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The Majesty of Calmness
Individual Problems and Possibilities...
by
by
William George Jordan
Author of "The Kingship of Self-Control"
Contents
- The Majesty of Calmness
- Hurry, the Scourge of America
- The Power of Personal Influence
- The Dignity of Self-Reliance
- Failure as a Success
- Doing Our Best at All Times
- The Royal Road to Happiness
I
The Majesty of Calmness
Calmness is the rarest quality in human life. It is the poise of a great nature, in harmony with itself and its ideals. It is the moral atmosphere of a life self-centred, self-reliant, and self-controlled. Calmness is singleness of purpose, absolute confidence, and conscious power,--ready to be focused in an instant to meet any crisis.
Calmness is the rarest quality in human life. It is the composure of a great nature, in harmony with itself and its ideals. It is the moral atmosphere of a life that is self-centered, self-reliant, and self-controlled. Calmness is having a single purpose, complete confidence, and aware strength—ready to be focused in an instant to tackle any crisis.
The Sphinx is not a true type of calmness,--petrifaction is not calmness; it is death, the silencing of all the energies; while no one lives his life more fully, more intensely and more consciously than the man who is calm.
The Sphinx isn't a real form of calm; petrifaction isn't calmness; it's death, the stopping of all energies. Meanwhile, no one lives his life more fully, more intensely, and more consciously than the person who is calm.
The Fatalist is not calm. He is the coward slave of his environment, hopelessly surrendering to his present condition, recklessly indifferent to his future. He accepts his life as a rudderless ship, drifting on the ocean of time. He has no compass, no chart, no known port to which he is sailing. His self-confessed inferiority to all nature is shown in his existence of constant surrender. It is not,--calmness.
The Fatalist is not at peace. He is a cowardly slave to his surroundings, hopelessly giving in to his current situation, and carelessly indifferent to his future. He views his life as a rudderless ship, drifting on the sea of time. He has no direction, no map, and no destination in sight. His admitted inferiority to all of nature is evident in his constant state of giving up. It's not calmness.
The man who is calm has his course in life clearly marked on his chart. His hand is ever on the helm. Storm, fog, night, tempest, danger, hidden reefs,--he is ever prepared and ready for them. He is made calm and serene by the realization that in these crises of his voyage he needs a clear mind and a cool head; that he has naught to do but to do each day the best he can by the light he has; that he will never flinch nor falter for a moment; that, though he may have to tack and leave his course for a time, he will never drift, he will get back into the true channel, he will keep ever headed toward his harbor. When he will reach it, how he will reach it, matters not to him. He rests in calmness, knowing he has done his best. If his best seem to be overthrown or overruled, then he must still bow his head,--in calmness. To no man is permitted to know the future of his life, the finality. God commits to man ever only new beginnings, new wisdom, and new days to use the best of his knowledge.
The man who stays calm has his path in life clearly laid out. He always has his hand on the wheel. Storms, fog, night, tempests, danger, and hidden obstacles—he’s always ready for them. His calmness comes from understanding that during these challenging times, he needs a clear mind and a steady focus; all he has to do is give his best each day with the knowledge he has; he won’t hesitate or waver for a second; even if he needs to change direction for a while, he will never lose his way, he’ll return to the right path, and he’ll always be headed toward his destination. When he will arrive, how he will get there, doesn’t matter to him. He finds peace in knowing he has given his all. If his best efforts seem to be undone or disregarded, he must still keep his head up—in tranquility. No one is allowed to know the future of their life, the ending. God only grants humans new beginnings, new insights, and new days to make the most of their knowledge.
Calmness comes ever from within. It is the peace and restfulness of the depths of our nature. The fury of storm and of wind agitate only the surface of the sea; they can penetrate only two or three hundred feet,--below that is the calm, unruffled deep. To be ready for the great crises of life we must learn serenity in our daily living. Calmness is the crown of self-control.
Calmness always comes from within. It’s the peace and restfulness found in our true nature. The fury of storms and winds only stirs up the surface of the sea; they can only reach a couple hundred feet down--beneath that lies the calm, undisturbed depths. To be prepared for life's major challenges, we need to cultivate serenity in our everyday lives. Calmness is the ultimate form of self-control.
When the worries and cares of the day fret you, and begin to wear upon you, and you chafe under the friction,--be calm. Stop, rest for a moment, and let calmness and peace assert themselves. If you let these irritating outside influences get the better of you, you are confessing your inferiority to them, by permitting them to dominate you. Study the disturbing elements, each by itself, bring all the will power of your nature to bear upon them, and you will find that they will, one by one, melt into nothingness, like vapors fading before the sun. The glow of calmness that will then pervade your mind, the tingling sensation of an inflow of new strength, may be to you the beginning of the revelation of the supreme calmness that is possible for you. Then, in some great hour of your life, when you stand face to face with some awful trial, when the structure of your ambition and life-work crumbles in a moment, you will be brave. You can then fold your arms calmly, look out undismayed and undaunted upon the ashes of your hope, upon the wreck of what you have faithfully built, and with brave heart and unfaltering voice you may say: "So let it be,--I will build again."
When the worries and stresses of the day weigh you down and start to get to you, and you feel frustrated by the pressure, take a moment to be calm. Stop and rest for a bit, allowing calmness and peace to take hold. If you let these annoying outside influences control you, you’re admitting that you’re weaker than them by allowing them to overpower you. Examine the things bothering you, one at a time, and focus all your willpower on them. You’ll see that they’ll gradually fade away, like mist disappearing in the sunlight. The sense of calm that will fill your mind, along with the rush of new strength, could mark the start of your understanding of the profound calm that’s possible for you. Then, in a significant moment of your life, when you face a terrible challenge, when everything you've worked for crumbles in an instant, you’ll be strong. You can then stand there calmly, look unafraid at the ruins of your dreams and the destruction of what you’ve built, and with courage and a steady voice, you can say: "So be it—I will rebuild."
When the tongue of malice and slander, the persecution of inferiority, tempts you for just a moment to retaliate, when for an instant you forget yourself so far as to hunger for revenge,--be calm. When the grey heron is pursued by its enemy, the eagle, it does not run to escape; it remains calm, takes a dignified stand, and waits quietly, facing the enemy unmoved. With the terrific force with which the eagle makes its attack, the boasted king of birds is often impaled and run through on the quiet, lance-like bill of the heron. The means that man takes to kill another's character becomes suicide of his own.
When the urge to lash out with words of anger and gossip tempts you, when you find yourself wanting revenge for just a moment, stay calm. When the grey heron is chased by its enemy, the eagle, it doesn’t run away; it stays calm, stands tall, and waits quietly, facing the threat without flinching. With the immense power of the eagle's attack, the so-called king of birds often gets caught and pierced by the heron’s sharp, spear-like beak. The ways in which a person tries to ruin someone else's reputation end up destroying their own character.
No man in the world ever attempted to wrong another without being injured in return,--someway, somehow, sometime. The only weapon of offence that Nature seems to recognize is the boomerang. Nature keeps her books admirably; she puts down every item, she closes all accounts finally, but she does not always balance them at the end of the month. To the man who is calm, revenge is so far beneath him that he cannot reach it,--even by stooping. When injured, he does not retaliate; he wraps around him the royal robes of Calmness, and he goes quietly on his way.
No man in the world ever tried to hurt another without facing some kind of backlash—eventually and in some way. The only weapon that Nature seems to recognize is the boomerang. Nature keeps track of everything perfectly; she records every detail and settles all accounts eventually, but she doesn’t always balance them at the end of the month. For a calm person, revenge is so far beneath him that he can't even grasp it—no matter how low he bends. When hurt, he doesn’t strike back; instead, he wraps himself in the royal robes of Calmness and quietly continues on his path.
When the hand of Death touches the one we hold dearest, paralyzes our energy, and eclipses the sun of our life, the calmness that has been accumulating in long years becomes in a moment our refuge, our reserve strength.
When Death touches the one we love the most, drains our energy, and darkens the light of our lives, the peace we've built up over many years suddenly becomes our refuge and our source of strength.
The most subtle of all temptations is the seeming success of the wicked. It requires moral courage to see, without flinching, material prosperity coming to men who are dishonest; to see politicians rise into prominence, power and wealth by trickery and corruption; to see virtue in rags and vice in velvets; to see ignorance at a premium, and knowledge at a discount. To the man who is really calm these puzzles of life do not appeal. He is living his life as best he can; he is not worrying about the problems of justice, whose solution must be left to Omniscience to solve.
