration, to see so many millions of radiant lights, and to observe their courses and revolutions, even without any respect to the common good of the universe. But when we come to consider that Providence and Nature are still at work when we sleep, with the admirable force and operation of their influences and motions, we cannot then but acknowledge their ornament to be the least part of their value; and that they are more to be esteemed for their virtues than for their splendor. Their main end and use is matter of life and necessity, though they may seem to us more considerable for their majesty and beauty. And so it is with gratitude; we love it rather for secondary ends, than for itself.
He who talks about gratitude advocates for both God and humanity; without it, we can neither be social nor spiritual. There's a unique joy in the very idea and consideration of it, as well as in the act itself; when I can say to myself, “I appreciate my benefactor; what wouldn’t I do in this world to help and support him?” Even when I don't have the means to repay, just thinking about it is enough. A person is still considered an artist without their tools, or a musician without their instrument; they are no less brave because their hands are tied or a less skilled pilot just because they are on solid ground. If I only have the will to be grateful, then I am grateful. Whether I'm on the wheel or facing execution; even if I'm being burned limb by limb, and my whole body is consumed in flames, a clear conscience keeps me strong in all hardships; in fact, it's comforting even in death itself; because when we near that moment, we try to remember all our benefactors and the kindness they’ve shown us, so we can leave the world at peace and have our minds settled. Without gratitude, there can be no security, peace, or reputation: it is still highly desired, because it brings many unexpected benefits along with it. Imagine if the sun, the moon, and the stars had no purpose other than to simply move across our sky, without impacting our minds or bodies; without caring for our health, crops, or seasons; a person could hardly look up at the heavens without feeling awe and respect, seeing so many millions of shining lights, and observing their paths and movements, even if they held no benefit for the universe. But when we realize that Providence and Nature continue to work while we sleep, with the incredible power and effect of their influences and motions, we must recognize that their beauty is the least part of their value; they deserve more appreciation for their virtues than their brilliance. Their primary purpose is essential for life and necessity, although they might seem more significant to us for their majesty and beauty. And it's the same with gratitude; we often cherish it more for its secondary benefits than for its own sake.
No man can be grateful without contemning those things that put the common people out of their wits. We must go into banishment; lay down our lives; beggar and expose ourselves to reproaches; nay, it is often seen, that loyalty suffers the punishment due to rebellion, and that treason receives the rewards of fidelity. As the benefits of it are many and great, so are the hazards; which is the case more or less of all other virtues: and it were hard, if this, above the rest, should be both painful and fruitless: so that though we may go currently on with it in a smooth way, we must yet prepare and resolve (if need be) to force our passage to it, even if the way were covered with thorns and serpents; and fall back, fall edge, we must be grateful still: grateful107 for the virtue’s sake, and grateful over and above upon the point of interest; for it preserves old friends, and gains new ones. It is not our business to fish for one benefit with another; and by bestowing a little to get more; or to oblige for any sort of expedience, but because I ought to do it, and because I love it, and that to such a degree, that if I could not be grateful without appearing the contrary, if I could not return a benefit without being suspected of doing an injury; in despite of infamy itself, I would yet be grateful. No man is greater in my esteem than he that ventures the fame to preserve the conscience of an honest man; the one is but imaginary, the other solid and inestimable. I cannot call him grateful, who in the instant of returning one benefit has his eye upon another. He that is grateful for profit or fear, is like a woman that is honest only upon the score of reputation.
No one can be truly grateful without looking down on the things that drive ordinary people crazy. We have to go into exile, give up our lives, suffer humiliation and insults; it's often seen that loyalty faces the consequences meant for rebellion, while treason gets rewarded for being faithful. Just like there are many great benefits to being loyal, there are also many risks; this applies to most virtues. It would be difficult if this virtue, in particular, was both painful and pointless. So, even if we can pursue it smoothly, we must still be ready to force our way through, even if the path is full of thorns and snakes; and whether we succeed or fail, we must remain grateful: grateful for the sake of virtue and also grateful because of the advantages it brings, like keeping old friends and making new ones. It's not our job to expect one benefit in return for another, or to give a little to get more, or to act out of self-interest, but simply because I should do it and because I love doing it. So much so that if I couldn’t be grateful without seeming the opposite, and if I couldn’t return a kindness without being suspected of causing harm, I would still choose to be grateful, regardless of the shame. No one is greater in my eyes than someone who risks their reputation to maintain the conscience of an honest person; one is just an illusion, while the other is real and priceless. I can’t consider someone grateful if, in the moment of returning a favor, they are eyeing another benefit. Someone who is grateful out of profit or fear is like a woman who is only honest because of her reputation.
As gratitude is a necessary and a glorious, so it is also an obvious, a cheap, and an easy virtue; so obvious, that wheresoever there is a life there is a place for it—so cheap that the covetous man may be grateful without expense—and so easy that the sluggard may be so, likewise, without labor. And yet it is not without its niceties too; for there may be a time, a place or occasion wherein I ought not to return a benefit; nay, wherein I may better disown it than deliver it.
Gratitude is essential and wonderful, but it's also quite obvious, inexpensive, and easy to express; it's so obvious that wherever there is life, there’s a chance to show it—so inexpensive that even a greedy person can feel grateful without any cost—and so easy that even someone lazy can do it without effort. Yet, it does have its complexities; there may come a time, a place, or a situation where I shouldn’t return a favor; in fact, there may be moments when it’s better for me to ignore it than to acknowledge it.
Let it be understood, by the way, that it is one thing to be grateful for a good office, and another thing to return it—the good will is enough in one case, being as much as the one side demands and the other promises; but the effect is requisite in the other. The physician that has done his best is acquitted though the patient dies, and so is the advo108cate, though the client may lose his cause. The general of an army, though the battle be lost, is yet worthy of commendation, if he has discharged all the parts of a prudent commander; in this case, the one acquits himself, though the other be never the better for it. He is a grateful man that is always willing and ready: and he that seeks for all means and occasions of requiting a benefit, though without attaining his end, does a great deal more than the man that, without any trouble, makes an immediate return. Suppose my friend a prisoner, and that I have sold my estate for his ransom; I put to sea in foul weather, and upon a coast that is pestered with pirates; my friend happens to be redeemed before I come to the place; my gratitude is as much to be esteemed as if he had been a prisoner; and if I had been taken and robbed myself, it would still have been the same case. Nay, there is a gratitude in the very countenance; for an honest man bears his conscience in his face, and propounds the requital of a good turn in the very moment of receiving it; he is cheerful and confident; and, in the possession of a true friendship, delivered from all anxiety. There is this difference betwixt a thankful man and an unthankful, the one is always pleased in the good he has done, and the other only once in what he has received. There must be a benignity in the estimation even of the smallest offices; and such a modesty as appears to be obliged in whatsoever it gives. As it is indeed a very great benefit, the opportunity of doing a good office to a worthy man. He that attends to the present, and remembers what is past, shall never be ungrateful. But who shall judge in the case? for a man may be grateful without making a return, and ungrateful with109 it. Our best way is to help every thing by a fair interpretation; and wheresoever there is a doubt, to allow it the most favorable construction; for he that is exceptious at words, or looks, has a mind to pick a quarrel. For my own part, when I come to cast up my account, and know what I owe, and to whom, though I make my return sooner to some, and later to others, as occasion or fortune will give me leave, yet I will be just to all: I will be grateful to God, to man, to those that have obliged me: nay, even to those that have obliged my friends. I am bound in honor and in conscience to be thankful for what I have received; and if it be not yet full, it is some pleasure still that I may hope for more. For the requital of a favor there must be virtue, occasion, means, and fortune.
Let’s be clear: being grateful for a kind gesture is one thing, but returning that kindness is another. Goodwill is enough in the first case, as it meets both sides' expectations; but in the second case, an action is required. A doctor who has done his best is not at fault if the patient dies, just as an attorney is not to blame if the client loses the case. A military general, even if the battle is lost, deserves praise if he has acted wisely; in this instance, he has fulfilled his duty, even if the outcome is poor for others. A truly grateful person is always willing and ready to show appreciation, and someone who actively looks for ways to return a favor, even if they can’t achieve it, shows far more effort than someone who casually makes an immediate return. For example, if my friend is imprisoned and I sell my property for his freedom, then sail in treacherous weather and along a pirate-infested coast, and if my friend is freed before I arrive, my gratitude is just as significant as it would be if he were still a prisoner. Even if I were captured and robbed myself, the situation remains the same. There’s also a sense of gratitude reflected in one's demeanor; an honest person’s conscience shows on their face, and they think of repaying a kindness right as they receive it—they are joyful and self-assured, enjoying true friendship without worry. The difference between a thankful person and an ungrateful one is that the former is always satisfied with the good they’ve done, while the latter is only happy about what they’ve received in one instance. Even the smallest acts of kindness deserve recognition, along with a humility that acknowledges what has been given. The chance to help a deserving person is indeed a significant gift. Someone who focuses on the present and remembers the past will never be ungrateful. But who gets to decide? A person can be grateful without repaying, and ungrateful even if they do. The best approach is to interpret things positively and give the benefit of the doubt whenever possible; someone who nitpicks at words or expressions is typically looking to start a conflict. For my part, when I take stock of what I owe and to whom, even if I repay some sooner than others based on circumstances, I will be fair to all. I will express gratitude to God, to people, and those who have helped me—indeed, even to those who have helped my friends. I feel a moral and conscientious obligation to be thankful for what I have been given, and even if it’s not complete, it’s still satisfying to hope for more. Returning a favor requires virtue, opportunity, means, and chance.
It is a common thing to screw up justice to the pitch of an injury. A man may be over-righteous; and why not over-grateful too? There is a mischievous excess, that borders so close upon ingratitude, that it is no easy matter to distinguish the one from the other: but, in regard that there is good-will in the bottom of it, (however distempered, for it is effectually but kindness out of the wits,) we shall discourse it under the title of Gratitude mistaken.
It's quite common to mess up justice to the point of causing harm. A person can be overly righteous; so why can't they be overly grateful too? There's a mischievous excess that comes dangerously close to ingratitude, making it difficult to tell the two apart. However, since there’s good intention underneath it all (even if it’s a bit misguided, as it’s really just kindness gone awry), we'll discuss it under the title of Gratitude mistaken.
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GRATITUDE MISTAKEN.
To refuse a good office, not so much because we do not need it, as because we would not be indebted for it, is a kind of fantastical ingratitude, and somewhat akin to that nicety of humor, on the other side, of being over-grateful; only it lies another way, and seems to be the more pardonable ingratitude of the two. Some people take it for a great instance of their good-will to be wishing their benefactors such or such a mischief; only, forsooth, that they themselves may be the happy instruments of their release.
To turn down a helpful gesture, not so much because we don’t need it, but because we don’t want to feel indebted, is a kind of fanciful ingratitude that’s somewhat similar to being overly grateful; it just comes from a different angle and seems to be the more excusable of the two. Some people think it’s a strong show of goodwill to wish misfortune on their benefactors, only so they can be the lucky ones who help them out of it.
These men do like extravagant lovers, that take it for a great proof of their affection to wish one another banished, beggared, or diseased, that they might have the opportunity of interposing to their relief. What difference is there betwixt such wishing and cursing? such an affection and a mortal hatred? The intent is good, you will say, but this is a misapplication of it. Let such a one fall into my power, or into the hands of his enemies, his creditors, or the common people, and no mortal be able to rescue him but myself: let his life, his liberty, and his reputation, lie all at stake, and no creature but myself in condition to succor him; and why all this, but because he has obliged me, and I would requite him? If this be gratitude to propound jails, shackles, slavery, war, beggary, to111 the man that you would requite, what would you do where you are ungrateful? This way of proceeding, over and above that it is impious in itself, is likewise over-hasty and unseasonable: for he that goes too fast is as much to blame as he that does not move at all, (to say nothing of the injustice,) for if I had never been obliged, I should never have wished it.
These guys act like dramatic lovers who think it's a sign of deep affection to wish each other banished, broke, or sick, just so they can swoop in and offer help. What's the difference between wishing that and cursing? Between such love and deep hatred? You might say the intention is good, but that's a misuse of it. If someone falls into my control or into the hands of his enemies, creditors, or the general public, and I'm the only one who can save him, let his life, freedom, and reputation be on the line, with no one but me able to help him; and all this just because he did something nice for me, and I want to repay him? If this is gratitude—laying out jails, chains, slavery, war, and poverty for the person you want to repay—what would you do if you were ungrateful? This way of acting, besides being wrong in itself, is also too rushed and inappropriate. Because someone who rushes is just as blameworthy as someone who doesn’t act at all (not to mention the injustice), since if I had never been helped, I would have never wished it.
There are seasons wherein a benefit is neither to be received nor requited. To press a return upon me when I do not desire it, is unmannerly; but it is worse to force me to desire it. How rigorous would he be to exact a requital; who is thus eager to return it! To wish a man in distress that I may relieve him, is first to wish him miserable: to wish that he may stand in need of anybody, is against him; and to wish that he may stand in need of me, is for myself: so that my business is not so much a charity to my friend as the cancelling of a bond; nay, it is half-way the wish of an enemy. It is barbarous to wish a man in chains, slavery, or want, only to bring him out again: let me rather wish him powerful and happy, and myself indebted to him! By nature we are prone to mercy, humanity compassion; may we be excited to be more so by the number of the grateful! may their number increase, and may we have no need of trying them!
There are times when a benefit can’t be received or repaid. Forcing me to return a favor when I don’t want to is rude; but it’s even worse to make me want to. How strict would someone have to be to demand repayment from someone so eager to give it back? To wish for someone in trouble so that I can help them is really to wish misfortune upon them first: wanting someone to need help at all is against them; and wanting them to need my help is selfish. So, my intention isn’t purely about helping a friend, but more about freeing myself from an obligation; in fact, it’s somewhat like the wish of an enemy. It’s cruel to wish someone to be in chains, in servitude, or in need just so I can rescue them: I’d rather wish for them to be strong and happy, and for me to owe them! By nature, we’re inclined toward kindness, compassion, and mercy; may we be inspired to be even more so by how many are grateful! May their numbers grow, and may we not have to test them!
It is not for an honest man to make way to a good office by a crime: as if a pilot should pray for a tempest, that he might prove his skill: or a general wish his army routed, that he may show himself a great commander in recovering the day. It is throwing a man into a river to take him out again. It is an obligation, I confess, to cure a112 wound or a disease; but to make that wound or disease on purpose to cure it, is a most perverse ingratitude. It is barbarous even to an enemy, much more to a friend; for it is not so much to do him a kindness, as to put him in need of it. Of the two, let me rather be a scar than a wound; and yet it would be better to have it neither. Rome had been little beholden to Scipio if he had prolonged the Punic war that he might have the finishing of it at last, or to the Decii for dying for their country, if they had first brought it to the last extremity of needing their devotion. It may be a good contemplation, but it is a lewd wish. Æneas had never been surnamed the Pious, if he had wished the ruin of his country, only that he might have the honor of taking his father out of the fire. It is the scandal of a physician to make work, and irritate a disease, and to torment his patient, for the reputation of his cure. If a man should openly imprecate poverty, captivity, fear, or danger, upon a person that he has been obliged to, would not the whole world condemn him for it? And what is the difference, but the one is only a private wish, and the other a public declaration? Rutilius was told in his exile, that, for his comfort, there would be ere-long a civil war, that would bring all the banished men home again. “God forbid,” says he, “for I had rather my country should blush for my banishment than mourn for my return.” How much more honorable it is to owe cheerfully, than to pay dishonestly? It is the wish of an enemy to take a town that he may preserve it, and to be victorious that he may forgive; but the mercy comes after the cruelty; beside that it is an injury both to God and man; for the man must be first afflicted by Heaven to be113 relieved by me. So that we impose the cruelty upon God, and take the compassion to ourselves; and at the best, it is but a curse that makes way for a blessing; the bare wish is an injury; and if it does not take effect, it is because Heaven has not heard our prayers; or if they should succeed, the fear itself is a torment; and it is much more desirable to have a firm and unshaken security. It is friendly to wish it in your power to oblige me, if ever I chance to need it; but it is unkind to wish me miserable that I may need it. How much more pious is it, and humane, to wish that I may never want the occasion of obliging, nor the means of doing it; nor ever have reason to repent of what I have done?
An honest person shouldn't try to achieve a good position through wrongdoing; it’s like a pilot hoping for a storm just to show off his skills, or a general wishing for his army to lose so he can demonstrate his ability to turn things around. It's like throwing someone into a river just to pull them out later. I admit there's a responsibility to heal a wound or an illness, but deliberately inflicting that wound or illness to then cure it is a terrible betrayal. It’s cruel, even toward an enemy, let alone a friend; it’s less about being helpful and more about putting someone in a position where they need help. Given a choice, I'd rather be a scar than a wound; ideally, I wouldn't have either. Rome wouldn't owe anything to Scipio if he had dragged out the Punic war just so he could finish it, nor to the Decii who died for their country if they had first pushed it to the brink where they needed their sacrifice. While it may be a thought-provoking idea, it’s a wicked wish. Æneas wouldn't have been known as "the Pious" if he had wanted his country to fall just so he could have the honor of rescuing his father from the flames. It's shameful for a doctor to create issues and aggravate an illness, only to boast about his cure later. If someone openly wished for poverty, captivity, fear, or danger on someone they've owed a favor to, wouldn't they be condemned by everyone? The only difference is that one is a private wish and the other a public statement. Rutilius, when in exile, was told there would soon be a civil war to bring all the exiles home. He replied, “God forbid; I would rather my country feel shame for my banishment than sorrow for my return.” How much more honorable it is to owe something gladly than to repay with shame? An enemy might wish to capture a city just to save it, and to win a battle only to grant forgiveness later; but mercy follows cruelty. Besides, it’s an insult to both God and man; the person must first suffer from Heaven before being helped by me. This means we shift the cruelty onto God while claiming the compassion for ourselves; at best, it’s only a curse that clears the way for a blessing; simply wishing for it is a wrong, and if it doesn’t happen, it’s because Heaven hasn’t listened to our requests; or if it does happen, the mere fear is tormenting, when what’s truly desired is a solid, unshakable security. It’s kind to wish that you might be able to help me if I ever need it, but it’s unkind to wish me to be miserable just so I would need you. How much more righteous and humane it is to hope that I never lack the opportunity to help others, nor the means to do so; nor ever have cause to regret my actions?
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CHAPTER XIX.
OF INGRATITUDE.
Ingratitude is of all the crimes, that which we are to account the most venial in others, and the most unpardonable in ourselves. It is impious to the highest degree; for it makes us fight against our children and our altars. There are, there ever were, and there ever will be criminals of all sorts, as murderers, tyrants, thieves, adulterers, traitors, robbers and sacrilegious persons; but there is hardly any notorious crime without a mixture of ingratitude. It disunites mankind, and breaks the very pillars of society; and yet so far is this prodigious wickedness from being any wonder to us, that even thankfulness itself were much the greater of the two; for men are deterred from it by labor, expense, laziness, business; or else diverted from it by lust, envy, ambition, pride, levity, rashness, fear; nay, by the very shame of confessing what they have received. And the unthankful man has nothing to say for himself all this while, for there needs neither pains or fortune for the discharge of his duty, beside the inward anxiety and torment when a man’s conscience makes him afraid of his own thoughts.
Ingratitude is, out of all the wrongs, the one we should consider the least serious in others, yet the most unforgivable in ourselves. It’s incredibly disrespectful; it turns us against our own children and sacred beliefs. There are always, and will always be, criminals of every kind—killers, tyrants, thieves, cheaters, traitors, robbers, and sacrilegious individuals—but hardly any serious crime exists without some element of ingratitude. It tears humanity apart and shatters the very foundation of society. Strangely, this incredible wickedness doesn’t even surprise us, as thankfulness seems to be the greater challenge; people avoid it due to hard work, expense, laziness, busy schedules, or they get distracted by desires, jealousy, ambition, pride, triviality, rashness, fear, or even the embarrassment of acknowledging what they’ve received. Meanwhile, the ungrateful person has no justification for their behavior, as expressing gratitude requires no special effort or resources, aside from the internal distress and torment when one’s conscience makes them uneasy about their own thoughts.
To speak against the ungrateful is to rail against mankind, for even those that complain are guilty: nor do I speak only of those that do not live up to115 the strict rule of virtue; but mankind itself is degenerated and lost. We live unthankfully in this world, and we go struggling and murmuring out of it, dissatisfied with our lot, whereas we should be grateful for the blessings we have enjoyed, and account that sufficient which Providence has provided for us; a little more time may make our lives longer but not happier, and whensoever it is the pleasure of God to call us, we must obey; and yet all this while we go on quarreling at the world for what we find in ourselves, and we are yet more unthankful to Heaven than we are to one another. What benefit can be great now to that man that despises the bounties of his Maker? We would be as strong as elephants, as swift as bucks, as light as birds—and we complain that we have not the sagacity of dogs, the sight of eagles, the long life of ravens—nay, that we are not immortal, and endued with the knowledge of things to come: nay, we take it ill that we are not gods upon earth, never considering the advantages of our condition, or the benignity of Providence in the comforts that we enjoy. We subdue the strongest of creatures and overtake the fleetest—we reclaim the fiercest and outwit the craftiest. We are within one degree of heaven itself, and yet we are not satisfied.
To criticize the ungrateful is to take issue with humanity, because even those who complain are at fault. I'm not just talking about people who don't follow the strict rules of virtue; humanity itself is deteriorated and lost. We live ingratitude in this world, and we leave it grumbling and struggling, unhappy with our circumstances, when we should be thankful for the blessings we’ve received and consider what Providence has provided us as enough. A little more time might make our lives longer but not happier, and whenever it pleases God to call us, we must comply. Yet, despite this, we keep fighting with the world over what we find within ourselves, and we’re even more ungrateful to Heaven than we are to each other. What good can come to someone who scorns the gifts of their Creator? We wish to be as strong as elephants, as fast as deer, as light as birds—and we complain that we lack the cunning of dogs, the vision of eagles, the long life of ravens—not to mention that we are not immortal and do not have the ability to foresee the future. We even resent not being gods on earth, without ever considering the benefits of our situation or the kindness of Providence in the comforts we enjoy. We conquer the strongest creatures and surpass the fastest—we tame the fiercest and outsmart the cleverest. We are just a step away from heaven itself, and still, we are not satisfied.
Since there is not any one creature which we had rather be, we take it ill that we cannot draw the united excellencies of all other creatures into ourselves. Why are we not rather thankful to that goodness which has subjected the whole creation to our use and service?
Since there isn't a single creature we would prefer to be, we are frustrated that we can't combine the best qualities of all other creatures into ourselves. Why aren't we more grateful for that goodness which has made the entire creation available for our use and benefit?
The principal causes of ingratitude are pride and self-conceit, avarice, envy, etc. It is a familiar exclamation, “It is true he did this or that for me, but116 it came so late, and it was so little, I had even as good have been without it—if he had not given it to me, he must have given it to somebody else—it was nothing out of his pocket.” Nay, we are so ungrateful, that he that gives us all we have, if he leaves any thing to himself, we reckon that he does us an injury.
The main reasons for ingratitude are pride, self-importance, greed, envy, and so on. People often say, “Sure, he did something for me, but it was so late and so small that I might as well not have received it—if he hadn't given it to me, he would have given it to someone else—it didn't cost him anything.” In fact, we are so ungrateful that when someone gives us everything we have and keeps even a little for themselves, we consider that a wrong.
It cost Julius Cæsar his life by the disappointment of his insatiable companions; and yet he reserved nothing of all that he got to himself but the liberty of disposing of it. There is no benefit so large but malignity will still lessen it; none so narrow, which a good interpretation will not enlarge. No man shall ever be grateful that views a benefit on the wrong side, or takes a good office by the wrong handle. The avaricious man is naturally ungrateful, for he never thinks he has enough, but, without considering what he has, only minds what he covets. Some pretend want of power to make a competent return, and you shall find in others a kind of graceless modesty, that makes a man ashamed of requiting an obligation, because it is a confession that he has received one.
It cost Julius Caesar his life due to the disappointment of his greedy friends; yet he kept nothing for himself from all that he gained except the freedom to distribute it. There’s no benefit so great that malice won’t diminish it; none so small that a positive interpretation can't enhance it. No one will ever feel grateful who sees a benefit in a negative light or approaches a good deed with the wrong mindset. A greedy person is inherently ungrateful because he never believes he has enough; without considering what he possesses, he only focuses on what he desires. Some claim they lack the ability to repay a favor, while others exhibit a kind of awkward modesty that makes them feel embarrassed to repay a debt, as it would acknowledge that they have received one.
Not to return one good office for another is inhuman; but to return evil for good is diabolical. There are too many even of this sort, who, the more they owe, the more they hate. There is nothing more dangerous than to oblige those people; for when they are conscious of not paying the debt, they wish the creditor out of the way. It is a mortal hatred, that which arises from the shame of an abused benefit. When we are on the asking side, what a deal of cringing there is, and profession! “Well, I shall never forget this favor, it will be an eternal obligation to me.” But within a while the117 note is changed, and we hear no more words of it, until, by little and little, it is all quite forgotten. So long as we stand in need of a benefit, there is nothing dearer to us; nor anything cheaper, when we have received it. And yet a man may as well refuse to deliver up a sum of money that is left him in trust without a suit, as not to return a good office without asking; and when we have no value any farther for the benefit, we do commonly care as little for the author. People follow their interest: one man is grateful for his convenience, and another man is ungrateful for the same reason.
Not returning a favor is inhumane; but repaying good with evil is downright evil. There are too many people like this, who, the more they owe, the more they resent. It's really risky to help these kinds of people because when they realize they haven't reciprocated, they want to get rid of the person who helped them. This kind of hatred comes from the embarrassment of having received a favor and misusing it. When we’re asking for something, there's so much flattery and insistence! “I can’t thank you enough for this favor; I’ll owe you forever.” But after a while, that tune changes, and we never hear about it again until it’s completely forgotten. As long as we need a favor, it becomes invaluable to us; but once we’ve received it, it suddenly seems worthless. Not returning a favor is as wrong as refusing to hand over money that’s been entrusted to someone without any fight; and once we no longer value the benefit, we typically don’t care much for the person who provided it either. People act based on their own interests: one person feels grateful for the convenience, and another feels ungrateful for the same reason.
Some are ungrateful to their own country, and their country no less ungrateful to others; so that the complaint of ingratitude reaches all men. Doth not the son wish for the death of his father, the husband for that of his wife, etc. But who can look for gratitude in an age of so many gaping and craving appetites, where all people take, and none give? In an age of license to all sorts of vanity and wickedness, as lust, gluttony, avarice, envy, ambition, sloth, insolence, levity, contumacy, fear, rashness, private discords and public evils, extravagant and groundless wishes, vain confidences, sickly affections, shameless impieties, rapine authorized, and the violation of all things, sacred and profane: obligations are pursued with sword and poison; benefits are turned into crimes, and that blood most seditiously spilt for which every honest man should expose his own. Those that should be the preservers of their country are the destroyers of it; and it is a matter of dignity to trample upon the government: the sword gives the law, and mercenaries take up arms against their masters. Among these turbulent and unruly motions, what hope is there of finding118 honesty or good faith, which is the quietest of all virtues? There is no more lively image of human life than that of a conquered city; there is neither mercy, modesty, nor religion; and if we forget our lives, we may well forget our benefits. The world abounds with examples of ungrateful persons, and no less with those of ungrateful governments. Was not Catiline ungrateful? whose malice aimed, not only at the mastering of his country, but at the total destruction of it, by calling in an inveterate and vindictive enemy from beyond the Alps, to wreak their long-thirsted-for revenge, and to sacrifice the lives of as many noble Romans as might serve to answer and appease the ghosts of the slaughtered Gauls? Was not Marius ungrateful, that, from a common soldier, being raised up to a consul, not only gave the world for civil bloodshed and massacres, but was himself the sign of the execution; and every man he met in the streets, to whom he did not stretch out his right hand, was murdered? And was not Sylla ungrateful too? that when he had waded up to the gates in human blood, carried the outrage into the city, and there most barbarously cut two entire legions to pieces in a corner, not only after the victory, but most perfidiously after quarter given them? Good God! that ever any man should not only escape with impunity, but receive a reward for so horrid a villainy! Was not Pompey ungrateful too? who, after three consulships, three triumphs, and so many honors, usurped before his time, split the commonwealth into three parts, and brought it to such a pass, that there was no hope of safety but by slavery only; forsooth, to abate the envy of his power, he took other partners with him into the government, as if that which was not lawful for119 any one might have been allowable for more; dividing and distributing the provinces, and breaking all into a triumvirate, reserving still two parts of the three in his own family. And was not Cæsar ungrateful also, though to give him his due, he was a man of his word; merciful in his victories, and never killed any man but with his sword in his hand? Let us therefore forgive one another. Only one word more now for the shame of ungrateful Governments. Was not Camillus banished? Scipio dismissed? and Cicero exiled and plundered? But, what is all this to those who are so mad, and to dispute even the goodness of Heaven, which gives us all, and expects nothing again, but continues giving to the most unthankful and complaining?
Some people are ungrateful to their own country, and their country is equally ungrateful to others; so the complaint of ingratitude is widespread. Does the son not wish for his father's death, or the husband for his wife's? But who can expect gratitude in a time filled with so many greedy desires, where everyone takes and no one gives? In an era of indulgence in every form of vanity and wickedness—such as lust, gluttony, greed, envy, ambition, laziness, arrogance, frivolity, defiance, fear, recklessness, personal conflicts, and public wrongs, coupled with extravagant and baseless wishes, empty hopes, weak affections, shameless impieties, sanctioned plunder, and violations of all sacred and profane things—obligations are pursued with violence and poison; benefits are twisted into crimes, and the blood spilled in rebellion, which every decent person would defend. Those who should protect their country end up destroying it, and it has become a point of pride to trample upon the government. The sword dictates the law, and mercenaries turn against their masters. Amidst this chaos, what hope is there of finding honesty or good faith, the most peaceful of all virtues? There’s no clearer image of human life than that of a conquered city; there is no mercy, modesty, or faith; and if we forget our lives, we surely will forget our benefits. The world is filled with examples of ungrateful individuals and equally ungrateful governments. Wasn't Catiline ungrateful? His malice aimed not only at dominating his country but at its total destruction by inviting a long-standing, vengeful enemy from across the Alps to take revenge and sacrifice the lives of as many noble Romans as needed to appease the ghosts of the slain Gauls. Wasn't Marius ungrateful too, who, after rising from a common soldier to consul, didn't just bring civil strife and massacres but was himself the cause of executions, murdering anyone he met in the streets who he did not greet with his right hand? And wasn't Sylla ungrateful as well? He waded through rivers of human blood, carried that violence into the city, and barbarically slaughtered two entire legions in a corner—not only after victory but treacherously after they were granted quarter. Good God! That any man could escape such horrendous acts and even be rewarded for them! Wasn't Pompey ungrateful too? After holding three consulships, three triumphs, and numerous honors he had usurped, he divided the commonwealth into three parts, leading it to a point where safety could only be found in slavery; to curb the jealousy of his power, he took others into partnership in government, as if both universal law and morality were suddenly flexible when more people were involved; dividing the provinces and forming a triumvirate while still keeping two-thirds of the power within his family. And wasn't Cæsar ungrateful as well? Though to give him credit, he was a man of his word; merciful in his victories, and he never killed anyone except with his sword in hand. So let us forgive one another. One last point on the shame of ungrateful governments. Wasn't Camillus exiled? Scipio dismissed? And Cicero exiled and plundered? But what does all this matter to those who are so foolish as to even question the goodness of Heaven, which provides for everyone and asks for nothing in return, continuing to give to the most ungrateful and complaining?
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THERE CAN BE NO LAW AGAINST INGRATITUDE.
Ingratitude is so dangerous to itself, and so detestable to other people, that nature, one would think, had sufficiently provided against it, without need of any other law. For every ungrateful man is his own enemy, and it seems superfluous to compel a man to be kind to himself, and to follow in his own inclinations. This, of all wickedness imaginable, is certainly the vice which does the most divide and distract human nature. Without the exercise and the commerce of mutual offices, we can be neither happy nor safe for it is only society that secures us: take us one by one, and we are a prey even to brutes as well as to one another.
Ingratitude is so harmful to oneself and so loathed by others that it seems like nature has already set up enough protections against it, without needing any additional laws. Every ungrateful person is their own worst enemy, and it feels unnecessary to force someone to be kind to themselves and to follow their own instincts. Of all the evils imaginable, this is definitely the vice that most divides and distracts human nature. Without engaging in mutual acts of kindness, we can't be happy or safe, because it's only through society that we find security: isolated, we become easy targets for both animals and each other.
Nature has brought us into the world naked and unarmed; we have not the teeth or the paws of lions or bears to make ourselves terrible; but by the two blessings of reason and union, we secure and defend ourselves against violence and fortune. This it is that makes man the master of all other creatures, who otherwise were scarce a match for the weakest of them. This it is that comforts us in sickness, in age, in misery, in pains, and in the worst of calamities. Take away this combination, and mankind is dissociated, and falls to pieces. It is true, that there is no law established against this abominable vice;121 but we cannot say yet that it escapes unpunished, for a public hatred is certainly the greatest of all penalties; over and above that we lose the most valuable blessings of life, in the not bestowing and receiving of benefits. If ingratitude were to be punished by a law, it would discredit the obligation; for a benefit to be given, not lent: and if we have no return at all, there is no just cause of complaint: for gratitude were no virtue, if there were any danger in being ungrateful. There are halters, I know, hooks and gibbets, provided for homicide poison, sacrilege, and rebellion; but ingratitude (here upon earth) is only punished in the schools; all farther pains and inflictions being wholly remitted to divine justice. And, if a man may judge of the conscience by the countenance the ungrateful man is never without a canker at his heart; his mind an aspect is sad and solicitous; whereas the other is always cheerful and serene.
Nature has brought us into the world defenseless and vulnerable; we don’t have the teeth or claws of lions or bears to intimidate others. However, through the gifts of reason and unity, we can protect ourselves from violence and misfortune. This is what makes humans the masters of all other creatures, who would otherwise struggle against even the weakest among them. This is what provides comfort in sickness, old age, hardship, pain, and the worst disasters. Remove this connection, and humankind falls apart. It’s true that there’s no law against this terrible vice; but we can’t say it goes unpunished, because public hatred is undoubtedly the harshest penalty. Additionally, we lose the most valuable blessings in life by failing to give and receive kindness. If ingratitude were to be legally punished, it would undermine the obligation; because a gift should be given, not lent. If we receive nothing in return, we have no rightful reason to complain; because gratitude wouldn’t be a virtue if there was no risk in being ungrateful. I know there are gallows, hooks, and hanging devices for murder, poisoning, sacrilege, and rebellion; but here on earth, ingratitude is only punished in schools, with all further penalties left to divine justice. And if we can judge someone's conscience by their expression, the ungrateful person is always tormented internally, their demeanor sad and anxious, while grateful individuals remain cheerful and calm.
As there are no laws extant against ingratitude, so is it utterly impossible to contrive any, that in all circumstances shall reach it. If it were actionable, there would not be courts enough in the whole world to try the causes in. There can be no setting a day for the requiting of benefits as for the payment of money, nor any estimate upon the benefits themselves; but the whole matter rests in the conscience of both parties: and then there are so many degrees of it, that the same rule will never serve all. Beside that, to proportion it as the benefit is greater or less, will be both impracticable and without reason. One good turn saves my life; another, my freedom, or peradventure my very soul. How shall any law now suit a punishment to an ingratitude under these differing degrees? It must not be said in benefits as in122 bonds, Pay what you owe. How shall a man pay life, health, credit, security, in kind? There can be no set rule to bound that infinite variety of cases, which are more properly the subject of humanity and religion than of law and public justice. There would be disputes also about the benefit itself, which must totally depend upon the courtesy of the judge; for no law imaginable can set it forth. One man gives me an estate; another only lends me a sword, and that sword preserves my life. Nay, the very same thing, several ways done, changes the quality of the obligation. A word, a tone, a look, makes a great alteration in the case. How shall we judge then, and determine a matter which does not depend upon the fact itself, but upon the force and intention of it? Some things are reputed benefits, not for their value, but because we desire them: and there are offices of as much greater value, that we do not reckon upon at all. If ingratitude were liable to a law, we must never give but before witnesses, which would overthrow the dignity of the benefit: and then the punishment must either be equal where the crimes are unequal, or else it must be unrighteous, so that blood must answer for blood. He that is ungrateful for my saving his life must forfeit his own. And what can be more inhuman than that benefits should conclude in sanguinary events? A man saves my life, and I am ungrateful for it. Shall I be punished in my purse? that is too little; if it be less than the benefit, it is unjust, and it must be capital to be made equal to it. There are, moreover, certain privileges granted to parents, that can never be reduced to a common rule. Their injuries may be cognizable, but not their benefits. The diversity of cases is too large and intricate to be brought within the prospect123 of a law: so that it is much more equitable to punish none than to punish all alike. What if a man follows a good office with an injury; whether or no shall this quit scores? or who shall compare them, and weigh the one against the other? There is another thing yet which perhaps we do not dream of: not one man upon the face of the earth would escape, and yet every man would expect to be his judge. Once again, we are all of us ungrateful; and the number does not only take away the shame, but gives authority and protection to the wickedness.
Since there are no existing laws against ingratitude, it’s completely impossible to create any that would apply in every situation. If it were a punishable offense, there wouldn’t be enough courts in the world to handle the cases. You can’t schedule a day for repaying favors like you can for paying debts, nor can you put a price on the favors themselves; it all depends on the conscience of both parties. There are so many variations that the same rule can’t apply to everyone. Moreover, trying to match the reward to the size of the favor is both impractical and unreasonable. One favor might save my life; another might grant me my freedom or even save my soul. How could any law possibly assign a punishment for ingratitude given these different circumstances? It can't be said, as in debts, “Pay what you owe.” How can someone repay life, health, reputation, or safety in the same way? There can’t be a fixed rule to cover the endless variety of cases, which are more about humanity and morals than law and public justice. There would also be arguments about what the benefit actually is, which would entirely depend on the judge’s judgment; no conceivable law could define it. One person might give me a property; another might only lend me a sword, and that sword could save my life. Even the same deed done in different ways alters the nature of the obligation. A word, a tone, or a glance can significantly change the situation. So how do we judge and resolve issues that don’t hinge on the act itself, but on the intention and impact of it? Some things are seen as benefits not because of their value, but because we want them; meanwhile, there are other acts of much greater worth that we don’t consider at all. If ingratitude were punishable by law, we would have to give favors only in front of witnesses, which would undermine the value of the benefit. Then, the punishment would either have to be equal where the offenses aren’t, or it would be unjust, equating life for life. Someone who is ungrateful for being saved must lose their own life. What could be more inhumane than that benefits lead to bloody outcomes? If a person saves my life and I’m ungrateful, should I be penalized financially? That seems inadequate; if the penalty is less than the benefit, it’s unfair, and it would need to be severe to match it. Furthermore, there are certain privileges that parents hold that can’t be fitted into a common rule. Their wrongs might be judged, but their benefits can’t. The complexity and variety of cases are too vast to fit into the framework of a law, so it’s much fairer to punish no one than to treat everyone the same. What if someone follows a good deed with wrongdoing; would that balance things out? Who would compare and assess one against the other? There’s something else we might not even consider: not a single person on earth would escape, yet everyone would want to be their own judge. Once more, we're all ungrateful, and the sheer number of us not only removes the shame but also gives power and cover to the wrongdoing.
It is thought reasonable by some, that there should be a law against ingratitude; for, say they, it is common for one city to upbraid another, and to claim that of posterity which was bestowed upon their ancestors; but this is only clamor without reason. It is objected by others, as a discouragement to good offices, if men shall not be made answerable for them; but I say, on the other side, that no man would accept of a benefit upon those terms. He that gives is prompted to it by a goodness of mind, and the generosity of the action is lessened by the caution: for it is his desire that the receiver should please himself, and owe no more than he thinks fit. But what if this might occasion fewer benefits, so long as they would be franker? nor is there any hurt in putting a check upon rashness and profusion. In answer to this; men will be careful enough when they oblige without a law: nor is it possible for a judge ever to set us right in it; or indeed, anything else, but the faith of the receiver. The honor of a benefit is this way preserved, which is otherwise profaned, when it comes to the mercenary, and made matter of contention. We are even forward enough of ourselves to wrangle, without necessary124 provocations. It would be well, I think, if moneys might pass upon the same conditions with other benefits, and the payment remitted to the conscience, without formalizing upon bills and securities: but human wisdom has rather advised with convenience than virtue; and chosen rather to force honesty than expect it. For every paltry sum of money there must be bonds, witnesses, counterparts, powers, etc., which is no other than a shameful confession of fraud and wickedness, when more credit is given to our seals than to our minds; and caution taken lest he that has received the money should deny it. Were it not better now to be deceived by some than to suspect all? what is the difference, at this rate, betwixt the benefactor and the usurer, save only that in the benefactor’s case there is nobody stands bound?
Some people believe it's reasonable to have a law against ingratitude. They argue that one city often criticizes another and claims what future generations owe to their ancestors, but that's just empty noise. Others object that not holding people accountable for their good deeds discourages generosity. However, I argue that no one would accept help under those conditions. The giver acts out of kindness, and making it conditional lessens the generosity of the act. The giver wants the recipient to enjoy the gift without feeling overly indebted. But what if this means fewer gifts, as long as they are more genuine? There's nothing wrong with curbing reckless generosity. In response to this, people will be cautious enough when helping others, even without a law, and a judge can’t really fix that; it's all about the trust of the recipient. The honor of a gift is preserved this way, which is otherwise spoiled when it turns into a mercenary transaction and a source of conflict. We are often quick to argue on our own without needing additional reasons. I think it would be better if money could be exchanged under the same conditions as other gifts, with payment left to individual conscience, without the need for contracts and guarantees. Yet human wisdom tends to focus on convenience over virtue, preferring to force honesty instead of expecting it. For every trivial amount of money, we have to have bonds, witnesses, duplicates, powers of attorney, etc. This demands a shameful acknowledgment of dishonesty when more trust is placed in our signatures than in our intentions, and precautions are taken to ensure that the person who received the money can’t deny it. Wouldn’t it be better to be deceived by a few than to be suspicious of everyone? What’s the difference at this point between a benefactor and a loan shark, except that the benefactor doesn’t have anyone bound by obligation?
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CHAPTER I.
OF A HAPPY LIFE, AND WHEREIN IT CONSISTS.
There is not any thing in this world, perhaps, that is more talked of, and less understood, than the business of a happy life. It is every man’s wish and design; and yet not one of a thousand that knows wherein that happiness consists. We live, however, in a blind and eager pursuit of it; and the more haste we make in a wrong way, the further we are from our journey’s end. Let us therefore, first, consider “what it is we should be at;” and, secondly, “which is the readiest way to compass it.” If we be right, we shall find every day how much we improve; but if we either follow the cry, or the track, of people that are out of the way, we must expect to be misled, and to continue our days in wandering in error. Wherefore, it highly concerns us to take along with us a skilful guide; for it is not in this, as in other voyages, where the highway brings us to our place of repose; or if a man should happen to be out, where the inhabitants might set him right again: but on the contrary, the beaten road is here126 the most dangerous, and the people, instead of helping us, misguide us. Let us not therefore follow, like beasts, but rather govern ourselves by reason, than by example. It fares with us in human life as in a routed army; one stumbles first, and then another falls upon him, and so they follow, one upon the neck of another, until the whole field comes to be but one heap of miscarriages. And the mischief is, “that the number of the multitude carries it against truth and justice;” so that we must leave the crowd, if we would be happy: for the question of a happy life is not to be decided by vote: nay, so far from it, that plurality of voices is still an argument of the wrong; the common people find it easier to believe than to judge, and content themselves with what is usual, never examining whether it be good or not. By the common people is intended the man of title as well as the clouted shoe: for I do not distinguish them by the eye, but by the mind, which is the proper judge of the man. Worldly felicity, I know, makes the head giddy; but if ever a man comes to himself again, he will confess, that “whatsoever he has done, he wishes undone;” and that “the things he feared were better than those he prayed for.”
There’s probably nothing in this world that gets talked about more and understood less than the idea of a happy life. It’s something every person wants, yet out of a thousand, maybe only one knows what true happiness really is. Still, we blindly and eagerly chase after it; and the faster we push in the wrong direction, the further away we get from our goal. So, let’s first think about “what we should actually be aiming for,” and second, “what’s the best way to achieve it.” If we’re on the right track, we’ll realize each day how much we’re improving; but if we just follow the crowd or the paths of those who are lost, we can expect to be misled and spend our days wandering in confusion. Therefore, it’s crucial to bring along a skilled guide; this isn’t like other journeys where the main road takes us to where we want to be, or where locals can point us in the right direction if we get lost. Instead, here, the well-trodden path is often the most dangerous, and people tend to mislead us rather than help. So let's not follow blindly like animals, but rather let reason guide us instead of just example. Human life can be likened to a disorganized army; one person stumbles, and then another trips over them, and they all fall one after the other until it’s just a chaotic mess. The problem is, “the numbers in a crowd often overshadow truth and justice,” so we must separate ourselves from the masses if we want to be happy, as the question of a happy life can’t be settled by majority rule. In fact, the more voices join in, the more likely it is that they are wrong; people find it easier to believe than to think critically and usually settle for what’s familiar without questioning if it’s actually good or not. By common people, I’m referring to both the man of title and the clouted shoe: I don’t distinguish them by appearance, but by the mind, which is truly what judges a person. I know that worldly success can be intoxicating, but if a person ever regains their senses, they’ll admit, “whatever I’ve done, I wish I hadn’t,” and “the things I feared were better than the things I wished for.”
The true felicity of life is to be free from perturbations, to understand our duties towards God and man: to enjoy the present without any anxious dependence upon the future. Not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears, but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is abundantly sufficient; for he that is so, wants nothing. The great blessings of mankind are within us, and within our reach; but we shut our eyes, and, like people in the dark, we fall foul upon the very thing which we search for without finding it. “Tran127quillity is a certain equality of mind, which no condition of fortune can either exalt or depress.” Nothing can make it less: for it is the state of human perfection: it raises us as high as we can go; and makes every man his own supporter; whereas he that is borne up by any thing else may fall. He that judges aright, and perseveres in it, enjoys a perpetual calm: he takes a true prospect of things; he observes an order, measure, a decorum in all his actions; he has a benevolence in his nature; he squares his life according to reason; and draws to himself love and admiration. Without a certain and an unchangeable judgment, all the rest is but fluctuation: but “he that always wills and nills the same thing, is undoubtedly in the right.” Liberty and serenity of mind must necessarily ensue upon the mastering of those things which either allure or affright us; when instead of those flashy pleasures, (which even at the best are both vain and hurtful together,) we shall find ourselves possessed of joy transporting and everlasting. It must be a sound mind that makes a happy man; there must be a constancy in all conditions, a care for the things of this world, but without trouble; and such an indifferency for the bounties of fortune, that either with them, or without them, we may live contentedly. There must be neither lamentation, nor quarrelling, nor sloth, nor fear; for it makes a discord in a man’s life. “He that fears, serves.” The joy of a wise man stands firm without interruption; in all places, at all times, and in all conditions, his thoughts are cheerful and quiet. As it never came in to him from without, so it will never leave him; but it is born within him, and inseparable from him. It is a solicitous life that is egged128 on with the hope of any thing, though never so open and easy, nay, though a man should never suffer any sort of disappointment. I do not speak this either as a bar to the fair enjoyment of lawful pleasures, or to the gentle flatteries of reasonable expectations: but, on the contrary, I would have men to be always in good humor, provided that it arises from their own souls, and be cherished in their own breasts. Other delights are trivial; they may smooth the brow, but they do not fill and affect the heart. “True joy is a serene and sober motion;” and they are miserably out that take laughing for rejoicing. The seat of it is within, and there is no cheerfulness like the resolution of a brave mind, that has fortune under his feet. He that can look death in the face, and bid it welcome; open his door to poverty, and bridle his appetites; this is the man whom Providence has established in the possession of inviolable delights. The pleasures of the vulgar are ungrounded, thin, and superficial; but the others are solid and eternal. As the body itself is rather a necessary thing, than a great; so the comforts of it are but temporary and vain; beside that, without extraordinary moderation, their end is only pain and repentance; whereas a peaceful conscience, honest thoughts, virtuous actions, and an indifference for casual events, are blessings without end, satiety, or measure. This consummated state of felicity is only a submission to the dictate of right nature; “The foundation of it is wisdom and virtue; the knowledge of what we ought to do, and the conformity of the will to that knowledge.”
The true happiness in life comes from being free of disturbances, understanding our responsibilities to God and each other, and enjoying the present without being anxiously dependent on the future. We shouldn’t occupy ourselves with hopes or fears, but instead, be satisfied with what we have, which is more than enough; for someone who feels this way wants for nothing. The great blessings for humanity are within us and accessible, yet we often close our eyes, and like people in the dark, we stumble upon the very thing we seek without finding it. “Tranquility is a certain balance of mind, which no fortune can either elevate or diminish.” Nothing can lessen it; it represents the state of human perfection, lifting us to our highest potential and making each person their own source of strength; those reliant on anything else may falter. A person who judges rightly and stays committed to it enjoys a constant calm: they have a clear perspective on things, observe order, measure, and propriety in all their actions, possess a benevolence by nature, live according to reason, and attract love and admiration. Without a certain and unchanging judgment, everything else is just fluctuation: but “he who consistently wants and doesn’t want the same thing is undoubtedly in the right.” Freedom and serenity of mind necessarily follow when we master the things that either tempt or frighten us; choosing lasting joy over fleeting pleasures, which are both vain and harmful at best. It must be a sound mind that creates a happy person; there should be consistency in all situations, a concern for worldly matters without distress, and such indifference to the gifts of fortune that we can live contentedly, whether we have them or not. There should be no lamenting, quarreling, laziness, or fear, as these disrupt a person’s life. “He who fears, serves.” The happiness of a wise person is steadfast and unwavering; wherever they are, at all times and in all situations, their thoughts are cheerful and calm. It never comes from outside, nor will it ever leave them; it originates from within and is inseparable from them. A worried life pushes one forward with the hope of anything, no matter how easy it seems, even if a person never experiences disappointment. I don’t say this to prevent the rightful enjoyment of legal pleasures or the gentle flattery of reasonable expectations; quite the opposite, I want people to maintain a good mood as long as it comes from their own hearts and is cherished within. Other delights are trivial; they may smooth the brow, but they do not fulfill the heart. “True joy is a serene and sober emotion;” those who mix laughing with rejoicing are sadly mistaken. The source of joy is within, and there’s no happiness like the resolve of a brave mind that has conquered fortune. The person who can face death and welcome it, who opens their door to poverty and restrains their desires, is the one Providence has granted with unshakeable happiness. The pleasures of the masses are shallow, fleeting, and superficial; whereas true delights are solid and eternal. Just as the body itself is more a necessity than a luxury, its comforts are temporary and empty; moreover, without exceptional moderation, they lead only to pain and regret; while a peaceful conscience, honest thoughts, virtuous actions, and indifference to random events are blessings without end, saturation, or measure. This complete state of happiness comes from submitting to the guidance of true nature; “The foundation of it is wisdom and virtue; the awareness of what we should do, and aligning our will with that knowledge.”
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CHAPTER II.
HUMAN HAPPINESS IS FOUNDED UPON WISDOM AND VIRTUE;
AND FIRST, OF WISDOM.
Taking for granted that human happiness is founded upon wisdom and virtue we shall treat of these two points in order as they lie: and, first, of wisdom; not in the latitude of its various operations but as it has only a regard to good life, and the happiness of mankind.
Assuming that human happiness is based on wisdom and virtue, we will discuss these two topics in order. First, we will talk about wisdom; not in terms of its wide range of functions, but specifically how it relates to living well and the happiness of humanity.
Wisdom is a right understanding, a faculty of discerning good from evil; what is to be chosen, and what rejected; a judgment grounded upon the value of things, and not the common opinion of them; an equality of force, and a strength of resolution. It sets a watch over our words and deeds, it takes us up with the contemplation of the works of nature, and makes us invincible by either good or evil fortune. It is large and spacious, and requires a great deal of room to work in; it ransacks heaven and earth; it has for its object things past and to come, transitory and eternal. It examines all the circumstances of time; “what it is, when it began, and how long it will continue: and so for the mind; whence it came; what it is; when it begins; how long it lasts; whether or not it passes from one form to another, or serves only one and wanders when it leaves us; whether it abides in a state of separation, and what the action of it; what use it makes of its130 liberty; whether or not it retains the memory of things past, and comes to the knowledge of itself.” It is the habit of a perfect mind, and the perfection of humanity, raised as high as Nature can carry it. It differs from philosophy, as avarice and money; the one desires, and the other is desired; the one is the effect and the reward of the other. To be wise is the use of wisdom, as seeing is the use of eyes, and well-speaking the use of eloquence. He that is perfectly wise is perfectly happy; nay, the very beginning of wisdom makes life easy to us. Neither is it enough to know this, unless we print it in our minds by daily meditation, and so bring a good-will to a good habit. And we must practice what we preach: for philosophy is not a subject for popular ostentation; nor does it rest in words, but in things. It is not an entertainment taken up for delight, or to give a taste to our leisure; but it fashions the mind, governs our actions, tells us what we are to do, and what not. It sits at the helm, and guides us through all hazards; nay, we cannot be safe without it, for every hour gives us occasion to make use of it. It informs us in all duties of life, piety to our parents, faith to our friends, charity to the miserable, judgment in counsel; it gives us peace by fearing nothing, and riches by coveting nothing.
Wisdom is the ability to understand rightly, to tell good from evil, to know what to choose and what to reject; it’s a judgment based on the true value of things, not just what people think about them; it combines strength and determination. It keeps a check on our words and actions, engages us with the wonders of nature, and makes us resilient in both good and bad times. It is vast and needs ample space to operate; it explores both heaven and earth; its focus includes the past and the future, the temporary and the eternal. It looks into all the circumstances of time: “what it is, when it began, and how long it will last; and the same for the mind; where it came from, what it is, when it starts, how long it endures, whether it shifts from one form to another, or simply remains one thing and drifts away when it leaves us; whether it exists separately, and what its actions are; how it uses its130 freedom; whether it keeps the memory of past events, and whether it comes to know itself.” It is the habit of a perfect mind and the pinnacle of humanity, elevated to the highest point nature allows. It differs from philosophy in the way that greed differs from money; one craves, and the other is sought after; one is the result and reward of the other. To be wise is to put wisdom into action, just as seeing is the function of the eyes, and speaking well is the function of eloquence. A person who is truly wise is truly happy; in fact, even the initial steps towards wisdom make life easier. It’s not enough just to know this; we must engrave it into our minds through daily reflection, nurturing a good-will into positive habits. We must also practice what we preach: for philosophy is not just for show; it isn’t just words, but real actions. It’s not merely an amusement to brighten our leisure time; it shapes our minds, directs our actions, and tells us what we should do and what we shouldn’t. It steers the ship of our lives, guiding us through all challenges; indeed, we cannot find safety without it, as each hour offers us chances to apply it. It teaches us all our life duties—respect for our parents, loyalty to our friends, compassion for the needy, wisdom in our decisions; it grants us peace by letting us fear nothing, and wealth by encouraging us to covet nothing.
There is no condition of life that excludes a wise man from discharging his duty. If his fortune be good, he tempers it; if bad, he masters it; if he has an estate, he will exercise his virtue in plenty; if none, in poverty: if he cannot do it in his country, he will do it in banishment; if he has no command, he will do the office of a common soldier. Some people have the skill of reclaiming the fiercest of beasts; they will make a lion embrace his keeper, a131 tiger kiss him, and an elephant kneel to him. This is the case of a wise man in the extremest difficulties; let them be never so terrible in themselves, when they come to him once, they are perfectly tame. They that ascribe the invention of tillage, architecture, navigation, etc., to wise men, may perchance be in the right, that they were invented by wise men, as wise men; for wisdom does not teach our fingers, but our minds: fiddling and dancing, arms and fortifications, were the works of luxury and discord; but wisdom instructs us in the way of nature, and in the arts of unity and concord, not in the instruments, but in the government of life; not to make us live only, but to live happily. She teaches us what things are good, what evil, and what only appear so; and to distinguish betwixt true greatness and tumor. She clears our minds of dross and vanity; she raises up our thoughts to heaven, and carries them down to hell: she discourses of the nature of the soul, the powers and faculties of it; the first principles of things; the order of Providence: she exalts us from things corporeal to things incorporeal, and retrieves the truth of all: she searches nature, gives laws to life; and tells us, “That it is not enough to God, unless we obey him:” she looks upon all accidents as acts of Providence: sets a true value upon things; delivers us from false opinions, and condemns all pleasures that are attended with repentance. She allows nothing to be good that will not be so forever; no man to be happy but that needs no other happiness than what he has within himself. This is the felicity of human life; a felicity that can neither be corrupted nor extinguished: it inquires into the nature of the heavens, the influence of the stars; how far they operate upon our minds and bodies: which132 thoughts, though they do not form our manners, they do yet raise and dispose us for glorious things.
There’s no situation in life that prevents a wise person from doing their duty. If things are going well, they adapt; if they’re not, they take control. If they have wealth, they practice their virtues in abundance; if they’re poor, they do so in hardship. If they can’t fulfill their role in their homeland, they’ll do it in exile; if they lack authority, they’ll serve as a common soldier. Some people can tame the fiercest beasts; they can make a lion embrace its keeper, a tiger show affection, and an elephant kneel. This is how a wise person functions even in the most extreme challenges; no matter how terrifying they seem initially, when faced, they're completely submissive. Those who attribute the creation of agriculture, architecture, navigation, etc., to wise individuals might be right in saying that these were invented by wise minds, because wisdom guides our thoughts rather than our hands. Activities like music, dance, warfare, and fortifications stem from excess and conflict, but wisdom teaches us about nature and leads us toward unity and harmony—not through tools, but through how we live our lives; not just to exist, but to live joyfully. It helps us to understand what is good, what is evil, and what merely appears to be so, distinguishing true greatness from mere show. It cleanses our minds of uselessness and vanity; it elevates our thoughts to higher realms and brings them down to understanding the worst aspects of life. It reflects on the nature of the soul, its powers and abilities, the fundamental principles of existence, and the order of Providence. It lifts us above the physical to the spiritual and reveals all truths: it studies nature, sets the rules for life, and reminds us, “It’s not enough for God unless we obey Him.” It views all events as guided by Providence, accurately values things, frees us from false beliefs, and rejects any pleasures that come with regret. It finds nothing truly good that isn’t eternal; no individual is deemed happy unless their happiness comes entirely from within. This is the true joy of human life—one that can’t be corrupted or extinguished. It explores the nature of the heavens, the influence of the stars, and examines how much they affect our minds and bodies. Although these thoughts don’t directly shape our behavior, they prepare us for greatness.
It is agreed upon all hands that “right reason is the perfection of human nature,” and wisdom only the dictate of it. The greatness that arises from it is solid and unmovable, the resolutions of wisdom being free, absolute and constant; whereas folly is never long pleased with the same thing, but still shifting of counsels and sick of itself. There can be no happiness without constancy and prudence, for a wise man is to write without a blot, and what he likes once he approves for ever. He admits of nothing that is either evil or slippery, but marches without staggering or stumbling, and is never surprised; he lives always true and steady to himself, and whatsoever befalls him, this great artificer of both fortunes turns to advantage; he that demurs and hesitates is not yet composed; but wheresoever virtue interposes upon the main, there must be concord and consent in the parts; for all virtues are in agreement, as well as all vices are at variance. A wise man, in what condition soever he is will be still happy, for he subjects all things to himself, because he submits himself to reason, and governs his actions by council, not by passion.
It is universally accepted that “right reason is the perfection of human nature,” and wisdom is simply its guidance. The greatness that comes from it is solid and unshakeable, with wise decisions being free, firm, and consistent; in contrast, foolishness is never satisfied for long with the same choices, constantly changing its mind and becoming frustrated with itself. There can be no true happiness without consistency and careful thinking, for a wise person acts without mistakes, and what they approve once, they endorse forever. They avoid anything that is bad or unstable, proceeding without hesitation or stumbling, and are never caught off guard; they remain true and steady to themselves, and whatever happens, this master of both fortune and misfortune turns to their advantage. A person who hesitates and wavers is not yet settled; wherever virtue steps in, there must be harmony and agreement among its parts, because all virtues work together, just as all vices are in conflict. A wise person, no matter what their circumstances, will always find happiness, as they bring everything under their control by submitting to reason and guiding their actions through thoughtful deliberation rather than emotion.
He is not moved with the utmost violence of fortune, nor with the extremities of fire and sword; whereas a fool is afraid of his own shadow, and surprised at ill accidents, as if they were all levelled at him. He does nothing unwillingly, for whatever he finds necessary, he makes it his choice. He propounds to himself the certain scope and end of human life: he follows that which conduces to it, and avoids that which hinders it. He is content with his lot whatever it be, without wishing what133 he has not, though, of the two, he had rather abound than want. The great business of his life like that of nature, is performed without tumult or noise. He neither fears danger or provokes it, but it is his caution, not any want of courage—for captivity, wounds and chains, he only looks upon as false and lymphatic terrors. He does not pretend to go through with whatever he undertakes, but to do that well which he does. Arts are but the servants—wisdom commands—and where the matter fails it is none of the workman’s fault. He is cautelous in doubtful cases, in prosperity temperate, and resolute in adversity, still making the best of every condition and improving all occasions to make them serviceable to his fate. Some accidents there are, which I confess may affect him, but not overthrow him, as bodily pains, loss of children and friends, the ruin and desolation of a man’s country. One must be made of stone or iron, not to be sensible of these calamities; and, beside, it were no virtue to bear them, if a body did not feel them.
He isn’t shaken by the harshness of fate, nor by the extremes of violence and war; while a fool is scared of his own shadow and shocked by misfortunes, as if they’re all aimed at him. He doesn’t do anything begrudgingly; whatever he sees as necessary, he willingly chooses. He sets for himself a clear purpose and goal in life: he pursues what helps him achieve it and avoids what stands in his way. He is content with whatever life brings him, not wishing for what he doesn’t have, though given the choice, he would prefer to have plenty rather than nothing. The main work of his life, like that of nature, is done quietly and without fuss. He neither fears danger nor seeks it out; his caution comes from wisdom, not a lack of bravery—he sees captivity, wounds, and chains as mere illusions. He doesn’t claim to finish everything he starts but aims to do well what he does. Skills are just tools—wisdom directs them—and if something doesn’t work out, it’s not the craftsman’s fault. He is careful in uncertain situations, moderate in good times, and determined in tough times, always making the best of every circumstance and seizing opportunities to benefit his destiny. There are some events that can affect him, I admit, but they don’t break him, like physical pain, the loss of children and friends, or the destruction of his homeland. One would have to be made of stone or iron not to feel these hardships; also, it wouldn’t be a virtue to endure them if one didn’t feel them in the first place.
There are three degrees of proficients in the school of wisdom. The first are those that come within sight of it, but not up to it—they have learned what they ought to do, but they have not put their knowledge in practice—they are past the hazard of a relapse, but they have still the grudges of a disease, though they are out of the danger of it. By a disease I do understand an obstinacy in evil, or an ill habit, that makes us over eager upon things which are either not much to be desired, or not at all. A second sort are those that have subjected their appetites for a season, but are yet in fear of falling back. A third sort are those that are clear of many vices but not of all. They are not covetous, but per134haps they are choleric—nor lustful, but perchance ambitious; they are firm enough in some cases but weak enough in others: there are many that despise death and yet shrink at pain. There are diversities in wise men, but no inequalities—one is more affable, another more ready, a third a better speaker; but the felicity of them all is equal. It is in this as in heavenly bodies, there is a certain state in greatness.
There are three levels of mastery in the school of wisdom. The first group consists of those who can see it but haven’t fully grasped it—they know what they should do, but they haven’t put their knowledge into action. They’ve moved past the risk of falling back, but they still carry the remnants of a past struggle, even though they are no longer in danger. By a struggle, I mean a stubbornness towards wrongdoing or a bad habit that makes us overly eager for things that aren’t truly desirable or worth having. The second group includes those who have controlled their desires for a while but still fear losing their progress. The third group is made up of those who are free from many vices but not all. They aren’t greedy, but they might be hot-tempered; they aren’t lustful, but perhaps they are ambitious. They are strong in some situations but weak in others: many people might fear pain yet scoff at death. There are variations among wise people, but no inequalities—one might be friendlier, another more quick-witted, a third a better communicator; yet their happiness is equal. It’s similar to celestial bodies, where there is a certain state of greatness.
In civil and domestic affairs, a wise man may stand in need of counsel, as of a physician, an advocate, a solicitor; but in greater matters, the blessing of wise men rests in the joy they take in the communication of their virtues. If there were nothing else in it, a man would apply himself to wisdom, because it settles him in a perfect tranquillity of mind.
In everyday life and personal matters, a wise person might need advice, just like they might seek help from a doctor, a lawyer, or an attorney; but for more important issues, the value of wise people lies in the joy they find in sharing their wisdom. Even if there were no other benefits, a person would pursue wisdom because it brings them a sense of complete peace of mind.
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CHAPTER III.
THERE CAN BE NO HAPPINESS WITHOUT VIRTUE.
Virtue is that perfect good which is the complement of a happy life; the only immortal thing that belongs to mortality—it is the knowledge both of others and itself—it is an invincible greatness of mind, not to be elevated or dejected with good or ill fortune. It is sociable and gentle, free, steady, and fearless, content within itself, full of inexhaustible delights, and it is valued for itself. One may be a good physician, a good governor, a good grammarian, without being a good man, so that all things from without are only accessories, for the seat of it is a pure and holy mind. It consists in a congruity of actions which we can never expect so long as we are distracted by our passions: not but that a man may be allowed to change color and countenance, and suffer such impressions as are properly a kind of natural force upon the body, and not under the dominion of the mind; but all this while I will have his judgment firm, and he shall act steadily and boldly, without wavering betwixt the motions of his body and those of his mind.
Virtue is that perfect good that completes a happy life; the only immortal aspect of mortality—it’s the awareness of both others and oneself—it’s an unshakable strength of mind, unaffected by good or bad fortune. It’s friendly and kind, free, unwavering, and fearless, self-satisfied, full of endless pleasures, and it’s valued for its own sake. Someone can be a good doctor, a good leader, or a good grammarian without being a good person, meaning that everything external is just extra, since its core lies in a pure and holy mind. It’s about aligning our actions, which we can’t achieve as long as we’re distracted by our emotions: although a person may change their expression and demeanor and experience natural reactions in their body that aren't controlled by their mind; throughout all of this, I expect their judgment to be steady, and they should act firmly and confidently, without wavering between the reactions of their body and their mind.
It is not a thing indifferent, I know, whether a man lies at ease upon a bed, or in torment upon a wheel—and yet the former may be the worse of the two if he suffer the latter with honor, and enjoy the136 other with infamy. It is not the matter, but the virtue, that makes the action good or ill; and he that is led in triumph may be yet greater than his conqueror.
It's not a trivial matter, I know, whether a person lies comfortably on a bed or in agony on a wheel—and yet the former might be worse if he endures the latter with dignity and enjoys the other with disgrace. It's not the situation, but the character, that makes the action good or bad; and someone who is celebrated in triumph can still be greater than his victor.
When we come once to value our flesh above our honesty we are lost: and yet I would not press upon dangers, no, not so much as upon inconveniences, unless where the man and the brute come in competition; and in such a case, rather than make a forfeiture of my credit, my reason, or my faith, I would run all extremities.
When we start valuing our physical desires over our integrity, we’re doomed. However, I wouldn’t insist on facing dangers, not even minor inconveniences, unless it’s a situation where a person and an animal are in conflict. In that case, I'd be willing to risk everything—my reputation, my reasoning, or my beliefs—rather than compromise my values.
They are great blessings to have tender parents, dutiful children, and to live under a just and well-ordered government. Now, would it not trouble even a virtuous man to see his children butchered before his eyes, his father made a slave, and his country overrun by a barbarous enemy? There is a great difference betwixt the simple loss of a blessing and the succeeding of a great mischief in the place of it, over and above. The loss of health is followed with sickness, and the loss of sight with blindness; but this does not hold in the loss of friends and children, where there is rather something to the contrary to supply that loss: that is to say, virtue, which fills the mind, and takes away the desire of what we have not. What matters it whether the water be stopped or not, so long as the fountain is safe? Is a man ever the wiser for a multitude of friends, or the more foolish for the loss of them? so neither is he the happier, nor the more miserable. Short life, grief and pain are accessions that have no effect at all upon virtue. It consists in the action and not in the things we do—in the choice itself, and not in the subject-matter of it. It is not a despicable body or condition, nor137 poverty, infamy or scandal, that can obscure the glories of virtue; but a man may see her through all oppositions: and he that looks diligently into the state of a wicked man will see the canker at his heart, through all the false and dazzling splendors of greatness and fortune. We shall then discover our childishness, in setting our hearts upon things trivial and contemptible, and in the selling of our very country and parents for a rattle. And what is the difference (in effect) betwixt old men and children, but that the one deals in paintings and statues, and the other in babies, so that we ourselves are only the more expensive fools.
They are truly a blessing to have caring parents, responsible children, and to live under a fair and well-organized government. Now, wouldn't it trouble even a good person to witness their children being killed right in front of them, their father being enslaved, and their country being invaded by a brutal enemy? There’s a big difference between simply losing a blessing and suffering a significant harm in its place. Losing health comes with illness, and losing sight means blindness; but when it comes to losing friends and children, there's often something else that can fill that gap: namely, virtue, which satisfies the mind and diminishes our desire for what we lack. Does it really matter if the water is stopped, as long as the fountain remains intact? Does a person gain wisdom from having many friends, or become foolish from losing them? Similarly, one is not necessarily happier or sadder because of that. A short life, grief, and pain are additions that don’t affect virtue at all. It consists in action, not in the things we do—in the choice itself, not in its subject matter. It's not a lowly status or condition, nor is it poverty, disgrace, or scandal that can tarnish the glory of virtue; a person can see it despite all obstacles. If one looks closely at a wicked person, they will notice the rot at their core, despite all the false and dazzling appearances of wealth and success. We will then realize our own childishness in clinging to trivial and worthless things, and in sacrificing our own country and parents for a trinket. And what’s the real difference between old men and children? The former deal with paintings and statues, while the latter deal with toys, so in the end, we are simply more expensive fools.
If one could but see the mind of a good man, as it is illustrated with virtue; the beauty and the majesty of it, which is a dignity not so much as to be thought of without love and veneration—would not a man bless himself at the sight of such an object as at the encounter of some supernatural power—a power so miraculous that it is a kind of charm upon the souls of those that are truly affected with it. There is so wonderful a grace and authority in it that even the worst of men approve it, and set up for the reputation of being accounted virtuous themselves. They covet the fruit indeed, and the profit of wickedness; but they hate and are ashamed of the imputation of it. It is by an impression of Nature that all men have a reverence for virtue—they know it and they have a respect for it though they do not practice it—nay, for the countenance of their very wickedness, they miscall it virtue. Their injuries they call benefits, and expect a man should thank them for doing him a mischief—they cover their most notorious iniquities with a pretext of justice.
If only we could see the mind of a good person, shining with virtue; the beauty and majesty of it, which is a dignity that inspires love and respect—wouldn’t someone feel blessed at the sight of such a being, like encountering some supernatural force—one so miraculous that it enchants the souls of those truly moved by it? There’s such amazing grace and authority in it that even the worst people admire it and try to be seen as virtuous themselves. They really want the benefits and gains of wrongdoing; yet they hate and feel embarrassed by being labeled as such. It’s a natural instinct for everyone to have a respect for virtue—they recognize it and hold it in esteem, even if they don’t live by it—indeed, to justify their own wickedness, they mislabel it as virtue. They describe their harm as benefits and expect someone to thank them for causing trouble—they disguise their most blatant wrongdoings under the guise of justice.
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He that robs upon the highway had rather find his booty than force it; ask any of them that live upon rapine, fraud, oppression, if they had not rather enjoy a fortune honestly gotten, and their consciences will not suffer them to deny it. Men are vicious only for the proof of villainy; for at the same time that they commit it they condemn it; nay, so powerful is virtue, and so gracious is Providence, that every man has a light set up within him for a guide, which we do, all of us, both see and acknowledge, though we do not pursue it. This it is that makes the prisoner upon the torture happier than the executioner, and sickness better than health, if we bear it without yielding or repining—this it is that overcomes ill-fortune and moderates good—for it marches betwixt the one and the other, with an equal contempt for both. It turns (like fire) all things into itself, our actions and our friendships are tinctured with it, and whatever it touches becomes amiable.
Someone who robs on the highway would rather find their loot than force it; ask any of those who live by theft, deceit, or oppression if they wouldn’t prefer to enjoy a fortune earned honestly, and their conscience won't let them deny it. People are wrong only as evidence of their wrongdoing; because, at the same time they commit it, they also condemn it. Indeed, virtue is so powerful, and Providence is so benevolent, that each person has an inner light guiding them, which we all see and acknowledge, even though we don’t always follow it. This is what makes the tortured prisoner feel happier than the executioner, and suffering seem better than health, if we endure it without giving in or complaining—this is what helps us overcome misfortune and balance out good fortune—because it navigates between the two with equal disregard for both. It transforms everything into itself (like fire does), our actions and our friendships are colored by it, and whatever it touches becomes appealing.
That which is frail and mortal rises and falls, grows, wastes, and varies from itself; but the state of things divine is always the same; and so is virtue, let the matter be what it will. It is never the worse for the difficulty of the action, nor the better for the easiness of it. It is the same in a rich man as in a poor; in a sickly man as in a sound; in a strong as in a weak; the virtue of the besieged is as great as that of the besiegers. There are some virtues, I confess, which a good man cannot be without, and yet he had rather have no occasion to employ them. If there were any difference, I should prefer the virtues of patience before those of pleasure; for it is braver to break through difficulties than to temper our delights. But though the subject139 of virtue may possibly be against nature, as to be burnt or wounded, yet the virtue itself of an invincible patience is according to nature. We may seem, perhaps, to promise more than human nature is able to perform; but we speak with a respect to the mind, and not to the body.
What is fragile and mortal rises and falls, grows, diminishes, and changes; but the nature of the divine is always constant, and so is virtue, regardless of the circumstances. It’s not worse because the task is hard, nor better because it’s easy. It’s the same for a rich person as for a poor one, for someone who's sick as for someone healthy, for the strong as for the weak; the virtue of those under siege is just as significant as that of those who are laying siege. There are some virtues, I admit, that a good person cannot lack, yet he would prefer not to have to use them. If there were a difference, I would choose the virtues of patience over those of pleasure; for it’s braver to overcome challenges than to restrain our joys. But while the topic of virtue may sometimes seem contrary to nature, like being burned or wounded, the virtue of an invincible patience is in line with nature. We may seem, perhaps, to promise more than human capability allows; however, we speak in regard to the mind, not the body.
If a man does not live up to his own rules, it is something yet to have virtuous meditations and good purposes, even without acting; it is generous, the very adventure of being good, and the bare proposal of an eminent course of life, though beyond the force of human frailty to accomplish. There is something of honor yet in the miscarriage; nay, in the naked contemplation of it. I would receive my own death with as little trouble as I would hear of another man’s; I would bear the same mind whether I be rich or poor, whether I get or lose in the world; what I have, I will neither sordidly spare, or prodigally squander away, and I will reckon upon benefits well-placed as the fairest part of my possession: not valuing them by number or weight, but by the profit and esteem of the receiver; accounting myself never the poorer for that which I give to a worthy person. What I do shall be done for conscience, not ostentation. I will eat and drink, not to gratify my palate, or only to fill and empty, but to satisfy nature: I will be cheerful to my friends, mild and placable to my enemies: I will prevent an honest request if I can foresee it, and I will grant it without asking: I will look upon the whole world as my country, and upon the gods, both as the witnesses and the judges of my words and deeds. I will live and die with this testimony, that I loved good studies, and a good conscience; that I never invaded another man’s liberty; and that I preserved my own. I will govern140 my life and my thoughts as if the whole world were to see the one, and to read the other; for “what does it signify to make anything a secret to my neighbor, when to God (who is the searcher of our hearts) all our privacies are open?”
If a man doesn't follow his own rules, it's still commendable to have virtuous thoughts and good intentions, even if he doesn't act on them. It's generous, the very journey of being good, and the simple idea of a noble way of living, even if it's beyond human ability to achieve. There’s some honor in the failure itself; even in just thinking about it. I would face my own death as calmly as I would hear about someone else's; I would maintain the same mindset whether I am rich or poor, whether I gain or lose in life; what I have, I won’t hoard or waste, and I’ll value well-placed kindness as the best part of my possessions: not judging them by quantity or weight, but by the benefit and respect of the receiver; believing I am never poorer for giving to someone worthy. I will act out of conscience, not for show. I will eat and drink, not just to please my taste buds or merely to fill and empty, but to fulfill my needs: I will be cheerful to my friends, gentle and forgiving to my enemies: I will anticipate honest requests if I can and grant them without having to be asked: I will see the whole world as my home, and the gods as both witnesses and judges of my words and actions. I will live and die with this belief, that I cherished knowledge and a good conscience; that I never violated another person's freedom; and that I safeguarded my own. I will manage my life and my thoughts as if the whole world could see one and read the other; because “what difference does it make to keep anything secret from my neighbor when to God (who knows our hearts) all our private matters are exposed?”
Virtue is divided into two parts, contemplation and action. The one is delivered by institution, the other by admonition: one part of virtue consists in discipline, the other in exercise: for we must first learn, and then practice. The sooner we begin to apply ourselves to it, and the more haste we make, the longer shall we enjoy the comforts of a rectified mind; nay, we have the fruition of it in the very act of forming it: but it is another sort of delight, I must confess, that arises from a contemplation of a soul which is advanced into the possession of wisdom and virtue. If it was so great a comfort to us to pass from the subjection of our childhood into a state of liberty and business, how much greater will it be when we come to cast off the boyish levity of our minds, and range ourselves among the philosophers? We are past our minority, it is true, but not our indiscretions; and, which is yet worse, we have the authority of seniors, and the weaknesses of children, (I might have said of infants, for every little thing frights the one, and every trivial fancy the other.) Whoever studies this point well will find that many things are the less to be feared the more terrible they appear. To think anything good that is not honest, were to reproach Providence; for good men suffer many inconveniences; but virtue, like the sun, goes on still with her work, let the air be never so cloudy, and finishes her course, extinguishing likewise all other splendors and oppositions; insomuch that calamity is no more to a virtuous mind,141 than a shower into the sea. That which is right, is not to be valued by quantity, number, or time; a life of a day may be as honest as a life of a hundred years: but yet virtue in one man may have a larger field to show itself in than in another. One man, perhaps, may be in a station to administer unto cities and kingdoms; to contrive good laws, create friendships, and do beneficial offices to mankind.
Virtue is split into two parts, contemplation and action. One is taught through education, while the other comes from guidance: one aspect of virtue involves discipline, and the other involves practice, because we must first learn and then apply what we've learned. The sooner we start focusing on it, and the more urgency we put into it, the longer we’ll enjoy the benefits of a well-ordered mind; in fact, we experience some of it in the very act of developing it. However, there’s a different kind of joy that comes from considering a soul that's achieved wisdom and virtue. If it was such a great relief for us to move from the confines of childhood into a place of freedom and responsibility, how much greater will it be to shed the foolishness of our youth and align ourselves with philosophers? It's true we have outgrown our immaturity, but we haven't outgrown our mistakes; and what's worse, we carry the authority of our elders while still having the flaws of children—one is easily scared by small things, and the other is swayed by trivial whims. Anyone who studies this closely will find that many things are less frightening the more intimidating they seem. To believe that anything is good that isn’t honest would be to criticize Providence; good people endure many hardships; still, virtue, like the sun, continues its work no matter how cloudy the skies are, completing its path and overshadowing all other brilliance and challenges. So much so that calamity means nothing to a virtuous mind, just like a rain shower means nothing to the sea.141 What is right should not be measured by quantity, number, or time; a life lived for a day can be just as virtuous as a life lived for a hundred years. Yet, one person’s virtue may have a wider scope than another's. One individual might be in a position to serve cities and nations, create good laws, build friendships, and perform meaningful actions for humanity.
For virtue is open to all; as well to servants and exiles, as to princes: it is profitable to the world and to itself, at all distances and in all conditions; and there is no difficulty can excuse a man from the exercise of it; and it is only to be found in a wise man, though there may be some faint resemblances of it in the common people. The Stoics hold all virtues to be equal; but yet there is great variety in the matter they have to work upon, according as it is larger or narrower, illustrious or less noble, of more or less extent; as all good men are equal, that is to say, as they are good; but yet one may be young, another old; one may be rich, another poor; one eminent and powerful, another unknown and obscure. There are many things which have little or no grace in themselves, and are yet glorious and remarkable by virtue. Nothing can be good which gives neither greatness nor security to the mind; but, on the contrary, infects it with insolence, arrogance, and tumor: nor does virtue dwell upon the tip of the tongue, but in the temple of a purified heart. He that depends upon any other good becomes covetous of life, and what belongs to it; which exposes a man to appetites that are vast, unlimited, and intolerable. Virtue is free and indefatigable, and accompanied with concord and gracefulness; whereas pleasure is mean, servile, transitory, tiresome, and sickly and142 scarce outlives the tasting of it: it is the good of the belly, and not of the man; and only the felicity of brutes. Who does not know that fools enjoy their pleasures, and that there is great variety in the entertainments of wickedness? Nay, the mind itself has its variety of perverse pleasures as well as the body: as insolence, self-conceit, pride, garrulity, laziness, and the abusive wit of turning everything into ridicule, whereas virtue weighs all this, and corrects it. It is the knowledge both of others and of itself; it is to be learned from itself; and the very will itself may be taught; which will cannot be right, unless the whole habit of the mind be right from whence the will comes. It is by the impulse of virtue that we love virtue, so that the very way to virtue, lies by virtue, which takes in also, at a view, the laws of human life.
For virtue is accessible to everyone, whether they are servants, exiles, or princes. It benefits both the world and itself, regardless of circumstances or locations; there are no challenges that can excuse someone from practicing it. While true virtue resides only in wise individuals, there may be some faint reflections of it among ordinary people. The Stoics view all virtues as equal, yet there is significant variation in what they apply to, depending on how broad or narrow, distinguished or humble, extensive or limited it is. Just as all good people are equal by virtue of being good, one may be young while another is old; one may be wealthy while another is poor; one may be prominent and powerful, while another remains unknown and obscure. Many things lack inherent beauty yet become glorious and notable through virtue. Nothing can be good if it fails to provide greatness or security to the mind and instead leads to arrogance, pride, and excess. Virtue does not simply reside on the surface but dwells in the heart of a purified soul. Relying on anything else for goodness leads to a greedy desire for life and its possessions, exposing a person to vast, limitless, and unbearable cravings. Virtue is free and tireless, accompanied by harmony and grace, while pleasure is lowly, servile, fleeting, tiresome, and often sickly, barely lasting beyond the moment of indulgence; it serves only the body and is the joy of beasts. Everyone knows that fools indulge in their pleasures, and there is a wide range in the entertainments of wickedness. The mind offers its own variety of twisted pleasures, just as the body does: insolence, self-importance, arrogance, chatter, laziness, and the harmful ability to turn everything into ridicule, while virtue weighs and corrects all of this. Virtue involves knowledge of both others and oneself, learned from one's own experiences; even the will can be trained. However, the will cannot be right unless the entire disposition of the mind is aligned with it. It is through the drive of virtue that we come to appreciate it, showing that the path to virtue is paved with virtue itself, which also encompasses an understanding of the laws of human life.