The most subtle of all temptations is the seeming success of the wicked. It takes moral courage to witness, without flinching, dishonest people gaining material wealth; to see politicians rise to fame, power, and riches through deceit and corruption; to observe virtue in rags and vice in expensive clothing; to see ignorance valued while knowledge is overlooked. For the person who is truly calm, these life puzzles don’t matter. They are living their life as best as they can; they aren’t stressing over justice issues, which must be resolved by a higher power.
When man has developed the spirit of Calmness until it becomes so absolutely part of him that his very presence radiates it, he has made great progress in life. Calmness cannot be acquired of itself and by itself; it must come as the culmination of a series of virtues. What the world needs and what individuals need is a higher standard of living, a great realizing sense of the privilege and dignity of life, a higher and nobler conception of individuality.
When a person has cultivated a sense of Calmness to the point where it becomes an intrinsic part of who they are, radiating from their very presence, they have made significant progress in life. Calmness cannot be achieved on its own; it must result from the development of a series of virtues. What the world needs, and what individuals need, is a higher standard of living, a deep understanding of the privilege and dignity of life, and a greater, more noble view of individuality.
With this great sense of calmness permeating an individual, man becomes able to retire more into himself, away from the noise, the confusion and strife of the world, which come to his ears only as faint, far-off rumblings, or as the tumult of the life of a city heard only as a buzzing hum by the man in a balloon.
With this strong sense of calmness surrounding someone, they can retreat deeper into themselves, away from the noise, confusion, and struggles of the world, which reach their ears like faint, distant echoes, or like the bustling sounds of a city that are only a buzzing hum to someone floating in a balloon.
The man who is calm does not selfishly isolate himself from the world, for he is intensely interested in all that concerns the welfare of humanity. His calmness is but a Holy of Holies into which he can retire from the world to get strength to live in the world. He realizes that the full glory of individuality, the crowning of his self-control is,--the majesty of calmness.
The man who is calm doesn’t selfishly shut himself off from the world, because he is deeply interested in everything that affects people's well-being. His calmness is like a sacred space where he can step away from the world to regain strength to live in the world. He understands that the true greatness of individuality, the pinnacle of his self-control, is the power of calmness.
II
Hurry, the Scourge of America
The first sermon in the world was preached at the Creation. It was a Divine protest against Hurry. It was a Divine object lesson of perfect law, perfect plan, perfect order, perfect method. Six days of work carefully planned, scheduled and completed were followed by,--rest. Whether we accept the story as literal or as figurative, as the account of successive days or of ages comprising millions of years, matters little if we but learn the lesson.
The first sermon in the world was delivered at Creation. It was a divine protest against rushing. It served as a divine example of perfect law, perfect plan, perfect order, and perfect method. Six days of work, carefully planned, scheduled, and completed, were followed by rest. Whether we take the story literally or figuratively, as an account of consecutive days or of ages spanning millions of years, it doesn't matter much as long as we learn the lesson.
Nature is very un-American. Nature never hurries. Every phase of her working shows plan, calmness, reliability, and the absence of hurry. Hurry always implies lack of definite method, confusion, impatience of slow growth. The Tower of Babel, the world's first skyscraper, was a failure because of hurry. The workers mistook their arrogant ambition for inspiration. They had too many builders,--and no architect. They thought to make up the lack of a head by a superfluity of hands. This is a characteristic of Hurry. It seeks ever to make energy a substitute for a clearly defined plan,--the result is ever as hopeless as trying to transform a hobby-horse into a real steed by brisk riding.
Nature is very un-American. Nature never rushes. Every aspect of her workings shows planning, calmness, reliability, and a complete lack of hurry. Rushing always suggests a lack of clear method, confusion, and impatience with slow growth. The Tower of Babel, the world’s first skyscraper, failed because of haste. The workers confused their arrogant ambition with inspiration. They had too many builders—and no architect. They thought they could compensate for the lack of leadership with a surplus of hands. This is typical of rushing. It constantly tries to make energy a substitute for a well-defined plan—the result is always as futile as trying to turn a hobby horse into a real horse by riding it too fast.
Hurry is a counterfeit of haste. Haste has an ideal, a distinct aim to be realized by the quickest, direct methods. Haste has a single compass upon which it relies for direction and in harmony with which its course is determined. Hurry says: "I must move faster. I will get three compasses; I will have them different; I will be guided by all of them. One of them will probably be right." Hurry never realizes that slow, careful foundation work is the quickest in the end.
Hurry is a fake version of haste. Haste has a clear goal, a specific aim to achieve using the fastest, most direct methods. Haste relies on a single compass for direction, and its path is determined in line with that compass. Hurry says, "I need to move faster. I’ll use three compasses; they'll all be different; I’ll follow all of them. One of them should be right." Hurry never understands that taking the time for careful, foundational work is ultimately the fastest approach.
Hurry has ruined more Americans than has any other word in the vocabulary of life. It is the scourge of America; and is both a cause and a result of our high-pressure civilization. Hurry adroitly assumes so many masquerades of disguise that its identity is not always recognized.
Hurry has destroyed more Americans than any other word in our vocabulary. It’s a plague on America and both a cause and a result of our fast-paced culture. Hurry skillfully takes on so many different forms that its true nature isn’t always clear.
Hurry always pays the highest price for everything, and, usually the goods are not delivered. In the race for wealth men often sacrifice time, energy, health, home, happiness and honor,--everything that money cannot buy, the very things that money can never bring back. Hurry is a phantom of paradoxes. Business men, in their desire to provide for the future happiness of their family, often sacrifice the present happiness of wife and children on the altar of Hurry. They forget that their place in the home should be something greater than being merely "the man that pays the bills;" they expect consideration and thoughtfulness that they are not giving.
Hurrying always costs the most, and often the results don’t pan out. In the chase for wealth, people frequently give up time, energy, health, stability, happiness, and integrity—everything that money can’t buy, the very things that money can’t bring back. Hurry is full of contradictions. Businesspeople, in their quest to ensure their family's future happiness, often sacrifice the current happiness of their spouse and children on the altar of Rush. They forget that their role in the home should be more than just “the person who pays the bills;” they expect consideration and thoughtfulness that they aren’t offering in return.
We hear too much of a wife's duties to a husband and too little of the other side of the question. "The wife," they tell us, "should meet her husband with a smile and a kiss, should tactfully watch his moods and be ever sweetness and sunshine." Why this continual swinging of the censer of devotion to the man of business? Why should a woman have to look up with timid glance at the face of her husband, to "size up his mood"? Has not her day, too, been one of care, and responsibility, and watchfulness? Has not mother-love been working over perplexing problems and worries of home and of the training of the children that wifely love may make her seek to solve in secret? Is man, then, the weaker sex that he must be pampered and treated as tenderly as a boil trying to keep from contact with the world?
We hear way too much about a wife's responsibilities to her husband and not enough about the other side of the issue. "The wife," they say, "should greet her husband with a smile and a kiss, should carefully read his moods, and always be sweet and cheerful." Why is there this constant emphasis on devotion to the working man? Why does a woman have to look up with a shy glance at her husband to "assess his mood"? Hasn’t her day also been filled with care, responsibility, and vigilance? Hasn’t a mother’s love been busy dealing with complicated problems and worries about home and raising the children that a wife's love might lead her to try to solve in private? Is man really the weaker sex that he needs to be treated like he's fragile, trying to avoid any contact with the world?
In their hurry to attain some ambition, to gratify the dream of a life, men often throw honor, truth, and generosity to the winds. Politicians dare to stand by and see a city poisoned with foul water until they "see where they come in" on a water-works appropriation. If it be necessary to poison an army,--that, too, is but an incident in the hurry for wealth.
In their rush to achieve their goals and fulfill their dreams, people often disregard honor, truth, and kindness. Politicians are willing to watch a city suffer from contaminated water until they can benefit from funding for water works. If it requires poisoning an army, that's just another detail in the mad dash for money.
This is the Age of the Hothouse. The element of natural growth is pushed to one side and the hothouse and the force-pump are substituted. Nature looks on tolerantly as she says: "So far you may go, but no farther, my foolish children."
This is the Age of the Hothouse. The concept of natural growth is set aside, and the hothouse and the force pump take their place. Nature watches with patience as she says: "You may go this far, but no further, my foolish children."
The educational system of to-day is a monumental institution dedicated to Hurry. The children are forced to go through a series of studies that sweep the circle of all human wisdom. They are given everything that the ambitious ignorance of the age can force into their minds; they are taught everything but the essentials,--how to use their senses and how to think. Their minds become congested by a great mass of undigested facts, and still the cruel, barbarous forcing goes on. You watch it until it seems you cannot stand it a moment longer, and you instinctively put out your hand and say: "Stop! This modern slaughter of the Innocents must not go on!" Education smiles suavely, waves her hand complacently toward her thousands of knowledge-prisons over the country, and says: "Who are you that dares speak a word against our sacred, school system?" Education is in a hurry. Because she fails in fifteen years to do what half the time should accomplish by better methods, she should not be too boastful. Incompetence is not always a reason for pride. And they hurry the children into a hundred textbooks, then into ill-health, then into the colleges, then into a diploma, then into life,--with a dazed mind, untrained and unfitted for the real duties of living.
The education system today is a massive institution focused on speed. Children are pushed through a series of studies that cover all aspects of human knowledge. They're given everything that the eager ignorance of the time can cram into their heads; they're taught everything except the essentials—how to use their senses and how to think. Their minds become overwhelmed by a huge pile of undigested facts, and still the harsh, relentless pressure continues. You watch it until it feels like you can't take it any longer, and you instinctively reach out and say: "Stop! This modern slaughter of the Innocents must not continue!" Education smiles condescendingly, gestures toward her thousands of knowledge-prisons across the country, and says: "Who are you to dare speak against our sacred school system?" Education is in a rush. Just because she fails in fifteen years to achieve what should be done in half that time through better methods, she shouldn't be too proud. Incompetence isn't always a source of pride. They rush the children through a hundred textbooks, then into poor health, then into college, then to a diploma, then into life—with a confused mind, untrained and unprepared for the real responsibilities of living.
Hurry is the deathblow to calmness, to dignity, to poise. The old-time courtesy went out when the new-time hurry came in. Hurry is the father of dyspepsia. In the rush of our national life, the bolting of food has become a national vice. The words "Quick Lunches" might properly be placed on thousands of headstones in our cemeteries. Man forgets that he is the only animal that dines; the others merely feed. Why does he abrogate his right to dine and go to the end of the line with the mere feeders? His self-respecting stomach rebels, and expresses its indignation by indigestion. Then man has to go through life with a little bottle of pepsin tablets in his vest-pocket. He is but another victim to this craze for speed. Hurry means the breakdown of the nerves. It is the royal road to nervous prostration.
Hurrying kills calmness, dignity, and poise. Old-fashioned politeness disappeared when fast-paced living took over. Rushing is behind many digestive issues. In our busy society, eating too quickly has become a common problem. The phrase "Quick Lunches" could rightly be carved on countless tombstones. Humans forget that they are the only creatures that dine; the rest simply eat. Why does he give up his right to enjoy a meal and line up with those who just graze? His proud stomach revolts and shows its frustration through indigestion. Then he has to carry pepsin tablets in his pocket. He's just another casualty of this obsession with speed. Rushing leads to nervous breakdowns. It’s the sure path to mental exhaustion.
Everything that is great in life is the product of slow growth; the newer, and greater, and higher, and nobler the work, the slower is its growth, the surer is its lasting success. Mushrooms attain their full power in a night; oaks require decades. A fad lives its life in a few weeks; a philosophy lives through generations and centuries. If you are sure you are right, do not let the voice of the world, or of friends, or of family swerve you for a moment from your purpose. Accept slow growth if it must be slow, and know the results must come, as you would accept the long, lonely hours of the night,--with absolute assurance that the heavy-leaded moments must bring the morning.
Everything great in life comes from slow growth; the newer, greater, higher, and nobler the achievement, the slower its development, but the more certain its enduring success. Mushrooms reach their full potential in a night; oaks take decades. A trend lasts only a few weeks; a philosophy endures for generations and centuries. If you believe you’re right, don’t let the opinions of the world, friends, or family distract you from your goal. Embrace slow growth if that’s the way it must be, and trust that the results will come, just as you would accept the long, lonely hours of night—with complete certainty that those heavy, leaden moments will eventually give way to morning.
Let us as individuals banish the word "Hurry" from our lives. Let us care for nothing so much that we would pay honor and self-respect as the price of hurrying it. Let us cultivate calmness, restfulness, poise, sweetness,--doing our best, bearing all things as bravely as we can; living our life undisturbed by the prosperity of the wicked or the malice of the envious. Let us not be impatient, chafing at delay, fretting over failure, wearying over results, and weakening under opposition. Let us ever turn our face toward the future with confidence and trust, with the calmness of a life in harmony with itself, true to its ideals, and slowly and constantly progressing toward their realization.
Let’s get rid of the word “Hurry” from our lives. Let's not care about anything so much that we sacrifice our honor and self-respect just to rush it. Let's nurture calmness, peace, poise, and kindness—doing our best, facing all challenges as bravely as we can; living our lives without being disturbed by the success of the wicked or the jealousy of others. Let’s not be impatient, annoyed by delays, stressed over failures, exhausted by results, or weakened by opposition. Let’s always face the future with confidence and trust, maintaining the calmness of a life in harmony with itself, staying true to our ideals, and steadily progressing towards making them a reality.
Let us see that cowardly word Hurry in all its most degenerating phases, let us see that it ever kills truth, loyalty, thoroughness; and let us determine that, day by day, we will seek more and more to substitute for it the calmness and repose of a true life, nobly lived.
Let’s examine that cowardly word Hurry in all its degrading forms. It always destroys truth, loyalty, and thoroughness. Let’s resolve that, day by day, we’ll strive more and more to replace it with the calmness and serenity of a genuinely fulfilling life.
III
The Power of Personal Influence
The only responsibility that a man cannot evade in this life is the one he thinks of least,--his personal influence. Man's conscious influence, when he is on dress-parade, when he is posing to impress those around him,--is woefully small. But his unconscious influence, the silent, subtle radiation of his personality, the effect of his words and acts, the trifles he never considers,--is tremendous. Every moment of life he is changing to a degree the life of the whole world. Every man has an atmosphere which is affecting every other. So silent and unconsciously is this influence working, that man may forget that it exists.
The one responsibility a man can't avoid in this life is the one he thinks about the least—his personal influence. A man's conscious influence, especially when he’s trying to impress others, is pretty minimal. But his unconscious influence—the quiet, subtle energy of his personality, the impact of his words and actions, the little things he never thinks about—is huge. Every moment, he’s changing the lives of people around him, affecting the entire world in some way. Every man has an atmosphere that influences everyone else. So quietly and unconsciously does this influence operate that a man might forget it's even there.
All the forces of Nature,--heat, light, electricity and gravitation,--are silent and invisible. We never see them; we only know that they exist by seeing the effects they produce. In all Nature the wonders of the "seen" are dwarfed into insignificance when compared with the majesty and glory of the "unseen." The great sun itself does not supply enough heat and light to sustain animal and vegetable life on the earth. We are dependent for nearly half of our light and heat upon the stars, and the greater part of this supply of life-giving energy comes from invisible stars, millions of miles from the earth. In a thousand ways Nature constantly seeks to lead men to a keener and deeper realization of the power and the wonder of the invisible.
All the forces of nature—heat, light, electricity, and gravity—are silent and invisible. We never see them; we only know they exist by observing the effects they create. In all of nature, the wonders we can see are insignificant compared to the majesty and glory of what we cannot see. Even the great sun doesn't provide enough heat and light to support life on Earth. We're reliant on the stars for almost half of our light and heat, and most of this life-giving energy comes from invisible stars, millions of miles away. In countless ways, nature consistently aims to help people gain a sharper and deeper understanding of the power and wonder of the invisible.
Into the hands of every individual is given a marvellous power for good or for evil,--the silent, unconscious, unseen influence of his life. This is simply the constant radiation of what a man really is, not what he pretends to be. Every man, by his mere living, is radiating sympathy, or sorrow, or morbidness, or cynicism, or happiness, or hope, or any of a hundred other qualities. Life is a state of constant radiation and absorption; to exist is to radiate; to exist is to be the recipient of radiations.