Neither are we to value ourselves upon a day, or an hour, or any one action, but upon the whole habit of the mind. Some men do one thing bravely, but not another; they will shrink at infamy, and bear up against poverty: in this case, we commend the fact, and despise the man. The soul is never in the right place until it be delivered from the cares of human affairs; we must labor and climb the hill, if we will arrive at virtue, whose seat is upon the top of it. He that masters avarice, and is truly good, stands firm against ambition; he looks upon his last hour not as a punishment, but as the equity of a common fate; he that subdues his carnal lusts shall easily keep himself untainted with any other: so that reason does not encounter this or that vice by itself, but beats down all at a blow. What does he care for ignominy that only values himself upon conscience, and not opinion? Socrates looked a scan143dalous death in the face with the same constancy that he had before practiced towards the thirty tyrants: his virtue consecrated the very dungeon: as Cato’s repulse was Cato’s honor, and the reproach of the government. He that is wise will take delight even in an ill opinion that is well gotten; it is ostentation, not virtue, when a man will have his good deeds published; and it is not enough to be just where there is honor to be gotten, but to continue so, in defiance of infamy and danger.
We shouldn't judge ourselves based on a single day, hour, or action, but rather on the overall habits of our minds. Some people can bravely handle certain situations but crumble under others; they might fear disgrace but endure poverty. In such cases, we respect the action but look down on the person. The soul isn't truly in the right place until it's free from worldly concerns; we must work hard and rise up if we want to reach virtue, which resides at the summit. Those who overcome greed and are genuinely good resist ambition; they see their final hour not as a punishment but as a part of a shared fate. A person who conquers their base desires will easily remain untouched by other vices; reason doesn’t fight each vice separately but takes them all down at once. Who cares about disgrace if they prize their conscience over public opinion? Socrates faced a scandalous death with the same bravery he showed against the thirty tyrants: his virtue sanctified the very prison cell. Just as Cato’s refusal was a testament to his honor against the government’s reproach, a wise person finds joy even in unfavorable opinions that are well-deserved. It’s showing off, not virtue, when someone boasts about their good deeds; it’s not enough to be just when there’s honor to gain, but to remain so despite disgrace and danger.
But virtue cannot lie hid, for the time will come that shall raise it again (even after it is buried) and deliver it from the malignity of the age that oppressed it: immortal glory is the shadow of it, and keeps it company whether we will or not; but sometimes the shadow goes before the substance, and other whiles it follows it; and the later it comes, the larger it is, when even envy itself shall have given way to it. It was a long time that Democritus was taken for a madman, and before Socrates had any esteem in the world. How long was it before Cato could be understood? Nay, he was affronted, contemned, and rejected; and the people never knew the value of him until they had lost him: the integrity and courage of mad Rutilius had been forgotten but for his sufferings. I speak of those that fortune has made famous for their persecutions: and there are others also that the world never took notice of until they were dead; as Epicurus and Metrodorus, that were almost wholly unknown, even in the place where they lived. Now, as the body is to be kept in upon the down-hill, and forced upwards, so there are some virtues that require the rein and others the spur. In liberality, temperance, gentleness of nature,144 we are to check ourselves for fear of falling; but in patience, resolutions, and perseverance, where we are to mount the hill, we stand in need of encouragement. Upon this division of the matter, I had rather steer the smoother course than pass through the experiments of sweat and blood: I know it is my duty to be content in all conditions; but yet, if it were at my election, I would choose the fairest. When a man comes once to stand in need of fortune, his life is anxious, suspicious, timorous, dependent upon every moment, and in fear of all accidents. How can that man resign himself to God, or bear his lot, whatever it be, without murmuring, and cheerfully submit to Providence, that shrinks at every motion of pleasure or pain? It is virtue alone that raises us above griefs, hopes, fears and chances; and makes us not only patient, but willing, as knowing that whatever we suffer is according to the decree of Heaven. He that is overcome with pleasure, (so contemptible and weak an enemy) what will become of him when he comes to grapple with dangers, necessities, torments, death, and the dissolution of nature itself? Wealth, honor, and favor, may come upon a man by chance; nay, they may be cast upon him without so much as looking after them: but virtue is the work of industry and labor; and certainly it is worth the while to purchase that good which brings all others along with it. A good man is happy within himself, and independent upon fortune: kind to his friend, temperate to his enemy, religiously just, indefatigably laborious; and he discharges all duties with a constancy and congruity of actions.
But virtue can't stay hidden because the time will come that will bring it back to light (even after it’s been buried) and free it from the negativity of the age that stifled it: eternal glory is its shadow, always following it whether we like it or not; sometimes the shadow leads the substance, and other times it trails behind; and the longer it takes to arrive, the bigger it gets, especially when even envy has given way to it. For a long time, Democritus was seen as a madman, and before Socrates gained any respect in the world, how long did it take for Cato to be understood? He was insulted, dismissed, and ignored; people didn’t recognize his worth until they lost him: the integrity and bravery of the unfortunate Rutilius would have been forgotten if not for his hardships. I’m referring to those favored by fortune for their struggles; and there are others that the world didn’t notice until they were gone; like Epicurus and Metrodorus, who were nearly unknown, even in the place where they lived. Just as the body needs to be pulled back on a downhill slope and pushed uphill, some virtues require restraint while others need a push. In liberality, temperance, and gentleness of nature,144 we need to hold ourselves back for fear of falling; but in patience, resolve, and perseverance, where we need to climb the hill, we require encouragement. Given this situation, I’d prefer the easier path rather than going through trials by sweat and blood: I know I should be content in all circumstances; but if I had a choice, I’d pick the best. Once a person finds themselves needing fortune, their life becomes anxious, suspicious, fearful, reliant on every moment, and scared of every little thing. How can that person surrender themselves to God or accept whatever life throws at them without complaining and cheerfully submit to Providence while flinching at every hint of pleasure or pain? Only virtue lifts us above sorrow, hope, fear, and chance; it makes us not just patient but willing, as we understand that whatever we endure is part of the divine plan. If someone is easily overwhelmed by pleasure (such a trivial and weak opponent), what will they do when faced with dangers, needs, torture, death, and the very end of existence? Wealth, honor, and favor might come to someone by chance; they can be thrust upon them without even reaching for them: but virtue is the result of hard work and effort; and it’s definitely worth pursuing that good which brings all others along with it. A good person is happy within themselves and doesn’t rely on fortune: they are kind to their friends, moderate with their enemies, just in a faithful way, tirelessly hardworking; and they fulfill all their responsibilities with consistency and appropriateness.
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CHAPTER IV.
PHILOSOPHY IS THE GUIDE OF LIFE.
If it be true, that the understanding and the will are the two eminent faculties of the reasonable soul, it follows necessarily, that wisdom and virtue, (which are the best improvements of these two faculties,) must be the perfection also of our reasonable being; and consequently, the undeniable foundation of a happy life. There is not any duty to which Providence has not annexed a blessing; nor any institution of Heaven which, even in this life, we may not be the better for; not any temptation, either of fortune or of appetite, that is not subject to our reason; nor any passion or affliction for which virtue has not provided a remedy. So that it is our own fault if we either fear or hope for anything; which two affections are the root of all our miseries. From this general prospect of the foundation of our tranquillity, we shall pass by degrees to a particular consideration of the means by which it may be procured, and of the impediments that obstruct it; beginning with that philosophy which principally regards our manners, and instructs us in the measures of a virtuous and quiet life.
If it’s true that the understanding and the will are the two main faculties of the reasonable soul, then it follows that wisdom and virtue (which are the best enhancements of these two faculties) must also be the perfection of our reasonable being; and as a result, the undeniable foundation of a happy life. There's no duty that Providence hasn’t attached a blessing to; there’s no institution of Heaven that we can’t benefit from, even in this life; there’s no temptation, whether from fortune or desire, that isn’t subject to our reason; nor is there any passion or hardship for which virtue hasn’t provided a remedy. So it’s our own fault if we either fear or hope for anything; these two emotions are the root of all our miseries. From this broad view of the foundation of our tranquility, we’ll gradually move towards a specific examination of the means by which it can be achieved and the obstacles that block it; starting with that philosophy which mainly focuses on our behavior and teaches us the principles of a virtuous and peaceful life.
Philosophy is divided into moral, natural, and rational: the first concerns our manners; the second searches the works of Nature; and the third fur146nishes us with propriety of words and arguments, and the faculty of distinguishing, that we may not be imposed upon with tricks and fallacies. The causes of things fall under natural philosophy, arguments under rational, and actions under moral. Moral philosophy is again divided into matter of justice, which arises from the estimation of things and of men; and into affections and actions; and a failing in any one of these, disorders all the rest: for what does it profit us to know the true value of things, if we be transported by our passion? or to master our appetites without understanding the when, the what, the how, and other circumstances of our proceedings? For it is one thing to know the rate and dignity of things, and another to know the little nicks and springs of acting. Natural philosophy is conversant about things corporeal and incorporeal; the disquisition of causes and effects, and the contemplation of the cause of causes. Rational philosophy is divided into logic and rhetoric; the one looks after words, sense, and order; the other treats barely of words, and the significations of them. Socrates places all philosophy in morals; and wisdom in the distinguishing of good and evil. It is the art and law of life, and it teaches us what to do in all cases, and, like good marksmen, to hit the white at any distance. The force of it is incredible; for it gives us in the weakness of a man the security of a spirit: in sickness it is as good as a remedy to us; for whatsoever eases the mind is profitable also to the body. The physician may prescribe diet and exercise, and accommodate his rule and medicine to the disease, but it is philosophy that must bring us to a contempt of death, which is the remedy of all diseases. In poverty it gives us riches, or such a state of mind as147 makes them superfluous to us. It arms us against all difficulties: one man is pressed with death, another with poverty; some with envy, others are offended at Providence, and unsatisfied with the condition of mankind: but philosophy prompts us to relieve the prisoner, the infirm, the necessitous, the condemned; to show the ignorant their errors, and rectify their affections. It makes us inspect and govern our manners; it rouses us where we are faint and drowsy: it binds up what is loose, and humbles in us that which is contumacious: it delivers the mind from the bondage of the body, and raises it up to the contemplation of its divine original. Honors, monuments, and all the works of vanity and ambition are demolished and destroyed by time; but the reputation of wisdom is venerable to posterity, and those that were envied or neglected in their lives are adored in their memories, and exempted from the very laws of created nature, which has set bounds to all other things. The very shadow of glory carries a man of honor upon all dangers, to the contempt of fire and sword; and it were a shame if right reason should not inspire as generous resolutions into a man of virtue.
Philosophy is split into moral, natural, and rational: the first deals with our behavior; the second investigates the works of Nature; and the third provides us with the appropriateness of words and arguments and the ability to discern, so we won’t be tricked by deceits and fallacies. The causes of things belong to natural philosophy, arguments belong to rational, and actions belong to moral. Moral philosophy is further divided into matters of justice, which arise from evaluating things and people; and into feelings and actions; a failure in any of these disrupts everything else: for what good is it to know the true value of things if we are carried away by our emotions? Or to control our desires without understanding the when, the what, the how, and other details of our actions? It’s one thing to know the value and worth of things, and another to understand the subtleties and triggers of acting. Natural philosophy focuses on physical and non-physical things; it examines causes and effects, and reflects on the cause of causes. Rational philosophy is divided into logic and rhetoric; the former looks at words, meaning, and order; the latter simply discusses words and their meanings. Socrates places all philosophy in morals; and wisdom in distinguishing good from evil. It’s the art and law of living, teaching us what to do in every situation, and like skilled marksmen, to hit the target from any distance. Its power is immense; it gives us the strength of spirit in times of weakness: in sickness, it serves as a remedy; for anything that eases the mind is also beneficial to the body. The doctor may recommend diet and exercise and adapt his treatment to the illness, but it’s philosophy that helps us accept death, the cure for all ailments. In poverty, it grants us wealth or a mindset that makes its absence feel irrelevant. It prepares us for all challenges: one person may struggle with death, another with poverty; some with jealousy, others are frustrated with fate and dissatisfied with humanity’s condition: but philosophy encourages us to help the imprisoned, the ill, the needy, the condemned; to enlighten the ignorant about their mistakes and correct their feelings. It urges us to examine and manage our behavior; it wakes us when we feel weak and drowsy: it mends what is broken and humbles what is rebellious within us: it frees the mind from the body’s constraints and elevates it to contemplate its divine origin. Honors, monuments, and all works of vanity and ambition are worn away by time; but the legacy of wisdom remains respected by future generations, and those who were envied or overlooked in life are revered in memory, escaping the very laws of created nature that limit all else. The mere shadow of glory emboldens an honorable person to face dangers, disregarding fire and sword; and it would be a shame if right reason did not inspire noble resolutions in a virtuous person.
Neither is philosophy only profitable to the public, but one wise man helps another, even in the exercise of the virtues; and the one has need of the other, both for conversation and counsel; for they kindle a mutual emulation in good offices. We are not so perfect yet, but that many new things remain still to be found out, which will give us the reciprocal advantages of instructing one another: for as one wicked man is contagious to another, and the more vices are mingled, the worse it is, so is it on the contrary with good men and their virtues. As men of148 letters are the most useful and excellent of friends, so are they the best of subjects; as being better judges of the blessings they enjoy under a well-ordered government, and of what they owe to the magistrate for their freedom and protection. They are men of sobriety and learning, and free from boasting and insolence; they reprove the vice without reproaching the person; for they have learned to be without either pomp or envy. That which we see in high mountains, we find in philosophers; they seem taller near at hand than at a distance. They are raised above other men, but their greatness is substantial. Nor do they stand upon tiptoe, that they may seem higher than they are, but, content with their own stature, they reckon themselves tall enough when fortune cannot reach them. Their laws are short, and yet comprehensive too, for they bind all.
Philosophy isn’t just valuable to society; wise individuals support each other, even in practicing virtues. Each person needs the other, both for conversation and guidance, as they inspire each other to do good. We aren’t perfect yet, and there are still many new things to discover that will allow us to teach one another: just as one immoral person can negatively influence another, with vices spreading to make things worse, the same goes for good people and their virtues. Scholars make the best friends and subjects because they appreciate the benefits of living under a well-ordered government and recognize their obligations to the authorities for their freedom and protection. They are serious and knowledgeable, avoiding arrogance and rudeness; they critique the vice without attacking the person, having learned to live without either vanity or jealousy. What we see in high mountains, we also find in philosophers; they appear taller up close than from a distance. They stand above others, but their greatness is genuine. They don’t have to tiptoe to seem taller; instead, they are satisfied with their own height, considering themselves tall enough when fortune can’t reach them. Their laws are brief yet thorough, as they encompass everyone.
It is the bounty of nature that we live; but of philosophy that we live well, which is in truth a greater benefit than life itself. Not but that philosophy is also the gift of Heaven, so far as to the faculty, but not to the science; for that must be the business of industry. No man is born wise; but wisdom and virtue require a tutor, though we can easily learn to be vicious without a master. It is philosophy that gives us a veneration for God, a charity for our neighbor, that teaches us our duty to Heaven, and exhorts us to an agreement one with another; it unmasks things that are terrible to us, assuages our lusts, refutes our errors, restrains our luxury, reproves our avarice, and works strangely upon tender natures. I could never hear Attalus (says Seneca) upon the vices of the age and the errors of life, without a compassion for mankind;149 and in his discourses upon poverty, there was something methought that was more than human. “More than we use,” says he, “is more than we need, and only a burden to the bearer.” That saying of his put me out of countenance at the superfluities of my own fortune. And so in his invectives against vain pleasures, he did at such a rate advance the felicities of a sober table, a pure mind, and a chaste body that a man could not hear him without a love for continence and moderation. Upon these lectures of his, I denied myself, for a while after, certain delicacies that I had formerly used: but in a short time I fell to them again, though so sparingly, that the proportion came little short of a total abstinence.
It is the bounty of nature that we live, but it’s philosophy that helps us live well, which is actually a greater benefit than life itself. However, philosophy is also a gift from Heaven, in terms of our ability to think, but the actual knowledge comes from hard work. No one is born wise; wisdom and virtue need a teacher, while it’s easy to learn to be bad without guidance. Philosophy gives us respect for God, love for our neighbors, teaches us our responsibilities to Heaven, and encourages us to get along with each other; it reveals things that scare us, calms our desires, corrects our mistakes, limits our excesses, criticizes our greed, and has a powerful impact on sensitive souls. I could never listen to Attalus (says Seneca) on the flaws of the age and the mistakes of life without feeling compassion for humanity;149 and in his discussions on poverty, there was something that felt beyond human. “Having more than we use,” he says, “is more than we need, and only a burden to the one who has it.” That statement made me reconsider the excesses of my own wealth. And in his criticisms of empty pleasures, he so greatly praised the joys of a simple table, a clear mind, and a pure body that one couldn’t listen to him without feeling a desire for self-control and moderation. After hearing his lectures, I denied myself certain luxuries I had previously indulged in for a while; but soon I returned to them, even if only in moderation, so that my consumption came very close to total abstinence.
Now, to show you (says our author) how much earnester my entrance upon philosophy was than my progress, my tutor Sotion gave me a wonderful kindness for Pythagoras, and after him for Sextius: the former forbore shedding of blood upon his metempsychosis: and put men in fear of it, lest they should offer violence to the souls of some of their departed friends or relations. “Whether,” says he, “there be a transmigration or not; if it be true, there is no hurt; if false, there is frugality: and nothing is gotten by cruelty neither, but the cozening a wolf, perhaps, or a vulture, of a supper.”
Now, to show you (says our author) how much more serious my start in philosophy was than my journey, my tutor Sotion had a great admiration for Pythagoras, and after him for Sextius: the former discouraged the shedding of blood because of his belief in metempsychosis: and he made people afraid of it, so they wouldn’t harm the souls of some of their deceased friends or family. “Whether,” he says, “there is a transmigration or not; if it’s true, there’s no harm done; if it’s false, it’s just being practical: and nothing is gained from cruelty, except maybe tricking a wolf or a vulture out of dinner.”
Now, Sextius abstained upon another account, which was, that he would not have men inured to hardness of heart by the laceration and tormenting of living creatures; beside, “that Nature had sufficiently provided for the sustenance of mankind without blood.” This wrought upon me so far that I gave over eating of flesh, and in one year I made it not only easy to me but pleasant; my mind methought was more at liberty, (and I150 am still of the same opinion,) but I gave it over nevertheless; and the reason was this: it was imputed as a superstition to the Jews, the forbearance of some sorts of flesh, and my father brought me back again to my old custom, that I might not be thought tainted with their superstition. Nay, and I had much ado to prevail upon myself to suffer it too. I make use of this instance to show the aptness of youth to take good impressions, if there be a friend at hand to press them. Philosophers are the tutors of mankind; if they have found out remedies for the mind, it must be our part to employ them. I cannot think of Cato, Lelius, Socrates, Plato, without veneration: their very names are sacred to me. Philosophy is the health of the mind; let us look to that health first, and in the second place to that of the body, which may be had upon easier terms; for a strong arm, a robust constitution, or the skill of procuring this, is not a philosopher’s business. He does some things as a wise man, and other things as he is a man; and he may have strength of body as well as of mind; but if he runs, or casts the sledge, it were injurious to ascribe that to his wisdom which is common to the greatest of fools. He studies rather to fill his mind than his coffers; and he knows that gold and silver were mingled with dirt, until avarice or ambition parted them. His life is ordinate, fearless, equal, secure; he stands firm in all extremities, and bears the lot of his humanity with a divine temper. There is a great difference betwixt the splendor of philosophy and of fortune; the one shines with an original light, the other with a borrowed one; beside that it makes us happy and immortal: for learning shall outlive palaces and monuments. The house of a wise man is safe, though151 narrow; there is neither noise nor furniture in it, no porter at the door, nor anything that is either vendible or mercenary, nor any business of fortune, for she has nothing to do where she has nothing to look after. This is the way to Heaven which Nature has chalked out, and it is both secure and pleasant; there needs no train of servants, no pomp or equipage, to make good our passage; no money or letters of credit, for expenses upon the voyage; but the graces of an honest mind will serve us upon the way, and make us happy at our journey’s end.
Now, Sextius refrained from certain actions because he didn’t want people to become hardened by causing suffering to living beings. He also believed that “Nature had provided enough food for people without bloodshed.” This impacted me so much that I stopped eating meat, and within a year, it became not only easy but enjoyable for me; I felt my mind was freer (and I still believe that), but I ended up going back to my old ways. The reason was this: it was considered a superstition among the Jews to avoid certain types of meat, and my father encouraged me to return to my previous habits so I wouldn’t be seen as influenced by their superstition. In fact, it was quite hard for me to convince myself to accept this again. I use this example to illustrate how receptive young people are to good influences when they have a supportive friend nearby. Philosophers are the guides of humanity; if they have discovered ways to enhance our minds, it is our responsibility to use their teachings. I cannot think of Cato, Lelius, Socrates, or Plato without deep respect; their very names are sacred to me. Philosophy is the well-being of the mind; we should prioritize that over physical health, which is often easier to achieve. Strength, a healthy body, or the ability to acquire these traits is not the philosopher's focus. He acts wisely in certain situations and behaves simply as a human in others; he can possess physical strength just like mental strength, but if he engages in running or throwing, it’s unfair to attribute those actions to his wisdom, as they’re common to even the greatest fools. He strives to enrich his mind rather than his wallet, and he understands that gold and silver were once mixed with dirt until greed or ambition separated them. His life is orderly, fearless, balanced, and secure; he remains steadfast in all hardships and faces the challenges of being human with grace. There is a significant difference between the brilliance of philosophy and that of wealth; one shines with its own light, while the other relies on borrowed radiance. Philosophy brings happiness and immortality, for knowledge outlasts palaces and monuments. The home of a wise person is safe, even if it’s small; it has no clutter or noise, no doorman, and nothing that can be bought or sold, nor any involvement with fortune, as she doesn’t linger where she has nothing to manage. This is the path to Heaven that Nature has outlined; it is both secure and enjoyable. No entourage, no grandeur, is needed to ensure our journey; we don’t need money or letters of credit for expenses along the way. Instead, the qualities of a good mind will guide us and bring us joy at the end of our journey.
To tell you my opinion now of the liberal sciences; I have no great esteem for any thing that terminates in profit or money; and yet I shall allow them to be so far beneficial, as they only prepare the understanding without detaining it. They are but the rudiments of wisdom, and only then to be learned when the mind is capable of nothing better, and the knowledge of them is better worth the keeping than the acquiring. They do not so much as pretend to the making of us virtuous, but only to give us an aptitude of disposition to be so. The grammarian’s business lies in a syntax of speech; or if he proceed to history, or the measuring of a verse, he is at the end of his line; but what signifies a congruity of periods, the computing of syllables, or the modifying of numbers, to the taming of our passions, or the repressing of our lusts? The philosopher proves the body of the sun to be large, but for the true dimensions of it we must ask the mathematician: geometry and music, if they do not teach us to master our hopes and fears, all the rest is to little purpose. What does it concern us which was the elder of the two, Homer or Hesiod? or which was the taller,152 Helen or Hecuba? We take a great deal of pains to trace Ulysses in his wanderings, but were it not time as well spent to look to ourselves that we may not wander at all? Are not we ourselves tossed with tempestuous passions? and both assaulted by terrible monsters on the one hand, and tempted by syrens on the other? Teach me my duty to my country, to my father, to my wife, to mankind. What is it to me whether Penelope was honest or not? teach me to know how to be so myself, and to live according to that knowledge. What am I the better for putting so many parts together in music, and raising a harmony out of so many different tones? teach me to tune my affections, and to hold constant to myself. Geometry teaches me the art of measuring acres; teach me to measure my appetites, and to know when I have enough; teach me to divide with my brother, and to rejoice in the prosperity of my neighbor. You teach me how I may hold my own, and keep my estate; but I would rather learn how I may lose it all, and yet be contented. “It is hard,” you will say, “for a man to be forced from the fortune of his family.” This estate, it is true, was my father’s; but whose was it in the time of my grandfather? I do not only say, what man’s was it? but what nation’s? The astrologer tells me of Saturn and Mars in opposition; but I say, let them be as they will, their courses and their positions are ordered them by an unchangeable decree of fate. Either they produce and point out the effects of all things, or else they signify them; if the former, what are we the better for the knowledge of that which must of necessity come to pass? If the latter, what does it avail us to foresee what we cannot avoid? So that153 whether we know or not know, the event will still be the same.
To share my thoughts on the liberal sciences; I don’t hold a high opinion of anything that ends in profit or money. Still, I can acknowledge that they are somewhat helpful as they only prepare the mind without holding it back. They are merely the basics of wisdom, meant to be learned when the mind can't handle anything better, and knowing them is more valuable than acquiring them. They don’t even pretend to make us virtuous but only give us a chance to become so. The grammarian focuses on the syntax of language; if he moves on to history or the analysis of verse, he has reached his limit. But what does it matter if our sentences are structured correctly, if we count syllables, or if we manipulate numbers when it comes to controlling our passions or suppressing our desires? The philosopher shows us that the sun is vast, but for its true size, we must consult the mathematician: geometry and music won't help us master our hopes and fears; everything else is pretty pointless. Does it really matter to us who was older, Homer or Hesiod? Or who was taller, Helen or Hecuba? We spend so much effort trying to follow Ulysses on his adventures, but wouldn’t it be better spent looking after ourselves so we don’t wander at all? Aren’t we tossed about by our own turbulent emotions, being attacked by terrible monsters on one side and lured by syrens on the other? Teach me my responsibilities to my country, my father, my wife, and humanity. Why should I care whether Penelope was honest? Teach me how to be honest myself and to live accordingly. What benefit do I get from putting together music and creating harmony from different tones? Teach me how to adjust my emotions and stay true to myself. Geometry teaches me how to measure land; teach me to measure my desires and recognize when I have enough. Teach me to share with my brother and to celebrate my neighbor's success. You show me how to hold on to my possessions and maintain my wealth, but I would rather learn how to lose it all and still be content. You might say, “It’s tough for a man to be separated from his family’s fortune.” This estate belonged to my father; but who did it belong to when my grandfather was alive? I’m not just asking which man owned it; I’m asking which nation did. The astrologer talks about Saturn and Mars being in opposition; but I say, let them be as they are, their paths and positions are determined by an unchangeable fate. Either they cause and define everything that happens, or they merely signify it; if it’s the former, what do we gain from knowing what is inevitable? If it’s the latter, how does it help us to foresee what we can’t escape? So, whether we know or not, the outcome will remain the same.
He that designs the institution of human life should not be over-curious of his words; it does not stand with his dignity to be solicitous about sounds and syllables, and to debase the mind of man with trivial things; placing wisdom in matters that are rather difficult than great. If it be eloquent, it is his good fortune, not his business. Subtle disputations are only the sport of wits, that play upon the catch, and are fitter to be contemned than resolved. Were not I a madman to sit wrangling about words, and putting of nice and impertinent questions, when the enemy has already made the breach, the town fired over my head, and the mine ready to play that shall blow me up into the air? were this a time for fooleries? Let me rather fortify myself against death and inevitable necessities; let me understand that the good of life does not consist in the length or space, but in the use of it. When I go to sleep, who knows whether I shall ever wake again? and when I wake, whether ever I shall sleep again? When I go abroad, whether ever I shall come home again? and when I return, whether ever I shall go abroad again? It is not at sea only that life and death are within a few inches one of another; but they are as near everywhere else too, only we do not take so much notice of it. What have we to do with frivolous and captious questions, and impertinent niceties? Let us rather study how to deliver ourselves from sadness, fear, and the burden of all our secret lusts: let us pass over all our most solemn levities, and make haste to a good life, which is a thing that presses us. Shall a man that goes for a midwife, stand gaping upon a post to see what play to-day?154 or, when his house is on fire, stay the curling of a periwig before he calls for help? Our houses are on fire, our country invaded, our goods taken away, our children in danger; and, I might add to these, the calamities of earthquakes, shipwrecks, and whatever else is most terrible. Is this a time for us now to be playing fast and loose with idle questions, which are in effect so many unprofitable riddles? Our duty is the cure of the mind rather than the delight of it; but we have only the words of wisdom without the works; and turn philosophy into a pleasure that was given for a remedy. What can be more ridiculous than for a man to neglect his manners and compose his style? We are sick and ulcerous, and must be lanced and scarified, and every man has as much business within himself as a physician in a common pestilence. “Misfortunes,” in fine, “cannot be avoided; but they may be sweetened, if not overcome; and our lives may be made happy by philosophy.”
Whoever designs how people should live shouldn't worry too much about their words; it’s not dignified to be overly concerned about sounds and syllables, or to lower the human mind with trivial matters, putting wisdom in things that are more complicated than significant. If it’s eloquent, it’s a stroke of good luck, not something he should focus on. Subtle arguments are just a game for clever minds that play with words and are better off disregarded than debated. Is it not foolish to get caught up arguing about words and raising trivial and irrelevant questions when the enemy has already broken in, and the town is burning around me, with the mine ready to explode and blow me into the sky? Is this a moment for foolishness? Let me instead prepare myself against death and unavoidable necessities; let me realize that the value of life isn’t in its length or extent, but in how we use it. When I go to sleep, who knows if I will ever wake up again? And when I do wake up, will I ever sleep again? When I go out, will I ever come back home? And when I return, will I ever go out again? Life and death are not just a few inches apart at sea; they are just as close everywhere else, though we often don’t notice it. What do we have to do with trivial and nitpicky questions? Instead, let’s focus on freeing ourselves from sadness, fear, and the weight of our secret desires; let’s skip over our most solemn distractions and hurry toward a good life, which is what truly matters. Should a man going to get a midwife stop to stare at a post to see what’s happening today? Or, when his house is on fire, should he fuss with his hairstyle before calling for help? Our homes are burning, our country is under attack, our possessions are being taken, our children are in danger; and I could add to this list the disasters of earthquakes, shipwrecks, and anything else terrifying. Is this really the time for us to engage in pointless games with idle questions, which are effectively just useless riddles? Our duty is to heal the mind, not just entertain it; yet we only have the words of wisdom without the actions, turning philosophy into a pleasure meant to be a remedy. What could be more ridiculous than for a person to disregard his manners while polishing his style? We are in distress and need to be treated and healed, and everyone has as much work to do within themselves as a doctor during a plague. “Misfortunes,” in short, “can’t be avoided; but they can be made easier, if not overcome; and our lives can be made fulfilling through philosophy.”
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CHAPTER V.
THE FORCE OF PRECEPTS.
There seems to be so near an affinity betwixt wisdom, philosophy, and good counsels, that it is rather matter of curiosity than of profit to divide them; philosophy, being only a limited wisdom; and good counsels a communication of that wisdom, for the good of others, as well as of ourselves; and to posterity, as well as to the present. The wisdom of the ancients, as to the government of life, was no more than certain precepts, what to do and what not: and men were much better in that simplicity; for as they came to be more learned, they grew less careful of being good. That plain and open virtue is now turned into a dark and intricate science; and we are taught to dispute rather than to live. So long as wickedness was simple, simple remedies also were sufficient against it; but now it has taken root, and spread, we must make use of stronger.
There seems to be a close connection between wisdom, philosophy, and good advice, so it's more of a curiosity than a benefit to separate them; philosophy is just a form of limited wisdom, and good advice is sharing that wisdom for the benefit of others as well as ourselves; and for future generations as well as the present. The wisdom of the ancients regarding how to live was simply a set of guidelines on what to do and what not to do, and people were much better off in that simplicity; as they became more educated, they cared less about being good. That straightforward and clear virtue has now turned into a complex and obscure science; and we are taught to argue rather than to live. As long as wrongdoing was straightforward, simple solutions were enough to combat it; but now that it has taken root and spread, we need to use stronger methods.
There are some dispositions that embrace good things as soon as they hear them; but they will still need quickening by admonition and precept. We are rash and forward in some cases, and dull in others; and there is no repressing of the one humor, or raising of the other, but by removing the causes of them; which are (in one word) false admiration and false fear.
There are some attitudes that accept good things as soon as they encounter them; however, they still require encouragement through guidance and instruction. We can be impulsive and eager in some situations, and indifferent in others; and we can't control one temperament or enhance the other without addressing the reasons behind them, which are (in short) false admiration and false fear.
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Every man knows his duty to his country, to his friends, to his guests; and yet when he is called upon to draw his sword for the one, or to labor for the other, he finds himself distracted betwixt his apprehensions and his delights: he knows well enough the injury he does his wife in the keeping of a wench, and yet his lust overrules him: so that it is not enough to give good advice, unless we can take away that which hinders the benefit of it. If a man does what he ought to do, he will never do it constantly or equally, without knowing why he does it: and if it be only chance or custom, he that does well by chance, may do ill so too. And farther, a precept may direct us what we ought to do, and yet fall short in the manner of doing it: an expensive entertainment may, in one case be extravagance or gluttony, and yet a point of honor and discretion in another. Tiberius Cæsar had a huge mullet presented him, which he sent to the market to be sold: “and now,” says he, “my masters,” to some company with him, “you shall see that either Apicius or Octavius will be the chapman for this fish.” Octavius beat the price, and gave about thirty pounds sterling for it. Now, there was a great difference between Octavius, that bought it for his luxury, and the other that purchased it for a compliment to Tiberius. Precepts are idle, if we be not first taught what opinion we are to have of the matter in question; whether it be poverty, riches, disgrace, sickness, banishment, etc. Let us therefore examine them one by one; not what they are called, but what in truth they are. And so for the virtues; it is to no purpose to set a high esteem upon prudence, fortitude, temperance, justice, if we do not first157 know what virtue is; whether one or more; or if he that has one, has all; or how they differ.
Every man knows his duty to his country, his friends, and his guests; yet when he's called to fight for one or work for the other, he finds himself torn between his worries and his pleasures: he clearly understands the harm he does to his wife by being with another woman, but his desire takes over. This shows that good advice isn't enough unless we can remove what's blocking its benefits. If a man does what he should, he won't do it consistently or fairly without understanding why he does it; and if it's based solely on chance or habit, someone who does good by chance could easily do harm too. Moreover, a guideline might tell us what we should do but fall short in how we do it: a lavish party could be seen as extravagance or gluttony in one instance, but a matter of honor and discretion in another. Tiberius Caesar received a huge mullet, which he sent to the market to be sold: “And now,” he said to those with him, “you'll see that either Apicius or Octavius will buy this fish.” Octavius raised the price and paid around thirty pounds for it. There was a big difference between Octavius, who bought it for his luxury, and the other buyer, who bought it as a compliment to Tiberius. Guidelines are pointless unless we first understand what opinion we should have about the issue at hand; whether it involves poverty, riches, disgrace, sickness, banishment, etc. So, let's examine them one by one; not what they are called, but what they actually are. The same goes for virtues; it’s pointless to hold prudence, courage, temperance, and justice in high regard if we don’t first know what virtue is; whether there’s one or more; whether someone who has one has all; or how they differ.
Precepts are of great weight; and a few useful ones at hand do more toward a happy life than whole volumes or cautions, that we know not where to find. These salutary precepts should be our daily meditation, for they are the rules by which we ought to square our lives. When they are contracted into sentences, they strike the affections: whereas admonition is only blowing of the coal; it moves the vigor of the mind, and excites virtue: we have the thing already, but we know not where it lies. It is by precept that the understanding is nourished and augmented: the offices of prudence and justice are guided by them, and they lead us to the execution of our duties. A precept delivered in verse has a much greater effect than in prose: and those very people that never think they have enough, let them but hear a sharp sentence against avarice, how will they clap and admire it, and bid open defiance to money? So soon as we find the affections struck, we must follow the blow; not with syllogisms or quirks of wit; but with plain and weighty reason and we must do it with kindness too, and respect for “there goes a blessing along with counsels and discourses that are bent wholly upon the good of the hearer:” and those are still the most efficacious that take reason along with them; and tell us as well why we are to do this or that, as what we are to do: for some understandings are weak, and need an instructor to expound to them what is good and what is evil. It is a great virtue to love, to give, and to follow good counsel; if it does not lead us to honesty, it does at least prompt us to it. As several parts make up but one harmony, and the most agreeable158 music arises from discords; so should a wise man gather many acts, many precepts, and the examples of many arts, to inform his own life. Our forefathers have left us in charge to avoid three things; hatred, envy, and contempt; now, it is hard to avoid envy and not incur contempt; for in taking too much care not to usurp upon others, we become many times liable to be trampled upon ourselves. Some people are afraid of others, because it is possible that others may be afraid of them: but let us secure ourselves upon all hands; for flattery is as dangerous as contempt. It is not to say, in case of admonition, I knew this before, for we know many things, but we do not think of them; so that it is the part of a monitor, not so much to teach as to mind us of our duties. Sometimes a man oversees that which lies just under his nose; otherwhile he is careless, or pretends not to see it: we do all know that friendship is sacred, and yet we violate it; and the greatest libertine expects that his own wife should be honest.
Precepts carry significant weight, and having a few useful ones available contributes more to a happy life than entire volumes or warnings that we struggle to locate. These valuable precepts should be a part of our daily reflection, as they are the guidelines we should use to shape our lives. When they are condensed into sentences, they resonate with the affections; whereas admonition is merely a blowing of the coal; it stimulates the mind's vigor and inspires virtue: we already possess the information, but we are often unaware of its whereabouts. Precepts nourish and enhance our understanding: they guide the functions of prudence and justice, leading us to fulfill our responsibilities. A precept expressed in verse has a far more powerful impact than in prose: and those individuals who always feel they don’t have enough, if they hear a sharp remark against avarice, will enthusiastically applaud it and boldly challenge money. As soon as our emotions are stirred, we must follow up; not with syllogisms or clever remarks; but with clear and serious reasoning, and we must approach it with kindness and respect because “there is a blessing that accompanies advice and discussions aimed solely at the listener's benefit:” the most effective are those that also engage reason; they make clear not only what we need to do but also why we need to do it: for some minds are fragile, requiring a guide to clarify what is good and what is bad. It is a great virtue to love, to give, and to follow good counsel; if it does not lead us to honesty, it at least encourages us toward it. Just as several parts create a single melody, and the most pleasing158 music often arises from dissonance; a wise person should gather many actions, numerous precepts, and examples from various skills to enrich their own life. Our ancestors have advised us to steer clear of three things: hatred, envy, and contempt; however, it is difficult to avoid envy without also inviting contempt; for in being overly cautious not to encroach on others, we often risk being trampled ourselves. Some individuals fear others, believing that those others might fear them; but we should protect ourselves from all sides; for flattery is just as perilous as contempt. It is not enough to say, when faced with advice, that we already knew this, as we are aware of many things yet fail to ponder them; thus, the role of a monitor is not so much to teach but to remind us of our duties. Sometimes a person overlooks what is right in front of them; at other times they are careless or pretend not to see it: we all understand that friendship is sacred, yet we still violate it; and the most libertine individual expects their own partner to remain faithful.
Good counsel is the most needful service that we can do to mankind; and if we give it to many, it will be sure to profit some: for of many trials, some or other will undoubtedly succeed. He that places a man in the possession of himself does a great thing; for wisdom does not show itself so much in precept as in life; in a firmness of mind and a mastery of appetite: it teaches us to do as well as to talk: and to make our words and actions all of a color. If that fruit be pleasantest which we gather from a tree of our own planting, how much greater delight shall we take in the growth and increase of good manners of our own forming! It is an eminent mark of wisdom for a man to be always like him159self. You shall have some that keep a thrifty table, and lavish out upon building; profuse upon themselves, and forbid to others; niggardly at home, and lavish abroad. This diversity is vicious, and the effect of a dissatisfied and uneasy mind; whereas every wise man lives by rule. This disagreement of purposes arises from hence, either that we do not propound to ourselves what we would be at; or if we do, that we do not pursue it, but pass from one thing to another; and we do not only change neither but return to the very thing which we had both quitted and condemned.
Good advice is the most valuable service we can provide to humanity; and if we offer it to many, it’s bound to benefit some: because out of many attempts, at least one will surely succeed. Helping someone to gain control over themselves is a significant achievement; wisdom is more about living than just teaching; it's about having a strong mind and mastering our desires: it shows us how to do as well as to talk: and to align our words and actions. If the sweetest fruit comes from a tree we've planted ourselves, how much more joy will we find in cultivating and nurturing good habits that we've developed ourselves! It's a clear sign of wisdom for someone to always be true to themselves. Some people keep a frugal home but spend lavishly on building; they’re generous to themselves while denying others; selfish at home but generous abroad. This inconsistency is harmful and stems from an unsettled and unhappy mind; whereas every wise person lives by a consistent principle. This clash of goals happens either because we don’t clearly define what we want; or when we do, we fail to follow through and jump from one thing to another; and not only do we change constantly, but we often return to exactly what we had previously abandoned and criticized.
In all our undertakings, let us first examine our own strength; the enterprise next; and, thirdly, the persons with whom we have to do. The first point is most important; for we are apt to overvalue ourselves, and reckon that we can do more than indeed we can. One man sets up for a speaker, and is out as soon as he opens his mouth; another overcharges his estate, perhaps, or his body: a bashful man is not fit for public business: some again are too stiff and peremptory for the court: many people are apt to fly out in their anger, nay, and in a frolic too; if any sharp thing fall in their way, they will rather venture a neck than lose a jest. These people had better be quiet in the world than busy. Let him that is naturally choleric and impatient avoid all provocations, and those affairs also that multiply and draw on more; and those also from which there is no retreat. When we may come off at pleasure, and fairly hope to bring our matters to a period, it is well enough. If it so happen that a man be tied up to business, which he can neither loosen nor break off, let him imagine those shackles upon his mind to be irons upon his legs: they are troublesome160 at first; but when there is no remedy but patience, custom makes them easy to us, and necessity gives us courage. We are all slaves to fortune: some only in loose and golden chains, others in strait ones, and coarser: nay, and they that bind us are slaves too themselves; some to honor, others to wealth; some to offices, and others to contempt; some to their superiors, others to themselves: nay, life itself is a servitude: let us make the best of it then, and with our philosophy mend our fortune. Difficulties may be softened, and heavy burdens disposed of to our ease. Let us covet nothing out of our reach, but content ourselves with things hopeful and at hand; and without envying the advantages of others; for greatness stands upon a craggy precipice, and it is much safer and quieter living upon a level. How many great men are forced to keep their station upon mere necessity; because they find there is no coming down from it but headlong? These men should do well to fortify themselves against ill consequences by such virtues and meditations as may make them less solicitous for the future. The surest expedient in this case is to bound our desires, and to leave nothing to fortune which we may keep in our own power. Neither will this course wholly compose us, but it shows us at worst the end of our troubles.
In all our endeavors, let’s start by assessing our own strengths, then the task at hand, and finally, the people we’re dealing with. The first point is the most important, as we often overestimate ourselves and think we can do more than we really can. One person may aspire to be a speaker but fails as soon as they start talking; another might overvalue their property or abilities. A shy person isn't suited for public work, while some are too rigid and demanding for formal settings. Many people tend to lash out when angry, and even in playful moods, they might prioritize a joke over their safety. It’s better for such individuals to keep to themselves. Those who are naturally quick-tempered and impatient should steer clear of provocation and situations that escalate. They should also avoid commitments that don’t allow for an exit. When we can bow out comfortably and hope to resolve our issues, that’s acceptable. If a person finds themselves stuck in a situation they can’t escape, they should view those mental constraints as restraints on their legs. They can be bothersome at first, but when we have no choice but to endure, time makes them manageable, and necessity gives us strength. We are all at the mercy of fate: some are held by loose, golden chains, while others are restrained by tighter, rougher bonds; and those who bind us are also enslaved in their own way—some to honor, others to wealth, some to positions, and others to disdain; some to their superiors, and others to their own limitations. Life itself is a form of servitude, so let’s make the most of it and use our philosophy to improve our fortunes. Challenges can be eased, and heavy loads can be lightened. Let’s not desire anything out of our reach but be content with what is hopeful and within grasp, without envying others' advantages. Greatness often rests on a precarious ledge, and it’s much safer and calmer to live on solid ground. How many powerful people are stuck in their roles out of sheer necessity, realizing that stepping down could lead to a fall? These individuals would benefit from strengthening themselves with virtues and reflections that lessen their worries about the future. The best strategy here is to limit our desires and keep everything we can under our control, rather than leaving our fate to chance. This approach might not completely calm us, but it shows us the worst-case scenario of our struggles.
It is but a main point to take care that we propose nothing but what is hopeful and honest. For it will be equally troublesome to us, either not to succeed, or to be ashamed of the success. Wherefore let us be sure not to admit any ill design into our heart; that we may lift up pure hands to heaven and ask nothing which another shall be a loser by. Let us pray for a good mind, which is a wish to no161 man’s injury. I will remember always that I am a man, and then consider, that if I am happy, it will not last always; if unhappy, I may be other if I please. I will carry my life in my hand, and deliver it up readily when it shall be called for. I will have a care of being a slave to myself; for it is a perpetual, a shameful, and the heaviest of all servitudes: and this may be done by moderate desires. I will say to myself, “What is it that I labor, sweat, and solicit for, when it is but very little that I want, and it will not be long that I will need any thing?” He that would make a trial of the firmness of his mind, let him set certain days apart for the practice of his virtues. Let him mortify himself with fasting, coarse clothes, and hard lodging; and then say to himself, “Is this the thing now that I was afraid of?” In a state of security, a man may thus prepare himself against hazards, and in plenty fortify himself against want. If you will have a man resolute when he comes to the push, train him up to it beforehand. The soldier does duty in peace, that he may be in breath when he comes to battle. How many great and wise men have made experiment of their moderation by a practice of abstinence, to the highest degree of hunger and thirst; and convinced themselves that a man may fill his belly without being beholden to fortune; which never denies any of us wherewith to satisfy our necessities, though she be never so angry! It is as easy to suffer it always as to try it once; and it is no more than thousands of servants and poor people do every day in their lives. He that would live happily, must neither trust to good fortune nor submit to bad: he must stand upon his guard against all assaults; he must stick to himself, without any dependence upon other people.162 Where the mind is tinctured with philosophy, there is no place for grief, anxiety, or superfluous vexations. It is prepossessed with virtue to the neglect of fortune, which brings us to a degree of security not to be disturbed. It is easier to give counsel than to take it; and a common thing for one choleric man to condemn another. We may be sometimes earnest in advising, but not violent or tedious. Few words, with gentleness and efficacy, are best: the misery is, that the wise do not need counsel, and fools will not take it. A good man, it is true, delights in it; and it is a mark of folly and ill-nature to hate reproof.
We should make sure that we only propose things that are hopeful and honest. It’s equally frustrating to fail or to feel embarrassed about our success. So, let's avoid any bad intentions in our hearts; we want to raise clean hands to heaven and ask for nothing that causes someone else to lose out. Let’s pray for a good mindset, which doesn’t harm anyone. I will always remember that I am human, and I’ll keep in mind that if I am happy, it won’t last forever; if I’m unhappy, I can choose to be otherwise. I will live my life boldly and willingly let it go when necessary. I will be careful not to become a slave to myself because that’s a shameful and heavy burden. I can address this by keeping my desires in check. I will ask myself, “What am I working so hard for, when I really want very little, and won’t need much for long?” To test the strength of my mind, I’ll set aside certain days to practice my virtues. I’ll challenge myself with fasting, wearing rough clothes, and sleeping in uncomfortable places, and then ask myself, “Is this what I was afraid of?” In a safe state, I can prepare for challenges, and in abundance, I can strengthen myself against scarcity. If you want someone to be strong when it matters, you need to prepare them in advance. A soldier trains in peacetime so they’re ready for battle. Many great and wise individuals have tested their self-control through extreme hunger and thirst, learning that a person can satisfy their hunger without relying on luck, which always provides what we need, even when it seems difficult. It’s just as easy to endure hardships all the time as to try it once; many servants and poor people do this every day. Anyone who wants to live happily shouldn’t rely on good luck or give in to bad circumstances; they must be on guard against all attacks and depend on themselves without relying on others. When the mind is influenced by philosophy, there’s no room for grief, anxiety, or unnecessary worries. It’s filled with virtue, disregarding fortune, granting us a level of security that’s unshakeable. It’s easier to give advice than to take it, and it's common for one angry person to criticize another. We can be sincere in our advice but should avoid being forceful or overly long-winded. A few simple words delivered gently and effectively are best. The problem is that wise people don’t need advice, and foolish ones won’t accept it. A good person appreciates it, and it’s a sign of foolishness and bad nature to hate correction.
To a friend I would be always frank and plain; and rather fail in the success than be wanting in the matter of faith and trust. There are some precepts that serve in common both to the rich and poor, but they are too general; as “Cure your avarice, and the work is done.” It is one thing not to desire money, and another thing not to understand how to use it. In the choice of the persons we have to do withal, we should see that they be worth our while; in the choice of our business, we are to consult nature, and follow our inclinations. He that gives sober advice to a witty droll must look to have every thing turned into ridicule. “As if you philosophers,” says Marcellinus, “did not love your whores and your guts as well as other people:” and then he tells you of such and such that were taken in the manner. We are all sick, I must confess, and it is not for sick men to play the physicians; but it is yet lawful for a man in an hospital to discourse of the common condition and distempers of the place. He that should pretend to teach a madman how to speak, walk, and behave himself, were not he the most mad man of the two?163 He that directs the pilot, makes him move the helm, order the sails so or so, and makes the best of a scant wind, after this or that manner. And so should we do in our counsels.
To a friend, I would always be honest and straightforward; I'd rather fail at success than lack faith and trust. There are some principles that apply to both the rich and the poor, but they're too vague, like saying, "Cure your greed, and you're done." It's one thing not to want money, but another thing entirely not to know how to use it. When choosing the people we work with, we should ensure they’re worth our time; when it comes to our pursuits, we should pay attention to our nature and follow our instincts. If someone gives serious advice to a witty jokester, they should expect everything to be turned into a joke. “As if you philosophers,” Marcellinus says, “don’t love your pleasures just like everyone else,” and then he mentions those who got caught in the act. We’re all flawed, I must admit, and it’s not up to flawed individuals to be the doctors; however, it’s still okay for a person in a hospital to discuss the common issues and conditions present there. If someone tried to teach a madman how to talk, walk, and behave, wouldn’t he be the madder of the two? The one who directs the pilot helps him steer the helm, adjust the sails a certain way, and make the best of a light wind. We should approach our advice in the same way.
Do not tell me what a man should do in health or poverty, but show me the way to be either sound or rich. Teach me to master my vices: for it is to no purpose, so long as I am under their government, to tell me what I must do when I am clear of it. In case of an avarice a little eased, a luxury moderated, a temerity restrained, a sluggish humor quickened; precepts will then help us forward, and tutor us how to behave ourselves. It is the first and the main tie of a soldier his military oath, which is an engagement upon him both of religion and honor. In like manner, he that pretends to a happy life must first lay a foundation of virtue, as a bond upon him, to live and die true to that cause. We do not find felicity in the veins of the earth where we dig for gold, nor in the bottom of the sea where we fish for pearls, but in a pure and untainted mind, which, if it were not holy, were not fit to entertain the Deity. “He that would be truly happy, must think his own lot best, and so live with men, as considering that God sees him, and so speak to God as if men heard him.”
Don't just tell me what a person should do when they're healthy or poor; show me how to be either healthy or wealthy. Teach me to control my weaknesses, because it’s pointless to explain what I should do if I’m still ruled by them. Once my greed is somewhat controlled, my indulgence is toned down, my recklessness is curbed, and my laziness is energized, then guidelines will help us progress and teach us how to act appropriately. A soldier’s military oath is his primary and most important bond, reflecting both his faith and honor. Similarly, anyone aiming for a happy life must establish a foundation of virtue, a commitment to live and die true to that purpose. We don’t find happiness in the earth where we mine for gold, nor at the bottom of the sea where we search for pearls, but in a clean and unblemished mind, which, if it wasn't pure, wouldn't be worthy of the divine. "To be truly happy, one must believe their own situation is the best and live among others knowing that God sees them, and speak to God as though people are listening."
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CHAPTER VI.
NO FELICITY LIKE PEACE OF CONSCIENCE.
“A good conscience is the testimony of a good life, and the reward of it.” This is it that fortifies the mind against fortune, when a man has gotten the mastery of his passions; placed his treasure and security within himself; learned to be content with his condition; and that death is no evil in itself, but only the end of man. He that has dedicated his mind to virtue, and to the good of human society, whereof he is a member, has consummated all that is either profitable or necessary for him to know or to do toward the establishment of his peace. Every man has a judge and a witness within himself of all the good and ill that he does, which inspires us with great thoughts, and administers to us wholesome counsels. We have a veneration for all the works of Nature, the heads of rivers, and the springs of medicinal waters; the horrors of groves and of caves strike us with an impression of religion and worship. To see a man fearless in dangers, untainted with lusts, happy in adversity, composed in a tumult, and laughing at all those things which are generally either coveted or feared; all men must acknowledge that this can be nothing else but a beam of divinity that influences a mortal body. And this is it that carries us to the disquisition of things divine and165 human; what the state of the world was before the distribution of the first matter into parts; what power it was that drew order out of that confusion, and gave laws both to the whole, and to every particle thereof; what that space is beyond the world; and whence proceed the several operations of Nature.
“A clear conscience is the mark of a good life and its reward.” This is what strengthens the mind against fate, when a person has mastered their emotions; placed their worth and security within themselves; learned to be content with their situation; and understands that death isn’t inherently bad, but just the end of life. Someone who dedicates their mind to virtue and the welfare of society, of which they are a part, has achieved everything that is beneficial or necessary for them to know or do to establish their peace. Everyone has an inner judge and witness to all the good and bad they do, inspiring us with great thoughts and providing us with sound advice. We have respect for all of Nature’s creations, the sources of rivers, and the springs of healing waters; the eerie beauty of woods and caves fills us with a sense of reverence and worship. To see someone fearless in danger, uncorrupted by desires, content in hardship, calm in chaos, and laughing at what most people desire or fear; everyone must recognize that this can only be a spark of divinity influencing a mortal being. This is what drives us to explore the divine and human realms; what the world was like before matter was divided into parts; what force brought order out of chaos and established laws for everything; what exists beyond the world; and the origins of Nature’s various processes.
Shall any man see the glory and order of the universe; so many scattered parts and qualities wrought into one mass; such a medley of things, which are yet distinguished: the world enlightened, and the disorders of it so wonderfully regulated; and shall he not consider the Author and Disposer of all this; and whither we ourselves shall go, when our souls shall be delivered from the slavery of our flesh? The whole creation we see conforms to the dictates of Providence, and follows God both as a governor and as a guide. A great, a good, and a right mind, is a kind of divinity lodged in flesh, and may be the blessing of a slave as well as of a prince; it came from heaven, and to heaven it must return; and it is a kind of heavenly felicity, which a pure and virtuous mind enjoys, in some degree, even upon earth: whereas temples of honor are but empty names, which, probably, owe their beginning either to ambition or to violence.
Can anyone see the glory and order of the universe; so many scattered parts and qualities brought together into one mass; such a mix of things, which are still distinguished: the world enlightened, and its disorders so wonderfully organized; and not consider the Creator and Organizer of all this; and where we ourselves will go when our souls are released from the bondage of our bodies? The entire creation we see aligns with the guidance of Providence and follows God both as a ruler and a guide. A great, good, and rational mind is a sort of divinity housed in flesh and can be a blessing for both a slave and a prince; it came from heaven and must return to heaven; and it is a kind of heavenly happiness, which a pure and virtuous mind experiences, at least to some extent, even here on earth: while places of honor are just empty titles, likely born from either ambition or violence.
I am strangely transported with the thoughts of eternity; nay, with the belief of it; for I have a profound veneration for the opinions of great men, especially when they promise things so much to my satisfaction: for they do promise them, though they do not prove them. In the question of the immortality of the soul, it goes very far with me, a general consent to the opinion of a future reward and punishment; which meditation raises me to the con166tempt of this life, in hopes of a better. But still, though we know that we have a soul; yet what the soul is, how, and from whence, we are utterly ignorant: this only we understand, that all the good and ill we do is under the dominion of the mind; that a clear conscience states us in an inviolable peace; and that the greatest blessing in Nature is that which every honest man may bestow upon himself. The body is but the clog and prisoner of the mind; tossed up and down, and persecuted with punishments, violences, and diseases; but the mind itself is sacred and eternal, and exempt from the danger of all actual impression.
I'm oddly overwhelmed by thoughts of eternity; in fact, by the belief in it. I have a deep respect for the views of great individuals, especially when they offer ideas that resonate with me; they may make these promises, even if they can’t fully prove them. When it comes to the immortality of the soul, the widespread agreement on a future reward and punishment carries a lot of weight for me. This contemplation lifts my spirits above the struggles of this life, giving me hope for something better. Yet, even though we know we have a soul, we remain completely in the dark about what the soul actually is, how it exists, and where it comes from. All we really grasp is that the good and bad actions we take are governed by the mind; that a clear conscience brings us unshakeable peace; and that the greatest gift in nature is one that any honest person can give to themselves. The body is merely the hindrance and prisoner of the mind, tossed around and tormented by pain, violence, and sickness; but the mind itself is sacred and eternal, free from the threats of any direct harm.
Provided that we look to our consciences, no matter for opinion: let me deserve well, though I hear ill. The common people take stomach and audacity for the marks of magnanimity and honor; and if a man be soft and modest, they look upon him as an easy fop; but when they come once to observe the dignity of his mind in the equality and firmness of his actions; and that his external quiet is founded upon an internal peace, the very same people who have him in esteem and admiration; for there is no man but approves of virtue, though but few pursue it; we see where it is, but we dare not venture to come at it: and the reason is, we overvalue that which we must quit to obtain it.
As long as we stay true to our consciences, it doesn’t matter what others think: I’d rather do well even if I hear bad things about myself. Ordinary people often mistake arrogance and boldness for greatness and honor; if someone is gentle and humble, they see him as a simple fool. But once they notice the dignity of his mind reflected in his consistent and strong actions, and see that his calm on the outside comes from a peaceful heart within, those same people start to respect and admire him. Everyone approves of virtue, even if only a few actively seek it out; we recognize where it is, but hesitate to reach for it because we overvalue what we must give up to attain it.
A good conscience fears no witnesses, but a guilty conscience is solicitous even of solitude. If we do nothing but what is honest, let all the world know it; but if otherwise, what does it signify to have nobody else know it, so long as I know it myself? Miserable is he that slights that witness! Wickedness, it is true, may escape the law, but not the conscience; for a private conviction is the first and the167 greatest punishment to offenders; so that sin plagues itself; and the fear of vengeance pursues even those that escape the stroke of it. It were ill for good men that iniquity may so easily evade the law, the judge, and the execution, if Nature had not set up torments and gibbets in the consciences of transgressors. He that is guilty lives in perpetual terror; and while he expects to be punished, he punishes himself; and whosoever deserves it expects it. What if he be not detected? he is still in apprehension yet that he may be so. His sleeps are painful, and never secure; and he cannot speak of another man’s wickedness without thinking of his own, whereas a good conscience is a continual feast.
A clear conscience fears no witnesses, but a guilty conscience is anxious even when alone. If we do nothing wrong, let the whole world know it; but if we do otherwise, what does it matter if no one else knows, as long as I know? How miserable is the one who dismisses that inner witness! It's true that wickedness may escape the law, but not the conscience; because private guilt is the first and greatest punishment for wrongdoers. So sin punishes itself, and the fear of consequences follows even those who seem to evade them. It would be unfortunate for good people if wrongdoing could so easily escape the law, the judge, and punishment, if Nature hadn’t placed torment and gallows in the consciences of offenders. A guilty person lives in constant fear; while waiting for punishment, they punish themselves, and anyone who deserves it expects it. Even if they aren't caught, they still live in fear that they might be. Their sleep is troubled and never secure, and they can't talk about someone else's wrongdoing without thinking of their own, while a good conscience is a constant source of joy.
Those are the only certain and profitable delights, which arise from the consciousness of a well-acted life; no matter for noise abroad, so long as we are quiet within: but if our passions be seditious, that is enough to keep us waking without any other tumult. It is not the posture of the body, or the composure of the bed, that will give rest to an uneasy mind: there is an impatient sloth that may be roused by action, and the vices of laziness must be cured by business. True happiness is not to be found in excesses of wine, or of women, or in the largest prodigalities of fortune; what she has given to me, she may take away, but she shall not tear it from me; and, so long as it does not grow to me, I can part with it without pain. He that would perfectly know himself, let him set aside his money, his fortune, his dignity, and examine himself naked, without being put to learn from others the knowledge of himself.
Those are the only true and rewarding joys that come from knowing we’ve lived a good life; it doesn’t matter what’s going on outside, as long as we’re at peace inside. But if our emotions are rebellious, that’s enough to keep us awake, regardless of any other chaos. It’s not about how we position our bodies or how comfortable our beds are that brings peace to a restless mind. There’s an restlessness that can only be calmed by taking action, and the laziness we experience needs to be tackled by staying busy. Real happiness isn’t found in drinking too much, chasing after women, or squandering wealth; what fortune gives to me, it can also take away, but it won’t be ripped from me. As long as it doesn’t become essential to me, I can let it go without distress. To truly understand oneself, one must set aside money, status, and achievements and examine oneself honestly, without having to learn from others how to know oneself.
It is dangerous for a man too suddenly, or too easily, to believe himself. Wherefore let us examine,168 observe, and inspect our own hearts, for we ourselves are our own greatest flatterers: we should every night call ourselves to account, “What infirmity have I mastered to-day? what passion opposed? what temptation resisted? what virtue acquired?” Our vices will abate of themselves, if they be brought every day to the shrift. Oh the blessed sleep that follows such a diary! Oh the tranquillity, liberty, and greatness of that mind that is a spy upon itself, and a private censor of its own manners! It is my custom (says our author) every night, so soon as the candle is out, to run over all the words and actions of the past day; and I let nothing escape me; for why should I fear the sight of my own errors, when I can admonish and forgive myself? “I was a little too hot in such a dispute: my opinion might have been as well spared, for it gave offence, and did no good at all. The thing was true, but all truths are not to be spoken at all times; I would I had held my tongue, for there is no contending either with fools or our superiors. I have done ill, but it shall be so no more.” If every man would but thus look into himself, it would be the better for us all. What can be more reasonable than this daily review of a life that we cannot warrant for a moment? Our fate is set, and the first breath we draw is only the first motion toward our last: one cause depends upon another; and the course of all things, public and private, is but a long connection of providential appointments. There is a great variety in our lives, but all tends to the same issue. Nature may use her own bodies as she pleases; but a good man has this consolation, that nothing perishes which he can call his own. It is a great comfort that we are only condemned to the same fate with169 the universe; the heavens themselves are mortal as well as our bodies; Nature has made us passive, and to suffer is our lot. While we are in flesh, every man has his chain and his clog, only it is looser and lighter to one man than to another; and he is more at ease that takes it up and carries it, than he that drags it. We are born, to lose and to perish, to hope and to fear, to vex ourselves and others; and there is no antidote against a common calamity but virtue; for “the foundation of true joy is in the conscience.”
It's risky for someone to believe in themselves too quickly or too easily. So let’s take a moment to examine, observe, and reflect on our own hearts, since we are often our own greatest cheerleaders. Each night, we should hold ourselves accountable: “What weakness did I overcome today? What passions did I resist? What temptations did I withstand? What virtues did I gain?” Our vices will diminish if we confront them daily. Oh, the blessed sleep that comes after such reflection! Oh, the peace, freedom, and strength of a mind that checks itself and evaluates its own behavior! It’s my habit (says our author) each night, as soon as the candle is out, to review all my words and actions from the day; I miss nothing because why should I fear facing my own mistakes when I can correct and forgive myself? “I was a bit too heated in that argument: my opinion could have been kept to myself as it caused offense and achieved nothing. The point was true, but not all truths need to be shared at all times; I wish I had remained silent since it's pointless to argue with fools or those above us. I have acted poorly, but I won't do that again." If everyone would do this kind of self-examination, it would benefit us all. What could be more reasonable than this daily review of a life that we cannot guarantee lasts even a moment? Our fate is sealed, and the first breath we take is merely the beginning of our ending; one event leads to another, and everything, public and private, is a long sequence of divine arrangements. There's a wide range of experiences in our lives, but they all lead to the same conclusion. Nature can do what it wants with its creations; however, a good person finds comfort knowing nothing truly belonging to them is ever lost. It’s comforting that we share the same fate as the universe; the heavens are as mortal as our bodies. Nature has made us passive, and enduring is our reality. As long as we are alive, everyone carries their own burdens, though some may be lighter and easier to manage than others; those who take up their burdens and carry them are often more at peace than those who drag them along. We are born to lose and perish, to hope and fear, to trouble ourselves and others; and there is no remedy for common misfortune but virtue, for “the foundation of true joy is in the conscience.”
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CHAPTER VII.
A GOOD MAN CAN NEVER BE MISERABLE, NOR A WICKED MAN
HAPPY.
There is not in the scale of nature a more inseparable connection of cause and effect, than in the case of happiness and virtue; nor anything that more naturally produces the one, or more necessarily presupposes the other. For what is it to be happy, but for a man to content himself with his lot, in a cheerful and quiet resignation to the appointments of God? All the actions of our lives ought to be governed with respect to good and evil: and it is only reason that distinguishes; by which reason we are in such manner influenced, as if a ray of the Divinity were dipt in a mortal body, and that is the perfection of mankind. It is true, we have not the eyes of eagles or the sagacity of hounds: nor if we had, could we pretend to value ourselves upon anything which we have in common with brutes. What are we the better for that which is foreign to us, and may be given and taken away? As the beams of the sun irradiate the earth, and yet remain where they were; so is it in some proportion with a holy mind that illustrates all our actions, and yet it adheres to its original. Why do we not as well commend a horse for his glorious trappings, as a man for his pompous additions? How much a braver171 creature is a lion, (which by nature ought to be fierce and terrible) how much braver (I say) in his natural horror than in his chains? so that everything in its pure nature pleases us best. It is not health, nobility, riches, that can justify a wicked man: nor is it the want of all these that can discredit a good one. That is the sovereign blessing, which makes the possessor of it valuable without anything else, and him that wants it contemptible, though he had all the world besides. It is not the painting, gilding, or carving, that makes a good ship; but if she be a nimble sailer, tight and strong to endure the seas; that is her excellency. It is the edge and temper of the blade that makes a good sword, not the richness of the scabbard: and so it is not money or possessions, that makes a man considerable, but his virtue.
There’s no stronger link between cause and effect in nature than that between happiness and virtue; nothing else brings one about as naturally or requires the other so necessarily. To be happy means accepting your situation with a cheerful and calm resignation to God’s will. All our actions should be guided by what is good and evil, and it’s reason that helps us make that distinction. Reason influences us as if a spark of the divine is embodied in a human form, and that is what makes us human. It’s true we don’t have the keen eyesight of eagles or the instincts of hounds; and even if we did, we shouldn’t take pride in anything we share with animals. What benefit do we derive from things that are external and can be taken away? Just as sunlight brightens the earth while remaining in the sky, a pure mind enhances all our actions while staying true to its source. Why should we praise a horse for its extravagant decorations, just as we do a man for his lavish displays? A lion is a braver creature in its primal nature, which is fierce and formidable, compared to when it’s in captivity. Everything in its authentic state is most pleasing to us. Health, nobility, and wealth cannot redeem a wicked person, nor does the absence of these things diminish the worth of a good person. True value comes from that essential blessing, which makes its possessor valuable without needing anything else, while those who lack it are seen as worthless, no matter how much they have. It’s not adornments, gold, or intricate designs that define a good ship; it’s speed and strength to withstand the ocean that truly matter. A solid sword is about the edge and balance of the blade, not the luxury of the scabbard; similarly, it’s not wealth or possessions that make a man significant, but his virtue.
It is every man’s duty to make himself profitable to mankind—if he can, to many—if not, to fewer—if not so neither, to his neighbor—but, however, to himself. There are two republics: a great one, which is human nature; and a less, which is the place where we were born. Some serve both at a time, some only the greater, and some again only the less. The greater may be served in privacy, solitude, contemplation, and perchance that way better than any other; but it was the intent of Nature, however, that we should serve both. A good man may serve the public, his friend, and himself in any station: if he be not for the sword, let him take the gown; if the bar does not agree with him, let him try the pulpit; if he be silenced abroad, let him give counsel at home, and discharge the part of a faithful friend and a temperate companion. When he is no longer a citizen, he is yet a man; but the172 whole world is his country, and human nature never wants matter to work upon: but if nothing will serve a man in the civil government unless he be prime minister, or in the field but to command in chief, it is his own fault.
It’s every person’s responsibility to contribute to society—if they can, to many; if not, to a few; if that doesn’t work either, then at least to their neighbor—but ultimately, to themselves. There are two societies: a large one, which is human nature, and a smaller one, which is the place where we were born. Some people serve both at the same time, some serve only the larger one, and some only the smaller one. The larger can be served in private, in solitude, through contemplation, and perhaps even better that way than any other; but it was Nature’s intention that we should serve both. A good person can serve the public, their friend, and themselves in any role: if they aren’t suited for military service, they can take up law; if law isn’t for them, they can try preaching; if they cannot speak out publicly, they can offer guidance at home, acting as a loyal friend and a measured companion. When they are no longer a citizen, they are still a human being; the entire world is their home, and human nature always needs engagement: but if someone believes they can only contribute to the civil government as the prime minister, or in the military as a commander-in-chief, that’s their own limitation.
The common soldier where he cannot use his hands, fights with his looks, his example, his encouragement, his voice, and stands his ground even when he has lost his hands, and does service too with his very clamor, so that in any condition whatsoever, he still discharges the duty of a good patriot—nay, he that spends his time well even in a retirement, gives a great example.
The ordinary soldier, when he can’t use his hands, fights with his looks, his example, his encouragement, his voice, and holds his ground even after losing his hands. He serves with his very cries, so that in any situation, he still fulfills the duty of a good patriot—indeed, someone who uses their time wisely, even in retirement, sets a great example.
We may enlarge, indeed, or contract, according to the circumstances of time, place, or abilities; but above all things we must be sure to keep ourselves in action, for he that is slothful is dead even while he lives. Was there ever any state so desperate as that of Athens under the thirty tyrants—where it was capital to be honest, and the senate-house was turned into a college of hangmen? Never was any government so wretched and so hopeless; and yet Socrates at the same time preached temperance to the tyrants, and courage to the rest, and afterwards died an eminent example of faith and resolution, and a sacrifice for the common good.
We can expand or shrink our efforts based on the timing, location, or our skills; but above all, we need to stay active, because being lazy is like being dead even while you’re alive. Was there ever a situation as desperate as Athens under the thirty tyrants—where being honest was a death sentence, and the senate turned into a group of executioners? There has never been a government so miserable and hopeless; yet, at that time, Socrates was still teaching moderation to the tyrants and courage to everyone else, ultimately becoming a powerful symbol of faith and determination, sacrificing himself for the greater good.
It is not for a wise man to stand shifting and fencing with fortune, but to oppose her barefaced, for he is sufficiently convinced that she can do him no hurt; she may take away his servants, possessions, dignity, assault his body, put out his eyes, cut off his hands, and strip him of all the external comforts of life. But what does all this amount to more than the recalling of a trust which he has received, with condition to deliver it up again upon173 demand? He looks upon himself as precarious, and only lent to himself, and yet he does not value himself ever the less because he is not his own, but takes such care as an honest man should do of a thing that is committed to him in trust. Whensoever he that lent me myself and what I have, shall call for all back again, it is not a loss but a restitution, and I must willingly deliver up what most undeservedly was bestowed upon me, and it will become me to return my mind better than I received it.
A wise person doesn't waste time trying to negotiate with fate but instead faces it head-on, knowing it can't truly harm him. Fate might take away his servants, possessions, status, attack his body, blind him, cut off his hands, and strip him of all the comforts of life. But what does that really mean other than the recalling of a trust that was given to him under the condition that he’d return it when asked? He views himself as temporary, just borrowing his own existence, yet he doesn’t think any less of himself just because he isn’t truly his own. Instead, he takes care of himself like an honest person should for something that’s entrusted to him. Whenever the one who lent me myself and what I have calls for it all back, it’s not a loss but a return, and I must willingly give back what was so undeservedly given to me, making sure to return my mind in a better state than I received it.
Demetrius, upon the taking of Megara, asked Stilpo, the philosopher, what he had lost. “Nothing,” said he, “for I had all that I could call my own about me.” And yet the enemy had then made himself master of his patrimony, his children, and his country; but these he looked upon as only adventitious goods, and under the command of fortune. Now, he that neither lost any thing nor feared any thing in a public ruin, but was safe and at peace in the middle of the flames, and in the heat of a military intemperance and fury—what violence or provocation imaginable can put such a man as this out of the possession of himself? Walls and castles may be mined and battered, but there is no art or engine that can subvert a steady mind. “I have made my way,” says Stilpo, “through fire and blood—what has become of my children I know not; but these are transitory blessings, and servants that are bound to change their masters; what was my own before is my own still. Some have lost their estates, others their dear-bought mistresses, their commissions and offices: the usurers have lost their bonds and securities: but, Demetrius, for my part I have saved all, and do not174 imagine after all this, either that Demetrius is a conqueror, or that Stilpo is overcome—it is only thy fortune has been too hard for mine.”
Demetrius, after taking Megara, asked Stilpo, the philosopher, what he had lost. “Nothing,” he replied, “because I had everything I could truly call my own with me.” And yet the enemy had seized his property, his children, and his homeland; but he viewed these as just temporary possessions, subject to chance. Now, someone who neither lost anything nor feared anything during a public disaster, and remained safe and calm in the midst of chaos and military rage—what kind of violence or provocation could possibly take such a person out of their own mind? Walls and castles can be destroyed, but there's no way to shake a steady mind. “I’ve made it through fire and blood—what happened to my children, I don't know; but these are fleeting blessings, and possessions that are bound to change hands; what was mine before is still mine. Some have lost their wealth, others their cherished lovers, their ranks and jobs: the moneylenders have lost their loans and collateral: but, Demetrius, as for me, I have saved everything, and I don’t imagine after all this that Demetrius is a conqueror or that Stilpo is defeated—it's just that your fortune has prevailed over mine.”
Alexander took Babylon, Scipio took Carthage, the capitol was burnt; but there is no fire or violence that can discompose a generous mind; and let us not take this character either for a chimera, for all ages afford some, though not many, instances of this elevated virtue.
Alexander conquered Babylon, Scipio conquered Carthage, the capital was burned; but there’s no fire or violence that can shake a noble mind; and let’s not consider this trait as an illusion, because every age has some, though not many, examples of this high virtue.
A good man does his duty, let it be never so painful, so hazardous, or never so great a loss to him; and it is not all the money, the power, and the pleasure in the world; not any force of necessity, that can make him wicked: he considers what he is to do, not what he is to suffer, and will keep on his course, though there should be nothing but gibbets and torments in the way. And in this instance of Stilpo, who, when he had lost his country, his wife, his children, the town on fire over his head, himself escaping very hardly and naked out of the flames; “I have saved all my goods,” says he, “my justice, my courage, my temperance, my prudence;” accounting nothing his own, or valuable, and showing how much easier it was to overcome a nation than one wise man. It is a certain mark of a brave mind not to be moved by any accidents: the upper region of the air admits neither clouds nor tempests; the thunder, storms, and meteors, are formed below; and this is the difference betwixt a mean and an exalted mind; the former is rude and tumultuary; the latter is modest, venerable, composed, and always quiet in its station. In brief, it is the conscience that pronounces upon the man whether he be happy or miserable. But, though sacrilege and adultery be generally condemned, how many are there still that do175 not so much as blush at the one, and in truth that take a glory in the other? For nothing is more common than for great thieves to ride in triumph when the little ones are punished. But let “wickedness escape as it may at the bar, it never fails of doing justice upon itself; for every guilty person is his own hangman.”
A good person does their duty, no matter how painful, risky, or costly it may be. Money, power, and pleasure can’t make them do wrong; they focus on what they need to do, not what they might suffer, and they will stick to their path, even if it means facing nothing but gallows and torment along the way. Take Stilpo, for example, who lost his country, his wife, his children, and escaped from a burning town, barely making it out alive and naked from the flames. He said, “I have saved all my possessions; my justice, my courage, my self-control, my wisdom,” considering nothing else valuable or worthy of his own. He demonstrated how much easier it is to conquer a nation than to bring down one wise man. It’s a sure sign of a brave mind to remain unshaken by events: the higher sky has no clouds or storms; thunder, storms, and meteors are created below. This shows the difference between a mediocre and an elevated mind; the former is rough and chaotic, while the latter is humble, respectable, calm, and always steady in its position. In short, it’s the conscience that determines whether a person is happy or miserable. Yet, although sacrilege and adultery are generally condemned, how many people don’t even bat an eye at one and actually take pride in the other? It’s all too common for big thieves to celebrate while the small ones are punished. But no matter how wickedness may evade justice in court, it always ends up punishing itself; every guilty person is their own executioner.
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CHAPTER VIII.
THE DUE CONTEMPLATION OF DIVINE PROVIDENCE IS THE CERTAIN
CURE OF ALL MISFORTUNES.
Whoever observes the world, and the order of it, will find all the motions in it to be only vicissitudes of falling and rising; nothing extinguished, and even those things which seem to us to perish are in truth but changed. The seasons go and return, day and night follow in their courses, the heavens roll, and Nature goes on with her work: all things succeed in their turns, storms and calms; the law of Nature will have it so, which we must follow and obey, accounting all things that are done to be well done; so that what we cannot mend we must suffer, and wait upon Providence without repining. It is the part of a cowardly soldier to follow his commander groaning: but a generous man delivers himself up to God without struggling; and it is only for a narrow mind to condemn the order of the world, and to propound rather the mending of Nature than of himself. No man has any cause of complaint against Providence, if that which is right pleases him. Those glories that appear fair to the eye, their lustre is but false and superficial; and they are only vanity and delusion: they are rather the goods of a dream than a substantial possession: they may cozen us at a distance, but bring them once to the touch, they are rotten and counterfeit. There are no177 greater wretches in the world than many of those which the people take to be happy. Those are the only true and incorruptible comforts that will abide all trials, and the more we turn and examine them, the more valuable we find them; and the greatest felicity of all is, not to stand in need of any. What is poverty? No man lives so poor as he was born. What is pain? It will either have an end itself, or make an end of us. In short, Fortune has no weapon that reaches the mind: but the bounties of Providence are certain and permanent blessings; and they are the greater and the better, the longer we consider them; that is to say, “the power of contemning things terrible, and despising what the common people covet.” In the very methods of Nature we cannot but observe the regard that Providence had to the good of mankind, even in the disposition of the world, in providing so amply for our maintenance and satisfaction. It is not possible for us to comprehend what the Power is which has made all things: some few sparks of that Divinity are discovered, but infinitely the greater part of it lies hid. We are all of us, however, thus far agreed, first, in the acknowledgement and belief of that almighty Being; and, secondly, that we are to ascribe to it all majesty and goodness.
Whoever looks at the world and its order will see that all movements in it are just cycles of falling and rising; nothing truly disappears, and even what seems to perish is just transformed. The seasons come and go, day and night take their turn, the heavens move, and Nature keeps working: everything comes in its time, storms and calms; that’s how the law of Nature works, which we must accept and follow, considering everything that happens to be well done; so what we can’t change we must endure, waiting on Providence without complaining. It is the mark of a cowardly soldier to follow his leader while grumbling: but a noble person submits to God without resistance; it’s only a narrow-minded person who criticizes the order of the world and thinks more about fixing Nature than fixing themselves. No one has reason to complain about Providence if what is right brings them joy. Those beauties that seem appealing at first glance have a shine that is merely superficial; they are nothing but vanity and illusion: they’re more like the possessions of a dream than something real; they might trick us from afar, but once we get close, they turn out to be rotten and fake. There are no greater misfortunes in the world than many of those who people believe to be happy. The only true and lasting comforts can withstand all tests, and the more we examine them, the more precious we find them; the greatest happiness of all is not needing anything. What is **poverty**? No one is born poorer than they start. What is **pain**? It will either end on its own, or it will end us. In short, Fortune has no power over the mind: but the gifts of Providence are sure and lasting blessings; and they seem greater and better the more we reflect on them; that is to say, “the ability to disregard terrifying things and scorn what the masses desire.” In the very workings of Nature, we can’t help but notice the care that Providence has for humanity, even in how the world is arranged, making sure there’s plenty for our sustenance and satisfaction. We can’t fully grasp the Power that has created everything: we see a few sparks of that Divinity, but the vast majority remains hidden. However, we all agree on two points: first, the acknowledgment and belief in that almighty Being; and, second, that we should attribute all majesty and goodness to it.
“If there be a Providence,” say some, “how comes it to pass that good men labor under affliction and adversity, and wicked men enjoy themselves in ease and plenty?” My answer is, that God deals by us as a good father does by his children; he tries us, he hardens us, and fits us for himself. He keeps a strict hand over those that he loves; and by the rest he does as we do by our slaves; he lets them go on in license and boldness.
“If there is a higher power,” some say, “why do good people suffer through hardship and struggle while bad people live comfortably and without worry?” My response is that God treats us like a good parent treats their children; he tests us, toughens us, and prepares us for himself. He maintains a firm grip on those he loves, while with the others, he behaves like we do with our servants; he allows them to continue in their freedom and disregard.
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As the master gives his most hopeful scholars the hardest lessons, so does God deal with the most generous spirits; and the cross encounters of fortune we are not to look upon as a cruelty, but as a contest: the familiarity of dangers brings us to the contempt of them, and that part is strongest which is most exercised: the seaman’s hand is callous, the soldier’s arm is strong, and the tree that is most exposed to the wind takes the best root: there are people that live in a perpetual winter, in extremity of frost and penury, where a cave, a lock of straw, or a few leaves, is all their covering, and wild beasts their nourishment; all this by custom is not only made tolerable, but when it is once taken up upon necessity, by little and little, it becomes pleasant to them. Why should we then count that condition of life a calamity which is the lot of many nations? There is no state of life so miserable but that there are in it remissions, diversions, nay, and delights too; such is the benignity of Nature towards us, even in the severest accidents of human life. There were no living if adversity should hold on as it begins, and keep up the force of the first impression. We are apt to murmur at many things as great evils, that have nothing at all of evil in them besides the complaint, which we should more reasonably take up against ourselves. If I be sick, it is part of my fate; and for other calamities, they are usual things; they ought to be; nay, which is more, they must be, for they come by divine appointment. So that we should not only submit to God, but assent to him, and obey him out of duty, even if there were no necessity. All those terrible appearances that make us groan and tremble are but the tribute of life; we are neither to179 wish, nor to ask, nor to hope to escape them; for it is a kind of dishonesty to pay a tribute unwillingly. Am I troubled with the stone, or afflicted with continual losses? nay, is my body in danger? All this is no more than what I prayed for when I prayed for old age. All these things are as familiar in a long life, as dust and dirt in a long way. Life is a warfare; and what brave man would not rather choose to be in a tent than in shambles? Fortune does like a swordsman, she scorns to encounter a fearful man: there is no honor in the victory where there is no danger in the way to it; she tries Mucius by fire; Rutilius by exile; Socrates by poison; Cato by death.
As a teacher gives the toughest lessons to their most promising students, God treats the most generous individuals in the same way; we shouldn't view the challenges we face as cruelty but as a test. Facing dangers repeatedly helps us overcome our fear of them, and that which is practiced often becomes the strongest: a sailor's hands become tough, a soldier's arms grow strong, and a tree that faces the wind develops deep roots. There are people living in a constant winter, suffering extreme cold and poverty, where a cave, some straw, or a few leaves serve as their only shelter, and wild animals provide their food; through habit, this becomes not just bearable but, when accepted out of necessity, gradually becomes comfortable for them. So why should we see such a life as a calamity when many nations share it? No matter how miserable a situation may seem, there are always moments of relief, distraction, and even joy; such is nature's generosity towards us, even in life's harshest trials. We wouldn't survive if hardship continued as intensely as it starts, maintaining the initial impact. We tend to grumble about many things as if they are great misfortunes when, in reality, they only seem that way through our complaints, which we should better direct at ourselves. If I'm sick, it's part of my fate; and other troubles are common occurrences; they should be, and indeed must be, as they come by divine design. Therefore, we shouldn't just resign ourselves to God, but also agree with Him and follow His guidance out of duty, even if there wasn't a pressing need. All those frightening moments that make us sigh and tremble are simply life’s dues; we shouldn’t wish for, seek, or anticipate escaping them, as it is somewhat disingenuous to pay a tax begrudgingly. Am I suffering from kidney stones, or dealing with constant losses? Am I in physical danger? All of this is no more than what I wished for when I prayed for a long life. These trials are as familiar in a lengthy life as dirt on a long journey. Life is a battle; what brave person would choose to be in a slaughterhouse instead of a tent? Fortune behaves like a swordsman; she despises confronting a fearful person: there’s no glory in a victory that involves no risk. She tests Mucius with fire, Rutilius with exile, Socrates with poison, and Cato with death.
It is only in adverse fortune, and in bad times, that we find great examples. Mucius thought himself happier with his hand in the flame, than if it had been in the bosom of his mistress. Fabricius took more pleasure in eating the roots of his own planting than in all the delicacies of luxury and expense. Shall we call Rutilius miserable, whom his very enemies have adored? who, upon a glorious and a public principle, chose rather to lose his country than to return from banishment? the only man that denied any thing to Sylla the dictator, who recalled him. Nor did he only refuse to come, but drew himself further off: “Let them,” says he, “that think banishment a misfortune, live slaves at Rome, under the imperial cruelties of Sylla: he that sets a price upon the heads of senators; and after a law of his own institution against cut-throats, becomes the greatest himself.” Is it not better for a man to live in exile abroad than to be massacred at home? In suffering for virtue, it is not the torment but the cause, that we are to consider; and the more pain, the more renown. When any hardship befalls us,180 we must look upon it as an act of Providence, which many times suffers particulars to be wounded for the conservation of the whole: beside that, God chastises some people under an appearance of blessing them, turning their prosperity to their ruin as a punishment for abusing his goodness. And we are further to consider, that many a good man is afflicted, only to teach others to suffer; for we are born for example; and likewise that where men are contumacious and refractory, it pleases God many times to cure greater evils by less, and to turn our miseries to our advantage.
It's only during tough times and difficult situations that we find great examples. Mucius believed he was happier with his hand in the fire than if it were resting in his lover's embrace. Fabricius found more joy in eating the roots he’d planted himself than he did in all the fancy luxuries. Should we call Rutilius miserable, the very person his enemies admired? He chose to lose his country rather than return from exile based on a noble and public principle. He was the only one who denied anything to Sulla the dictator, who wanted to recall him. He didn’t just refuse to come back; he distanced himself further. “Let those,” he said, “who think exile is a misfortune, live as slaves in Rome under the brutal rule of Sulla; the man who puts a price on the heads of senators and, after making a law against murderers, becomes the worst of them himself.” Isn't it better for a man to live in exile abroad than to be slaughtered at home? In suffering for what is right, it’s not the pain we should focus on but the reason behind it; the more pain we endure, the more honor we gain. When hardships come our way, we should view them as acts of Providence, which often allows individuals to be hurt for the greater good. Plus, God sometimes punishes people while pretending to bless them, turning their success into their downfall because they misused his kindness. We should also keep in mind that many good people suffer just to teach others how to endure; we are born to be examples. And where people are willful and rebellious, it often pleases God to heal bigger problems through smaller trials and to turn our suffering into something beneficial.
How many casualties and difficulties are there that we dread as insupportable mischiefs, which, upon farther thoughts, we find to be mercies and benefits? as banishment, poverty, loss of relations, sickness, disgrace. Some are cured by the lance; by fire, hunger, thirst; taking out of bones, lopping off limbs, and the like: nor do we only fear things that are many times beneficial to us; but, on the other side, we hanker after and pursue things that are deadly and pernicious: we are poisoned in the very pleasure of our luxury, and betrayed to a thousand diseases by the indulging of our palate. To lose a child or a limb, is only to part with what we have received, and Nature may do what she pleases with her own. We are frail ourselves, and we have received things transitory—that which was given us may be taken away—calamity tries virtue as the fire does gold, nay, he that lives most at ease is only delayed, not dismissed, and his portion is to come. When we are visited with sickness or other afflictions we are not to murmur as if we were ill used—it is a mark of the general’s esteem when he181 puts us upon a post of danger: we do not say “My captain uses me ill,” but “he does me honor;” and so should we say that are commanded to encounter difficulties, for this is our case with God Almighty.
How many casualties and hardships do we fear as unbearable troubles, which, upon further reflection, we realize are actually blessings and advantages? Like exile, poverty, loss of loved ones, illness, and shame. Some are healed by surgery; by fire, hunger, thirst; extracting bones, amputating limbs, and so on. We not only fear things that can often be good for us, but on the flip side, we long for and chase after things that are harmful and destructive: we are poisoned by the very pleasures of our indulgence, and betrayed into countless diseases by overindulging our senses. Losing a child or a limb is merely parting with what we have been given, and Nature can do as she wishes with her own. We are inherently fragile, and we have received things that are fleeting—that which was given to us can be taken away—adversity tests virtue, just as fire tests gold. Indeed, the person who lives most comfortably is only being delayed, not exempted, and their moment will come. When we are faced with illness or other hardships, we shouldn’t complain as if we are being mistreated—it’s a sign of the general’s esteem when he places us in a position of risk: we don’t say “My captain treats me poorly,” but “he honors me;” and we should say the same about being commanded to face challenges, for this is our situation with God Almighty.
What was Regulus the worse, because Fortune made choice of him for an eminent instance both of faith and patience? He was thrown into a case of wood stuck with pointed nails, so that which way soever he turned his body, it rested upon his wounds; his eyelids were cut off to keep him waking; and yet Mecænas was not happier upon his bed than Regulus upon his torments. Nay, the world is not yet grown so wicked as not to prefer Regulus before Mecænas: and can any man take that to be an evil of which Providence accounted this brave man worthy? “It has pleased God,” says he, “to single me out for an experiment of the force of human nature.” No man knows his own strength or value but by being put to the proof. The pilot is tried in a storm; the soldier in a battle; the rich man knows not how to behave himself in poverty: he that has lived in popularity and applause, knows not how he would bear infamy and reproach: nor he that never had children how he would bear the loss of them. Calamity is the occasion of virtue, and a spur to a great mind. The very apprehension of a wound startles a man when he first bears arms; but an old soldier bleeds boldly, because he knows that a man may lose blood, and yet win the day. Nay, many times a calamity turns to our advantage; and great ruins have but made way to greater glories. The crying out of fire has many times quieted a fray, and the interposing of a wild beast has parted the thief and the traveller; for we are not at leisure for182 less mischiefs while we are under the apprehensions of greater. One man’s life is saved by a disease: another is arrested, and taken out of the way, just when his house was falling upon his head.
What was Regulus worse off for, just because Fortune chose him as a prominent example of both faith and patience? He was thrown into a case of wood with pointed nails, so that no matter how he turned his body, it pressed against his wounds. His eyelids were cut off to keep him awake; yet Mecænas was not happier in his bed than Regulus was in his torments. The world hasn’t yet become so wicked that it doesn’t prefer Regulus over Mecænas. And can anyone see that as an evil for which Providence deemed this brave man worthy? “It has pleased God,” he says, “to choose me as a test of the strength of human nature.” No one knows their own strength or worth until put to the test. The pilot is tested in a storm; the soldier in battle; the wealthy person doesn't know how to act in poverty; someone who has enjoyed popularity and praise doesn’t know how they would handle infamy and disgrace; nor does someone without children know how they would cope with losing them. Adversity brings out virtue and acts as a motivator for a great mind. The mere thought of being wounded frightens a person at first when they go into battle; but an experienced soldier bleeds bravely because they understand that a person can lose blood and still win the fight. Often, a hardship can turn to our advantage; and significant losses can pave the way for even greater triumphs. The shout of "fire" has often calmed a brawl, and a wild animal has intervened to separate a thief from a traveler; for we aren't focused on minor troubles when we are concerned with larger threats. One person’s life is saved by an illness; another is held back just as their house is about to collapse on them.
To show now that the favors or the crosses of fortune, and the accidents of sickness and of health, are neither good nor evil, God permits them indifferently both to good and evil men. “It is hard,” you will say, “for a virtuous man to suffer all sorts of misery, and for a wicked man not only to go free, but to enjoy himself at pleasure.” And is it not the same thing for men of prostituted impudence and wickedness to sleep in a whole skin, when men of honor and honesty bear arms; lie in the trenches, and receive wounds? or for the vestal virgins to rise in the night to their prayers, when common strumpets lie stretching themselves in their beds? We should rather say with Demetrius, “If I had known the will of Heaven before I was called to it, I would have offered myself.” If it be the pleasure of God to take my children, I have brought them up to that end: if my fortune, any part of my body, or my life, I would rather present it than yield it up: I am ready to part with all, and to suffer all; for I know that nothing comes to pass but what God appoints: our fate is decreed, and things do not so much happen, as in their due time proceed, and every man’s portion of joy and sorrow is predetermined.
To show that the ups and downs of fortune, as well as the events of sickness and health, are neither good nor bad, God allows them to affect both good and bad people alike. “It’s hard,” you might say, “for a virtuous person to endure all kinds of misery while a wicked person not only escapes but enjoys himself.” Isn’t it the same for shameless and wicked individuals to sleep soundly, while honorable and decent people fight in battles and get hurt? Or for the dedicated virgins to rise at night for their prayers while common women sleep in comfort? We should rather say, like Demetrius, “If I had known God’s will before I was called to it, I would have offered myself.” If it’s God’s will to take my children, I raised them for that purpose: if my fortune or any part of my body or my life is needed, I’d rather give it than surrender it. I’m ready to let go of everything and endure anything, because I know that nothing happens except what God ordains: our fate is set, and things don’t just happen; they unfold at the right time, and every person’s share of happiness and sorrow is predetermined.
There is nothing falls amiss to a good man that can be charged upon Providence; for wicked actions, lewd thoughts, ambitious projects, blind lusts, and insatiable avarice—against all these he is armed by the benefit of reason: and do we expect now that God should look to our luggage too? (I mean our183 bodies.) Demetrius discharged himself of his treasure as the clog and burden of his mind: shall we wonder then if God suffers that to befall a good man which a good man sometimes does to himself? I lose a son, and why not, when it may sometimes so fall out that I myself may kill him? Suppose he be banished by an order of state, is it not the same thing with a man’s voluntarily leaving his country never to return? Many afflictions may befall a good man, but no evil, for contraries will never incorporate—all the rivers in the world are never able to change the taste or quality of the sea. Prudence and religion are above accidents, and draw good out of every thing—affliction keeps a man in use, and makes him strong, patient, and hardy. Providence treats us like a generous father, and brings us up to labors, toils, and dangers; whereas the indulgence of a fond mother makes us weak and spiritless.
A good person shouldn't blame Providence for anything that goes wrong because wicked actions, lewd thoughts, ambitious plans, blind lust, and endless greed can all be countered by the gift of reason. Do we really think God should manage our baggage too? (I mean our 183 bodies.) Demetrius got rid of his wealth because it weighed heavily on his mind. So why should we be surprised if God allows a good person to face the same things they sometimes do to themselves? If I lose a son, why should I be surprised when it’s possible for me to be the one who causes it? If he is banished by a government order, isn't that just like someone choosing to leave their country forever? A good person may face many hardships, but they don’t experience true evil because opposites can never coexist—all the rivers in the world can’t change the taste or quality of the sea. Wisdom and faith rise above circumstances and find good in everything—struggles keep a person engaged and make them strong, patient, and resilient. Providence treats us like a caring father, leading us through work, challenges, and dangers, while the pampering of a doting mother can leave us weak and lifeless.
God loves us with a masculine love, and turns us loose to injuries and indignities: he takes delight to see a brave and a good man wrestling with evil fortune, and yet keeping himself upon his legs, when the whole world is in disorder about him. And are not we ourselves delighted, to see a bold fellow press with his lance upon a boar or lion? and the constancy and resolution of the action is the grace and dignity of the spectacle. No man can be happy that does not stand firm against all contingencies; and say to himself in all extremities, “I should have been content, if it might have been so or so, but since it is otherwise determined, God will provide better.” The more we struggle with our necessities, we draw the knot the harder, and the worse it is with us: and the more a bird flaps and flutters in184 the snare, the surer she is caught: so that the best way is to submit and lie still, under this double consideration, that “the proceedings of God are unquestionable, and his decrees are not to be resisted.”
God loves us with a strong, masculine love, and allows us to face injuries and humiliations: He takes pleasure in seeing a brave and good person battle against tough circumstances while remaining steady when everything around him is chaotic. Aren’t we also thrilled to see a daring person charge at a boar or lion? The determination and resolve shown in those moments is what makes the scene admirable and dignified. No one can be truly happy if they don’t stand firm against all challenges and tell themselves in difficult times, “I would have been fine if things had gone this way or that, but since it’s turned out differently, God will handle it.” The more we fight against our struggles, the tighter the knot becomes, making things worse for us: just as a bird that flaps and flutters in a trap is more likely to get caught. So, the best approach is to submit and remain still, keeping in mind that “the actions of God are beyond question, and His will cannot be challenged.”
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Now, to sum up what is already delivered, we have showed what happiness is, and wherein it consists: that it is founded upon wisdom and virtue; for we must first know what we ought to do, and then live according to that knowledge. We have also discoursed the helps of philosophy and precept toward a happy life; the blessing of a good conscience; that a good man can never be miserable, nor a wicked man happy; nor any man unfortunate that cheerfully submits to Providence. We shall now examine, how it comes to pass that, when the certain way to happiness lies so fair before us, men will yet steer their course on the other side, which as manifestly leads to ruin.
Now, to sum up what we've already discussed, we've shown what happiness is and what it consists of: that it is based on wisdom and virtue; because first, we need to know what we should do, and then live according to that knowledge. We've also talked about the benefits of philosophy and teachings for a happy life; the blessing of a clear conscience; that a good person can never be truly unhappy, nor can a bad person be happy; and that no one is unfortunate who willingly accepts what fate brings. Now we will explore why, despite having a clear path to happiness laid out before us, people still choose to go down a path that clearly leads to destruction.
There are some that live without any design at all, and only pass in the world like straws upon a river; they do not go, but they are carried. Others only deliberate upon the parts of life, and not upon the whole, which is a great error: for there is no disposing of the circumstances of it, unless we first propound the main scope. How shall any man take his aim without a mark? or what wind will serve him that is not yet resolved upon his port? We live as it were by chance, and by chance we are governed. Some there are that torment themselves186 afresh with the memory of what is past: “Lord! what did I endure? never was any man in my condition; everybody gave me over; my very heart was ready to break,” etc. Others, again, afflict themselves with the apprehension of evils to come; and very ridiculously: for the one does not now concern us, and the other not yet: beside that, there may he remedies for mischiefs likely to happen; for they give us warning by signs and symptoms of their approach. Let him that would be quiet take heed not to provoke men that are in power, but live without giving offence; and if we cannot make all great men our friends, it will suffice to keep them from being our enemies. This is a thing we must avoid, as a mariner would do a storm.
Some people live without any plan at all, just drifting through life like straws on a river; they don’t move forward, they just get carried along. Others only think about parts of life, not the whole picture, which is a significant mistake: you can't manage life's circumstances unless you first define your main goal. How can anyone aim for something without a target? Or what direction will guide him if he hasn’t decided on his destination? We live as if by chance, and chance ends up ruling us. Some people keep torturing themselves with memories of the past: “Oh! What did I go through? No one has ever faced what I faced; everyone gave up on me; my heart felt like it was breaking,” and so on. Others, on the other hand, stress about future problems, often in a silly way: because the former doesn’t concern us now, and the latter isn’t happening yet. Besides, there can be solutions for potential issues since they often give us signs and symptoms of their approach. If you want peace, be careful not to provoke those in power and try to live without causing offense; and while we may not be able to make all powerful people our friends, it’s enough to keep them from becoming our enemies. This is something we should avoid, just as a sailor would steer clear of a storm.
A rash seaman never considers what wind blows, or what course he steers, but runs at a venture, as if he would brave the rocks and the eddies; whereas he that is careful and considerate, informs himself beforehand where the danger lies, and what weather it is like to be: he consults his compass, and keeps aloof from those places that are infamous for wrecks and miscarriages; so does a wise man in the common business of life; he keeps out of the way from those that may do him hurt: but it is a point of prudence not to let them take notice that he does it on purpose; for that which a man shuns he tacitly condemns. Let him have a care also of listeners, newsmongers, and meddlers in other people’s matters; for their discourse is commonly of such things as are never profitable, and most commonly dangerous either to be spoken or heard.
A reckless sailor never pays attention to the wind or the direction he’s heading; he just goes for it, as if he’s challenging the rocks and strong currents. In contrast, someone who is careful and thoughtful finds out in advance where the risks are and what the weather might be like. He checks his compass and steers clear of areas known for shipwrecks and disasters. A wise person does the same in everyday life; he avoids situations that could hurt him. However, it’s smart not to let others realize he’s doing this on purpose, because whatever someone avoids, he silently criticizes. He should also be wary of listeners, gossipers, and meddlers in other people’s affairs, as their conversations often focus on things that are not only unhelpful but usually dangerous to talk about or hear.
Levity of mind is a great hindrance of repose, and the very change of wickedness is an addition to the wickedness itself; for it is inconstancy added to187 iniquity; we relinquish the thing we sought, and then we take it up again; and so divide our lives between our lust and our repentances. From one appetite we pass to another, not so much upon choice as for change; and there is a check of conscience that casts a damp upon all our unlawful pleasures, which makes us lose the day in expectation of the night, and the night itself for fear of the approaching light.
Having a lighthearted mindset can really disrupt our peace, and simply switching from one type of wrongdoing to another just adds to our overall wrongness; it’s more unpredictability piled on top of sin. We give up on what we wanted, only to pick it up again later, splitting our lives between our desires and our regrets. We jump from one craving to the next, not so much by choice but just for a change; and there’s a nagging feeling of guilt that puts a damper on all our forbidden pleasures, causing us to waste the day waiting for night, and to dread the night itself because of the coming dawn.187
Some people are never at quiet, others are always so, and they are both to blame: for that which looks like vivacity and industry in the one is only a restlessness and agitation; and that which passes in the other for moderation and reserve is but a drowsy and unactive sloth. Let motion and rest both take their turns, according to the order of Nature, which makes both the day and the night. Some are perpetually shifting from one thing to another; others, again, make their whole life but a kind of uneasy sleep: some lie tossing and turning until very weariness brings them to rest; others, again, I cannot so properly call inconstant as lazy. There are many proprieties and diversities of vice; but it is one never-failing effect of it to live displeased. We do all of us labor under inordinate desires; we are either timorous, and dare not venture, or venturing we do not succeed; or else we cast ourselves upon uncertain hopes, where we are perpetually solicitous, and in suspense. In this distraction we are apt to propose to ourselves things dishonest and hard; and when we have taken great pains to no purpose, we come then to repent of our undertakings: we are afraid to go on, and we can neither master our appetites nor obey them: we live and die restless and irresolute; and, which is worst of all,188 when we grow weary of the public, and betake ourselves to solitude for relief, our minds are sick and wallowing, and the very house and walls are troublesome to us; we grow impatient and ashamed of ourselves, and suppress our inward vexation until it breaks our heart for want of vent. This is it that makes us sour and morose, envious of others, and dissatisfied with ourselves; until at last, betwixt our troubles for other people’s successes and the despair of our own, we fall foul upon Fortune and the times, and get into a corner perhaps, where we sit brooding over our own disquiets. In these dispositions there is a kind of pruriginous fancy, that makes some people take delight in labor and uneasiness, like the clawing of an itch until the blood starts.
Some people are never calm, while others are always that way, and both are at fault: what seems like energy and hard work in one is really just restlessness and agitation, and what appears as moderation and self-control in the other is merely a dull and passive laziness. Let both movement and stillness take their turns, just as Nature intended, which gives us both day and night. Some are constantly jumping from one thing to another; others, instead, turn their entire life into a kind of uneasy sleep: some toss and turn until sheer exhaustion finally allows them to rest; others, I can't really call inconsistent but rather lazy. There are many forms and varieties of vice, but they all share the common result of living in dissatisfaction. We all struggle with excessive desires; we are either too scared to take risks or, when we do take risks, we don't succeed; or we cling to uncertain hopes, leaving us constantly anxious and in suspense. In this confusion, we tend to pursue dishonest and difficult things, and when we work hard for nothing, we end up regretting our efforts: we hesitate to continue, unable to control our cravings or obey them; we live and die restless and uncertain; and, worst of all,188 when we grow tired of society and seek solitude for relief, our minds are troubled and agitated, and even the very walls around us become bothersome; we grow impatient and ashamed of ourselves, suppressing our inner turmoil until it breaks our hearts for lack of an outlet. This is what makes us bitter and morose, envious of others, and dissatisfied with ourselves; eventually, caught between our worries over other people's successes and our own despair, we turn against Fortune and the times, and retreat into a corner where we brood over our own unrest. In these moods, there’s a kind of irritating desire that leads some people to take pleasure in toil and discomfort, like scratching an itch until it bleeds.
This is it that puts us upon rambling voyages; one while by land; but still disgusted with the present: the town pleases us to-day, the country to-morrow: the splendors of the court at one time, the horrors of a wilderness at another, but all this while we carry our plague about us; for it is not the place we are weary of, but ourselves. Nay, our weakness extends to everything; for we are impatient equally of toil and of pleasure. This trotting of the ring, and only treading the same steps over and over again, has made many a man lay violent hands upon himself. It must be the change of the mind, not of the climate, that will remove the heaviness of the heart; our vices go along with us, and we carry in ourselves the causes of our disquiets. There is a great weight lies upon us, and the bare shocking of it makes it the more uneasy; changing of countries, in this case, is not travelling, but wandering. We must keep on our course, if we would gain our journey’s end. “He that cannot live happily any189where, will live happily nowhere.” What is a man the better for travelling? as if his cares could not find him out wherever he goes? Is there any retiring from the fear of death, or of torments? or from those difficulties which beset a man wherever he is? It is only philosophy that makes the mind invincible, and places us out of the reach of fortune, so that all her arrows fall short of us. This it is that reclaims the rage of our lusts, and sweetens the anxiety of our fears. Frequent changing of places or councils, shows an instability of mind; and we must fix the body before we can fix the soul. We can hardly stir abroad, or look about us, without encountering something or other that revives our appetites. As he that would cast off an unhappy love avoids whatsoever may put him in mind of the person, so he that would wholly deliver himself from his beloved lusts must shun all objects that may put them in his head again, and remind him of them. We travel, as children run up and down after strange sights, for novelty, not profit; we return neither the better nor the sounder; nay, and the very agitation hurts us. We learn to call towns and places by their names, and to tell stories of mountains and of rivers; but had not our time been better spent in the study of wisdom and of virtue? in the learning of what is already discovered, and in the quest of things not yet found out? If a man break his leg, or strain his ankle, he sends presently for a surgeon to set all right again, and does not take horse upon it, or put himself on ship-board; no more does the change of place work upon our disordered minds than upon our bodies. It is not the place, I hope, that makes either an orator or a physician. Will any man ask upon the road, Pray, which is the way to prudence, to jus190tice, to temperance, to fortitude? No matter whither any man goes that carries his affections along with him. He that would make his travels delightful must make himself a temperate companion.
This is what leads us to wander around; sometimes on land, but always feeling dissatisfied with our current situation: the town might excite us today, while the countryside captivates us tomorrow; we admire the splendor of the court one moment, only to dread the wilds the next. Yet all along, we carry our own issues with us; it’s not the places we tire of, but ourselves. Our frustration extends to everything; we grow impatient with both work and pleasure. The repetitive cycle of treading the same path has driven many to despair. It’s not a change in location that will ease our hearts, but a change in mindset; our faults come along for the ride, and we bring the sources of our distress within us. A heavy burden weighs us down, and just shifting it doesn’t make it any lighter; switching countries doesn’t constitute travel, but rather aimless wandering. We need to stay the course if we want to reach our destination. “Someone who can’t find happiness anywhere will find it nowhere.” What does travel do for a person? Can their worries really be left behind wherever they go? Is there truly a way to escape fear of death, suffering, or the challenges that follow us everywhere? Only philosophy gives us the strength to face life's uncertainties, keeping us safe from life's misfortunes, so that all troubles seem distant. It calms our desires and soothes our fears. Constantly changing locations or opinions reveals a restless mind; we must settle our bodies before we can settle our souls. We can hardly explore or take in our surroundings without triggering our cravings. Just as someone trying to move on from an unhappy love avoids anything that reminds them of their ex, so too must someone seeking to free themselves from their destructive desires avoid all reminders. We travel like children chasing after new sights for fun, not for any real benefit; we don’t return improved or healthier; in fact, the constant movement often harms us. We learn to name towns and recount tales of mountains and rivers, but shouldn’t we have spent our time better studying wisdom and virtue? Shouldn’t we focus on what’s already known and search for what’s yet to be discovered? When someone breaks a leg or sprains an ankle, they call for a surgeon to fix it and don’t just hop on a horse or board a ship; likewise, a change of scenery doesn’t heal our troubled minds any more than it heals our bodies. I hope it’s not the location that makes someone a great orator or physician. Will anyone on the road ever ask, “Excuse me, which way leads to wisdom, justice, temperance, or courage?” It doesn’t matter where you go if you carry your feelings with you. To truly enjoy traveling, you must be a balanced and thoughtful companion.
A great traveller was complaining that he was never the better for his travels; “That is very true,” said Socrates, “because you travelled with yourself.” Now, had not he better have made himself another man than to transport himself to another place? It is no matter what manners we find anywhere; so long as we carry our own. But we have all of us a natural curiosity of seeing fine sights, and of making new discoveries, turning over antiquities, learning the customs of nations, etc. We are never quiet; to-day we seek an office, to-morrow we are sick of it. We divide our lives betwixt a dislike of the present and a desire of the future: but he that lives as he should, orders himself so, as neither to fear nor to wish for to-morrow; if it comes, it is welcome; but if not, there is nothing lost; for that which is come, is but the same over again with what is past. As levity is a pernicious enemy to quiet, so pertinacity is a great one too. The one changes nothing, the other sticks to nothing; and which of the two is the worse, may be a question. It is many times seen, that we beg earnestly for those things, which, if they were offered us, we would refuse; and it is but just to punish this easiness of asking with an equal facility of granting. There are some things we would be thought to desire, which we are so far from desiring that we dread them. “I shall tire you,” says one, in the middle of a tedious story. “Nay, pray be pleased to go on,” we cry, though we wish his tongue out at half-way: nay, we do not deal candidly even191 with God himself. We should say to ourselves in these cases, “This I have drawn upon myself. I could never be quiet until I had gotten this woman, this place, this estate, this honor, and now see what is come of it.”
A great traveler was complaining that his travels never made him any better. “That’s true,” said Socrates, “because you traveled with yourself.” Wouldn’t it have been better for him to change himself into a different person rather than just go to another place? It doesn’t matter what customs we encounter; we still carry our own. However, we all have a natural curiosity to see beautiful sights, make new discoveries, explore ancient things, learn different cultures, and so on. We are never satisfied; today we seek a job, and tomorrow we’re tired of it. We split our lives between disliking the present and wanting the future: but someone who lives as they should organizes their life so that they neither fear nor long for tomorrow; if it comes, that’s fine, but if not, it’s no loss because what has come is just a repeat of what has already happened. Just as being too carefree is a harmful enemy to peace, stubbornness is also a significant problem. One changes nothing, while the other sticks to nothing; it’s a question of which is worse. We often find ourselves desperately wanting things that we would refuse if they were offered to us, and it seems fair to punish this eagerness for asking with equal ease in granting. There are things we want to be thought of as desiring, which we actually fear. “I’ll wear you out,” someone says in the middle of a boring story. “Oh, please go on,” we say, even though we wish they’d stop halfway through. We aren’t even honest with God. In these situations, we should tell ourselves, “I brought this on myself. I could never be at peace until I got this woman, this job, this property, this honor, and now look at what it has led to.”
One sovereign remedy against all misfortunes is constancy of mind: the changing of parties and countenances looks as if a man were driven with the wind. Nothing can be above him that is above fortune. It is not violence, reproach, contempt, or whatever else from without, that can make a wise man quit his ground: but he is proof against calamities, both great and small: only our error is, that what we cannot do ourselves, we think nobody else can; so that we judge of the wise by the measures of the weak. Place me among princes or among beggars, the one shall not make me proud, nor the other ashamed. I can take as sound a sleep in a barn as in a palace, and a bundle of hay makes me as good a lodging as a bed of down. Should every day succeed to my wish, it should not transport me; nor would I think myself miserable if I should not have one quiet hour in my life. I will not transport myself with either pain or pleasure; but yet for all that, I could wish that I had an easier game to play, and that I were put rather to moderate my joys than my sorrows. If I were an imperial prince, I had rather take than be taken; and yet I would bear the same mind under the chariot of my conqueror that I had in my own. It is no great matter to trample upon those things that are most coveted or feared by the common people. There are those that will laugh upon the wheel, and cast themselves upon a certain death, only upon a transport of love, perhaps anger, avarice, or revenge; how much more then upon an192 instinct of virtue, which is invincible and steady! If a short obstinacy of mind can do this, how much more shall a composed and deliberate virtue, whose force is equal and perpetual.
One sure way to handle all challenges is by staying steady in your mind: switching sides and showing different faces makes it seem like a person is being pushed around by the wind. Nothing can be greater than a person who rises above luck. It's not external factors like violence, insults, or disdain that make a wise person abandon their ground; they can withstand both major and minor hardships. Our mistake is thinking that if we can't manage something, neither can anyone else; so we judge the wise based on the weak. Place me among royalty or among the poor, neither will make me arrogant, nor the other make me ashamed. I can sleep just as soundly in a barn as in a palace, and a pile of hay is as good a bed as a feather mattress. If every day went exactly as I wanted, it wouldn’t throw me off; nor would I consider myself unfortunate if I had to spend my life without a single peaceful hour. I won't let either pain or pleasure overwhelm me; however, I do wish I had an easier situation to deal with, and that I had to temper my happiness more than my sadness. If I were an emperor, I'd prefer to conquer rather than be conquered; yet I would maintain the same mindset under the wheels of my conqueror that I had in my own chariot. It's no big deal to look down on things that people usually desire or fear. There are those who will laugh through the chaos and throw themselves into certain death, driven by their passions of love, anger, greed, or revenge; so how much more resilient should the motivation of virtue be, which is strong and unwavering! If a brief stubbornness can achieve this, how much more will a calm and thoughtful virtue, which is powerful and enduring, accomplish?
To secure ourselves in this world, first, we must aim at nothing that men count worth the wrangling for. Secondly, we must not value the possession of any thing which even a common thief would think worth the stealing. A man’s body is no booty. Let the way be never so dangerous for robberies, the poor and the naked pass quietly. A plain-dealing sincerity of manners makes a man’s life happy, even in despite of scorn and contempt, which is every clear man’s fate. But we had better yet be contemned for simplicity than lie perpetually upon the torture of a counterfeit; provided that care be taken not to confound simplicity with negligence; and it is, moreover, an uneasy life that of a disguise; for a man to seem to be what he is not, to keep a perpetual guard upon himself, and to live in fear of a discovery. He takes every man that looks upon him for a spy, over and above the trouble of being put to play another man’s part. It is a good remedy in some cases for a man to apply himself to civil affairs and public business; and yet, in this state of life too, what betwixt ambition and calumny, it is hardly safe to be honest. There are, indeed, some cases wherein a wise man will give way; but let him not yield over easily neither; if he marches off, let him have a care of his honor, and make his retreat with his sword in his hand, and his face to the enemy. Of all others, a studious life is the least tiresome: it makes us easy to ourselves and to others, and gains us both friends and reputation.
To protect ourselves in this world, first, we should avoid chasing after things that people argue and fight over. Second, we shouldn’t value possessions that even a petty thief would want to steal. A person’s body is not a target. No matter how dangerous it is for thieves, the poor and the vulnerable move through life without fear. Being straightforward and sincere makes a person’s life happy, even in the face of scorn and contempt, which anyone honest will encounter. However, it’s better to be looked down upon for being simple than to constantly endure the pain of pretending to be someone else; as long as we don’t confuse simplicity with carelessness. Moreover, living a lie is uncomfortable; pretending to be someone you’re not requires constant vigilance and living in fear of being found out. You start to see everyone who looks at you as a spy, on top of the stress of playing someone else’s role. Sometimes it helps to get involved in public and civic duties; still, in this kind of life, with ambition and slander, being honest is often risky. There are indeed times when a wise person should adapt, but they shouldn’t give in too easily; if they decide to leave, they should protect their honor and retreat with their sword drawn, facing the enemy. Among all ways of living, a life dedicated to learning is the least exhausting: it brings us peace, benefits others, and earns us friends and respect.
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CHAPTER X.
HE THAT SETS UP HIS REST UPON CONTINGENCIES SHALL NEVER
BE QUIET.
Never pronounce any man happy that depends upon fortune for his happiness; for nothing can be more preposterous than to place the good of a reasonable creature in unreasonable things. If I have lost any thing, it was adventitious; and the less money, the less trouble; the less favor, the less envy; nay, even in those cases that put us out of their wits, it is not the loss itself, but the opinion of the loss, that troubles us. It is a common mistake to account those things necessary that are superfluous, and to depend upon fortune for the felicity of life, which arises only from virtue. There is no trusting to her smiles; the sea swells and rages in a moment, and the ships are swallowed at night, in the very place where they sported themselves in the morning. And fortune has the same power over princes that it has over empires, over nations that it has over cities, and the same power over cities that it has over private men. Where is that estate that may not be followed upon the heel with famine and beggary? that dignity which the next moment may not be laid in the dust? that kingdom that is secure from desolation and ruin? The period of all things is at hand, as well that which casts out the fortunate as the other that delivers the unhappy;194 and that which may fall out at any time may fall out this very day. What shall come to pass I know not, but what may come to pass I know: so that I will despair of nothing, but expect everything; and whatsoever Providence remits is clear gain. Every moment, if it spares me, deceives me; and yet in some sort it does not deceive me; for though I know that any thing may happen, yet I know likewise that everything will not. I will hope the best, and provide for the worst. Methinks we should not find so much fault with Fortune for her inconstancy when we ourselves suffer a change every moment that we live; only other changes make more noise, and this steals upon us like the shadow upon a dial, every jot as certainly, but more insensibly.
Never call any man happy who relies on luck for his happiness, because it’s absurd to base the well-being of a rational being on unreasonable things. If I’ve lost something, it was by chance; and the less money, the less trouble; the less favor, the less jealousy. Even in those situations that drive us crazy, it’s not the loss itself that troubles us, but our perception of the loss. It’s a common mistake to consider unnecessary things as essential and to depend on luck for the happiness of life, which comes only from virtue. You can't rely on her smiles; the sea can rise and rage in an instant, and ships can be swallowed at night in the very spot where they were safe in the morning. And luck has the same power over kings as it does over empires, over nations as it does over cities, and the same power over cities as it does over ordinary people. Is there any fortune that isn’t followed closely by hunger and poverty? Is there any position that can’t be reduced to ashes in the next moment? Is there any kingdom safe from disaster and ruin? The end of all things is coming soon, affecting both the fortunate and the unfortunate; and what could happen at any time might happen today. What will happen, I don’t know, but I know what could happen: so I won’t despair, but rather expect everything; and whatever Providence allows is clear gain. Every moment that spares me deceives me; but in a way, it doesn’t deceive me, because although I know anything can happen, I also know that not everything will. I will hope for the best and prepare for the worst. I think we shouldn’t criticize Fortune so much for her unpredictability when we ourselves experience change every moment we live; it’s just that other changes make more noise, while this one sneaks up on us like a shadow on a sundial—just as surely, but more subtly.
The burning of Lyons may serve to show us that we are never safe, and to arm us against all surprises. The terror of it must needs be great, for the calamity is almost without example. If it had been fired by an enemy, the flame would have left some further mischief to have been done by the soldiers; but to be wholly consumed, we have not heard of many earthquakes so pernicious: so many rarities to be destroyed in one night; and in the depth of peace to suffer an outrage beyond the extremity of war; who would believe it? but twelve hours betwixt so fair a city and none at all! It was laid in ashes in less time than it would require to tell the story.
The burning of Lyons shows us that we are never truly safe and prepares us for unexpected events. The horror of it must be immense, as the disaster is nearly unmatched. If an enemy had set the fire, there would have been more destruction left for the soldiers to cause; however, to be completely destroyed, we haven't heard of many earthquakes as devastating: so many unique things wiped out in just one night; and in the middle of peace to endure an assault worse than anything in war; who would believe it? Just twelve hours separated such a beautiful city from nothing at all! It was turned to ashes in less time than it would take to tell the tale.
To stand unshaken in such a calamity is hardly to be expected, and our wonder can but be equal to our grief. Let this accident teach us to provide against all possibilities that fall within the power of fortune. All external things are under her dominion: one while she calls our hands to her assistance; another195 while she contents herself with her own force, and destroys us with mischiefs of which we cannot find the author. No time, place, or condition, is excepted; she makes our very pleasures painful to us; she makes war upon us in the depth of peace, and turns the means of our security into an occasion of fear; she turns a friend into an enemy, and makes a foe of a companion; we suffer the effects of war without any adversary; and rather than fail, our felicity shall be the cause of our destruction. Lest we should either forget or neglect her power, every day produces something extraordinary. She persecutes the most temperate with sickness, the strongest constitutions with the phthisis; she brings the innocent to punishment, and the most retired she assaults with tumults. Those glories that have grown up with many ages, with infinite labor and expense, and under the favor of many auspicious providences, one day scatters and brings to nothing. He that pronounced a day, nay, an hour, sufficient for the destruction of the greatest empire, might have fallen to a moment.
To remain steady in the face of such a disaster is hardly reasonable, and our amazement can only match our sorrow. Let this event remind us to prepare for all scenarios that fortune can throw our way. All external things are under her control: one moment she calls on us for help; the next, she relies on her own power and wreaks havoc on us with misfortunes that have no clear source. No time, place, or situation is safe; she can make our very joys feel painful; she attacks us even when we’re at peace and turns our sources of security into reasons for fear; she can transform a friend into an enemy and make an ally into a rival; we experience the effects of conflict without any visible opponent; and our happiness can lead to our downfall. To ensure we don’t forget or neglect her power, something extraordinary happens every day. She afflicts even the calmest with illness, and the strongest with tuberculosis; she punishes the innocent and disrupts the most secluded with chaos. Those achievements that took countless years to build, with immense effort and resources, can be scattered and reduced to nothing in a single day. The one who declared that even a single hour could be enough to destroy the greatest empire could find that a moment is all it takes.
It were some comfort yet to the frailty of mankind and of human affairs, if things might but decay as slowly as they rise; but they grow by degrees, and they fall to ruin in an instant. There is no felicity in anything either private or public; men, nations, and cities, have all their fates and periods; our very entertainments are not without terror, and our calamity rises there where we least expect it. Those kingdoms that stood the shock both of foreign wars and civil, come to destruction without the sight of an enemy. Nay, we are to dread our peace and felicity more than violence, because we are here taken unprovided; unless in a state of peace we do the196 duty of men in war, and say to ourselves, Whatsoever may be, will be. I am to-day safe and happy in the love of my country; I am to-morrow banished: to-day in pleasure, peace, health; to-morrow broken upon a wheel, led in triumph, and in the agony of sickness. Let us therefore prepare for a shipwreck in the port, and for a tempest in a calm. One violence drives me from my country, another ravishes that from me; and that very place where a man can hardly pass this day for a crowd may be to-morrow a desert. Wherefore let us set before our eyes the whole condition of human nature, and consider as well what may happen as what commonly does. The way to make future calamities easy to us in the sufferance, is to make them familiar to us in the contemplation. How many cities in Asia, Achaia, Assyria, Macedonia, have been swallowed up by earthquakes? nay, whole countries are lost, and large provinces laid under water; but time brings all things to an end; for all the works of mortals are mortal; all possessions and their possessors are uncertain and perishable; and what wonder is it to lose anything at any time, when we must one day lose all?
It would be somewhat comforting to the weakness of humanity and human affairs if things could only deteriorate as slowly as they rise. But they gradually grow and then fall apart in an instant. There's no happiness in anything, whether private or public; people, nations, and cities all have their destinies and timelines. Even our pleasures come with anxiety, and our misfortunes strike where we least expect them. Those kingdoms that withstand both foreign wars and civil strife face destruction without seeing an enemy. In fact, we should fear our peace and happiness more than violence because we are caught off guard. Unless we act in peacetime as if we're prepared for war and remind ourselves, Whatever may be, will be, we remain vulnerable. Today, I feel safe and loved by my country; tomorrow, I could be exiled: today, I'm enjoying pleasures, peace, and health; tomorrow, I could be tortured, paraded in shame, and suffering from illness. So, let’s be ready for a shipwreck at port and for a storm during a calm. One act of violence drives me from my homeland, while another takes it from me; and the very place that’s crowded today could be a wasteland tomorrow. Therefore, let’s keep the entire nature of humanity in mind and consider both what could happen and what usually does. The way to make future suffering easier to endure is to think about it beforehand. How many cities in Asia, Achaia, Assyria, and Macedonia have been lost to earthquakes? Entire countries have disappeared, and vast provinces have submerged underwater. But time brings everything to an end; all human endeavors are temporary; all possessions and their owners are uncertain and fleeting. So, why should it be surprising to lose anything at any time when we will eventually lose everything?
That which we call our own is but lent us; and what we have received gratis we must return without complaint. That which Fortune gives us this hour she may take away the next; and he that trusts to her favors, shall either find himself deceived, or if he be not, he will at least be troubled, because he may be so. There is no defence in walls, fortifications, and engines, against the power of fortune; we must provide ourselves within, and when we are safe there, we are invincible; we may be battered, but not taken. She throws her gifts among us, and we sweat and scuffle for them, never considering how197 few are the better for that which is expected by all. Some are transported with what they get; others tormented for what they miss; and many times there is a leg or an arm broken in a contest for a counter. She gives us honors, riches, favors, only to take them away again, either by violence or treachery: so that they frequently turn to the damage of the receiver. She throws out baits for us, and sets traps as we do for birds and beasts; her bounties are snares and lime-twigs to us; we think that we take, but we are taken. If they had any thing in them that was substantial, they would some time or other fill and quiet us; but they serve only to provoke our appetite without anything more than pomp and show to allay it. But the best of it is, if a man cannot mend his fortune, he may yet mend his manners, and put himself so far out of her reach, that whether she gives or takes, it shall be all one to us; for we are neither the greater for the one, nor the less for the other. We call this a dark room, or that a light one; when it is in itself neither the one nor the other, but only as the day and the night render it. And so it is in riches, strength of body, beauty, honor, command: and likewise in pain, sickness, banishment, death: which are in themselves middle and indifferent things, and only good or bad as they are influenced by virtue. To weep, lament, and groan, is to renounce our duty; and it is the same weakness on the other side to exult and rejoice. I would rather make my fortune than expect it; being neither depressed with her injuries, nor dazzled with her favors. When Zeno was told, that all his goods were drowned; “Why then,” says he, “Fortune has a mind to make me a philosopher.” It is a great matter for a man to advance198 his mind above her threats or flatteries; for he that has once gotten the better of her is safe forever.
What we consider our own is just something borrowed; and what we’ve received for free, we must give back without complaint. What Fortune gives us now, she may take away next minute; and anyone who relies on her favors will either find himself disappointed, or even if he doesn’t, he will at least be anxious because he could be. There’s no protection in walls, fortifications, or weapons against the power of fortune; we need to prepare ourselves internally, and when we feel secure inside, we are unstoppable; we may be battered, but we won’t be captured. She tosses her gifts among us, and we sweat and fight for them, never considering how few actually benefit from what everyone expects. Some are ecstatic about what they receive; others are tormented by what they miss; and often, someone ends up with a broken arm or leg in a struggle for a trinket. She gives us honors, wealth, and favors, only to take them back again, either through violence or deceit, often resulting in harm to the receiver. She dangles bait in front of us and sets traps like we do for birds and animals; her gifts are snares and sticky traps for us; we think we're gaining, but we’re actually trapped. If there were anything substantial about these gifts, they would eventually satisfy us, but they only serve to stir our desire without offering anything real to satisfy it. Ultimately, if a person cannot change his fortune, he can at least improve his character, putting himself out of her reach so that whether she gives or takes doesn’t matter to us; we are neither better with one nor worse with the other. We label this room dark or that one light, when in reality they are neither; it’s just how day and night make them appear. The same goes for wealth, physical strength, beauty, honor, or power; and for pain, illness, exile, and death: these are neutral on their own, and they are simply good or bad based on how they are influenced by virtue. To cry, mourn, and complain is to abandon our duty; and it’s just as weak to celebrate and rejoice. I would rather create my own fortune than wait for it; neither feeling defeated by her blows nor dazzled by her gifts. When Zeno was told that all his possessions were lost in a flood, he replied, “Well then, Fortune wants to make me a philosopher.” It’s a big deal for someone to elevate their mindset above her threats or flattery; for once a person has conquered her, they are safe forever.
It is some comfort yet to the unfortunate, that great men lie under the lash for company; and that death spares the palace no more than the cottage, and that whoever is above me has a power also above him. Do we not daily see funerals without trouble, princes deposed, countries depopulated, towns sacked; without so much as thinking how soon it may be our own case? whereas, if we would but prepare and arm ourselves against the iniquities of fortune, we should never be surprised.
It’s somewhat comforting for the unfortunate that great people also face hardships; death doesn’t spare the palace any more than the cottage, and whoever is above me has someone above them as well. Don’t we see funerals every day without much thought—deposed princes, empty nations, looted towns—without even considering how quickly it could be our turn? If we just prepared and armed ourselves against the unfairness of fate, we would never be caught off guard.
When we see any man banished, beggared, tortured, we are to account, that though the mischief fell upon another, it was levelled at us. What wonder is it if, of so many thousands of dangers that are constantly hovering about us, one comes to hit us at last? That which befalls any man, may befall every man; and then it breaks the force of a present calamity to provide against the future. Whatsoever our lot is, we must bear it: as suppose it be contumely, cruelty, fire, sword, pains, diseases, or a prey to wild beasts; there is no struggling, nor any remedy but moderation. It is to no purpose to bewail any part of our life, when life itself is miserable throughout; and the whole flux of it only a course of transition from one misfortune to another.
When we see someone getting banished, impoverished, or tortured, we should understand that even though the harm has happened to someone else, it was aimed at us. Why should we be surprised if, among the countless dangers that are always around us, one eventually strikes us? What happens to one person can happen to anyone; and it helps ease the weight of a current misfortune to prepare for the future. Regardless of what our situation is, we have to deal with it: whether it’s humiliation, cruelty, fire, sword, pain, illness, or being preyed upon by wild animals; there’s no fighting it, and the only solution is to stay calm. There's no point in lamenting any part of our lives when life itself is miserable overall; the whole experience is just a series of transitions from one misfortune to the next.
A man may as well wonder that he should be cold in winter, sick at sea, or have his bones clatter together in a wagon, as at the encounter of ill accidents and crosses in the passage of human life; and it is in vain to run away from fortune, as if there were any hiding-place wherein she could not find us; or to expect any quiet from her; for she makes life a perpetual state of war, without so much as any199 respite or truce. This we may conclude upon, that her empire is but imaginary, and that whosoever serves her, makes himself a voluntary slave; for “the things that are often contemned by the inconsiderate, and always by the wise, are in themselves neither good nor evil:” as pleasure and pains; prosperity and adversity; which can only operate upon our outward condition, without any proper and necessary effect upon the mind.
A man might as well be surprised that he feels cold in winter, gets sick at sea, or has his bones rattled in a wagon as to encounter bad luck and challenges in life; and it’s pointless to try to escape fortune as if there were a hiding place where she couldn’t find us; or to hope for any peace from her, because she turns life into a constant battle, without any break or truce. We can conclude that her power is just an illusion, and whoever serves her becomes a willing slave; for “the things that are often disregarded by the thoughtless, and always by the wise, are neither good nor evil in themselves:” like pleasure and pain; success and failure; which only affect our external situation, without having any actual and necessary impact on the mind.
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A SENSUAL LIFE IS A MISERABLE LIFE.
The sensuality that we here treat of falls naturally under the head of luxury; which extends to all the excesses of gluttony, lust, effeminacy of manners; and, in short, to whatsoever concerns the overgreat care of the carcass.
The sensuality we're discussing naturally falls into the category of luxury, which includes all the excesses of overeating, desire, and excessive indulgence in behavior; in short, anything that relates to an excessive focus on physical pleasure.
To begin now with the pleasures of the palate, (which deal with us like Egyptian thieves, that strangle those they embrace), what shall we say of the luxury of Nomentanus and Apicius, that entertained their very souls in the kitchen: they have the choicest music for their ears; the most diverting spectacles for their eyes; the choicest variety of meats and drinks for their palates. What is all this, I say, but a merry madness? It is true, they have their delights, but not without heavy and anxious thoughts, even in their very enjoyments, beside that, they are followed with repentance, and their frolics are little more than the laughter of so many people out of their wits. Their felicities are full of disquiet, and neither sincere nor well grounded: but they have need of one pleasure to support another; and of new prayers to forgive the errors of their former. Their life must needs be wretched that get with great pains what they keep with greater.
To start with the pleasures of the palate, (which treat us like Egyptian thieves, who strangle those they embrace), what can we say about the luxury of Nomentanus and Apicius, who indulged their very souls in the kitchen? They have the best music for their ears; the most entertaining spectacles for their eyes; and the finest variety of foods and drinks for their taste. What is all this, I ask, but a merry madness? It's true they have their delights, but not without heavy and anxious thoughts, even in their enjoyment. Moreover, they are followed by regret, and their fun is little more than the laughter of people out of their minds. Their happiness is filled with unrest, and neither genuine nor stable: they need one pleasure to support another; and new prayers to atone for the mistakes of the past. Their life must be miserable if they struggle to obtain what they then have to work even harder to keep.
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One diversion overtakes another; hope excites hope; ambition begets ambition; so that they only change the matter of their miseries, without seeking any end of them; and shall never be without either prosperous or unhappy causes of disquiet. What if a body might have all the pleasures in the world for the asking? who would so much unman himself, as by accepting of them, to desert his soul, and become a perpetual slave to his senses? Those false and miserable palates, that judge of meats by the price and difficulty, not by the healthfulness of taste, they vomit that they may eat, and they eat that they may fetch it up again. They cross the seas for rarities, and when they have swallowed them, they will not so much as give them time to digest. Wheresoever Nature has placed men, she has provided them aliment: but we rather choose to irritate hunger by expense than to allay it at an easier rate.
One distraction follows another; hope sparks more hope; ambition breeds ambition; so they only change the type of their troubles, without looking for any end to them; and they will never be without either good or bad causes of unrest. What if someone could have all the pleasures in the world just by asking? Who would be so foolish as to accept them, abandoning their soul and becoming a perpetual slave to their senses? Those deceptive and miserable taste buds that evaluate food by its price and rarity instead of how healthy it is make themselves sick just to eat, and they eat just to throw it up again. They travel the seas for exotic foods, and once they consume them, they won't even give them time to digest. Wherever Nature has placed people, she has provided them with nourishment: but we prefer to aggravate our hunger through expense rather than satisfy it in a simpler way.
What is it that we plow the seas for; or arm ourselves against men and beasts? To what end do we toil, and labor, and pile bags upon bags? We may enlarge our fortunes, but we cannot our bodies; so that it does but spill and run over, whatsoever we take more than we can hold. Our forefathers (by the force of whose virtues we are now supported in our vices) lived every jot as well as we, when they provided and dressed their own meat with their own hands; lodged upon the ground, and were not as yet come to the vanity of gold and gems; when they swore by their earthen gods, and kept their oath, though they died for it.
What are we out at sea for, or gearing up against people and animals? What’s the point of all our hard work, piling up bags and bags? We might increase our wealth, but we can’t grow our bodies; it just spills over no matter how much we take beyond what we can actually carry. Our ancestors (whose virtues we now rely on while living in our vices) lived just as well as we do when they hunted and prepared their own food by hand; they slept on the ground and hadn’t yet fallen into the trap of gold and jewels; when they worshiped their clay idols and kept their promises, even if it cost them their lives.
Did not our consuls live more happily when they cooked their own meat with those victorious hands that had conquered so many enemies and won so many laurels? Did they not live more happily, I202 say, than our Apicius (that corrupter of youth, and plague of the age he lived in) who, after he had spent a prodigious fortune upon his belly, poisoned himself for fear of starving, when he had yet 250,000 crowns in his coffers? which may serve to show us, that it is the mind, and not the sum, that makes any man rich; when Apicius with all his treasure counted himself in a state of beggary, and took poison to avoid that condition, which another would have prayed for. But why do we call it poison, which was the wholesomest draught of his life? His daily gluttony was poison rather, both to himself and others. His ostentation of it was intolerable; and so was the infinite pains he took to mislead others by his example, who went even fast enough of themselves without driving.
Did our consuls not live more happily when they cooked their own meals with those victorious hands that had defeated so many enemies and earned so many honors? Did they not live more happily, I say, than our Apicius (that corruptor of youth and plague of his time) who, after spending a massive fortune on his indulgence, poisoned himself for fear of starving, even when he still had 250,000 crowns in his vault? This shows us that it's the mind, not the amount of money, that makes someone truly rich; when Apicius, with all his wealth, considered himself in a state of poverty and took poison to escape that fate, which another person might have wished for. But why do we call it poison, when it was the healthiest drink of his life? His daily gluttony was the real poison, both to himself and to others. His showiness was unbearable, as was the tremendous effort he made to mislead others by his example, who were already overspending without any encouragement.
It is a shame for a man to place his felicity in those entertainments and appetites that are stronger in brutes. Do not beasts eat with a better stomach? Have they not more satisfaction in their lusts? And they have not only a quicker relish of their pleasures, but they enjoy them without either scandal or remorse. If sensuality were happiness, beasts were happier than men; but human felicity is lodged in the soul, not in the flesh. They that deliver themselves up to luxury are still either tormented with too little, or oppressed with too much; and equally miserable, by being either deserted or overwhelmed: they are like men in a dangerous sea; one while cast a-dry upon a rock, and another while swallowed up in a whirlpool; and all this from the mistake of not distinguishing good from evil. The huntsman, that with which labor and hazard takes a wild beast, runs as great a risk afterwards in the keeping of him; for many times he tears out the throat of his203 master; and it is the same thing with inordinate pleasures: the more in number, and the greater they are, the more general and absolute a slave is the servant of them. Let the common people pronounce him as happy as they please, he pays his liberty for his delights, and sells himself for what he buys.
It's a shame for a man to find his happiness in pleasures and desires that are stronger in animals. Don’t beasts eat with a better appetite? Do they not find more satisfaction in their desires? They not only enjoy their pleasures more quickly, but they also experience them without shame or guilt. If sensuality were true happiness, animals would be happier than humans; however, human happiness is rooted in the soul, not in the body. Those who indulge in luxury are often tormented by not having enough or overwhelmed by having too much; they are equally miserable, either feeling abandoned or overloaded. They are like men at sea, sometimes stranded on a rock, other times pulled under by a whirlpool—all because they fail to distinguish between good and evil. The hunter who catches a wild beast through effort and risk faces just as much danger in keeping it, as many times it can turn against its master. The same goes for unchecked pleasures: the more they are, and the larger they are, the more completely the person is enslaved by them. Let the masses call him happy as they wish; he sacrifices his freedom for his pleasures and sells his soul for what he buys.
Let any man take a view of our kitchens, the number of our cooks, and the variety of our meats; will he not wonder to see so much provision made for one belly? We have as many diseases as we have cooks or meats; and the service of the appetite is the study now in vogue. To say nothing of our trains of lackeys, and our troops of caterers and sewers: Good God! that ever one belly should employ so many people! How nauseous and fulsome are the surfeits that follow these excesses? Simple meats are out of fashion, and all are collected into one; so that the cook does the office of the stomach; nay, and of the teeth too; for the meat looks as if it were chewed beforehand: here is the luxury of all tastes in one dish, and liker a vomit than a soup. From these compounded dishes arise compounded diseases, which require compounded medicines. It is the same thing with our minds that it is with our tables; simple vices are curable by simple counsels, but a general dissolution of manners is hardly overcome; we are overrun with a public as well as with a private madness. The physicians of old understood little more than the virtue of some herbs to stop blood, or heal a wound; and their firm and healthful bodies needed little more before they were corrupted by luxury and pleasure; and when it came to that once, their business was not to allay hunger, but to provoke it by a thousand inventions and sauces. That which was aliment to a craving204 stomach is become a burden to a full one. From hence came paleness, trembling, and worse effects from crudities than famine; a weakness in the joints, the belly stretched, suffusion of choler, the torpor of the nerves, and a palpitation of the heart. To say nothing of megrims, torments of the eyes and ears, head-ache, gout, scurvy, several sorts of fevers and putrid ulcers, with other diseases that are but the punishment of luxury. So long as our bodies were hardened with labor, or tired with exercise or hunting, our food was plain and simple; many dishes have made many diseases.
Let anyone take a look at our kitchens, the number of our cooks, and the variety of our meats. Won't they be amazed at how much is prepared for just one stomach? We have as many illnesses as we have cooks or dishes; satisfying our appetites is the latest trend. Not to mention our countless servants and our armies of caterers and servers: Good God! that one stomach should require so many people! How disgusting and excessive are the aftereffects of these indulgences? Simple foods have gone out of style, and everything is mixed together, so the cook takes on the role of the stomach; in fact, even the teeth, since the food looks like it’s been chewed beforehand: this is a blend of all flavors in one dish, more like vomit than soup. From these complicated dishes come complicated diseases, which need complicated treatments. It’s the same with our minds as it is with our tables; simple wrongdoings can be fixed with simple advice, but a widespread breakdown of morals is hard to overcome; we are overwhelmed by both public and private madness. Ancient physicians understood little beyond the healing properties of some herbs for stopping blood or treating wounds; their strong, healthy bodies didn’t require much more before being weakened by luxury and pleasure. Once that began, their role was not to curb hunger but to increase it with endless inventions and sauces. What once fed a hungry stomach has become a burden to a full one. From this came pallor, trembling, and worse effects from indigestibles than from starvation; a weakness in the joints, a bloated stomach, jaundice, nerve paralysis, and heart palpitations. Not to mention migraines, eye and ear pains, headaches, gout, scurvy, various fevers, and festering sores, along with other maladies that are simply the consequences of indulgence. As long as our bodies were toughened by hard work or tired from exercise or hunting, our food was plain and simple; many dishes have led to many diseases.
It is an ill thing for a man not to know the measure of his stomach, nor to consider that men do many things in their drink that they are ashamed of sober; drunkenness being nothing else but a voluntary madness. It emboldens men to do all sorts of mischiefs; it both irritates wickedness and discovers it; it does not make men vicious, but it shows them to be so. It was in a drunken fit that Alexander killed Clytus. It makes him that is insolent prouder, him that is cruel fiercer, it takes away all shame. He that is peevish breaks out presently into ill words and blows. The lecher, without any regard to decency or scandal, turns up his whore in the market-place. A man’s tongue trips, his head runs round, he staggers in his pace. To say nothing of the crudities and diseases that follow upon this distemper, consider the public mischiefs it has done. How many warlike nations and strong cities, that have stood invincible to attacks and sieges, has drunkenness overcome! Is it not a great honor to drink the company dead? a magnificent virtue to swallow more wine than the rest, and yet at last to be outdone by a hogshead? What shall we say of those men that205 invert the offices of day and night? as if our eyes were only given us to make use of in the dark? Is it day? “It is time to go to bed.” Is it night? “It is time to rise.” Is it toward morning? “Let us go to supper.” When other people lie down they rise, and lie till the next night to digest the debauch of the day before. It is an argument of clownery, to do as other people do.
It's a bad thing for a person not to know their limits when it comes to drinking, or to realize that people often do things when drunk that they regret when sober; drunkenness is really just a type of voluntary madness. It gives people the courage to cause all kinds of trouble; it provokes evil and reveals it. It doesn't make people bad, but it shows how bad they can be. It was in a drunken rage that Alexander killed Clytus. It makes arrogant people even prouder and cruel people fiercer, stripping away all sense of shame. A grumpy person quickly lashes out with hurtful words and blows. The lecherous person, without caring about decency or public opinion, flaunts their affair in the street. A person’s speech slurs, their head spins, and they stumble as they walk. Not to mention the hangovers and illnesses that come with this condition, think about the public harm it has caused. How many strong nations and cities, that could withstand attacks and sieges, has drunkenness brought down! Is it really an accomplishment to out-drink your friends? A great virtue to swallow more wine than anyone else, only to be beaten by a barrel? What can we say about those who turn day and night upside down? As if our eyes were only meant for darkness? Is it daytime? “Time to sleep.” Is it nighttime? “Time to get up.” Is it nearly morning? “Let’s go have dinner.” While others are resting, they are just getting up and stay up till the next night to recover from the previous day's excesses. It's a sign of foolishness to just do what everyone else is doing.
Luxury steals upon us by degrees; first, it shows itself in a more than ordinary care of our bodies, it slips next into the furniture of our houses; and it gets then into the fabric, curiosity, and expense of the house itself. It appears, lastly, in the fantastical excesses of our tables. We change and shuffle our meats, confound our sauces, serve that in first that used to be last, and value our dishes, not for the taste, but for the rarity. Nay, we are so delicate, that we must be told when we are to eat or drink; when we are hungry or weary; and we cherish some vices as proofs and arguments of our happiness. The most miserable mortals are they that deliver themselves up to their palates, or to their lusts: the pleasure is short and turns presently nauseous, and the end of it is either shame or repentance. It is a brutal entertainment, and unworthy of a man, to place his felicity in the service of his senses. As to the wrathful, the contentious, the ambitious, though the distemper be great, the offence has yet something in it that is manly; but the basest of prostitutes are those that dedicate themselves wholly to lust; what with their hopes and fears, anxiety of thought, and perpetual disquiets, they are never well, full nor fasting.
Luxury creeps up on us gradually; first, it shows in our increased care for our appearance, then it slips into the decor of our homes, and eventually seeps into the design, oddities, and costs of the house itself. It finally manifests in the extravagant excesses of our meals. We mix up our dishes, complicate our sauces, serve things in a different order than before, and value our food not for flavor but for its uniqueness. We're so refined that we need reminders of when to eat or drink; when we feel hungry or tired; and we cling to some bad habits as proof of our happiness. The most miserable people are those who surrender completely to their appetites or desires: the pleasure is fleeting and quickly becomes sickening, leading only to shame or regret. It's a crude way to enjoy life, and beneath a human being's dignity to find happiness in serving their senses. In contrast, while those who are angry, argumentative, or ambitious might be in a bad state, their behavior still contains something noble; but the lowest of the low are those who give themselves entirely to lust; amid their hopes and fears, troubled thoughts, and constant unease, they are never satisfied, neither full nor fasting.
What a deal of business is now made about our houses and diet, which was at first both obvious and206 of little expense? Luxury led the way, and we have employed our wits in the aid of our vices. First we desired superfluities, our next step was to wickedness, and, in conclusion, we delivered up our minds to our bodies, and so became slaves to our appetites, which before were our servants, and are now become our masters. What was it that brought us to the extravagance of embroideries, perfumes, tire-women, etc. We passed the bounds of Nature, and launched out into superfluities; insomuch, that it is now-a-days only for beggars and clowns to content themselves with what is sufficient; our luxury makes us insolent and mad. We take upon us like princes, and fly out for every trifle, as though there were life and death in the case. What a madness is it for a man to lay out an estate upon a table or a cabinet, a patrimony upon a pain of pendants, and to inflame the price of curiosities according to the hazard either of breaking or losing of them? To wear garments that will neither defend a woman’s body, nor her modesty: so thin that one could make a conscience of swearing she were naked: for she hardly shows more in the privacies of her amour than in public? How long shall we covet and oppress, enlarge our possessions, and account that too little for one man which was formerly enough for a nation? And our luxury is as insatiable as our avarice. Where is that lake, that sea, that forest, that spot of land; that is not ransacked to gratify our palate? The very earth is burdened with our buildings; not a river, not a mountain, escapes us. Oh, that there should be such boundless desires in our little bodies! Would not fewer lodgings serve us? We lie but in one, and where we are not, that is not properly ours. What with our hooks, snares, nets, dogs, etc., we are at war207 with all living creatures; and nothing comes amiss but that which is either too cheap, or too common; and all this is to gratify a fantastical palate. Our avarice, our ambition, our lusts, are insatiable; we enlarge our possessions, swell our families, we rifle sea and land for matter of ornament and luxury. A bull contents himself with one meadow, and one forest is enough for a thousand elephants; but the little body of a man devours more than all other living creatures. We do not eat to satisfy hunger, but ambition; we are dead while we are alive, and our houses are so much our tombs, that a man might write our epitaphs upon our very doors.
So much fuss is made nowadays about our homes and what we eat, things that were once simple and cheap. Luxury has paved the way, and we've used our intelligence to support our bad habits. First, we wanted more than we needed, then we turned to immorality, and finally, we surrendered our minds to our bodies, becoming slaves to our desires, which used to serve us but have now taken control. What caused us to go overboard with fancy fabrics, perfumes, and hairstylists? We exceeded the limits of nature and dove into excess; nowadays, only beggars and simple folks are satisfied with what’s enough, while our luxury drives us to arrogance and madness. We behave like royalty and overreact to the smallest issues as if it’s a matter of life and death. How insane is it for someone to spend a fortune on a piece of furniture or a pair of earrings and to inflate the price of collectibles based on the risk of breaking or losing them? Wearing clothes that offer no protection for a woman’s body or modesty, so sheer that you might think she’s naked; she reveals no more in private than in public. How long will we desire and hoard, expand our possessions, and consider what was once enough for a whole nation to be insufficient for one person? Our luxury is as endless as our greed. Where is that lake, that sea, that forest, that piece of land that isn't stripped bare to please our taste buds? The earth is weighed down by our buildings; not a river or mountain is untouched. Oh, how can such limitless desires exist in our small bodies! Wouldn’t fewer homes be enough? We only need one to sleep in, and where we aren't, isn’t truly ours. With our hooks, traps, nets, dogs, and such, we wage war against all living creatures; we only want things that are either too cheap or too common to satisfy our fancy taste. Our greed, ambition, and lust know no bounds; we expand our possessions, increase our families, and rob both sea and land for things of beauty and luxury. A bull is content with one meadow, and one forest suffices for a thousand elephants, but the small body of a man consumes more than all other creatures. We don’t eat to satisfy hunger, but ambition; we’re dead while alive, and our homes are so much our graves that someone could write our epitaphs right on our doors.
A voluptuous person, in fine, can neither be a good man, a good patriot, nor a good friend; for he is transported with his appetites, without considering, that the lot of man is the law of Nature. A good man (like a good soldier) will stand his ground, receive wounds, glory in his scars, and in death itself love his master for whom he falls; with that divine precept always in his mind, “Follow good:” whereas he that complains, laments, and groans, must yield nevertheless, and do his duty though in spite of his heart. Now, what a madness is it for a man to choose rather to be lugged than to follow, and vainly to contend with the calamities of human life? Whatsoever is laid upon us by necessity, we should receive generously; for it is foolish to strive with what we cannot avoid. We are born subjects, and to obey God is perfect liberty. He that does this shall be free, safe, and quiet: all his actions shall succeed to his wish: and what can any man desire more than to want nothing from without, and to have all things desirable within himself? Pleasures208 do but weaken our minds, and send us for our support to Fortune, who gives us money only as the wages of slavery. We must stop our eyes and our ears. Ulysses had but one rock to fear, but human life has many. Every city, nay, every man, is one; and there is no trusting even to our nearest friends. Deliver me from the superstition of taking those things which are light and vain for felicities.
A voluptuous person, in short, can’t be a good man, a good patriot, or a good friend; they’re consumed by their desires, ignoring that being human means following the laws of nature. A good man (like a good soldier) stands his ground, takes hits, takes pride in his scars, and even in death loves the cause for which he falls, always keeping that divine instruction in mind: “Follow what is good.” On the other hand, someone who complains and groans must still fulfill their duty, even if it goes against their feelings. Now, how crazy is it for someone to choose to be dragged down instead of following along, fighting against the hardships of life? Whatever we face due to necessity, we should accept graciously; it’s pointless to struggle against what we can’t change. We are born to obey, and submitting to God is true freedom. Those who do this will be free, safe, and at peace: all their actions will align with their desires. What more could anyone want than to be self-sufficient and find everything they need within themselves? Pleasures only weaken our minds and push us to rely on fortune, which only offers us money as a reward for our servitude. We need to close our eyes and ears. Ulysses had just one rock to fear, but life is filled with many dangers. Every city, even every person, poses a threat; we can’t even trust our closest friends. Free me from the foolishness of mistaking trivial things for true happiness.
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AVARICE AND AMBITION ARE INSATIABLE AND RESTLESS.
The man that would be truly rich must not increase his fortune, but retrench his appetites: for riches are not only superfluous, but mean, and little more to the possessor than to the looker-on. What is the end of ambition and avarice, when at best we are but stewards of what we falsely call our own? All those things that we pursue with so much hazard and expense of blood, as well to keep as to get, for which we break faith and friendship, what are they but the mere deposita of Fortune? and not ours, but already inclining toward a new master. There is nothing our own but that which we give to ourselves, and of which we have a certain and an inexpugnable possession. Avarice is so insatiable, that it is not in the power of liberality to content it; and our desires are so boundless, that whatever we get is but in the way to getting more without end: and so long as we are solicitous for the increase of wealth, we lose the true use of it; and spend our time in putting out, calling in, and passing our accounts, without any substantial benefit, either to the world or to ourselves. What is the difference betwixt old men and children? the one cries for nuts and apples, and the other for gold and silver: the one sets up courts of justice, hears and determines, acquits and con210demns, in jest; the other in earnest: the one makes houses of clay, the other of marble: so that the works of old men are nothing in the world but the progress and improvement of children’s errors; and they are to be admonished and punished too like children, not in revenge for injuries received, but as a correction of injuries done, and to make them give over. There is some substance yet in gold and silver; but as to judgments and statutes, procuration and continuance-money, these are only the visions and dreams of avarice. Throw a crust of bread to a dog, he takes it open-mouthed, swallows it whole, and presently gapes for more: just so do we with the gifts of Fortune; down they go without chewing, and we are immediately ready for another chop. But what has avarice now to do with gold and silver, that is so much outdone by curiosities of a far greater value? Let us no longer complain that there was not a heavier load laid upon those precious metals, or that they were not buried deep enough, when we have found out ways by wax and parchments, and by bloody usurious contracts, to undo one another. It is remarkable, that Providence has given us all things for our advantage near at hand; but iron, gold, and silver, (being both the instrument of blood and slaughter, and the price of it) Nature has hidden in the bowels of the earth.
A truly rich person shouldn’t try to grow their wealth, but should cut back on their desires. Riches are not only unnecessary, but they’re also petty, offering little more to the owner than to an onlooker. What good does ambition and greed do when, at best, we’re just caretakers of what we wrongly call our possessions? All the things we chase with so much danger and sacrifice—trying to acquire and keep them, even sacrificing trust and friendship—are just the temporary gifts of Fortune. They aren't truly ours; they’re already turning towards a new owner. The only things that truly belong to us are what we give to ourselves, things we possess securely and undeniably. Greed is so insatiable that no amount of generosity can satisfy it; our desires are limitless, and whatever we gain is just a step towards wanting more indefinitely. As long as we worry about increasing our wealth, we miss its true purpose, spending our time managing, withdrawing, and balancing our accounts without real benefit to the world or ourselves. What sets old men apart from children? One cries for candy and fruit, and the other for gold and silver. One sets up courts, hears cases, decides outcomes, and acquits or condemns, all in jest; the other does it for real. One builds homes of mud, the other of marble. Thus, the accomplishments of the old are merely the evolution of children's mistakes, and they should be admonished and corrected like children—not out of revenge for wrongs done, but to help them stop. Gold and silver have some real value, but rulings and laws, loans, and fees are just the illusions of greed. Throw a piece of bread to a dog; it takes it eagerly, swallows it whole, and then immediately looks for more. We do the same with Fortune's gifts; they go down without thought, and we're instantly ready for another bite. But what relevance does greed have for gold and silver now when there are so many curiosities of far greater worth? Let's stop complaining about the burden placed on these precious metals or that they aren’t buried deeply enough, when we’ve devised ways through documents and bloody loans to betray one another. It’s noteworthy that Providence has provided us everything we need right at hand; yet iron, gold, and silver—being both tools of violence and the price for it—Nature has buried deep within the earth.
There is no avarice without some punishment, over and above that which it is to itself. How miserable is it in the desire! how miserable even in the attaining of our ends! For money is a greater torment in the possession than it is in the pursuit. The fear of losing it is a great trouble, the loss of it a greater, and it is made a greater yet by opinion. Nay, even in the case of no direct loss at all, the covetous man211 loses what he does not get. It is true, the people call the rich man a happy man, and wish themselves in his condition; but can any condition be worse than that which carries vexation and envy along with it? Neither is any man to boast of his fortune, his herds of cattle, his number of slaves, his lands and palaces; for comparing that which he has to that which he further covets, he is a beggar. No man can possess all things, but any man may contemn them; and the contempt of riches is the nearest way to the gaining of them.
There’s no greed without some kind of punishment, beyond what it causes within itself. How miserable it is in wanting! How miserable even in getting what we want! Because money can be a bigger pain to have than it is to chase after. The fear of losing it is a huge stress, losing it is an even bigger stress, and opinions only make it worse. Even when there’s no loss at all, the greedy person loses out on what they can’t have. It’s true that people call the rich happy and wish they were in that position; but can any situation be worse than one filled with anxiety and envy? No one should brag about their wealth, their herds of cattle, their number of servants, their land and mansions; because if they compare what they have to what they still want, they are just poor. No one can have everything, but anyone can look down on it; and looking down on riches is the quickest way to actually get them.
Some magistrates are made for money, and those commonly are bribed with money. We are all turned merchants, and look not into the quality of things, but into the price of them; for reward we are pious, and for reward again we are impious. We are honest so long as we may thrive upon it; but if the devil himself gives better wages, we change our party. Our parents have trained us up into an admiration of gold and silver, and the love of it is grown up with us to that degree that when we would show our gratitude to Heaven, we make presents of those metals. This it is that makes poverty look like a curse and a reproach; and the poets help it forward; the chariot of the sun must be all of gold; the best of times must be the Golden Age, and thus they turn the greatest misery of mankind into the greatest blessings.
Some judges are all about the money, and they're usually swayed by it. We're all becoming traders, focusing more on the price of things than their actual value; we act pious for rewards, and then unholy for more rewards. We stay honest as long as it benefits us, but if the devil offers a better deal, we switch sides. Our parents raised us to admire gold and silver, and our love for them has grown to the point where, when we try to express our gratitude to Heaven, we give gifts of these metals. This mentality makes poverty seem like a curse and a shame; poets reinforce this idea— the sun's chariot has to be made of gold, and the best times are referred to as the Golden Age, turning humanity's greatest hardships into its biggest blessings.
Neither does avarice make us only unhappy in ourselves, but malevolent also to mankind. The soldier wishes for war; the husbandman would have his corn dear; the lawyer prays for dissension; the physician for a sickly year; he that deals in curiosities, for luxury and excess, for he makes up his fortunes out of the corruptions of the age. High212 winds and public conflagrations make work for the carpenter and bricklayer, and one man lives by the loss of another; some few, perhaps, have the fortune to be detected, but they are all wicked alike. A great plague makes work for the sexton; and, in one word, whosoever gains by the dead has not much kindness for the living. Demades of Athens condemned a fellow that sold necessaries for funerals, upon proof that he wished to make himself a fortune by his trade, which could not be but by a great mortality; but perhaps he did not so much desire to have many customers, as to sell dear, and buy cheap; besides, that all of that trade might have been condemned as well as he. Whatsoever whets our appetites, flatters and depresses the mind, and, by dilating it, weakens it; first blowing it up, and then filling and deluding it with vanity.
Avarice not only makes us unhappy with ourselves but also turns us against humanity. The soldier longs for war; the farmer wants high prices for his crops; the lawyer hopes for conflict; the doctor prays for a year full of sickness; those who deal in curiosities thrive on luxury and excess, making their fortunes from the corruption of society. Strong winds and public disasters create opportunities for carpenters and bricklayers, and one person's gain often comes at the expense of another. A few might get caught, but they’re all equally wicked. A terrible plague gives the sexton more work; in short, anyone who profits from the dead doesn’t care much for the living. Demades of Athens punished a man who sold essential goods for funerals because it was clear he wanted to profit from his trade, which could only happen with high mortality rates. However, he might not have wanted many customers, just to sell at high prices and buy low; besides, anyone in that business could have been condemned just like him. Anything that ignites our desires flatters and weighs down the mind, expanding it and ultimately making it weaker; it first inflates our ego and then fills and tricks us with vanity.
To proceed now from the most prostitute of all vices, sensuality and avarice, to that which passes in the world for the most generous, the thirst of glory and dominion. If they that run mad after wealth and honor, could but look into the hearts of them that have already gained these points, how would it startle them to see those hideous cares and crimes that wait upon ambitious greatness: all those acquisitions that dazzle the eyes of the vulgar are but false pleasures, slippery and uncertain. They are achieved with labor, and the very guard of them is painful. Ambition puffs us up with vanity and wind: and we are equally troubled either to see any body before us, or nobody behind us; so that we lie under a double envy; for whosoever envies another is also envied himself. What matters it how far Alexander extended his conquests, if he was not yet satisfied with what he had? Every man wants213 as much as he covets; and it is lost labor to pour into a vessel that will never be full. He that had subdued so many princes and nations, upon the killing of Clytus (one friend) and the loss of Hyphestion (another) delivered himself up to anger and sadness; and when he was master of the world, he was yet a slave to his passions. Look into Cyrus, Cambyses, and the whole Persian line, and you shall not find so much as one man of them that died satisfied with what he had gotten. Ambition aspires from great things to greater; and propounds matters even impossible, when it has once arrived at things beyond expectation. It is a kind of dropsy; the more a man drinks, the more he covets. Let any man but observe the tumults and the crowds that attend palaces; what affronts must we endure to be admitted, and how much greater when we are in! The passage to virtue is fair, but the way to greatness is craggy and it stands not only upon a precipice, but upon ice too; and yet it is a hard matter to convince a great man that his station is slippery, or to prevail with him not to depend upon his greatness; but all superfluities are hurtful. A rank crop lays the corn; too great a burden of fruit breaks the bough; and our minds may be as well overcharged with an immoderate happiness. Nay, though we ourselves would be at rest, our fortune will not suffer it: the way that leads to honor and riches leads to troubles; and we find the source of our sorrows in the very objects of our delights.
Let's move on now from the most disgraceful of all vices—sensuality and greed—to what is considered by many to be the most noble: the thirst for glory and power. If those who obsess over wealth and fame could take a look inside the hearts of those who have already achieved these goals, they would be shocked to see the terrible worries and crimes that accompany ambitious greatness. All those gains that dazzle the public are nothing but false pleasures—slippery and uncertain. They come from hard work, and guarding them is painful. Ambition fills us with vanity and emptiness; we are troubled whether we see someone ahead of us or no one behind us, leaving us with double envy, because anyone who envies someone else is also envied themselves. What does it matter how far Alexander expanded his conquests if he was never satisfied with what he had? Every person desires as much as they covet, and it’s pointless to pour into a vessel that can never be full. The one who conquered so many kings and nations, after killing Clytus (one friend) and losing Hyphestion (another), turned to anger and sadness; and even when he had mastered the world, he was still a slave to his emotions. Look at Cyrus, Cambyses, and the entire Persian dynasty, and you won’t find a single one who died satisfied with their accomplishments. Ambition reaches from great things to even greater ones and proposes even impossible goals once it surpasses expectations. It’s like a disease; the more a person consumes, the more they crave. Anyone can see the chaos and crowds surrounding palaces; we must endure countless offenses just to gain entry, and it’s even worse once we’re inside! The path to virtue is clear, but the road to greatness is rocky and not only stands on the edge of a cliff but also on ice; and it’s incredibly hard to convince a powerful person that their position is precarious or to persuade them not to rely on their greatness. All excess is harmful. A rich harvest can lay low the crops; too much fruit can break the branch; and our minds can be overloaded by excessive happiness. Indeed, even if we want to find peace, our fortune doesn’t allow it: the road to honor and wealth is filled with troubles; and we often find the roots of our sorrow in the very things that bring us joy.
What joy is there in feasting and luxury; in ambition and a crowd of clients; in the arms of a mistress, or in the vanity of an unprofitable knowledge? These short and false pleasures deceive us, and, like drunkenness, revenge the jolly madness of one hour214 with the nauseous and sad repentance of many. Ambition is like a gulf: everything is swallowed up in it and buried, beside the dangerous consequences of it; for that which one has taken from all, may be easily taken away again by all from one. It was not either virtue or reason, but the mad love of a deceitful greatness, that animated Pompey in his wars, either abroad or at home. What was it but his ambition that hurried him to Spain, Africa, and elsewhere, when he was too great already in everybody’s opinion but his own? And the same motive had Julius Cæsar, who could not, even then, brook a superior himself, when the commonwealth had submitted unto two already.
What joy is there in feasting and luxury; in ambition and a crowd of followers; in the arms of a lover, or in the vanity of useless knowledge? These fleeting and false pleasures deceive us, and like drunkenness, they repay the joyful madness of one hour with the bitter and sad regret of many. Ambition is like a pit: everything is swallowed up in it and buried, alongside the dangerous consequences that come with it; because what one has taken from everyone can easily be taken away by everyone from one person. It wasn't virtue or reason, but the crazy desire for deceptive greatness that drove Pompey in his wars, whether abroad or at home. What else but his ambition pushed him to Spain, Africa, and beyond, when he was already recognized as great by everyone but himself? The same motivation spurred Julius Caesar, who couldn't even tolerate having someone above him, when the republic had already submitted to two others.