Every person has an amazing power for good or bad—the quiet, unspoken, unseen influence of their life. This is just the ongoing expression of who a person truly is, not who they pretend to be. Each individual, just by living, emits sympathy, sadness, negativity, cynicism, happiness, hope, or any of a hundred other qualities. Life is a constant cycle of giving off and taking in energy; to live is to emit; to live is to receive.
There are men and women whose presence seems to radiate sunshine, cheer and optimism. You feel calmed and rested and restored in a moment to a new and stronger faith in humanity. There are others who focus in an instant all your latent distrust, morbidness and rebellion against life. Without knowing why, you chafe and fret in their presence. You lose your bearings on life and its problems. Your moral compass is disturbed and unsatisfactory. It is made untrue in an instant, as the magnetic needle of a ship is deflected when it passes near great mountains of iron ore.
There are men and women whose presence seems to radiate warmth, joy, and positivity. You feel calm, relaxed, and rejuvenated, almost instantly restoring your faith in humanity. Then there are others who can instantly bring forth all your hidden doubts, negativity, and resistance to life. Without understanding why, you feel restless and uneasy around them. You lose your sense of direction in life and its challenges. Your moral compass becomes unsettled and unreliable. It gets thrown off course in an instant, just like a ship's magnetic needle is diverted when it comes close to large iron ore mountains.
There are men who float down the stream of life like icebergs,--cold, reserved, unapproachable and self-contained. In their presence you involuntarily draw your wraps closer around you, as you wonder who left the door open. These refrigerated human beings have a most depressing influence on all those who fall under the spell of their radiated chilliness. But there are other natures, warm, helpful, genial, who are like the Gulf Stream, following their own course, flowing undaunted and undismayed in the ocean of colder waters. Their presence brings warmth and life and the glow of sunshine, the joyous, stimulating breath of spring. There are men who are like malarious swamps,--poisonous, depressing and weakening by their very presence. They make heavy, oppressive and gloomy the atmosphere of their own homes; the sound of the children's play is stilled, the ripples of laughter are frozen by their presence. They go through life as if each day were a new big funeral, and they were always chief mourners. There are other men who seem like the ocean; they are constantly bracing, stimulating, giving new draughts of tonic life and strength by their very presence.
There are men who drift through life like icebergs—cold, distant, unapproachable, and self-contained. When you're around them, you instinctively pull your clothes tighter around you, as if asking who left the door open. These frosty individuals have a really depressing effect on everyone who feels their chill. But then there are others, warm, helpful, and friendly, who are like the Gulf Stream, making their way through life, flowing confidently and fearlessly through the colder waters. Their presence brings warmth, life, and sunshine, like the joyful, refreshing breath of spring. Some men are like toxic swamps—poisonous, depressing, and draining just by being there. They make the atmosphere in their homes heavy and gloomy; the sound of children playing gets muted, and laughter freezes in their presence. They move through life as if every day is just another big funeral, and they’re always the chief mourners. However, there are other men who are like the ocean; they are invigorating, energizing, and provide a fresh boost of life and strength just by being around.
There are men who are insincere in heart, and that insincerity is radiated by their presence. They have a wondrous interest in your welfare,--when they need you. They put on a "property" smile so suddenly, when it serves their purpose, that it seems the smile must be connected with some electric button concealed in their clothes. Their voice has a simulated cordiality that long training may have made almost natural. But they never play their part absolutely true, the mask will slip down sometimes; their cleverness cannot teach their eyes the look of sterling honesty; they may deceive some people, but they cannot deceive all. There is a subtle power of revelation which makes us say: "Well, I cannot explain how it is, but I know that man is not honest."
There are men who are insincere at heart, and that insincerity shows in their presence. They seem genuinely interested in your well-being—only when they need something from you. They flash a "fake" smile so quickly, when it benefits them, that it feels like the smile must be connected to some hidden switch in their clothes. Their voices have a forced warmth that practice may have made almost sound natural. But they never fully commit to their act; the mask will slip sometimes; their cleverness can't teach their eyes the look of true honesty; they might fool some people, but they can't fool everyone. There's a subtle instinct that makes us say: "I can't explain why, but I know that guy isn't honest."
Man cannot escape for one moment from this radiation of his character, this constantly weakening or strengthening of others. He cannot evade the responsibility by saying it is an unconscious influence. He can select the qualities that he will permit to be radiated. He can cultivate sweetness, calmness, trust, generosity, truth, justice, loyalty, nobility,--make them vitally active in his character,--and by these qualities he will constantly affect the world.
Man cannot escape, even for a moment, from the influence of his character, which either weakens or strengthens others all the time. He can't avoid responsibility by claiming it's an unconscious influence. He can choose the qualities he wants to project. He can nurture kindness, calmness, trust, generosity, honesty, fairness, loyalty, and nobility—making them actively part of his character—and through these qualities, he will consistently impact the world.
Discouragement often comes to honest souls trying to live the best they can, in the thought that they are doing so little good in the world. Trifles unnoted by us may be links in the chain of some great purpose. In 1797, William Godwin wrote The Inquirer, a collection of revolutionary essays on morals and politics. This book influenced Thomas Malthus to write his Essay on Population, published in 1798. Malthus' book suggested to Charles Darwin a point of view upon which he devoted many years of his life, resulting, in 1859, in the publication of The Origin of Species,--the most influential book of the nineteenth century, a book that has revolutionized all science. These were but three links of influence extending over sixty years. It might be possible to trace this genealogy of influence back from Godwin, through generation and generation, to the word or act of some shepherd in early Britain, watching his flock upon the hills, living his quiet life, and dying with the thought that he had done nothing to help the world.
Discouragement often hits honest people trying to live their best lives, especially when they think they're making little impact in the world. Small actions that go unnoticed by us might actually be connections in a larger purpose. In 1797, William Godwin wrote The Inquirer, a collection of revolutionary essays on morals and politics. This book inspired Thomas Malthus to write his Essay on Population, published in 1798. Malthus' book offered Charles Darwin a perspective that he spent many years exploring, leading to the publication of The Origin of Species in 1859—the most influential book of the nineteenth century, which transformed all of science. These were just three links in a chain of influence spanning over sixty years. It might be possible to trace this influence back from Godwin, through generation after generation, to the words or actions of some shepherd in early Britain, tending to his flock on the hills, living his quiet life, and passing away believing he had done nothing to change the world.
Men and women have duties to others,--and duties to themselves. In justice to ourselves we should refuse to live in an atmosphere that keeps us from living our best. If the fault be in us, we should master it. If it be the personal influence of others that, like a noxious vapor, kills our best impulses, we should remove from that influence,--if we can possibly move without forsaking duties. If it be wrong to move, then we should take strong doses of moral quinine to counteract the malaria of influence. It is not what those around us do for us that counts,--it is what they are to us. We carry our house-plants from one window to another to give them the proper heat, light, air and moisture. Should we not be at least as careful of ourselves?
Men and women have responsibilities to others—and to themselves. To be fair to ourselves, we should avoid living in an environment that holds us back from being our best. If the issue lies within us, we should overcome it. If it comes from the negative influence of others, which stifles our best instincts, we should distance ourselves from that influence—if we can do so without abandoning our responsibilities. If it's wrong to leave, then we should take strong doses of moral medicine to fight off the negative effects of that influence. It’s not what those around us do for us that matters—it’s what they are to us. We move our houseplants from one window to another to provide the right heat, light, air, and moisture. Shouldn’t we be at least as mindful of ourselves?
To make our influence felt we must live our faith, we must practice what we believe. A magnet does not attract iron, as iron. It must first convert the iron into another magnet before it can attract it. It is useless for a parent to try to teach gentleness to her children when she herself is cross and irritable. The child who is told to be truthful and who hears a parent lie cleverly to escape some little social unpleasantness is not going to cling very zealously to truth. The parent's words say "don't lie," the influence of the parent's life says "do lie." No man can ever isolate himself to evade this constant power of influence, as no single corpuscle can rebel and escape from the general course of the blood. No individual is so insignificant as to be without influence. The changes in our varying moods are all recorded in the delicate barometers of the lives of others. We should ever let our influence filter through human love and sympathy. We should not be merely an influence,--we should be an inspiration. By our very presence we should be a tower of strength to the hungering human souls around us.