Nor was it any instinct of virtue that pushed on Marius, who at the head of an army was himself led on under the command of ambition: but he came at last to the deserved fate of other wicked men, and to drink himself of the same cup that he had filled to others. We impose upon our reason, when we suffer ourselves to be transported with titles; for we know that they are nothing but a more glorious sound; and so for ornaments and gildings, though there be a lustre to dazzle our eyes, our understanding tells us that it is only outside, and the matter under it is only coarse and common.
Marius wasn't driven by any sense of virtue; instead, he led an army fueled by ambition. In the end, he faced the same fate as other wicked individuals, tasting the bitter consequences he had imposed on others. We deceive ourselves when we let titles impress us; we know they’re just a more glamorous way of speaking. Even if they shine and catch our attention, we understand that what’s underneath is rough and ordinary.
I will never envy those that the people call great and happy. A sound mind is not to be shaken with a popular and vain applause; nor is it in the power of their pride to disturb the state of our happiness. An honest man is known now-a-days by the dust he raises upon the way, and it is become a point of honor to overrun people, and keep all at a distance; though he that is put out of the way may perchance be happier than he that takes it. He that would ex215ercise a power profitable to himself, and grievous to nobody else, let him practice it upon his passion. They that have burnt cities, otherwise invincible, driven armies before them, and bathed themselves in human blood, after they have overcome all open enemies, they have been vanquished by their lust, by their cruelty, and without any resistance.
I will never envy those whom people call great and happy. A sound mind isn’t swayed by popular and shallow applause; nor can their pride disrupt our happiness. These days, an honest person is recognized by the dust they kick up along the way, and it has become a point of pride to trample over others and keep everyone at arm's length; although, the one who gets pushed aside might be happier than the one who does the pushing. If someone wants to wield power that benefits themselves without harming others, they should focus it on their passions. Those who have burned down cities that seemed invincible, driven armies away, and bathed in human blood—once they’ve defeated all their obvious enemies, they’ve been conquered by their own desires, by their cruelty, and without facing any resistance.
Alexander was possessed with the madness of laying kingdoms waste. He began with Greece, where he was brought up; and there he quarried himself upon that in it which was the best; he enslaved Lacedemon, and silenced Athens: nor was he content with the destruction of those towns which his father Philip had either conquered or bought; but he made himself the enemy of human nature; and, like the worst of beasts, he worried what he could not eat.
Alexander was driven by a madness for destroying kingdoms. He started with Greece, where he grew up, and there he focused on its best aspects; he conquered Lacedemon and silenced Athens. He wasn't satisfied with just destroying the towns his father Philip had either conquered or purchased; instead, he turned himself into an enemy of humanity, and like the worst of beasts, he tormented what he couldn't consume.
Felicity is an unquiet thing; it torments itself, and puzzles the brain. It makes some people ambitious, others luxurious; it puffs up some, and softens others; only (as it is with wine) some heads bear it better than others; but it dissolves all. Greatness stands upon a precipice: and if prosperity carries a man never so little beyond his poise, it overbears and dashes him to pieces. It is a rare thing for a man in a great fortune to lay down his happiness gently; it being a common fate for a man to sink under the weight of those felicities that raise him. How many of the nobility did Marius bring down to herdsmen and other mean offices! Nay, in the very moment of our despising servants, we may be made so ourselves.
Felicity is a restless thing; it tortures itself and confuses the mind. It drives some people to ambition, others to indulgence; it makes some puffed up and others gentle; just like wine, some can handle it better than others; but ultimately, it breaks everyone down. Greatness balances on the edge: and if success pushes a person even slightly off their center, it can overwhelm and smash them apart. It's rare for someone with great wealth to calmly set aside their happiness; it's common for someone to crumble under the weight of the blessings that elevate them. How many people did Marius bring down from nobility to herdsmen and other lowly jobs! Indeed, at the very moment we look down on servants, we might find ourselves in their position.
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CHAPTER XIII.
HOPE AND FEAR ARE THE BANE OF HUMAN LIFE.
No man can be said to be perfectly happy that runs the risk of disappointment: which is the case of every man that fears or hopes for anything. For hope and fear, how distant soever they may seem to be the one from the other, they are both of them yet coupled in the same chain, as the guard and the prisoner; and the one treads upon the heels of the other. The reason of this is obvious, for they are passions that look forward, and are ever solicitous for the future; only hope is the more plausible weakness of the two, which in truth, upon the main, are inseparable; for the one cannot be without the other: but where the hope is stronger than the fear, or the fear than the hope, we call it the one or the other; for without fear it were no longer hope, but certainty; as without hope it were no longer fear but despair.
No one can be considered perfectly happy if they are at risk of disappointment, which applies to everyone who fears or hopes for anything. Hope and fear, no matter how different they may seem, are connected like a guard and a prisoner, always closely linked. One always follows the other. This is clear because they are emotions that look ahead and are always concerned about the future; however, hope is the more appealing of the two, which, in reality, are inseparable. One cannot exist without the other: but when hope is stronger than fear, or fear is stronger than hope, we identify it as either one or the other; without fear, hope would no longer be hope, but certainty; and without hope, fear would not be fear, but despair.
We may come to understand whether our disputes are vain or not, if we do but consider that we are either troubled about the present, the future or both. If the present, it is easy to judge, and the future is uncertain. It is a foolish thing to be miserable beforehand for fear of misery to come; for a man loses the present, which he might enjoy, in expectation of the future: nay, the fear of losing anything is as bad217 as the loss itself. I will be as prudent as I can, but not timorous or careless; and I will bethink myself, and forecast what inconveniences may happen before they come. It is true, a man may fear, and yet not be fearful; which is no more than to have the affection of fear without the vice of it; but yet a frequent admittance of it runs into a habit. It is a shameful and an unmanly thing to be doubtful, timorous, and uncertain; to set one step forward, and another backward; and to be irresolute. Can there be any man so fearful, that had not rather fall once than hang always in suspense?
We can figure out whether our arguments are pointless if we consider that we're either worried about the present, the future, or both. If it's the present, it's easy to judge, and the future is unpredictable. It's foolish to be unhappy in advance out of fear of future troubles because a person loses the present, which they could enjoy, while waiting for what's to come. In fact, the fear of losing something is just as bad as actually losing it. I will be as wise as I can be, but not afraid or careless; I'll reflect and anticipate what problems might arise before they do. It's true that a person can feel fear without being cowardly, which is simply experiencing fear without letting it control them; however, frequently allowing fear to take hold can become a habit. It's shameful and unmanly to be doubtful, fearful, and uncertain; to take one step forward and then another back; and to be indecisive. Is there anyone so afraid that they would rather keep hanging in suspense than face a single fall?
Our miseries are endless, if we stand in fear of all possibilities; the best way, in such a case, is to drive out one nail with another, and a little to qualify fear with hope; which may serve to palliate a misfortune; though not to cure it. There is not anything that we fear, which is so certain to come, as it is certain that many things which we do fear will not come; but we are loth to oppose our credulity when it begins to move us, and so to bring our fear to the test. Well! but “what if the thing we fear should come to pass?” Perhaps it will be the better for us. Suppose it be death itself, why may it not prove the glory of my life? Did not poison make Socrates famous? and was not Cato’s sword a great part of his honor? “Do we fear any misfortune to befall us?” We are not presently sure that it will happen. How many deliverances have come unlooked for? and how many mischiefs that we looked for have never come to pass? It is time enough to lament when it comes, and, in the interim, to promise ourselves the best. What do I know but something or other may delay or divert it? Some have escaped out of the fire; others, when a house has fallen over218 their head, have received no hurt: one man has been saved when a sword was at his throat; another has been condemned, and outlived his headsman: so that ill-fortune, we see, as well as good, has her levities; peradventure it will be, peradventure not; and until it comes to pass, we are not sure of it: we do many times take words in a worse sense than they were intended, and imagine things to be worse taken than they are. It is time enough to bear a misfortune when it comes, without anticipating it.
Our suffering is endless if we're afraid of every possibility. The best approach is to counter one fear with another and to temper our fears with hopes, which may help ease a misfortune, though it won’t fix it. There's nothing we fear that's more certain to happen than the fact that many of the things we worry about probably won’t happen. Yet, we’re reluctant to challenge our beliefs when they start to influence us and test our fears. Well! But “what if the thing we fear actually happens?” Maybe it could be good for us. Take death itself; could it not become the highlight of my life? Didn’t poison make Socrates famous? And wasn’t Cato’s sword a significant part of his honor? “Are we worried about any misfortune coming our way?” We can't be sure it will occur. How many unexpected escapes have there been? And how many troubles we anticipated never happened? It's too soon to mourn when it arrives and, in the meantime, we should expect the best. What do I know? Something else might delay or redirect it. Some have escaped from the fire; others, when a house collapsed on them, felt no pain: one person was saved with a sword at their throat, while another was condemned and outlived the executioner. So we see that both good and bad luck has its light moments; maybe it will happen, maybe it won't; and until it does, we can't be certain. We often take words more negatively than intended and assume things are worse than they truly are. It's perfectly fine to deal with a misfortune when it arrives, without dreading it beforehand.
He that would deliver himself from all apprehensions of the future, let him first take for granted, that all fears will fall upon him; and then examine and measure the evil that he fears, which he will find to be neither great nor long. Beside, that the ills which he fears he may suffer, he suffers in the very fear of them. As in the symptoms of an approaching disease, a man shall find himself lazy and listless: a weariness in his limbs, with a yawning and shuddering all over him; so it is in the case of a weak mind, it fancies misfortunes, and makes a man wretched before his time. Why should I torment myself at present with what, perhaps, may fall out fifty years hence? This humor is a kind of voluntary disease, and an industrious contrivance of our own unhappiness, to complain of an affliction that we do not feel. Some are not only moved with grief itself, but with the mere opinion of it; as children will start at a shadow, or at the sight of a deformed person. If we stand in fear of violence from a powerful enemy, it is some comfort to us, that whosoever makes himself terrible to others is not without fear himself: the least noise makes a lion start; and the fiercest of beasts, whatsoever219 enrages them, makes them tremble too: a shadow, a voice, an unusual odor, rouses them.
Whoever wants to free themselves from all worries about the future should first accept that all fears will come upon them; then they should assess the problems they fear, which they will find are neither overwhelming nor lasting. Moreover, the troubles they fear experiencing, they already endure in the very act of fearing them. Just like the symptoms of an oncoming illness, a person may feel lazy and unmotivated: a heaviness in their limbs, along with yawning and shivering all over; similarly, a weak mind imagines disasters and makes a person miserable before their time. Why should I torture myself now with what might happen fifty years from now? This mindset is a sort of self-inflicted ailment, a deliberate way to create our own misery by dwelling on an affliction we don’t actually feel. Some people are not only affected by grief itself but also by merely the thought of it; like children who flinch at a shadow or at the sight of someone who looks different. If we fear the violence of a powerful enemy, it’s somewhat comforting to know that anyone who tries to intimidate others is also not without their own fears: even a lion jumps at the slightest sound, and the most ferocious beasts tremble at whatever angers them: a shadow, a sound, an unusual smell, all can unsettle them.
The things most to be feared I take to be of three kinds; want, sickness, and those violences that may be imposed upon us by a strong hand. The last of these has the greatest force, because it comes attended with noise and tumult; whereas the incommodities of poverty and diseases are more natural, and steal upon us in silence, without any external circumstances of horror: but the other marches in pomp, with fire and sword, gibbets, racks, hooks; wild beasts to devour us; stakes to impale us; engines to tear us to pieces; pitched bags to burn us in, and a thousand other exquisite inventions of cruelty. No wonder then, if that be the most dreadful to us that presents itself in so many uncouth shapes; and by the very solemnity is rendered the most formidable. The more instruments of bodily pain the executioner shows us, the more frightful he makes himself: for many a man that would have encountered death in any generous form, with resolution enough, is yet overcome with the manner of it. As for the calamities of hunger and thirst, inward ulcers, scorching fevers, tormenting fits of the stone, I look upon these miseries to be at least as grievous as any of the rest; only they do not so much affect the fancy, because they lie out of sight. Some people talk high of danger at a distance; but (like cowards) when the executioner comes to do his duty, and show us the fire, the ax, the scaffold, and death at hand, their courage fails them upon the very pinch, when they have most need of it. Sickness, (I hope) captivity, fire, are no new things to us; the fall of houses, funerals, and conflagrations, are every day before our eyes. The man that I supped220 with last night is dead before morning; why should I wonder then, seeing so many fall about me, to be hit at last myself? What can be greater madness than to cry out, “Who would have dreamed of this?” And why not, I beseech you? Where is that estate that may not be reduced to beggary? that dignity which may not be followed with banishment, disgrace, and extreme contempt? that kingdom that may not suddenly fall to ruin; change its master, and be depopulated? that prince that may not pass the hand of a common hangman? That which is one man’s fortune may be another’s; but the foresight of calamities to come breaks the violence of them.
The things we should fear most are three: want, sickness, and the violence that can be forced upon us by a strong hand. The last one is the most terrifying because it comes with noise and chaos; whereas the troubles of poverty and illness are more natural, creeping up on us quietly, without any outward signs of horror. But the other comes in full force, with fire and sword, gallows, torture devices, wild beasts ready to devour us, stakes to impale us, machines to tear us apart, bags to burn us alive, and countless other cruel inventions. It’s no surprise that what appears in so many strange forms is the most frightening to us; its very seriousness makes it seem more daunting. The more tools of pain the executioner shows us, the more terrifying he becomes: many a man who would face death bravely in a noble way is still overwhelmed by the manner of it. As for the sufferings of hunger and thirst, internal wounds, searing fevers, and painful kidney stones, I see those miseries as at least as terrible as the others; they just don’t affect the imagination as much because they are hidden from view. Some people boast about facing distant danger, but (like cowards) when the executioner arrives to do his job, revealing the fire, the axe, the scaffold, and death right in front of them, their courage collapses at the moment they need it most. Sickness, (I hope) imprisonment, fire—these are not new to us; the collapse of buildings, funerals, and fires are things we see every day. The man I had dinner with last night is dead by morning; so why should I be surprised, seeing so many around me fall, to be struck down myself? What could be more foolish than to exclaim, “Who would have thought this could happen?” And why shouldn’t it? Where is that state which can’t be reduced to poverty? Which honor can’t lead to banishment, disgrace, and utter contempt? Which kingdom can’t suddenly fall apart, change its ruler, and be left empty? Which prince is safe from the hands of a common executioner? What one person calls fortune may very well be another’s misfortune; but being aware of upcoming disasters lessens their impact.
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CHAPTER XIV.
IT IS ACCORDING TO THE TRUE OR FALSE ESTIMATE OF THINGS
THAT WE ARE HAPPY OR MISERABLE.
How many things are there that the fancy makes terrible by night, which the day turns into ridiculous! What is there in labor, or in death, that a man should be afraid of? They are much slighter in act than in contemplation; and we may contemn them, but we will not: so that it is not because they are hard that we dread them, but they are hard because we are first afraid of them. Pains, and other violences of Fortune, are the same thing to us that goblins are to children: we are more scared with them than hurt. We take up our opinions upon trust, and err for company, still judging that to be best that has most competitors. We make a false calculation of matters, because we advise with opinion, and not with Nature; and this misleads us to a higher esteem for riches, honor, and power, than they are worth: we have been used to admire and recommend them, and a private error is quickly turned into a public. The greatest and the smallest things are equally hard to be comprehended; we account many things great, for want of understanding what effectually is so: and we reckon other things to be small, which we find frequently to be of the highest value. Vain things only move vain minds. The accidents that we so much boggle at are not terrible in themselves,222 but they are made so by our infirmities; but we consult rather what we hear than what we feel, without examining, opposing, or discussing the things we fear; so that we either stand still and tremble, or else directly run for it, as those troops did, that, upon the raising of the dust, took a flock of sheep for the enemy. When the body and mind are corrupted, it is no wonder if all things prove intolerable; and not because they are so in truth, but because we are dissolute and foolish: for we are infatuated to such a degree, that, betwixt the common madness of men, and that which falls under the care of the physician, there is but this difference, the one labors of a disease, and the other of a false opinion.
How many things does our imagination make terrifying at night that the day reveals as ridiculous! What is there in work or in death that a person should fear? They seem much less daunting in reality than in thought; we could disregard them, but we choose not to. It's not that they're hard that makes us fear them; they're hard because we fear them first. The pains and misfortunes we face are to us what ghosts are to kids: we get more scared than hurt by them. We form our opinions based on what we hear from others, aligning with the crowd, always thinking that the most popular view is the best. We mistakenly evaluate things because we consult opinions instead of nature, leading us to value wealth, honor, and power more than they truly deserve. We have been conditioned to admire and promote these things, and a personal mistake quickly morphs into a public belief. The biggest and smallest things are equally hard to understand; we label many things as **great** simply because we don’t grasp what genuinely is so and we consider other things as **small**, which we often find to be of the highest worth. Empty things only attract empty minds. The situations we fear so much are not awful in themselves, but we make them so because of our weaknesses; yet we rely more on what we hear than on what we feel, without questioning or challenging our fears. So we either freeze in fear or run away, like those soldiers who confused a cloud of dust with an approaching enemy and fled from a flock of sheep. When both body and mind are in disarray, it’s no surprise if everything seems unbearable; not because they truly are, but because we are careless and foolish. We are so misled that between the general madness of people and the kind that needs a doctor's attention, the only difference is that one suffers from a disease while the other suffers from a mistaken belief.
The Stoics hold, that all those torments that commonly draw from us groans and ejaculations, are in themselves trivial and contemptible. But these high-flown expressions apart (how true soever) let us discourse the point at the rate of ordinary men, and not make ourselves miserable before our time; for the things we apprehend to be at hand may possibly never come to pass. Some things trouble us more than they should, other things sooner; and some things again disorder us that ought not to trouble us at all; so that we either enlarge, or create, or anticipate our disquiets. For the first part, let it rest as a matter in controversy; for that which I account light, another perhaps will judge insupportable! One man laughs under the lash, and another whines for a fillip. How sad a calamity is poverty to one man, which to another appears rather desirable than inconvenient? For the poor man, who has nothing to lose, has nothing to fear: and he that would enjoy himself to the satisfaction of his soul, must be either poor indeed, or at least look as if he were so. Some223 people are extremely dejected with sickness and pain; whereas Epicurus blessed his fate with his last breath, in the acutest torments of the stone imaginable. And so for banishment, which to one man is so grievous, and yet to another is no more than a bare change of place: a thing that we do every day for our health, pleasure, nay, and upon the account even of common business.
The Stoics believe that all the hardships that usually make us groan and cry out are, in themselves, insignificant and trivial. But putting aside these dramatic thoughts (however true they may be), let’s discuss this like regular people and not make ourselves miserable before we need to; because the things we think are coming might never actually happen. Some things upset us more than they should, while others get to us sooner than they ought, and some things disturb us that really shouldn’t bother us at all; so we either exaggerate, create, or dread our worries. As for the first part, let’s leave it as a matter of debate; what I consider light, someone else might find unbearable! One person can laugh while enduring hardship, and another complains over the smallest inconvenience. How tragic is poverty to one person, while to another it seems more like a blessing than a burden? The poor person, who has nothing to lose, has nothing to fear: and to truly enjoy life, one must either be genuinely poor or at least appear to be. Some people feel incredibly defeated by illness and pain; meanwhile, Epicurus celebrated his life even in his last moments while suffering excruciating pain from stones. And then there's banishment, which to one person is a serious suffering, while to another is just a simple change of scenery: something we do every day for health, pleasure, or even just routine matters.
How terrible is death to one man, which to another appears the greatest providence in nature, even toward all ages and conditions! It is the wish of some, the relief of many, and the end of all. It sets the slave at liberty, carries the banished man home, and places all mortals upon the same level: insomuch, that life itself were a punishment without it. When I see tyrants, tortures, violences, the prospect of death is a consolation to me, and the only remedy against the injuries of life.
How terrible death is to one person, while to another it seems like the greatest blessing in nature for everyone, regardless of age or status! For some, it’s what they long for, for many it’s relief, and for all it’s the end of existence. It frees the slave, brings the exiled person back home, and levels the playing field for all human beings: so much so that life itself would be a punishment without it. When I see tyrants, torture, and violence, the thought of death comforts me and is the only remedy against the hardships of life.
Nay, so great are our mistakes in the true estimate of things, that we have hardly done any thing that we have not had reason to wish undone; and we have found the things we feared to be more desirable than those we coveted. Our very prayers have been more pernicious than the curses of our enemies; and we must pray to have our former prayers forgiven. Where is the wise man that wishes to himself the wishes of his mother, nurse, or his tutor; the worst of enemies, with the intention of the best of friends. We are undone if their prayers be heard; and it is our duty to pray that they may not; for they are no other than well-meaning execrations. They take evil for good, and one wish fights with another: give me rather the contempt of all those things whereof they wish me the greatest plenty. We are equally hurt by some that pray for us, and by others that curse us: the one imprints in us a false fear, and the224 other does us mischief by a mistake: so that it is no wonder if mankind be miserable, when we are brought up from the very cradle under the imprecations of our parents. We pray for trifles, without so much as thinking of the greatest blessings; and we are not ashamed many times to ask God for that which we should blush to own to our neighbor.
No, our mistakes in truly valuing things are so great that we’ve barely done anything we wouldn’t want to take back, and we’ve discovered that what we feared is often more appealing than what we desired. Our prayers have often caused more harm than the curses of our enemies; we must now pray for our earlier prayers to be forgiven. Where is the wise person who actually wants the wishes of their mother, caregiver, or teacher—the worst of foes, despite being meant as the best of friends? We are doomed if their prayers are answered, and it’s our responsibility to pray that they aren’t, as they are simply misguided blessings. They confuse good with bad, and one desire conflicts with another: I’d prefer to be looked down upon for those things they wish for me in abundance. We suffer equally from those who pray for us and those who curse us: the former instills a false fear in us, while the latter causes harm due to misunderstandings. It’s no surprise that humanity is miserable when we grow up from the very cradle under the curses of our parents. We pray for insignificant things, not even considering the greatest blessings; and often we’re not ashamed to ask God for things we would be embarrassed to admit to our neighbors.
It is with us as with an innocent that my father had in his family; she fell blind on a sudden, and nobody could persuade her she was blind. “She could not endure the house,” she cried, “it was so dark,” and was still calling to go abroad. That which we laughed at in her we find to be true in ourselves, we are covetous and ambitious; but the world shall never bring us to acknowledge it, and we impute it to the place: nay, we are the worse of the two; for that blind fool called for a guide, and we wander about without one. It is a hard matter to cure those that will not believe they are sick. We are ashamed to admit a master, and we are too old to learn. Vice still goes before virtue: so that we have two works to do: we must cast off the one, and learn the other. By one evil we make way to another, and only seek things to be avoided, or those of which we are soon weary. That which seemed too much when we wished for it, proves too little when we have it; and it is not, as some imagine, that felicity is greedy, but it is little and narrow, and cannot satisfy us. That which we take to be very high at a distance, we find to be but low when we come at it. And the business is, we do not understand the true state of things: we are deceived by rumors; when we have gained the thing we aimed at, we find it to be either ill or empty; or perchance less than we expect, or otherwise perhaps great, but not good.
It's like what happened with a blind relative my father had; she suddenly went blind and couldn’t be convinced that she was. “I can’t stand this place,” she said, “it’s so dark,” and kept wanting to go outside. What we laughed at in her, we now see in ourselves: we’re greedy and ambitious. But the world will never get us to admit it; instead, we blame our surroundings. In fact, we’re worse than her; that blind woman asked for a guide, while we wander around lost. It’s tough to help those who refuse to accept they’re unwell. We’re too embarrassed to accept a mentor, and we think we’re too old to learn. Vice leads the way before virtue, so we have two tasks: we need to let go of one and learn the other. One bad habit paves the way for another, and we only look for things to avoid, or ones that we quickly tire of. What seemed like too much when we wanted it feels too little once we have it; and it’s not that happiness is greedy, but rather it’s small and limited, unable to satisfy us. What appears high from a distance turns out to be low when we reach it. The problem is that we don’t comprehend the reality of things; we’re misled by rumors. Once we finally get what we aimed for, we discover it’s either bad or empty, or it could be less than we expected, or even if it's great, it’s not actually good.
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CHAPTER XV.
THE BLESSINGS OF TEMPERANCE AND MODERATION.
There is not anything that is necessary to us but we have it either cheap or gratis: and this is the provision that our heavenly Father has made for us, whose bounty was never wanting to our needs. It is true the belly craves and calls upon us, but then a small matter contents it: a little bread and water is sufficient, and all the rest is but superfluous. He that lives according to reason shall never be poor, and he that governs his life by opinion shall never be rich: for nature is limited, but fancy is boundless. As for meat, clothes, and lodging, a little feeds the body, and as little covers it; so that if mankind would only attend human nature, without gaping at superfluities, a cook would be found as needless as a soldier: for we may have necessaries upon very easy terms; whereas we put ourselves to great pains for excesses. When we are cold, we may cover ourselves with skins of beasts; and, against violent heats, we have natural grottoes; or with a few osiers and a little clay we may defend ourselves against all seasons. Providence has been kinder to us than to leave us to live by our wits, and to stand in need of invention and arts.
There’s nothing we really need that we can’t get either cheap or for free: this is how our heavenly Father has provided for us, whose generosity has always met our needs. It’s true that our stomachs demand attention, but it only takes a small amount to satisfy them: some bread and water is enough, and everything else is just extra. Those who live reasonably will never be poor, while those who base their lives on opinions will never be rich: nature has its limits, but imagination knows no bounds. When it comes to food, clothing, and shelter, we need very little to sustain and cover ourselves; if people would just focus on basic human needs without craving excess, a cook would be as unnecessary as a soldier: we can easily acquire what we truly need while we put ourselves through a lot for excess. When we feel cold, we can cover up with animal skins; to escape the heat, we have natural caves; or with some twigs and a bit of mud, we can protect ourselves from the elements. Providence has been good to us, not leaving us to fend for ourselves or rely on inventions and skills.
It is only pride and curiosity that involve us in difficulties: if nothing will serve a man but rich226 clothes and furniture, statues and plate, a numerous train of servants, and the rarities of all nations, it is not Fortune’s fault, but his own, that he is not satisfied: for his desires are insatiable, and this is not a thirst, but a disease; and if he were master of the whole world, he would be still a beggar. It is the mind that makes us rich and happy, in what condition soever we are; and money signifies no more to it than it does to the gods. If the religion be sincere, no matter for the ornaments it is only luxury and avarice that make poverty grievous to us; for it is a very small matter that does our business; and when we have provided against cold, hunger, and thirst, all the rest is but vanity and excess: and there is no need of expense upon foreign delicacies, or the artifices of the kitchen. What is he the worse for poverty that despises these things? nay, is he not rather the better for it, because he is not able to go to the price of them? for he is kept sound whether he will or not: and that which a man cannot do, looks many times as if he would not.
It’s only pride and curiosity that get us into trouble: if a person needs nothing but expensive clothes and furniture, statues and silverware, a large entourage, and rare items from around the world to feel satisfied, it’s not Fortune’s fault, but his own, that he feels unfulfilled. His desires are endless, and this isn’t just a craving, but an illness; even if he owned the whole world, he would still feel like a beggar. It’s the mind that makes us wealthy and happy, no matter our circumstances; money means no more to it than it does to the gods. If someone's beliefs are genuine, the external trappings don’t matter. It’s only luxury and greed that make poverty painful for us; in reality, it takes very little for our needs to be met. Once we have protection from cold, hunger, and thirst, everything else is just excess and vanity; there’s no need to spend on extravagant foods or fancy cooking. What does a person lose by embracing poverty if he looks down on those things? In fact, isn’t he better off because he can’t afford them? He’s kept grounded whether he likes it or not; what he cannot do often appears as if he simply won’t.
When I look back into the moderation of past ages, it makes me ashamed to discourse, as if poverty had need of any consolation; for we are now come to that degree of intemperance, that a fair patrimony is too little for a meal. Homer had but one servant, Plato three, and Zeno (the master of the masculine sect of Stoics) had none at all. The daughters of Scipio had their portions out of the common treasury, for their father left them not a penny: how happy were the husbands that had the people of Rome for their father-in-law! Shall any man now contemn poverty after these eminent examples, which are sufficient not only to justify but to recommend it? Upon Diogenes’ only servant227 running away from him, he was told where he was, and persuaded to fetch him back again: “What,” says he, “can Manes live without Diogenes, and not Diogenes without Manes?” and so let him go.
When I think back to the moderation of earlier times, I feel embarrassed to speak, as if poverty needed any comfort; because we’ve reached a point of excess where a decent inheritance is barely enough for a meal. Homer had just one servant, Plato had three, and Zeno (the leader of the masculine branch of Stoics) had none at all. The daughters of Scipio received their portions from the public treasury since their father left them nothing: how fortunate were the husbands who had the people of Rome as their father-in-law! How can anyone look down on poverty after these remarkable examples, which not only justify it but also highlight its value? When Diogenes’ only servant ran away, he was told where he was and persuaded to bring him back: “What,” he asked, “can Manes live without Diogenes, and not Diogenes without Manes?” And he let him go.
The piety and moderation of Scipio have made his memory more venerable than his arms; and more yet after he left his country than while he defended it: for matters were come to that pass, that either Scipio must be injurious to Rome or Rome to Scipio. Coarse bread and water to a temperate man is as good as a feast; and the very herbs of the field yield a nourishment to man as well as to beasts. It was not by choice meats and perfumes that our forefathers recommended themselves, but in virtuous actions, and the sweat of honest, military, and of manly labors.
Scipio's devotion and self-control have made his legacy more respected than his military achievements; and even more so after he left his country than while he was protecting it. Things had reached a point where either Scipio had to harm Rome or Rome had to harm Scipio. For a person with moderation, plain bread and water can be just as satisfying as a lavish feast; and the simple herbs of the field provide nourishment for both humans and animals. Our ancestors didn't earn their reputation through fancy food and fragrances, but through virtuous actions and the hard work of honest, military, and manly efforts.
While Nature lay in common, and all her benefits were promiscuously enjoyed, what could be happier than the state of mankind, when people lived without avarice or envy? What could be richer than when there was not a poor man to be found in the world? So soon as this impartial bounty of Providence came to be restrained by covetousness, and that particulars appropriated to themselves that which was intended for all, then did poverty creep into the world, when some men, by desiring more than came to their share, lost their title to the rest; a loss never to be repaired; for though we may come yet to get much, we once had all. The fruits of the earth were in those days divided among the inhabitants of it, without either want or excess. So long as men contented themselves with their lot, there was no violence, no engrossing or hiding of those benefits for particular advantages, which were appointed for the commu228nity; but every man had as much care for his neighbor as for himself. No arms or bloodshed, no war, but with wild beasts: but under the protection of a wood or a cave, they spent their days without cares, and their nights without groans; their innocence was their security and their protection. There were as yet no beds of state, no ornaments, of pearl or embroidery, nor any of those remorses that attend them; but the heavens were their canopy, and the glories of them their spectacle. The motions of the orbs, the courses of the stars, and the wonderful order of Providence, was their contemplation. There was no fear of the house falling, or the rustling of a rat behind the arras; they had no palaces then like cities; but they had open air, and breathing room, crystal fountains, refreshing shades, the meadows dressed up in their native beauty, and such cottages as were according to nature, and wherein they lived contentedly, without fear either of losing or of falling. These people lived without either solitude or fraud; and yet I must call them rather happy than wise.
While nature was shared and everyone enjoyed its benefits equally, what could be happier than humanity when people lived without greed or jealousy? What could be richer than a world where no one was poor? As soon as this fair gift from Providence was limited by greed, and individuals took what was meant for all, poverty crept in. Some, by wanting more than their fair share, lost their right to what belonged to everyone; a loss that can never be fixed; for even if we might gain a lot later, we once had everything. The earth’s bounty was shared among its people without want or excess. As long as people were satisfied with what they had, there was no violence, no hoarding or hiding benefits for personal gain, which were meant for the community; everyone cared for their neighbor as much as for themselves. No weapons or bloodshed, no wars except with wild animals: under the shelter of a forest or cave, they spent their days free of worries and their nights without sorrow; their innocence was their safety and shield. There were no fancy beds, no decorations of pearls or embroidery, nor any of the troubles that come with them; the heavens were their roof, and its wonders their entertainment. They contemplated the movements of celestial bodies, the paths of stars, and the amazing order of Providence. There was no fear of the house collapsing or the scurrying of a rat behind the tapestry; they had no palaces like cities; instead, they enjoyed open air, fresh spaces, sparkling streams, cool shade, lush meadows in their natural beauty, and simple cottages where they lived happily, without fear of losing anything. These people lived without isolation or deceit; still, I would call them happier than wise.
That men were generally better before they were corrupted than after, I make no doubt; and I am apt to believe that they were both stronger and hardier too but their wits were not yet come to maturity; for Nature does not give virtue; and it is a kind of art to become good. They had not as yet torn up the bowels of the earth for gold, silver, or precious stones; and so far were they from killing any man, as we do, for a spectacle, that they were not as yet come to it, either in fear or anger; nay, they spared the very fishes. But, after all this, they were innocent because they were ignorant: and there is a great difference betwixt not knowing how to offend229 and not being willing to do it. They had, in that rude life, certain images and resemblances of virtue, but yet they fell short of virtue itself, which comes only by institution, learning, and study, as it is perfected by practice. It is indeed the end for which we were born, but yet it did not come into the world with us; and in the best of men, before they are instructed, we find rather the matter and the seeds of virtue than the virtue itself. It is the wonderful benignity of Nature that has laid open to us all things that may do us good, and only hid those things from us that may hurt us; as if she durst not trust us with gold and silver, or with iron, which is the instrument of war and contention, for the other. It is we ourselves that have drawn out of the earth both the causes and the instruments of our dangers: and we are so vain as to set the highest esteem upon those things to which Nature has assigned the lowest place. What can be more coarse and rude in the mine than these precious metals, or more slavish and dirty than the people that dig and work them? and yet they defile our minds more than our bodies, and make the possessor fouler than the artificer of them. Rich men, in fine, are only the greater slaves; both the one and the other want a great deal.
That people were generally better before they were corrupted than after, I have no doubt; and I tend to believe they were also stronger and tougher, but their intelligence hadn’t fully developed yet; because nature doesn’t provide virtue, and it takes effort to become good. They hadn’t yet dug into the earth for gold, silver, or precious stones; and far from killing anyone for entertainment, as we do, they weren’t driven to that by fear or anger; in fact, they even spared the fish. But after all this, they were innocent because they were ignorant: there’s a big difference between not knowing how to offend and not wanting to do it. They had, in that simple life, some images and reflections of virtue, but still fell short of true virtue, which only comes through teaching, learning, and practice. It is indeed the goal for which we were born, but it didn’t come into the world with us; and in the best of people, before they are educated, we find more the potential and seeds of virtue than virtue itself. It is the remarkable kindness of nature that has made available to us everything that can help us, while hiding from us only those things that might harm us; as if she didn’t trust us with gold and silver, or iron, which is the tool of war and conflict, for that other. It is we ourselves who have extracted from the earth both the causes and the means of our dangers: and we are so foolish as to place the highest value on things that nature has given the lowest status. What can be more rough and crude in the mine than these precious metals, or more degrading and filthy than the people who dig and work with them? Yet they pollute our minds more than our bodies, and make the owner more corrupted than the laborers. Wealthy people, in short, are just greater slaves; both groups lack a lot.
Happy is that man that eats only for hunger, and drinks only for thirst; that stands upon his own legs, and lives by reason, not by example; and provides for use and necessity, not for ostentation and pomp! Let us curb our appetites, encourage virtue, and rather be beholden to ourselves for riches than to Fortune, who when a man draws himself into a narrow compass, has the least mark at him. Let my bed be plain and clean, and my clothes so too: my meat without much expense, or many waiters, and230 neither a burden to my purse nor to my body, not to go out the same way it came in. That which is too little for luxury, is abundantly enough for nature. The end of eating and drinking is satiety; now, what matters it though one eats and drinks more, and another less, so long as the one is not a-hungry, nor the other athirst? Epicurus, who limits pleasure to nature, as the Stoics do virtue, is undoubtedly in the right; and those that cite him to authorize their voluptuousness do exceedingly mistake him, and only seek a good authority for an evil cause: for their pleasures of sloth, gluttony, and lust, have no affinity at all with his precepts or meaning. It is true, that at first sight his philosophy seems effeminate; but he that looks nearer him will find him to be a very brave man only in a womanish dress.
Blessed is the person who eats only when hungry and drinks only when thirsty; who stands on their own feet and lives by reason, not by imitation; and who provides for practical needs rather than for show or extravagance! Let's control our appetites, promote virtue, and be more reliant on ourselves for wealth than on luck, which targets those who limit themselves. Let my bed be simple and tidy, and my clothes the same: my meals without excessive cost or many waiters, and not a burden to my wallet or my body, not to exit the same way they came in. What is too little for luxury is more than enough for natural needs. The purpose of eating and drinking is to feel satisfied; so what difference does it make if one person eats and drinks more while another eats and drinks less, as long as neither is hungry or thirsty? Epicurus, who restricts pleasure to natural needs, just as the Stoics do with virtue, is definitely correct; and those who quote him to justify their indulgences have completely misunderstood him and merely seek a respectable reference for wrongful behavior: because their pleasures of laziness, gluttony, and desire are in no way related to his teachings or intentions. It may seem at first glance that his philosophy is weak, but a closer look reveals that he is a truly brave man dressed in a way that might appear feminine.
It is a common objection, I know, that these philosophers do not live at the rate they talk; fer they can flatter their superiors, gather estates, and be as much concerned at the loss of fortune, or of friends, as other people: as sensible of reproaches, as luxurious in their eating and drinking, their furniture, their houses; as magnificent in their plate, servants, and officers; as profuse and curious in their gardens, etc. Well! and what of all this, or if it were twenty times more? It is some degree of virtue for a man to condemn himself; and if he cannot come up to the best, to be yet better than the worst; and if he cannot wholly subdue his appetites, however to check and diminish them. If I do not live as I preach, take notice that I do not speak of myself, but of virtue, nor am I so much offended with other men’s vices as with my own. All this was objected to Plato, Epicurus, Zeno; nor is any virtue so sacred as to escape malevolence. The Cynic Demetrius was a great in231stance of severity and mortification; and one that imposed upon himself neither to possess anything, nor so much as to ask it: and yet he had this scorn put upon him, that his profession was poverty, not virtue. Plato is blamed for asking money; Aristotle for receiving it; Democritus for neglecting it; Epicurus for consuming it. How happy were we if we could but come to imitate these men’s vices; for if we knew our own condition, we should find work enough at home. But we are like people that are making merry at a play or a tavern when their own houses are on fire, and yet they know nothing of it. Nay, Cato himself was said to be a drunkard; but drunkenness itself shall sooner be proved to be no crime than Cato dishonest. They that demolish temples, and overturn altars, show their good-will, though they can do the gods no hurt, and so it fares with those that invade the reputation of great men.
I know it's a common complaint that these philosophers don't live by the principles they preach; they can flatter their superiors, accumulate wealth, and react to losing money or friends just like anyone else. They feel the sting of criticism and indulge themselves in eating and drinking, their homes, and their possessions, as lavishly as others do. So what? Even if it were true a hundred times over, there's still some virtue in someone criticizing their own behavior. If a person can't reach the highest ideals, at least they can strive to be better than the worst. And if they can't completely control their desires, they should at least try to manage and reduce them. If I don't practice what I preach, understand that I'm talking about virtue, not myself, and I'm more troubled by my own faults than by the shortcomings of others. These critiques have been aimed at Plato, Epicurus, and Zeno; no virtue is so revered that it escapes criticism. The Cynic Demetrius is a notable example of austerity and self-discipline; he refused to own anything or even ask for it. Yet, people mocked him, claiming his profession was poverty, not virtue. Plato gets criticized for requesting money, Aristotle for accepting it, Democritus for ignoring it, and Epicurus for spending it. How fortunate we’d be if we could at least imitate these men's flaws, because if we understood our own situations, we would have plenty of work to do ourselves. We're like people who are partying at a play or a bar while their own houses are burning down, completely unaware. Even Cato was rumored to be a drunk, but it would be easier to prove that drunkenness isn’t a crime than to claim Cato was dishonest. Those who destroy temples and overturn altars show their enthusiasm, even if they can't harm the gods, and the same goes for those who attack the reputations of great individuals.
If the professors of virtue be as the world calls them, avaricious, libidinous, ambitious—what are they then that have a detestation for the very name of it: but malicious natures do not want wit to abuse honester men than themselves. It is the practice of the multitude to bark at eminent men as little dogs do at strangers; for they look upon other men’s virtues as the upbraiding of their own wickedness. We should do well to commend those that are good, if not, let us pass them over; but, however, let us spare ourselves: for beside the blaspheming of virtue, our rage is to no purpose. But to return now to my text.
If the so-called professors of virtue are, as the world sees them, greedy, lustful, and ambitious—what does that make those who detest even the name of virtue? Malicious people often lack the intelligence to take down individuals who are more honorable than they are. It’s common for the masses to criticize prominent figures in the same way small dogs bark at strangers; they view the virtues of others as a reminder of their own wickedness. We should celebrate those who are good; if we can’t do that, we should at least ignore them. But above all, let’s hold back our own negativity because, aside from insulting virtue, our anger serves no purpose. Now, let’s return to my main point.
We are ready enough to limit others but loth to put bonds and restraints upon ourselves, though we know that many times a greater evil is cured by a less; and the mind that will not be brought to virtue by precepts, comes to it frequently by necessity.232 Let us try a little to eat upon a joint stool, to serve ourselves, to live within compass, and accommodate our clothes to the end they were made for. Occasional experiments of our moderation give us the best proof of our firmness and virtue. A well-governed appetite is a great part of liberty, and it is a blessed lot, that since no man can have all things that he would have, we may all of us forbear desiring what we have not. It is the office of temperance to overrule us in our pleasures; some she rejects, others she qualifies and keeps within bounds. Oh! the delights of rest when a man comes to be weary, and of meat when he is heartily hungry.
We’re quick to set limits for others but hesitant to impose restrictions on ourselves, even though we know that sometimes a bigger problem can be solved by accepting a smaller one; and the mind that won’t embrace virtue through instruction often finds it through necessity. 232 Let’s try to share a simple meal, serve ourselves, live within our means, and adjust our clothing to suit their purpose. Occasionally testing our moderation gives us the best evidence of our strength and virtue. A well-disciplined appetite is a significant aspect of freedom, and it’s a fortunate situation that since no one can have everything they want, we can all learn to avoid craving what we lack. It’s the role of moderation to guide us in our pleasures; it dismisses some, while it adjusts and controls others. Oh, the joy of resting when we’re tired and enjoying food when we’re really hungry.
I have learned (says our author) by one journey how many things we have that are superfluous, and how easily they might be spared, for when we are without them upon necessity, we do not so much as feel the want of them. This is the second blessed day (says he) that my friend and I have travelled together: one wagon carries ourselves and our servants; my mattress lies upon the ground and I upon that: our diet answerable to our lodging, and never without our figs and our table-books. The muleteer without shoes, and the mules only prove themselves to be alive by their walking. In this equipage, I am not willing, I perceive, to own myself, but as often as we happen into better company, I presently fall a-blushing, which shows that I am not yet confirmed in those things which I approve and commend. I am not yet come to own my frugality, for he that is ashamed to be seen in a mean condition would be proud of a splendid one. I value myself upon what passengers think of me, and tacitly renounce my principles, whereas I should rather lift up my voice to be heard by mankind, and tell them233 “You are all mad—your minds are set upon superfluities and you value no man for his virtues.”
I’ve learned (says our author) from one journey how many things we have that are unnecessary, and how easily we could do without them, because when we’re forced to live without them, we hardly notice their absence. This is the second great day (he says) that my friend and I have traveled together: one wagon carries us and our servants; my mattress is on the ground, and I’m on that. Our food matches our lodging, and we never go without our figs and notebooks. The mule driver is barefoot, and the mules only prove they’re alive by moving. In this setup, I realize I’m not ready to accept who I am, because whenever we come across better company, I blush, which shows I’m not yet secure in the things I value and admire. I’m not yet comfortable admitting my frugality, because someone who is embarrassed to be seen in a humble state would be proud in a lavish one. I care about what others think of me, and quietly reject my beliefs, when I should instead raise my voice to be heard by everyone and tell them, “You’re all crazy—your minds are focused on excess, and you don’t value anyone for their virtues.”
I came one night weary home, and threw myself upon the bed with this consideration about me: “There is nothing ill that is well taken.” My baker tells me he has no bread; but, says he, I may get some of your tenants, though I fear it is not good. No matter, said I, for I will stay until it be better—that is to say until my stomach will be glad of worse. It is discretion sometimes to practice temperance and wont ourselves to a little, for there are many difficulties both of time and place that may force us upon it.
I came home one night feeling exhausted and just collapsed onto the bed, thinking to myself: “There’s nothing bad that’s not well received.” My baker told me he has no bread, but he mentioned I might be able to get some from your tenants, though he worries it might not be good. That’s okay, I said, because I’ll wait until it gets better—basically, until my stomach can tolerate something worse. Sometimes it makes sense to practice moderation and get used to having less, since there are many challenges related to time and place that might require us to do so.
When we come to the matter of patrimony, how strictly do we examine what every man is worth before we will trust him with a penny! “Such a man,” we cry, “has a great estate, but it is shrewdly encumbered—a very fair house, but it was built with borrowed money—a numerous family, but he does not keep touch with his creditors—if his debts were paid he would not be worth a groat.” Why do we not take the same course in other things, and examine what every man is worth? It is not enough to have a long train of attendants, vast possessions, or an incredible treasure in money and jewels—a man may be poor for all this. There is only this difference at best—one man borrows of the usurer, and the other of fortune. What signifies the carving or gilding of the chariot; is the master ever the better of it?
When it comes to inheritance, how carefully do we assess what each person is worth before we trust them with a single penny! “This guy,” we say, “has a large estate, but it’s heavily burdened—he lives in a nice house, but it was built with borrowed money—he has a big family, but he doesn’t keep up with his creditors—if his debts were paid, he wouldn’t be worth a dime.” Why don’t we apply the same scrutinizing approach to other matters and evaluate everyone's worth? It isn't enough to have a large entourage, extensive assets, or a massive stash of cash and jewelry—a person can still be broke despite all of this. At best, there’s only this distinction—one person borrows from the lender, and the other from luck. What good is the decoration or gold of the chariot; does it make the owner any better?
We cannot close up this chapter with a more generous instance of moderation than that of Fabricius. Pyrrhus tempted him with a sum of money to betray his country, and Pyrrhus’s physician offered Fabricius, for a sum of money, to poison his234 master; but he was too brave either to be overcome by gold, or to be overcome by poison, so that he refused the money, and advised Pyrrhus to have a care of treachery: and this too in the heat of a licentious war. Fabricius valued himself upon his poverty, and was as much above the thought of riches as of poison. “Live Pyrrhus,” says he “by my friendship; and turn that to thy satisfaction which was before thy trouble:” that is to say that Fabricius could not be corrupted.
We can't wrap up this chapter with a better example of moderation than Fabricius. Pyrrhus tried to tempt him with money to betray his country, and his physician even offered Fabricius a sum to poison his 234 master; but he was too brave to be swayed by either gold or poison, so he refused the money and warned Pyrrhus to beware of treachery—this was during a time of reckless war. Fabricius took pride in his poverty and was above the idea of riches just as much as he was above the idea of poison. "Live, Pyrrhus," he said, "by my friendship; and turn what used to be your trouble into your satisfaction," meaning that Fabricius could not be bribed.
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CHAPTER XVI.
CONSTANCY OF MIND GIVES A MAN REPUTATION, AND MAKES
HIM HAPPY IN DESPITE OF ALL MISFORTUNE.
The whole duty of man may be reduced to the two points of abstinence and patience; temperance in prosperity, and courage in adversity. We have already treated of the former: and the other follows now in course.
The main responsibilities of a person can be summed up in two ideas: self-control and patience; moderation during good times, and bravery during tough times. We've already discussed the first part, and now we’ll move on to the second part.
Epicurus will have it, that a wise man will bear all injuries; but the Stoics will not allow those things to be injuries which Epicurus calls so. Now, betwixt these two, there is the same difference that we find betwixt two gladiators; the one receives wounds, but yet maintains his ground, the other tells the people, when he is in blood, that it is but a scratch, and will not suffer anybody to part them. An injury cannot be received, but it must be done; but it may be done and yet not received; as a man may be in the water, and not swim, but if he swims, it is presumed that he is in the water. Or if a blow or a shot be levelled at us, it may so happen that a man may miss his aim, or some accident interpose that may divert the mischief. That which is hurt is passive, and inferior to that which hurts it. But you will say, that Socrates was condemned and put to death, and so received an injury; but I answer, that the tyrants did him an injury, and yet he received none. He236 that steals anything from me and hides it in my own house, though I have not lost it, yet he has stolen it. He that lies with his own wife, and takes her for another woman, though the woman be honest, the man is an adulterer. Suppose a man gives me a draught of poison and it proves not strong enough to kill me, his guilt is nevertheless for the disappointment. He that makes a pass at me is as much a murderer, though I put it by, as if he had struck me to the heart. It is the intention, not the effect, that makes the wickedness. He is a thief that has the will of killing and slaying, before his hand is dipt in blood; as it is sacrilege, the very intention of laying violent hands upon holy things. If a philosopher be exposed to torments, the ax over his head, his body wounded, his guts in his hands, I will allow him to groan; for virtue itself cannot divest him of the nature of a man; but if his mind stand firm, he has discharged his part. A great mind enables a man to maintain his station with honor; so that he only makes use of what he meets in his way, as a pilgrim that would fain be at his journey’s end.
Epicurus believes that a wise person will endure all harm; however, the Stoics argue that some things Epicurus considers harm aren't actually harm. Between these two, there's a similar difference as between two gladiators; one takes wounds but holds his ground, while the other tells the crowd, even when covered in blood, that it's just a scratch, refusing to let anyone separate them. An injury can only be what is done to someone, not merely what they receive; as someone may be in water without swimming, but if they're swimming, we assume they're in the water. Or if someone aims a blow or shot at us, it could happen that they miss, or some accident could stop the harm. What gets hurt is passive and less powerful than what inflicts the hurt. You might say Socrates was condemned and put to death, thus he received an injury; but I would argue that the tyrants did him wrong, yet he received no harm. If someone steals from me and hides the item in my own home, although I haven’t lost it, they are still a thief. If someone sleeps with their own wife and treats her as another person, even if the woman is faithful, he is an adulterer. Suppose someone gives me a dose of poison that isn’t strong enough to kill me; their guilt still lies in the intent. A person who tries to kill me is just as much of a murderer, even if I dodge the blow, as if they had struck me directly. It’s the intention, not the result, that defines wickedness. A person is a thief if they have the intent to kill even before they act; similarly, it is sacrilege to even think of violently attacking sacred things. If a philosopher is subjected to torture, with an axe over his head, his body bleeding, and his guts in his hands, I will allow him to groan; for virtue itself cannot strip him of his humanity. But if his mind stays strong, he has done his part. A strong mind allows a person to maintain their dignity; they utilize whatever comes their way, like a traveler eager to reach their destination.
It is the excellency of a great mind to ask nothing, and to want nothing; and to say, “I will have nothing to do with fortune, that repulses Cato, and prefers Vatinius.” He that quits his hold, and accounts anything good that is not honest, runs gaping after casualties, spends his days in anxiety and vain expectation, that man is miserable. And yet it is hard, you will say, to be banished or cast into prison: nay, what if it were to be burnt, or any other way destroyed? We have examples in all ages and cases, of great men that have triumphed over all misfortunes. Metellus suffered exile resolutely, Rutilius cheerfully; Socrates disputed in the dun237geon; and though he might have made his escape, refused it; to show the world how easy a thing it was to subdue the two great terrors of mankind, death and a jail. Or what shall we say of Mucius Scevola, a man only of a military courage, and without the help either of philosophy or letters? who, when he found that he had killed the Secretary instead of Porsenna, (the prince,) burnt his right hand to ashes for the mistake; and held his arm in the flame until it was taken away by his very enemies. Porsenna did more easily pardon Mucius for his intent to kill him than Mucius forgave himself for missing of his aim. He might have a luckier thing, but never a braver.
It’s the mark of a great mind to ask for nothing and to want for nothing; to say, “I won’t get involved with fortune that turns its back on Cato and favors Vatinius.” The person who lets go of their principles and sees anything as good that isn’t honest ends up chasing random chances, wasting their days in anxiety and empty hopes—such a person is truly miserable. Yet, you might argue, it’s tough to be exiled or thrown in jail; what if it meant being burned or destroyed in another way? Throughout history, we’ve seen great individuals overcome severe misfortunes. Metellus faced exile bravely, Rutilius did so with cheer; Socrates argued in prison; and even when he could have escaped, he chose not to, just to show how easy it was to conquer two of humanity’s greatest fears, death and imprisonment. What about Mucius Scevola, a man known solely for his military courage and lacking the support of philosophy or education? When he realized he had killed the secretary instead of Porsenna, the prince, he burned his right hand to ashes over the mistake and held it in the flames until his enemies had to pull it away. Porsenna more easily forgave Mucius for his intent to kill him than Mucius forgave himself for missing his target. He could have had better luck, but never more bravery.
Did not Cato, in the last night of his life, take Plato to bed with him, with his sword at his bed’s head; the one that he might have death at his will, the other, that he might have it in his power; being resolved that no man should be able to say, either that he killed or that he saved Cato? So soon as he had composed his thoughts, he took his sword; “Fortune,” says he, “I have hitherto fought for my country’s liberty, and for my own, and only that I might live free among freemen; but the cause is now lost, and Cato safe.” With that word he cast himself upon his sword; and after the physicians that pressed in upon him had bound up his wound, he tore it up again, and expired with the same greatness of soul that he lived. But these are the examples, you will say, of men famous in their generations.
Didn’t Cato, on the last night of his life, take Plato to bed with him, with his sword at his bed’s head; the one so he could choose death at will, the other so he could have it in his control; determined that no one could say they either killed or saved Cato? As soon as he had collected his thoughts, he picked up his sword; “Fortune,” he said, “I have fought for my country’s freedom and for my own, just so I could live freely among free people; but the cause is now lost, and Cato is safe.” With that, he threw himself on his sword; and after the physicians rushed in and bandaged his wound, he pulled it out again and died with the same greatness of spirit that he lived. But you might say these are just examples of men who were famous in their times.
Let us but consult history, and we shall find, even in the most effeminate of nations, and the most dissolute of times, men of all degrees, ages, and fortunes, nay, even women themselves, that have over238come the fear of death: which, in truth, is so little to be feared, that duly considered, it is one of the greatest benefits of nature. It was as great an honor for Cato, when his party was broken, that he himself stood his ground, as it would have been if he had carried the day, and settled an universal peace: for, it is an equal prudence, to make the best of a bad game, and to manage a good one. The day that he was repulsed, he played, and the night that he killed himself, he read, as valuing the loss of his life, and the missing of an office at the same rate. People, I know, are apt to pronounce upon other men’s infirmities by the measure of their own, and to think it impossible that a man should be content to be burnt, wounded, killed, or shackled, though in some cases he may. It is only for a great mind to judge of great things; for otherwise, that which is our infirmity will seem to be another body’s, as a straight stick in the water appears to be crooked: he that yields, draws upon his own head his own ruin; for we are sure to get the better of Fortune, if we do but struggle with her. Fencers and wrestlers, we see what blows and bruises they endure, not only for honor, but for exercise. If we turn our backs once, we are routed and pursued; that man only is happy that draws good out of evil, that stands fast in his judgment, and unmoved by any external violence; or however, so little moved, that the keenest arrow in the quiver of Fortune is but as the prick of a needle to him rather than a wound; and all her other weapons fall upon him only as hail upon the roof of a house, that crackles and skips off again, without any damage to the inhabitant.
If we look at history, we can see that even in the most delicate societies and the most corrupt times, there have been men of all kinds, ages, and backgrounds, and even women, who have conquered their fear of death. In reality, death is so little to be feared that, when we truly consider it, it’s one of nature's greatest gifts. It was just as much an honor for Cato, when his side was defeated, to stand his ground as it would have been if he had won and established a lasting peace. Both scenarios require equal wisdom: making the best of a bad situation and managing a good one. On the day he was turned back, he kept fighting, and on the night he took his own life, he was reading, valuing the loss of his life and the missed opportunity just the same. People often judge others' weaknesses based on their own experiences and may find it hard to believe someone could accept being burned, wounded, killed, or imprisoned, even though some can. Only someone with a strong mind can truly understand great things; otherwise, what we see as our weakness may seem like a different person’s issue, just as a straight stick looks bent in water. Those who give in bring about their own downfall; we are sure to overcome misfortune if we just fight against it. We see fencers and wrestlers endure hits and bruises not just for honor but for exercise. If we turn away even once, we face defeat and are chased; true happiness comes to those who find good in bad situations, who stand firm in their decisions, and who are unaffected by external forces, or minimally affected, so that the sharpest arrow Fortune has feels more like a needle prick than a wound. All her other attacks strike him like hail on a roof, bouncing off without harming the occupant.
A generous and clear-sighted young man will take it for a happiness to encounter ill fortune. It is239 nothing for a man to hold up his head in a calm; but to maintain his post when all others have quitted their ground, and there to stand upright where other men are beaten down, this is divine and praiseworthy. What ill is there in torments, or in those things which we commonly account grievous crosses? The great evil is the want of courage, the bowing and submitting to them, which can never happen to a wise man; for he stands upright under any weight; nothing that is to be borne displeases him; he knows his strength, and whatsoever may be any man’s lot, he never complains of, if it be his own. Nature, he says, deceives nobody; she does not tell us whether our children shall be fair or foul, wise or foolish, good subjects or traitors, nor whether our fortune shall be good or bad. We must not judge of a man by his ornaments, but strip him of all the advantages and the impostures of Fortune, nay, of his very body too, and look into his mind. If he can see a naked sword at his eyes without so much as winking; if he make it a thing indifferent to him whether his life go out at his throat or at his mouth; if he can hear himself sentenced to torments or exiles, and under the very hand of the executioner, says thus to himself, “All this I am provided for, and it is no more than a man that is to suffer the fate of humanity.” This is the temper of mind that speaks a man happy; and without this, all the confluences of external comforts signify no more than the personating of a king upon the stage; when the curtain is drawn, we are players again. Not that I pretend to exempt a wise man out of a number of men, as if he had no sense of pain; but I reckon him as compounded of body and soul; the body is irrational, and may be galled, burnt, tortured; but the rational part is240 fearless, invincible, and not to be shaken. This it is that I reckon upon as the supreme good of man; which until it be perfected, is but an unsteady agitation of thought, and in the perfection an immovable stability. It is not in our contentions with Fortune as in those of the theatre, where we may throw down our arms, and pray for quarter; but here we must die firm and resolute. There needs no encouragement to those things which we are inclined to by a natural instinct, as the preservation of ourselves with ease and pleasure; but if it comes to the trial of our faith by torments, or of our courage by wounds, these are difficulties that we must be armed against by philosophy and precept; and yet all this is no more than what we were born to, and no matter of wonder at all; so that a wise man prepares himself for it, as expecting whatsoever may be will be. My body is frail, and liable not only to the impressions of violence, but to afflictions also, that naturally succeed our pleasures. Full meals bring crudities; whoring and drinking make the hands to shake and the knees to tremble. It is only the surprise and newness of the thing which makes that misfortune terrible, which, by premeditation, might be made easy to us: for that which some people make light by sufferance, others do by foresight. Whatsoever is necessary, we must bear patiently. It is no new thing to die, no new thing to mourn, and no new thing to be merry again. Must I be poor? I shall have company: in banishment? I will think myself born there. If I die, I shall be no more sick; and it is a thing I cannot do but once.
A generous and insightful young man sees encountering bad luck as a blessing. It’s easy for someone to hold their head high during calm times, but to stand firm when everyone else has run away, and to remain upright while others are knocked down, that’s truly admirable. What’s so terrible about suffering or the things we usually consider to be significant burdens? The real problem is lacking courage, bowing down and giving in to those burdens, which can never happen to a wise person; they stand tall under any pressure. Nothing that needs to be endured bothers them; they know their own strength, and regardless of what anyone faces, they don’t complain if it’s their own fate. Nature doesn’t deceive anyone; she doesn’t reveal if our children will be beautiful or ugly, smart or foolish, loyal or treasonous, nor whether our fate will be good or bad. We shouldn’t judge a person by their external appearance; we should strip them of all the advantages and delusions provided by luck, and even their physical form, and look into their mind. If they can gaze at a naked sword pointed at them without flinching; if they can remain indifferent whether their life ends by the sword or by choking; if they can listen to being sentenced to torture or exile and say to themselves, “I’m prepared for this, and it’s just a part of the human experience.” That mindset demonstrates true happiness; without it, all the external comforts mean nothing, like someone pretending to be a king on stage; once the curtain falls, they’re just an actor again. I’m not suggesting that a wise person is exempt from feeling pain; I see them as a blend of body and soul; the body is irrational and can feel agony, burns, or torture; but the rational part remains fearless, unbreakable, and steady. That’s what I consider the ultimate good for a person; until it’s perfected, it’s just a shaky state of mind, and in perfection, it provides steadfast stability. Our struggles with fate aren’t like those in a play, where we can drop our weapons and ask for mercy; here, we must face death with determination and resolve. There’s no need for encouragement in the things we naturally wish for, like preserving ourselves easily and joyfully; but when it comes to testing our faith through suffering or our courage through injury, those challenges require us to be prepared with philosophy and teachings; yet, this is simply part of our existence and not surprising at all. So, a wise person gets ready for it, expecting whatever may happen. My body is fragile and can be harmed, and it’s also subject to the pain that follows pleasure. Overindulging can lead to discomfort; excessive pleasure can cause shaking hands and trembling knees. It’s the shock and novelty of these situations that make misfortune seem dreadful, when forethought could make it easier for us to handle; what some folks manage lightly through endurance, others do through anticipation. We must bear whatever is necessary with patience. Dying isn’t a new experience, mourning isn’t new, and neither is the joy of moving on. Will I be poor? I’ll find others in the same boat. In exile? I’ll convince myself that I was born into it. If I die, I won’t be sick anymore; and that’s something I can only experience once.
Let us never wonder at anything we are born to; for no man has reason to complain, where we are all in the same condition. He that escapes might have241 suffered; and it is but equal to submit to the law of mortality. We must undergo the colds of winter, the heats of summer; the distempers of the air, and the diseases of the body. A wild beast meets us in one place, and a man that is more brutal in another; we are here assaulted by fire, there by water. Demetrius was reserved by Providence for the age he lived in, to show, that neither the times could corrupt him, nor he reform the people. He was a man of an exact judgment, steady to his purpose, and of a strong eloquence; not finical in his words, but his sense was masculine and vehement. He was so qualified in his life and discourse, that he served both for an example and a reproach. If fortune should have offered that man the government and possession of the whole world, upon condition not to lay it down again, I dare say he would have refused it: and thus have expostulated the matter with you: “Why should you tempt a freeman to put his shoulder under a burden; or an honest man to pollute himself with the dregs of mankind? Why do you offer me the spoils of princes, and of nations, and the price not only of your blood, but of your souls?”
Let’s never question anything we’re born into; no one has a reason to complain when we’re all in the same situation. The person who escapes could have suffered; it’s only fair to accept the law of mortality. We have to endure the cold of winter, the heat of summer; the illnesses in the air and the diseases of the body. A wild animal confronts us in one place, and a more brutal person in another; here we are attacked by fire, there by water. Demetrius was chosen by Providence for the time he lived in, to demonstrate that neither the times could corrupt him, nor could he reform the people. He was a man of sound judgment, committed to his goals, and had a powerful way with words; not fussy in his language, but his ideas were strong and passionate. He was so well-suited in his life and speech that he was both an example and a warning. If fortune had offered that man the chance to rule and own the entire world, with the condition that he could never give it up, I’m sure he would have turned it down and said to you, “Why would you tempt a free person to take on a burden; or an honest individual to disgrace themselves with the lowest of humanity? Why do you offer me the spoils of kings and nations, and the cost not only of your blood but of your souls?”
It is the part of a great mind to be temperate in prosperity, resolute in adversity; to despise what the vulgar admire, and to prefer a mediocrity to an excess. Was not Socrates oppressed with poverty, labor, nay, the worst of wars in his own family, a fierce and turbulent woman for his wife? were not his children indocile, and like their mother? After seven-and-twenty years spent in arms, he fell under a slavery to the thirty tyrants, and most of them his bitter enemies: he came at last to be sentenced as “a violater of religion, a corrupter of youth, and a common enemy to God and man.” After this he was242 imprisoned, and put to death by poison, which was all so far from working upon his mind, that it never so much as altered his countenance. We are to bear ill accidents as unkind seasons, distempers, or diseases; and why may we not reckon the actions of wicked men even among those accidents; their deliberations are not counsels but frauds, snares, and inordinate motions of the mind; and they are never without a thousand pretences and occasions of doing a man mischief. They have their informers, their knights of the post; they can make an interest with powerful men, and one may be robbed as well upon the bench as upon the highway. They lie in wait for advantages, and live in perpetual agitation betwixt hope and fear; whereas he that is truly composed will stand all shocks, either of violences, flatteries, or menaces, without perturbation. It is an inward fear that makes us curious after what we hear abroad.
It's a mark of a great mind to be moderate in good times and steadfast in tough times; to disregard what the masses admire and to value enough over excess. Wasn't Socrates burdened by poverty, hard work, and even the worst of family conflicts, like having a fierce and troublesome wife? Weren't his children unruly and just like their mother? After spending twenty-seven years in battle, he fell under the control of the thirty tyrants, many of whom were his fiercest foes: in the end, he was sentenced as “a violator of religion, a corrupter of youth, and a common enemy to God and mankind.” Afterward, he was242 imprisoned and executed by poison, which did nothing to disturb his mind, not even changing his expression. We should endure bad situations like unkind seasons, illnesses, or hardships; and why shouldn't we consider the actions of wicked people among those hardships? Their schemes are not plans but tricks, traps, and uncontrolled impulses; and they always have countless excuses and reasons to harm someone. They have informants and unreliable witnesses; they can curry favor with powerful individuals, and one can be robbed just as easily in a courtroom as on the street. They wait for opportunities and live in constant turmoil between hope and fear; whereas someone who is truly calm can withstand any blows, whether from violence, flattery, or threats, without losing their composure. It’s an inner fear that makes us so curious about what we hear out there.
It is an error to attribute either good or ill to Fortune; but the matter of it we may; and we ourselves are the occasion of it, being in effect the artificers of our own happiness or misery: for the mind is above fortune; if that be evil, it makes everything else so too; but if it be right and sincere, it corrects what is wrong, and mollifies what is hard, with modesty and courage. There is a great difference among those that the world calls wise men. Some take up private resolutions of opposing Fortune, but they cannot go through with them; for they are either dazzled with splendor on the one hand, or affrighted with terrors on the other; but there are others that will close and grapple with Fortune, and still come off victorious.
It's a mistake to blame either good or bad on Fortune; however, we can discuss the matter of it, as we are the cause of it ourselves, effectively creating our own happiness or misery. The mind is above fortune; if the mind is troubled, it makes everything else feel the same too. But if the mind is clear and genuine, it can fix what’s wrong and soften what’s tough, with humility and bravery. There’s a significant difference among those whom society calls wise. Some decide to resist Fortune, but they can’t follow through; they either get dazzled by luxury or scared by fear. Yet, there are others who confront Fortune head-on and still manage to come out on top.
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Mucius overcame the fire; Regulus, the gibbet; Socrates, poison; Rutilius, banishment; Cato, death; Fabricius, riches; Tubero, poverty; and Sextius, honors. But there are some again so delicate, that they cannot so much as bear a scandalous report; which is the same thing as if a man should quarrel for being jostled in a crowd, or dashed as he walks in the streets. He that has a great way to go must expect a slip, to stumble, and to be tired. To the luxurious man frugality is a punishment; labor and industry to the sluggard; nay, study itself is a torment to him; not that these things are hard to us by nature, but we ourselves are vain and irresolute; nay, we wonder many of us, how any man can live without wine, or endure to rise so early in a morning.
Mucius faced the fire; Regulus, the gallows; Socrates, poison; Rutilius, exile; Cato, death; Fabricius, wealth; Tubero, poverty; and Sextius, honor. But some people are so sensitive that they can't even handle a scandalous rumor; it’s like someone getting upset about being bumped in a crowd or accidentally knocked into while walking down the street. If you have a long journey ahead, you should expect to trip, stumble, and get tired. For the indulgent person, being frugal feels like punishment; hard work and effort are burdens for the lazy; even studying is a struggle for them. It’s not that these things are naturally difficult, but we are often vain and uncertain; in fact, many of us are amazed at how anyone can live without wine or manage to wake up early in the morning.
A brave man must expect to be tossed; for he is to steer his course in the teeth of Fortune, and to work against wind and weather. In the suffering of torments, though there appears but one virtue, a man exercises many. That which is most eminent is patience, (which is but a branch of fortitude.) But there is prudence also in the choice of the action, and in the bearing what we cannot avoid; and there is constancy in bearing it resolutely: and there is the same concurrence also of several virtues in other generous undertakings.
A brave person should be ready to face challenges because they have to navigate through tough situations and go against the odds. In enduring difficulties, a person shows many strengths, even if it seems like there’s just one. The most notable of these is patience, which is a part of courage. But there’s also wisdom in deciding how to act and in handling what we can’t prevent; plus, there’s strength in facing it with determination. You can see this combination of different strengths in other noble efforts too.
When Leonidas was to carry his 300 men into the Straits of Thermopylæ, to put a stop to Xerxes’s huge army: “Come, fellow-soldiers,” says he, “eat your dinners here as if you were to sup in another world.” And they answered his resolution. How plain and imperious was that short speech of Cæditius to his men upon a desperate action! and how glorious a mixture was there in it both of bravery and pru244dence! “Soldiers,” says he, “it is necessary for us to go, but it is not necessary for us to return.” This brief and pertinent harangue was worth ten thousand of the frivolous cavils and distinctions of the schools, which rather break the mind than fortify it; and when it is once perplexed and pricked with difficulties and scruples, there they leave it. Our passions are numerous and strong, and not to be mastered with quirks and tricks, as if a man should undertake to defend the cause of God and man with a bulrush. It was a remarkable piece of honor and policy together, that action of Cæsar’s upon the taking of Pompey’s cabinet at the battle of Pharsalia: it is probable that the letters in it might have discovered who were his friends, and who his enemies; and yet he burnt it without so much as opening it; esteeming it the noblest way of pardoning, to keep himself ignorant both of the offender and of the offense. It was a brave presence of mind also in Alexander, who, upon advice that his physician Philip intended to poison him, took the letter of advice in one hand and the cup in the other; delivering Philip the letter to read while he himself drank the potion.
When Leonidas was about to lead his 300 men into the Straits of Thermopylæ to stop Xerxes’s massive army, he said, “Come on, fellow soldiers, eat your dinner here as if we're going to die in another world.” And they responded to his determination. How direct and commanding was Cæditius’s brief speech to his men before a dangerous mission! And how amazing was the blend of courage and wisdom in it! “Soldiers,” he said, “we must go, but we don’t have to come back.” This concise and relevant speech was worth more than ten thousand of the pointless arguments and distinctions from the schools that only confuse the mind instead of strengthening it; and once the mind is troubled and filled with doubts, it just gets stuck there. Our passions are many and powerful, and they can't be controlled with clever tricks, like someone trying to defend the cause of God and humanity with a reed. Cæsar’s action during the capture of Pompey’s cabinet at the battle of Pharsalia was a notable combination of honor and strategy: it’s likely the letters inside could have revealed who his allies and enemies were, yet he burned it without even looking inside, considering it the most honorable way to forgive by remaining ignorant of both the wrongdoer and the wrongdoing. Alexander also showed remarkable presence of mind. When he learned that his physician Philip intended to poison him, he took the letter of warning in one hand and the cup in the other, handing the letter to Philip to read while he drank the poison.
Some are of opinion that death gives a man courage to support pain, and that pain fortifies a man against death: but I say rather, that a wise man depends upon himself against both, and that he does not either suffer with patience, in hopes of death, or die willingly, because he is weary of life; but he bears the one, and waits for the other, and carries a divine mind through all the accidents of human life. He looks upon faith and honesty as the most sacred good of mankind, and neither to be forced by necessity nor corrupted by reward; kill, burn, tear him in245 pieces, he will be true to his trust; and the more any man labors to make him discover a secret, the deeper will he hide it. Resolution is the inexpugnable defence of human weakness, and it is a wonderful Providence that attends it.
Some believe that death gives a person the strength to endure pain, and that pain toughens someone against death. However, I think a wise person relies on themselves to face both. They don’t just endure suffering in anticipation of death, nor do they willingly accept death because they're tired of living. Instead, they endure the one and wait for the other, maintaining a noble spirit through all the ups and downs of life. They value faith and integrity as the highest goods for humanity, refusing to be swayed by necessity or corrupted by rewards; torture, fire, and dismemberment won't shake their loyalty. The harder someone tries to make them reveal a secret, the more determined they become to keep it hidden. Determination is the unbreakable shield against human frailty, and it's remarkable how Providence supports it.
Horatius Cocles opposed his single body to the whole army until the bridge was cut down behind him and then leaped into the river with his sword in his hand and came off safe to his party. There was a fellow questioned about a plot upon the life of a tyrant, and put to the torture to declare his confederates: he named, by one and one, all the tyrant’s friends that were about him: and still as they were named, they were put to death: the tyrant asked him at last if there were any more. “Yes,” says he, “yourself were in the plot; and now you have never another friend left in the world:” whereupon the tyrant cut the throats of his own guards. “He is the happy man that is the master of himself, and triumphs over the fear of death, which has overcome the conquerors of the world.”
Horatius Cocles stood alone against the entire army until the bridge behind him was destroyed. Then he jumped into the river with his sword in hand and managed to escape to his group. There was a guy who was questioned about a conspiracy to kill a tyrant and tortured to reveal his accomplices. One by one, he named all the tyrant's associates, and as each was named, they were executed. Finally, the tyrant asked if there were any more. "Yes," he replied, "you were part of the plot; now you have no friends left in the world." At that, the tyrant killed his own guards. "The truly fortunate person is the one who masters himself and conquers the fear of death, which has defeated even the conquerors of the world."
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CHAPTER XVII.
OUR HAPPINESS DEPENDS IN A GREAT MEASURE UPON THE
CHOICE OF OUR COMPANY.
The comfort of life depends upon conversation. Good offices, and concord, and human society, is like the working of an arch of stone; all would fall to the ground if one piece did not support another. Above all things let us have a tenderness for blood; and it is yet too little not to hurt, unless we profit one another. We are to relieve the distressed; to put the wanderer into his way; and to divide our bread with the hungry: which is but the doing of good to ourselves; for we are only several members of one great body. Nay, we are all of a consanguinity; formed of the same materials, and designed to the same end; this obliges us to a mutual tenderness and converse; and the other, to live with a regard to equity and justice. The love of society is natural; but the choice of our company is matter of virtue and prudence. Noble examples stir us up to noble actions; and the very history of large and public souls, inspires a man with generous thoughts. It makes a man long to be in action, and doing something that the world may be the better for; as protecting the weak, delivering the oppressed, punishing the insolent. It is a great blessing the very conscience of giving a good247 example; beside, that it is the greatest obligation any man can lay upon the age he lives in.
The comfort of life relies on conversation. Good deeds, harmony, and community are like the structure of a stone arch; everything would collapse if one piece didn't support another. Above all, let's be sensitive to our kinship; it’s not enough just to avoid causing harm unless we’re helping each other. We should assist those in need, guide the lost, and share our food with the hungry: doing good for others is essentially doing good for ourselves, as we are all parts of one great body. In fact, we all share a common ancestry, made of the same elements, and designed for the same purpose; this compels us to mutual care and interaction, as well as to live with fairness and justice. The desire for community is natural, but choosing our companions is a matter of virtue and wisdom. Great examples inspire us to do great things; stories of noble individuals motivate us to have generous thoughts. It makes one eager to take action and do something that benefits the world, like protecting the weak, freeing the oppressed, and punishing the arrogant. It's a significant blessing to have the consciousness of setting a good example; in addition, it's the greatest obligation anyone can place on the society they live in.
He that converses with the proud shall be puffed up; a lustful acquaintance makes a man lascivious; and the way to secure a man from wickedness is to withdraw from the examples of it. It is too much to have them near us, but more to have them within us—ill examples, pleasure and ease, are, no doubt of it, great corrupters of manners.
If you hang out with the proud, you'll start to feel arrogant; a sexual relationship can make someone lose their values; and the best way to protect yourself from wrongdoing is to distance yourself from those who set a bad example. It’s bad enough to have them near us, but even worse to have them within us—bad influences, pleasure, and comfort are definitely major corruptors of character.
A rocky ground hardens the horse’s hoof; the mountaineer makes the best soldier; the miner makes the best pioneer, and severity of discipline fortifies the mind. In all excesses and extremities of good and of ill fortune, let us have recourse to great examples that have contemned both. “These are the best instructors that teach in their lives, and prove their words by their actions.”
A rough terrain strengthens the horse’s hoof; the climber becomes the best soldier; the miner makes the best pioneer, and strict discipline strengthens the mind. In all the highs and lows of good and bad luck, let’s turn to great examples that have disregarded both. “These are the best teachers who demonstrate their lessons through their lives and prove their words with their actions.”
As an ill air may endanger a good constitution, so may a place of ill example endanger a good man, nay, there are some places that have a kind of privilege to be licentious, and where luxury and dissolution of manners seem to be lawful; for great examples give both authority and excuse to wickedness. Those places are to be avoided as dangerous to our manners. Hannibal himself was unmanned by the looseness of Campania, and though a conqueror by his arms, he was overcome by his pleasures. I would as soon live among butchers as among cooks—not but a man may be temperate in any place—but to see drunken men staggering up and down everywhere, and only the spectacle of lust, luxury and excess before our eyes, it is not safe to expose ourselves to the temptation. If the victorious Hannibal himself could not resist it, what shall become of us then that are subdued, and give ground248 to our lusts already? He that has to do with an enemy in his breast, has a harder task upon him than he that is to encounter one in the field; his hazard is greater if he loses ground, and his duty is perpetual, for he has no place or time for rest. If I give way to pleasure, I must also yield to grief, to poverty, to labor, ambition, anger, until I am torn to pieces by my misfortunes and lusts. But against all this philosophy propounds a liberty, that is to say, a liberty from the service of accidents and fortune. There is not anything that does more mischief to mankind than mercenary masters and philosophy, that do not live as they teach—they give a scandal to virtue. How can any man expect that a ship should steer a fortunate course, when the pilot lies wallowing in his own vomit? It is a usual thing first to learn to do ill ourselves, and then to instruct others to do so: but that man must needs be very wicked that has gathered into himself the wickedness of other people.
Just as bad air can harm a healthy body, being in a bad environment can threaten a good person. Some places seem to have a sort of privilege to behave wildly, where indulgence and immoral behavior appear to be acceptable; because prominent examples provide both permission and justification for wrongdoing. We should steer clear of such places as they can corrupt our values. Hannibal, despite being a formidable conqueror, was weakened by the freedoms of Campania, yielding to his pleasures. I’d prefer to be around butchers than cooks—not that a person can’t be moderate anywhere—but to see drunken people stumbling around everywhere, along with constant displays of lust, indulgence, and excess, is not safe for us. If the victorious Hannibal couldn’t resist it, what hope do we have, who are already weakened and give in to our desires? Facing an internal enemy is much tougher than battling one on a battlefield; the stakes are higher if you falter, and your struggle is ongoing, with no breaks. If I succumb to pleasure, I will also fall to sorrow, poverty, hard work, ambition, and anger, until I’m completely consumed by my troubles and desires. Yet philosophy offers the promise of freedom, specifically freedom from the whims of chance and fate. There’s nothing more harmful to humanity than self-serving leaders and philosophers who don’t practice what they preach—they undermine virtue. How can anyone expect a ship to sail smoothly when the captain is rolling in his own mess? It’s common for people to first learn to do wrong themselves, then teach others to follow suit; but someone must be very corrupt to absorb the wickedness of others.
The best conversation is with the philosophers—that is to say, with such of them as teach us matter, not words—that preach to us things necessary and keep us to the practice of them. There can be no peace in human life without the contempt of all events. There is nothing that either puts better thoughts into a man, or sooner sets him right that is out of the way, than a good companion, for the example has the force of a precept, and touches the heart with an affection to goodness; and not only the frequent hearing and seeing of a wise man delights us, but the very encounter of him suggests profitable contemplation such as a man finds himself moved with when he goes into a holy place. I will249 take more care with whom I eat and drink than what, for without a friend the table is a manger.
The best conversations are with philosophers—that is, with those who teach us ideas, not just words—who share important truths and encourage us to act on them. There can be no real peace in life without looking down on trivial matters. There’s nothing that inspires better thoughts in a person or helps them find their way back when they’re lost quite like a good friend, because their example serves as guidance and touches the heart with a desire for goodness. It’s not just that being around a wise person brings us joy; the mere presence of such a person prompts meaningful reflection, similar to what one feels when visiting a sacred place. I’ll pay more attention to who I share meals with than what food we have, because without a friend, the table feels like a feeding trough.
Writing does well, but personal discourse and conversation does better; for men give great credit to their ears, and take stronger impressions from example than precept. Cleanthes had never hit Zeno so to the life if he had not been in with him at all his privacies, if he had not watched and observed him whether or not he practised as he taught. Plato got more from Socrates’ manners than from his words, and it was not the school, but the company and familiarity of Epicurus that made Metrodorus, Hermachus and Polyænus so famous.
Writing is effective, but personal conversation and dialogue are even better; people trust what they hear and are more influenced by example than by instruction. Cleanthes wouldn’t have captured Zeno's essence so accurately if he hadn't been involved in all of his private moments, observing whether he practiced what he preached. Plato learned more from Socrates' actions than from his words, and it was not the classroom, but the companionship and familiarity with Epicurus that made Metrodorus, Hermachus, and Polyænus so renowned.
Now, though it be by instinct that we covet society, and avoid solitude, we should yet take this along with us, that the more acquaintance the more danger: nay, there is not one man of a hundred that is to be trusted with himself. If company cannot alter us, it may interrupt us, and he that so much as stops upon the way loses a great deal of a short life, which we yet make shorter by our inconstancy. If an enemy were at our heels, what haste should we make!—but death is so, and yet we never mind it. There is no venturing of tender and easy natures among the people, for it is odds that they will go over to the major party. It would, perhaps, shake the constancy of Socrates, Cato, Lælius, or any of us all, even when our resolutions are at the height, to stand the shock of vice that presses upon us with a kind of public authority.
Even though we naturally crave company and shy away from being alone, we should remember that the more people we know, the greater the risk. In fact, there isn't one person in a hundred that can truly be trusted to manage themselves. If being around others can't change us, it can still distract us, and anyone who stops in their tracks loses a lot of precious time in a life that's already too short, which we often make even shorter with our inconsistency. If an enemy were right behind us, we’d rush forward!—but death is similarly close, and yet we hardly pay attention to it. It's risky for sensitive and gentle souls to mingle with others because they're likely to join the majority. Even someone as steadfast as Socrates, Cato, Lælius, or any of us could waver when faced with the overwhelming pressure of public vice.
It is a world of mischief that may be done by one single example of avarice or luxury. One voluptuous palate makes a great many. A wealthy neighbor stirs up envy, and a fleering companion moves ill-nature wherever he comes. What will become of250 those people then that expose themselves to a popular violence? which is ill both ways; either if they comply with the wicked, because they are many, or quarrel with the multitude because they are not principled alike. The best way is to retire, and associate only with those that may be the better for us, and we for them. These respects are mutual; for while we teach, we learn. To deal freely, I dare not trust myself in the hands of much company: I never go abroad that I come home again the same man I went out. Something or other that I had put in order is discomposed; some passion that I had subdued gets head again; and it is just with our minds as it is after a long indisposition with our bodies; we are grown so tender, that the least breath of air exposes us to a relapse. And it is no wonder if a numerous conversation be dangerous, where there is scarce any single man but by his discourse, example, or behavior, does either recommend to us, or imprint in us, or, by a kind of contagion, insensibly infect us with one vice or other; and the more people the greater is the peril. Especially let us have a care of public spectacles where wickedness insinuates itself with pleasure; and, above all others, let us avoid spectacles of cruelty and blood; and have nothing to do with those that are perpetually whining and complaining; there may be faith and kindness there, but no peace. People that are either sad or fearful, we do commonly, for their own sakes, set a guard upon them, for fear they should make an ill use of being alone; especially the imprudent, who are still contriving of mischief, either for others or for themselves, in cherishing their lusts, or forming their designs. So much for the choice of a companion; we shall now proceed to that of a friend.
It’s a world of trouble that can stem from just one person’s greed or indulgence. One lavish person creates a ripple effect. A wealthy neighbor fuels jealousy, and a mocking friend spreads negativity wherever they go. What will happen to those who put themselves at the mercy of public outrage? It’s bad either way; if they go along with the wicked because they are numerous, or if they argue with the crowd because their principles don’t align. The best approach is to step back and associate only with those who can uplift us, as we can uplift them in return. These interactions are mutual; while we teach, we also learn. To be honest, I can’t trust myself around too many people: I never leave home without returning as the same person I was when I left. Something I had in order gets thrown into chaos; a passion I had controlled rises again. Our minds react like our bodies do after being unwell for a long time; we become so sensitive that even the slightest breeze can lead to a setback. It's no surprise that having many interactions can be risky, where almost anyone can, through their words, actions, or behavior, either encourage or imprint some vice on us, or, by a kind of unintentional contagion, infect us with it; the more people, the greater the risk. We especially need to be cautious at public gatherings where wrongdoing sneaks in alongside entertainment; above all, we should avoid cruel and bloody spectacles, and steer clear of those who are always complaining and grumbling; there might be sincerity and kindness there, but no peace. We often put up a guard for people who are sad or fearful, to prevent them from misusing their solitude; particularly the imprudent, who continually scheme mischief for themselves or others, nurturing their desires or plotting their plans. That’s enough about choosing a companion; now let’s move on to selecting a friend.
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THE BLESSINGS OF FRIENDSHIP.
Of all felicities, the most charming is that of a firm and gentle friendship. It sweetens all our cares, dispels our sorrows, and counsels us in all extremities. Nay, if there were no other comfort in it than the bare exercise of so generous a virtue, even for that single reason, a man would not be without it. Beside, that it is a sovereign antidote against all calamities, even against the fear of death itself.
Of all the joys in life, the most delightful is a strong and gentle friendship. It eases our worries, lifts our spirits, and guides us in difficult times. In fact, even if there were no other benefit from it than the simple practice of such a noble virtue, that alone would be enough reason for someone to seek it out. Moreover, it serves as a powerful remedy against all hardships, including the fear of death itself.
But we are not to number our friends by the visits that are made us; and to confound the decencies of ceremony and commerce with the offices of united affections. Caius Gracchus, and after him Livius Drusus, were the men that introduced among the Romans the fashion of separating their visitants; some were taken into their closet, others were only admitted into the antechamber: and some, again, were fain to wait in the hall perhaps, or in the court. So that they had their first, their second, and their third rate friends; but none of them true: only they are called so in course, as we salute strangers with some title or other of respect at a venture. There is no depending upon those men that only take their compliment in their turn, and rather slip through the door than enter at it. He will find himself in a252 great mistake, that either seeks for a friend in a palace, or tries him at a feast.
But we shouldn't count our friends by the visits we receive, confusing the polite formalities of ceremony and commerce with the genuine bonds of united affections. Caius Gracchus, followed by Livius Drusus, were the ones who brought to the Romans the idea of categorizing their visitors; some were welcomed into their closet, while others were only allowed in the antechamber: and some had to wait in the hall or in the court. Thus, they had their first, second, and third tier friends, but none of them were true friends: they were just labeled as such, like how we casually greet strangers with some title of respect. You can't rely on those who only accept polite gestures in return, slipping out rather than stepping in. Anyone who looks for a friend in a palace or tests their loyalty at a feast will be greatly mistaken.
The great difficulty rests in the choice of him; that is to say, in the first place, let him be virtuous, for vice is contagious, and there is no trusting the sound and the sick together; and he ought to be a wise man too, if a body knew where to find him; but in this case, he that is least ill is best, and the highest degree of human prudence is only the most venial folly. That friendship where men’s affections are cemented by an equal and by a common love of goodness, it is not either hope or fear, or any private interest, that can ever dissolve it: but we carry it with us to our graves, and lay down our lives for it with satisfaction. Paulina’s good and mine (says our author) were so wrapped up together, that in consulting her comfort I provided for my own; and when I could not prevail upon her to take less care for me, she prevailed upon me to take more care for myself.
The main challenge lies in choosing him; first, he should be virtuous, because vice is contagious, and you can’t trust the healthy and the sick together. He should also be wise, if you could actually find such a person; but in this case, the least flawed person is the best, and the highest level of human wisdom is just the most forgivable foolishness. That friendship where people’s feelings are bonded by an equal and shared love for goodness can’t be broken by hope, fear, or any personal interest: we carry it with us to our graves and would happily lay down our lives for it. Paulina’s well-being and mine (as our author says) were so intertwined that by looking after her happiness, I was also taking care of my own; and when I couldn’t convince her to worry less about me, she managed to persuade me to take better care of myself.
Some people make it a question, whether is the greatest delight, the enjoying of an old friendship, or the acquiring of a new one? but it is in the preparing of a friendship, and in the possession of it, as it is with the husbandman in sowing and reaping; his delight is the hope of his labor in the one case, and the fruit of it in the other. My conversation lies among my books, but yet in the letters of a friend, methinks I have his company; and when I answer them, I do not only write, but speak: and, in effect, a friend is an eye, a heart, a tongue, a hand, at all distances. When friends see one another personally, they do not see one another as they do when they are divided, where the meditation dignifies the prospect; but they are effectually in a great253 measure absent even when they are present. Consider their nights apart, their private studies, their separate employments, and necessary visits; and they are almost as much together divided as present. True friends are the whole world to one another; and he that is a friend to himself is also a friend to mankind. Even in my very studies, the greatest delight I take in what I learn is the teaching of it to others; for there is no relish, methinks, in the possession of anything without a partner; nay, if wisdom itself were offered me upon condition only of keeping it to myself, I should undoubtedly refuse it.
Some people wonder whether the greatest joy comes from enjoying an old friendship or gaining a new one. But the real joy lies in both forming a friendship and having one, much like a farmer experiences joy when sowing seeds and reaping their harvest; he delights in the hope of his hard work in one case and in the rewards of it in the other. My main conversations happen through my books, but I feel I have the company of a friend when I read their letters. When I reply to them, I’m not just writing; I’m speaking. A friend is like an eye, a heart, a tongue, a hand, no matter how far apart we are. When friends meet in person, they don’t see each other the same way as when they’re separated, where reflection enhances the view. Even when physically present, they can feel quite absent due to their individual lives, private studies, separate tasks, and necessary visits. True friends mean the world to each other, and someone who is a friend to themselves is also a friend to humanity. Even in my studies, the biggest pleasure I find in learning is sharing it with others; it seems there’s no enjoyment in having anything without someone to share it with. If I were offered wisdom with the condition that I keep it to myself, I would definitely reject it.
Lucilius tells me, that he was written to by a friend, but cautions me withal not to say anything to him of the affair in question; for he himself stands upon the same guard. What is this but to affirm and to deny the same thing in the same breath, in calling a man a friend, whom we dare not trust as our own soul? For there must be no reserves in friendship: as much deliberation as you please before the league is struck, but no doubtings or jealousies after. It is a preposterous weakness to love a man before we know him, and not to care for him after. It requires time to consider of a friendship, but the resolution once taken, entitles him to my very heart. I look upon my thoughts to be as safe in his breast as in my own: I shall, without any scruple, make him the confidant of my most secret cares and counsels.
Lucilius tells me that a friend wrote to him, but he warns me not to mention anything about it to him because he’s being just as careful. What does this mean other than stating and then denying the same thing at the same time? We call someone a friend, yet we can't even trust them with our deepest secrets. There can't be any reservations in friendship: you can think things over as much as you want before you commit, but after that, there should be no doubts or jealousy. It’s silly to love someone before really knowing them and then not care about them afterward. It takes time to figure out a friendship, but once you decide, that person deserves my whole heart. I believe my thoughts are just as safe with him as they are with me. I will, without hesitation, share my most private worries and advice with him.
It goes a great way toward the making of a man faithful, to let him understand that you think him so: and he that does but so much as suspect that I will deceive him gives me a kind of right to cozen him. When I am with my friend, methinks I am254 alone, and as much at liberty to speak anything as to think it, and as our hearts are one, so must be our interest and convenience; for friendship lays all things in common, and nothing can be good to the one that is ill to the other. I do not speak of such a community as to destroy one another’s propriety; but as the father and the mother have two children, not one apiece, but each of them two.
It really helps to build a man’s faithfulness when he knows you believe in him. If someone even suspects I might betray him, it gives me a sort of license to trick him. When I’m with my friend, I feel completely free to express anything I think, just as we share our hearts. Our interests and benefits should align because friendship means sharing everything; what harms one cannot be good for the other. I'm not talking about a relationship that takes away personal ownership; it’s like a mom and dad who have two kids, not just one each, but both of them share two.
But let us have a care, above all things, that our kindness be rightfully founded; for where there is any other invitation to friendship than the friendship itself, that friendship will be bought and sold. He derogates upon the majesty of it that makes it only dependent upon good fortune. It is a narrow consideration for a man to please himself in the thought of a friend, “because,” says he, “I shall have one to help me when I am sick, in prison, or in want.” A brave man should rather take delight in the contemplation of doing the same offices for another. He that loves a man for his own sake is in an error. A friendship of interest cannot last any longer than the interest itself, and this is the reason that men in prosperity are so much followed, and when a man goes down the wind, nobody comes near him.
But let’s be careful, above all, to make sure our kindness is genuinely founded; because if there’s any other reason for friendship other than the friendship itself, that bond will be transactional. It undermines the true greatness of friendship if it relies solely on good luck. It’s a shallow way for someone to think about a friend, saying, “I’ll have someone to help me when I’m sick, in jail, or in need.” A courageous person should find joy in the idea of doing those same things for others. Someone who loves another person for their own sake is mistaken. A friendship based on self-interest can’t last longer than the interest itself, which is why people flock to those who are doing well, but when someone is down on their luck, no one wants to be around them.
Temporary friends will never stand the test. One man is forsaken for fear of profit, another is betrayed. It is a negotiation, not a friendship, that has an eye to advantages; only, through the corruption of times, that which was formerly a friendship is now become a design upon a booty: alter your testament, and you lose your friend. But my end of friendship is to have one dearer to me than myself, and for the saving of whose life I would cheerfully lay down my own; taking this along with me, that255 only wise men can be friends, others are but companions; and that there is a great difference also betwixt love and friendship; the one may sometimes do us hurt, the other always does us good, for the one friend is hopeful to another in all cases, as well in prosperity as in affliction. We receive comfort, even at a distance, from those we love, but then it is light and faint; whereas, presence and conversation touch us to the quick, especially if we find the man we love to be such a person as we wish.
Temporary friends will never stand the test of time. One person is abandoned for the sake of profit, while another is betrayed. It's a negotiation, not a friendship, that focuses on advantages; only, due to the corruption of the times, what used to be friendship has now turned into a scheme for gain: change your will, and you lose your friend. But my view of friendship is to have someone I cherish more than myself, and for whom I would gladly lay down my life; keeping in mind that only wise people can be true friends, while others are just companions; and that there is a significant difference between love and friendship; one can sometimes hurt us, while the other always provides benefit, as one friend offers hope to another in all situations, both in good times and bad. We find comfort, even from a distance, from those we love, but it is light and faint; whereas, being together and talking deeply affects us, especially if we discover that the person we love is exactly who we hope them to be.
It is usual with princes to reproach the living by commending the dead, and to praise those people for speaking truth from whom there is no longer any danger of hearing it. This is Augustus’s case: he was forced to banish his daughter Julia for her common and prostituted impudence; and still upon fresh informations, he was often heard to say, “If Agrippa or Mecenas had been now alive, this would never have been.” But yet where the fault lay may be a question; for perchance it was his own, that had rather complain for the want of them than seek for others as good. The Roman losses by war and by fire, Augustus could quickly supply and repair; but for the loss of two friends he lamented his whole life after.
It's common for rulers to criticize the living while praising the dead, and to commend those who spoke the truth when there’s no longer a risk of hearing it. This was the case with Augustus: he had to banish his daughter Julia because of her shameless behavior; yet, after receiving new information, he often said, “If Agrippa or Mecenas were still alive, this would never have happened.” However, where the fault truly lay is debatable; perhaps it was his own fault, preferring to complain about the lack of them instead of looking for others just as good. Augustus could quickly recover from the losses Rome faced in war or through fire, but he mourned the loss of two friends for the rest of his life.
Xerxes, (a vain and a foolish prince) when he made war upon Greece, one told him, “It would never come to a battle”;another, “That he would find only empty cities and countries, for they would not so much as stand the very fame of his coming;” others soothed him in the opinion of his prodigious numbers; and they all concurred to puff him up to his destruction; only Damaratus advised him not to depend too much upon his numbers, for he would rather find them a burden to him than256 an advantage: and that three hundred men in the straits of the mountains would be sufficient to give a check to his whole army; and that such an accident would undoubtedly turn his vast numbers to his confusion. It fell out afterward as he foretold, and he had thanks for his fidelity. A miserable prince, that among so many thousand subjects had but one servant to tell him the truth!
Xerxes, (a vain and foolish prince) when he went to war against Greece, was told by one person, “There won’t even be a battle”; another said, “You’ll only find empty cities and lands, because they won’t even want to face the news of your arrival.” Others flattered him about his huge numbers; and they all joined in boosting his ego to his downfall. Only Damaratus warned him not to rely too heavily on his numbers, saying he would likely find them more of a burden than an advantage: that three hundred men in the mountain passes would be enough to hold back his entire army, and that such a scenario would definitely turn his massive numbers against him. Eventually, it happened just as he had predicted, and he was thanked for his honesty. What a miserable prince, who among thousands of subjects had only one servant willing to speak the truth!
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HE THAT WOULD BE HAPPY MUST TAKE AN ACCOUNT
OF HIS TIME.
In the distribution of human life, we find that a great part of it passes away in evil doing; a greater yet in doing just nothing at all: and effectually the whole in doing things beside our business. Some hours we bestow upon ceremony and servile attendances; some upon our pleasures, and the remainder runs at waste. What a deal of time is it that we spend in hopes and fears, love and revenge, in balls, treats, making of interests, suing for offices, soliciting of causes, and slavish flatteries! The shortness of life, I know, is the common complaint both of fools and philosophers; as if the time we have were not sufficient for our duties. But it is with our lives as with our estates, a good husband makes a little go a great way; whereas, let the revenue of a prince fall into the hands of a prodigal, it is gone in a moment. So that the time allotted us, if it were well employed, were abundantly enough to answer all the ends and purposes of mankind. But we squander it away in avarice, drink, sleep, luxury, ambition, fawning addresses, envy, rambling, voyages, impertinent studies, change of counsels, and the like; and when our portion is spent, we find the258 want of it, though we gave no heed to it in the passage: insomuch, that we have rather made our life short than found it so. You shall have some people perpetually playing with their fingers, whistling, humming, and talking to themselves; and others consume their days in the composing, hearing, or reciting of songs and lampoons. How many precious morning hours do we spend in consultation with barbers, tailors, and tire-women, patching and painting betwixt the comb and the glass! A council must be called upon every hair we cut; and one curl amiss is as much as a body’s life is worth. The truth is, we are more solicitous about our dress than our manners, and about the order of our periwigs than that of the government. At this rate, let us but discount, out of a life of a hundred years, that time which has been spent upon popular negotiations, frivolous amours, domestic brawls, sauntering up and down to no purpose, diseases that we have brought upon ourselves, and this large extent of life will not amount perhaps to the minority of another man. It is a long being, but perchance a short life. And what is the reason of all this? We live as we should never die, and without any thought of human frailty, when yet the very moment we bestow upon this man or thing, may, peradventure, be our last. But the greatest loss of time is delay and expectation, which depend upon the future. We let go the present, which we have in our own power; we look forward to that which depends upon Fortune; and so quit a certainty for an uncertainty. We should do by time as we do by a torrent, make use of it while we have it, for it will not last always.
In the distribution of human life, we see that a large portion of it is spent in wrongdoing; an even larger part goes to doing just nothing at all: and basically, most of it is spent doing things beside our real work. We spend some hours on ceremonies and mindless tasks; some on our pleasures, and the rest just slips away. How much time do we waste in hopes and fears, love and revenge, at parties, having meals, trying to make connections, applying for jobs, arguing cases, and flattering others? The briefness of life is a complaint both fools and philosophers share; as if the time we have isn't enough for our responsibilities. But our lives are like our resources: a good planner can stretch a little to go a long way; however, if a prince's wealth falls into the hands of a spendthrift, it's gone in an instant. So, if we used our time wisely, it would be plenty to accomplish all human needs. Instead, we waste it on greed, drinking, sleeping, indulgence, ambition, empty compliments, jealousy, wandering, pointless travels, irrelevant studies, changing our opinions, and more; and when our time is up, we realize we lack it, even though we paid no attention while it passed: essentially, we’ve shortened our lives instead of discovering them to be short. Some people constantly fiddle with their fingers, whistle, hum, or talk to themselves; while others spend their days writing, listening to, or performing songs and silly poems. How many valuable morning hours do we waste consulting barbers, tailors, and beauticians, fixing ourselves between the comb and the mirror! We have to hold a meeting over every hair we cut; one misplaced curl feels like a matter of life and death. The truth is, we care more about our appearance than our behavior, and about styling our wigs more than how we govern ourselves. If we factor out the time spent on pointless discussions, trivial romances, domestic fights, aimless wandering, self-inflicted illnesses, and all the other wasted time, our long life might barely add up to a lesser person's youth. It may be a long existence, but perhaps a short life. And why is that? We act as if we’ll never die, ignoring human fragility, when any moment spent on a person or thing could very well be our last. But the biggest waste of time is procrastination and waiting, both of which rely on the future. We let go of the present, which we can control; we look ahead to what’s dictated by chance; and so we trade a certainty for an uncertainty. We should treat time like a flowing river, making use of it while we have it, because it won’t last forever.
The calamities of human nature may be divided into the fear of death, and the miseries and errors259 of life. And it is the great work of mankind to master the one, and to rectify the other; and so live as neither to make life irksome to us, nor death terrible. It should be our care, before we are old, to live well, and when we are so, to die well; that we may expect our end without sadness: for it is the duty of life to prepare ourselves for death; and there is not an hour we live that does not mind us of our mortality.
The struggles of human nature can be split into the fear of death and the challenges and mistakes259 of life. It’s humanity's major task to conquer one and fix the other; to live in a way that makes life enjoyable and death less frightening. We should focus, while we’re still young, on living well, and when we’re older, on dying well, so we can face our end without sadness. It's essential in life to get ready for death, and every hour we live reminds us of our mortality.
Time runs on, and all things have their fate, though it lies in the dark. The period is certain to nature, but what am I the better for it if it be not so to me? We propound travels, arms, adventures, without ever considering that death lies in the way. Our term is set, and none of us know how near it is; but we are all of us agreed that the decree is unchangeable. Why should we wonder to have that befall us to-day which might have happened to us any minute since we were born? Let us therefore live as if every moment were to be our last, and set our accounts right every day that passes over our heads. We are not ready for death, and therefore we fear it, because we do not know what will become of us when we are gone, and that consideration strikes us with an inexplicable terror. The way to avoid this distraction is to contract our business and our thoughts—when the mind is once settled, a day or an age is all one to us; and the series of time, which is now our trouble will be then our delight; for he that is steadily resolved against all uncertainties, shall never be disturbed with the variety of them. Let us make haste, therefore, to live, since every day to a wise man is a new life—for he has done his business the day before, and so prepared himself for the260 next, that if it be not his last, he knows yet that it might have been so. No man enjoys the true taste of life but he that is willing and ready to quit it.
Time keeps moving, and everything has its destiny, even if we can’t see it. Nature has its timeline, but what does that matter to me if it doesn’t apply to my life? We talk about journeys, battles, and adventures, without really thinking about the death that’s always lurking nearby. Our time is limited, and none of us knows how close it is; but we all agree that this fact can't be changed. Why should we be surprised to face something today that could have happened to us at any moment since we were born? So, let’s live as if each moment could be our last, and make sure to settle our affairs each day. We’re not prepared for death and that’s why we fear it because we don’t know what happens to us afterwards, and that thought fills us with deep anxiety. To avoid this distress, we should simplify our lives and our thoughts—once the mind is settled, a day or an era feels the same to us; and the time, which now troubles us, will later bring us joy; for someone who is firmly determined against uncertainty won’t be shaken by its many forms. So let’s hurry to live, because for a wise person, every day is a fresh start—having handled their responsibilities the day before, they’ve prepared themselves for the next day, and if it isn’t their last, they still know it could have been. No one truly enjoys life unless they are ready and willing to let it go.
The wit of man is not able to express the blindness of human folly in taking so much more care of our fortunes, our houses, and our money, than we do of our lives—everybody breaks in upon the one gratis, but we betake ourselves to fire and sword if any man invades the other. There is no dividing in the case of patrimony, but people share our time with us at pleasure, so profuse are we of that only thing whereof we may be honestly covetous. It is a common practice to ask an hour or two of a friend for such or such a business, and it is as easily granted, both parties only considering the occasion, and not the thing itself. They never put time to account, which is the most valuable of all precious things; but because they do not see it they reckon upon it as nothing: and yet these easy men when they come to die would give the whole world for those hours again which they so inconsiderately cast away before; but there is no recovering of them. If they could number their days that are yet to come as they can those that are already past, how would those very people tremble at the apprehension of death, though a hundred years hence, that never so much as think of it at present, though they know not but it may take them away the next immediate minute!
The cleverness of humans can't fully capture the foolishness of how we care much more about our wealth, homes, and money than we do about our own lives—anyone can intrude on the first category without consequences, but we resort to violence if someone threatens the second. When it comes to inheritance, there’s no sharing involved, but people freely take our time as they wish, as we waste that one thing we could truly desire without guilt. It’s common to ask a friend for an hour or two for this or that task, and it’s easily granted, with both sides only thinking about the situation, not the time itself. They never consider the value of time, which is the most precious resource; because it’s not visible, they treat it as if it’s worthless. Yet, when they face death, these same people would give anything to have back those hours they carelessly wasted; but they can’t get them back. If they could count the days ahead like they can those that have already passed, they would likely tremble at the thought of death, even if it were a hundred years away, while they don’t even think about it now, despite knowing it could take them at any moment!
It is an usual saying “I would give my life for such or such a friend,” when, at the same time, we do give it without so much as thinking of it; nay, when that friend is never the better for it, and we ourselves the worse. Our time is set, and day and night we travel on. There is no baiting by the way,261 and it is not in the power of either prince or people to prolong it. Such is the love of life, that even those decrepit dotards that have lost the use of it will yet beg the continuance of it, and make themselves younger than they are, as if they could cozen even Fate itself! When they fall sick, what promises of amendment if they escape that bout! What exclamations against the folly of their misspent time—and yet if they recover, they relapse. No man takes care to live well, but long; when yet it is in everybody’s power to do the former, and in no man’s to do the latter. We consume our lives in providing the very instruments of life, and govern ourselves still with a regard to the future, so that we do not properly live, but we are about to live. How great a shame is it to be laying new foundations of life at our last gasp, and for an old man (that can only prove his age by his beard,) with one foot in the grave, to go to school again! While we are young we may learn; our minds are tractable and our bodies fit for labor and study; but when age comes on, we are seized with languor and sloth, afflicted with diseases, and at last we leave the world as ignorant as we came into it—only we die worse than we were born, which is none of Nature’s fault, but ours; for our fears, suspicions, perfidy, etc., are from ourselves.
It's a common saying, "I'd give my life for this or that friend," yet we often do so without a second thought; and ironically, that friend gains nothing from it, while we end up worse off. Our time is limited, and we keep moving through day and night. There's no stopping along the way, and neither kings nor common people can extend it. Such is our love for life that even those frail individuals who can hardly enjoy it still beg for more of it, pretending to be younger, as if they could fool Fate itself! When they get sick, they make all sorts of promises to improve if they survive that moment! They curse the foolishness of their wasted time—but if they get better, they quickly fall back into their old ways. No one cares to live well, only to live long; yet it's within everyone's power to do the former, while no one can guarantee the latter. We spend our lives trying to secure the essentials for living and still plan for the future to the point where we don’t truly live but only prepare to live. How shameful it is to be trying to lay new foundations for life at our last breath, and for an old man (who can only show his age by his gray beard), with one foot in the grave, to go back to school again! When we are young, we're eager to learn; our minds are flexible, and our bodies are ready for work and study. But as age sets in, we become sluggish and lazy, tormented by illness, leaving the world just as ignorant as we entered it—only we die in a worse state than we were born, and that’s not Nature's fault, but ours; our fears, doubts, and betrayals come from within us.
I wish with all my soul that I had thought of my end sooner, but I must make the more haste now and spur on like those that set out late upon a journey—it will be better to learn late than not at all—though it be but only to instruct me how I may leave the stage with honor.
I wish I had thought about my end sooner, but now I have to hurry and push myself like those who started their journey late—it’s better to learn late than not learn at all—though it’s just to teach me how to leave the stage with dignity.
In the division of life, there is time present, past, and to come. What we do is short, what we shall do262 is doubtful, but what we have done is certain, and out of the power of fortune. The passage of time is wonderfully quick, and a man must look backward to see it; and, in that retrospect, he has all past ages at a view; but the present gives us the slip unperceived. It is but a moment that we live, and yet we are dividing it into childhood, youth, man’s estate, and old age, all which degrees we bring into that narrow compass. If we do not watch, we lose our opportunities; if we do not make haste, we are left behind; our best hours escape us, the worst are to come. The purest part of our life runs first, and leaves only the dregs at the bottom; and “that time which is good for nothing else, we dedicate to virtue;” and only propound to begin to live at an age that very few people arrive at. What greater folly can there be in the world than this loss of time, the future being so uncertain, and the damages so irreparable? If death be necessary, why should any man fear it? and if the time of it be uncertain, why should not we always expect it? We should therefore first prepare ourselves by a virtuous life against the dread of an inevitable death; and it is not for us to put off being good until such or such a business is over, for one business draws on another, and we do as good as sow it, one grain produces more. It is not enough to philosophize when we have nothing else to do, but we must attend wisdom even to the neglect of all things else; for we are so far from having time to spare, that the age of the world would be yet too narrow for our business; nor is it sufficient not to omit it, but we must not so much as intermit it.
In life, there's the present, past, and future. What we do is brief, what we will do is uncertain, but what we have done is definite, beyond the control of chance. Time flies by quickly, and we can only see it by looking back; in that reflection, we can view all past ages, yet the present slips away unnoticed. We only live for a moment, yet we divide that time into childhood, youth, adulthood, and old age, all of which we compress into a small span. If we don't stay alert, we miss our chances; if we don't hurry, we fall behind; our best moments fade away, while the worst are yet to come. The best part of our lives goes by first, leaving only the remnants behind; and “the time that is good for nothing else, we dedicate to virtue;” yet we only plan to start living at an age that few people reach. What greater foolishness is there than wasting time, especially when the future is so unpredictable and the losses so irreparable? If death is inevitable, why should anyone fear it? And if we don’t know when it will happen, why shouldn’t we always anticipate it? We should prepare ourselves for the fear of unavoidable death by leading a virtuous life; we shouldn’t delay being good until certain tasks are completed because one task leads to another, and we essentially sow it—one grain produces more. It’s not enough to think about wisdom only when we have nothing else to do; we must pursue wisdom even at the expense of everything else, as we are so far from having spare time that even the age of the world would be too small for our pursuits. It’s not just about not neglecting it; we shouldn’t even pause in our pursuit of it.
There is nothing that we can properly call our own but our time, and yet every body fools us out of263 it that has a mind to it. If a man borrows a paltry sum of money, there must be bonds and securities, and every common civility is charged upon account; but he that has my time, thinks he owes me nothing for it, though it be a debt that gratitude itself can never repay. I cannot call any man poor that has enough still left, be it never so little: it is good advice yet to those that have the world before them, to play the good husbands betimes, for it is too late to spare at the bottom, when all is drawn out to the lees. He that takes away a day from me, takes away what he can never restore me. But our time is either forced away from us, or stolen from us, or lost; of which the last is the foulest miscarriage. It is in life as in a journey; a book or a companion brings us to our lodging before we thought we were half-way. Upon the whole matter we consume ourselves one upon another, without any regard at all to our own particular. I do not speak of such as live in notorious scandal, but even those men themselves, whom the world pronounces happy, are smothered in their felicities, servants to their professions and clients, and drowned in their lusts. We are apt to complain of the haughtiness of great men, when yet there is hardly any of them all so proud but that, at some time or other, a man may yet have access to him, and perhaps a good word or look into the bargain. Why do we not rather complain of ourselves, for being of all others, even to ourselves, the most deaf and inaccessible.
There’s nothing we can truly claim as ours except our time, yet everyone who wants it can easily take it from us. If someone borrows a small amount of money, there are contracts and guarantees, and every common courtesy is expected; but the person who takes my time thinks they owe me nothing for it, even though it’s a debt that gratitude can never fully repay. I don’t consider anyone poor who still has a bit left, no matter how small it is: it's wise for those with bright futures to manage their resources early, because it’s too late to save when everything’s already gone. When someone takes a day from me, they take something they can never give back. But our time is either forced away, stolen, or lost; and losing it is the worst of all. Life is like a journey; a book or a companion can get us to our destination before we even realize we were only halfway there. In the end, we consume each other without paying any attention to our own well-being. I’m not just talking about those who live in obvious disgrace, but even those who the world thinks are happy are often overwhelmed by their own joys, trapped by their jobs and desires. We tend to complain about the arrogance of great men, while hardly any of them are so proud that we can’t connect with them at some point, maybe even getting a kind word or a smile in return. Why don’t we instead complain about ourselves, for being the most deaf and inaccessible to our own needs?
Company and business are great devourers of time, and our vices destroy our lives as well as our fortunes. The present is but a moment, and perpetually in flux; the time past, we call to mind when we please, and it will abide the examination and in264spection. But the busy man has not leisure to look back, or if he has, it is an unpleasant thing to reflect upon a life to be repented of, whereas the conscience of a good life puts a man into a secure and perpetual possession of a felicity never to be disturbed or taken away: but he that has led a wicked life is afraid of his own memory; and, in the review of himself, he finds only appetite, avarice, or ambition, instead of virtue. But still he that is not at leisure many times to live, must, when his fate comes, whether he will or not, be at leisure to die. Alas! what is time to eternity? the age of a man to the age of the world? And how much of this little do we spend in fears, anxieties, tears, childhood! nay, we sleep away the one half. How great a part of it runs away in luxury and excess: the ranging of our guests, our servants, and our dishes! As if we were to eat and drink not for satiety, but ambition. The nights may well seem short that are so dear bought, and bestowed upon wine and women; the day is lost in expectation of the night, and the night in the apprehension of the morning. There is a terror in our very pleasures; and this vexatious thought in the very height of them, that they will not last always: which is a canker in the delights, even of the greatest and the most fortunate of men.
Company and business take up a lot of our time, and our bad habits ruin our lives and our fortunes. The present is just a moment, constantly changing; we can remember the past whenever we want, and it will stand up to examination. But a busy person rarely has time to reflect, and if they do, it's unpleasant to think about a life they regret. In contrast, living a good life gives someone a steady and lasting happiness that can't be disrupted or taken away. However, someone who has lived a wicked life fears their own memories; when they look back at themselves, all they see is desire, greed, or ambition instead of virtue. Yet, someone who doesn’t often take time to actually live their life must, when their time comes, inevitably take the time to die. What does time mean in comparison to eternity? What is a person's life compared to the age of the world? And how much of this little time do we spend worrying, feeling anxious, crying, or being children? We even waste half of it sleeping. So much of it slips away in luxury and excess: entertaining our guests, managing our servants, and planning our meals! As if we’re eating and drinking not for satisfaction but for status. Nights feel so short when we’ve spent them paying dearly for wine and women; days are lost waiting for the night, and nights are consumed with worrying about the morning. There’s a fear nestled in our very pleasures, a troubling thought even when we're enjoying ourselves: that they won’t last forever. This thought eats away at the joys, even for the most fortunate among us.
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CHAPTER XX.
HAPPY IS THE MAN THAT MAY CHOOSE HIS OWN BUSINESS.
Oh the blessings of privacy and leisure! The wish of the powerful and eminent, but the privilege only of inferiors; who are the only people that live to themselves: nay, the very thought and hope of it is a consolation, even in the middle of all the tumults and hazards that attend greatness. It was Augustus’ prayer, that he might live to retire and deliver himself from public business: his discourses were still pointing that way, and the highest felicity which this mighty prince had in prospect, was the divesting himself of that illustrious state, which, how glorious soever in show, had at the bottom of it only anxiety and care. But it is one thing to retire for pleasure, and another thing for virtue, which must be active even in that retreat, and give proof of what it has learned: for a good and a wise man does in privacy consult the well-being of posterity. Zeno and Chrysippus did greater things in their studies than if they had led armies, borne offices, or given laws; which in truth they did, not to one city alone, but to all mankind: their quiet contributed more to the common benefit than the sweat and labor of other people. That retreat is not worth the while which does not afford a man greater and nobler work than business. There266 is no slavish attendance upon great officers, no canvassing for places, no making of parties, no disappointments in my pretension to this charge, to that regiment, or to such or such a title, no envy of any man’s favor or fortune; but a calm enjoyment of the general bounties of Providence in company with a good conscience. A wise man is never so busy as in the solitary contemplation of God and the works of Nature. He withdraws himself to attend the service of future ages: and those counsels which he finds salutary to himself, he commits to writing for the good of after-times, as we do the receipts of sovereign antidotes or balsams. He that is well employed in his study, though he may seem to do nothing at all, does the greatest things yet of all others, in affairs both human and divine. To supply a friend with a sum of money, or give my voice for an office, these are only private and particular obligations: but he that lays down precepts for the governing of our lives and the moderating of our passions, obliges human nature not only in the present, but in all succeeding generations.
Oh, the blessings of privacy and leisure! It's what the powerful and prominent desire, but it's a privilege only for those lesser in status; they are the only ones who truly live for themselves. In fact, just the thought and hope of it is comforting, even amidst all the chaos and risks that come with greatness. Augustus prayed for the chance to retire and free himself from public duties: his discussions constantly pointed in that direction, and the greatest happiness this mighty ruler envisioned was shedding that glorious status, which, no matter how impressive it seemed, was filled with anxiety and stress. However, it's one thing to retreat for enjoyment, and another to do so for a sense of duty, which must remain active even in that solitude and demonstrate what it has learned. A good and wise person considers the well-being of future generations in their private moments. Zeno and Chrysippus achieved greater things in their studies than if they had led armies, held positions, or created laws; in truth, they contributed not just to one city, but to all of humanity: their quiet contemplation benefited the common good more than the toil and hard work of others. A retreat is not worthwhile unless it offers a person greater and more meaningful pursuits than mere business. There’s no subservient attendance to high officials, no campaigning for positions, no forming factions, no disappointments regarding my aspirations for one role or another, or envy over someone else’s success or luck; instead, there’s a peaceful enjoyment of the general gifts of Providence alongside a clear conscience. A wise person is never busier than in their solitary reflection on God and the wonders of Nature. They withdraw to consider the service of future generations: the insights they find beneficial for themselves are recorded for the benefit of later times, just as we document the recipes for powerful antidotes or medicinal balms. Someone who is well-engaged in their studies, even if they seem to be doing nothing at all, is accomplishing the greatest things—both in human and divine matters. Helping a friend with money or casting a vote for a position are only personal and specific obligations; but someone who provides guidelines for how we should live and manage our emotions serves humanity not only in the present but for all future generations.
He that would be at quiet, let him repair to his philosophy, a study that has credit with all sorts of men. The eloquence of the bar, or whatsoever else addresses to the people, is never without enemies; but philosophy minds its own business, and even the worst have an esteem for it. There can never be such a conspiracy against virtue, the world can never be so wicked, but the very name of a philosopher shall still continue venerable and sacred. And yet philosophy itself must be handled modestly and with caution. But what shall we say of Cato then, for his meddling in the broil of a civil war, and in267terposing himself in the quarrel betwixt two enraged princes? He that, when Rome was split into two factions betwixt Pompey and Cæsar, declared himself against both. I speak this of Cato’s last part; for in his former time the commonwealth was made unfit for a wise man’s administration. All he could do then was but bawling and beating of the air: one while he was lugged and tumbled by the rabble, spit upon and dragged out of the forum, and then again hurried out of the senate-house to prison. There are some things which we propound originally, and others which fall in as accessory to another proposition. If a wise man retire, it is no matter whether he does it because the commonwealth was wanting to him, or because he was wanting to it. But to what republic shall a man betake himself? Not to Athens, where Socrates was condemned, and whence Aristotle fled, for fear he should have been condemned too, and where virtue was oppressed by envy: not to Carthage, where there was nothing but tyranny, injustice, cruelty, and ingratitude. There is scarce any government to be found that will either endure a wise man, or which a wise man will endure; so that privacy is made necessary, because the only thing which is better is nowhere to be had. A man may commend navigation, and yet caution us against those seas that are troublesome and dangerous: so that he does as good as command me not to weigh anchor that commends sailing only upon these terms. He that is a slave to business is the most wretched of slaves.
If someone wants peace, they should turn to philosophy, a study that is respected by all kinds of people. The eloquence of lawyers or anyone else addressing the public often faces criticism; however, philosophy keeps to itself, and even those with negative views have some respect for it. There can never be a complete rebellion against virtue; the world can never be so corrupt that the very name of a philosopher isn’t still held in high regard. Nevertheless, philosophy must be approached humbly and with care. But what can we say about Cato, who involved himself in the turmoil of a civil war, stepping into the conflict between two angry leaders? When Rome was divided into two factions between Pompey and Caesar, he chose to oppose both. I refer to Cato's final days; earlier, the state was not suitable for a wise man to govern. All he could do then was shout and make a fuss: at one point he was dragged around by the mob, spat on, thrown out of the forum, and then rushed out of the senate house to prison. Some things we propose directly, while others come up as side notes to another idea. If a wise man withdraws, it doesn’t matter if it’s because the state was failing him or he was failing it. But which republic should one choose? Not Athens, where Socrates was sentenced and Aristotle fled for fear of a similar fate, where virtue was crushed by jealousy; not Carthage, where tyranny, injustice, cruelty, and ingratitude reigned. There’s hardly a government that can tolerate a wise man, or one that a wise man can tolerate, so solitude becomes necessary because the only thing better isn’t anywhere to be found. A person might praise navigation but also warn about the troublesome and dangerous seas, effectively telling me not to set sail if sailing is only recommended under those conditions. The person who is a slave to their duties is the most miserable of slaves.
“But how shall I get myself at liberty? We can run any hazards for money: take any pains for268 honor; and why do we not venture also something for leisure and freedom? without which we must expect to live and die in a tumult: for so long as we live in public, business breaks in upon us, as one billow drives on another; and there is no avoiding it with either modesty or quiet.” It is a kind of whirlpool, that sucks a man in, and he can never disengage himself. A man of business cannot in truth be said to live, and not one of a thousand understands how to do it: for how to live, and how to die, is the lesson of every moment of our lives: all other arts have their masters.
“But how can I set myself free? We’re willing to take risks for money and put in effort for honor; so why not take some chances for leisure and freedom? Without those, we can expect to live and die in chaos: as long as we live in public, work constantly interrupts us, like one wave pushing another. There’s no way to escape it with modesty or peace.” It’s like a whirlpool that pulls a person in, and once you’re in, you can never break free. A person focused on work can’t truly be said to live, and hardly one in a thousand knows how to do it: figuring out how to live and how to die is the lesson of every moment of our lives; all other skills have their masters.
As a busy life is always a miserable life, so it is the greatest of all miseries to be perpetually employed upon other people’s business; for to sleep, to eat, to drink, at their hour; to walk their pace, and to love and hate as they do, is the vilest of servitudes. Now, though business must be quitted, let it not be done unseasonably; the longer we defer it, the more we endanger our liberty; and yet we must no more fly before the time than linger when the time comes: or, however, we must not love business for business’ sake, nor indeed do we, but for the profit that goes along with it: for we love the reward of misery, though we hate the misery itself. Many people, I know, seek business without choosing it, and they are even weary of their lives without it for want of entertainment in their own thoughts; the hours are long and hateful to them when they are alone, and they seem as short on the other side in their debauches. When they are no longer candidates, they are suffragans; when they give over other people’s business, they do their own; and pretend business, but they make it, and value themselves upon being thought men of employment.
A busy life is always a miserable life, and the worst misery of all is being constantly occupied with other people’s business; to sleep, eat, drink on their schedule; to walk at their pace, and to love and hate as they do is the lowest form of servitude. Now, while we must eventually let go of work, we shouldn’t do it prematurely; the longer we put it off, the more we risk our freedom; yet we must neither run away when the time isn’t right nor drag our feet when it is: and we shouldn’t pursue work just for the sake of it, nor do we—only for the rewards it brings: we endure the pain of work for the sake of what we gain, even if we despise the pain itself. Many people, I know, pursue work without choosing it, and they feel miserable without it, bored with their own thoughts; the hours are long and painful when they are alone, seeming to fly by when they’re indulging with others. When they are no longer candidates, they become suffragans; when they give up other people’s tasks, they focus on their own; they pretend to be busy, but they create their own tasks and take pride in being seen as busy individuals.
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Liberty is the thing which they are perpetually a-wishing, and never come to obtain: a thing never to be bought nor sold, but a man must ask it of himself, and give it to himself. He that has given proof of his virtue in public, should do well to make a trial of it in private also. It is not that solitude, or a country life, teaches innocence or frugality; but vice falls of itself, without witnesses and spectators, for the thing it designs is to be taken notice of. Did ever any man put on rich clothes not to be seen? or spread the pomp of his luxury where nobody was to take notice of it? If it were not for admirers and spectators there would be no temptations to excess: the very keeping of us from exposing them cures us of desiring them, for vanity and intemperance are fed with ostentation.
Liberty is something people are always wishing for, yet never really obtain. It’s not something that can be bought or sold; a person has to acknowledge it within themselves and grant it to themselves. Someone who has demonstrated their virtue in public should also try to show it in private. It's not that being alone or living in the countryside teaches innocence or moderation; rather, wrongdoing tends to disappear when there are no witnesses around, because its aim is to be noticed. Has anyone ever worn expensive clothes without wanting to be seen? Or flaunted their luxury when no one was around to notice? If it weren’t for admirers and onlookers, there would be no temptations to overindulge. The very act of keeping us from showing off helps us to stop desiring those things, as vanity and excess thrive on attention.
He that has lived at sea in a storm, let him retire and die in the haven; but let his retreat be without ostentation, and wherein he may enjoy himself with a good conscience, without the want, the fear, the hatred, or the desire, of anything, not out of malevolent detestation of mankind, but for satisfaction and repose. He that shuns both business and men, either out of envy, or any other discontent, his retreat is but to the life of a mole: nor does he live to himself, as a wise man does, but to his bed, his belly, and his lusts. Many people seem to retire out of a weariness of public affairs, and the trouble of disappointments; and yet ambition finds them out even in that recess into which fear and weariness had cast them; and so does luxury, pride, and most of the distempers of a public life.
Whoever has weathered a storm at sea should find peace in the harbor; however, this retreat should be simple, allowing him to enjoy life with a clear conscience, free from want, fear, hatred, or desire for anything. This isn't out of a deep dislike for humanity, but for his own satisfaction and peace. Someone who avoids both work and people, driven by envy or other discontent, lives like a mole: not for himself as a wise person would, but merely for comfort, food, and indulgence. Many seem to withdraw due to exhaustion from public life and the weight of disappointments, yet ambition still finds them even in that retreat brought on by fear and fatigue; so do luxury, pride, and most of the troubles of public life.
There are many that lie close, not that they may live securely, but that they may transgress more privately: it is their conscience, not their states,270 that makes them keep a porter; for they live at such a rate, that to be seen before they be aware is to be detected. Crates saw a young man walking by himself; “Have a care,” says he “of lewd company.” Some men are busy in idleness, and make peace more laborious and troublesome than war; nay, and more wicked too, when they bestow it upon such lusts, and other vices, which even the license of a military life would not endure. We cannot call these people men of leisure that are wholly taken up with their pleasures. A troublesome life is much to be preferred before a slothful one; and it is a strange thing, methinks, that any man should fear death that has buried himself alive; as privacy without letters is but the burying of a man quick.
Many people keep their distance, not for safety, but to have their secrets hidden: it's their conscience, not their status, that makes them hire a watchdog; they live in such a way that being seen before they notice is being caught. Crates saw a young man walking alone and said, “Be careful of bad company.” Some people are idle yet busy, making peace more laborious and troublesome than war; in fact, it's even more wicked when they dedicate their efforts to such desires and other vices that even the freedom of military life wouldn’t tolerate. We can’t call these people men of leisure if they are entirely absorbed in their pleasures. A troublesome life is much better than a lazy one; it’s strange to me that anyone should fear death while they’ve buried themselves alive, as living in solitude without engagement is just like burying a person alive.
There are some that make a boast of their retreat, which is but a kind of lazy ambition; they retire to make people talk of them, whereas I would rather withdraw to speak to myself. And what shall that be, but that which we are apt to speak of one another? I will speak ill of myself: I will examine, accuse, and punish my infirmities. I have no design to be cried up for a great man, that has renounced the world in a contempt of the vanity and madness of human life; I blame nobody but myself, and I address only to myself. He that comes to me for help is mistaken, for I am not a physician, but a patient: and I shall be well enough content to have it said, when any man leaves me, “I took him for a happy and a learned man, and truly I find no such matter.” I had rather have my retreat pardoned than envied.
Some people brag about their withdrawal, which is just a form of lazy ambition; they step back to get attention, while I prefer to retreat to reflect on myself. And what will that be, if not what we often say about one another? I’ll criticize myself: I’ll examine, accuse, and punish my flaws. I don’t aspire to be praised as a great person who has given up the world out of disdain for the vanity and madness of human existence; I blame no one but myself, and I speak only to myself. Anyone who comes to me for help is mistaken, because I’m not a doctor, but a patient: and I wouldn’t mind if, when someone leaves me, it’s said, “I thought he was a happy and wise man, but I see no evidence of that.” I’d rather my retreat be forgiven than envied.
There are some creatures that confound their footing about their dens, that they may not be found out, and so should a wise man in the case of his271 retirement. When the door is open, the thief passes it by as not worth his while; but when it is bolted and sealed, it is a temptation for people to be prying. To have it said “that such a one is never out of his study, and sees nobody,” etc.; this furnishes matter for discourse. He that makes his retirement too strict and severe, does as good as call company to take notice of it.
Some creatures are careful about how they move around their homes so they won’t be discovered, and wise people should do the same when it comes to their personal time. When a door is open, a thief ignores it because it seems unimportant; but when it’s locked up tight, it becomes tempting for others to snoop around. If it’s said that someone “never leaves his study and doesn’t see anyone,” it gives people something to talk about. If you make your personal time too rigid and serious, you’re practically inviting others to notice it.
Every man knows his own constitution; one eases his stomach by vomit—another supports it with good nourishment; he that has the gout forbears wine and bathing, and every man applies to the part that is most infirm. He that shows a gouty foot, a lame hand, or contracted nerves, shall be permitted to lie still and attend his cure; and why not so in the vices of his mind! We must discharge all impediments and make way for philosophy, as a study inconsistent with common business. To all other things we must deny ourselves openly and frankly, when we are sick refuse visits, keep ourselves close, and lay aside all public cares, and shall we not do as much when we philosophize? Business is the drudgery of the world, and only fit for slaves, but contemplation is the work of wise men. Not but that solitude and company may be allowed to take their turns: the one creates in us the love of mankind, the other that of ourselves; solitude relieves us when we are sick of company, and conversation when we are weary of being alone; so that the one cures the other. “There is no man,” in fine, “so miserable as he that is at a loss how to spend his time.” He is restless in his thoughts, unsteady in his counsels, dissatisfied with the present, solicitous for the future; whereas he that prudently computes272 his hours and his business, does not only fortify himself against the common accidents of life, but improves the most rigorous dispensations of Providence to his comfort, and stands firm under all the trials of human weakness.
Every person knows their own body; some relieve their stomachs by vomiting, while others nourish them with good food. Those with gout avoid wine and bathing, and everyone attends to their weakest points. If someone has a sore foot, a lame hand, or stiff nerves, they should be allowed to rest and focus on healing; why not apply the same approach to mental challenges? We need to remove all distractions and make space for philosophy, as it's not compatible with daily obligations. For everything else, we should openly and honestly deny ourselves when we’re unwell—avoid visitors, keep to ourselves, and set aside public responsibilities—so why should we not do the same when we’re studying philosophy? Work is the grind of the world, meant for slaves, while contemplation is the task of the wise. However, both solitude and companionship have their place: solitude fosters a love for humanity, and socializing nurtures self-love; being alone refreshes us when we’re tired of others, and conversations uplift us when we’ve had enough of solitude, balancing each other out. “No one,” ultimately, “is more miserable than he who doesn’t know how to spend his time.” This person is restless in thought, uncertain in decisions, unhappy with the present, and anxious about the future. In contrast, someone who wisely plans their time and tasks not only strengthens themselves against life's challenges but also finds comfort in even the harshest circumstances brought by fate, remaining steadfast through all human trials.
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CHAPTER XXI.
THE CONTEMPT OF DEATH MAKES ALL THE MISERIES OF LIFE
EASY TO US.
It is a hard task to master the natural desire of life by a philosophical contempt of death, and to convince the world that there is no hurt in it, and crush an opinion that was brought up with us from our cradles. What help? what encouragement? what shall we say to human frailty, to carry it fearless through the fury of flames, and upon the points of swords? what rhetoric shall we use to bear down the universal consent of people to so dangerous an error? The captious and superfine subtleties of the schools will never do the work: these speak many things sharp, but utterly unnecessary, and void of effect. The truth of it is, there is but one chain that holds all the world in bondage, and that is the love of life. It is not that I propound the making of death so indifferent to us, as it is, whether a man’s hairs be even or odd; for what with self-love, and an implanted desire in every being of preserving itself, and a long acquaintance betwixt the soul and body, friends may be loth to part, and death may carry an appearance of evil, though in truth it is itself no evil at all. Beside, that we are to go to a strange place in the dark, and under great uncertainties of our future state; so that people die in274 terror, because they do not know whither they are to go, and they are apt to fancy the worst of what they do not understand: these thoughts are indeed sufficient to startle a man of great resolution without a wonderful support from above. And, moreover, our natural scruples and infirmities are assisted by the wits and fancies of all ages, in their infamous and horrid description of another world: nay, taking it for granted that there will be no reward and punishment, they are yet more afraid of an annihilation than of hell itself.
It's a tough challenge to control our natural desire for life with a philosophical disdain for death and to persuade the world that there's nothing harmful about it while trying to eradicate a belief we’ve held since childhood. What can we offer? What motivation? How can we encourage human weakness to face the flames and swords without fear? What persuasive language can we use to counter the widespread agreement among people on such a dangerous misconception? The intricate and overly complex arguments from academia won't help: they articulate sharp points but are mostly unnecessary and ineffective. The truth is, there's only one chain that binds everyone in captivity, and that's the love of life. I'm not suggesting we should treat death as if it were as trivial as whether someone has an even or odd number of hairs; after all, with self-love and an innate urge in every creature to survive, along with a long history between the soul and the body, it's understandable that friends may hesitate to part, and death can seem evil, even though in reality, it's not evil at all. Furthermore, we're headed to an unknown place in the dark, facing great uncertainties about our future state; hence, people die in fear because they don’t know where they’re going and tend to imagine the worst when faced with the unknown. Such thoughts are enough to unsettle even the most resolute person without immense support from above. Additionally, our natural doubts and weaknesses are amplified by the ideas and fears of all generations in their terrible and grotesque portrayals of another world; indeed, even if we assume there's no reward or punishment, people are often more afraid of annihilation than they are of hell itself.
But what is it we fear? “Oh! it is a terrible thing to die.” Well; and is it not better once to suffer it, than always to fear it? The earth itself suffers both with me, and before me. How many islands are swallowed up in the sea! how many towns do we sail over! nay, how many nations are wholly lost, either by inundations or earthquakes! and shall I be afraid of my little body? why should I, that am sure to die, and that all other things are mortal, be fearful of coming to my last gasp myself? It is the fear of death that makes us base, and troubles and destroys the life we would preserve; that aggravates all circumstances, and makes them formidable. We depend but upon a flying moment. Die we must; but when? what is that to us? It is the law of Nature, the tribute of mortals, and the remedy of all evils. It is only the disguise that affrights us; as children that are terrified with a vizor. Take away the instruments of death, the fire, the ax, the guards, the executioners, the whips, and the racks; take away the pomp, I say, and the circumstances that accompany it, and death is no more than what my slave yesterday contemned; the pain is nothing to a fit of the stone; if it be tolerable, it275 is not great; and if intolerable, it cannot last long. There is nothing that Nature has made necessary which is more easy than death: we are longer a-coming into the world than going out of it; and there is not any minute of our lives wherein we may not reasonably expect it. Nay, it is but a moment’s work, the parting of the soul and body. What a shame is it then to stand in fear of anything so long that is over so soon!
But what is it that we fear? “Oh! it’s a terrible thing to die.” Well, isn't it better to face it once rather than always be afraid of it? The earth itself suffers both with me and before me. How many islands are swallowed by the sea! How many towns do we sail over! In fact, how many nations are completely lost to floods or earthquakes! Should I be afraid of my little body? Why should I, knowing that I’m sure to die and that everything else is mortal, be scared of reaching my last breath? It’s the fear of death that makes us weak and disrupts the life we want to protect; it amplifies every situation, making it seem terrifying. We depend only on a fleeting moment. We must die; but when? What difference does that make to us? It’s the law of Nature, a tax on mortals, and a solution to all problems. It’s just the disguise that frightens us, like kids scared of someone wearing a mask. Remove the tools of death—the fire, the axe, the guards, the executioners, the whips, and the racks; take away the drama, I say, and the circumstances that come with it, and death is no more than what my slave shrugged off yesterday; the pain is nothing compared to a kidney stone; if it’s bearable, it’s not that severe; and if unbearable, it won’t last long. There’s nothing that Nature has made necessary that’s easier than death: we take longer to come into the world than to leave it; and there’s not a single minute of our lives when we can’t reasonably expect it. In fact, it’s just a moment’s work, the separation of the soul and body. What a shame, then, to live in fear of something that’s over so quickly!
Nor is it any great matter to overcome this fear; for we have examples as well of the meanest of men as of the greatest that have done it. There was a fellow to be exposed upon the theatre, who in disdain thrust a stick down his own throat, and choked himself; and another on the same occasion, pretended to nod upon the chariot, as if he were asleep, cast his head betwixt the spokes of the wheel, and kept his seat until his neck was broken. Caligula, upon a dispute with Canius Julius; “Do not flatter yourself,” says he, “for I have given orders to put you to death.” “I thank your most gracious Majesty for it,” says Canius, giving to understand, perhaps, that under his government death was a mercy: for he knew that Caligula seldom failed of being as good as his word in that case. He was at play when the officer carried him away to his execution, and beckoning to the centurion, “Pray,” says he, “will you bear me witness, when I am dead and gone, that I had the better of the game?” He was a man exceedingly beloved and lamented, and, for a farewell, after he had preached moderation to his friends; “You,” says he, “are here disputing about the immortality of the soul, and I am now going to learn the truth of it. If I discover any thing upon that point, you shall hear of it.” Nay,276 the most timorous of creatures, when they see there is no escaping, they oppose themselves to all dangers; the despair gives them courage, and the necessity overcomes the fear. Socrates was thirty days in prison after his sentence, and had time enough to have starved himself, and so to have prevented the poison: but he gave the world the blessing of his life as long as he could, and took that fatal draught in the meditation and contempt of death.
It's not a big deal to overcome this fear; we have examples of both the most trivial people and the greatest leaders who have done it. There was a guy who was about to be exposed in public who, in disdain, shoved a stick down his own throat and choked himself; and another who pretended to nod off in a chariot, as if he were asleep, then thrust his head between the spokes of the wheel and stayed there until his neck was broken. Caligula, during an argument with Canius Julius, said, “Don’t kid yourself; I’ve ordered your execution.” Canius replied, “Thanks for that, Your Majesty,” implying that under his rule, death was a mercy, since he knew Caligula rarely failed to follow through on that promise. He was playing a game when the officer came to take him away to be executed, and as he gestured to the centurion, he said, “Please, will you testify that I was winning when I die?” He was a man who was deeply loved and mourned, and as a farewell, after preaching moderation to his friends, he said, “You are here arguing about the immortality of the soul, while I’m about to discover the truth of it. If I find out anything, I’ll let you know.” Indeed, the most fearful creatures, when they see there's no way out, stand their ground against all dangers; despair gives them courage, and necessity overcomes fear. Socrates spent thirty days in prison after his sentence, having plenty of time to starve himself to avoid the poison. But he blessed the world with his life as long as he could and took that fatal drink while meditating on and dismissing death.
Marcellinus, in a deliberation upon death, called several of his friends about him: one was fearful, and advised what he himself would have done in the case; another gave the counsel which he thought Marcellinus would like best; but a friend of his that was a Stoic, and a stout man, reasoned the matter to him after this manner; Marcellinus do not trouble yourself, as if it were such a mighty business that you have now in hand; it is nothing to live; all your servants do it, nay, your very beasts too; but to die honestly and resolutely, that is a great point. Consider with yourself there is nothing pleasant in life but what you have tasted already, and that which is to come is but the same over again; and how many men are there in the world that rather choose to die than to suffer the nauseous tediousness of the repetition? Upon which discourse he fasted himself to death. It was the custom of Pacuvius to solemnize, in a kind of pageantry, every day his own funeral. When he had swilled and gormandized to a luxurious and beastly excess, he was carried away from supper to bed with this song and acclamation, “He has lived, he has lived.” That which he did in lewdness, will become us to do in sobriety and prudence. If it shall please God to add another day to our lives, let us thankfully re277ceive it; but, however, it is our happiest and securest course so to compose ourselves to-night, that we may have no anxious dependence on to-morrow. “He that can say, I have lived this day, makes the next clear again.”
Marcellinus, while thinking about death, gathered some friends around him: one was scared and suggested what he would do, another offered advice he thought Marcellinus would appreciate. But one of his friends, a Stoic and a strong man, reasoned with him like this: “Marcellinus, don’t stress about this like it’s such a huge deal; it’s really nothing to live—even your servants do it, and even your animals. But to die with honor and courage? That’s important. Think about it: there’s nothing enjoyable in life that you haven’t already experienced, and what’s to come is just more of the same. How many people would rather die than face the boring repetition of life?” After this conversation, Marcellinus fasted himself to death. Pacuvius had a custom of celebrating his own funeral each day. After indulging in excessive eating and drinking, he would be carried from the dinner table to bed with cheers and the chant, “He has lived, he has lived.” What he did in indulgence, we should approach with sobriety and wisdom. If God chooses to grant us another day, let’s receive it gratefully; however, it’s best for us to prepare ourselves tonight so we don’t anxiously depend on tomorrow. “He who can say, ‘I have lived today,’ makes the next day clear again.”
Death is the worst that either the severity of laws or the cruelty of tyrants can impose upon us; and it is the utmost extent of the dominion of Fortune. He that is fortified against that, must, consequently, be superior to all other difficulties that are put in the way to it. Nay, and on some occasions, it requires more courage to live than to die. He that is not prepared for death shall be perpetually troubled, as well with vain apprehensions, as with real dangers. It is not death itself that is dreadful, but the fear of it that goes before it. When the mind is under a consternation, there is no state of life that can please us; for we do not so endeavor to avoid mischiefs as to run away from them, and the greatest slaughter is upon a flying enemy. Had not a man better breathe out his last once for all, than lie agonizing in pains, consuming by inches, losing of his blood by drops? and yet how many are there that are ready to betray their country, and their friends, and to prostitute their very wives and daughters, to preserve a miserable carcass! Madmen and children have no apprehension of death; and it were a shame that our reason should not do as much toward our security as their folly. But the great matter is to die considerately and cheerfully upon the foundation of virtue; for life in itself is irksome, and only eating and drinking in a circle.
Death is the worst thing that either strict laws or cruel tyrants can impose on us, and it represents the ultimate power of fate. Anyone who can withstand that must be stronger than all the other challenges that come their way. In fact, sometimes it takes more courage to live than to die. Those who aren't prepared for death will always be haunted by both pointless fears and real dangers. It’s not death itself that’s terrifying, but the fear of it that precedes it. When the mind is in a state of panic, no life situation can bring us satisfaction; we don’t so much try to avoid troubles as we do attempt to escape from them, and the most casualties happen to those on the run. Wouldn’t a person be better off taking their final breath all at once rather than suffering in pain, slowly wasting away and losing blood drop by drop? And yet, how many are willing to betray their country, their friends, and even sell their own wives and daughters just to save a pitiful existence! Madmen and children don’t fear death, and it’s a shame if our reason isn't as effective in keeping us secure as their foolishness. But the key is to die thoughtfully and happily based on virtue; life itself is burdensome and consists only of eating and drinking in a cycle.
How many are there that, betwixt the apprehensions of death and the miseries of life, are at their wits’ end what to do with themselves? Wherefore278 let us fortify ourselves against those calamities from which the prince is no more exempt than the beggar. Pompey the Great had his head taken off by a boy and a eunuch, (young Ptolemy and Photinus.) Caligula commanded the tribune Dæcimus to kill Lepidus; and another tribune (Chæreus) did as much for Caligula. Never was a man so great but he was as liable to suffer mischief as he was able to do it. Has not a thief, or an enemy, your throat at his mercy? nay, and the meanest of servants has the power of life and death over his master; for whosoever contemns his own life may be master of another body’s. You will find in story, that the displeasure of servants has been as fatal as that of tyrants: and what matters it the power of him we fear, when the thing we fear is in every body’s power? Suppose I fall into the hands of an enemy, and the conqueror condemns me to be led in triumph; it is but carrying me thither whither I should have gone without him, that is to say, toward death, whither I have been marching ever since I was born. It is the fear of our last hour that disquiets all the rest. By the justice of all constitutions, mankind is condemned to a capital punishment; now, how despicable would that man appear, who, being sentenced to death in common with the whole world, should only petition that he might be the last man brought to the block?
How many people, caught between the fear of death and the struggles of life, are completely at a loss about what to do with themselves? So, let’s prepare ourselves against the misfortunes that affect both the prince and the beggar equally. Pompey the Great lost his head to a boy and a eunuch, young Ptolemy and Photinus. Caligula ordered the tribune Dæcimus to kill Lepidus; and another tribune, Chæreus, did the same to Caligula. No matter how great a man is, he is just as likely to suffer harm as he is to cause it. Doesn’t a thief or an enemy have your life in their hands? Even the lowest servant can hold the power of life and death over their master; anyone who doesn’t value their own life can control another’s. History shows that the anger of servants has been just as deadly as that of tyrants: and what does it matter who holds the power we fear when the source of that fear lies within everyone’s reach? If I end up in the hands of an enemy, and the conqueror decides to lead me in a triumphal procession, it’s really just taking me where I was already headed — towards death, a destination I’ve been approaching since I was born. It’s the fear of our final moments that disturbs our peace. According to the rules of society, humanity is condemned to die; how pathetic would it be for a person sentenced to death alongside everyone else to simply request to be the last one executed?
Some men are particularly afraid of thunder, and yet extremely careless of other and of greater dangers: as if that were all they have to fear. Will not a sword, a stone, a fever, do the work as well? Suppose the bolt should hit us, it were yet braver to die with a stroke than with the bare apprehension of it: beside the vanity of imagining279 that heaven and earth should be put into such a disorder only for the death of one man. A good and a brave man is not moved with lightning, tempest, or earthquakes; but perhaps he would voluntarily plunge himself into that gulf, where otherwise he should only fall. The cutting of a corn, or the swallowing of a fly, is enough to dispatch a man; and it is no matter how great that is that brings me to my death, so long as death itself is but little. Life is a small matter; but it is a matter of importance to contemn it. Nature, that begat us, expels us, and a better and a safer place is provided for us. And what is death but a ceasing to be what we were before? We are kindled and put out: to cease to be, and not to begin to be, is the same thing. We die daily, and while we are growing, our life decreases; every moment that passes takes away part of it; all that is past is lost; nay, we divide with death the very instant that we live. As the last sand in the glass does not measure the hour, but finishes it; so the last moment that we live does not make up death, but concludes. There are some that pray more earnestly for death than we do for life; but it is better to receive it cheerfully when it comes than to hasten it before the time.
Some men are particularly scared of thunder, yet they’re totally careless about other, bigger dangers, as if that’s all they have to worry about. Can’t a sword, a stone, or a fever do just as much damage? If a lightning bolt were to strike us, it’s still braver to die from that than to live in constant fear of it. Plus, it’s pretty vain to think that heaven and earth would go into such chaos just for the death of one man. A good and brave person isn’t shaken by lightning, storms, or earthquakes; they might even willingly throw themselves into danger instead of just falling into it. A simple grain of wheat or a fly could easily end a life; it doesn’t matter how big the thing is that leads me to my death, as long as death itself seems small. Life is trivial, but it’s important to disregard it. Nature, which brought us here, also pushes us out, and there’s a better, safer place waiting for us. And what is death but the end of who we were before? We are ignited and extinguished: to stop being is the same as not starting to be. We die a little each day, and as we grow, our life gradually slips away; every moment lost is a part of it gone. We share each instant of our life with death. Just like the last grain of sand in an hourglass doesn’t measure the hour but finishes it, the last moment we live doesn’t make up death but wraps things up. Some people pray more fervently for death than we do for life; however, it’s better to accept it graciously when it arrives than to rush it before its time.
“But what is it that we would live any longer for?” Not for our pleasures; for those we have tasted over and over, even to satiety: so that there is no point of luxury that is new to us. “But a man would be loth to leave his country and his friends behind him;” that is to say, he would have them go first; for that is the least part of his care. “Well; but I would fain live to do more good, and discharge myself in the offices of life;” as if to die were not the duty of every man that lives. We are loth to280 leave our possessions; and no man swims well with his luggage. We are all of us equally fearful of death, and ignorant of life; but what can be more shameful than to be solicitous upon the brink of security? If death be at any time to be feared, it is always to be feared; but the way never to fear it, is to be often thinking of it. To what end is it to put off for a little while that which we cannot avoid? He that dies does but follow him that is dead. “Why are we then so long afraid of that which is so little awhile of doing?” How miserable are those people that spend their lives in the dismal apprehensions of death! for they are beset on all hands, and every minute in dread of a surprise. We must therefore look about us, as if we were in an enemy’s country; and consider our last hour, not as a punishment, but as the law of Nature: the fear of it is a continual palpitation of the heart, and he that overcomes that terror shall never be troubled with any other.
“But what is it that we would keep living for?” Not for our pleasures; we’ve experienced those over and over, even to the point of being completely satisfied: there’s no luxury that feels new to us. “But a person would be unwilling to leave their country and friends behind;” that is to say, they would want them to go first; because that’s the least of their concerns. “Well; but I really want to live to do more good and fulfill my responsibilities;” as if dying weren’t the duty of every person who lives. We’re reluctant to leave our belongings; and no one swims well with their baggage. We’re all equally afraid of death, and clueless about life; but what could be more shameful than worrying right before safety? If death is ever to be feared, it should always be feared, but the way to stop fearing it is to think about it often. What’s the point of postponing what we can’t avoid for just a little while? The one who dies is just following the one who has already died. “So why are we so long afraid of something that’s only a moment away?” How miserable are those people who live in constant fear of death! They are surrounded on all sides, and every minute on edge about being caught off guard. We must, therefore, be vigilant, as if we were in enemy territory; and see our last hour, not as punishment, but as the law of Nature: the fear of it is a constant stress on the heart, and whoever overcomes that fear will never be troubled by any other.
Life is a navigation; we are perpetually wallowing and dashing one against another; sometimes we suffer shipwreck, but we are always in danger and in expectation of it. And what is it when it comes, but either the end of a journey, or a passage? It is as great a folly to fear death as to fear old age; nay, as to fear life itself; for he that would not die ought not to live, since death is the condition of life. Beside that it is a madness to fear a thing that is certain; for where there is no doubt, there is no place for fear.
Life is a journey; we are constantly crashing and colliding with each other; sometimes we experience a shipwreck, but we are always in danger and waiting for it to happen. And what is it when it arrives, but either the end of a journey, or a transition? It’s just as foolish to fear death as it is to fear old age; in fact, it’s just as silly to fear life itself; because if you don’t want to die, you shouldn’t be living, since death is part of life. Besides, it’s insane to fear something that’s certain; because where there’s no doubt, there’s no room for fear.
We are still chiding of Fate, and even those that exact the most rigorous justice betwixt man and man are yet themselves unjust to Providence. “Why was such a one taken away in the prime of281 his years?” As if it were the number of years that makes death easy to us, and not the temper of the mind. He that would live a little longer to-day, would be as loth to die a hundred years hence. But which is more reasonable for us to obey Nature, or for Nature to obey us? Go we must at last, and no matter how soon. It is the work of Fate to make us live long, but it is the business of virtue to make a short life sufficient. Life is to be measured by action, not by time; a man may die old at thirty, and young at fourscore: nay, the one lives after death, and the other perished before he died. I look upon age among the effects of chance. How long I shall live is in the power of others, but it is in my own how well. The largest space of time is to live till a man is wise. He that dies of old age does no more than go to bed when he is weary. Death is the test of life, and it is that only which discovers what we are, and distinguishes betwixt ostentation and virtue. A man may dispute, cite great authorities, talk learnedly, huff it out, and yet be rotten at heart. But let us soberly attend our business: and since it is uncertain when, or where, we shall die, let us look for death in all places, and at all times: we can never study that point too much, which we can never come to experiment whether we know it or not. It is a blessed thing to dispatch the business of life before we die, and then to expect death in the possession of a happy life. He is the great man who is willing to die when his life is pleasant to him. An honest life is not a greater good than an honest death. How many brave young men, by an instinct of Nature, are carried on to great actions, and even to the contempt of all hazards!
We still blame Fate, and even those who demand strict justice between people are often unfair to Providence. “Why was someone taken away in the prime of their life?” As if the length of life makes death easier for us, rather than the state of our mind. Someone who wants to live a little longer today would be just as reluctant to die a hundred years from now. But what makes more sense: for us to follow Nature or for Nature to follow us? In the end, we have to go, and it doesn’t matter how soon. It’s Fate's job to keep us living long, but it's virtue's job to make a short life fulfilling. Life should be measured by actions, not by time; a person can die old at thirty and young at eighty. In fact, one lives on after death, while the other may have perished long before they actually died. I see age as a matter of chance. How long I live is up to others, but how well I live is up to me. The longest span of life is until a person becomes wise. Someone who dies of old age is just going to bed when they’re tired. Death is the ultimate test of life, revealing who we truly are and differentiating between showiness and virtue. A person can argue, quote great authorities, speak knowledgeably, put on a front, and still be rotten inside. But let’s focus on our real tasks: since it’s uncertain when or where we’ll die, let’s be prepared for death everywhere and at all times. We can never study that topic too much, as we’ll never actually know whether we’ve grasped it until we experience it. It’s a blessing to complete the tasks of life before we die and then to await death while living a happy life. A great person is the one who is ready to die when life is enjoyable. An honest life is not a greater good than an honest death. How many brave young people, driven by a natural instinct, are propelled to achieve great things, disregarding all dangers!
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It is childish to go out of the world groaning and wailing as we came into it. Our bodies must be thrown away, as the secundine that wraps up the infant, the other being only the covering of the soul; we shall then discover the secrets of Nature; the darkness shall be discussed, and our souls irradiated with light and glory: a glory without a shadow; a glory that shall surround us, and from whence we shall look down and see day and night beneath us. If we cannot lift up our eyes toward the lamp of heaven without dazzling, what shall we do when we come to behold the divine light in its illustrious original? That death which we so much dread and decline, is not the determination, but the intermission of a life, which will return again. All those things, that are the very cause of life, are the way to death: we fear it as we do fame; but it is a great folly to fear words. Some people are so impatient of life, that they are still wishing for death; but he that wishes to die does not desire it: let us rather wait God’s pleasure, and pray for health and life. If we have a mind to live, why do we wish to die? If we have a mind to die, we may do it without talking of it. Men are a great deal more resolute in the article of death itself than they are about the circumstances of it: for it gives a man courage to consider that his fate is inevitable: the slow approaches of death are the most troublesome to us; as we see many a gladiator, who upon his wounds, will direct his adversary’s weapon to his very heart, though but timorous perhaps in the combat. There are some that have not the heart either to live or die; that is a sad case. But this we are sure of, “the fear of death is a continual slavery, as the contempt of it is certain liberty.”
It's childish to leave this world moaning and crying just like we entered it. Our bodies will be discarded like the swaddling cloth that wraps a newborn; they are just a cover for the soul. We will then uncover the secrets of Nature; the darkness will be explained, and our souls will be filled with light and glory: a glory without shadows; a glory that will envelop us, from which we will look down and see day and night beneath us. If we can't lift our eyes to the heavenly light without being blinded, what will we do when we finally see the divine light in its true form? That death, which we fear and avoid so much, is not the end, but a pause in a life that will come back again. All those things that cause life also lead to death: we fear it like we fear fame; but it’s foolish to fear mere words. Some people are so fed up with life that they long for death; but wanting to die doesn’t truly mean you desire it. Let’s instead wait for God’s will and pray for health and life. If we want to live, why do we wish for death? If we truly want to die, we can do it without discussing it. People are much more determined about death itself than about the circumstances surrounding it: realizing that their fate is unavoidable gives them courage. The slow approach of death is what troubles us most; like many gladiators who, despite their wounds, will guide their opponent's weapon straight to their heart, even though they may be timid in battle. Some lack the courage to either live or die; that’s truly unfortunate. But we know this for sure: "the fear of death is a constant slavery, while the disregard of it is true freedom.”
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CHAPTER XXII.
CONSOLATIONS AGAINST DEATH, FROM THE PROVIDENCE AND
THE NECESSITY OF IT.
This life is only a prelude to eternity, where we are to expect another original, and another state of things; we have no prospect of heaven here but at a distance; let us therefore expect our last and decretory hour with courage. The last (I say) to our bodies, but not to our minds: our luggage we leave behind us, and return as naked out of the world as we came into it. The day which we fear as our last is but the birth-day of our eternity; and it is the only way to it. So that what we fear as a rock, proves to be but a port, in many cases to be desired, never to be refused; and he that dies young has only made a quick voyage of it. Some are becalmed, others cut it away before wind; and we live just as we sail: first, we rub our childhood out of sight; our youth next; and then our middle age: after that follows old age, and brings us to the common end of mankind.
This life is just a prelude to eternity, where we can expect another beginning and a different state of existence; we only have a distant glimpse of heaven here. So, let’s face our final hour with courage. It’s the end for our bodies, but not for our minds: we leave our belongings behind and return to the world just as we came into it—naked. The day we fear as our last is actually the birthday of our eternity, and it’s the only path to it. What we dread as a harsh reality turns out to be just a harbor, often something to be welcomed and never avoided; and those who die young have merely taken a swift journey. Some are stuck in calm waters, while others sail swiftly with the wind; we navigate life as we sail: first, we leave childhood behind; then our youth; and after that, middle age follows. Finally, old age comes and leads us to the common end of humanity.
It is a great providence that we have more ways out of the world than we have into it. Our security stands upon a point, the very article of death. It draws a great many blessings into a very narrow compass: and although the fruit of it does not seem to extend to the defunct, yet the difficulty of it is more than balanced by the contemplation of the284 future. Nay, suppose that all the business of this world should be forgotten, or my memory, traduced, what is all this to me? “I have done my duty.” Undoubtedly that which puts an end to all other evils, cannot be a very great evil itself, and yet it is no easy thing for flesh and blood to despise life. What if death comes? If it does not stay with us why should we fear it? One hangs himself for a mistress; another leaps the garret-window to avoid a choleric master; a third runs away and stabs himself, rather than he will be brought back again. We see the force even of our infirmities, and shall we not then do greater things for the love of virtue? To suffer death is but the law of nature; and it is a great comfort that it can be done but once; in the very convulsions of it we have this consolation, that our pain is near an end, and that it frees us from all the miseries of life.
It’s a great blessing that we have more ways out of life than we do to get into it. Our safety rests on a delicate point: the very reality of death. It brings a lot of blessings into a very limited scope; and although the outcome might not seem to benefit those who have passed, the challenge of it is outweighed by the anticipation of the future. What if everything in this world is forgotten, or my memory is tarnished—what does that matter to me? “I have done my duty.” Clearly, that which ends all other miseries can’t be a significant misery itself, yet it’s not easy for us to dismiss life. What if death approaches? If it doesn’t linger with us, why should we dread it? Some hang themselves for love; others jump out of windows to escape an angry master; a third person runs away and takes their own life rather than be brought back. We can see the strength even of our weaknesses, so shouldn’t we strive for even greater things out of love for virtue? Facing death is simply a part of nature’s law; and it's comforting that it only happens once; even in its final moments, we find solace in knowing that our suffering is coming to an end and that it frees us from all the hardships of life.
What it is we know not, and it were rash to condemn what we do not understand; but this we presume, either that we shall pass out of this into a better life, where we shall live with tranquillity and splendor, in diviner mansions, or else return to our first principles, free from the sense of any inconvenience. There is nothing immortal, nor many things lasting; by but divers ways everything comes to an end. What an arrogance is it then, when the world itself stands condemned to a dissolution, that man alone should expect to live forever! It is unjust not to allow unto the giver the power of disposing of his own bounty, and a folly only to value the present. Death is as much a debt as money, and life is but a journey towards it: some dispatch it sooner, others later, but we must all have the same period. The285 thunderbolt is undoubtedly just that draws even from those that are struck with it a veneration.
What we know is uncertain, and it would be reckless to condemn what we don’t understand; but we can assume this: either we will move on to a better life, where we will live in peace and beauty, in magnificent homes, or we will return to our original state, free from any discomfort. Nothing is immortal, and few things last forever; in various ways, everything eventually comes to an end. What arrogance it is, then, when the entire world is destined for destruction, that humans alone expect to live forever! It’s unfair not to allow the giver to control their own gifts, and it’s foolish to only value the present. Death is as much a debt as money, and life is just a journey towards it: some pay this debt sooner, others later, but we all have the same deadline. The285 thunderbolt is certainly just, as it demands respect even from those struck by it.
A great soul takes no delight in staying with the body: it considers whence it came, and knows whither it is to go. The day will come that shall separate this mixture of soul and body, of divine and human; my body I will leave where I found it, my soul I will restore to heaven, which would have been there already, but for the clog that keeps it down: and beside, how many men have been the worse for longer living, that might have died with reputation if they had been sooner taken away! How many disappointments of hopeful youths, that have proved dissolute men! Over and above the ruins, shipwrecks, torments, prisons, that attend long life; a blessing so deceitful, that if a child were in condition to judge of it, and at liberty to refuse it, he would not take it.
A great soul finds no pleasure in being tied to the body: it reflects on where it originated and understands where it is headed. The day will come when this blend of soul and body, the divine and the human, will be separated; I will leave my body where I found it, and I will return my soul to heaven, which would have been there already if not for the weight holding it back. Besides, how many people have suffered because they lived longer, who could have left this world with their reputation intact if they had been taken away sooner! How many disappointed young people have turned into dissolute adults! Beyond the wreckage, shipwrecks, torments, and jails that accompany a long life, it’s such a deceptive blessing that if a child could judge it and had the freedom to refuse it, they would not accept it.
What Providence has made necessary, human prudence should comply with cheerfully: as there is a necessity of death, so that necessity is equal and invincible. No man has cause of complaint for that which every man must suffer as well as himself. When we should die, we will not, and when we would not we must: but our fate is fixed, and unavoidable is the decree. Why do we then stand trembling when the time comes? Why do we not as well lament that we did not live a thousand years ago, as that we shall not be alive a thousand years hence? It is but traveling the great road, and to the place whither we must all go at last. It is but submitting to the law of Nature, and to that lot which the whole world has suffered that is gone before us; and so must they too that are to come after us. Nay, how many thousands, when our time286 comes, will expire in the same moment with us! He that will not follow shall be drawn by force: and is it not much better now to do that willingly which we shall otherwise be made to do in spite of our hearts?
What Providence has made necessary, human prudence should accept willingly: just as death is inevitable, that inevitability is equal and unchangeable. No one has any reason to complain about something that everyone must face. When we think we should die, we won’t, and when we think we won’t, we must: but our fate is set, and the decree is unavoidable. Why do we stand trembling when the time comes? Why do we not lament not living a thousand years ago as much as we regret not living a thousand years in the future? It’s just traveling down the great road to the place we all must eventually go. It’s simply accepting the law of Nature and the fate that everyone before us has experienced, and that those after us will also face. Indeed, how many thousands, when our time comes, will pass away at the same moment as us! Those who refuse to follow will be forced to: and is it not better to willingly do what we will otherwise be made to do against our will?