To make our impact felt, we need to live our beliefs and practice what we preach. A magnet doesn't attract iron as iron; it must first turn the iron into another magnet before it can draw it in. It's pointless for a parent to teach their kids about kindness while being irritable and short-tempered themselves. A child who is told to be honest but hears a parent cleverly lie to avoid a minor social awkwardness isn’t going to wholeheartedly embrace honesty. The parent's words say "don't lie," but their actions say "do lie." No one can isolate themselves to escape this constant influence, just as a single blood cell can't rebel against the flow of blood. No individual is too insignificant to lack influence. The shifts in our moods are reflected in the lives of others around us. We should always let our influence come through human love and empathy. We shouldn't just be an influence—we should be an inspiration. By simply being there, we should serve as a source of strength for the longing souls around us.
IV
The Dignity of Self-Reliance
Self-confidence, without self-reliance, is as useless as a cooking recipe,--without food. Self-confidence sees the possibilities of the individual; self-reliance realizes them. Self-confidence sees the angel in the unhewn block of marble; self-reliance carves it out for himself.
Self-confidence, without self-reliance, is as useless as a cooking recipe without food. Self-confidence recognizes the potential within a person; self-reliance brings it to life. Self-confidence sees the angel in the raw block of marble; self-reliance shapes it into reality for oneself.
The man who is self-reliant says ever: "No one can realize my possibilities for me, but me; no one can make me good or evil but myself." He works out his own salvation,--financially, socially, mentally, physically, and morally. Life is an individual problem that man must solve for himself. Nature accepts no vicarious sacrifice, no vicarious service. Nature never recognizes a proxy vote. She has nothing to do with middle-men,--she deals only with the individual. Nature is constantly seeking to show man that he is his own best friend, or his own worst enemy. Nature gives man the option on which he will be to himself.
The self-reliant person always says: "No one can realize my potential for me but me; no one can make me good or bad but myself." They work out their own success—financially, socially, mentally, physically, and morally. Life is a personal challenge that each person must solve for themselves. Nature accepts no substitute sacrifice, no substitute service. Nature never acknowledges a proxy vote. She doesn’t deal with middlemen—she only engages with individuals. Nature constantly tries to show people that they are their own best friend or their own worst enemy. Nature gives people the choice of what they will be to themselves.
All the athletic exercises in the world are of no value to the individual unless he compel those bars and dumb-bells to yield to him, in strength and muscle, the power for which he, himself, pays in time and effort. He can never develop his muscles by sending his valet to a gymnasium.
All the workouts in the world are useless to someone unless they make those weights and dumbbells work for them, gaining the strength and muscle that they invest their time and effort into. They can't build their muscles by just sending their assistant to the gym.
The medicine-chests of the world are powerless, in all the united efforts, to help the individual until he reach out and take for himself what is needed for his individual weakness.
The medicine chests of the world can't do anything, no matter how hard they try, to help a person until they reach out and take what they need for their specific weakness.
All the religions of the world are but speculations in morals, mere theories of salvation, until the individual realize that he must save himself by relying on the law of truth, as he sees it, and living his life in harmony with it, as fully as he can. But religion is not a Pullman car, with soft-cushioned seats, where he has but to pay for his ticket,--and some one else does all the rest. In religion, as in all other great things, he is ever thrown back on his self-reliance. He should accept all helps, but,--he must live his own life. He should not feel that he is a mere passenger; he is the engineer, and the train is his life. We must rely on ourselves, live our own lives, or we merely drift through existence,--losing all that is best, all that is greatest, all that is divine.
All the religions in the world are just speculations on morals and simple theories of salvation until individuals understand that they must save themselves by relying on their own sense of truth and living their lives in harmony with it as much as possible. But religion isn’t like a Pullman car with comfy seats, where you just pay for your ticket and someone else does everything for you. In religion, as in all important things, you have to depend on yourself. It's good to accept help, but you must live your own life. You shouldn’t think of yourself as just a passenger; you are the engineer, and the train represents your life. We need to depend on ourselves and live our own lives, or we’ll just drift through existence, missing out on all that is best, all that is greatest, all that is divine.
All that others can do for us is to give us opportunity. We must ever be prepared for the opportunity when it comes, and to go after it and find it when it does not come, or that opportunity is to us,--nothing. Life is but a succession of opportunities. They are for good or evil,--as we make them.
All that others can do for us is to provide us with opportunities. We must always be ready for when those opportunities arise, and actively seek them out when they don’t appear, or else those opportunities are nothing to us. Life is just a series of opportunities. They can lead to good or bad outcomes, depending on how we handle them.
Many of the alchemists of old felt that they lacked but one element; if they could obtain that one, they believed they could transmute the baser metals into pure gold. It is so in character. There are individuals with rare mental gifts, and delicate spiritual discernment who fail utterly in life because they lack the one element,--self-reliance. This would unite all their energies, and focus them into strength and power.
Many old alchemists believed they were only missing one element; if they could find it, they thought they could turn lesser metals into pure gold. This mirrors certain people's experiences. There are individuals with unique intelligence and keen spiritual insight who completely struggle in life because they lack one thing—self-reliance. This would bring all their energies together and channel them into strength and power.
The man who is not self-reliant is weak, hesitating and doubting in all he does. He fears to take a decisive step, because he dreads failure, because he is waiting for some one to advise him or because he dare not act in accordance with his own best judgment. In his cowardice and his conceit he sees all his non-success due to others. He is "not appreciated," "not recognized," he is "kept down." He feels that in some subtle way "society is conspiring against him." He grows almost vain as he thinks that no one has had such poverty, such sorrow, such affliction, such failure as have come to him.
The man who isn’t self-reliant is weak, hesitating, and doubting in everything he does. He’s afraid to take a decisive step because he fears failure, is waiting for someone to tell him what to do, or doesn’t trust his own judgment. In his cowardice and arrogance, he blames his lack of success on others. He feels “underappreciated,” “unrecognized,” and “held back.” He thinks that society is somehow “conspiring against him.” He becomes almost vain as he believes that no one has experienced such poverty, sorrow, affliction, and failure as he has.
The man who is self-reliant seeks ever to discover and conquer the weakness within him that keeps him from the attainment of what he holds dearest; he seeks within himself the power to battle against all outside influences. He realizes that all the greatest men in history, in every phase of human effort, have been those who have had to fight against the odds of sickness, suffering, sorrow. To him, defeat is no more than passing through a tunnel is to a traveller,--he knows he must emerge again into the sunlight.
The self-reliant man always tries to find and overcome the weaknesses within himself that hold him back from achieving what he values most; he looks inside for the strength to resist all external pressures. He understands that the greatest figures in history, in every area of human endeavor, have been those who had to struggle against the challenges of illness, pain, and grief. For him, defeat is just a temporary challenge, like a traveler going through a tunnel—he knows he will come out into the light again.
The nation that is strongest is the one that is most self-reliant, the one that contains within its boundaries all that its people need. If, with its ports all blockaded it has not within itself the necessities of life and the elements of its continual progress then,--it is weak, held by the enemy, and it is but a question of time till it must surrender. Its independence is in proportion to its self-reliance, to its power to sustain itself from within. What is true of nations is true of individuals. The history of nations is but the biography of individuals magnified, intensified, multiplied, and projected on the screen of the past. History is the biography of a nation; biography is the history of an individual. So it must be that the individual who is most strong in any trial, sorrow or need is he who can live from his inherent strength, who needs no scaffolding of commonplace sympathy to uphold him. He must ever be self-reliant.
The strongest nation is the one that is most self-sufficient, the one that has everything its people need within its borders. If, with all its ports blocked, it lacks the essentials for life and the components for continued progress, then it is weak, controlled by the enemy, and it's only a matter of time before it has to give in. Its independence is directly related to its self-sufficiency, to its ability to support itself from within. What applies to nations applies to individuals. The history of nations is just the story of individuals expanded, intensified, multiplied, and displayed on the canvas of the past. History is a nation's biography; biography is an individual's history. Therefore, the individual who is strongest in any challenge, sorrow, or need is the one who can draw from their inner strength, who doesn't require the typical support of ordinary sympathy to hold them up. They must always be self-reliant.
The wealth and prosperity of ancient Rome, relying on her slaves to do the real work of the nation, proved the nation's downfall. The constant dependence on the captives of war to do the thousand details of life for them, killed self-reliance in the nation and in the individual. Then, through weakened self-reliance and the increased opportunity for idle, luxurious ease that came with it, Rome, a nation of fighters, became,--a nation of men more effeminate than women. As we depend on others to do those things we should do for ourselves, our self-reliance weakens and our powers and our control of them becomes continuously less.
The wealth and prosperity of ancient Rome, which relied on slaves to handle the real work of the society, ultimately led to its downfall. The constant reliance on war captives to manage countless daily tasks diminished self-reliance in both the nation and its individuals. As self-reliance weakened and the opportunity for a life of luxury and idleness increased, Rome transitioned from a nation of fighters to one filled with men who were more effeminate than women. When we rely on others to do the things we should be doing ourselves, our self-reliance weakens and our abilities—and our control over them—continue to diminish.
Man to be great must be self-reliant. Though he may not be so in all things, he must be self-reliant in the one in which he would be great. This self-reliance is not the self-sufficiency of conceit. It is daring to stand alone. Be an oak, not a vine. Be ready to give support, but do not crave it; do not be dependent on it. To develop your true self-reliance, you must see from the very beginning that life is a battle you must fight for yourself,--you must be your own soldier. You cannot buy a substitute, you cannot win a reprieve, you can never be placed on the retired list. The retired list of life is,--death. The world is busy with its own cares, sorrows and joys, and pays little heed to you. There is but one great password to success,--self-reliance.
To be great, a person must rely on themselves. Although they might not be independent in every aspect, they need to be self-reliant in the area where they want to excel. This self-reliance isn’t about being arrogantly self-sufficient. It’s about having the courage to stand alone. Be like an oak tree, not a vine. Be ready to offer support but don’t seek it out; don’t depend on it. To truly develop your self-reliance, you must recognize right from the start that life is a battle you need to fight for yourself—you must be your own warrior. You can’t find a substitute, you can’t postpone it, and you can never retire from it. The retirement plan in life is—death. The world is caught up in its own problems, joys, and sorrows, and pays little attention to you. There’s just one key to success—self-reliance.
If you would learn to converse, put yourself into positions where you must speak. If you would conquer your morbidness, mingle with the bright people around you, no matter how difficult it may be. If you desire the power that some one else possesses, do not envy his strength, and dissipate your energy by weakly wishing his force were yours. Emulate the process by which it became his, depend on your self-reliance, pay the price for it, and equal power may be yours. The individual must look upon himself as an investment, of untold possibilities if rightly developed,--a mine whose resources can never be known but by going down into it and bringing out what is hidden.
If you want to get better at talking, put yourself in situations where you *have* to speak. If you want to overcome your negativity, spend time with positive people around you, even if it’s challenging. If you wish you had the abilities someone else does, don’t waste your energy envying their strength. Instead, learn from how they achieved it, rely on yourself, and be willing to put in the effort, and you could gain similar power. You should see yourself as an investment with endless potential if developed correctly—a treasure trove whose worth can only be discovered by exploring it and revealing what’s inside.
Man can develop his self-reliance by seeking constantly to surpass himself. We try too much to surpass others. If we seek ever to surpass ourselves, we are moving on a uniform line of progress, that gives a harmonious unifying to our growth in all its parts. Daniel Morrell, at one time President of the Cambria Rail Works, that employed 7,000 men and made a rail famed throughout the world, was asked the secret of the great success of the works. "We have no secret," he said, "but this,--we always try to beat our last batch of rails." Competition is good, but it has its danger side. There is a tendency to sacrifice real worth to mere appearance, to have seeming rather than reality. But the true competition is the competition of the individual with himself,--his present seeking to excel his past. This means real growth from within. Self-reliance develops it, and it develops self-reliance. Let the individual feel thus as to his own progress and possibilities, and he can almost create his life as he will. Let him never fall down in despair at dangers and sorrows at a distance; they may be harmless, like Bunyan's stone lions, when he nears them.
A person can build self-reliance by continually striving to improve themselves. We often focus too much on outdoing others. If we aim to surpass our own achievements, we are on a steady path of progress that harmonizes and unifies our growth in all areas. Daniel Morrell, who was once the President of the Cambria Rail Works, which employed 7,000 people and produced a globally known rail, was asked about the key to the success of the company. "We don’t have any secrets," he replied, "but we always try to improve on our last batch of rails." Competition can be beneficial, but it also has its risks. There’s a tendency to prioritize superficial appearances over genuine quality, to value image instead of substance. However, true competition lies in individuals challenging themselves—striving to outperform their past selves. This represents real internal growth. Self-reliance fosters this growth, and in turn, this growth enhances self-reliance. When individuals are aware of their own progress and potential, they can almost shape their lives as they wish. They should not succumb to despair when faced with distant dangers and sorrows; these may turn out to be harmless, like Bunyan's stone lions, once they approach.
The man who is self-reliant does not live in the shadow of some one else's greatness; he thinks for himself, depends on himself, and acts for himself. In throwing the individual thus back upon himself it is not shutting his eyes to the stimulus and light and new life that come with the warm pressure of the hand, the kindly word and the sincere expressions of true friendship. But true friendship is rare; its great value is in a crisis,--like a lifeboat. Many a boasted friend has proved a leaking, worthless "lifeboat" when the storm of adversity might make him useful. In these great crises of life, man is strong only as he is strong from within, and the more he depends on himself the stronger will he become, and the more able will he be to help others in the hour of their need. His very life will be a constant help and a strength to others, as he becomes to them a living lesson of the dignity of self-reliance.
The self-sufficient person doesn’t live in the shadow of someone else’s greatness; they think for themselves, rely on themselves, and act on their own. By encouraging individuals to turn inward, it doesn’t ignore the motivation, light, and new life that come from the warm grip of a hand, a kind word, and genuine expressions of true friendship. However, true friendship is rare; its real worth shines in a crisis—like a lifeboat. Many who claim to be friends have turned out to be leaky, useless "lifeboats" when the storm of hardship could have made them valuable. In these significant moments in life, a person is only as strong as their inner strength, and the more they rely on themselves, the stronger they will become, enabling them to assist others in their times of need. Their very existence will consistently support and empower others, as they become a living example of the dignity that comes with self-reliance.
V
Failure as a Success
It ofttimes requires heroic courage to face fruitless effort, to take up the broken strands of a life-work, to look bravely toward the future, and proceed undaunted on our way. But what, to our eyes, may seem hopeless failure is often but the dawning of a greater success. It may contain in its débris the foundation material of a mighty purpose, or the revelation of new and higher possibilities.
It often takes heroic courage to confront fruitless efforts, to pick up the broken pieces of a life’s work, to look bravely toward the future, and to move forward without fear. But what appears to us as a hopeless failure is often just the beginning of something greater. It may hold within its remnants the building blocks of a powerful purpose, or the discovery of new and better possibilities.
Some years ago, it was proposed to send logs from Canada to New York, by a new method. The ingenious plan of Mr. Joggins was to bind great logs together by cables and iron girders and to tow the cargo as a raft. When the novel craft neared New York and success seemed assured, a terrible storm arose. In the fury of the tempest, the iron bands snapped like icicles and the angry waters scattered the logs far and wide. The chief of the Hydrographic Department at Washington heard of the failure of the experiment, and at once sent word to shipmasters the world over, urging them to watch carefully for these logs which he described; and to note the precise location of each in latitude and longitude and the time the observation was made.
Some years ago, there was a proposal to send logs from Canada to New York using a new method. Mr. Joggins had a clever idea to bind large logs together with cables and iron girders and tow the entire thing as a raft. When the innovative craft got close to New York and success seemed certain, a terrible storm hit. In the chaos of the storm, the iron bands broke like icicles, and the raging waters scattered the logs everywhere. The head of the Hydrographic Department in Washington learned about the failure of the experiment and immediately informed shipmasters around the world, urging them to keep a close eye out for the described logs and to note the exact location of each one using latitude and longitude, along with the time of the observation.
Hundreds of captains, sailing over the waters of the earth, noted the logs, in the Atlantic Ocean, in the Mediterranean, in the South Seas--for into all waters did these venturesome ones travel. Hundreds of reports were made, covering a period of weeks and months. These observations were then carefully collated, systematized and tabulated, and discoveries were made as to the course of ocean currents that otherwise would have been impossible. The loss of the Joggins raft was not a real failure, for it led to one of the great discoveries in modern marine geography and navigation.