The sons of mortal parents must expect a mortal posterity—death is the end of great and small. We are born helpless, and exposed to the injuries of all creatures and of all weathers. The very necessaries of life are deadly to us; we meet with our fate in our dishes, in our cups, and in the very air we breathe; nay, our very birth is inauspicious, for we come into the world weeping, and in the middle of our designs, while we are meditating great matters, and stretching of our thoughts to after ages, death cuts us off, and our longest date is only the revolution of a few years. One man dies at the table; another goes away in his sleep, a third in his mistress’s arms, a fourth is stabbed, another is stung with an adder, or crushed with the fall of a house. We have several ways to our end, but the end itself, which is death, is still the same. Whether we die by a sword, by a halter, by a potion, or by a disease, it is all but death. A child dies in the swaddling-clouts, and an old man at a hundred—they are both mortal alike, though the one goes sooner than the other. All that lies betwixt the cradle and the grave is uncertain. If we compute the troubles, the life even of a child is long: if the sweetness of the passage, that of an old man is short; the whole is slippery and deceitful, and only death certain; and yet all people complain of that which never deceived any man. Senecio raised himself from a small beginning to a vast fortune, being very well skilled in the faculties both of getting and of keeping, and either of them was sufficient for the doing of his business. He was287 a man infinitely careful both of his patrimony and of his body. He gave me a morning’s visit, (says our author,) and after that visit he went away and spent the rest of the day with a friend of his that was desperately sick. At night, he was merry at supper, and seized immediately after with a quinsy which dispatched him in a few hours. This man that had money at use in all places, and in the very course and height of his prosperity was thus cut off. How foolish a thing is it then for a man to flatter himself with long hopes, and to pretend to dispose of the future: nay, the very present slips through our fingers, and there is not that moment which we can call our own.
The children of mortal parents must expect a mortal legacy—death is the end for everyone, whether great or small. We're born helpless, vulnerable to the harm of all creatures and all kinds of weather. The very necessities of life can be deadly; we encounter our fate in our meals, in our drinks, and in the very air we inhale. In fact, our very birth is unlucky, as we enter the world crying, and in the middle of our plans, while we’re thinking about significant matters and reaching our thoughts toward future generations, death interrupts us, and our longest lifespan is merely a few years. One person dies at the dinner table; another passes away in their sleep; a third dies in their lover’s arms; a fourth is stabbed; another is bitten by a snake, or crushed under a falling building. We have many paths to our end, but the end itself, which is death, remains the same. Whether we die by a sword, a noose, a potion, or an illness, it is all just death. A baby dies in its swaddling clothes, and an old man at a hundred—they are both mortal, though one leaves before the other. Everything between the cradle and the grave is uncertain. If we consider the troubles, even a child's life feels long; if we think about the sweetness of the passage, an old man's is short; the whole experience is slippery and deceptive, with only death being certain; and yet everyone complains about something that has never deceived anyone. Senecio rose from a humble start to a vast fortune, being very skilled in the arts of earning and saving, either of which was enough to get the job done. He was287 extremely careful of both his inheritance and his health. He visited me one morning, (says our author,) and after that visit, he left to spend the rest of the day with a friend who was gravely ill. That night, he was cheerful at dinner, and shortly afterward was struck down by a severe throat infection that took him in just a few hours. This man, who had money available everywhere, was suddenly cut off in the prime of his success. How foolish it is for a person to flatter themselves with long hopes and to think they can control the future; even the present slips through our fingers, and there isn’t a moment we can truly call our own.
How vain a thing is it for us to enter upon projects, and to say to ourselves, “Well, I will go build, purchase, discharge such offices, settle my affairs, and then retire!” We are all of us born to the same casualties—all equally frail and uncertain of to-morrow. At the very altar where we pray for life, we learn to die, by seeing the sacrifices killed before us. But there is no need of a wound, or searching the heart for it, when the noose of a cord, or the smothering of a pillow will do the work. All things have their seasons—they begin, they increase, and they die. The heavens and the earth grow old, and are appointed their periods.
How pointless is it for us to start projects and think, “Alright, I’ll go build, buy, take care of these tasks, settle my affairs, and then relax!” We’re all faced with the same uncertainties—all equally fragile and unsure about tomorrow. At the very place where we pray for life, we learn about death by seeing the sacrifices made right in front of us. But there’s no need for a wound or to dig deep into our hearts when a rope or a pillow can do the job. Everything has its seasons—they begin, they grow, and they end. The sky and the earth get old and have their own timelines.
That which we call death is but a pause or suspension; and, in truth, a progress to life, only our thoughts look downward upon the body, and not forward upon things to come. All things under the sun are mortal—cities—empires—and the time will come when it shall be a question where they were, and, perchance, whether ever they had a being or not. Some will be destroyed by war, others by lux288ury, fire, inundations, earthquakes—why should it trouble me then to die, as a forerunner of an universal dissolution? A great mind submits itself to God, and suffers willingly what the law of the universe will otherwise bring to pass upon necessity.
What we refer to as death is just a pause or break; in reality, it's a step toward life. We only focus on the body and not on what's ahead. Everything under the sun is mortal—cities, empires—and there will come a time when it will be questioned where they existed, and maybe even if they ever existed at all. Some will fall because of war, others due to luxury, fire, floods, or earthquakes—so why should it bother me to die, as a precursor to a universal end? A great mind accepts its fate, trusting God, and willingly endures what the laws of the universe will inevitably bring about.
That good old man Bassus, (though with one foot in the grave,) how cheerful a mind does he bear. He lives in the view of death, and contemplates his own end with less concern of thought or countenance, than he would do another man’s. It is a hard lesson, and we are a long time a learning of it, to receive our death without trouble, especially in the case of Bassus: in other deaths there is a mixture of hope—a disease may be cured, a fire quenched, a falling house either propped or avoided, the sea may swallow a man and throw him up again, a pardon may interpose twixt the ax and the body—but in the case of old age there is no place for either hope or intercession.
That old man Bassus, (even though he’s on his last legs,) how bright and cheerful is his mindset. He faces death head-on and thinks about his own end with less worry than he would for someone else. It’s a tough lesson, and it takes us a long time to learn it: accepting our own death without stress, especially in Bassus’s case. With other deaths, there’s a glimmer of hope—a sickness might be cured, a fire could be put out, a collapsing building can be fixed or avoided, the sea might take someone and then bring them back, a pardon could come in time to save someone—but when it comes to old age, there’s no chance for hope or intervention.
Let us live in our bodies, therefore, as if we were only to lodge in them this night, and to leave them to-morrow. It is the frequent thought of death that must fortify us against the necessity of it. He that has armed himself against poverty, may, perhaps, come to live in plenty. A man may strengthen himself against pain and yet live in a state of health; against the loss of friends, and never lose any, but he that fortifies himself against the fear of death shall most certainly have occasion to employ that virtue. It is the care of a wise and a good man to look to his manners and actions; and rather how well he lives than how long, for to die sooner or later is not the business, but to die well or ill, for “death brings us to immortality.”
Let's live in our bodies as if we're just staying in them for one night and will leave them tomorrow. It's the constant awareness of death that must prepare us for its inevitability. Someone who has prepared for poverty might eventually find themselves living in abundance. A person can toughen themselves against pain and still enjoy good health; they can prepare for losing friends and never actually lose any. However, those who brace themselves against the fear of death will surely find a reason to use that strength. A wise and good person focuses on their behavior and actions, prioritizing how well they live rather than how long they live because the key isn't whether we die sooner or later, but whether we die well or poorly, for "death brings us to immortality."
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CHAPTER XXIII.
AGAINST IMMODERATE SORROW FOR THE DEATH OF FRIENDS.
Next to the encounter of death in our own bodies, the most sensible calamity to an honest man is the death of a friend; and we are not in truth without some generous instances of those that have preferred a friend’s life before their own; and yet this affliction, which by nature is so grievous to us, is by virtue and Providence made familiar and easy.
Next to facing death ourselves, the hardest thing for a decent person is losing a friend. In fact, we have many examples of people who have chosen a friend’s life over their own. Still, this pain, which is naturally so heavy for us, is made more bearable through virtue and the grace of Providence.
To lament the death of a friend is both natural and just; a sigh or a tear I would allow to his memory: but no profuse or obstinate sorrow. Clamorous and public lamentations are not so much the effects of grief as of vain-glory. He that is sadder in company than alone, shows rather the ambition of his sorrow than the piety of it. Nay, and in the violence of his passion there fall out twenty things that set him a-laughing. At the long-run, time cures all, but it were better done by moderation and wisdom. Some people do as good as set a watch upon themselves, as if they were afraid that their grief would make an escape. The ostentation of grief is many times more than the grief itself. When any body is within hearing, what groans and outcries! when they are alone and private, all is hush and quiet: so soon as any body comes in, they are at it again; and down they throw themselves upon the bed; fall to290 wringing of their hands, and wishing of themselves dead; which they might have executed by themselves; but their sorrow goes off with the company. We forsake nature, and run over to the practices of the people, that never were the authors of anything that is good. If destiny were to be wrought upon by tears, I would allow you to spend your days and nights in sadness and mourning, tearing of your hair, and beating of your breast; but if Fate be inexorable, and death will keep what it has taken, grief is to no purpose. And yet I would not advise insensibility and hardness; it were inhumanity, and not virtue, not to be moved at the separation of familiar friends and relations: now, in such cases, we cannot command ourselves, we cannot forbear weeping, and we ought not to forbear: but let us not pass the bounds of affection, and run into imitation; within these limits it is some ease to the mind.
It’s natural and right to mourn a friend who has died; a sigh or a tear in their memory feels appropriate. But excessive or stubborn sadness isn’t necessary. Loud and public displays of grief often reveal more about a person’s desire for attention than their actual sorrow. If someone is sadder around others than when they’re alone, it suggests they’re more interested in the show of sadness than in genuinely feeling it. In fact, in the midst of their emotional outbursts, they might find reasons to laugh. Ultimately, time heals all, but it’s better done with moderation and wisdom. Some people seem to constantly monitor their own grief, as if they’re afraid it will slip away. The showiness of grief often outweighs the actual feeling. When someone is near, you hear all the groans and wails, but when they’re alone, it’s silent; the moment anyone else enters, they’re back to their theatrics, throwing themselves on the bed, wringing their hands, and wishing they were dead—actions they could carry out alone, but their sorrow fades when the company leaves. We abandon our true feelings and mimic the behaviors of people who’ve never contributed anything good. If destiny could be changed by our tears, it might make sense to spend all our days and nights in sadness, tearing our hair and beating our chests. But if fate is unyielding, and death keeps what it has taken, then grief serves no real purpose. Still, I wouldn’t suggest being completely unfeeling; that would be inhuman, not virtuous. We can’t help but feel sadness at the loss of close friends and family; in those moments, we shouldn’t hold back our tears. However, let’s not go beyond what affection requires and fall into mere imitation. Within those limits, there's some relief for the mind.
A wise man gives way to tears in some cases, and cannot avoid them in others. When one is struck with the surprise of ill-news, as the death of a friend, or the like; or upon the last embrace of an acquaintance under the hand of an executioner, he lies under a natural necessity of weeping and trembling. In another case, we may indulge our sorrow, as upon the memory of a dead friend’s conversation or kindness, one may let fall tears of generosity and joy. We favor the one, and we are overcome by the other; and this is well: but we are not upon any terms to force them: they may flow of their own accord, without derogating from the dignity of a wise man; who at the same time both preserves his gravity, and obeys nature. Nay, there is a certain decorum even in weeping; for excess of sorrow is as foolish as profuse laughter. Why do we not as well291 cry, when our trees that we took pleasure in, shed their leaves, as at the loss of our satisfactions; when the next season repairs them, either with the same again, or others in their places. We may accuse Fate, but we cannot alter it; for it is hard and inexorable, and not to be removed either with reproaches or tears. They may carry us to the dead, but never bring them back again to us. If reason does not put an end to our sorrows, fortune never will: one is pinched with poverty; another solicited with ambition, and fears the very wealth that he coveted. One is troubled for the loss of children; another for the want of them: so that we shall sooner want tears than matter for them; let us therefore spare that for which we have so much occasion. I do confess, that in the very parting of friends there is something of uneasiness and trouble; but it is rather voluntary than natural; and it is custom more than sense that affects us: we do rather impose a sorrow upon ourselves than submit to it; as people cry when they have company, and when nobody looks on, all is well again. To mourn without measure is folly, and not to mourn at all is insensibility. The best temper is betwixt piety and reason; to be sensible, but neither transported nor cast down. He that can put a stop to his tears and pleasures when he will is safe. It is an equal infelicity to be either too soft or too hard: we are overcome by the one, and put to struggle with the other. There is a certain intemperance in that sorrow that passes the rules of modesty; and yet great piety is, in many cases, a dispensation to good manners. The loss of a son or of a friend, cuts a man to the heart, and there is no opposing the first violence of his passion; but when a man comes once to deliver himself wholly up to292 lamentations, he is to understand, that though some tears deserve compassion, others are yet ridiculous. A grief that is fresh finds pity and comfort, but when it is inveterate it is laughed at, for it is either counterfeit or foolish. Beside that, to weep excessively for the dead is an affront to the living. The most justifiable cause of mourning is to see good men come to ill ends, and virtue oppressed by the iniquity of Fortune. But in this case, too, they either suffer resolutely, and yield us delight in their courage and example, or meanly, and so give us the less trouble for the loss. He that dies cheerfully, dries up my tears; and he that dies whiningly, does not deserve them. I would bear the death of friends and children with the same constancy that I would expect my own, and no more lament the one than fear the other. He that bethinks himself, how often friends have been parted, will find more time lost among the living, than upon the dead; and the most desperate mourners are they that cared least for their friends when they were living; for they think to redeem their credits, for want of kindness to the living, by extravagant ravings after the dead. Some (I know) will have grief to be only the perverse delight of a restless mind, and sorrows and pleasures to be near akin; and there are, I am confident, that find joy even in their tears. But which is more barbarous, to be insensible of grief for the death of a friend, or to fish for pleasure in grief, when a son perhaps is burning, or a friend expiring? To forget one’s friend, to bury the memory with the body, to lament out of measure, is all inhuman. He that is gone either would not have his friend tormented, or does not know that he is so: if he does not feel it, it is superfluous; if he does, it is unacceptable to him.293 If reason cannot prevail, reputation may; for immoderate mourning lessens a man’s character: it is a shameful thing for a wise man to make the weariness of grieving the remedy of it. In time, the most stubborn grief will leave us, if in prudence we do not leave that first.
A wise person sometimes sheds tears, and can't avoid them in other situations. When unexpected bad news hits, like the death of a friend, or the last goodbye to someone being executed, it's only natural to weep and tremble. In other moments, we might allow ourselves to feel sorrow, like reminiscing about the conversations or kindness of a deceased friend, where tears of generosity and joy can fall. We might prefer one instance over the other, and sometimes we're overwhelmed by them; but we shouldn't force ourselves to cry. Tears can flow naturally without taking away from a wise person's dignity; they can remain serious while still being in tune with nature. There’s also a certain decorum in crying; excessive sorrow is as foolish as excessive laughter. Why do we not cry over trees losing their leaves as we do over our disappointments, knowing that the next season will bring new growth? We might blame fate, but we can't change it; it’s harsh and unyielding, unaffected by complaints or tears. Tears may lead us to the dead but will never bring them back. If reason doesn’t end our sorrow, fortune won't either: someone suffers from poverty, another is caught in ambition, fearing the wealth they sought. One person grieves the loss of children, while another mourns the lack of them; it seems we'll find more reasons to cry than tears to shed, so let's save our tears for when we truly need them. I admit that saying goodbye to friends can bring unease and discomfort, but it's often more of a choice than a natural reaction; it's more about custom than genuine feeling: we often impose sorrow on ourselves, crying when others are watching, but when we're alone, we're okay again. Mourning excessively is foolish, while not mourning at all is heartless. The best approach balances piety and reason; be aware of feelings without being overwhelmed by them or feeling hopeless. Those who can stop their tears and joy at will are secure. It's equally unfortunate to be overly sensitive or too emotionally hardened: one can be overcome by the former and struggle against the latter. There’s a certain excess in sorrow that crosses the lines of modesty, yet deep feelings of piety can sometimes excuse this. The loss of a son or friend cuts deeply, and it's hard to resist the initial surge of emotion, but when someone fully immerses themselves in lamenting, they must realize that while some tears merit sympathy, others appear ridiculous. Fresh grief invites pity and comfort, but prolonged grief is often laughed at, as it seems either fake or foolish. Moreover, crying excessively for the dead can insult the living. The most valid reason for mourning is seeing good people meet unfortunate ends and virtue being mistreated by the harshness of fortune. In these cases, they either suffer bravely, inspiring us with their courage and example, or pitifully, causing us less distress about the loss. A person who dies cheerfully eases my tears, while one who dies complaining doesn't deserve them. I would bear the loss of friends and children with the same strength I would expect for myself, and wouldn't mourn the one more than have fear of the other. Those who consider how often friends have parted will find that more time is wasted among the living than on the dead; the most desperate mourners often cared the least for their friends while they were alive, thinking they can make up for their lack of kindness when alive with extravagant grief for the dead. Some (I know) argue that grief is simply the distorted enjoyment of an uneasy mind, and that sorrow and joy are closely related; I am sure there are those who find happiness even in their tears. But which is more cruel: being indifferent to grief for a friend's death or seeking pleasure in grief when perhaps a child is suffering or a friend is dying? To forget a friend, to bury their memory with their body, to mourn excessively—all of it is inhumane. The one who has passed either wouldn’t want their friend to suffer or isn’t aware of the suffering. If they don't feel it, it's pointless; if they do, it’s unacceptable. If reason fails, reputation may hold sway; for excessive mourning can tarnish a person's character: it’s shameful for a wise person to use the weariness of grief as a remedy for it. In time, even the most stubborn grief will leave us, if we don’t allow that first spark to fade away.
But do I grieve for my friend’s sake or for my own? Why should I afflict myself for the loss of him that is either happy or not at all in being? In the one case it is envy, and in the other it is madness. We are apt to say, “What would I give to see him again, and to enjoy his conversation! I was never sad in his company: my heart leaped whenever I met him; I want him wherever I go.” All that is to be said is, “The greater the loss, the greater is the virtue to overcome it.” If grieving will do no good, it is an idle thing to grieve; and if that which has befallen one man remains to all, it is as unjust to complain. The whole world is upon the march towards the same point; why do we not cry for ourselves that are to follow, as well as for him that has gone first? Why do we not as well lament beforehand for that which we know will be, and can not possibly but be? He is not gone, but sent before. As there are many things that he has lost, so there are many things that he does not fear; as anger, jealousy, envy, etc. Is he not more happy in desiring nothing than miserable in what he has lost? We do not mourn for the absent, why then for the dead, who are effectually no other? We have lost one blessing, but we have many left; and shall not all these satisfactions support us against one sorrow?
But do I grieve for my friend or for myself? Why should I suffer over the loss of someone who is either happy or not existing at all? In one case, it’s envy, and in the other, it’s madness. We often say, “What would I give to see him again and enjoy his conversation! I was never sad around him: my heart would leap whenever I met him; I want him wherever I go.” All that can be said is, “The greater the loss, the greater the strength needed to overcome it.” If grieving won’t help, it’s pointless to grieve; and if what has happened to one person will happen to us all, it’s unjust to complain. The whole world is on the way to the same end; why don’t we weep for ourselves who are to follow, just as we do for him who’s gone first? Why don’t we mourn ahead of time for what we know will happen and cannot be avoided? He is not gone, but sent ahead. Though he has lost many things, he also has many things he does not fear, like anger, jealousy, envy, and so on. Isn’t he happier in wanting nothing than miserable over what he has lost? We don’t mourn for those absent, so why for the dead, who are really no different? We’ve lost one blessing, but we have many left; shouldn’t all these comforts help us against one sorrow?
The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one. As there is a sharpness in some fruits, and a bitterness in some294 wines that please us, so there is a mixture in the remembrance of friends, where the loss of their company is sweetened again by the contemplation of their virtues. In some respects, I have lost what I had, and in others, I retain still what I have lost. It is an ill construction of Providence to reflect only upon my friend’s being taken away, without any regard to the benefit of his being once given me. Let us therefore make the best of our friends while we have them; for how long we shall keep them is uncertain. I have lost a hopeful son, but how many fathers have been deceived in their expectations! and how many noble families have been destroyed by luxury and riot! He that grieves for the loss of a son, what if he had lost a friend? and yet he that has lost a friend has more cause of joy that he once had him, than of grief that he is taken away. Shall a man bury his friendship with his friend? We are ungrateful for that which is past, in hope of what is to come; as if that which is to come would not quickly be past too. That which is past we are sure of. We may receive satisfaction, it is true, both from the future and what is already past; the one by expectation, and the other by memory; only the one may possibly not come to pass, and it is impossible to make the other not to have been.
The comfort of having a friend can be taken away, but the comfort of having had one cannot. Just like some fruits have a sharp taste and some wines have a bitterness that we enjoy, the memory of friends has a mix of feelings, where the sadness of missing their company is softened by remembering their good qualities. In some ways, I’ve lost what I once had, and in other ways, I still hold on to what I've lost. It’s not fair to only focus on the fact that my friend is gone without appreciating the gift of having had them in my life. So let’s make the most of our friends while we still have them, because we don’t know how long we’ll keep them around. I’ve lost a hopeful son, but how many fathers have been let down by their hopes! And how many noble families have been ruined by excess and wild living! If someone mourns the loss of a son, what if they had lost a friend instead? Yet, someone who has lost a friend has more reason to feel joy for having had that friend than to feel sorrow for their absence. Should a person bury their friendship along with their friend? We often take for granted what we once had, in hopes of what’s to come, as if the future wouldn’t also be gone before we know it. What’s in the past is certain. We can find satisfaction, it’s true, in both the future and the past; one through anticipation, and the other through memory. However, the future might not happen, while it’s impossible to erase the existence of the past.
But there is no applying of consolation to fresh and bleeding sorrow; the very discourse irritates the grief and inflames it. It is like an unseasonable medicine in a disease; when the first violence is over, it will be more tractable, and endure the handling. Those people whose minds are weakened by long felicity may be allowed to groan and complain, but it is otherwise with those that have295 led their days in misfortunes. A long course of adversity has this good in it, that though it vexes a body a great while, it comes to harden us at last; as a raw soldier shrinks at every wound, and dreads the surgeon more than an enemy; whereas a veteran sees his own body cut and lamed with as little concern as if it were another’s. With the same resolution should we stand the shock and cure of all misfortunes; we are never the better for our experience, if we have not yet learned to be miserable. And there is no thought of curing us by the diversion of sports and entertainments; we are apt to fall into relapses; wherefore we had better overcome our sorrow than delude it.
But there's no way to comfort fresh and raw sorrow; even talking about it just makes the pain worse. It's like giving the wrong medicine for an illness; once the initial shock wears off, it becomes easier to handle. Those who have enjoyed a long stretch of happiness can be forgiven for complaining, but it’s different for those who have faced constant misfortunes. A long period of hardship has this advantage: while it troubles us for a long time, it eventually toughens us up; just like a rookie soldier flinches at every injury and fears the surgeon more than the enemy, a seasoned veteran views their own wounds with indifference, as if they belonged to someone else. We should approach the blows and healing from all misfortunes with the same mindset; we gain nothing from our experiences if we haven't yet learned how to endure suffering. And there’s no point in trying to cure our pain with distractions like sports and entertainment; we often end up sliding back into sorrow. So, it’s better to confront our grief than to try to escape it.
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CONSOLATION AGAINST BANISHMENT AND BODILY PAIN.
It is a masterpiece to draw good out of evil; and, by the help of virtue, to improve misfortunes into blessings. “It is a sad condition,” you will say, “for a man to be barred the freedom of his own country.” And is not this the case of thousands that we meet every day in the streets? Some for ambition; others, to negotiate, or for curiosity, delight, friendship, study, experience, luxury, vanity, discontent: some to exercise their virtues, others their vices; and not a few to prostitute either their bodies or their eloquence? To pass now from pleasant countries into the worst of islands; let them be never so barren or rocky, the people never so barbarous, or the clime never so intemperate, he that is banished thither shall find many strangers to live there for their pleasure. The mind of man is naturally curious and restless; which is no wonder, considering their divine original; for heavenly things are always in motion: witness the stars, and the orbs, which are perpetually moving, rolling, and changing of place and according to the law and appointment of Nature. But here are no woods, you will say, no rivers, no gold nor pearl, no commodity for traffic or commerce; nay, hardly provision enough to keep the inhabitants from starving. It is very right; here297 are no palaces, no artificial grottoes, or materials for luxury and excess; but we lie under the protection of Heaven; and a poor cottage for a retreat is more worth than the most magnificent temple, when that cottage is consecrated by an honest man under the guard of his virtue. Shall any man think banishment grievous, when he may take such company along with him! Nor is there any banishment but yields enough for our necessities, and no kingdom is sufficient for superfluities. It is the mind that makes us rich in a desert; and if the body be but kept alive, the soul enjoys all spiritual felicities in abundance. What signifies the being banished from one spot of ground to another, to a man that has his thoughts above, and can look forward and backward, and wherever he pleases; and that, wherever he is, has the same matter to work upon? The body is but the prison or the clog of the mind, subjected to punishments, robberies, diseases; but the mind is sacred and spiritual, and liable to no violence. Is it that, a man shall want garments or covering in banishment? The body is as easily clothed as fed; and Nature has made nothing hard that is necessary. But if nothing will serve us but rich embroideries and scarlet, it is none of Fortune’s fault that we are poor, but our own. Nay, suppose a man should have all restored him back again that he has lost, it will come to nothing, for he will want more after that to satisfy his desires than he did before to supply his necessities. Insatiable appetites are not so much a thirst as a disease.
It's a true art to find good in bad situations and to turn misfortunes into blessings with the help of virtue. "It’s unfortunate," you might say, "for someone to lose the freedom of their own country." And isn’t that the reality for countless people we see daily on the streets? Some driven by ambition, others seeking connections, curiosity, pleasure, friendship, knowledge, experiences, extravagance, vanity, or dissatisfaction: some to practice their virtues, others to indulge their vices; and many to exploit either their bodies or their talents. Moving now from pleasant lands to the worst of islands; no matter how barren or rocky, or how uncivilized the people, or how harsh the climate, those who are exiled there will find many strangers living there for their enjoyment. The human mind is naturally curious and restless; it’s no surprise, considering our divine origins, since heavenly things are always in motion: just look at the stars and orbits, which are constantly moving, rolling, and changing places according to the laws of nature. But you might say there are no forests, rivers, gold, or pearls here, and hardly enough food to keep the inhabitants from starving. That’s true; here297 there are no palaces, no artificial caves, or materials for luxury and excess; but we are under Heaven's protection, and a humble cottage for refuge is worth more than the grandest temple when that cottage is blessed by an honest person under the protection of their virtue. Can anyone really find banishment harsh when they can take such company with them? There is no banishment that doesn’t provide what we need, and no kingdom is enough for excess. It’s the mind that makes us wealthy in a barren place; and as long as the body is alive, the soul experiences spiritual joy in abundance. What does it matter to be banished from one piece of land to another for someone whose thoughts are elevated and can gaze forward, backward, and anywhere they wish, having the same mental material to work with no matter where they are? The body is simply a prison or a burden to the mind, subjected to punishments, thefts, and illnesses; but the mind is sacred and spiritual, untouched by violence. Will someone really miss clothes or shelter in exile? The body can be as easily clothed as fed; and nature has made nothing essential too difficult to obtain. But if we think we can only survive with rich fabrics and fine scarlet, it’s not Fortune’s fault we are poor, but our own. Moreover, suppose a person gets everything they lost restored to them; it won’t matter, as they will only desire more than they did before to satisfy their wants. Endless cravings are less about thirst and more about a disease.
To come lower now; where is the people or nation that have not changed their place of abode? Some by the fate of war; others have been cast by tempests, shipwrecks, or want of provisions, upon un298known coasts. Some have been forced abroad by pestilence, sedition, earthquakes, surcharge of people at home. Some travel to see the world, others for commerce; but, in fine, it is clear, that, upon some reason or other, the whole race of mankind have shifted their quarters; changed their very names as well as their habitations; insomuch that we have lost the very memorials of what they were. All these transportations of people, what are they but public banishments? The very founder of the Roman empire was an exile: briefly, the whole world has been transplanted, and one mutation treads upon the heel of another. That which one man desires, turns another man’s stomach; and he that proscribes me to-day, shall himself be cast out to-morrow. We have, however, this comfort in our misfortune; we have the same nature, the same Providence, and we carry our virtues along with us. And this blessing we owe to that almighty Power, call it what you will; either a God, or an Incorporeal Reason, a Divine Spirit, or Fate, and the unchangeable Course of causes and effects: it is, however, so ordered, that nothing can be taken from us but what we can well spare: and that which is most magnificent and valuable continues with us. Wherever we go, we have the heavens over our heads, and no farther from us than they were before; and so long as we can entertain our eyes and thoughts with those glories, what matter is it what ground we tread upon?
To get down to it, where is the population or nation that hasn’t changed where they live? Some have moved due to war; others have ended up on unfamiliar shores because of storms, shipwrecks, or lack of food. Some have been forced to leave because of disease, unrest, earthquakes, or overcrowding at home. Some travel to see the world, while others go for business; but ultimately, it’s clear that for one reason or another, all of humanity has changed their locations and even their names, to the extent that we’ve lost the very records of who they were. All these movements of people, what are they but public exiles? The very founder of the Roman Empire was an exile: in short, the entire world has been moved, and one change follows another. What one person desires may disgust another, and he who excludes me today may find himself excluded tomorrow. However, we do find comfort in our misfortune; we share the same nature, the same guiding force, and we carry our virtues with us. This blessing is owed to that higher Power, whatever you call it; whether it's a God, an Incorporeal Reason, a Divine Spirit, or Fate, and the unchanging Course of causes and effects: it’s arranged so that nothing can be taken from us that we can’t afford to lose, and what is most magnificent and valuable remains with us. Wherever we go, the heavens are still above us, no farther away than they were before; and as long as we can enjoy those wonders, does it really matter what ground we walk on?
In the case of pain or sickness, it is only the body that is affected; it may take off the speed of a footman, or bind the hands of a cobbler, but the mind is still at liberty to hear, learn, teach, advise, and to do other good offices. It is an example of public299 benefit, a man that is in pain and patient. Virtue may show itself as well in the bed as in the field; and he that cheerfully encounters the terrors of death and corporal anguish, is as great a man as he that most generously hazards himself in a battle. A disease, it is true, bars us of some pleasures, but procures us others. Drink is never so grateful to us as in a burning fever; nor meat, as when we have fasted ourselves sharp and hungry. The patient may be forbidden some sensual satisfaction, but no physician will forbid us the delight of the mind. Shall we call any sick man miserable, because he must give over his intemperance of wine and gluttony, and betake himself to a diet of more sobriety, and less expense; and abandon his luxury, which is the distemper of the mind as well as of the body? It is troublesome, I know, at first, to abstain from the pleasures we have been used to, and to endure hunger and thirst; but in a little time we lose the very appetite, and it is no trouble then to be without that which we do not desire. In diseases there are great pains; but if they be long they remit, and give us some intervals of ease; if short and violent, either they dispatch us, or consume themselves; so that either their respites make them tolerable, or the extremity makes them short. So merciful is Almighty God to us, that our torments cannot be very sharp and lasting. The acutest pains are those that affect the nerves, but there is this comfort in them too, that they will quickly make us stupid and insensible. In cases of extremity, let us call to mind the most eminent instances of patience and courage, and turn our thoughts from our afflictions to the contemplation of virtue. Suppose it be the stone, the gout, nay, the rack itself; how many300 have endured it without so much as a groan or word speaking; without so much as asking for relief, or giving an answer to a question! Nay, they have laughed at the tormentors upon the very torture, and provoked them to new experiments of their cruelty, which they have had still in derision. The asthma I look upon as of all diseases the most importunate; the physicians call it the meditation of death, as being rather an agony than a sickness; the fit holds one not above an hour, as nobody is long in expiring. Are there not three things grievous in sickness, the fear of death, bodily pain, and the intermission of our pleasures? the first is to be imputed to nature, not to the disease; for we do not die because we are sick, but because we live. Nay, sickness itself has preserved many a man from dying.
In the case of pain or illness, it’s only the body that suffers; it might slow down a runner or restrict a cobbler’s hands, but the mind remains free to hear, learn, teach, advise, and perform other good deeds. It’s a public benefit when a person is in pain but remains patient. Virtue can display itself just as much in bed as in the field; anyone who bravely faces the fear of death and physical suffering is just as noble as someone who heroically risks their life in battle. Although a disease can take away some pleasures, it provides others. Drink never tastes as good as when we’re burning with fever; nor does food seem as satisfying as when we're starving. A patient might be forbidden certain pleasures, but no doctor will deny us the joy of our mind. Should we call any sick person miserable just because they have to give up their excess of wine and gluttony, switch to a simpler diet, and give up luxury, which is an illness of both mind and body? It’s certainly hard at first to refrain from the pleasures we've grown accustomed to, and to bear hunger and thirst; but before long, we lose the very desire, and it’s no longer a struggle to go without what we do not crave. Illness can bring great pain; yet if it lasts long, it eases up at times, and if it’s brief and intense, it either finishes us off or fades away quickly; so either the breaks make it bearable, or the intensity makes it short-lived. So merciful is Almighty God to us that our sufferings cannot be very sharp and lasting. The sharpest pains are those that hit the nerves, but there’s comfort in that too, as they quickly make us numb and unfeeling. In times of extreme suffering, let’s remember the greatest examples of patience and courage, and shift our focus from our troubles to the contemplation of virtue. Whether it’s kidney stones, gout, or even torture, how many have endured these without so much as a groan or a word, without even asking for help or responding to a question! In fact, they’ve laughed in the faces of their tormentors, even while being tortured, taunting them to inflict new cruelties that they dismissed with scorn. I consider asthma to be the most bothersome of all ailments; doctors refer to it as the "meditation on death," since it feels more like agony than illness; the attack lasts no longer than an hour, as no one takes long to die. Are there not three things that make sickness hard to bear: the fear of death, physical pain, and the interruption of our pleasures? The first ought to be attributed to nature, not the illness; for we do not die because we are sick, but because we are alive. In fact, illness itself has saved many a person from dying.
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CHAPTER XXV.
POVERTY TO A WISE MAN IS RATHER A BLESSING THAN A MISFORTUNE.
No man shall ever be poor that goes to himself for what he wants; and that is the readiest way to riches. Nature, indeed, will have her due; but yet whatsoever is beyond necessity is precarious, and not necessary. It is not her business to gratify the palate, but to satisfy a craving stomach. Bread, when a man is hungry, does his work, let it be never so coarse; and water when he is dry; let his thirst be quenched, and Nature is satisfied, no matter whence it comes, or whether he drinks in gold, silver, or in the hollow of his hand. To promise a man riches, and to teach him poverty, is to deceive him: but shall I call him poor that wants nothing; though he maybe beholden for it to his patience, rather than to his fortune? Or shall any man deny him to be rich, whose riches can never be taken away? Whether is it better to have much or enough? He that has much desires more, and shows that he has not yet enough; but he that has enough is at rest. Shall a man be reputed the less rich for not having that for which he shall be banished; for which his very wife, or son, shall poison him: that which gives him security in war, and quiet in peace; which he possesses without danger, and disposes of302 without trouble? No man can be poor that has enough; nor rich, that covets more than he has. Alexander, after all his conquests, complained that he wanted more worlds; he desired something more, even when he had gotten all: and that which was sufficient for human nature was not enough for one man. Money never made any man rich; for the more he had, the more he still coveted. The richest man that ever lived is poor in my opinion, and in any man’s may be so: but he that keeps himself to the stint of Nature, does neither feel poverty nor fear it; nay, even in poverty itself there are some things superfluous. Those which the world calls happy, their felicity is a false splendor, that dazzles the eyes of the vulgar; but our rich man is glorious and happy within. There is no ambition in hunger or thirst: let there be food, and no matter for the table, the dish, and the servants, nor with what meats nature is satisfied. Those are the torments of luxury, that rather stuff the stomach than fill it: it studies rather to cause an appetite than to allay it. It is not for us to say, “This is not handsome; that is common; the other offends my eye.” Nature provides for health, not delicacy. When the trumpet sounds a charge, the poor man knows that he is not aimed at; when they cry out fire, his body is all he has to look after: if he be to take a journey, there is no blocking up of streets, and thronging of passages, for a parting compliment: a small matter fills his belly, and contents his mind: he lives from hand to mouth, without caring or fearing for to-morrow. The temperate rich man is but his counterfeit; his wit is quicker and his appetite calmer.
No one will ever be poor if they rely on themselves for what they need; that's the quickest path to wealth. Nature will take her share, but anything beyond necessity is uncertain and not essential. It's not her job to please the taste buds, just to satisfy a hungry stomach. Bread, no matter how basic, does its job when someone is hungry, and so does water when they are thirsty; as long as you're not parched, Nature is satisfied, regardless of whether you drink from gold, silver, or your own hands. To promise someone wealth while teaching them to be poor is to trick them. But can we really call someone poor if they want for nothing, even if it’s their patience that provides it and not luck? Can anyone deny that a person is rich if their riches can never be taken away? Is it better to have too much or just enough? Those who have more always want more, which shows they still don’t have enough; but those who have enough are at peace. Should a person be seen as less wealthy because they lack what could lead to their ruin, something their spouse or child might even poison them over? That which gives them safety in war and peace, which they can possess without danger, and can manage without hassle? No one is poor who has enough; nor is anyone truly rich who desires more than they already have. Alexander, despite all his victories, complained that he wanted more worlds; he sought something additional even after achieving everything, showing that what is sufficient for human beings wasn’t enough for one man. Money never made anyone truly rich because the more they had, the more they wanted. The richest person to ever live might as well be poor, in my view, and anyone else's could see it that way too; but one who limits themselves to what Nature provides neither feels poverty nor fears it. In fact, even within poverty, there are excesses. Those we call happy have a joy that’s deceptive, dazzling the eyes of the masses; but our truly rich person shines and feels fulfilled within. There is no urge to strive when you’re hungry or thirsty: as long as there is food, it doesn’t matter what kind of table, dish, or servers there are; what matters is that nature is satisfied. The pains of luxury only pack the stomach without truly filling it; they focus more on creating appetite than satisfying it. It's not our place to judge, saying, “This isn’t attractive; that's ordinary; the other offends my sight.” Nature provides for health, not indulgence. When the trumpet sounds in battle, the poor man knows he’s not the target; when there’s a fire, his body is all he has to worry about. If he needs to travel, there's no hassle with crowded streets for farewells; a small meal fills his stomach and satisfies his mind. He lives day to day without concern or fear for tomorrow. The temperate rich person is merely a poor imitation; their wit may be sharper, but their appetite is calmer.
No man finds poverty a trouble to him, but he that thinks it so; and he that thinks it so, makes it so.303 Does not a rich man travel more at ease with less luggage, and fewer servants? Does he not eat many times as little and as coarse in the field as a poor man? Does he not for his own pleasure, sometimes, and for variety, feed upon the ground, and use only earthen vessels? Is not he a madman then, that always fears what he often desires, and dreads the thing that he takes delight to imitate: he that would know the worst of poverty, let him but compare the looks of the rich and of the poor, and he shall find the poor man to have a smoother brow, and to be more merry at heart; or if any trouble befalls him, it passes over like a cloud: whereas the other, either his good humor is counterfeit, or his melancholy deep and ulcerated, and the worse, because he dares not publicly own his misfortune; but he is forced to play the part of a happy man even with a cancer in his heart. His felicity is but personated; and if he were but stripped of his ornaments, he would be contemptible. In buying of a horse, we take off his clothes and his trappings, and examine his shape and body for fear of being cozened; and shall we put an estimate upon a man for being set off by his fortune and quality? Nay, if we see anything of ornament about him, we are to suspect him the more for some infirmity under it. He that is not content in poverty, would not be so neither in plenty; for the fault is not in the thing, but in the mind. If that be sickly, remove him from a kennel to a palace, he is at the same pass; for he carries his disease along with him.
No one thinks poverty is a problem except for those who believe it is; and those who believe it is, create that reality. 303 Doesn’t a wealthy person travel more comfortably with less baggage and fewer servants? Don’t they often eat less and simpler food in the field like a poor person? Sometimes, for their own enjoyment and to mix things up, don’t they eat sitting on the ground and use only clay dishes? Isn’t it crazy that someone always worries about what they secretly want, and fears what they love to imitate? Anyone who wants to truly understand poverty should just compare the expressions of the rich and the poor. They’ll see that the poor often wear a more relaxed expression and seem happier; any troubles they face quickly pass like a cloud. In contrast, the wealthy person’s good mood might be fake, or their sadness might run deep and raw, and that's worse because they can't admit their struggles in public. They have to pretend to be happy even while suffering inside. Their happiness is just an act, and if their adornments were taken away, they’d seem pitiful. When we buy a horse, we check its body and shape after taking off its fancy gear to avoid being cheated; so why should we judge a person based on their wealth and status? In fact, if we see any embellishment on them, we should be even more suspicious of hidden flaws. A person who isn’t content with poverty wouldn't be content in abundance either, because the issue isn’t about the situation, but about the mindset. If the mind is troubled, whether they move from a shabby place to a palace, they’ll still be in the same situation since their problems come along too.
What can be happier than the condition both of mind and of fortune from which we cannot fall—what can be a greater felicity than in a covetous, designing age, for a roan to live safe among inform304ers and thieves? It puts a poor man into the very condition of Providence, that gives all, without reserving anything to itself. How happy is he that owes nothing but to himself, and only that which he can easily refuse or easily pay! I do not reckon him poor that has but a little, but he is so that covets more—it is a fair degree of plenty to have what is necessary. Whether had a man better find satiety in want, or hunger in plenty? It is not the augmenting of our fortunes, but the abating of our appetites that makes us rich.
What could be more blissful than a state of mind and fortune from which we can't fall—what could be a greater happiness than, in a greedy and scheming age, for a man to live securely among informers and thieves? It puts a poor person in the very position of Providence, which gives everything without keeping anything for itself. How fortunate is someone who owes nothing but to themselves, and only what they can easily refuse or pay! I don't consider someone poor who has just a little; rather, the truly poor are those who desire more—it’s a fair amount of wealth to have what is necessary. Would a person be better off finding satisfaction in want or feeling hunger in plenty? It’s not the increase of our fortunes, but the reduction of our desires that makes us wealthy.
Why may not a man as well contemn riches in his own coffers as in another man’s, and rather hear that they are his than feel them to be so, though it is a great matter not to be corrupted even by having them under the same roof. He is the greater man that is honestly poor in the middle of plenty—but he is the more secure that is free from the temptation of that plenty, and has the least matter for another to design upon. It is no great business for a poor man to preach the contempt of riches, or for a rich man to extol the benefits of poverty, because we do not know how either the one or the other would behave himself in the contrary condition. The best proof is the doing of it by choice and not by necessity; for the practice of poverty in jest is a preparation toward the bearing of it in earnest; but it is yet a generous disposition so to provide for the worst of fortunes as what may be easily borne—the premeditation makes them not only tolerable but delightful to us, for there is that in them without which nothing can be comfortable, that is to say, security. If there were nothing else in poverty but the certain knowledge of our friends, it were yet a most desirable blessing, when every man leaves us but those that305 love us. It is a shame to place the happiness of life in gold and silver, for which bread and water is sufficient; or, at the worst, hunger puts an end to hunger.
Why can’t a man ignore wealth in his own pockets as easily as he does in someone else's? Isn’t it better to hear that he has riches than to actually feel their weight, even though it’s important not to be corrupted by having them so close? A man who is genuinely poor amidst abundance is the greater man—but that same man is safer if he’s free from the temptation of that abundance and has less for others to covet. It’s not a big deal for a poor person to talk about dismissing wealth, nor for a rich person to praise the virtues of poverty, since we can’t know how either would act in the opposite situation. The best evidence is choosing to live that way rather than being forced; practicing poverty for fun can help prepare us for facing it seriously. Yet it’s also a noble thing to plan for the worst circumstances in a way that makes them bearable—thinking ahead makes tough situations not just tolerable but even enjoyable, because they bring with them something essential: security. If the only benefit of poverty were the certainty of having true friends, it would still be a highly desirable blessing, especially when everyone else leaves us but those who actually care. It’s a shame to think that happiness lies in gold and silver, when bread and water are just enough; or, at the very least, hunger eventually ends hunger.
For the honor of poverty, it was both the foundation and the cause of the Roman empire; and no man was ever yet so poor but he had enough to carry him to his journey’s end.
For the sake of poverty, it was both the foundation and the reason for the Roman Empire; and no man has ever been so poor that he didn't have enough to get him to his destination.
All I desire is that my property may not be a burden to myself, or make me so to others; and that is the best state of fortune that is neither directly necessitous, nor far from it. A mediocricity of fortune with a gentleness of mind, will preserve us from fear or envy, which is a desirable condition, for no man wants power to do mischief. We never consider the blessing of coveting nothing, and the glory of being full in ourselves, without depending upon Fortune. With parsimony a little is sufficient and without it nothing; whereas frugality makes a poor man rich. If we lose an estate, we had better never have had it—he that has least to lose has least to fear, and those are better satisfied whom Fortune never favored, than those whom she has forsaken.
All I want is for my possessions not to be a burden for me or for others; that’s the best kind of fortune—not being in need but not being too far from it either. Having a moderate amount of wealth and a calm mindset keeps us safe from fear and jealousy, which is a good place to be, since nobody reasonably wants the power to harm others. We often overlook the blessing of not wanting anything and the joy of being content within ourselves, without relying on luck. With carefulness, even a little is enough, but without it, nothing is truly satisfying; on the other hand, being frugal can make a poor person feel rich. If we lose wealth, it’s often better that we never had it at all—those with less to lose have less to worry about, and people who have never enjoyed fortune tend to be more content than those whom it has abandoned.
The state is most commodious that lies betwixt poverty and plenty. Diogenes understood this very well when he put himself into an incapacity of losing any thing. That course of life is most commodious which is both safe and wholesome—the body is to be indulged no farther than for health, and rather mortified than not kept in subjection to the mind. It is necessary to provide against hunger, thirst, and cold; and somewhat for a covering to shelter us against other inconveniences; but not a306 pin matter whether it be of turf or of marble—a man may lie as warm and as dry under a thatched as under a gilded roof. Let the mind be great and glorious, and all other things are despicable in comparison. “The future is uncertain, and I had rather beg of myself not to desire any thing, than of Fortune to bestow it.”
The best state is one that balances between lack and abundance. Diogenes knew this well when he made sure he couldn't lose anything. The best way to live is one that's both safe and healthy—the body should only be pampered as much as necessary for health, and should be kept in check rather than allowed to rule over the mind. It’s crucial to prepare for hunger, thirst, and cold, as well as to have some shelter from other hardships; but it doesn’t matter much if our shelter is made of turf or marble—someone can stay just as warm and dry under a thatched roof as under a gold-plated one. Let the mind be grand and noble, and everything else is trivial in comparison. “The future is uncertain, and I would rather teach myself not to desire anything than ask Fortune to give it to me.”
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CHAPTER I.
ANGER DESCRIBED, IT IS AGAINST NATURE, AND ONLY TO BE
FOUND IN MAN.
We are here to encounter the most outrageous, brutal, dangerous, and intractable of all passions; the most loathsome and unmannerly; nay, the most ridiculous too; and the subduing of this monster will do a great deal toward the establishment of human peace. It is the method of physicians to begin with a description of the disease, before they meddle with the cure: and I know not why this may not do as well in the distempers of the mind as in those of the body.
We are here to confront the most outrageous, brutal, dangerous, and stubborn of all passions; the most disgusting and uncivilized; indeed, the most ridiculous as well; and conquering this monster will greatly contribute to the establishment of human peace. It’s the practice of physicians to start with a description of the disease before they handle the cure: and I don’t see why this approach shouldn’t work just as well for the troubles of the mind as it does for those of the body.
The Stoics will have anger to be a “desire of punishing another for some injury done.” Against which it is objected, that we are many times angry with those that never did hurt us, but possibly may, though the harm be not as yet done. But I say, that they hurt us already in conceit: and the very purpose of it is an injury in thought before it breaks out into act. It is opposed again, that if anger were a desire of punishing, mean people308 would not be angry with great ones that are out of their reach; for no man can be said to desire any thing which he judges impossible to compass. But I answer to this, That anger is the desire, not the power and faculty of revenge; neither is any man so low, but that the greatest man alive may peradventure lie at his mercy.
The Stoics define anger as a “desire to punish someone for a perceived injury.” However, it's argued that we often get angry with people who haven’t harmed us at all, but might do so in the future, even if no actual harm has occurred yet. I argue that they have already offended us in our minds; the very intent is an injury in thought before it manifests in action. It’s also countered that if anger were merely a desire to punish, then common people wouldn’t get angry at powerful individuals who are beyond their reach; after all, no one can truly desire something they believe is impossible to achieve. To this, I respond that anger is a desire, not the ability or means for revenge; and no person is so insignificant that the mightiest individual can’t potentially find themselves at their mercy.
Aristotle takes anger to be, “a desire of paying sorrow for sorrow;” and of plaguing those that have plagued us. It is argued against both, that beasts are angry; though neither provoked by any injury, nor moved with a desire of any body’s grief or punishment. Nay, though they cause it, they do not design or seek it. Neither is anger (how unreasonable soever in itself) found anywhere but in reasonable creatures. It is true, the beasts have an impulse of rage and fierceness; as they are more affected also than men with some pleasures; but we may as well call them luxurious and ambitious as angry. And yet they are not without certain images of human affections. They have their likings and their loathings; but neither the passions of reasonable nature, nor their virtues, nor their vices. They are moved to fury by some objects; they are quieted by others; they have their terrors and their disappointments, but without reflection: and let them be never so much irritated or affrighted, so soon as ever the occasion is removed they fall to their meat again, and lie down and take their rest. Wisdom and thought are the goods of the mind, whereof brutes are wholly incapable; and we are as unlike them within as we are without: they have an odd kind of fancy, and they have a voice too; but inarticulate and confused, and incapable of those variations which are familiar to us.
Aristotle sees anger as "a desire to repay pain with pain" and to torment those who have tormented us. It's argued against both ideas that animals can feel anger, even though they aren't provoked by any harm done to them or motivated by the grief or punishment of others. In fact, even if they cause harm, they don’t intend or seek it out. Furthermore, anger, no matter how unreasonable it may be in itself, only exists in rational beings. It's true that animals can experience rage and aggression; they're also affected by certain pleasures more intensely than humans, but we could just as easily call them indulgent and ambitious as angry. However, they do show certain traces of human emotions. They have their likes and dislikes, but they lack the emotional depth of rational beings, along with their virtues and vices. Animals can be stirred to fury by certain stimuli, and they can calm down with others; they experience fear and disappointment, but without self-reflection. No matter how agitated or scared they get, as soon as the trigger is removed, they go back to eating and resting. Wisdom and thought are mental assets that animals completely lack; we are as different from them on the inside as we are on the outside. They have a peculiar kind of instinct and a form of communication too, but it's inarticulate and chaotic, lacking the variations that are familiar to us.
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Anger is not only a vice, but a vice point-blank against nature, for it divides instead of joining; and in some measure, frustrates the end of Providence in human society. One man was born to help another; anger makes us destroy one another; the one unites, the other separates; the one is beneficial to us, the other mischievous; the one succors even strangers, the other destroys even the most intimate friends; the one ventures all to save another, the other ruins himself to undo another. Nature is bountiful, but anger is pernicious: for it is not fear, but mutual love that binds up mankind.
Anger is not just a flaw; it’s a direct attack against nature because it divides people instead of bringing them together. In some ways, it undermines the purpose of Providence in human society. One person is meant to help another; anger leads us to harm each other. Love connects us, while anger pulls us apart. Love benefits us, but anger is harmful. Love extends help even to strangers, while anger can destroy even our closest relationships. Love risks everything to save another, while anger brings about our own ruin to harm someone else. Nature is generous, but anger is toxic; it’s not fear that unites humanity, but mutual love.
There are some motions that look like anger, which cannot properly be called so; as the passion of the people against the gladiators, when they hang off, and will not make so quick a dispatch as the spectators would have them: there is something in it of the humor of children, that if they get a fall, will never leave bawling until the naughty ground is beaten, and then all is well again. They are angry without any cause or injury; they are deluded by an imitation of strokes, and pacified with counterfeit tears. A false and a childish sorrow is appeased with as false and as childish a revenge. They take it for a contempt, if the gladiators do not immediately cast themselves upon the sword’s point. They look presently about them from one to another, as who should say; “Do but see, my masters, how these rogues abuse us.”
There are some actions that seem like anger, but they can't really be called that; like when the crowd gets riled up against the gladiators when they’re taking too long to finish their fight, not doing it fast enough for the spectators' liking. It’s a bit like children who, when they fall, won't stop crying until they’ve had their fun hitting the ground, and then everything is fine again. They feel angry for no real reason or offense; they’re misled by fake blows and calmed by fake tears. A false, childlike sadness is soothed by just as false and childish a revenge. They feel disrespected if the gladiators don't immediately throw themselves onto the sword. They look around at each other as if to say, “Just look, folks, how these guys are messing with us.”
To descend to the particular branches and varieties would be unnecessary and endless. There is a stubborn, a vindictive, a quarrelsome, a violent, a froward, a sullen, a morose kind of anger; and then we have this variety in complication too. One goes no310 further than words; another proceeds immediately to blows, without a word speaking; a third sort breaks out into cursing and reproachful language; and there are that content themselves with chiding and complaining. There is a conciliable anger and there is an implacable; but in what form or degree soever it appears, all anger, without exception, is vicious.
Going into the specific types and variations would be pointless and never-ending. There’s a stubborn, a vengeful, a quarrelsome, a violent, a contrary, a sullen, and a gloomy kind of anger; and then there are also complications with these types. Some anger only stays at the level of words; others jump straight to physical confrontations without a word being said; a third type erupts into cursing and insults; and some are satisfied with just scolding and complaining. There’s anger that can be reconciled and anger that can’t, but no matter how it shows up or to what extent, all anger is harmful.
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CHAPTER II.
THE RISE OF ANGER.
The question will be here, whether anger takes its rise from impulse or judgment; that is, whether it be moved of its own accord, or, as many other things are, from within us, that arise we know not how? The clearing of this point will lead us to greater matters.
The question here is whether anger comes from impulse or judgment; that is, whether it acts on its own or, like many other feelings, comes from within us in ways we can't fully understand. Clarifying this point will lead us to bigger issues.
The first motion of anger is in truth involuntary, and only a kind of menacing preparation towards it. The second deliberates; as who should say, “This injury should not pass without a revenge,” and there it stops. The third is impotent; and, right or wrong, resolves upon vengeance. The first motion is not to be avoided, nor indeed the second, any more than yawning for company; custom and care may lessen it, but reason itself cannot overcome it. The third, as it rises upon consideration, it must fall so too, for that motion which proceeds with judgment may be taken away with judgment. A man thinks himself injured, and hath a mind to be revenged, but for some reason lets it rest. This is not properly anger, but an affection overruled by reason; a kind of proposal disapproved—and what are reason and affection, but only changes of the mind for the better or for the worse? Reason deliberates before it judges; but anger passes sen312tence without deliberation. Reason only attends the matter in hand; but anger is startled at every accident; it passes the bounds of reason, and carries it away with it. In short, “anger is an agitation of the mind that proceeds to the resolution of a revenge, the mind assenting to it.”
The first reaction of anger is actually involuntary and serves as a sort of warning sign. The second thinks about it, as if saying, “This hurt shouldn't go unpunished,” but then it stops there. The third is ineffective; and whether it's right or wrong, it decides on revenge. The first motion can't be avoided, nor can the second, just like when you yawn because someone else did; habits and attention might reduce it, but even reason can't eliminate it. The third, when it arises from thought, can also decline, because a decision made with judgment can also be retracted with judgment. A person might feel wronged and want to get back at the offender, but for some reason, they choose to let it go. This isn't really anger, but an emotion subdued by reason; it's like a suggestion that’s rejected—and what are reason and emotion, if not just different states of the mind, either improved or worsened? Reason thinks things through before it makes a decision; meanwhile, anger jumps to conclusions without thinking. Reason focuses on the issue at hand; anger overreacts to everything around it; it goes beyond rational thought and takes it along for the ride. In short, “anger is a disturbance of the mind that leads to a decision for revenge, with the mind agreeing to it.”
There is no doubt but anger is moved by the species of an injury; but whether that motion be voluntary or involuntary is the point in debate; though it seems manifest to me that anger does nothing but where the mind goes along with it, for, first, to take an offence, and then to meditate a revenge, and after that to lay both propositions together, and say to myself, “This injury ought not to have been done; but as the case stands, I must do myself right.” This discourse can never proceed without the concurrence of the will.
There’s no doubt that anger is triggered by the type of injury, but whether that response is voluntary or involuntary is what’s up for debate. It seems clear to me that anger only happens when the mind is involved. First, you take offense, then you think about revenge, and after that, you weigh both ideas and tell yourself, “This injury shouldn’t have happened; but given the situation, I need to make things right.” This thought process can never happen without the agreement of the will.
The first motion indeed is single; but all the rest is deliberation and superstructure—there is something understood and condemned—an indignation conceived and a revenge propounded. This can never be without the agreement of the mind to the matter in deliberation. The end of this question is to know the nature and quality of anger. If it be bred in us it will never yield to reason, for all involuntary motions are inevitable and invincible; as a kind of horror and shrugging upon the sprinkling of cold water; the hair standing on end at ill news; giddiness at the sight of a precipice; blushing at lewd discourse. In these cases reason can do no good, but anger may undoubtedly be overcome by caution and good counsel, for it is a voluntary vice, and not of the condition of those accidents that befall us as frailties of our humanity, amongst which must be reckoned the first motions of the mind313 after the opinion of an injury received, which it is not in the power of human nature to avoid, and this is it that affects us upon the stage, or in a story.
The initial reaction is straightforward; however, everything that follows involves reflection and added complexity—there’s something implied and rejected—an emotional outrage formed and a desire for revenge suggested. This cannot happen without the mind agreeing with the issue being considered. The goal here is to understand the nature and characteristics of anger. If it’s ingrained in us, it won’t respond to reason, because all involuntary reactions are unavoidable and powerful; like a shock or shiver from cold water splashed on you, hair standing on end from bad news, dizziness at the edge of a cliff, or blushing from inappropriate talk. In these situations, reason offers no help, but anger can certainly be managed with caution and wise advice, since it is a voluntary vice, unlike the various challenges we face as part of being human, among which are the initial reactions of the mind after feeling wronged, which are beyond human control, and this is what impacts us on stage or in a narrative. 313
Can any man read the death of Pompey, and not be touched with an indignation? The sound of a trumpet rouses the spirits and provokes courage. It makes a man sad to see the shipwreck even of an enemy; and we are much surprised by fear in other cases—all these motions are not so much affections as preludes to them. The clashing of arms or the beating of a drum excites a war-horse: nay, a song from Xenophantes would make Alexander take his sword in his hand.
Can any man read about Pompey's death and not feel a surge of anger? The sound of a trumpet awakens the spirit and sparks courage. It’s disheartening to witness the downfall of even an enemy; we often respond with fear in various situations—all these reactions are not just feelings but signs of something deeper. The clash of arms or the beat of a drum stirs a war-horse: in fact, a song from Xenophantes could have made Alexander grab his sword.
In all these cases the mind rather suffers than acts, and therefore it is not an affection to be moved, but to give way to that motion, and to follow willingly what was started by chance—these are not affections, but impulses of the body. The bravest man in the world may look pale when he puts on his armor, his knees knock, and his heart work before the battle is joined: but these are only motions; whereas anger is an excursion, and proposes revenge or punishment, which cannot be without the mind. As fear flies, so anger assaults; and it is not possible to resolve, either upon violence or caution, without the concurrence of the will.
In all these cases, the mind suffers more than it acts, so it’s not an affection to be moved, but to give way to that movement and to willingly follow what began by chance—these aren’t affections, but impulses of the body. The bravest person can look pale when they put on their armor, their knees knock, and their heart races before the battle starts: but those are just motions; whereas anger is an excursion and seeks revenge or punishment, which can’t happen without the mind. As fear retreats, anger attacks; and it’s impossible to decide on either violence or caution without the agreement of the will.
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CHAPTER III.
ANGER MAY BE SUPPRESSED.
It is an idle thing to pretend that we cannot govern our anger; for some things that we do are much harder than others that we ought to do; the wildest affections may be tamed by discipline, and there is hardly anything which the mind will do but it may do. There needs no more argument in this case than the instances of several persons, both powerful and impatient, that have gotten the absolute mastery of themselves in this point.
It’s pointless to act like we can’t control our anger; some things we do are much harder than others we should do. Even the strongest emotions can be managed with discipline, and there’s almost nothing the mind can’t achieve. We don’t need more proof than the examples of several strong and impatient people who have gained complete control over themselves in this area.
Thrasippus in his drink fell foul upon the cruelties of Pisistratus; who, when he was urged by several about him to make an example of him, returned this answer, “Why should I be angry with a man that stumbles upon me blindfold?” In effect most of our quarrels are of our own making, either by mistake or by aggravation. Anger comes sometimes upon us, but we go oftener to it, and instead of rejecting it we call it.
Thrasippus, while drinking, got upset about the cruelty of Pisistratus; when several people around him suggested he should punish Thrasippus, he replied, “Why should I be mad at someone who accidentally bumps into me while blindfolded?” In reality, most of our conflicts are our own doing, either through misunderstandings or by stirring the pot. Anger sometimes comes upon us, but we often seek it out, and instead of pushing it away, we welcome it.
Augustus was a great master of his passion: for Timagenus, an historian, wrote several bitter things against his person and his family: which passed among the people plausibly enough, as pieces of rash wit commonly do. Cæsar advised him several times to forbear; and when that would not do, forbade him his roof. After this, Asinius Pollio gave315 him entertainment; and he was so well beloved in the city, that every man’s house was open to him. Those things that he had written in honor of Augustus, he recited and burnt, and publicly professed himself Cæsar’s enemy. Augustus, for all this, never fell out with any man that received him; only once, he told Pollio, that he had taken a snake into his bosom: and as Pollio was about to excuse himself; “No,” says Cæsar, interrupting him, “make your best of him.” And offering to cast him off at that very moment, if Cæsar pleased: “Do you think,” says Cæsar, “that I will ever contribute to the parting of you, that made you friends?” for Pollio was angry with him before, and only entertained him now because Cæsar had discarded him.
Augustus was really good at controlling his emotions. Timagenus, a historian, wrote several harsh things about him and his family, which people accepted as clever remarks, as often happens. Cæsar advised him multiple times to stop, and when that didn’t work, he banned him from his home. After that, Asinius Pollio took him in, and he was so well-liked in the city that everyone welcomed him. He recited and burned the things he had written in praise of Augustus, openly declaring himself Cæsar’s enemy. Despite all this, Augustus never had a falling out with anyone who hosted him; he only once told Pollio that he had taken a snake into his house. As Pollio was about to defend himself, Cæsar interrupted, saying, “No, just make the best of it.” And when he was ready to distance himself from the situation, Cæsar said, “Do you think I’m going to be the one to break up a friendship that you initiated?” because Pollio had been angry with him before and was only hosting him now because Cæsar had rejected him.
The moderation of Antigonus was remarkable. Some of his soldiers were railing at him one night, where there was but a hanging betwixt them. Antigonus overheard them, and putting it gently aside; “Soldiers,” says he, “stand a little further off, for fear the king should hear you.” And we are to consider, not only violent examples, but moderate, where there wanted neither cause of displeasure nor power of revenge: as in the case of Antigonus, who the same night hearing his soldiers cursing him for bringing them into so foul a way, he went to them, and without telling them who he was, helped them out of it. “Now,” says he, “you may be allowed to curse him that brought you into the mire, provided you bless him that took you out of it.”
Antigonus was surprisingly mild for a leader. One night, some of his soldiers were shouting insults at him, with only a thin curtain between them. Antigonus overheard and gently suggested, “Soldiers, step back a bit, so the king doesn’t hear you.” We need to consider not just extreme actions, but also moderate ones, especially when there were valid reasons for anger and the power to retaliate was present. That night, after hearing his soldiers complain about him for leading them into such a mess, he approached them without revealing his identity and helped them out. “Now,” he said, “you can curse the one who got you stuck in this mess, but be sure to thank the one who helped get you out.”
It was a notable story that of Vedius Pallio, upon his inviting of Augustus to supper. One of his boys happened to break a glass: and his master, in a rage, commanded him to be thrown in a pond to316 feed his lampreys. This action of his might be taken for luxury, though, in truth, it was cruelty. The boy was seized, but brake loose and threw himself at Augustus’ feet, only desiring that he might not die that death. Cæsar, in abhorrence of the barbarity, presently ordered all the rest of the glasses to be broken, the boy to be released, and the pond to be filled up, that there might be no further occasion for an inhumanity of that nature. This was an authority well employed. Shall the breaking of a glass cost a man his life? Nothing but a predominant fear could ever have mastered his choleric and sanguinary disposition. This man deserved to die a thousand deaths, either for eating human flesh at second-hand in his lampreys, or for keeping of his fish to be so fed.
It was a remarkable story about Vedius Pallio when he invited Augustus to dinner. One of his servants accidentally broke a glass, and his master, in a fit of rage, ordered him to be thrown into a pond to feed his lampreys. This act could be seen as luxury, but it was really cruelty. The boy was grabbed, but he broke free and threw himself at Augustus’ feet, pleading for his life. Cæsar, disgusted by the brutality, immediately ordered all the remaining glasses to be broken, the boy to be released, and the pond to be filled in, so that such inhumanity would never happen again. This was a use of power that was well justified. Should the breaking of a glass cost someone their life? Only a deep fear could have controlled his angry and bloodthirsty nature. This man deserved to die a thousand times, either for consuming human flesh indirectly through his lampreys or for keeping his fish to be fed in that way.
It is written of Præxaspes (a favorite of Cambyses, who was much given to wine) that he took the freedom to tell this prince of his hard drinking, and to lay before him the scandal and the inconveniences of his excesses; and how that, in those distempers, he had not the command of himself. “Now,” says Cambyses, “to show you your mistake, you shall see me drink deeper than ever I did, and yet keep the use of my eyes, and of my hands, as well as if I were sober.” Upon this he drank to a higher pitch than ordinary, and ordered Præxaspes’ son to go out, and stand on the other side of the threshold, with his left arm over his head; “And,” says he, “if I have a good aim, have at the heart of him.” He shot, and upon cutting up the young man, they found indeed that the arrow had struck him through the middle of the heart. “What do you think now,” says Cambyses, “is my hand steady or not?” “Apollo him317self,” says Præxaspes, “could not have outdone it.” It may be a question now, which was the greater impiety, the murder itself, or the commendation of it; for him to take the heart of his son, while it was yet reeking and panting under the wound, for an occasion of flattery: why was there not another experiment made upon the father, to try if Cambyses could not have yet mended his shot? This was a most unmanly violation of hospitality; but the approbation of the act was still worse than the crime itself. This example of Præxaspes proves sufficiently that a man may repress his anger; for he returned not one ill word, no not so much as a complaint; but he paid dear for his good counsel. He had been wiser, perhaps, if he had let the king alone in his cups, for he had better have drunk wine than blood. It is a dangerous office to give good advice to intemperate princes.
Præxaspes, a favorite of Cambyses who liked to drink a lot, felt bold enough to confront the prince about his heavy drinking. He pointed out the scandals and problems caused by Cambyses' excesses and how he lost control of himself during those times. Cambyses responded, "To prove you wrong, you’ll see me drink more than I ever have, and still have steady eyes and hands, just like I’m sober." He then drank more than usual and instructed Præxaspes’ son to step outside and stand at the door with his left arm raised. "If I aim well, I’ll hit his heart," he said. He fired an arrow, and when they examined the young man, they discovered the arrow had indeed pierced his heart. "What do you think now?" Cambyses asked, "Is my hand steady or not?" "Not even Apollo himself could have done better," Præxaspes replied. Now it's debatable which is worse: the murder itself or the approval of it; taking the heart of his son while it was still warm and beating as a means of flattery is chilling. Why wasn’t there another test on the father to see if Cambyses could improve his aim? This was a truly disgraceful violation of hospitality, but the endorsement of the act is even more horrendous than the crime. Præxaspes’ situation shows that a person can suppress their anger; he didn’t utter a single harsh word or even complain, but he paid dearly for his good advice. Perhaps he would have been smarter to leave the king alone when he was drinking, as it’s better to drink wine than blood. Giving good advice to reckless princes is a risky business.
Another instance of anger suppressed, we have in Harpagus, who was commanded to expose Cyrus upon a mountain. But the child was preserved; which, when Astyages came afterwards to understand, he invited Harpagus to a dish of meat; and when he had eaten his fill, he told him it was a piece of his son, and asked him how he liked the seasoning. “Whatever pleases your Majesty,” says Harpagus, “must please me:” and he made no more words of it. It is most certain, that we might govern our anger if we would; for the same thing that galls us at home gives us no offence at all abroad; and what is the reason of it, but that we are patient in one place, and froward in another?
Another example of suppressed anger is found in Harpagus, who was ordered to abandon Cyrus on a mountain. But the child was saved; when Astyages later learned this, he invited Harpagus to share a meal. After they had eaten, Astyages revealed that the meat was actually a piece of Harpagus's son and asked how he liked the seasoning. “Whatever makes you happy, Your Majesty,” Harpagus replied, and said no more about it. It's clear that we could control our anger if we chose to; the same things that upset us at home don’t bother us at all when we’re away. The reason for this is that we are patient in one context and difficult in another.
It was a strong provocation that which was given to Philip of Macedon, the father of Alexander. The Athenians sent their ambassadors to him, and they318 were received with this compliment, “Tell me, gentlemen,” says Philip, “what is there that I can do to oblige the Athenians?” Democharas, one of the ambassadors, told him, that they would take it for a great obligation if he would be pleased to hang himself. This insolence gave an indignation to the by-standers; but Philip bade them not to meddle with him, but even to let that foul-mouthed fellow go as he came. “And for you, the rest of the ambassadors,” says he, “pray tell the Athenians, that it is worse to speak such things than to hear and forgive them.” This wonderful patience under contumelies was a great means of Philip’s security.
It was a serious provocation that was directed at Philip of Macedon, the father of Alexander. The Athenians sent their ambassadors to him, and they318 were greeted with this remark: “Tell me, gentlemen,” Philip said, “what can I do to please the Athenians?” Democharas, one of the ambassadors, replied that they would consider it a huge favor if he would hang himself. This insolence outraged the onlookers, but Philip told them not to interfere with him and to let that foul-mouthed guy go back as he came. “And for you, the rest of the ambassadors,” he said, “please tell the Athenians that it’s worse to say such things than to hear and forgive them.” This extraordinary patience in the face of insults greatly contributed to Philip’s security.
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CHAPTER IV.
IT IS A SHORT MADNESS, AND A DEFORMED VICE.
He was much in the right, whoever it was, that first called anger a short madness; for they have both of them the same symptoms; and there is so wonderful a resemblance betwixt the transports of choler and those of frenzy, that it is a hard matter to know the one from the other. A bold, fierce, and threatening countenance, as pale as ashes, and, in the same moment, as red as blood; a glaring eye, a wrinkled brow, violent motions, the hands restless and perpetually in action, wringing and menacing, snapping of the joints, stamping with the feet, the hair starting, trembling of the lips, a forced and squeaking voice; the speech false and broken, deep and frequent sighs, and ghastly looks; the veins swell, the heart pants, the knees knock; with a hundred dismal accidents that are common to both distempers. Neither is anger a bare resemblance only of madness, but many times an irrevocable transition into the thing itself. How many persons have we known, read, and heard of, that have lost their wits in a passion, and never came to themselves again? It is therefore to be avoided, not only for moderation’s sake, but also for health. Now, if the outward appearance of anger be so foul and hideous, how deformed must that miserable mind be320 that is harassed with it? for it leaves no place either for counsel or friendship, honesty or good manners; no place either for the exercise of reason, or for the offices of life. If I were to describe it, I would draw a tiger bathed in blood, sharp set, and ready to take a leap at his prey; or dress it up as the poets represent the furies, with whips, snakes, and flames; it should be sour, livid, full of scars, and wallowing in gore, raging up and down, destroying, grinning, bellowing, and pursuing; sick of all other things, and most of all, itself. It turns beauty into deformity, and the calmest counsels into fierceness: it disorders our very garments, and fills the mind with horror. How abominable is it in the soul then, when it appears so hideous even through the bones, the skin and so many impediments! Is not he a madman that has lost the government of himself, and is tossed hither and thither by his fury as by a tempest? the executioner and the murderer of his nearest friends? The smallest matter moves it, and makes us unsociable and inaccessible. It does all things by violence, as well upon itself as others; and it is, in short; the master of all passions.
Whoever first called anger a short madness hit the nail on the head; the two share the same symptoms. The similarities between the outbursts of anger and those of madness are so striking that it's hard to tell one from the other. A bold, fierce, and threatening expression, pale as ashes one moment and red as blood the next; a glaring gaze, a furrowed brow, sudden movements, restless hands constantly fidgeting, wringing and gesturing, cracking knuckles, stomping feet, hair standing on end, trembling lips, a strained and high-pitched voice; speech is choppy and disrupted, accompanied by deep and frequent sighs, and ghastly looks; veins bulge, the heart races, knees shake; with a hundred dreadful effects common to both states. Anger isn't just a mere resemblance to madness; often it leads directly into the madness itself. How many people have we known, read about, or heard of who lost their sanity in a fit of rage and never regained it? Thus, it should be avoided, not only for the sake of moderation but also for health. If the outward look of anger is so ugly and terrifying, how deformed must the tortured mind be320 that suffers from it? It leaves no room for advice, friendship, honesty, or good manners; no space for reason or the everyday aspects of life. If I were to describe it, I'd portray a blood-soaked tiger, hungry and ready to pounce on its prey; or depict it like the poets do the furies, with whips, snakes, and flames; it would be sour, pale, scarred, and drenched in blood, raging and destroying, grinning and roaring, pursuing, sick of everything, and especially of itself. It transforms beauty into ugliness and calm discussions into rage: it messes up our clothes and fills our minds with dread. How horrific it is in the soul when it looks so grotesque even through skin and bone! Isn’t someone mad if they’ve lost control of themselves and are tossed around by their fury like a ship in a storm? They become the executioner and murderer of their closest friends. The smallest things trigger it, making us antisocial and unreachable. It acts violently towards everything, including itself; ultimately, it reigns over all passions.
There is not any creature so terrible and dangerous by nature, but it becomes fiercer by anger. Not that beasts have human affections, but certain impulses they have which come very near them. The boar foams, champs, and whets his tusks; the bull tosses his horns in the air, bounds, and tears up the ground with his feet; the lion roars and swinges himself with his tail; the serpent swells; and there is a ghastly kind of fellness in the aspect of a mad dog. How great a wickedness is it now to indulge a violence, that does not only turn a man into a beast, but makes even the most outrageous of beasts them321selves to be more dreadful and mischievous! A vice that carries along with it neither pleasure nor profit, neither honor nor security; but on the contrary, destroys us to all the comfortable and glorious purposes of our reasonable being. Some there are, that will have the root of it to be the greatness of mind. And, why may we not as well entitle impudence to courage, whereas the one is proud, the other brave; the one is gracious and gentle, the other rude and furious? At the same rate we may ascribe magnanimity to avarice, luxury, and ambition, which are all but splendid impotences, without measure and without foundation. There is nothing great but what is virtuous, nor indeed truly great, but what is also composed and quiet. Anger, alas! is but a wild impetuous blast, an empty tumor, the very infirmity of woman and children; a brawling, clamorous evil: and the more noise the less courage; as we find it commonly, that the boldest tongues have the faintest hearts.
There’s no creature that's naturally terrifying and dangerous that doesn’t become more fierce when angry. It’s not that animals have human emotions, but they do have certain instincts that are quite similar. The boar foams at the mouth, gnashes its teeth, and sharpens its tusks; the bull throws its horns in the air, leaps, and digs up the ground with its hooves; the lion roars and whips its tail; the snake swells up; and there’s a terrifying intensity in the look of a rabid dog. What a great wickedness it is to indulge in a rage that not only turns a person into a beast but also makes even the most fearsome beasts themselves even more dreadful and destructive! This vice brings with it no pleasure or benefit, no honor or safety; instead, it destroys us in all the comfortable and glorious aspects of our rational existence. Some people argue that its root is high-mindedness. But why can’t we just as easily label impudence as courage, since one is arrogant and the other is brave; one is gracious and gentle, while the other is rude and furious? Similarly, we could attribute greatness to greed, luxury, and ambition, which are all just flashy powerlessness, without measure or foundation. There’s nothing truly great that isn’t also virtuous, and nothing really great that isn’t composed and calm. Anger, alas! is just a wild, reckless outburst, a superficial swell, the very weakness of women and children; it’s a noisy, chaotic evil: and the more noise it makes, the less real courage it shows; as we often see that the loudest voices often belong to the weakest hearts.
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CHAPTER V.
ANGER IS NEITHER WARRANTABLE NOR USEFUL.
In the first place, Anger is unwarrantable as it is unjust: for it falls many times upon the wrong person, and discharges itself upon the innocent instead of the guilty: beside the disproportion of making the most trivial offences to be capital, and punishing an inconsiderate word perhaps with torments, fetters, infamy, or death. It allows a man neither time nor means for defence, but judges a cause without hearing it, and admits of no mediation. It flies into the face of truth itself, if it be of the adverse party; and turns obstinacy in an error, into an argument of justice. It does every thing with agitation and tumult; whereas reason and equity can destroy whole families, if there be occasion for it, even to the extinguishing of their names and memories, without any indecency, either of countenance or action.
First of all, anger is unjustifiable as it is unfair: it often targets the wrong person and directs itself at the innocent instead of the guilty. Furthermore, it wrongly treats minor offenses as though they are serious crimes, punishing thoughtless words with torture, imprisonment, shame, or even death. It gives a person no time or opportunity to defend themselves, judging a situation without hearing it out and allowing for no compromise. It confronts the truth directly, especially when it comes from the opposing side, turning stubbornness in an error into a claim of righteousness. It does everything in a state of chaos and uproar, while reason and fairness can dismantle entire families, if necessary, even erasing their names and memories, all without any disgraceful behavior or actions.
Secondly, It is unsociable to the highest point; for it spares neither friend nor foe; but tears all to pieces, and casts human nature into a perpetual state of war. It dissolves the bond of mutual society, insomuch that our very companions and relations dare not come near us; it renders us unfit for the ordinary offices of life: for we can neither govern our tongues, our hands, nor any part of our body.323 It tramples upon the laws of hospitality, and of nations, leaves every man to be his own carver, and all things, public and private, sacred and profane, suffer violence.
Secondly, it’s extremely unsociable; it spares neither friends nor enemies but tears everything apart and puts human nature in a constant state of conflict. It breaks the bonds of community to the point where even our closest friends and family can’t stand to be around us. It makes us unfit for the everyday tasks of life because we can’t control our words, our actions, or any part of ourselves. It disregards the rules of hospitality and international relations, forcing everyone to fend for themselves, and everything—public and private, sacred and profane—falls victim to chaos.323
Thirdly, It is to no purpose. “It is a sad thing,” we cry, “to put up with these injuries, and we are not able to bear them;” as if any man that can bear anger could not bear an injury, which is much more supportable. You will say that anger does some good yet, for it keeps people in awe, and secures a man from contempt; never considering, that it is more dangerous to be feared than despised. Suppose that an angry man could do as much as he threatens; the more terrible, he is still the more odious; and on the other side, if he wants power, he is the more despicable for his anger; for there is nothing more wretched than a choleric huff, that makes a noise, and nobody cares for it.
Thirdly, it’s pointless. “It’s a sad thing,” we say, “to endure these insults, and we can’t handle them;” as if anyone who can handle anger couldn’t handle an injury, which is much easier to deal with. You might argue that anger is useful because it keeps people on edge and protects a person from being looked down upon; never realizing that it’s more dangerous to be feared than to be despised. Assuming an angry person could actually do what they threaten; the more frightening they are, the more repulsive they become; and on the flip side, if they lack power, they become even more pathetic because of their anger; there’s nothing sadder than a hot-tempered person who throws a tantrum and nobody pays attention.
If anger would be valuable because men are afraid of it, why not an adder, a toad, or a scorpion as well? It makes us lead the life of gladiators; we live, and we fight together. We hate the happy, despise the miserable, envy our superiors, insult our inferiors, and there is nothing in the world which we will not do, either for pleasure or profit. To be angry at offenders is to make ourselves the common enemies of mankind, which is both weak and wicked; and we may as well be angry that our thistles do not bring forth apples, or that every pebble in our ground is not an oriental pearl. If we are angry both with young men and with old, because they do offend, why not with infants too, because they will offend? It is laudable to rejoice for anything that is well done; but to be transported for another man’s doing324 ill, is narrow and sordid. Nor is it for the dignity of virtue to be either angry or sad.
If anger is valuable because people are afraid of it, then why not fear an adder, a toad, or a scorpion too? It makes us live like gladiators; we exist and struggle together. We hate the happy, look down on the miserable, envy those above us, insult those below us, and there’s nothing we won’t do, for pleasure or gain. Being angry at wrongdoers makes us the common enemies of humanity, which is both weak and cruel; we might as well be angry that our thistles don’t produce apples or that every pebble in our soil isn’t a precious pearl. If we’re angry at young and old alike for their offenses, why not be angry at infants too, since they will offend? It’s commendable to be happy about anything that is done well; but getting worked up about someone else’s wrongdoing is petty and base. It’s not dignified for virtue to be either angry or sad.
It is with a tainted mind as with an ulcer, not only the touch, but the very offer at it, makes us shrink and complain; when we come once to be carried off from our poise, we are lost. In the choice of a sword, we take care that it be wieldy and well mounted; and it concerns us as much to be wary of engaging in the excesses of ungovernable passions. It is not the speed of a horse altogether that pleases us unless we find that he can stop and turn at pleasure. It is a sign of weakness, and a kind of stumbling, for a man to run when he intends only to walk; and it behoves us to have the same command of our mind that we have of our bodies. Besides that the greatest punishment of an injury is the conscience of having done it; and no man suffers more than he that is turned over to the pain of a repentance. How much better is it to compose injuries than to revenge them? For it does not only spend time, but the revenge of one injury exposes to more. In fine, as it is unreasonable to be angry at a crime, it is as foolish to be angry without one.
A tainted mind is like an ulcer; even the thought of it makes us flinch and complain. Once we lose our balance, we’re lost. When choosing a sword, we make sure it's easy to handle and well-balanced; similarly, we should be careful not to get caught up in the wildness of uncontrolled passions. It's not just the speed of a horse that matters to us; we also want to know it can stop and turn easily. It shows weakness and a lack of control for someone to run when they only mean to walk; we need to have the same control over our minds that we have over our bodies. Furthermore, the worst punishment for harming someone is the guilt of having done it; no one suffers more than the one who has to live with regret. How much better is it to heal wounds than to seek revenge? Not only does revenge waste time, but it also opens the door to more harm. In short, it's unreasonable to be angry about a crime, and just as foolish to be angry when there isn’t one.
But “may not an honest man then be allowed to be angry at the murder of his father, or the ravishing of his sister or daughter before his face?” No, not at all. I will defend my parents, and I will repay the injuries that are done them; but it is my piety and not my anger, that moves me to it. I will do my duty without fear or confusion, I will not rage, I will not weep; but discharge the office of a good man without forfeiting the dignity of a man. If my father be assaulted, I will endeavor to rescue him; if he be killed, I will do right to his memory; find all this, not in any transport of passion, but in325 honor and conscience. Neither is there any need of anger where reason does the same thing.
But "can an honest man not be angry at the murder of his father or the assault on his sister or daughter right in front of him?” No, not at all. I will protect my parents, and I will make sure those who wrong them face consequences; but it is my sense of duty and not my anger that drives me to do so. I will fulfill my responsibilities without fear or confusion; I will not rage, I will not cry; I will act as a good person without losing my dignity. If my father is attacked, I will try to save him; if he is killed, I will honor his memory; I find all this, not in any fit of anger, but in honor and conscience. There’s no need for anger when reason accomplishes the same goals.
A man may be temperate, and yet vigorous, and raise his mind according to the occasion, more or less, as a stone is thrown according to the discretion and intent of the caster. How outrageous have I seen some people for the loss of a monkey or a spaniel! And were it not a shame to have the same sense for a friend that we have for a puppy; and to cry like children, as much for a bauble as for the ruin of our country? This is not the effect of reason, but of infirmity. For a man indeed to expose his person for his prince, or his parents, or his friends, out of a sense of honesty, and judgment of duty, it is, without dispute, a worthy and a glorious action; but it must be done then with sobriety, calmness, and resolution.
A man can be moderate yet strong and can elevate his thoughts based on the situation, just like how a stone is thrown depending on the judgment and purpose of the thrower. I've seen some people get extremely upset over the loss of a monkey or a dog! Isn’t it ridiculous to have the same emotional reaction to a friend as we do to a pet? To cry like kids over a trinket as much as over the downfall of our country? That’s not rational; it’s a sign of weakness. For a person to risk himself for his ruler, his parents, or his friends, out of a sense of integrity and a sense of duty, is undoubtedly a noble and admirable act; but it should be done with self-control, composure, and determination.
It is high time to convince the world of the indignity and uselessness of this passion, when it has the authority and recommendation of no less than Aristotle himself, as an affection very much conducing to all heroic actions that require heat and vigor: now, to show, on the other side, that it is not in any case profitable, we shall lay open the obstinate and unbridled madness of it: a wickedness neither sensible of infamy nor of glory, without either modesty or fear; and if it passes once from anger into a hardened hatred, it is incurable. It is either stronger than reason, or it is weaker. If stronger, there is no contending with it; if weaker, reason will do the business without it. Some will have it that an angry man is good-natured and sincere; whereas, in truth, he only lays himself open out of heedlessness and want of caution. If it were in itself good the more of it the better; but in this case, the more the worse;326 and a wise man does his duty, without the aid of anything that is ill. It is objected by some, that those are the most generous creatures which are the most prone to anger. But, first, reason in man is impetuous in beasts. Secondly, without discipline it runs into audaciousness and temerity; over and above that, the same thing does not help all. If anger helps the lion, it is fear that saves the stag, swiftness the hawk, and flight the pigeon: but man has God for his example (who is never angry) and not the creatures. And yet it is not amiss sometimes to counterfeit anger; as upon the stage; nay, upon the bench, and in the pulpit, where the imitation of it is more effectual than the thing itself.
It’s about time we convince the world of the disgrace and futility of this passion, which has the endorsement of none other than Aristotle himself, as an emotion that greatly contributes to all heroic actions that require energy and spirit. Now, to demonstrate that it isn’t beneficial in any situation, we will expose its stubborn and uncontrolled madness: a wickedness that shows no awareness of shame or glory, lacking both restraint and fear; and once it shifts from anger to deep-seated hatred, it becomes incurable. It’s either stronger than reason or weaker. If it’s stronger, there’s no opposing it; if it’s weaker, reason will handle things just fine on its own. Some believe that an angry person is well-meaning and honest; however, in reality, they are simply acting out of carelessness and a lack of caution. If it were inherently good, then more of it would be better; but in this case, the more you have, the worse it becomes; and a wise person fulfills their duty without relying on anything harmful. Some argue that the most generous beings are those who are quick to anger. However, first, reason in humans is rash, unlike in animals. Secondly, without self-control, it leads to recklessness and folly; moreover, this principle doesn’t apply to everyone. While anger may help the lion, it’s fear that saves the stag, speed that aids the hawk, and flight that protects the pigeon: but humans have God as their model (who is never angry), not the animals. Yet, it’s sometimes useful to pretend to be angry, like on stage; indeed, even in a court or from the pulpit, where the act of it can be more effective than the real thing itself.
But it is a great error to take this passion either for a companion or for an assistant to virtue; that makes a man incapable of those necessary counsels by which virtue is to govern herself. Those are false and inauspicious powers, and destructive of themselves, which arise only from the accession and fervor of disease. Reason judges according to right; anger will have every thing seem right, whatever it does, and when it has once pitched upon a mistake, it is never to be convinced, but prefers a pertinacity, even in the greatest evil, before the most necessary repentance.
But it's a huge mistake to see this passion as either a companion or a helper to virtue; it makes a person incapable of the necessary advice that allows virtue to guide itself. Those are false and harmful forces, ultimately self-destructive, that come solely from the intensity and heat of illness. Reason evaluates according to what is just; anger makes everything appear right, no matter what it does, and once it settles on an error, it's impossible to change its mind, preferring stubbornness, even in the face of serious wrongs, over the important act of repentance.
Some people are of opinion that anger inflames and animates the soldier; that it is a spur to bold and arduous undertakings; and that it were better to moderate than to wholly suppress it, for fear of dissolving the spirit and force of the mind. To this I answer, that virtue does not need the help of vice; but where there is any ardor of mind necessary, we may rouse ourselves, and be more or less brisk and vigorous as there is occasion: but all without anger327 still. It is a mistake to say, that we may make use of anger as a common soldier, but not as a commander; for if it hears reason, and follows orders, it is not properly anger; and if it does not, it is contumacious and mutinous. By this argument a man must be angry to be valiant; covetous to be industrious; timorous to be safe, which makes our reason confederate with our affections. And it is all one whether passion be inconsiderate without reason, or reason ineffectual without passion; since the one cannot be without the other. It is true, the less the passion, the less is the mischief; for a little passion is the smaller evil. Nay, so far is it from being of use or advantage in the field, that it is in place of all others where it is the most dangerous; for the actions of war are to be managed with order and caution, not precipitation and fancy; whereas anger is heedless and heady, and the virtue only of barbarous nations; which, though their bodies were much stronger and more hardened, were still worsted by the moderation and discipline of the Romans. There is not upon the face of the earth a bolder or a more indefatigable nation than the Germans; not a braver upon a charge, nor a hardier against colds and heats; their only delights and exercise is in arms, to the utter neglect of all things else: and, yet upon the encounter, they are broken and destroyed through their own undisciplined temerity, even by the most effeminate of men. The huntsman is not angry with the wild boar when he either pursues or receives him; a good swordsman watches his opportunity, and keeps himself upon his guard, whereas passion lays a man open: nay, it is one of the prime lessons in a fencing-school to learn not to be angry. If Fabius had been choleric, Rome had been lost;328 and before he conquered Hannibal he overcame himself. If Scipio had been angry, he would never have left Hannibal and his army (who were the proper objects of his displeasure) to carry the war into Afric and so compass his end by a more temperate way. Nay, he was so slow, that it was charged upon him for want of mettle and resolution. And what did the other Scipio? (Africanus I mean:) how much time did he spend before Numantia, to the common grief both of his country and himself? Though he reduced it at last by so miserable a famine, that the inhabitants laid violent hands upon themselves, and left neither man, woman, nor child, to survive the ruins of it. If anger makes a man fight better, so does wine, frenzy, nay, and fear itself; for the greatest coward in despair does the greatest wonders. No man is courageous in his anger that was not so without it. But put the case, that anger by accident may have done some good, and so have fevers removed some distempers; but it is an odious kind of remedy that makes us indebted to a disease for a cure. How many men have been preserved by poison; by a fall from a precipice; by a shipwreck; by a tempest! does it therefore follow that we are to recommend the practice of these experiments?
Some people believe that anger ignites and energizes a soldier; that it's a motivator for bold and challenging tasks; and that it's better to control it than to completely suppress it, fearing it might weaken one’s spirit and mind. To this, I say that virtue doesn’t need vice’s assistance; where some mental drive is needed, we can rally ourselves and be either more active or more vigorous as needed—without anger, though. It’s a misunderstanding to claim we can use anger as a soldier but not as a leader; if it listens to reason and follows orders, it’s not true anger; and if it doesn’t, it’s just rebellious and defiant. By this logic, a man must be angry to be brave; greedy to be hardworking; fearful to be safe, which makes our reason aligned with our feelings. It’s the same whether passion is irrational without reason or reason ineffective without passion, as neither can exist without the other. It's true that less passion means less harm; a bit of passion is the lesser evil. In fact, it does more harm than good in battle since military actions should be carried out with order and caution, not rashness and whims; while anger is reckless and impulsive, serving only the interests of barbaric nations, which, despite their physical strength and toughness, were still defeated by the moderation and discipline of the Romans. There isn’t a more fearless or tireless group than the Germans; none charge more bravely nor withstand cold and heat better; their only interests and activities revolve around warfare, neglecting everything else. Yet, in battle, they are often overwhelmed and defeated by their own untrained recklessness, even by the weakest of men. The hunter isn’t angry with the wild boar when he pursues or confronts it; a skilled swordsman seizes his opportunity and stays alert, while passion exposes a person to danger. In fact, one of the key lessons in a fencing class is to learn not to get angry. If Fabius had been hot-tempered, Rome would have been lost; before he defeated Hannibal, he conquered his own emotions. If Scipio had been furious, he would never have left Hannibal and his troops (the rightful targets of his anger) to invade Africa and achieve his goal through a more measured approach. He was so deliberate that he was criticized for lacking energy and resolve. What about the other Scipio? (I mean Africanus): how long did he take before Numantia, to the shared grief of his country and himself? Although he ultimately took it through such a terrible famine that the inhabitants resorted to suicide, leaving no one to survive its ruins. If anger makes a person fight better, so does wine, madness, and even fear itself; the most cowardly person often performs the greatest feats in desperation. No one is brave in their anger who wouldn’t be brave otherwise. But even if anger may have occasionally yielded some positive results, like fevers alleviating certain conditions, it’s a terrible form of treatment that makes us rely on an illness for a cure. How many people have been saved by poison, by falling off a cliff, by shipwrecks, or by storms! Does that mean we should endorse such actions?
“But in case of an exemplary and prostitute dissolution of manners, when Clodius shall be preferred, and Cicero rejected; when loyalty shall be broken upon the wheel, and treason sit triumphant upon the bench; is not this a subject to move the choler of any virtuous man?” No, by no means, virtue will never allow of the correcting of one vice by another; or that anger, which is the greater crime of the two, should presume to punish the less.329 It is the natural property of virtue to make a man serene and cheerful; and it is not for the dignity of a philosopher to be transported either with grief or anger; and then the end of anger is sorrow, the constant effect of disappointment and repentance. But, to my purpose. If a man should be angry at wickedness, the greater the wickedness is, the greater must be his anger; and, so long as there is wickedness in the world he must never be pleased: which makes his quiet dependent upon the humor or manners of others.
"But in the event of a complete breakdown of morals, where Clodius is favored and Cicero is rejected; when loyalty is crushed and treason celebrates its victory; isn't this something that would anger any decent person?" No, absolutely not. Virtue will never justify correcting one vice with another, nor should the greater wrongdoing assume the right to punish the lesser. It is the inherent quality of virtue to keep a person calm and happy, and it’s beneath a philosopher’s dignity to be overwhelmed by grief or anger. Ultimately, anger leads to sorrow, which is a continuous result of disappointment and regret. But back to my point. If someone gets angry about evil, the worse the evil is, the more intense his anger must be; and as long as evil exists in the world, he will never find satisfaction: which makes his peace reliant on the behavior or morals of others.329
There passes not a day over our heads but he that is choleric shall have some cause or other of displeasure, either from men, accidents, or business. He shall never stir out of his house but he shall meet with criminals of all sorts; prodigal, impudent, covetous, perfidious, contentious, children persecuting their parents, parents cursing their children, the innocent accused, the delinquent acquitted, and the judge practicing that in his chamber which he condemns upon the bench. In fine, wherever there are men there are faults; and upon these terms, Socrates himself should never bring the same countenance home again that he carried out with him.
Every day, someone who’s easily angered will find something to be upset about, whether it's people, unexpected events, or work. Whenever they leave their house, they’ll encounter all kinds of wrongdoers: wasteful, bold, greedy, deceitful, argumentative people; children who mistreat their parents; parents who curse their children; the innocent who are falsely accused, the guilty who get away with it, and judges who do in private what they condemn in public. In short, wherever there are people, there are flaws; if that's the case, even Socrates wouldn’t come home with the same expression he left with.
If anger was sufferable in any case, it might be allowed against an incorrigible criminal under the hand of justice: but punishment is not matter of anger but of caution. The law is without passion, and strikes malefactors as we do serpents and venomous creatures, for fear of greater mischief. It is not for the dignity of a judge, when he comes to pronounce the fatal sentence, to express any motions of anger in his looks, words, or gestures: for he condemns the vice, not the man; and looks upon the wickedness without anger, as he does upon the330 prosperity of wicked men without envy. But though he be not angry, I would have him a little moved in point of humanity; but yet without any offence, either to his place or wisdom. Our passions vary, but reason is equal; and it were a great folly for that which is stable, faithful, and sound, to repair for succor to that which is uncertain, false, and distempered. If the offender be incurable, take him out of the world, that if he will not be good he may cease to be evil; but this must be without anger too. Does any man hate an arm, or a leg, when he cuts it off; or reckon that a passion which is only a miserable cure? We knock mad dogs on the head, and remove scabbed sheep out of the fold: and this is not anger still, but reason, to separate the sick from the sound. Justice cannot be angry; nor is there any need of an angry magistrate for the punishment of foolish and wicked men. The power of life and death must not be managed with passion. We give a horse the spur that is restive or jadish, and tries to cast his rider; but this is without anger too, and only to take down his stomach, and bring him, by correction, to obedience.
If anger is justifiable at all, it might be acceptable against a repeat offender facing justice: but punishment isn't about anger; it's about caution. The law is devoid of passion and treats wrongdoers like we treat snakes and other dangerous creatures, out of concern for greater harm. It’s beneath a judge's dignity, when delivering a final sentence, to show any signs of anger in his looks, words, or gestures; he condemns the wrongdoing, not the person, and views wickedness without anger, just as he observes the success of wicked individuals without envy. However, even if he isn't angry, I would like him to feel some compassion, but without compromising his role or wisdom. Our emotions fluctuate, but reason remains constant; it would be foolish for something steady, trustworthy, and sound to seek help from something unstable, deceptive, and irrational. If the offender is beyond redemption, remove him from the world, so if he won’t be good, he can at least stop being evil—and this too should be without anger. Does anyone hate an arm or a leg when they amputate it? Or consider it an emotion when it’s just a desperate remedy? We put down rabid dogs and cull sick sheep from the herd, and this isn’t anger, but reason, to separate the unhealthy from the healthy. Justice can't be angry; there’s no need for an enraged official to punish foolish and wicked people. The authority over life and death shouldn’t be wielded with passion. We spur a stubborn or unruly horse that tries to throw its rider—but again, this is done without anger, solely to correct its behavior and bring it, through discipline, to obedience.
It is true, that correction is necessary, yet within reason and bounds; for it does not hurt, but profits us under an appearance of harm. Ill dispositions in the mind are to be dealt with as those in the body: the physician first tries purging and abstinence; if this will not do, he proceeds to bleeding, nay, to dismembering rather than fail; for there is no operation too severe that ends in health. The public magistrate begins with persuasion, and his business is to beget a detestation for vice, and a veneration for virtue; from thence, if need be, he advances to admonition and reproach, and then to punishments; but mod331erate and revocable, unless the wickedness be incurable, and then the punishment must be so too. There is only this difference, the physician when he cannot save his patient’s life, endeavors to make his death easy; but the magistrate aggravates the death of the criminal with infamy and disgrace; not as delighting in the severity of it, (for no good man can be so barbarous) but for example, and to the end that they that will do no good living may do some dead. The end of all correction is either the amendment of wicked men, or to prevent the influence of ill example: for men are punished with a respect to the future; not to expiate offenses committed, but for fear of worse to come. Public offenders must be a terror to others; but still, all this while, the power of life and death must not be managed with passion. The medicine, in the mean time must be suited to the disease; infamy cures one, pain another, exile cures a third, beggary a fourth; but there are some that are only to be cured by the gibbet. I would be no more angry with a thief, or a traitor, than I am angry with myself when I open a vein. All punishment is but a moral or civil remedy. I do not do anything that is very ill, but yet I transgress often. Try me first with a private reprehension, and then with a public; if that will not serve, see what banishment will do; if not that neither, load me with chains, lay me in prison: but if I should prove wicked for wickedness’ sake, and leave no hope of reclaiming me, it would be a kind of mercy to destroy me. Vice is incorporated with me; and there is no remedy but the taking of both away together; but still without anger.
It’s true that correction is necessary, but it should be reasonable and within limits; it doesn’t harm us, but benefits us even if it seems otherwise. Bad attitudes in the mind should be treated like those in the body: the doctor first tries cleansing and dieting; if that doesn’t work, he resorts to bleeding or even amputating rather than give up, because there’s no procedure too extreme that leads to health. The public official starts with persuasion, aiming to create a dislike for vice and a respect for virtue; if necessary, he moves on to warnings and reproach, and then to punishments; but these should be moderate and reversible, unless the wickedness is beyond cure, in which case the punishment must be too. There’s only this difference: when a doctor can’t save a patient’s life, he tries to make the death as painless as possible; but the official intensifies the criminal’s death with shame and disgrace, not out of a desire for harshness (since no good person would be that cruel) but as a warning, so that those who do no good while alive might do some good once they’re dead. The goal of all correction is either to reform bad people or to prevent the spread of bad examples: people are punished with an eye on the future, not to atone for past offenses, but to deter worse actions from happening. Public wrongdoers must serve as a warning to others; however, during all this, the power of life and death should not be exercised with passion. The remedy must fit the ailment; shame works for one, pain for another, banishment for a third, and poverty for a fourth; but some can only be cured by the gallows. I wouldn’t be angrier with a thief or a traitor than I am with myself when I draw blood. All punishment is just a moral or civil remedy. I don’t do anything exceptionally bad, but I still make mistakes often. Try reprimanding me privately first, then publicly; if that fails, see if banishment helps; if not, put me in chains and jail. But if I turn out to be wicked just for the sake of being wicked, and there’s no hope of reforming me, it might be considered merciful to end my life. Vice is part of me, and the only solution is to remove both together; but always without anger.
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ANGER IN GENERAL, WITH THE DANGER AND EFFECTS OF IT.
There is no surer argument of a great mind than not to be transported to anger by any accident; the clouds and the tempests are formed below, but all above is quiet and serene; which is the emblem of a brave man, that suppresses all provocations, and lives within himself, modest, venerable, and composed: whereas anger is a turbulent humor, which, at first dash, casts off all shame, without any regard to order, measure, or good manners; transporting a man into misbecoming violences with his tongue, his hands, and every part of his body. And whoever considers the foulness and the brutality of this vice, must acknowledge that there is no such monster in Nature as one man raging against another, and laboring to sink that which can never be drowned but with himself for company. It renders us incapable either of discourse or of other common duties. It is of all passions the most powerful; for it makes a man that is in love to kill his mistress, the ambitious man to trample upon his honors, and the covetous to throw away his fortune.
There’s no clearer sign of a great mind than staying calm and not getting angry over any little thing. The storms and chaos are down below, but up above, everything is peaceful and calm; this represents a brave person who controls their reactions and remains humble, respected, and composed. On the other hand, anger is a wild emotion that, at the first trigger, strips away all shame, ignoring order, balance, or good behavior; it can push a person into inappropriate violence with their words, hands, and whole body. Anyone who thinks about how ugly and brutal this vice is must recognize that there’s no creature in nature as terrible as one person violently attacking another, trying to destroy something that can only be drowned along with themselves. Anger makes us unable to communicate or fulfill our everyday responsibilities. It is the strongest of all emotions; it can drive a man in love to harm his partner, an ambitious person to ruin his own reputation, and the greedy to squander their wealth.
There is not any mortal that lives free from the danger of it; for it makes even the heavy and the good-natured to be fierce and outrageous: it invades us like a pestilence, the lusty as well as the weak; and it is not either strength of body, or a good diet,333 that can secure us against it; nay, the most learned, and men otherwise of exemplary sobriety, are infected with it. It is so potent a passion that Socrates durst not trust himself with it. “Sirrah,” says he to his man, “now would I beat you, if I were not angry with you!” There is no age or sect of men that escapes it. Other vices take us one by one; but this, like an epidemical contagion, sweeps all: men, women, and children, princes and beggars, are carried away with it in shoals and troops as one man.
Everyone faces the risk of it; it can turn even the most gentle and kind-hearted into fierce and outrageous individuals: it attacks us like a plague, affecting both the strong and the weak; and neither physical strength nor a healthy diet333 can protect us from it. In fact, even the most knowledgeable and otherwise temperate individuals fall victim to it. It is such a powerful emotion that Socrates didn’t dare to let himself succumb to it. “Hey,” he says to his servant, “I would beat you now if I weren’t angry with you!” No age or group of people is immune to it. Other vices may come at us one by one, but this one, like an epidemical contagion, spreads rapidly: men, women, and children, whether princes or beggars, are swept away by it in droves, as if they were all the same person.
It was never seen that a whole nation was in love with one woman, or unanimously bent upon one vice: but here and there some particular men are tainted with some particular crimes; whereas in anger, a single word many times inflames the whole multitude, and men betake themselves presently to fire and sword upon it; the rabble take upon them to give laws to their governors; the common soldiers to their officers, to the ruin, not only of private families, but of kingdoms: turning their arms against their own leaders, and choosing their own generals. There is no public council, no putting things to the vote; but in a rage the mutineers divide from the senate, name their head, force the nobility in their own houses, and put them to death with their own hands. The laws of nations are violated, the persons of public ministers affronted, whole cities infected with a general madness, and no respite allowed for the abatement or discussing of this public tumor. The ships are crowded with tumultuary soldiers; and in this rude and ill-boding manner they march, and act under the conduct only of their own passions. Whatever comes next serves them for arms, until at last they pay for their licentious rash334ness with the slaughter of the whole party: this is the event of a heady and inconsiderate war.
It has never been seen that an entire nation was in love with one woman or collectively focused on one bad habit. Instead, here and there, some individuals are tainted by specific crimes. In moments of anger, a single word can spark a fire in the crowd, leading people to take up weapons immediately. The mob assumes the role of giving orders to their leaders, and soldiers dictate terms to their officers, bringing ruin not only to individual families but to entire kingdoms. They turn their weapons against their own leaders and choose their own generals. There is no public council or voting; in their rage, the mutineers break away from the senate, choose a leader, force the nobility in their own homes, and kill them with their own hands. The laws of nations are broken, public officials are insulted, entire cities are gripped by a widespread madness, and no time is allowed for the resolution or discussion of this public unrest. Ships are filled with riotous soldiers, and they march and act recklessly, driven only by their own emotions. Whatever they find next becomes their weapon, until eventually, they pay for their reckless actions with the destruction of their entire group. This is the outcome of a reckless and thoughtless war.
When men’s minds are struck with the opinion of an injury, they fall on immediately wheresoever their passion leads them, without either order, fear, or caution: provoking their own mischief; never at rest till they come to blows; and pursuing their revenge, even with their bodies, upon the points of their enemies’ weapons. So that the anger itself is much more hurtful for us than the injury that provokes it; for the one is bounded, but where the other will stop, no man living knows. There are no greater slaves certainly, than those that serve anger; for they improve their misfortunes by an impatience more insupportable than the calamity that causes it.
When men are consumed by the thought of an injury, they immediately act on their emotions, without any sense of order, fear, or caution: creating their own problems; never at peace until they resort to fighting; and pursuing their revenge, even to the point of harming themselves, on the edges of their enemies’ weapons. So the anger itself is far more damaging to us than the injury that triggered it; because the injury has limits, but anger can escalate without anyone knowing when it will end. There are no greater slaves than those who are ruled by anger; they make their troubles worse with an impatience that is more unbearable than the misfortune that caused it.
Nor does it rise by degrees, as other passions, but flashes like gunpowder, blowing up all in a moment. Neither does it only press to the mark, but overbears everything in the way to it. Other vices drive us, but this hurries us headlong; other passions stand firm themselves, though perhaps we cannot resist them; but this consumes and destroys itself: it falls like thunder or a tempest, with an irrevocable violence, that gathers strength in the passage, and then evaporates in the conclusion. Other vices are unreasonable, but this is unhealthful too; other distempers have their intervals and degrees, but in this we are thrown down as from a precipice: there is not anything so amazing to others, or so destructive to itself; so proud and insolent if it succeeds, or so extravagant if it be disappointed. No repulse discourages it, and, for want of other matter to work upon, it falls foul upon itself; and, let the ground be never so trivial, it is sufficient for the335 wildest outrage imaginable. It spares neither age, sex, nor quality.
It doesn't build up like other emotions; it explodes like gunpowder, destroying everything in an instant. It not only aims for its target but also crushes everything in its path. Other vices push us, but this one rushes us recklessly; other passions might be strong enough that we can't resist them, but this one consumes and destroys itself. It hits like thunder or a storm, with an unstoppable force that gains power along the way and then fades at the end. Other vices are irrational, but this one is also harmful; other ailments come and go in waves, but with this one, we feel like we're falling off a cliff. There's nothing as shocking to others or as harmful to itself; it's either incredibly proud and arrogant when it succeeds or wildly out of control when it fails. No setback discourages it, and if it runs out of other targets, it turns on itself; no matter how trivial the situation, it's enough to trigger the most extreme reactions. It doesn't discriminate against age, gender, or status.
Some people would be luxurious perchance, but that they are poor; and others lazy, if they were not perpetually kept at work. The simplicity of a country life, keeps many men in ignorance of the frauds and impieties of courts and camps: but no nation or condition of men is exempt from the impressions of anger; and it is equally dangerous, as well in war as in peace. We find that elephants will be made familiar; bulls will suffer children to ride upon their backs, and play with their horns; bears and lions, by good usage, will be brought to fawn upon their masters; how desperate a madness is it then for men, after the reclaiming of the fiercest of beasts, and the bringing of them to be tractable and domestic, to become yet worse than beasts one to another! Alexander had two friends, Clytus and Lysimachus; the one he exposed to a lion, the other to himself; and he that was turned loose to the beast escaped. Why do we not rather make the best of a short life, and render ourselves amiable to all while we live, and desirable when we die?
Some people might live luxuriously if they weren't poor, and others would be lazy if they weren't constantly pushed to work. The simplicity of country life keeps many people unaware of the deceit and immorality found in courts and military camps. However, no nation or group of people is immune to feelings of anger; it's just as dangerous in war as it is in peace. We see that elephants can become friendly, bulls let children ride on their backs and play with their horns, and bears and lions can be trained to be affectionate toward their owners. So, how crazy is it that, after taming the fiercest animals and making them friendly, humans still behave worse than beasts toward each other? Alexander had two friends, Clytus and Lysimachus; he put one in front of a lion and the other in front of himself, and the one set free by the beast survived. Why don’t we make the most of our short lives, being likable to everyone while we’re alive and remembered fondly after we die?
Let us bethink ourselves of our mortality, and not squander away the little time that we have upon animosities and feuds, as if it were never to be at an end. Had we not better enjoy the pleasure of our own life than to be still contriving how to gall and torment another’s? in all our brawlings and contentions never so much as dreaming of our weakness. Do we not know that these implacable enmities of ours lie at the mercy of a fever, or any petty accident, to disappoint? Our fate is at hand, and the very hour that we have set for another man’s death may peradventure be prevented336 by our own. What is it that we make all this bustle for, and so needlessly disquiet our minds? We are offended with our servants, our masters, our princes, our clients: it is but a little patience, and we shall be all of us equal; so that there is no need either of ambushes or of combats. Our wrath cannot go beyond death; and death will most undoubtedly come whether we be peevish or quiet. It is time lost to take pains to do that which will infallibly be done without us. But suppose that we would only have our enemy banished, disgraced, or damaged, let his punishment be more or less, it is yet too long, either for him to be inhumanly tormented, or for us ourselves to be most barbarously pleased with it. It holds in anger as in mourning, it must and it will at last fall of itself; let us look to it then betimes, for when it is once come to an ill habit, we shall never want matter to feed it; and it is much better to overcome our passions than to be overcome by them. Some way or other, either our parents, children, servants, acquaintance, or strangers, will be continually vexing us. We are tossed hither and thither by our affections, like a feather in a storm, and by fresh provocations the madness becomes perpetual. Miserable creatures! that ever our precious hours should be so ill employed! How prone and eager are we in our hatred, and how backward in our love! Were it not much better now to be making of friendships, pacifying of enemies, doing of good offices both public and private, than to be still meditating of mischief, and designing how to wound one man in his fame, another in his fortune, a third in his person? the one being so easy, innocent, and safe, and the other so difficult, impious, and hazardous. Nay, take a337 man in chains, and at the foot of his oppressor; how many are there, who, even in this case, have maimed themselves in the heat of their violence upon others.
Let's remember our mortality and not waste the little time we have on grudges and fights, as if they would never end. Isn't it better to enjoy our own lives than to keep plotting ways to hurt others? In all our arguments and conflicts, we rarely realize our own weaknesses. Don't we know that these unyielding hatreds we hold are vulnerable to a fever or some minor accident that could interrupt them? Our fate is near, and the very hour we've set for someone else's death might possibly be interrupted by our own. What are we making all this noise for, and why do we agitate our minds unnecessarily? We get offended by our servants, our bosses, our leaders, and our clients: if we just had a little patience, we’d all be equal, so there's no need for ambushes or fights. Our anger can't go beyond death, and death will undoubtedly come whether we're grumpy or calm. It's a waste of time trying to do something that will happen on its own. But even if we just want our enemy to be banished, shamed, or hurt—whether their punishment is severe or mild—it still takes too long, both for them to be cruelly tormented and for us to find joy in that cruelty. Anger, like mourning, will eventually resolve on its own; let's address it early, because once it turns into a bad habit, we will always find reasons to feed it. It's far better to conquer our emotions than to let them conquer us. One way or another, either our parents, children, servants, friends, or strangers will constantly irritate us. We are tossed around by our feelings, like a feather in a storm, and with continuous provocations, our madness becomes endless. It’s pitiful how our precious hours are wasted! How eager we are in our hatred, yet how hesitant we are in our love! Wouldn't it be much better to make friendships, resolve conflicts, and do good deeds—both public and private—than to be constantly plotting revenge and figuring out how to hurt someone’s reputation, another’s fortune, or a third person’s well-being? One option is so easy, innocent, and safe, while the other is so difficult, wicked, and risky. Moreover, consider a person in chains, at the feet of their oppressor; how many even in this situation have harmed themselves out of anger towards others?
This untractable passion is much more easily kept out than governed when it is once admitted; for the stronger will give laws to the weaker; and make reason a slave to the appetite. It carries us headlong; and in the course of our fury, we have no more command of our minds, than we have of our bodies down a precipice: when they are once in motion, there is no stop until they come to the bottom. Not but that it is possible for a man to be warm in winter, and not to sweat in the summer, either by the benefit of the place, or the hardiness of the body: and in like manner we may provide against anger. But certain it is, that virtue and vice can never agree in the same subject; and one may as well be a sick man and a sound at the same time, as a good man, and an angry. Besides, if we will needs be quarrelsome, it must be either with our superior, our equal, or inferior. To contend with our superior is folly and madness: with our equals, it is doubtful and dangerous: and with our inferiors, it is base. For does any man know but that he that is now our enemy may come hereafter to be our friend, over and above the reputation of clemency and good nature? And what can be more honorable or comfortable, than to exchange a feud for a friendship? The people of Rome never had more faithful allies than those that were at first the most obstinate enemies; neither had the Roman Empire ever arrived at that height of power, if Providence had not mingled the vanquished with the conquerors.
This uncontrollable passion is much easier to push away than to manage once it takes hold; the stronger emotions will dominate the weaker ones, making reason a servant to desire. It propels us recklessly forward; in our moments of rage, we have no more control over our minds than we do over our bodies tumbling down a cliff: once they’re in motion, there’s no stopping until we hit the ground. However, it is possible for someone to feel warm in winter and not sweat in summer, either due to their surroundings or their physical resilience; similarly, we can take steps to guard against anger. But it’s clear that virtue and vice cannot coexist within the same person; just as one cannot be both sick and healthy at the same time, one cannot be both good and angry. Moreover, if we choose to be confrontational, it must be with someone who is our superior, equal, or inferior. Arguing with someone superior is foolish and reckless; with equals, it’s uncertain and risky; and with inferiors, it’s shameful. For how can anyone know if the person who is now our enemy might become our friend later, along with gaining a reputation for kindness and goodwill? And what could be more honorable or fulfilling than turning hostility into friendship? The people of Rome never had more loyal allies than those who were initially the most stubborn foes; nor would the Roman Empire have reached such great heights of power if Providence hadn’t blended the conquered with the conquerors.
There is an end of the contest when one side de338serts it; so that the paying of anger with benefits puts a period to the controversy. But, however, if it be our fortune to transgress, let not our anger descend to the children, friends or relations, even of our bitterest enemies. The very cruelty of Sylla was heightened by that instance of incapacitating the issue of the proscribed. It is inhuman to entail the hatred we have for the father upon his posterity.
There comes a point in a conflict when one side backs down; this means that responding to anger with kindness can resolve the dispute. However, if we happen to overstep, we should not let our anger affect the children, friends, or relatives of our worst enemies. The cruelty of Sulla was made worse by targeting the offspring of those he condemned. It’s inhumane to pass down the hatred we feel for a parent onto their children.
A good and a wise man is not to be an enemy of wicked men, but a reprover of them; and he is to look upon all the drunkards, the lustful, the thankless, covetous, and ambitious, that he meets with, not otherwise than as a physician looks upon his patients; for he that will be angry with any man must be displeased with all; which were as ridiculous as to quarrel with a body for stumbling in the dark; with one that is deaf, for not doing as you bid him; or with a school-boy for loving his play better than his book. Democritus laughed, and Heraclitus wept, at the folly and wickedness of the world, but we never read of any angry philosopher.
A good and wise person shouldn’t be an enemy of bad people, but rather a reprover of them. They should view all the drunkards, lustful individuals, ungrateful people, greedy and ambitious folks they encounter just like a doctor looks at their patients. If someone gets angry with anyone, they’ll end up being upset with everyone; which would be as silly as arguing with someone for tripping in the dark, being upset with a deaf person for not following instructions, or blaming a schoolboy for preferring to play instead of study. Democritus laughed, and Heraclitus wept at the foolishness and wickedness of the world, but we never hear of any angry philosopher.
This is undoubtedly the most detestable of vices, even compared with the worst of them. Avarice scrapes and gathers together that which somebody may be the better for: but anger lashes out, and no man comes off gratis. An angry master makes one servant run away, and another hang himself; and his choler causes him a much greater loss than he suffered in the occasion of it. It is the cause of mourning to the father, and of divorce to the husband: it makes the magistrate odious, and gives the candidate a repulse. And it is worse than luxury too, which only aims at its proper pleasure; whereas the other is bent upon another body’s pain.
This is definitely the most disgusting of vices, even when compared to the worst ones. Greed hoards what might benefit someone else, but anger attacks, and no one walks away unscathed. An angry boss drives one employee to quit and another to take their own life; their rage costs them much more than whatever triggered it. It brings sorrow to a father and leads to divorce for a husband; it makes officials hated and causes candidates to fail. It’s even worse than luxury, which only seeks personal pleasure, while anger is focused on causing pain to others.
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The malevolent and the envious content themselves only to wish another man miserable; but it is the business of anger to make him so, and to wreck the mischief itself; not so much desiring the hurt of another, as to inflict it. Among the powerful, it breaks out into open war, and into a private one with the common people, but without force or arms. It engages us in treacheries, perpetual troubles and contentions: it alters the very nature of a man, and punishes itself in the persecution of others. Humanity excites us to love, this to hatred; that to be beneficial to others, this to hurt them: beside, that, though it proceeds from too high a conceit of ourselves, it is yet, in effect, but a narrow and contemptible affection; especially when it meets with a mind that is hard and impenetrable, and returns the dart upon the head of him that casts it.
The malicious and envious only find satisfaction in wishing for someone else's misery; however, anger is about making someone else miserable and causing chaos itself—not just wanting to harm others, but actually doing it. Among the powerful, it turns into open warfare and creates conflict with ordinary people, but without any force or weapons. It drags us into betrayals, constant problems, and disagreements: it changes a person's very nature and punishes itself through the harm it does to others. Humanity inspires us to love, while anger drives us to hatred; it motivates us to help others, but it also leads us to hurt them. Moreover, even though it often stems from an inflated sense of self-importance, in reality, it's just a petty and contemptible emotion; especially when it confronts a strong and unyielding mind, it ends up harming the one who unleashed it.
To take a farther view, now, of the miserable consequences and sanguinary effects of this hideous distemper; from hence come slaughters and poisons, wars, and desolations, the razing and burning of cities; the unpeopling of nations, and the turning of populous countries into deserts, public massacres and regicides; princes led in triumph; some murdered in their bed-chambers; others stabbed in the senate or cut off in the security of their spectacles and pleasures. Some there are that take anger for a princely quality; as Darius, who, in his expedition against the Scythians, being besought by a nobleman, that had three sons, that he would vouchsafe to accept of two of them into his service, and leave the third at home for a comfort to his father. “I will do more for you than that,” says Darius, “for you shall have them all three again;” so he ordered340 them to be slain before his face, and left him their bodies. But Xerxes dealt a little better with Pythius, who had five sons, and desired only one of them for himself. Xerxes bade him take his choice, and he named the eldest, whom he immediately commanded to be cut in halves; and one half of the body to be laid on each side of the way when his army was to pass betwixt them; undoubtedly a most auspicious sacrifice; but he came afterward to the end that he deserved; for he lived to see that prodigious power scattered and broken: and instead of military and victorious troops, to be encompassed with carcasses. But these, you will say, were only barbarous princes that knew neither civility nor letters; and these savage cruelties will be imputed perchance to their rudeness of manners, and want of discipline. But what will you say then of Alexander the Great, that was trained up under the institution of Aristotle himself, and killed Clytus, his favorite and schoolfellow, with his own hand, under his own roof, and over the freedom of a cup of wine? And what was his crime? He was loth to degenerate from a Macedonian liberty into a Persian slavery; that is to say, he could not flatter.
To look further into the terrible results and bloody consequences of this horrible disease: from this come slaughters and poisons, wars, and devastation, the destruction and burning of cities; the depopulation of nations, and the transformation of thriving countries into wastelands, public massacres and assassinations of rulers; princes led in triumph; some killed in their bedrooms; others stabbed in the senate or taken down while enjoying their spectacles and leisure. Some believe that anger is a noble trait; like Darius, who, during his campaign against the Scythians, was asked by a nobleman, who had three sons, to accept two of them into his service and leave the third at home for his father's comfort. “I’ll do better than that,” Darius replied, “for you will have all three back,” and then he ordered them to be killed right in front of him, leaving him with their bodies. But Xerxes treated Pythius a bit better, who had five sons and only requested one for himself. Xerxes told him to choose, and he picked the eldest, whom Xerxes then ordered to be cut in half; one half of the body was placed on each side of the road for his army to pass between them; undoubtedly a most auspicious sacrifice. However, he ultimately faced the fate he deserved, as he lived to witness that tremendous power shattered and broken; instead of military and victorious troops, he was surrounded by corpses. But you might argue that these were merely barbaric princes who knew nothing of civilization or culture, and such savage cruelty could be attributed to their lack of manners and discipline. But what do you say about Alexander the Great, who was educated by Aristotle himself and killed Clytus, his friend and schoolmate, with his own hand, under his own roof, over the liberty of a cup of wine? And what was Clytus's crime? He was reluctant to descend from Macedonian liberty into Persian slavery; in other words, he couldn’t flatter.
Lysimachus, another of his friends, he exposed to a lion; and this very Lysimachus, after he had escaped this danger, was never the more merciful when he came to reign himself; for he cut off the ears and nose of his friend Telesphorous; and when he had so disfigured him that he had no longer the face of a man, he threw him into a dungeon, and there kept him to be showed for a monster, as a strange sight. The place was so low that he was fain to creep upon all fours, and his sides were galled too with the straitness of it. In this misery he lay341 half-famished in his own filth; so odious, so terrible, and so loathsome a spectacle, that the horror of his condition had even extinguished all pity for him. “Nothing was ever so unlike a mar as the poor wretch that suffered this, saving the tyrant that acted it.”
Lysimachus, one of his friends, was placed in front of a lion; and after this very Lysimachus escaped that danger, he showed no mercy when he ruled himself. He had his friend Telesphorous's ears and nose cut off, and after disfiguring him so badly that he no longer looked human, he threw him into a dungeon and kept him there to be displayed as a monster, a bizarre sight. The space was so cramped that Telesphorous had to crawl on all fours, and his sides were bruised from the tight confinement. In this agony, he lay half-starved in his own filth; such an appalling, horrifying, and repulsive sight that the horror of his situation made any pity for him disappear. “Nothing was ever so unlike a man as the poor wretch who suffered this, except for the tyrant who did it.”
Nor did this merciless hardness only exercise itself among foreigners, but the fierceness of their outrages and punishments, as well as their vices, brake in upon the Romans. C. Marius, that had his statue set up everywhere, and was adored as a God, L. Sylla commanded his bones to be broken, his eyes to be pulled out, his hands to be cut off; and, as if every wound had been a several death, his body to be torn to pieces, and Catiline was the executioner. A cruelty that was only fit for Marius to suffer, Sylla to command, and Catiline to act; but most dishonorable and fatal to the commonwealth, to fall indifferently upon the sword’s point both of citizens and of enemies.
Nor did this ruthless cruelty only affect foreigners; the intensity of their violence and punishments, along with their immoral behavior, also impacted the Romans. C. Marius, who had statues erected everywhere and was worshipped like a God, had his bones shattered, eyes gouged out, and hands severed by L. Sylla. As if each wound were a separate death, his body was torn apart, with Catiline serving as the executioner. This kind of cruelty was only meant for Marius to endure, for Sylla to order, and for Catiline to carry out; yet it was incredibly dishonorable and disastrous for the republic to inflict such violence indiscriminately upon both citizens and enemies.
It was a severe instance, that of Piso too. A soldier that had leave to go abroad with his comrade, came back to the camp at his time, but without his companion. Piso condemned him to die, as if he had killed him, and appoints a centurion to see the execution. Just as the headsman was ready to do his office, the other soldier appeared, to the great joy of the whole field, and the centurion bade the executioner hold his hand. Hereupon Piso, in a rage, mounts the tribunal, and sentences all three to death: the one because he was condemned, the other because it was for his sake that his fellow-soldier was condemned, the centurion for not obeying the order of his superior. An ingenious piece of in342humanity, to contrive how to make three criminals, where effectively there were none.
It was a harsh case for Piso too. A soldier who had permission to go out with his friend returned to the camp on time but without his companion. Piso sentenced him to death, as if he had murdered him, and assigned a centurion to oversee the execution. Just as the executioner was about to carry out the sentence, the other soldier showed up, much to everyone's relief, and the centurion told the executioner to stop. In a fit of rage, Piso went up to the platform and sentenced all three to death: the first soldier because he was condemned, the second because it was for his sake that his fellow soldier was condemned, and the centurion for not following his superior's orders. It was a clever act of cruelty to find a way to declare three people guilty when there were really none.
There was a Persian king that caused the noses of a whole nation to be cut off, and they were to thank him that he spared their heads. And this, perhaps, would have been the fate of the Macrobii, (if Providence had not hindered it,) for the freedom they used to Cambyses’ ambassadors, in not accepting the slavish terms that were offered them. This put Cambyses into such a rage, that he presently listed into his service every man that was able to bear arms; and, without either provisions or guides, marched immediately through dry and barren deserts, and where never any man had passed before him, to take his revenge. Before he was a third part of the way, his provisions failed him. His men, at first, made shift with the buds of trees, boiled leather, and the like; but soon after there was not so much as a root or a plant to be gotten, nor a living creature to be seen; and then by lot every tenth man was to die for a nourishment to the rest, which was still worse than the famine. But yet this passionate king went on so far, until one part of his army was lost, and the other devoured, and until he feared that he himself might come to be served with the same sauce. So that at last he ordered a retreat, wanting no delicates all this while for himself, while his soldiers were taking their chance who should die miserably, or live worse. Here was an anger taken up against a whole nation, that neither deserved any ill from him, nor was so much as known to him.
There was a Persian king who had the noses of an entire nation cut off, and they had to be grateful that he spared their heads. This might have been the fate of the Macrobii (if Providence hadn’t intervened) for their defiance toward Cambyses’ ambassadors by refusing the degrading terms presented to them. This infuriated Cambyses so much that he immediately enlisted every man able to fight; without any supplies or guides, he marched straight through dry and barren deserts, areas that no one had ever traversed before, to take his revenge. Before he had gone a third of the way, his supplies ran out. At first, his men struggled by eating tree buds, boiled leather, and other such things; but soon there wasn't even a root or plant to be found, nor any living creature in sight. Then, by lot, every tenth man was chosen to die to feed the others, which was even worse than starvation. Yet this enraged king pressed on until one part of his army was lost and the other was consumed, and he started to fear that he might end up facing the same fate. In the end, he ordered a retreat, having sat comfortably all along while his soldiers were left to gamble over who would die a miserable death or live in even worse conditions. Here was a king’s anger directed at an entire nation that neither deserved his wrath nor was even known to him.
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CHAPTER VII.
THE ORDINARY GROUNDS AND OCCASIONS OF ANGER.
In this wandering state of life we meet with many occasions of trouble and displeasure, both great and trivial; and not a day passes but, from men or things, we have some cause or other for offense; as a man must expect to be jostled, dashed, and crowded, in a populous city. One man deceives our expectation; another delays it; and a third crosses it; and if everything does not succeed to our wish, we presently fall out either with the person, the business, the place, our fortune, or ourselves. Some men value themselves upon their wit, and will never forgive anyone that pretends to lessen it; others are inflamed by wine: and some are distempered by sickness, weariness, watchings, love, care, etc. Some are prone to it, by heat of constitution; but moist, dry, and cold complexions are more liable to other affections; as suspicion, despair, fear, jealousy, etc. But most of our quarrels are of our own contriving. One while we suspect upon mistake; and another while we make a great matter of trifles. To say the truth, most of those things that exasperate us are rather subjects of disgust than of mischief: there is a large difference betwixt opposing a man’s satisfaction and not assisting it: betwixt taking away and not giving; but we reckon upon344 denying and deferring as the same thing; and interpret another’s being for himself as if he were against us. Nay, we do many times entertain an ill opinion of well doing, and a good one of the contrary: and we hate a man for doing that very thing which we should hate him for on the other side, if he did not do it.
In this chaotic life, we encounter many instances of trouble and annoyance, both big and small; not a day goes by without some reason to be offended by people or things, just as one must expect to be bumped, pushed, and crowded in a busy city. One person lets us down; another keeps us waiting; and a third gets in our way; and if things don’t go our way, we quickly take issue with the person, the situation, the location, our luck, or ourselves. Some people pride themselves on their wit and will never forgive anyone who tries to undermine it; others are stirred up by alcohol. Additionally, some are affected by sickness, exhaustion, sleeplessness, love, worry, etc. Some are naturally more prone to irritability due to their temperament, but those with different physical constitutions are more susceptible to other feelings like suspicion, despair, fear, jealousy, and so on. However, most of our arguments are self-created. Sometimes we misinterpret a situation; at other times, we make a big deal out of trivial matters. Honestly, most of the things that frustrate us are more about annoyance than actual harm: there’s a big difference between taking away someone’s satisfaction and simply not helping it; between taking away and not giving; yet we confuse denying and deferring as if they were the same; and we interpret someone being for themselves as if they were against us. In fact, we often form a bad opinion of good actions and a good opinion of bad ones: we end up disliking a person for doing something we would actually resent them for if they didn’t do it.
We take it ill to be opposed when there is a father perhaps, a brother, or a friend, in the case against us; when we should rather love a man for it; and only wish that he could be honestly of our party. We approve of the fact, and detest the doer of it. It is a base thing to hate the person whom we cannot but commend; but it is a great deal worse yet if we hate him for the very thing that deserves commendation. The things that we desire, if they be such as cannot be given to one without being taken away from another, must needs set those people together by the ears that desire the same thing. One man has a design upon my mistress, another upon mine inheritance; and that which should make friends makes enemies, our being all of a mind. The general cause of anger is the sense or opinion of an injury; that is, the opinion either of an injury simply done, or of an injury done, which we have not deserved. Some are naturally given to anger, others are provoked to it by occasion; the anger of women and children is commonly sharp, but not lasting: old men are rather querulous and peevish. Hard labor, diseases, anxiety of thought, and whatsoever hurts the body or the mind, disposes a man to be froward, but we must not add fire to fire.
We feel offended when there’s a father, brother, or friend involved in a conflict against us, when we should actually appreciate them and wish they could genuinely be on our side. We support the idea but dislike the person who acts on it. It's low to hate someone we admire, but it's even worse to dislike them for something that deserves praise. The things we want, if they can't be given to one person without taking from another, will naturally put those who desire the same thing at odds with each other. One man wants my girlfriend, another wants my inheritance; that which should create friendships ends up creating enemies because we all want the same thing. The main reason for anger is the feeling or belief of an injury; whether it’s an injury done outright or one we feel we didn’t deserve. Some people are naturally prone to anger, while others are triggered by circumstances; the anger of women and children is usually quick and intense, but not lasting: older men tend to be more irritable and cranky. Hard work, illness, anxiety, and anything that harms the body or mind can make a person easily annoyed, but we shouldn’t add fuel to the fire.
He that duly considers the subject-matter of all our controversies and quarrels, will find them low345 and mean, not worth the thought of a generous mind; but the greatest noise of all is about money. This is it that sets fathers and children together by the ears, husbands and wives; and makes way for sword and poison. This is it that tires out courts of justice, enrages princes, and lays cities in the dust, to seek for gold and silver in the ruins of them. This is it that finds work for the judge to determine which side is least in the wrong; and whose is the more plausible avarice, the plaintiff’s or the defendant’s. And what is it that we contend for all this while, but those baubles that make us cry when we should laugh? To see a rich old cuff, that has nobody to leave his estate to, break his heart for a handful of dirt; and a gouty usurer, that has no other use of his fingers left him but to count withal; to see him, I say in the extremity of his fit, wrangling for the odd money in his interest. If all that is precious in Nature were gathered into one mass, it were not worth the trouble of a sober mind. It were endless to run over all those ridiculous passions that are moved about meats and drinks, and the matter of our luxury; nay, about words, looks, actions, jealousies, mistakes, which are all of them as contemptible fooleries as those very baubles that children scratch and cry for. There is nothing great or serious in all that which we keep such a clutter about; the madness of it is, that we set too great a value upon trifles. One man flies out upon a salute, a letter, a speech, a question, a gesture, a wink, a look. An action moves one man; a word affects another; one man is tender of his family; another of his person; one sets up for an orator, another for a philosopher: this man will not bear pride, nor that man opposition. He that plays the tyrant at home,346 is gentle as a lamb abroad. Some take offense if a man ask a favor of them, and others, if he does not. Every man has his weak side; let us learn which that is, and take a care of it; for the same thing does not work upon all men alike. We are moved like beasts at the idle appearances of things, and the fiercer the creature, the more is it startled. The sight of a red coat enrages a bull; a shadow provokes the asp; nay, so unreasonable are some men, that they take moderate benefits for injuries, and squabble about it with their nearest relations: “They have done this and that for others,” they cry; “and they might have dealt better with us if they had pleased.” Very good! and if it be less than we looked for, it may be yet more than we deserve. Of all unquiet humors this is the worst, that will never suffer any man to be happy, so long as he sees a happier man than himself. I have known some men so weak as to think themselves contemned if a horse did but play the jade with them, that is yet obedient to another rider. A brutal folly to be offended at a mute animal; for no injury can be done us without the concurrence of reason. A beast may hurt us, as a sword or a stone, and no otherwise. Nay, there are that will complain of “foul weather, a raging sea, a biting winter,” as if it were expressly directed to them; and this they charge upon Providence, whose operations are all of them so far from being injurious, that they are beneficial to us.
Anyone who really thinks about the arguments and disputes we have will see they are petty and not worth the attention of a noble mind; yet the biggest fuss of all is about money. It’s what drives fathers and children to fight, husbands and wives apart, and even leads to violence and poison. It exhausts our courts, angers rulers, and brings cities to ruin in the pursuit of gold and silver. It creates work for judges to figure out which side is less wrong and whose greed—whether the plaintiff’s or the defendant’s—is more justifiable. And what is it that we fight for all this time, but those trinkets that make us cry when we should be laughing? To watch a rich old tightwad, who has no one to leave his fortune to, break his heart over a handful of dirt; and a gouty moneylender, who can only use his fingers to count, fighting over the extra change in his interest. If we gathered all that is precious in nature into one pile, it wouldn’t be worth the effort of a clear-headed person. It would take forever to list all the silly passions we have about food and drink and the things we indulge in; indeed, about words, glances, actions, jealousy, misunderstandings—each of these is as silly as the very trinkets that kids cry and scratch for. There’s nothing important or serious in all the fuss we make; the madness is that we place too much value on trivial things. One person flies off the handle over a greeting, a letter, a speech, a question, a gesture, a wink, or a look. One person is stirred by an action; another is affected by a word; one is protective of his family; another, of himself; one aims to be an orator, another a philosopher: this person won’t tolerate arrogance, and that one hates opposition. The tyrant at home can be gentle as a lamb in public. Some people take offense if someone asks them for a favor, and others are offended if no one does. Everyone has their soft spot; let’s figure out what that is and be cautious about it, as the same thing doesn’t affect everyone in the same way. We react like animals to the meaningless appearances of things, and the fiercer the creature, the more easily it gets spooked. The sight of a red coat can infuriate a bull; a shadow can provoke a snake; and some people are so unreasonable that they see moderate favors as insults, arguing with their closest relatives: “They did this and that for others!” they say; “They could have treated us better if they wanted to.” Fine! And if it’s less than we expected, it might still be more than we deserve. Of all the restless tempers, this is the worst: it won’t let anyone be happy as long as they see someone else who is happier. I’ve known some men who were so fragile they felt insulted if a horse misbehaved with them, even though it was obedient to another rider. It’s a stupid folly to get offended by a silent creature; no harm can be done to us without the involvement of reason. An animal can hurt us, just like a sword or a stone, but no more than that. There are even those who will complain about “bad weather, a stormy sea, a biting winter,” as if it were directed specifically at them; and they blame Providence for it, even though all its actions are actually beneficial to us.
How vain and idle are many of those things that make us stark mad! A resty horse, the overturning of a glass, the falling of a key, the dragging of a chair, a jealousy, a misconstruction. How shall that man endure the extremities of hunger and thirst that flies out into a rage for putting of a little347 too much water in his wine? What haste is there to lay a servant by the heels, or break a leg or an arm immediately for it, as if he were not to have the same power over him an hour after, that he has at that instant? The answer of a servant, a wife, a tenant, puts some people out of all patience; and yet they can quarrel with the government, for not allowing them the same liberty in public, which they themselves deny to their own families. If they say nothing, it is contumacy: if they speak or laugh, it is insolence. As if a man had his ears given him only for music; whereas we must suffer all sorts of noises, good and bad, both of man and beast. How idle is it to start at the tinkling of a bell, or the creaking of a door, when, for all this delicacy, we must endure thunder! Neither are our eyes less curious and fantastical than our ears. When we are abroad, we can bear well enough with foul ways, nasty streets, noisome ditches; but a spot upon a dish at home, or an unswept hearth, absolutely distracts us. And what is the reason, but that we are patient in the one place, and fantastically peevish in the other? Nothing makes us more intemperate than luxury, that shrinks at every stroke, and starts at every shadow. It is death to some to have another sit above them, as if a body were ever the more or the less honest for the cushion. But they are only weak creatures that think themselves wounded if they be but touched. One of the Sybarites, that saw a fellow hard at work a digging, desired him to give over, for it made him weary to see him: and it was an ordinary complaint with him, that “he could take no rest because the rose-leaves lay double under him.” When we are once weakened with our pleasures, everything grows intolera348ble. And we are angry as well with those things that cannot hurt us as with those that do. We tear a book because it is blotted; and our clothes, because they are not well made: things that neither deserve our anger nor feel it: the tailor, perchance, did his best, or, however, had no intent to displease us: if so, first, why should we be angry at all? Secondly, why should we be angry with the thing for the man’s sake? Nay, our anger extends even to dogs, horses, and other beasts.
How vain and pointless are so many things that drive us crazy! A stubborn horse, a broken glass, a dropped key, a dragged chair, jealousy, a misunderstanding. How can someone cope with extreme hunger and thirst if they fly into a rage over a bit too much water in their wine? What’s the rush to punish a servant or break a leg or an arm right away for it, as if they wouldn’t still have the same power over them an hour later? The reply from a servant, a spouse, or a tenant can make some people lose all patience, yet they can complain about the government for not giving them the same freedom in public that they deny their own families. If they say nothing, it’s defiance; if they speak or laugh, it’s disrespect. As if a person’s ears were only for music; we have to endure all kinds of sounds, good and bad, from both humans and animals. How silly it is to flinch at the sound of a bell or the creak of a door when, despite all this sensitivity, we have to endure thunder! Our eyes are just as sensitive and fussy as our ears. When we’re out, we can tolerate dirty paths, filthy streets, and smelly ditches; but a spot on a dish at home, or an unswept floor, drives us completely mad. And why is that? Because we can be patient in one place and ridiculously picky in another. Nothing makes us more immoderate than luxury, which shrinks at every little inconvenience and flinches at every shadow. For some, it feels like death to have someone sit above them, as if a person is any more or less honest because of the cushion they’re on. But only weak people think they’re hurt by a light touch. One of the Sybarites, who saw someone digging, asked him to stop because it made him tired just to watch him: it was a common complaint of his that “he couldn’t find any rest because the rose petals were doubled under him.” Once we’re weakened by our pleasures, everything becomes unbearable. We get angry at things that can’t hurt us just as much as we do at those that can. We tear a book because it’s stained, and we complain about our clothes because they’re not well made: things that don’t deserve our anger and don’t even feel it. Maybe the tailor did their best, or at least didn’t intend to upset us: if that’s the case, why should we be angry at all? Secondly, why should we direct our anger at the object because of what the person did? Our anger even extends to dogs, horses, and other animals.
It was a blasphemous and a sottish extravagance, that of Caius Cæsar, who challenged Jupiter for making such a noise with his thunder, that he could not hear his mimics, and so invented a machine in imitation of it to oppose thunder to thunder; a brutal conceit, to imagine, either that he could reach the Almighty, or that the Almighty could not reach him!
It was a disrespectful and foolish extravagance, that of Caius Caesar, who dared to challenge Jupiter for making so much noise with his thunder that he couldn’t hear his performers, and so he created a machine to mimic it in order to counter thunder with thunder; a ridiculous idea to think that he could reach the Almighty, or that the Almighty couldn’t reach him!
And every jot as ridiculous, though not so impious, was that of Cyrus; who, in his design upon Babylon, found a river in his way that put a stop to his march: the current was strong, and carried away one of the horses that belonged to his own chariot: upon this he swore, that since it had obstructed his passage, it should never hinder any body’s else; and presently set his whole army to work upon it, which diverted it into a hundred and fourscore channels, and laid it dry. In this ignoble and unprofitable employment he lost his time, and the soldiers their courage, and gave his adversaries an opportunity of providing themselves, while he was waging war with a river instead of an enemy.
And just as absurd, though not as blasphemous, was Cyrus's situation; when he was planning to attack Babylon, he came across a river that blocked his path. The current was strong and swept away one of the horses from his chariot. In response, he swore that since it had stopped him, it would never stop anyone else. He immediately set his entire army to work on it, diverting the river into a hundred and eighty channels, and emptied it out. In this pointless and unproductive task, he wasted his time, the soldiers lost their morale, and he gave his enemies the chance to prepare while he was fighting a river instead of his actual enemy.
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ADVICE IN THE CASES OF CONTUMELY AND REVENGE.
Of provocations to anger there are two sorts; there is an injury, and there is a contumely. The former in its own nature is the heavier; the other slight in itself, and only troublesome to a wounded imagination. And yet some there are that will bear blows, and death itself, rather than contumelious words. A contumely is an indignity below the consideration of the very law; and not worthy either of a revenge, or so much as a complaint. It is only the vexation and infirmity of a weak mind, as well as the practice of a haughty and insolent nature, and signifies no more to a wise and sober man than an idle dream, that is no sooner past than forgotten. It is true, it implies contempt; but what needs any man care for being contemptible to others, if he be not so to himself? For a child in the arms to strike the mother, tear her hair, claw the face of her, and call her names, that goes for nothing with us, because the child knows not what he does. Neither are we moved at the impudence and bitterness of a buffoon, though he fall upon his own master as well as the guests; but, on the contrary, we encourage and entertain the freedom.
There are two types of things that can provoke anger: an injury and a contumely. The first is naturally more serious, while the second is minor and only bothersome to a sensitive imagination. Still, some people would rather endure blows or even death than endure insulting words. A contumely is an insult that the law doesn't even consider significant, and it’s not worthy of revenge or even a complaint. It reflects the annoyance and weakness of a fragile mind, as well as the behavior of someone arrogant and rude, and it means nothing to a wise and calm person, like a fleeting dream that is soon forgotten. It's true that it shows contempt; but why should anyone care about being looked down upon by others if they don't look down on themselves? For instance, if a child in their mother's arms strikes her, pulls her hair, scratches her face, and calls her names, we think nothing of it because the child doesn't understand what they're doing. Similarly, we aren't bothered by the brashness and bitterness of a buffoon, even when they insult their own master and the guests; rather, we actually encourage and appreciate that level of freedom.
Are we not mad then, to be delighted and displeased with the same thing, and to take that as an350 injury from one man, which passes only for a raillery from another? He that is wise will behave himself toward all men as we do to our children; for they are but children too, though they have gray hairs: they are indeed of a larger size, and their errors are grown up with them; they live without rule, they covet without choice, they are timorous and unsteady; and if at any time they happen to be quiet, it is more out of fear than reason. It is a wretched condition to stand in awe of everybody’s tongue; and whosoever is vexed at a reproach would be proud if he were commended. We should look upon contumelies, slanders, and ill words, only as the clamor of enemies, or arrows shot at a distance, that make a clattering upon our arms, but do no execution. A man makes himself less than his adversary by fancying that he is contemned. Things are only ill that are ill taken; and it is not for a man of worth to think himself better or worse for the opinion of others. He that thinks himself injured, let him say, “Either I have deserved this, or I have not. If I have, it is a judgment; if I have not, it is an injustice: and the doer of it has more reason to be ashamed than the sufferers.”
Are we not foolish then, to feel both happy and unhappy about the same thing, and to see it as an350 insult from one person, while it’s just a joke from another? A wise person will treat everyone like we do our children; they may be older, with gray hair, but they're just like kids at heart. Their mistakes have just grown up with them; they live without rules, they desire without thinking, they’re fearful and unreliable; and when they do seem calm, it’s more out of fear than reason. It’s a miserable state to be afraid of everyone’s words; anyone who is bothered by criticism would probably be boastful if they received praise. We should regard insults, gossip, and harsh words merely as noise from enemies, or arrows fired from a distance, making a noise against our armor, but not causing real harm. A person diminishes themselves by imagining they are looked down upon. Things are only bad when we take them badly; and it's not fitting for a person of value to think they are better or worse based on what others think. If someone feels wronged, they should ask themselves, “Have I deserved this, or have I not? If I have, then it's a fair judgment; if I haven’t, then it’s an injustice: and the one who did it has more reason to be ashamed than the one who suffers.”
Nature has assigned every man his post, which he is bound in honor to maintain, let him be never so much pressed. Diogenes was disputing of anger, and an insolent young fellow, to try if he could put him beside his philosophy, spit in his face: “Young man,” says Diogenes, “this does not make me angry yet; but I am in some doubt whether I should be so or not.” Some are so impatient that they cannot bear a contumely, even from a woman; whose very beauty, greatness, and ornaments, are all of them little enough to vindicate her from any indecencies,351 without much modesty and discretion; nay, they will lay it to heart even from the meanest of servants. How wretched is that man whose peace lies at the mercy of the people?
Nature has given every man his role, which he must honor and uphold, no matter how pressured he feels. Diogenes was discussing anger when an arrogant young guy, trying to rattle him, spat in his face. Diogenes replied, “Young man, this hasn’t upset me yet; but I wonder if I should be angry or not.” Some people are so impatient they can’t handle insults, even from a woman; her beauty, status, and adornments are not enough to excuse her from being inappropriate without a lot of modesty and discretion. In fact, they would take offense even from the lowest servant. How miserable is the man whose peace depends on the whims of others?
A physician is not angry at the intemperance of a mad patient; nor does he take it ill to be railed at by a man in a fever; just so should a wise man treat all mankind as a physician does his patient; and looking upon them only as sick and extravagant, let their words and actions, whether good or bad, go equally for nothing, attending still his duty even in the coarsest offices that may conduce to their recovery. Men that are proud, froward, and powerful, he values their scorn as little as their quality, and looks upon them no otherwise than as people in the excess of a fever. If a beggar worships him, or if he takes no notice of him, it is all one to him; and with a rich man he makes it the same case. Their honors and their injuries he accounts much alike; without rejoicing at the one, or grieving at the other.
A doctor doesn’t get upset with a crazy patient’s reckless behavior, nor does he take offense when someone with a fever insults him; in the same way, a wise person should see all people as a doctor sees his patients. He should view them as sick and out of control, letting their words and actions, whether good or bad, slide without concern, while still doing his duty, even in the toughest tasks that might help them recover. He views the prideful, difficult, and powerful people’s scorn as little more than their status, treating them like individuals suffering from a serious fever. Whether a beggar praises him or ignores him, it doesn’t make a difference; the same goes for a wealthy person. He considers their honors and their insults as largely the same, feeling neither joy at the former nor sorrow at the latter.
In these cases, the rule is to pardon all offenses, where there is any sign of repentance, or hope of amendment. It does not hold in injuries as in benefits, the requiting of the one with the other; for it is a shame to overcome in the one, and in the other to be overcome. It is the part of a great mind to despise injuries; and it is one kind of revenge to neglect a man as not worth it: for it makes the first aggressor too considerable. Our philosophy, methinks, might carry us up to the bravery of a generous mastiff, that can hear the barking of a thousand curs without taking any notice of them. He that receives an injury from his superior, it is not enough for him to bear it with patience, and with352out any thought of revenge, but he must receive it with a cheerful countenance, and look as if he did not understand it too; for if he appear too sensible, he shall be sure to have more of it. “It is a damned humor in great men, that whom they wrong they will hate.”
In these situations, the rule is to forgive all wrongdoings when there’s any sign of regret or hope for improvement. It doesn’t work the same way for injuries as it does for good deeds; it’s shameful to be defeated in one case and shameful to defeat in the other. It takes a great mind to overlook offenses; ignoring someone can be a form of revenge because it makes the first offender too significant. Our philosophy should emulate the bravery of a noble dog that can hear the barking of a thousand little dogs without paying them any mind. When someone suffers an injury from a superior, it's not enough to just endure it patiently and without thoughts of revenge; one must accept it with a smile and appear as if they don’t fully grasp the situation either. If they seem too affected, they’re likely to face more trouble. “It’s a terrible trait in powerful people that those they wrong they will come to hate.”
It is well answered of an old courtier, that was asked how he kept so long in favor? “Why,” says he, “by receiving injuries, and crying your humble servant for them.” Some men take it for an argument of greatness to have revenge in their power; but so far is he that is under the dominion of anger from being great, that he is not so much as free. Not but that anger is a kind of pleasure to some in the act of revenge; but the very word is inhuman, though it may pass for honest. “Virtue,” in short, “is impenetrable, and revenge is only the confession of an infirmity.”
An old courtier was asked how he stayed in favor for so long, and he answered, “Well, by accepting slights and calling myself your humble servant for them.” Some people think it's a sign of greatness to have revenge within their reach; however, someone who is ruled by anger is far from being great — they're not even free. It's true that some find pleasure in the act of revenge, but the very concept is inhumane, even if it seems honorable. In short, virtue is unyielding, and revenge is merely an admission of weakness.
It is a fantastical humor, that the same jest in private should make us merry, and yet enrage us in public; nay, we will not allow the liberty that we take. Some railleries we account pleasant, others bitter: a conceit upon a squint-eye, a hunch-back, or any personal defect, passes for a reproach. And why may we not as well hear it as see it? Nay, if a man imitates our gait, speech, or any natural imperfection, it puts us out of all patience; as if the counterfeit were more grievous than the doing of the thing itself. Some cannot endure to hear of their age, nor others of their poverty; and they make the thing the more taken notice of the more they desire to hide it. Some bitter jest (for the purpose) was broken upon you at the table: keep better company then. In the freedom of cups, a sober man will hardly contain himself within bounds. It353 sticks with us extremely sometimes, that the porter will not let us in to his great master. Will any but a madman quarrel with a cur for barking, when he may pacify him with a crust? What have we to do but to keep further off, and laugh at him? Fidus Cornelius (a tall slim fellow) fell downright a-crying in the senate-house at Corbulo’s saying that “he looked like an ostrich.” He was a man that made nothing of a lash upon his life and manners; but it was worse than death to him a reflection upon his person. No man was ever ridiculous to others that laughed at himself first: it prevents mischief, and it is a spiteful disappointment of those that take pleasure in such abuses. Vatinius, (a man that was made up for scorn and hatred, scurrilous and impudent to the highest degree, but most abusively witty and with all this he was diseased, and deformed to extremity), his way, was always to make sport with himself, and so he prevented the mockeries of other people. There are none more abusive to others than they that lie most open to it themselves; but the humor goes round, and he that laughs at me to-day will have somebody to laugh at him to-morrow, and revenge my quarrel. But, however, there are some liberties that will never go down with some men.
It's funny how the same joke can make us laugh in private but infuriate us in public; in fact, we don't want to admit the freedom we allow ourselves. Some teasing we find enjoyable, while others we see as harsh: a joke about a squint-eye, a hunch-back, or any personal flaw is considered an insult. So why should we not hear it as well as see it? If someone mimics our walk, speech, or any natural defect, it drives us to frustration, as if the imitation is worse than the act itself. Some people can't stand to hear about their age, while others can't bear to talk about their poverty; the more they try to hide it, the more it stands out. If a cruel joke gets thrown your way at the dinner table, maybe you should choose better company. In the spirit of drinks, a sober person often struggles to keep their cool. It really bothers us at times when the doorman denies us entry to his boss. Who but a madman would argue with a little dog barking when they could calm it down with a piece of bread? What we should do is keep our distance and just laugh it off. Fidus Cornelius (a tall, slender guy) broke down in tears in the senate when Corbulo joked that he looked like an ostrich. He didn’t mind insults about his life and behavior, but any comment about his appearance felt worse than death. No one appears ridiculous to others who first laughs at themselves: it prevents trouble and spoils the fun for those who take joy in such mockery. Vatinius, a man born to be scorned and hated, who was rude and brash to the extreme yet extremely witty, was also severely ill and deformed. His strategy was always to make jokes about himself, which kept others from mocking him. Those who are most offensive to others are often the ones most open to being ridiculed themselves; the joke goes around, and the one who laughs at me today will find someone to laugh at them tomorrow, thus avenging me. However, some freedoms just won’t sit well with certain people.
Asiaticus Valerius, (one of Caligula’s particular friends, and a man of stomach, that would not easily digest an affront) Caligula told him in public what kind of bedfellow his wife was. Good God! that ever any man should hear this, or a prince speak it, especially to a man of consular authority, a friend, and a husband: and in such a manner too as at once to own his disgust and his adultery. The tribune Chæreas had a weak broken voice, like an hermaphrodite; when he came to Caligula for the354 word, he would give him sometimes Venus, otherwhiles Priapus, as a slur upon him both ways. Valerius was afterwards the principal instrument in the conspiracy against him; and Chæreas, to convince him of his manhood, at one blow cleft him down the chin with his sword. No man was so forward as Caligula to break a jest, and no man so unwilling to bear it.
Asiaticus Valerius, one of Caligula’s close friends and a man who wouldn’t easily take an insult, was publicly told by Caligula what kind of lover his wife was. Good God! How could any man hear this, let alone a prince say it, especially to a man of consular rank, a friend, and a husband? And to say it in such a way that revealed both his disgust and his infidelity. The tribune Chæreas had a weak, broken voice, almost like an androgynous person; when he approached Caligula for instructions, sometimes he would refer to him as Venus, other times as Priapus, mocking him both ways. Valerius later played a key role in the conspiracy against Caligula, and Chæreas, to prove his masculinity, struck him down the chin with his sword in one blow. No one was as quick as Caligula to make a joke, and no one was as unwilling to take one.
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CHAPTER IX.
CAUTIONS AGAINST ANGER IN THE MATTER OF EDUCATION, CONVERSE,
AND OTHER GENERAL RULES OF PREVENTING IT,
BOTH IN OURSELVES AND OTHERS.
All that we have to say in particular upon this subject lies under these two heads: first, that we do not fall into anger; and secondly, that we do not transgress in it. As in the case of our bodies, we have some medicines to preserve us when we are well, and others to recover us when we are sick; so it is one thing not to admit it, and another thing to overcome it. We are, in the first place, to avoid all provocations, and the beginnings of anger: for if we be once down, it is a hard task to get up again. When our passion has got the better of our reason, and the enemy is received into the gate, we cannot expect that the conqueror should take conditions from the prisoner. And, in truth, our reason, when it is thus mastered, turns effectually into passion. A careful education is a great matter; for our minds are easily formed in our youth, but it is a harder business to cure ill habits: beside that, we are inflamed by climate, constitution, company, and a thousand other accidents, that we are not aware of.
All we need to say about this topic can be summarized in two points: first, that we should not get angry; and second, that we should not let anger control us. Just like we have some medicines to keep us healthy and others to help us recover when we’re sick, it's one thing to avoid anger, and another to overcome it. We need to avoid all triggers and the early signs of anger because once we lose control, it’s really hard to regain it. When our emotions overpower our reason and we let the enemy in, we can’t expect the victor to show mercy to the defeated. In fact, our reason, once dominated, effectively turns into passion. A solid education is very important because our minds are easily shaped in our youth, but it's much harder to correct bad habits. Additionally, we are influenced by our environment, nature, social circles, and a multitude of other factors that we might not even notice.
The choice of a good nurse, and a well-natured tutor, goes a great way: for the sweetness both of the blood and of the manners will pass into the356 child. There is nothing breeds anger more than a soft and effeminate education; and it is very seldom seen that either the mother’s or the school-master’s darling ever comes to good. But my young master, when he comes into the world, behaves himself like a choleric coxcomb; for flattery, and a great fortune, nourish touchiness. But it is a nice point so to check the seeds of anger in a child as not to take off his edge, and quench his spirits; whereof a principal care must be taken betwixt license and severity, that he be neither too much emboldened nor depressed. Commendation gives him courage and confidence; but then the danger is, of blowing him up into insolence and wrath: so that when to use the bit, and when the spur, is the main difficulty. Never put him to a necessity of begging anything basely: or if he does, let him go without it. Inure him to a familiarity where he has any emulation; and in all his exercises let him understand that it is generous to overcome his competitor, but not to hurt him. Allow him to be pleased when he does well, but not transported; for that will puff him up into too high a conceit of himself. Give him nothing that he cries for till the dogged fit is over, but then let him have it when he is quiet; to show him that there is nothing to be gotten by being peevish. Chide him for whatever he does amiss, and make him betimes acquainted with the fortune that he was born to. Let his diet be cleanly, but sparing; and clothe him like the rest of his fellows: for by placing him upon that equality at first, he will be the less proud afterward: and, consequently the less waspish and quarrelsome.
Choosing a good nurse and a kind tutor is really important because their warmth and manners will influence the child. There’s nothing that fosters anger more than a soft and overly gentle upbringing; it’s rarely seen that the favorites of their mothers or teachers turn out well. But my young master, when he enters the world, acts like a spoiled brat; flattery and great wealth only feed his sensitivity. The challenge is to manage the anger that arises in a child without dulling their spirit, striking a balance between too much freedom and too much strictness so that he isn’t overly bold or crushed. Praise gives him courage and confidence, but it also poses the risk of making him arrogant and angry; knowing when to discipline and when to encourage is the real challenge. Never force him to beg for anything humbling; if he does, let him go without. Introduce him to healthy competition and teach him that it’s admirable to win against others without causing harm. Let him take pride in his successes, but not to the point of arrogance, as that will inflate his self-importance. Don’t give him what he cries for until he calms down, showing him that being difficult doesn’t get him what he wants. Correct him when he does something wrong and help him understand the fortune he was born into. Keep his diet clean but simple; dress him like his peers so that starting off on equal footing keeps him from becoming too proud later on, making him less irritable and combative.
In the next place, let us have a care of temptations that we cannot resist, and provocations that357 we cannot bear; and especially of sour and exceptious company: for a cross humor is contagious. Nor is it all that a man shall be the better for the example of a quiet conversation; but an angry disposition is troublesome, because it has nothing else to work upon. We should therefore choose a sincere, easy, and temperate companion, that will neither provoke anger nor return it; nor give a man any occasion of exercising his distempers. Nor is it enough to be gentle, submissive, and humane, without integrity and plain-dealing; for flattery is as offensive on the other side. Some men would take a curse from you better than a compliment. Cælius, a passionate orator, had a friend of singular patience that supped with him, who had no way to avoid a quarrel but by saying amen to all that Cælius said. Cælius, taking this ill: “Say something against me,” says he, “that you and I may be two;” and he was angry with him because he would not: but the dispute fell, as it needs must, for want of an opponent.
Next, we should be careful about temptations we can't resist and provocations we can't handle, especially when it comes to negative company—because a bad attitude is contagious. It's not just that one can benefit from calm conversation; an angry mindset is annoying since it has nothing else to focus on. Therefore, we should pick a sincere, approachable, and balanced friend who won't provoke anger or respond with it, nor give anyone a reason to act out. It’s not enough to just be gentle, submissive, and kind without being honest and straightforward; flattery can also be irritating. Some people would prefer to receive a curse from you over a compliment. Cælius, a passionate speaker, had a friend with remarkable patience who dined with him, and the only way to avoid an argument was to agree with everything Cælius said. Cælius didn't like this and said, “Say something against me so we can be two people,” and he got mad because his friend wouldn’t. But the argument never happened, as it had to because there was no opponent.
He that is naturally addicted to anger, let him use a moderate diet, and abstain from wine; for it is but adding fire to fire. Gentle exercises, recreations, and sports, temper and sweeten the mind. Let him have a care also of long and obstinate disputes; for it is easier not to begin them than to put an end to them. Severe studies are not good for him either, as law, mathematics; too much attention preys upon the spirits, and makes him eager: but poetry, history and those lighter entertainments, may serve him for diversion and relief. He that would be quiet, must not venture at things out of his reach, or beyond his strength; for he shall either stagger under the burden, or discharge it upon the next man he meets; which is the same case in civil and domestic358 affairs. Business that is ready and practicable goes off with ease; but when it is too heavy for the bearer, they fall both together. Whatsoever we design, we should first take a measure of ourselves, and compare our force with the undertaking; for it vexes a man not to go through with his work: a repulse inflames a generous nature, as it makes one that is phlegmatic, sad. I have known some that have advised looking in a glass when a man is in the fit, and the very spectacle of his own deformity has cured him. Many that are troublesome in their drink, and know their own infirmity, give their servant order beforehand to take them away by force for fear of mischief, and not to obey their masters themselves when they are hot-headed. If the thing were duly considered we should need no other cure than the bare consideration of it. We are not angry at madmen, children, and fools, because they do not know what they do: and why should not imprudence have an equal privilege in other cases? If a horse kick, or a dog bite, shall a man kick or bite again? The one, it is true, is wholly void of reason, but it is also an equivalent darkness of mind that possesses the other. So long as we are among men, let us cherish humanity, and so live that no man may be either in fear or in danger of us. Losses, injuries, reproaches, calumnies, they are but short inconveniences, and we should bear them with resolution. Beside that, some people are above our anger, others below it. To contend with our superiors were a folly, and with our inferiors an indignity.
Those who naturally tend to get angry should stick to a moderate diet and avoid wine, as drinking just adds fuel to the fire. Gentle exercise, hobbies, and sports can calm and uplift the mind. They should also be cautious of lengthy and stubborn arguments, as it's easier to avoid starting them than to end them. Intense studies like law and mathematics aren't good for them, either; too much focus can drain their energy and make them restless. However, poetry, history, and other lighter activities can provide distraction and relief. If someone wants to be at peace, they shouldn’t take on tasks beyond their abilities; otherwise, they will struggle to cope or pass the burden onto someone else, which applies to both public and personal matters. Tasks that are manageable can be completed easily, but if they are too heavy for a person, both will crumble under the load. Before we commit to anything, we should assess ourselves and measure our strength against the task because it is frustrating to leave a job unfinished. A setback can frustrate a noble spirit and bring sadness to a more indifferent one. I’ve known people who suggested that when someone feels angry, they should look in a mirror, and simply seeing their own flaws has helped them calm down. Many who become troublesome when drunk know their weaknesses and instruct their servants to forcibly remove them to prevent trouble, rather than attempt to control themselves while angry. If we truly thought about it, we wouldn’t need any other remedy than recognizing the situation itself. We don’t get angry at those who are mad, children, or fools since they don’t realize their actions, so why shouldn’t a lack of judgment in other cases hold the same privilege? If a horse kicks or a dog bites, should a person kick or bite back? It's true that the former is entirely devoid of reason, but the latter is also equally clouded in judgment. As long as we are among people, we should promote kindness and live in such a way that no one feels fear or danger from us. Losses, wrongs, insults, and slander are just temporary inconveniences, and we should endure them with strength. Additionally, some people are simply beyond our anger, while others are beneath it. It’s foolish to argue with those above us and beneath our dignity to argue with those below us.