Hundreds of captains sailing across the world's waters recorded their logs in the Atlantic Ocean, the Mediterranean, and the South Seas—these adventurous individuals traveled through all kinds of waters. Hundreds of reports were submitted over weeks and months. These observations were then carefully organized, systematized, and tabulated, leading to discoveries about ocean currents that would have been impossible otherwise. The loss of the Joggins raft wasn't a true failure; it resulted in one of the major breakthroughs in modern marine geography and navigation.
In our superior knowledge we are disposed to speak in a patronizing tone of the follies of the alchemists of old. But their failure to transmute the baser metals into gold resulted in the birth of chemistry. They did not succeed in what they attempted, but they brought into vogue the natural processes of sublimation, filtration, distillation, and crystallization; they invented the alembic, the retort, the sand-bath, the water-bath and other valuable instruments. To them is due the discovery of antimony, sulphuric ether and phosphorus, the cupellation of gold and silver, the determining of the properties of saltpetre and its use in gunpowder, and the discovery of the distillation of essential oils. This was the success of failure, a wondrous process of Nature for the highest growth,--a mighty lesson of comfort, strength, and encouragement if man would only realize and accept it.
In our greater understanding, we tend to speak condescendingly about the mistakes of the ancient alchemists. Yet, their inability to turn base metals into gold led to the development of chemistry. Although they didn't achieve what they set out to do, they popularized natural processes like sublimation, filtration, distillation, and crystallization. They invented tools like the alembic, retort, sand bath, water bath, and other important instruments. They were responsible for the discovery of antimony, sulfuric ether, and phosphorus, the separation of gold and silver, the identification of the properties of saltpeter and its use in gunpowder, and the discovery of essential oil distillation. This was a successful failure, a remarkable process of nature aimed at ultimate growth—a powerful lesson of comfort, strength, and encouragement if humankind would only recognize and embrace it.
Many of our failures sweep us to greater heights of success, than we ever hoped for in our wildest dreams. Life is a successive unfolding of success from failure. In discovering America Columbus failed absolutely. His ingenious reasoning and experiment led him to believe that by sailing westward he would reach India. Every redman in America carries in his name "Indian," the perpetuation of the memory of the failure of Columbus. The Genoese navigator did not reach India; the cargo of "souvenirs" he took back to Spain to show to Ferdinand and Isabella as proofs of his success, really attested his failure. But the discovery of America was a greater success than was any finding of a "back-door" to India.
Many of our failures propel us to greater heights of success than we ever dreamed possible. Life is a continuous journey where success emerges from failure. When Columbus set out to discover America, he completely missed the mark. His clever reasoning and experiments led him to believe that sailing westward would take him to India. Every Native American is labeled "Indian," a reminder of Columbus's failure. The Genoese navigator never made it to India; the "souvenirs" he brought back to Spain to show Ferdinand and Isabella as evidence of his success actually highlighted his failure. However, the discovery of America turned out to be a far greater success than finding a "shortcut" to India.
When David Livingstone had supplemented his theological education by a medical course, he was ready to enter the missionary field. For over three years he had studied tirelessly, with all energies concentrated on one aim,--to spread the gospel in China. The hour came when he was ready to start out with noble enthusiasm for his chosen work, to consecrate himself and his life to his unselfish ambition. Then word came from China that the "opium war" would make it folly to attempt to enter the country. Disappointment and failure did not long daunt him; he offered himself as missionary to Africa,--and he was accepted. His glorious failure to reach China opened a whole continent to light and truth. His study proved an ideal preparation for his labors as physician, explorer, teacher and evangel in the wilds of Africa.
When David Livingstone finished his theological education with a medical course, he was ready to enter the mission field. For over three years, he studied diligently, focusing all his energy on one goal—to spread the gospel in China. The time came when he was eager to start his important work, dedicating himself and his life to his selfless ambition. Then he received word from China that the "opium war" made it foolish to try to enter the country. He didn’t let disappointment and failure hold him back; he offered himself as a missionary to Africa—and was accepted. His significant setback in reaching China opened an entire continent to light and truth. His studies provided an excellent foundation for his work as a physician, explorer, teacher, and evangelist in the wilds of Africa.
Business reverses and the failure of his partner threw upon the broad shoulders and the still broader honor and honesty of Sir Walter Scott a burden of responsibility that forced him to write. The failure spurred him to almost super-human effort. The masterpieces of Scotch historic fiction that have thrilled, entertained and uplifted millions of his fellow-men are a glorious monument on the field of a seeming failure.
Business setbacks and the collapse of his partner placed a heavy responsibility on the capable and honorable shoulders of Sir Walter Scott, compelling him to write. The failure drove him to put in nearly superhuman effort. The remarkable works of Scottish historical fiction that have excited, entertained, and inspired millions of his peers stand as a remarkable testament to what appeared to be a failure.
When Millet, the painter of the "Angelus" worked on his almost divine canvas, in which the very air seems pulsing with the regenerating essence of spiritual reverence, he was painting against time, he was antidoting sorrow, he was racing against death. His brush strokes, put on in the early morning hours before going to his menial duties as a railway porter, in the dusk like that perpetuated on his canvas,--meant strength, food and medicine for the dying wife he adored. The art failure that cast him into the depths of poverty unified with marvellous intensity all the finer elements of his nature. This rare spiritual unity, this purging of all the dross of triviality as he passed through the furnace of poverty, trial, and sorrow gave eloquence to his brush and enabled him to paint as never before,--as no prosperity would have made possible.
When Millet, the painter of "Angelus," worked on his almost divine canvas, where the air seems to vibrate with the renewing essence of spiritual reverence, he was racing against time, battling sorrow, and fighting against death. His brush strokes, applied in the early morning hours before he went to his low-paying job as a railway porter, reflected the same twilight found in his painting—representing strength, sustenance, and healing for the dying wife he loved. The artistic failure that plunged him into deep poverty brought out all the finer aspects of his character with remarkable intensity. This rare spiritual unity, this cleansing of all the trivialities as he endured the hardships of poverty, trials, and grief, gave eloquence to his brush and allowed him to paint like never before—something that prosperity could never have inspired.
Failure is often the turning-point, the pivot of circumstance that swings us to higher levels. It may not be financial success, it may not be fame; it may be new draughts of spiritual, moral or mental inspiration that will change us for all the later years of our life. Life is not really what comes to us, but what we get from it.
Failure is often the turning point, the shift in circumstances that pushes us to greater heights. It might not lead to financial success or fame; it could be new waves of spiritual, moral, or mental inspiration that transform us for the rest of our lives. Life isn’t really about what happens to us, but what we take away from it.
Whether man has had wealth or poverty, failure or success, counts for little when it is past. There is but one question for him to answer, to face boldly and honestly as an individual alone with his conscience and his destiny:
Whether a person has experienced wealth or poverty, failure or success, matters very little once it's behind them. There is only one question they must answer, facing it boldly and honestly as an individual alone with their conscience and their fate:
"How will I let that poverty or wealth affect me? If that trial or deprivation has left me better, truer, nobler, then,--poverty has been riches, failure has been a success. If wealth has come to me and has made me vain, arrogant, contemptuous, uncharitable, cynical, closing from me all the tenderness of life, all the channels of higher development, of possible good to my fellow-man, making me the mere custodian of a money-bag, then,--wealth has lied to me, it has been failure, not success; it has not been riches, it has been dark, treacherous poverty that stole from me even Myself." All things become for us then what we take from them.
"How am I going to let poverty or wealth affect me? If that struggle or lack has made me a better, more genuine, and nobler person, then poverty has actually been wealth, and failure has been success. If wealth comes to me and makes me vain, arrogant, contemptuous, uncharitable, and cynical, closing me off from all the kindness in life, all the opportunities for growth and good towards others, reducing me to just a keeper of a money bag, then wealth has deceived me; it has been a failure, not a success. It hasn’t been riches; it has been dark, deceptive poverty that has taken away even my true self." Everything becomes what we choose to take from it.
Failure is one of God's educators. It is experience leading man to higher things; it is the revelation of a way, a path hitherto unknown to us. The best men in the world, those who have made the greatest real successes look back with serene happiness on their failures. The turning of the face of Time shows all things in a wondrously illuminated and satisfying perspective.