There is hardly a more effectual remedy against anger than patience and consideration. Let but the first fervor abate, and that mist which darkens the359 mind will be either lessened or dispelled; a day, nay, an hour, does much in the most violent cases, and perchance totally suppresses it; time discovers the truth of things, and turns that into judgment which at first was anger. Plato was about to strike his servant, and while his hand was in the air, he checked himself, but still held it in that menacing posture. A friend of his took notice of it, and asked him what he meant? “I am now,” says Plato, “punishing of an angry man;” so that he had left his servant to chastise himself. Another time his servant having committed a great fault: “Speusippus,” says he, “do you beat that fellow, for I am angry,” so that he forebore striking him for the very reason that would have made another man have done it. “I am angry,” says he, “and shall go further than becomes me.” Nor is it fit that a servant should be in his power that is not his own master. Why should any one venture now to trust an angry man with a revenge, when Plato durst not trust himself? Either he must govern that, or that will undo him. Let us do our best to overcome it, but let us, however, keep it close, without giving it any vent. An angry man, if he gives himself liberty at all times, will go too far. If it comes once to show itself in the eye or countenance, it has got the better of us. Nay, we should so oppose it as to put on the very contrary dispositions; calm looks, soft and slow speech, an easy and deliberate march, and by little and little, we may possibly bring our thoughts into sober conformity with our actions. When Socrates was angry, he would take himself in it, and speak low, in opposition to the motions of his displeasure. His friends would take notice of it; and it was not to his disadvantage neither, but rather to his credit, that so360 many should know that he was angry, and nobody feel it; which could not have been, if he had not given his friends the same liberty of admonition which he himself took. And this course should we take; we should desire our friends not to flatter us in our follies, but to treat us with all liberties of reprehension, even when we are least willing to bear it, against so powerful and so insinuating an evil; we should call for help while we have our eyes in our head, and are yet masters of ourselves. Moderation is profitable for subjects, but more for princes, who have the means of executing all that their anger prompts them to. When that power comes once to be exercised to a common mischief, it can never long continue; a common fear joining in one cause all their divided complaints. In a word now, how we may prevent, moderate, or master this impotent passion in others.
There’s hardly a more effective remedy for anger than patience and understanding. Once the initial intensity fades, that cloud that clouds your mind will either lighten or disappear; even a day, or an hour, can do wonders in the most extreme situations and might even completely quell it. Time reveals the truth of circumstances and turns what was initially anger into sound judgment. Plato was about to hit his servant, and while his hand was raised, he controlled himself but kept it in that threatening position. A friend noticed this and asked him what he was doing. “I’m just punishing an angry man,” Plato replied, meaning he was letting his servant discipline himself. Another time, when his servant made a significant mistake, he said, “Speusippus, you go ahead and beat that guy, because I’m angry,” refraining from hitting him for the very reason that might have pushed someone else to do it. “I’m angry,” he said, “and I might go too far.” It’s not right for a servant to be at the mercy of someone who can’t manage their own feelings. Why should anyone trust an angry person with revenge when even Plato wouldn’t trust himself? You either control it, or it will ruin you. We should do our best to get past it, but we should keep it to ourselves without venting it. An angry person, if they allow themselves to express it at all times, will overstep boundaries. Once anger shows in our eyes or expressions, it has taken control of us. Instead, we should challenge it by adopting the opposite attitudes: calm expressions, gentle and slow speech, a relaxed and thoughtful pace, and gradually, we might align our thoughts with our actions. When Socrates got angry, he would recognize it and speak softly, countering the urge to show his displeasure. His friends would notice, and it didn’t hurt him; in fact, it enhanced his reputation that so many knew he was angry, yet no one could feel it. This could only happen if he allowed his friends the same freedom to speak up that he took himself. We should follow this approach; we should ask our friends not to flatter us in our faults but to guide us with honest criticism, even when we least want to hear it, against such a powerful and subtle enemy. We should seek help while we’re still aware and in control. Moderation benefits everyone, but especially those in power, who have the means to act on their anger. When that power is misused for collective harm, it won’t last long; a common fear will unite all their separate grievances. In short, here’s how we can prevent, manage, or overcome this ineffective passion in others.
It is not enough to be sound ourselves, unless we endeavor to make others so, wherein we must accommodate the remedy to the temper of the patient. Some are to be dealt with by artifice and address: as, for example, “Why will you gratify your enemies to show yourself so much concerned? It is not worth your anger: it is below you: I am as much troubled at it myself as you can be; but you had better say nothing, and take your time to be even with them.” Anger in some people is to be openly opposed; in others, there must be a little yielding, according to the disposition of the person. Some are won by entreaties, others are gained by mere shame and conviction, and some by delay; a dull way of cure for a violent distemper, but this must be the last experiment. Other affections may be better dealt with at leisure; for they proceed gradually: but this com361mences and perfects itself in the same moment. It does not, like other passions, solicit and mislead us, but it runs away with us by force, and hurries us on with an irresistible temerity, as well to our own as to another’s ruin: not only flying in the face of him that provokes us, but like a torrent, bearing down all before it. There is no encountering the first heat and fury of it: for it is deaf and mad, the best way is (in the beginning) to give it time and rest, and let it spend itself: while the passion is too hot to handle, we may deceive it; but, however, let all instruments of revenge be put out of the way. It is not amiss sometimes to pretend to be angry too; and join with him, not only in the opinion of the injury, but in the seeming contrivance of a revenge. But this must be a person then that has some authority over him. This is a way to get time, and, by advising upon some greater punishment to delay the present. If the passion be outrageous, try what shame or fear can do. If weak, it is no hard matter to amuse it by strange stories, grateful news, or pleasant discourses. Deceit, in this case, is friendship; for men must be cozened to be cured.
It's not enough for us to be calm ourselves; we also need to help others find calmness, adjusting our approach based on their temperament. Some people can be handled through cunning and tact: for instance, "Why give your enemies the satisfaction of seeing you so upset? It's not worth your anger; you're above that. I'm just as bothered by it as you are, but it's better to stay quiet and take your time to deal with them." Anger in some individuals should be confronted directly, while with others, a bit of flexibility is needed based on their personality. Some can be swayed by appeals to emotion, others by feelings of shame or realization, and some may respond to just letting things simmer; although this last method is a rather slow way to treat a serious issue. Other emotions can be managed over time since they develop gradually, but anger erupts and reaches its peak all at once. Unlike other feelings that can misdirect and confuse us, anger takes control and rushes us forward with unstoppable recklessness, leading to our own ruin as well as that of others, confronting those who provoke us like a overwhelming force, sweeping everything away. There’s no stopping the initial heat and rage; it’s deafening and irrational, so the best approach at first is to give it time to settle, allowing it to run its course. When the passion is too intense to manage, we might redirect it elsewhere, but we must keep all means of revenge out of reach. Sometimes, it can be useful to pretend to be angry too, aligning with the person not just in recognizing the injury but also in crafting a plan for revenge, but this person must have some authority over them. This tactic buys us time and allows for the consideration of a more severe response for later. If the anger is extreme, see what shame or fear can accomplish. If it’s mild, it’s easy to distract with unusual stories, good news, or lighthearted conversation. Deceiving in this instance is a form of kindness because people need to be tricked into healing.
The injuries that press hardest upon us are those which either we have not deserved, or not expected, or, at least, not in so high a degree. This arises from the love of ourselves: for every man takes upon him, like a prince, in this case, to practice all liberties, and to allow none, which proceeds either from ignorance or insolence. What news is it for people to do ill things? for an enemy to hurt us; nay, for a friend or a servant to transgress, and to prove treacherous, ungrateful, covetous, impious? What we find in one man we may in another, and362 there is more security in fortune than in men. Our joys are mingled with fear, and a tempest may arise out of a calm; but a skilful pilot is always provided for it.
The injuries that weigh heavily on us are those that we either don't deserve, don't expect, or at least not to such a great extent. This comes from our self-love: everyone tends to act like a prince in this situation, taking all the liberties for themselves and allowing none to others, which comes from either ignorance or arrogance. What’s surprising about people doing bad things? An enemy hurting us; or even a friend or a servant betraying us, being ungrateful, greedy, or immoral? What we see in one person, we can see in another, and there's more safety in luck than in people. Our happiness is mixed with fear, and a storm can arise out of clear skies; but a skilled captain is always ready for it.
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AGAINST RASH JUDGMENT.
It is good for every man to fortify himself on his weak side: and if he loves his peace he must not be inquisitive, and hearken to tale-bearers; for the man that is over-curious to hear and see everything, multiplies troubles to himself: for a man does not feel what he does not know. He that is listening after private discourse, and what people say of him, shall never be at peace. How many things that are innocent in themselves are made injuries yet by misconstruction! Wherefore, some things we are to pause upon, others to laugh at, and others again to pardon. Or, if we cannot avoid the sense of indignities, let us however shun the open profession of it, which may easily be done, as appears by many examples of those that have suppressed their anger under the awe of a greater fear. It is a good caution not to believe any thing until we are very certain of it; for many probable things prove false, and a short time will make evidence of the undoubted truth. We are prone to believe many things which we are willing to hear, and so we conclude, and take up a prejudice before we can judge. Never condemn a friend unheard; or without letting him know his accuser, or his crime. It is a common thing to say, “Do not you tell364 that you had it from me: for if you do, I will deny it, and never tell you any thing again:” by which means friends are set together by the ears, and the informer slips his neck out of the collar. Admit no stories upon these terms: for it is an unjust thing to believe in private and to be angry openly. He that delivers himself up to guess and conjecture runs a great hazard; for there can be no suspicion without some probable grounds; so that without much candor and simplicity, and making the best of every thing, there is no living in society with mankind. Some things that offend us we have by report; others we see or hear. In the first case, let us not be too credulous: some people frame stories that they may deceive us; others only tell what they hear, and are deceived themselves: some make it their sport to do ill offices, others do them only to pick a thank: there are some that would part the dearest friends in the world; others love to do mischief, and stand aloof off to see what comes of it. If it be a small matter, I would have witnesses; but if it be a greater, I would have it upon oath, and allow time to the accused, and counsel too, and hear over and over again.
It's important for everyone to strengthen themselves on their weak points. If you value your peace of mind, avoid being overly curious and listening to gossip; someone who is too eager to know everything creates more problems for themselves because a person doesn't feel what they don't know. If you're constantly eavesdropping on private conversations or what others say about you, you'll never find peace. How many harmless things become hurtful just because of misunderstandings! Therefore, there are some things we should think about, others we should laugh at, and still others we should forgive. Or, if we can't shake off the feeling of being wronged, we should at least keep it to ourselves, which can be done, as shown by many who have hidden their anger under greater fears. It's wise not to believe anything until we're absolutely sure, as many seemingly likely things turn out to be false, and the truth will become clear in time. We tend to believe things we want to hear, leading us to jump to conclusions and harbor prejudices before we can truly judge. Never judge a friend without hearing them out or without knowing who accused them and what the accusation is. It's common to say, "Don't tell that you got this from me; if you do, I will deny it and never share anything with you again," which can lead friends to argue and allows the informant to escape responsibility. Don't accept stories under these conditions, because it's unfair to believe something in private and then express anger publicly. Anyone who turns to guessing and speculation risks a lot; suspicion always requires some basis for it, so without honesty, openness, and making the best out of everything, living among others becomes difficult. Some things that upset us we hear about second-hand, while others we witness ourselves. In the first case, don't be too gullible: some people create stories to deceive us; others just repeat what they hear and are misled themselves; some take pleasure in causing trouble, while others do it just to gain thanks; some would separate the closest friends, while others enjoy causing chaos from a distance. For minor issues, I would want witnesses; but for more serious matters, I would require an oath, allow time for the accused to prepare, and seek counsel, and I would listen to everything multiple times.
In those cases where we ourselves are witnesses, we should take into consideration all the circumstances. If a child, it was ignorance: if a woman, a mistake: if done by command a necessity; if a man be injured, it is but quod pro quo: if a judge, he knows what he does: if a prince, I must submit; either if guilty, to justice, or if innocent, to fortune: if a brute, I make myself one by imitating it: if a calamity or disease, my best relief is patience: if providence, it is both impious and vain to be angry at it: if a good man, I will make the best of it: if a365 bad, I will never wonder at it. Nor is it only by tales and stories that we are inflamed, but suspicions, countenances, nay, a look or a smile, is enough to blow us up. In these cases, let us suspend our displeasure, and plead the cause of the absent. “Perhaps he is innocent; or, if not, I have time to consider of it and may take my revenge at leisure:” but when it is once executed it is not to be recalled. A jealous head is apt to take that to himself which was never meant him. Let us therefore trust to nothing but what we see, and chide ourselves where we are over-credulous. By this course we shall not be so easily imposed upon, nor put to trouble ourselves about things not worth the while: as the loitering of a servant upon an errand, and the tumbling of a bed, or the spilling of a glass of drink.
In cases where we are witnesses ourselves, we should consider all the circumstances. If it’s a child, it’s ignorance: if it’s a woman, a mistake: if done by command, a necessity; if a man is harmed, it’s just quod pro quo: if a judge, he knows what he’s doing: if a prince, I must submit; either if guilty, to justice, or if innocent, to fortune: if a brute, I make myself one by imitating it: if it’s a calamity or disease, my best relief is patience: if it’s providence, it’s both impious and vain to be angry about it: if a good person, I’ll make the best of it: if a bad one, I’ll never wonder at it. And it’s not only through tales and stories that we get stirred up, but suspicions, expressions, even a look or a smile, is enough to set us off. In these situations, let’s hold back our displeasure and advocate for those who are absent. “Maybe he’s innocent; or, if not, I have time to think about it and can take my revenge later:” but once it’s done, it can’t be undone. A jealous mind tends to take things personally that were never meant for them. So let’s trust only what we see, and criticize ourselves when we’re too gullible. By doing this, we won’t be easily tricked or worry ourselves over things that aren’t worth it, like a servant dawdling on an errand, a messed-up bed, or a spilled drink.
It is a madness to be disordered at these fooleries; we consider the thing done, and not the doer of it. “It may be he did it unwillingly, or by chance. It was a trick put upon him, or he was forced to it. He did it for reward perhaps, not hatred; nor of his own accord, but he was urged on to it.” Nay, some regard must be had to the age of the person, or to fortune; and we must consult humanity and candor in the case. One does me a great mischief at unawares; another does me a very small one by design, or peradventure none at all, but intended me one. The latter was more in fault, but I will be angry with neither. We must distinguish betwixt what a man cannot do and what he will not. “It is true he has once offended me; but how often has he pleased me! He has offended me often, and in other kinds; and why should not I bear it as well now as I have done?” Is he my friend? why then, “It was against his will.” Is he my enemy? It is “no more than I366 looked for.” Let us give way to wise men, and not squabble with fools; and say thus to ourselves, “We have all of us our errors.” No man is so circumspect, so considerate, or so fearful of offending, but he has much to answer for.
It's crazy to get worked up over these foolish things; we focus on the act itself, not the person who did it. “Maybe he did it unwillingly or by accident. He could have been tricked, or forced into it. Perhaps he did it for a reward, not out of hatred; maybe it wasn’t his choice, but he was pushed into it.” We should also consider the person’s age or circumstances; we need to approach this with kindness and understanding. One person causes me great harm without realizing it; another harms me with intent, or maybe they didn't mean to harm me at all but had the intention. The second person is more at fault, but I won’t be angry with either. We need to differentiate between what someone can’t do and what someone won’t do. “Sure, he has offended me once, but how many times has he made me happy? He has upset me many times in different ways; so why should I not put up with it just like I have before?” Is he my friend? Then, “It was against his will.” Is he my enemy? That’s “no more than I expected.” Let’s listen to wise people and not argue with fools; let’s remind ourselves, “We all make mistakes.” No one is so careful, considerate, or afraid of offending that they don’t have a lot to answer for.
A generous prisoner cannot immediately comply with all the sordid and laborious offices of a slave. A footman that is not breathed cannot keep pace with his master’s horse. He that is over-watched may be allowed to be drowsy. All these things are to be weighed before we give any ear to the first impulse. If it be my duty to love my country, I must be kind also to my countrymen; if a veneration be due to the whole, so is a piety also to the parts: and it is the common interest to preserve them. We are all members of one body, and it is as natural to help one another as for the hands to help the feet, or the eyes the hands. Without the love and care of the parts, the whole can never be preserved, and we must spare one another because we are born for society, which cannot be maintained without a regard to particulars. Let this be a rule to us, never to deny a pardon, that does no hurt either to the giver or receiver. That may be well enough in one which is ill in another; and therefore we are not to condemn anything that is common to a nation; for custom defends it. But much more pardonable are those things which are common to mankind.
A generous prisoner can't immediately fulfill all the dirty and hard tasks of a slave. A servant who’s not fit can’t keep up with his master’s horse. Someone who’s been watched too closely might be allowed to feel sleepy. All of these factors need to be considered before we act on our first impulse. If I have a duty to love my country, I also have to be kind to my fellow citizens; if respect is owed to the whole, then so is care for its parts: preserving them is in our common interest. We are all part of one body, and it’s as natural for us to help each other as it is for hands to assist feet, or eyes to aid hands. Without the love and care of individual parts, the whole can’t be preserved, and we must support one another because we are made for society, which can’t thrive without paying attention to specifics. Let this be our guiding principle: never deny a pardon that doesn’t harm either the giver or the receiver. What’s acceptable in one situation may be wrong in another; therefore, we shouldn’t judge anything that’s common to a nation, as tradition protects it. But those things that are universal to humanity are even more deserving of forgiveness.
It is a kind of spiteful comfort, that whoever does me an injury may receive one; and that there is a power over him that is above me. A man should stand as firm against all indignities as a rock does against the waves. As it is some satisfaction to a man in a mean condition that there is no security in a more prosperous; and as the loss of a son in a cor367ner is borne with more patience upon the sight of a funeral carried out of a palace; so are injuries and contempts the more tolerable from a meaner person, when we consider, that the greatest men and fortunes are not exempt. The wisest also of mortals have their failings, and no man living is without the same excuse. The difference is, that we do not all of us transgress the same way; but we are obliged in humanity to bear one with another.
It's somewhat of a spiteful comfort that anyone who wrongs me can also be wronged, and that there's a power over them that's greater than me. A person should stand as solid against all insults as a rock stands against the waves. Just as it brings some satisfaction to someone in a low position to know there's no real safety in being more successful, and as the loss of a son in a lowly setting is more bearable when witnessing a funeral from a palace, so too are insults and disrespect more tolerable when they come from someone less important, since we realize that even the greatest people and fortunes aren't immune. Even the wisest among us have their faults, and no one alive can escape the same justification. The difference is that we don't all make the same mistakes; but as human beings, we must support one another.
We should, every one of us, bethink ourselves, how remiss we have been in our duties, how immodest in our discourses, how intemperate in our cups; and why not, as well, how extravagant we have been in our passions? Let us clear ourselves of this evil, purge our minds, and utterly root out all those vices, which upon leaving the least sting, will grow again and recover. We must think of everything, expect everything, that we may not be surprised. It is a shame, says Fabius, for a commander to excuse himself by saying, “I was not aware of it.”
We should all reflect on how careless we've been in our responsibilities, how inappropriate we've been in our conversations, how excessive we've been with our drinking; and why not also consider how indulgent we've been in our emotions? Let’s rid ourselves of this negativity, cleanse our minds, and completely eliminate those vices, because even the slightest remnant will regrow and return. We need to anticipate everything so we won’t be caught off guard. It’s a shame, as Fabius points out, for a leader to excuse themselves by saying, “I didn’t know.”
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CHAPTER XI.
TAKE NOTHING ILL FROM ANOTHER MAN, UNTIL YOU HAVE
MADE IT YOUR OWN CASE.
It is not prudent to deny a pardon to any man, without first examining if we stand not in need of it ourselves; for it may be our lot to ask it, even at his feet to whom we refuse it. But we are willing enough to do what we are very unwilling to suffer. It is unreasonable to charge public vices upon particular persons; for we are all of us wicked, and that which we blame in others we find in ourselves. It is not a paleness in one, or a leanness in another, but a pestilence that has laid hold upon all.
It's not wise to deny someone a pardon without first considering whether we might need one ourselves; we might find ourselves asking for it, even from the person we refuse. We're quick to do what we don't want to experience ourselves. It's unfair to blame individual people for issues in society; we all have our flaws, and what we criticize in others often exists in us too. It's not just one person's weakness or another's frailty, but a widespread problem that affects everyone.
It is a wicked world, and we make part of it; and the way to be quiet is to bear one with another. “Such a man,” we cry, “has done me a shrewd turn, and I never did him any hurt.” Well, but it may be I have mischieved other people, or at least, I may live to do as much to him as that comes to. “Such a one has spoken ill things of me;” but if I first speak ill of him, as I do of many others, this is not an injury, but a repayment. What if he did overshoot himself? He was loth to lose his conceit perhaps, but there was no malice in it; and if he had not done me a mischief, he must have done himself one. How many good offices are there that look369 like injuries! Nay, how many have been reconciled and good friends after a professed hatred!
It's a tough world, and we’re a part of it; and the way to find peace is to support each other. “That guy,” we exclaim, “has done me wrong, and I've never hurt him.” But maybe I've harmed others, or at some point, I might end up doing the same to him. “Such-and-such has said bad things about me;” but if I’ve spoken badly about him first, like I do with many others, that’s not a wrong, but a payback. What if he messed up? He probably didn't want to lose his pride, but there wasn’t any real malice in it; and if he didn’t harm me, then he must have harmed himself. How many good deeds appear to be injuries! In fact, how many people have reconciled and become good friends after openly hating each other!
Before we lay anything to heart, let us ask ourselves if we have not done the same thing to others. But where shall we find an equal judge? He that loves another man’s wife (only because she is another’s) will not suffer his own to be so much looked upon. No man is so fierce against calumny as the evil speaker; none so strict exactors of modesty in a servant as those that are most prodigal of their own. We carry our neighbors’ crimes in sight, and we throw our own over our shoulders. The intemperance of a bad son is chastised by a worse father; and the luxury that we punish in others, we allow to ourselves. The tyrant exclaims against homicide; and sacrilege against theft. We are angry with the persons, but not with the faults.
Before we take anything to heart, let’s ask ourselves if we've done the same to others. But where will we find a fair judge? The man who loves another guy’s wife (just because she belongs to someone else) won't let his own wife be looked at. No one is as fierce against slander as the one who spreads it; no one demands modesty from their servants more strictly than those who are the most reckless with their own behavior. We keep our neighbors' wrongdoings in plain sight while hiding our own. The bad behavior of a wayward son is punished by an even worse father; the excess we criticize in others, we permit in ourselves. The tyrant condemns murder while being sacrilegious about theft. We get angry at the people, not the issues.
Some things there are that cannot hurt us, and others will not; as good magistrates, parents, tutors, judges; whose reproof or correction we are to take as we do abstinence, bleeding, and other uneasy things, which we are the better for, in which cases, we are not so much to reckon upon what we suffer as upon what we have done. “I take it ill,” says one; and, “I have done nothing,” says another: when, at the same time, we make it worse, by adding arrogance and contumacy to our first error. We cry out presently, “What law have we transgressed?” As if the letter of the law were the sum of our duty, and that piety, humanity, liberality, justice, and faith, were things beside our business. No, no; the rule of human duty is of a greater latitude; and we have many obligations upon us that are not to be found in the statute-books. And yet we fall short of the exactness event of that legal370 innocency. We have intended one thing and done another; wherein only the want of success has kept us from being criminals. This very thing, methinks, should make us more favorable to delinquents, and to forgive not only ourselves, but the gods too; of whom we seem to have harder thoughts in taking that to be a particular evil directed to us, that befalls us only by the common law of mortality. In fine, no man living can absolve himself to his conscience, though to the world, perhaps, he may. It is true, that we are also condemned to pains and diseases, and to death too, which is no more than the quitting of the soul’s house. But why should any man complain of bondage, that, wheresoever he looks, has his way open to liberty? That precipice, that sea, that river, that well, there is freedom in the bottom of it. It hangs upon every crooked bow; and not only a man’s throat, or his heart, but every vein in his body, opens a passage to it.
Some things can't hurt us, while others won’t; like good magistrates, parents, tutors, and judges, whose criticism or correction we should accept like we do with discomforts like fasting, bleeding, and other tough situations that ultimately benefit us. In these cases, we shouldn't focus so much on what we endure as on what we've done. “I feel wronged,” says one person; “I haven’t done anything,” says another. Yet, at the same time, we make our situation worse by adding arrogance and stubbornness to our initial mistake. We immediately shout, “What law have we broken?” as if the written law were the entirety of our responsibilities, and that concepts like piety, humanity, generosity, justice, and faith are irrelevant to our obligations. No, the rules of human duty are broader; we have many obligations that aren’t in the statute-books. Still, we often fail to meet even the strict requirements of legal370 innocence. We may have intended one thing but ended up doing another; in this case, it’s only the lack of success that prevents us from being seen as wrongdoers. This idea, I think, should lead us to be more understanding towards offenders and to forgive not just ourselves but also the gods, who we tend to blame for particular hardships that occur due to the common rules of mortality. In the end, no living person can fully clear their conscience, although they might be able to do so in the eyes of the world. It’s true that we are also subjected to pain, sickness, and death, which is merely leaving the body behind. But why should anyone complain about being bound, when, wherever they look, there is a path to freedom? That cliff, that sea, that river, that well—all hold the promise of freedom at their depths. It lies within every twisted branch; and not just a man’s throat or heart, but every vein in his body opens a way to it.
To conclude, where my proper virtue fails me, I will have recourse to examples, and say to myself, Am I greater than Philip or Augustus, who both of them put up with greater reproaches? Many have pardoned their enemies, and shall not I forgive a neglect, a little freedom of the tongue? Nay, the patience but of a second thought does the business: for though the first shock be violent; take it in parts, and it is subdued. And, to wind up all in one word, the great lesson of mankind, as well in this as in all other cases, is, “to do as we would be done by.”
To wrap things up, when I fail to act with virtue, I remind myself of examples and ask, Am I better than Philip or Augustus, who endured greater insults? Many have forgiven their enemies, so why shouldn’t I overlook some neglect or a little freedom of speech? In fact, just taking a moment to consider makes a difference: even though the initial impact might be harsh, if you break it down, it becomes manageable. And to sum it all up in one phrase, the important lesson for humanity, in this and in all situations, is “treat others as we want to be treated.”
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CHAPTER XII.
OF CRUELTY.
There is so near an affinity betwixt anger and cruelty, that many people confound them; as if cruelty were only the execution of anger in the payment of a revenge: which holds in some cases, but not in others. There are a sort of men that take delight in the spilling of human blood, and in the death of those that never did them any injury, nor were ever so much suspected for it; as Apollodorus, Phalaris, Sinis, Procrustus, and others, that burnt men alive; whom we cannot so properly call angry as brutal, for anger does necessarily presuppose an injury, either done, or conceived, or feared, but the other takes pleasure in tormenting, without so much as pretending any provocation to it, and kills merely for killing sake. The original of this cruelty perhaps was anger, which by frequent exercise and custom, has lost all sense of humanity and mercy, and they that are thus affected are so far from the countenance and appearance of men in anger, that they will laugh, rejoice, and entertain themselves with the most horrid spectacles, as racks, jails, gibbets, several sorts of chains and punishments, dilaceration of members, stigmatizing, and wild beasts, with other exquisite inventions of torture; and yet, at last the cruelty itself is more horrid and odious than372 the means by which it works. It is a bestial madness to love mischief; beside, that it is womanish to rage and tear. A generous beast will scorn to do it when he has any thing at his mercy. It is a vice for wolves and tigers, and no less abominable to the world than dangerous to itself.
There’s such a close connection between anger and cruelty that many people mix them up; as if cruelty were just the execution of anger out of a desire for revenge: which is true in some cases but not in others. There are some people who take pleasure in spilling human blood and in the deaths of those who have never wronged them, nor were ever suspected of doing so; like Apollodorus, Phalaris, Sinis, Procrustes, and others who burned people alive; we can’t really call them angry but rather brutal, because anger usually requires some sort of injury—either done, imagined, or feared—while the latter takes pleasure in torturing without any hint of provocation and kills just for the sake of killing. The source of this cruelty might have been anger, which, through constant exercise and habit, has lost all sense of humanity and mercy. Those who are thus affected are so far removed from the demeanor and appearance of people in anger that they will laugh, rejoice, and entertain themselves with the most horrifying sights, like racks, jails, gibbets, various kinds of chains and punishments, mutilation of body parts, branding, and wild beasts, along with other complex methods of torture; and yet, ultimately, the cruelty itself is more horrific and repulsive than372 the means by which it’s carried out. It’s a savage madness to love chaos; besides, it’s weak to rage and tear at others. A noble beast would refuse to do so when it has something at its mercy. It’s a vice for wolves and tigers, and is just as noxious to the world as it is dangerous to itself.
The Romans had their morning and their meridian spectacles. In the former, they had their combats of men with wild beasts; and in the latter, the men fought one with another. “I went,” says our author, “the other day to the meridian spectacles, in hope of meeting somewhat of mirth and diversion to sweeten the humors of those that had been entertained with blood in the morning; but it proved otherwise, for, compared with this inhumanity, the former was a mercy. The whole business was only murder upon murder: the combatants fought naked, and every blow was a wound. They do not contend for victory, but for death; and he that kills one man is to be killed by another. By wounds they are forced upon wounds which they take and give upon their bare breasts. Burn that rogue, they cry What! Is he afraid of his flesh? Do but see how sneakingly that rascal dies. Look to yourselves, my masters, and consider of it: who knows but this may come to be your own case?” Wicked examples seldom fail of coming home at last to the authors. To destroy a single man may be dangerous; but to murder whole nations is only a more glorious wickedness. Private avarice and rigor are condemned, but oppression, when it comes to be authorized by an act of state, and to be publicly commanded, though particularly forbidden, becomes a point of dignity and honor. What a shame is it for men to interworry one another, when yet the fiercest373 even of beasts are at peace with those of their own kind? This brutal fury puts philosophy itself to a stand. The drunkard, the glutton, the covetous, may be reduced; nay, and the mischief of it is that no vice keeps itself within its proper bounds. Luxury runs into avarice, and when the reverence of virtue is extinguished, men will stick at nothing that carries profit along with it; man’s blood is shed in wantonness—his death is a spectacle for entertainment, and his groans are music. When Alexander delivered up Lysimachus to a lion, how glad would he have been to have had nails and teeth to have devoured him himself: it would have too much derogated, he thought, from the dignity of his wrath, to have appointed a man for the execution of his friend. Private cruelties, it is true, cannot do much mischief, but in princes they are a war against mankind.
The Romans had their morning and afternoon spectacles. In the morning, they watched men battle wild beasts; and in the afternoon, the men fought each other. “I recently went to the afternoon spectacles, hoping to find some fun and entertainment to lighten the mood of those who had just witnessed bloodshed in the morning; but it turned out to be the opposite, because, in comparison to that brutality, the morning was a mercy. It was just murder after murder: the fighters were bare-skinned, and every hit was a wound. They don't fight for victory, but for death; the one who kills another will face death themselves. The injuries force them into more injuries, as they take and give wounds to each other’s bare chests. “Burn that scoundrel!” they shout. “What! Is he scared of getting hurt? Look at how that coward dies.” Pay attention, my friends, and think about it: who knows, this might be your fate one day?” Terrible examples often come back to haunt their creators. Killing a single person can be risky; but slaughtering entire nations is just a more glorious form of wickedness. Individual greed and harshness are criticized, but oppression that is endorsed by the government and publicly ordered, even if it’s privately forbidden, becomes a matter of dignity and honor. It’s shameful for humans to harm one another when even the fiercest 373 beasts are at peace with their own kind. This brutal rage stuns philosophy itself. The drunkard, the glutton, the greedy can be managed; yet the problem is that no vice stays within its limits. Luxury turns into greed, and when the respect for virtue is gone, people will stop at nothing for profit; human blood is spilled for pleasure—death becomes entertainment, and groans become music. When Alexander handed over Lysimachus to a lion, how pleased would he have been to have had the chance to tear him apart himself; it would have been beneath his dignity to have someone else execute his friend. While private cruelties may not cause much damage, in the hands of rulers, they become a war against all humanity.
C. Cæsar would commonly, for exercise and pleasure, put senators and Roman knights to the torture; and whip several of them like slaves, or put them to death with the most acute torments, merely for the satisfaction of his cruelty. That Cæsar that “wished the people of Rome had but one neck, that he might cut it off at one blow;”—it was the employment, the study, and the joy of his life. He would not so much as give the expiring leave to groan, but caused their mouths to be stopped with sponges, or for want of them, with rags of their own clothes, that they might not breathe out so much as their last agonies at liberty; or, perhaps, lest the tormented should speak something which the tormentor had no mind to hear. Nay, he was so impatient of delay, that he would frequently rise from supper to have men killed by torch-light, as if his life and374 death had depended upon their dispatch before the next morning; to say nothing how many fathers were put to death in the same night with their sons (which was a kind of mercy in the prevention of their mourning). And was not Sylla’s cruelty prodigious too, which was only stopped for want of enemies? He caused seven thousand citizens of Rome to be slaughtered at once; and some of the senators being startled at their cries that were heard in the senate-house, “Let us mind our business,” says Sylla; “this is nothing but a few mutineers that I have ordered to be sent out of the way.” A glorious spectacle! says Hannibal, when he saw the trenches flowing with human blood; and if the rivers had run blood too, he would have liked it so much the better.
C. Caesar would often, for exercise and entertainment, torture senators and Roman knights; he would whip several of them like slaves or execute them with the most extreme pain, just for the sake of his cruelty. That same Caesar who “wished the people of Rome had just one neck, so he could cut it off with a single blow”—his life's work, his study, and his pleasure. He wouldn’t even let the dying groan, instead stopping their mouths with sponges or, when those weren’t available, with rags from their own clothes, so they couldn’t even release their last gasps freely; or, perhaps, to prevent the tortured from saying something the tormentor didn’t want to hear. In fact, he was so anxious about delays that he would often get up from dinner to have men executed by torchlight, as if his own life depended on getting them out of the way before morning; not to mention how many fathers were killed the same night as their sons (which was a kind of mercy by preventing their grief). And wasn't Sulla's cruelty incredible too, only halted by a lack of enemies? He had seven thousand citizens of Rome killed at once, and when some senators were disturbed by the sounds of their cries in the senate-house, Sulla said, “Let’s focus on our business; this is just a few mutineers I’ve had removed.” A glorious spectacle! said Hannibal when he saw the trenches filled with human blood; and if the rivers had also run with blood, he would have liked it even more.
Among the famous and detestable speeches that are committed to memory, I know none worse than that impudent and tyrannical maxim, “Let them hate me, so they fear me;” not considering that those that are kept in obedience by fear, are both malicious and mercenary, and only wait for an opportunity to change their master. Beside that, whosoever is terrible to others is likewise afraid of himself. What is more ordinary than for a tyrant to be destroyed by his own guards? which is no more than the putting those crimes into practice which they learned of their masters. How many slaves have revenged themselves of their cruel oppressors, though they were sure to die for it! but when it comes once to a popular tyranny, whole nations conspire against it. For “whosoever threatens all, is in danger of all,” over and above, that the cruelty of the prince increases the number of his enemies, by destroying some of them; for it375 entails an hereditary hatred upon the friends and relations of those that are taken away. And then it has this misfortune, that a man must be wicked upon necessity; for there is no going back; so that he must betake himself to arms, and yet he lives in fear. He can neither trust to the faith of his friends, nor to the piety of his children; he both dreads death and wishes it; and becomes a greater terror to himself than he is to his people. Nay, if there were nothing else to make cruelty detestable, it were enough that it passes all bounds, both of custom and humanity; and is followed upon the heel with sword or poison. A private malice indeed does not move whole cities; but that which extends to all is every body’s mark. One sick person gives no great disturbance in a family; but when it comes to a depopulating plague, all people fly from it. And why should a prince expect any man to be good whom he has taught to be wicked?
Among the well-known and despised sayings that people memorize, I know none worse than that bold and tyrannical saying, “Let them hate me, so they fear me.” It fails to consider that those who are kept in line by fear are both spiteful and self-serving, just waiting for a chance to switch their loyalty. Additionally, anyone who instills terror in others is also scared themselves. How common is it for a tyrant to be brought down by their own guards? This is simply them acting out the wrongs they learned from their masters. Many slaves have gotten revenge on their cruel oppressors, even knowing they would likely die for it! But when it comes to a popular tyranny, entire nations band together against it. After all, “whoever threatens everyone is at risk from everyone.” Moreover, the cruelty of a ruler increases the number of their enemies by eliminating some; this creates an lasting hatred among the friends and families of those who have been harmed. And then there’s the unfortunate reality that a person must be wicked out of necessity; once they go down that path, there’s no turning back. So they must resort to violence, all while living in fear. They can trust neither the loyalty of their friends nor the morals of their children; they both fear death and long for it, becoming a greater source of terror for themselves than they are for their people. If nothing else made cruelty repugnant, it would be enough that it exceeds all limits of decency and humanity, often followed by sword or poison. Personal malice may not disrupt entire cities, but that which affects everyone is a target for all. A single sick person doesn’t cause a big disturbance in a household; however, when it’s a depopulating plague, everyone flees. So why should a ruler expect anyone to be good when they have taught them to be wicked?
But what if it were safe to be cruel? Were it not still a sad thing, the very state of such a government? A government that bears the image of a taken city, where there is nothing but sorrow, trouble, and confusion. Men dare not so much as trust themselves with their friends or with their pleasures. There is not any entertainment so innocent but it affords pretence of crime and danger. People are betrayed at their tables and in their cups, and drawn from the very theatre to the prison. How horrid a madness is it to be still raging and killing; to have the rattling of chains always in our ears; bloody spectacles before our eyes; and to carry terror and dismay wherever we go! If we had lions and serpents, to rule over us, this would be the manner of their government, saving that they agree bet376ter among themselves. It passes for a mark of greatness to burn cities, and lay whole kingdoms waste; nor is it for the honor of a prince, to appoint this or that single man to be killed, unless they have whole troops, or (sometimes) legions, to work upon. But it is not the spoils of war and bloody trophies that make a prince glorious, but the divine power of preserving unity and peace. Ruin without distinction is more properly the business of a general deluge, or a conflagration. Neither does a fierce and inexorable anger become the supreme magistrate; “Greatness of mind is always meek and humble; but cruelty is a note and an effect of weakness, and brings down a governor to the level of a competitor.”
But what if it were safe to be cruel? Isn’t it still a sad thing, the very state of such a government? A government that reflects the image of a captured city, where there’s nothing but sorrow, trouble, and confusion. People don’t dare trust even their friends or enjoy their pleasures. There’s no entertainment so innocent that it doesn’t carry a hint of crime and danger. People are betrayed at their tables and while drinking, and pulled from the very theater to the prison. How horrific is it to be constantly raging and killing; to hear the rattling of chains all the time; to see bloody spectacles before our eyes; and to spread terror and dismay wherever we go! If we had lions and snakes ruling us, this would be their type of government, except they might get along better among themselves. It’s seen as a sign of greatness to burn down cities and lay whole kingdoms to waste; and it’s not considered honorable for a prince to order the death of a single person unless they have whole troops or (sometimes) legions to do it. But it’s not the spoils of war and bloody trophies that make a prince glorious, but the divine power of maintaining unity and peace. Destruction without distinction is more like the work of a general flood or a conflagration. A fierce and unyielding anger doesn’t fit a supreme magistrate; “Greatness of mind is always meek and humble; but cruelty is a sign of weakness and brings a governor down to the level of a rival.”
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SENECA OF CLEMENCY.
The humanity and excellence of this virtue is confessed at all hands, as well by the men of pleasure, and those that think every man was made for himself, as by the Stoics, that make “man a sociable creature, and born for the common good of mankind:” for it is of all dispositions the most peaceable and quiet. But before we enter any farther upon the discourse, it should be first known what clemency is, that we may distinguish it from pity; which is a weakness, though many times mistaken for a virtue: and the next thing will be, to bring the mind to the habit and exercise of it.
The value and greatness of this quality are acknowledged by everyone, from those who pursue pleasure and believe that each person is meant to look out for themselves, to the Stoics, who view “man as a social being, created for the common good of humanity.” It is the most *peaceful* and *calm* of all traits. Before we go any further in this discussion, we should first clarify what *clemency* is so we can differentiate it from *pity*, which is a *weakness* often mistaken for a *virtue*. The next step will be to cultivate the *habit* and *practice* of it.
“Clemency is a favorable disposition of the mind, in the matter of inflicting punishment; or, a moderation that remits somewhat of the penalty incurred; as pardon is the total remission of a deserved punishment.” We must be careful not to confound clemency with pity; for as religion worships God, and superstition profanes that worship; so should we distinguish betwixt clemency and pity; practicing the one, and avoiding the other. For pity proceeds from a narrowness of mind, that respects rather the fortune than the cause. It is a kind of moral sick378ness, contracted from other people’s misfortune: such another weakness as laughing or yawning for company, or as that of sick eyes that cannot look upon others that are bleared without dropping themselves. I will give a shipwrecked man a plank, a lodging to a stranger, or a piece of money to him that wants it: I will dry up the tears of my friend, yet I will not weep with him, but treat him with constancy and humanity, as one man ought to treat another.
"Clemency is a favorable attitude toward punishing others; it’s a moderation that lessens the penalty owed. In contrast, pardon is the complete cancellation of a deserved punishment.” We need to be careful not to confuse clemency with pity; just as religion worships God while superstition profanes that worship, we should distinguish between clemency and pity; practicing the one and avoiding the other. Pity comes from a narrowness of mind, focusing more on the fortune than the cause. It’s a kind of moral sickness that arises from the misfortune of others—similar to the way people might laugh or yawn just because others are doing it, or how those with eye problems can’t look at others with similar issues without tearing up themselves. I will offer a shipwrecked person a plank, give a place to stay to a stranger, or provide money to someone in need; I will comfort my friend’s tears, but I won’t cry with him; instead, I’ll treat him with steadiness and kindness, just like one man should treat another.
It is objected by some, that clemency is an insignificant virtue; and that only the bad are the better for it, for the good have no need of it. But in the first place, as physic is in use only among the sick, and yet in honor with the sound, so the innocent have a reverence for clemency, though criminals are properly the objects of it. And then again, a man may be innocent, and yet have occasion for it too; for by the accidents of fortune, or the condition of times, virtue itself may come to be in danger. Consider the most populous city or nation; what a solitude would it be if none should be left there but those that could stand the test of a severe justice! We should have neither judges nor accusers; none either to grant a pardon or to ask it. More or less, we are all sinners; and he that has best purged his conscience, was brought by errors to repentance. And it is farther profitable to mankind; for many delinquents come to be converted. There is a tenderness to be used even toward our slaves, and those that we have bought with our money: how much more then to free and to honest men, that are rather under our protection than dominion! Not that I would have it so general neither as not to distinguish betwixt the good and the bad; for that would379 introduce a confusion, and give a kind of encouragement to wickedness. It must therefore have a respect to the quality of the offender, and separate the curable from the desperate; for it is an equal cruelty to pardon all and to pardon none. Where the matter is in balance, let mercy turn the scale: if all wicked men should be punished, who should escape?
Some people argue that clemency is a minor virtue and that only the bad benefit from it, since the good don’t need it. However, just like medicine is only for the sick but still respected by the healthy, innocent people hold clemency in high regard, even though it rightfully applies to criminals. Additionally, an innocent person might also need clemency; due to life's twists or the state of society, even virtue can be at risk. Think about the most populated city or nation; it would become a ghost town if only those who can handle strict justice remained! We wouldn't have judges or accusers, nor anyone to grant or request a pardon. We're all sinners to some degree, and the person who has best cleansed their conscience got there through mistakes that led to repentance. Clemency also benefits society, as many wrongdoers can change for the better. We should show compassion, even to our slaves and those we've bought; how much more should we extend it to free and honest people who are more under our protection than our control! But I’m not suggesting it should be so broad that it fails to distinguish between good and bad, as that would create confusion and encourage wrongdoing. It’s crucial to consider the nature of the offender and separate those who can be rehabilitated from the irredeemable, since both pardoning everyone and pardoning no one is equally cruel. In uncertain situations, let mercy weigh in: if all wicked people were punished, who would be left?
Though mercy and gentleness of nature keeps all in peace and tranquillity, even in a cottage; yet it is much more beneficial and conspicuous in a palace. Private men in their condition are likewise private in their virtues and in their vices; but the words and the actions of princes are the subject of public rumor; and therefore they had need have a care, what occasion they give people for discourse, of whom people will be always a talking. There is the government of a prince over his people, a father over his children, a master over his scholars, an officer over his soldiers. He is an unnatural father, that for every trifle beats his children. Who is the better master, he that rages over his scholars for but missing a word in a lesson, or he that tries, by admonition and fair words, to instruct and reform them? An outrageous officer makes his men run from their colors. A skilful rider brings his horse to obedience by mingling fair means with foul; whereas to be perpetually switching and spurring, makes him vicious and jadish: and shall we not have more care of men than of beasts? It breaks the hope of generous inclinations, when they are depressed by servility and terror. There is no creature so hard to be pleased with ill usage as man.
Though kindness and a gentle nature keep everyone peaceful and calm, even in a cottage, it's even more effective and visible in a palace. Regular people are private in their conditions, just as they are in their virtues and vices; however, the words and actions of princes are the focus of public rumor. Therefore, they need to be careful about the situations they create for people to talk about, since people will always have something to say. There is the government of a prince over his people, a father over his children, a master over his students, and an officer over his soldiers. An unnatural father punishes his children for every little thing. Who is the better master: the one who loses his temper over a missed word in a lesson, or the one who uses encouragement and kind words to teach and guide them? A harsh officer drives his men away, while a skilled rider gains his horse's obedience through a mix of gentle and firm methods; constantly whipping and spurring only makes them rebellious and stubborn. Shouldn’t we care more about men than about beasts? It crushes the hope of noble intentions when they are dampened by fear and oppression. No creature is harder to please when treated poorly than a human.
Clemency does well with all but best with princes; for it makes their power comfortable and beneficial, which would otherwise be the pest of mankind. It380 establishes their greatness, when they make the good of the public their particular care, and employ their power for the safety of the people. The prince, in effect, is but the soul of the community, as the community is only the body of the prince; so that being merciful to others, he is tender of himself: nor is any man so mean but his master feels the loss of him, as a part of his empire: and he takes care not only of the lives of his people, but also of their reputation. Now, giving for granted that all virtues are in themselves equal, it will not yet be denied, that they may be more beneficial to mankind in one person than in another. A beggar may be as magnanimous as a king: for what can be greater or braver than to baffle ill fortune? This does not hinder but that a man in authority and plenty has more matter for his generosity to work upon than a private person; and it is also more taken notice of upon the bench than upon the level.
Clemency works well with everyone but best with rulers; because it makes their power comfortable and useful, which would otherwise be a curse to humanity. It380 establishes their greatness when they focus on the public good and use their power for the safety of the people. The ruler, in reality, is just the soul of the community, while the community is merely the body of the ruler; thus, being merciful to others means he cares for himself: and no one is so insignificant that his master doesn’t feel the loss of him, as it impacts his realm: he looks after not just the lives of his people but also their reputation. Now, assuming all virtues are equally valuable in themselves, it can still be acknowledged that they may benefit humanity more in one person than in another. A beggar can be as noble as a king: for what could be greater or braver than to overcome bad luck? This doesn’t change the fact that someone in authority and wealth has more opportunities for generosity than a private individual; and it is also noticed more from a position of power than from a common level.
When a gracious prince shows himself to his people, they do not fly from him as from a tiger that rouses himself out of his den, but they worship him as a benevolent influence; they secure him against all conspiracies, and interpose their bodies betwixt him and danger. They guard him while he sleeps, and defend him in the field against his enemies. Nor is it without reason, this unanimous agreement in love and loyalty, and this heroical zeal of abandoning themselves for the safety of their prince; but it is as well the interest of the people. In the breath of a prince there is life and death; and his sentence stands good, right or wrong. If he be angry, nobody dares advise him; and if he does amiss, who shall call him to account? Now, for him that has so much mischief in his power, and yet ap381plies that power to the common utility and comfort of his people, diffusing also clemency and goodness into their hearts too, what can be a greater blessing to mankind than such a prince? Any man may kill another against the law, but only a prince can save him so. Let him so deal with his own subjects as he desires God should deal with him. If Heaven should be inexorable to sinners, and destroy all without mercy, what flesh could be safe?
When a kind prince shows himself to his people, they don’t run away from him like they're fleeing from a tiger coming out of its den; instead, they honor him as a positive force. They protect him from all conspiracies, putting themselves between him and danger. They watch over him while he sleeps and defend him in battle against his enemies. This shared commitment to love and loyalty, along with their willingness to sacrifice for the safety of their prince, isn't without reason; it also serves the people's interests. The prince holds the power of life and death; his decisions are final, whether they're right or wrong. If he is angry, no one dares to advise him, and if he makes a mistake, who will hold him accountable? Now, for someone who wields so much power for ill but instead uses it for the common good and well-being of his people, spreading kindness and compassion into their hearts, what could be a greater blessing to humanity than such a prince? Any person can kill another against the law, but only a prince can save him from that fate. He should treat his subjects as he wishes God would treat him. If Heaven were unyielding to sinners and punished everyone without mercy, what chance would anyone have to be safe?
But as the faults of great men are not presently punished with thunder from above, let them have a like regard to their inferiors here upon earth. He that has revenge in his power, and does not use it, is the great man. Which is the more beautiful and agreeable state, that of a calm, a temperate, and a clear day; or that of lightning, thunder, and tempests? and this is the very difference betwixt a moderate and turbulent government. It is for low and vulgar spirits to brawl, storm, and transport themselves: but it is not for the majesty of a prince to lash out into intemperance of words. Some will think it rather slavery than empire to be debarred liberty of speech: and what if it be, when government itself is but a more illustrious servitude?
But since the faults of great people aren’t currently punished with divine retribution, they should show the same consideration for their inferiors here on earth. The one who has the power for revenge but chooses not to use it is the truly great person. Which is more beautiful and pleasing: a calm, temperate, and clear day, or one filled with lightning, thunder, and storms? This reflects the difference between a moderate and a chaotic government. It’s the nature of low and common people to argue, rage, and lose their tempers; but it’s not fitting for the dignity of a prince to unleash outbursts of anger. Some might view being denied the freedom of speech as more like servitude than rule; and what if it is, when government itself is simply a more distinguished form of servitude?
He that uses his power as he should, takes as much delight in making it comfortable to his people as glorious to himself. He is affable and easy of access; his very countenance makes him the joy of his people’s eyes, and the delight of mankind. He is beloved, defended, and reverenced by all his subjects; and men speak as well of him in private as in public. He is safe without guards, and the sword is rather his ornament than his defence. In his duty, he is like that of a good father, that sometimes gently reproves a son, sometimes threatens him;382 nay, and perhaps corrects him: but no father in his right wits will disinherit a son for the first fault; there must be many and great offences, and only desperate consequences, that should bring him to that decretory resolution. He will make many experiments to try if he can reclaim him first, and nothing but the utmost despair must put him upon extremities.
A leader who uses their power wisely takes as much pleasure in making life comfortable for their people as in achieving personal glory. They are approachable and easy to talk to; their very presence brings joy to the eyes of their people and happiness to humanity. They are loved, protected, and respected by all their subjects, and people speak well of them both privately and publicly. They are safe without guards, and their sword is more of an ornament than a means of defense. In their role, they are like a good father who sometimes gently scolds a son, sometimes threatens him; indeed, they may even correct him. But no father in their right mind would disown a son for a first mistake; it takes many serious offenses and only desperate outcomes to reach that final decision. They will make many attempts to see if they can steer him back on track, and only in extreme despair should they resort to drastic measures.
It is not flattery that calls a prince the father of his country; the titles of great and august are matter of compliment and of honor; but in calling him father, we mind him of that moderation and indulgence which he owes to his children. His subjects are his members; where, if there must be an amputation, let him come slowly to it; and when the part is cut off, let him wish it were on again: let him grieve in the doing of it. He that passes a sentence hastily, looks as if he did it willingly; and then there is an injustice in the excess.
It's not flattery that refers to a prince as the father of his country; the titles of great and august are just compliments and honors. Calling him father reminds him of the moderation and care he owes to his people. His subjects are like his family; if he has to make a tough decision, he should take his time with it. And when a part of his people is removed, he should wish it could be restored and feel sorrow in the process. A ruler who makes decisions hastily seems to do so willingly, which leads to injustice in the overreach.
It is a glorious contemplation for a prince, first to consider the vast multitudes of his people, whose seditious, divided, and impotent passions, would cast all in confusion, and destroy themselves, and public order too, if the hand of government did not restrain them; and thence to pass the examination of his conscience, saying thus to himself, “It is by the choice of Providence that I am here made God’s deputy upon earth, the arbitrator of life and death; and that upon my breath depends the fortune of my people. My lips are the oracles of their fate, and upon them hangs the destiny both of cities and of men. It is under my favor that people seek either for prosperity or protection: thousands of swords are drawn or sheathed at my pleasure. What towns shall be advanced or destroyed; who shall be383 slaves, or who free, depends upon my will; and yet, in this arbitrary power of acting without control, I was never transported to do any cruel thing, either by anger or hot blood in myself or by the contumacy, rashness, or provocations of other men; though sufficient to turn mercy itself into fury. I was never moved by the odious vanity of making myself terrible by my power, (that accursed, though common humor of ostentation and glory that haunts imperious natures.) My sword has not only been buried in the scabbard, but in a manner bound to the peace, and tender even of the cheapest blood: and where I find no other motive to compassion, humanity itself is sufficient. I have been always slow to severity, and prone to forgive; and under as strict a guard to observe the laws as if I were accountable for the breaking of them. Some I pardoned for their youth, others for their age. I spare one man for his dignity, another for his humility; and when I find no other matter to work upon, I spare myself. So that if God should at this instant call me to an account, the whole world agree to witness for me, that I have not by any force, either public or private, either by myself or by any other, defrauded the commonwealth; and the reputation that I have ever sought for has been that which few princes have obtained, the conscience of my proper innocence. And I have not lost my labor neither; for no man was ever so dear to another, as I have made myself to the whole body of my people.” Under such a prince the subjects have nothing to wish for beyond what they enjoy; their fears are quieted, and their prayers heard, and there is nothing can make their felicity greater, unless to make384 it perpetual; and there is no liberty denied to the people but that of destroying one another.
It’s an amazing thought for a prince to consider the large number of his people, whose rebellious, divided, and powerless emotions could throw everything into chaos, leading to their own downfall and the disruption of public order, if the government didn’t keep them in check. He should then reflect on his conscience, saying to himself, “It’s by the will of Providence that I’m here as God’s representative on earth, the one who decides life and death; my words determine the fate of my people. My lips are the guides to their destiny, and both cities and individuals depend on them. It’s under my protection that people seek either fortune or safety: thousands of swords are drawn or put away at my command. Which towns will thrive or be destroyed; who will be enslaved or who will be free, all rests on my decision; and yet, even with this complete power to act freely, I’ve never been moved to commit any cruel act, either by my own anger or impulsiveness, or by the defiance, rashness, or provocations of others, even when it would have been easy to let rage take over. I’ve never been tempted by the ugly desire to instill fear with my power, that cursed yet common trait of boasting and seeking glory that often plagues powerful people. My sword has not only been kept in its sheath, but it’s also been tied to peace, even valuing the lives of the least among us: and where I don’t have any other reason for compassion, just being human is enough. I've always been slow to punish and quick to forgive; observing the laws as if I were responsible for breaking them. Some I’ve pardoned for their youth, others for their old age. I spare one person for their status, another for their humility; and when I find no other reason to act, I spare myself. So if God were to call me to account right now, the whole world would testify that I haven't undermined the common good, either by force, public or private, by myself or anyone else; and the reputation I've always sought is one that's rare among princes—the awareness of my own innocence. And my efforts have not been in vain; for no one has ever been as dear to another as I've made myself to the whole body of my people.” Under such a prince, the subjects have everything they could wish for; their fears are calmed, their prayers answered, and there’s nothing that could increase their happiness, except to make it last forever; and the only freedom denied to the people is the freedom to destroy one another.
It is the interest of the people, by the consent of all nations, to run all hazards for the safety of their prince, and by a thousand deaths to redeem that one life, upon which so many millions depend. Does not the whole body serve the mind, though only the one is exposed to the eye and the other not, but thin and invisible, the very seat of it being uncertain? Yet the hands, feet, and eyes, observe the motions of it. We lie down, run about and ramble, as that commands us. If we be covetous, we fish the seas and ransack the earth for treasure: if ambitious, we burn our own flesh with Scævola; we cast ourselves into the gulf with Curtius: so would that vast multitude of people, which is animated but with one soul, governed by one spirit, and moved by one reason, destroy itself with its own strength, if it were not supported by wisdom and government. Wherefore, it is for their own security that the people expose their lives for their prince, as the very bond that ties the republic together; the vital spirit of so many thousands, which would be nothing else but a burden and prey without a governor.
It's in the people's interest, with everyone's agreement, to take any risks necessary for the safety of their leader, valuing that one life that so many millions rely on. Doesn't the whole body work for the mind, even if only the body is visible while the mind is thin and invisible, with its very location unclear? Yet our hands, feet, and eyes respond to its commands. We lie down, run around, and wander as directed. If we're greedy, we search the seas and scour the earth for treasure; if we're ambitious, we endure great pain like Scaevola or throw ourselves into the chasm like Curtius; so would that vast group of people, driven by one soul, guided by a single spirit, and motivated by one reason, end up destroying themselves with their own might, if not for the support of wisdom and governance. Therefore, it's for their own safety that the people risk their lives for their leader, as this is the bond that holds the republic together; it's the essential spirit of so many thousands, which would otherwise just be a burden and a target without a leader.
When this union comes once to be dissolved, all falls to pieces; for empire and obedience must stand and fall together. It is no wonder then if a prince be dear to his people, when the community is wrapt up in him, and the good of both as inseparable as the body and the head; the one for strength, and the other for counsel; for what signifies the force of the body without the direction of the understanding? While the prince watches, his people sleep; his labor keeps them at ease, and his business keeps them quiet. The natural intent of monarchy appears even385 from the very discipline of bees: they assign to their master the fairest lodgings, the safest place; and his office is only to see that the rest perform their duties. When their king is lost, the whole swarm dissolve: more than one they will not admit; and then they contend who shall have the best. They are of all creatures the fiercest for their bigness; and leave their stings behind them in their quarrels; only the king himself has none, intimating that kings should neither be vindictive nor cruel.
When this union is ultimately dissolved, everything falls apart; for power and obedience rise and fall together. It’s not surprising that a ruler is cherished by their people when the community is intertwined with them, and the well-being of both is as inseparable as the body and the head; one provides strength, and the other offers guidance; because what good is the might of the body without the direction of the mind? While the ruler is alert, the people are at rest; their hard work keeps them comfortable, and their tasks keep them calm. The natural purpose of monarchy can even be seen in the behavior of bees: they give their leader the best living spaces and the safest spots; their job is simply to ensure that everyone else fulfills their roles. When their king is lost, the entire hive falls apart: they won’t accept more than one, and then they argue over who gets to be the best. They are among the fiercest creatures for their size, and they leave their stingers behind in their fights; only the king himself has none, suggesting that rulers should neither be vengeful nor cruel.
Is it not a shame, after such an example of moderation in these creatures, that men should be yet intemperate? It were well if they lost their stings too in their revenge, as well as the other, that they might hurt but once, and do no mischief by their proxies. It would tire them out, if either they were to execute all with their own hands, or to wound others at the peril of their own lives.
Isn't it a shame, after such a display of self-control in these beings, that humans still lack restraint? It would be best if they also lost their venom in their quest for revenge, just like the other, so they could only harm once and not create chaos through others. It would wear them out if they either had to carry out everything themselves or injure others at the risk of their own lives.
A prince should behave himself generously in the power which God has given him of life and death, especially towards those that have been at any time his equals; for the one has his revenge, and the other his punishment in it. He that stands indebted for his life has lost it; but he that receives his life at the foot of his enemy, lives to the honor of his preserver: he lives the lasting monument of his virtue; whereas, if he had been led in triumph, the spectacle would have been quickly over. Or what if he should restore him to his kingdom again? would it not be an ample accession to his honor to show that he found nothing about the conquered that was worthy of the conqueror? There is nothing more venerable than a prince that does not revenge an injury. He that is gracious is beloved and reverenced as a common father; but a tyrant stands in fear and in386 danger even of his own guards. No prince can be safe himself of whom all others are afraid; for to spare none is to enrage all. It is an error to imagine that any man can be secure that suffers nobody else to be so too. How can any man endure to lead an uneasy, suspicious, anxious life, when he may be safe if he please, and enjoy all the blessings of power, together with the prayers of his people? Clemency protects a prince without a guard; there is no need of troops, castles, or fortifications: security on the one side is the condition of security on the other; and the affections of the subject are the most invincible fortress. What can be fairer, than for a prince to live the object of his people’s love; to have the vows of their heart as well as of their lips, and his health and sickness their common hopes and fears? There will be no danger of plots; nay, on the contrary, who would not frankly venture his blood to save him, under whose government, justice, peace, modesty, and dignity flourish? under whose influence men grow rich and happy; and whom men look upon with such veneration, as they would do upon the immortal gods, if they were capable of seeing them? And as the true representative of the Almighty they consider him, when he is gracious and bountiful, and employs his power to the advantage of his subjects.
A prince should act generously with the power that God has granted him over life and death, especially toward those who have been his equals at any time; for one seeks revenge, and the other seeks punishment through it. The one who owes his life has essentially lost it; but the one who receives his life at the hands of his enemy lives in honor of his savior: he becomes a lasting symbol of virtue; whereas, if he had been led in triumph, the show would have been over quickly. What if he restored him to his kingdom? Wouldn't it enhance his honor to show that he found nothing in the conquered that was worthy of the conqueror? There is nothing more admirable than a prince who does not seek revenge for an injury. He who is gracious is loved and respected like a father to his people; but a tyrant lives in fear of his own guards. No prince can feel secure if everyone else fears him; to show no mercy is to anger everyone. It's a mistake to think that anyone can be safe by ensuring that nobody else is. How can anyone tolerate a life full of unease, suspicion, and anxiety when he could be safe, enjoying all the blessings of power along with the goodwill of his people? Mercy protects a prince without any guards; there’s no need for troops, castles, or fortifications: one side's security depends on the other; and the loyalty of the subjects is the strongest fortress. What could be better than for a prince to be the beloved of his people; to have their heartfelt vows as well as their spoken words, and to share in their hopes and fears regarding his health and illness? There will be no risk of conspiracies; on the contrary, who wouldn’t readily risk his life to save the one under whose rule justice, peace, modesty, and dignity thrive? Under whose influence people become wealthy and happy; and whom people regard with such reverence as if they were immortal gods, if only they could see them? As the true representative of the Almighty, he is viewed this way when he is gracious and generous, using his power for the benefit of his subjects.
When a prince proceeds to punishment, it must be either to vindicate himself or others. It is a hard matter to govern himself in his own case. If a man should advise him not to be credulous, but to examine matters, and indulge the innocent, this is rather a point of justice than of clemency: but in case that he be manifestly injured, I would have him forgive, where he may safely do it: and be ten387der even where he cannot forgive; but far more exorable in his own case, however, than in another’s.
When a prince decides to punish someone, it should be to protect himself or others. It's difficult for him to be objective in his own situation. If someone tells him not to be gullible, but to look into things and show mercy to the innocent, that's more about justice than kindness. However, if he has clearly been wronged, I would suggest he should forgive when it's safe to do so, and be ten387der even when he cannot forgive; but he should be more lenient in his own case than in someone else's.
It is nothing to be free of another man’s purse, and it is as little to be merciful in another man’s cause. He is the great man that masters his passion where he is stung himself, and pardons when he might destroy. The end of punishment is either to comfort the party injured, or to secure him for the future. A prince’s fortune is above the need of such a comfort, and his power is too eminent to seek an advance of reputation by doing a private man a mischief. This I speak in case of an affront from those that are below us; but he that of an equal has made any man his inferior, has his revenge in the bringing of him down. A prince has been killed by a servant, destroyed by a serpent: but whosoever preserves a man must be greater than the person that he preserves. With citizens, strangers, and people of low condition, a prince is not to contend, for they are beneath him: he may spare some out of good will, and others as he would do some little creatures that a man cannot touch without fouling his fingers: but for those that are to be pardoned or exposed to public punishment, he may use mercy as he sees occasion; and a generous mind can never want inducements and motives to it; and whether it be age or sex, high or low, nothing comes amiss.
It means nothing to be free from someone else's wallet, and it's just as little to show mercy in someone else's situation. The truly great person is the one who controls their emotions when they’re personally hurt and forgives instead of seeking revenge. The purpose of punishment is either to comfort the person who has been wronged or to protect them in the future. A prince's status is so high that he doesn’t need to seek comfort from punishing someone else, and his power is too significant to gain a better reputation by harming an ordinary person. I'm talking about cases where someone lower in status affronts us; however, if someone of equal status brings another down, they can find their revenge in that act. A prince has been killed by a servant and destroyed by a serpent: but whoever saves a person must be greater than the person they save. A prince should not engage with citizens, strangers, or people of lower status, as they are beneath him: he can choose to spare some out of kindness, just as one might let small creatures be without touching them. But for those who deserve mercy or public punishment, he can show mercy as he sees fit; a generous heart will always find reasons and motivations for it, and whether it be age or gender, high or low, nothing is inappropriate.
To pass now to the vindication of others, there must be had a regard either to the amendment of the person punished, or the making others better for fear of punishment, or the taking the offender out of the way for the security of others. An amendment may be procured by a small punishment, for he lives more carefully that has something yet to lose—it is a kind of impunity to be incapable of a farther388 punishment. The corruptions of a city are best cured by a few and sparing severities; for the multitude of offenders creates a custom of offending, and company authorizes a crime, and there is more good to be done upon a dissolute age by patience than by rigor; provided that it pass not for an approbation of ill-manners, but only as an unwillingness to proceed to extremities. Under a merciful prince, a man will be ashamed to offend, because a punishment that is inflicted by a gentle governor seems to fall heavier and with more reproach: and it is remarkable also, that “those sins are often committed which are very often punished.” Caligula, in five years, condemned more people to the sack than ever were before him: and there were “fewer parricides before the law against them than after;” for our ancestors did wisely presume that the crime would never be committed, until by law for punishing it, they found that it might be done. Parricides began with the law against them, and the punishment instructed men in the crime. Where there are few punishments, innocency is indulged as a public good, and it is a dangerous thing to show a city how strong it is in delinquents. There is a certain contumacy in the nature of man that makes him oppose difficulties. We are better to follow than to drive; as a generous horse rides best with an easy bit. People obey willingly where they are commanded kindly.
To move on to defending others, we need to consider either improving the person being punished, encouraging others to do better out of fear of punishment, or removing the offender for the safety of everyone else. A minor punishment can lead to improvement because someone who still has something to lose will behave more carefully—it's a sort of impunity to be incapable of facing a further388 punishment. The issues in a city are best resolved with a few measured severities; a large number of offenders creates a habit of offending, and being in a group normalizes crime. There’s more good to be done in a dissolute age through patience than through rigor; as long as it doesn't come off as an approval of bad behavior, but rather a reluctance to escalate to extreme measures. Under a merciful ruler, a person feels ashamed to offend because a punishment from a gentle governor feels heavier and more shaming. It's also notable that “sins that are often punished tend to be committed frequently.” Caligula, in five years, condemned more people to the sack than anyone before him: and there were “fewer parricides before the law against them than after;” because our ancestors wisely assumed that the crime wouldn’t occur until a law for punishing it proved that it could happen. Parricides started with the law against them, and the punishment taught people about the crime. Where punishments are rare, innocence is treated as a public good, and it’s risky to showcase how plentiful delinquents are in a city. There's a certain stubbornness in human nature that leads people to resist difficulties. We’re better off following than pushing; like a spirited horse that responds best to a gentle bit. People obey willingly when they are commanded kindly.
When Burrhus the prefect was to sentence two malefactors, he brought the warrant to Nero to sign; who, after a long reluctancy came to it at last with this exclamation: “I would I could not write!” A speech that deserved the whole world for an auditory, but all princes especially; and that the hearts389 of all the subjects would conform to the likeness of their masters. As the head is well or ill, so is the mind dull or merry. What is the difference betwixt a king and a tyrant, but a diversity of will under one and the same power. The one destroys for his pleasure, the other upon necessity; a distinction rather in fact than in name.
When Burrhus the prefect was about to sentence two criminals, he brought the warrant to Nero for him to sign; after hesitating for a long time, he finally exclaimed, “I wish I couldn’t write!” A statement that deserved to be heard by the whole world, especially by all rulers; and that the hearts of all subjects would reflect the nature of their leaders. Just as the head is strong or weak, so is the mind either dull or cheerful. What’s the difference between a king and a tyrant, but a difference in will under the same power? One destroys for pleasure, while the other does so out of necessity; a distinction more in practice than in name.
A gracious prince is armed as well as a tyrant; but it is for the defence of his people and not for the ruin of them. No king can ever have faithful servants that accustoms them to tortures and executions; the very guilty themselves do not lead so anxious a life as the persecutors: for they are not only afraid of justice, both divine and human, but it is dangerous for them to mend their manners; so that when they are once in, they must continue to be wicked upon necessity. An universal hatred unites in a popular rage. A temperate fear may be kept in order; but when it comes once to be continual and sharp, it provokes people to extremities, and transports them to desperate resolutions, as wild beasts when they are pressed upon the toil, turn back and assault the very pursuers. A turbulent government is a perpetual trouble both to prince and people; and he that is a terror to all others is not without terror also himself. Frequent punishments and revenges may suppress the hatred of a few, but then it stirs up the detestation of all, so that there is no destroying one enemy without making many. It is good to master the will of being cruel, even while there may be cause for it, and matter to work upon.
A gracious prince is just as armed as a tyrant; however, his purpose is to protect his people, not to destroy them. No king can have loyal servants if he subjects them to torture and executions; even the guilty live with less anxiety than their persecutors. They fear justice—both divine and human—and it's risky for them to change their ways, so once they start down a dark path, they often feel they must keep being wicked out of necessity. A widespread hatred fosters a collective rage. A measured fear can be managed, but when it becomes constant and intense, it drives people to extreme measures, much like wild animals cornered in a trap who turn and attack their pursuers. A chaotic government causes ongoing distress for both the prince and the people, and someone who terrifies others will also be haunted by their own fears. Regular punishments and revenge might quiet the anger of a few, but they only increase the resentment of many, meaning that eliminating one enemy often creates multiple others. It's wise to control the desire to be cruel, even when there's justification and opportunity for it.
Augustus was a gracious prince when he had the power in his own hand; but in the triumviracy he made use of his sword, and had his friends ready390 armed to set upon Antony during that dispute. But he behaved himself afterwards at another rate; for when he was betwixt forty and fifty years of age he was told that Cinna was in a plot to murder him, with the time, place and manner of the design; and this from one of the confederates. Upon this he resolved upon a revenge, and sent for several of his friends to advise upon it. The thought of it kept him waking, to consider, that there was the life of a young nobleman in the case, the nephew of Pompey, and a person otherwise innocent. He was off and on several times whether he should put him to death or not. “What!” says he, “shall I live in trouble and in danger myself, and the contriver of my death walk free and secure? Will nothing serve him but that life which Providence has preserved in so many civil wars—in so many battles both by sea and land; and now in the state of an universal peace too—and not a simple murder either, but a sacrifice; for I am to be assaulted at the very altar—and shall the contriver of all this villainy escape unpunished?” Here Augustus made a little pause, and then recollecting himself: “No, no, Cæsar,” says he, “it is rather Cæsar than Cinna that I am to be angry with: why do I myself live any longer after that my death is become the interest of so many people? And if I go on, what end will there be of blood and of punishment? If it be against my life that the nobility arm itself, and level its weapons, my single life is not worth the while, if so many must be destroyed that I may be preserved.”
Augustus was a gracious leader when he had power in his own hands, but during the triumviracy, he wielded his sword and had his friends ready to attack Antony during that dispute. However, he acted differently afterwards; when he was between forty and fifty years old, he was informed that Cinna was plotting to murder him, including the time, place, and method of the plan, relayed by one of the conspirators. Upon hearing this, he decided to seek revenge and called several friends to discuss it. The thought troubled him at night, as he considered that a young nobleman's life was on the line, the nephew of Pompey, and an otherwise innocent person. He went back and forth several times on whether he should kill him or not. “What!” he exclaimed, “Should I continue to live in fear and danger while the mastermind behind my death walks free and secure? Is nothing enough for him but the life that Providence has preserved amidst so many civil wars—in so many battles at sea and on land; and now, in a state of universal peace, too—and not just a simple murder, but a sacrifice; for I am to be attacked at the very altar—and should the architect of all this villainy escape unpunished?” Here, Augustus paused for a moment, then collected his thoughts: “No, no, Cæsar,” he said, “I should be more angry with Cinna than with anyone else: why should I keep living when my death has become advantageous to so many people? And if I proceed, what will be the end of all this bloodshed and punishment? If the nobility are arming themselves against me, then my life isn’t worth it if it means so many others must be destroyed to keep me safe.”
His wife Livia gave him here an interruption, and desired him that he would for once hear a woman’s counsel. “Do,” says she, “like a physician, that when common remedies fail, will try the contrary:391 you have got nothing hitherto by severity—after Salvidianus there followed Lepidus—after him Muræna—Cæpio followed him, and Egnatius followed Cæpio—try now what mercy will do—forgive Cinna. He is discovered, and can do no hurt to your person; and it will yet advantage you in your reputation.” Augustus was glad of the advice, and he gave thanks for it; and thereupon countermanded the meeting of his friends, and ordered Cinna to be brought to him alone; for whom he caused a chair to be set, and then discharged the rest of the company. “Cinna,” says Augustus, “before I go any farther, you must promise not to give me the interruption of one syllable until I have told you all I have to say, and you shall have liberty afterwards to say what you please. You cannot forget, that when I found you in arms against me, and not only made my enemy, but born so, I gave you your life and fortune. Upon your petition for the priesthood, I granted it, with a repulse to the sons of those that had been my fellow-soldiers; and you are at this day so happy and so rich, that even the conquerors envy him that is overcome; and yet after all this, you are in a plot, Cinna, to murder me.” At that word Cinna started, and interposed with exclamations, “that certainly he was far from being either so wicked or so mad.” “This is a breach of conditions, Cinna,” says Augustus, “it is not your time to speak yet: I tell you again, that you are in a plot to murder me;” and so he told him the time, the place, the confederates, the order and manner of the design, and who it was that was to do the deed. Cinna, upon this, fixed his eye upon the ground without any reply: not for his word’s sake, but as in a confusion of conscience: and so Augustus went on.392 “What,” says he, “may your design be in all this? Is it that you would pretend to step into my place? The commonwealth were in an ill condition, if only Augustus were in the way betwixt you and the government. You were cast the other day in a cause by one of your own freemen, and do you expect to find a weaker adversary of Cæsar? But what if I were removed? There is Æmilius Paulus, Fabius Maximus, and twenty other families of great blood and interest, that would never bear it.” To cut off the story short; (for it was a discourse of above two hours; and Augustus lengthened the punishment in words, since he intended that should be all;) “Well, Cinna,” says he, “the life that I gave to you once as an enemy, I will now repeat it to a traitor and to a parricide, and this shall be the last reproach I will give you. For the time to come there shall be no other contention betwixt you and me, than which shall outdo the other in point of friendship.” After this Augustus made Cinna consul, (an honor which he confessed he durst not so much as desire) and Cinna was ever affectionately faithful to him: he made Cæsar his sole heir; and this was the last conspiracy that ever was formed against him.
His wife Livia interrupted him and asked him to listen to a woman's advice for once. "Just like a doctor who tries something different when usual treatments fail," she said, "you haven’t gained anything through harshness—after Salvidianus came Lepidus, then Muræna, followed by Cæpio, and Egnatius came after Cæpio. Now try what mercy can achieve—pardon Cinna. He has been exposed and can’t harm you anymore; it will also benefit your reputation." Augustus appreciated the advice, thanked her, and then canceled the meeting with his friends, asking for Cinna to be brought to him alone. He had a chair set up for Cinna and dismissed the others. “Cinna,” Augustus said, “before I continue, you need to promise you won’t interrupt me until I've finished speaking, and then you can say whatever you want. You can't forget that when I found you in arms against me—you weren’t just my enemy, you were born as one—I spared your life and your fortune. When you asked for the priesthood, I granted it, even turning down the sons of my fellow-soldiers. You’re now so fortunate and wealthy that even those who conquer envy you, yet after all of this, you’re involved in a plot to kill me.” At this, Cinna gasped and protested, insisting he was neither wicked nor mad. “You're breaking the rules, Cinna,” Augustus replied, “it’s not your turn to speak yet: I’ll say it again, you’re in a plot to kill me.” He then explained the time, place, accomplices, the plan, and who was supposed to carry out the act. Cinna looked down at the ground, unable to respond, not out of his words, but out of a guilty conscience, as Augustus continued. “What do you intend with all this? Are you trying to take my place? The state would be in bad shape if only Augustus stood between you and control. You were just judged by one of your own citizens; do you really think you’d find an easier opponent than Caesar? And if I were gone, what then? There's Æmilius Paulus, Fabius Maximus, and countless other prominent families who would never allow it.” To shorten the story (since it lasted over two hours, with Augustus extending the punishment in words as that was his intent), “Well, Cinna,” he concluded, “the life I once granted you as an enemy, I now grant to a traitor and a murderer, and this will be the last reproach I make against you. From now on, our only competition will be to see who can be the better friend.” After this, Augustus appointed Cinna as consul (an honor he admitted he didn’t even dare to ask for), and Cinna remained loyally devoted to him. He made Caesar his sole heir, and this was the last conspiracy ever plotted against him.
This moderation of Augustus was the excellency of his mature age; for in his youth he was passionate and sudden; and he did many things which afterward he looked back upon with trouble: after the battle of Actium, so many navies broken in Sicily, both Roman and strangers: the Perusian altars, where 300 lives were sacrificed to the ghost of Julius; his frequent proscriptions, and other severities; his temperance at last seemed to be little more than a weary cruelty. If he had not forgiven those that he393 conquered, whom should he have governed? He chose his very life-guard from among his enemies, and the flower of the Romans owed their lives to his clemency. Nay, he only punished Lepidus himself with banishment, and permitted him to wear the ensigns of his dignity, without taking the pontificate to himself so long as Lepidus was living; for he would not possess it as a spoil, but as an honor. This clemency it was that secured him in his greatness, and ingratiated him to the people, though he laid his hand upon the government before they had thoroughly submitted to the yoke; and this clemency it was that made his name famous to posterity. This is it that makes us reckon him divine without the authority of an apotheosis. He was so tender and patient, that though many a bitter jest was broken upon him, (and contumelies upon princes are the most intolerable of all injuries) yet he never punished any man upon that subject. It is, then, generous to be merciful, when we have it in our power to take revenge.
Augustus's moderation was the highlight of his later years; in his youth, he was impulsive and intense, doing many things he later regretted. After the battle of Actium, he saw countless navies shattered in Sicily, both Roman and foreign. The altars at Perusia, where 300 lives were sacrificed to Julius's memory; his frequent proscriptions and other harsh measures; in the end, his temperance seemed more like a weary cruelty. If he hadn't forgiven those he conquered, who would he have governed? He even chose his personal guard from among his enemies, and the elite of Rome owed their lives to his mercy. He only punished Lepidus with banishment, allowing him to keep the symbols of his rank, without taking the pontificate for himself as long as Lepidus lived, because he wanted it as an honor, not as a prize. This mercy helped him maintain his greatness and win the people's favor, even though he took control before they fully submitted. It’s this kindness that made his name renowned for future generations. This is what leads us to consider him divine without needing the formal recognition of an apotheosis. He was so gentle and patient that even when he was the target of bitter jokes (insults against leaders are among the most intolerable), he never punished anyone for it. It is, indeed, noble to show mercy when we have the power to seek revenge.
A son of Titus Arius, being examined and found guilty of parricide, was banished Rome, and confined to Marseilles, where his father allowed him the same annuity that he had before; which made all people conclude him guilty, when they saw that his father had yet condemned the son that he could not hate. Augustus was pleased to sit upon the fact in the house of Arius, only as a single member of the council that was to examine it: if it had been in Cæsar’s palace, the judgment must have been Cæsar’s and not the father’s. Upon a full hearing of the matter, Cæsar directed that every man should write his opinion whether guilty or not, and without declaring of his own, for fear of a partial vote.394 Before the opening of the books, Cæsar passed an oath, that he would not be Arius’s heir: and to show that he had no interest in his sentence, as appeared afterward; for he was not condemned to the ordinary punishments of parricides, nor to a prison, but, by the mediation of Cæsar, only banished Rome, and confined to the place which his father should name; Augustus insisting upon it, that the father should content himself with an easy punishment: and arguing that the young man was not moved to the attempt by malice, and that he was but half resolved upon the fact, for he wavered in it; and, therefore, to remove him from the city, and from his father’s sight, would be sufficient. This is a glorious mercy, and worthy of a prince, to make all things gentler wherever he comes.
A son of Titus Arius was examined and found guilty of parricide, so he was banished from Rome and sent to Marseilles, where his father continued to give him the same allowance he had before. This led everyone to believe he was guilty when they saw that his father had still condemned the son he couldn't hate. Augustus was willing to sit on the case in the house of Arius, just as a member of the council that was to evaluate it: if it had been in Caesar’s palace, the judgment would have been Caesar’s and not the father’s. After thoroughly hearing the case, Caesar ordered that everyone write down their opinion on whether he was guilty or not, without expressing his own to avoid bias. Before reviewing the documents, Caesar took an oath that he wouldn't be Arius’s heir, showing he had no personal stake in the verdict, which later became clear; the son was not subjected to the usual punishments for parricides, nor was he imprisoned, but through Caesar's intervention, he was merely banished from Rome and confined to a place his father would choose. Augustus insisted that the father accept a mild punishment, arguing that the young man wasn’t driven by malice and that he was only half-hearted in his actions, as he wavered. Therefore, just removing him from the city and his father’s presence would suffice. This is a remarkable act of mercy, befitting a prince, to make everything gentler wherever he goes.
How miserable is that man in himself, who, when he has employed his power in rapines and cruelty upon others, is yet more unhappy in himself! He stands in fear both of his domestics and of strangers; the faith of his friends and the piety of his children, and flies to actual violence to secure him from the violence he fears. When he comes to look about him, and to consider what he has done, what he must, and what he is about to do; what with the wickedness, and with the torments of his conscience, many times he fears death, oftener he wishes for it; and lives more odious to himself than to his subjects; whereas on the contrary, he that takes a care of the public, though of one part more perhaps than of another, yet there is not any part of it but he looks upon as part of himself. His mind is tender and gentle; and even where punishment is necessary and profitable, he comes to it unwillingly, and without any rancor or enmity in his heart. Let the395 authority, in fine, be what it will, clemency becomes it; and the greater the power, the greater is the glory of it. “It is a truly royal virtue for a prince to deliver his people from other men’s anger, and not to oppress them with his own.”
How miserable is that man who, after using his power to harm and exploit others, is even more unhappy within himself! He lives in fear of both his household and strangers; he doubts the loyalty of his friends and the goodness of his children, and resorts to actual violence to protect himself from the violence he fears. When he takes a moment to reflect on what he has done, what he must do, and what he is about to do, the wickedness he has committed and the torment of his conscience often make him fear death, and he wishes for it even more frequently; he feels more detestable to himself than to his subjects. In contrast, the one who cares for the public, even if he favors one part over another, still sees every part as a part of himself. His mindset is compassionate and gentle; even when punishment is necessary and beneficial, he approaches it reluctantly and without any bitterness or resentment. Ultimately, regardless of the authority he possesses, mercy enhances it; and the greater the power, the greater the glory of showing mercy. “It is a truly royal virtue for a prince to protect his people from the anger of others, not to burden them with his own.”
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