Failure is one of God's teachers. It’s experience guiding us to better things; it reveals a way, a path we didn’t know before. The best people in the world, those who have achieved great success, look back on their failures with calm happiness. The passage of time reveals everything in a beautifully clear and satisfying perspective.
Many a man is thankful to-day that some petty success for which he once struggled, melted into thin air as his hand sought to clutch it. Failure is often the rock-bottom foundation of real success. If man, in a few instances of his life can say, "Those failures were the best things in the world that could have happened to me," should he not face new failures with undaunted courage and trust that the miraculous ministry of Nature may transform these new stumbling-blocks into new stepping-stones?
Many people are grateful today that some minor success they once fought for vanished just as they tried to grab it. Failure is often the solid groundwork for true success. If a person can look back at some moments in life and say, "Those failures were the best things that ever happened to me," shouldn't they face new failures with fearless determination and believe that Nature's incredible ways can turn these new obstacles into new opportunities?
Our highest hopes, are often destroyed to prepare us for better things. The failure of the caterpillar is the birth of the butterfly; the passing of the bud is the becoming of the rose; the death or destruction of the seed is the prelude to its resurrection as wheat. It is at night, in the darkest hours, those preceding dawn, that plants grow best, that they most increase in size. May this not be one of Nature's gentle showings to man of the times when he grows best, of the darkness of failure that is evolving into the sunlight of success. Let us fear only the failure of not living the right as we see it, leaving the results to the guardianship of the Infinite.
Our greatest hopes are often shattered to make way for better things. The caterpillar’s failure leads to the emergence of the butterfly; the bud's passing paves the way for the rose; the death or destruction of the seed is the lead-up to its rebirth as wheat. It is at night, in those darkest hours before dawn, that plants thrive and grow the most. Could this be one of Nature’s gentle reminders to us about the times when we blossom best, in the darkness of failure that transforms into the light of success? Let’s only fear the failure of not living truthfully as we see it, leaving the outcomes to the care of the Infinite.
If we think of any supreme moment of our lives, any great success, any one who is dear to us, and then consider how we reached that moment, that success, that friend, we will be surprised and strengthened by the revelation. As we trace each one, back, step by step, through the genealogy of circumstances, we will see how logical has been the course of our joy and success, from sorrow and failure, and that what gives us most happiness to-day is inextricably connected with what once caused us sorrow. Many of the rivers of our greatest prosperity and growth have had their source and their trickling increase into volume among the dark, gloomy recesses of our failure.
If we think about any major moment in our lives, any significant achievement, or someone we care about, and then reflect on how we got to that moment, that success, or that friendship, we’ll be amazed and empowered by what we discover. As we trace each one back, step by step, through the chain of events, we’ll recognize how logical our path to joy and success has been, even emerging from sorrow and failure. What brings us the most happiness today is deeply connected to what once brought us pain. Many of the streams of our greatest success and growth have originated and gradually increased in strength from the dark, gloomy depths of our failures.
There is no honest and true work, carried along with constant and sincere purpose that ever really fails. If it sometime seem to be wasted effort, it will prove to us a new lesson of "how" to walk; the secret of our failures will prove to us the inspiration of possible successes. Man living with the highest aims, ever as best he can, in continuous harmony with them, is a success, no matter what statistics of failure a near-sighted and half-blind world of critics and commentators may lay at his door.
There’s no genuine and meaningful work, driven by consistent and sincere intention, that ever truly fails. If it sometimes appears to be wasted effort, it will teach us a new lesson about "how" to proceed; the reasons behind our failures will inspire us with potential successes. A person striving for the highest goals, doing their best, and staying in tune with them is a success, regardless of the failure statistics that a near-sighted and half-blind world of critics and commentators may throw at them.
High ideals, noble efforts will make seeming failures but trifles, they need not dishearten us; they should prove sources of new strength. The rocky way may prove safer than the slippery path of smoothness. Birds cannot fly best with the wind but against it; ships do not progress in calm, when the sails flap idly against the unstrained masts.
High ideals and noble efforts might lead to apparent failures, but they shouldn't discourage us; they should be sources of new strength. The rocky road may actually be safer than the smooth, slippery path. Birds don’t fly best with the wind at their backs but against it; ships don’t make progress in calm waters when the sails just hang limply against the masts.
The alchemy of Nature, superior to that of the Paracelsians, constantly transmutes the baser metals of failure into the later pure gold of higher success, if the mind of the worker be kept true, constant and untiring in the service, and he have that sublime courage that defies fate to its worst while he does his best.
The magic of Nature, better than that of the Paracelsians, always transforms the lower metals of failure into the pure gold of greater success, as long as the worker's mind stays focused, steady, and tireless in their efforts, and they possess the remarkable courage to face any challenges while doing their best.
VI
Doing Our Best at All Times
Life is a wondrously complex problem for the individual, until, some day, in a moment of illumination, he awakens to the great realization that he can make it simple,--never quite simple, but always simpler. There are a thousand mysteries of right and wrong that have baffled the wise men of the ages. There are depths in the great fundamental questions of the human race that no plummet of philosophy has ever sounded. There are wild cries of honest hunger for truth that seek to pierce the silence beyond the grave, but to them ever echo back,--only a repetition of their unanswered cries.
Life is an incredibly complicated challenge for each person until one day, in a flash of insight, they realize that they can make it easier—never fully easy, but definitely easier. There are countless mysteries of right and wrong that have puzzled wise thinkers throughout history. There are profound depths in the essential questions of humanity that no philosophical tool has ever measured. There are passionate pleas for truth that try to break through the silence of what lies beyond death, but all they hear in return is just a repetition of their unanswered calls.
To us all, comes, at times, the great note of questioning despair that darkens our horizon and paralyzes our effort: "If there really be a God, if eternal justice really rule the world," we say, "why should life be as it is? Why do some men starve while others feast; why does virtue often languish in the shadow while vice triumphs in the sunshine; why does failure so often dog the footsteps of honest effort, while the success that comes from trickery and dishonor is greeted with the world's applause? How is it that the loving father of one family is taken by death, while the worthless incumbrance of another is spared? Why is there so much unnecessary pain, sorrowing and suffering in the world--why, indeed, should there be any?"
To all of us, there are times when we’re overwhelmed by a deep questioning despair that clouds our perspective and holds us back: "If there really is a God, if eternal justice truly governs the world," we wonder, "why is life the way it is? Why do some people go hungry while others indulge; why does goodness often fade into the background while wrongdoing thrives in the limelight; why does hard work frequently lead to failure, while success achieved through deceit and dishonor is celebrated? How come the loving father of one family dies, while the useless burden of another lives on? Why is there so much unnecessary pain, heartache, and suffering in the world—why should any of it exist at all?"
Neither philosophy nor religion can give any final satisfactory answer that is capable of logical demonstration, of absolute proof. There is ever, even after the best explanations, a residuum of the unexplained. We must then fall back in the eternal arms of faith, and be wise enough to say, "I will not be disconcerted by these problems of life, I will not permit them to plunge me into doubt, and to cloud my life with vagueness and uncertainty. Man arrogates much to himself when he demands from the Infinite the full solution of all His mysteries. I will found my life on the impregnable rock of a simple fundamental truth:--'This glorious creation with its millions of wondrous phenomena pulsing ever in harmony with eternal law must have a Creator, that Creator must be omniscient and omnipotent. But that Creator Himself cannot, in justice, demand of any creature more than the best that that individual can give.' I will do each day, in every moment, the best I can by the light I have; I will ever seek more light, more perfect illumination of truth, and ever live as best I can in harmony with the truth as I see it. If failure come I will meet it bravely; if my pathway then lie in the shadow of trial, sorrow and suffering, I shall have the restful peace and the calm strength of one who has done his best, who can look back upon the past with no pang of regret, and who has heroic courage in facing the results, whatever they be, knowing that he could not make them different."
Neither philosophy nor religion can provide a final, satisfying answer that can be logically proven or absolutely verified. There always remains, even after the best explanations, something that is still unexplained. Therefore, we must return to the enduring embrace of faith and be wise enough to say, "I will not let these problems of life shake me; I will not allow them to lead me into doubt or fill my life with ambiguity and uncertainty. People assume too much when they demand from the Infinite all the answers to its mysteries. I will build my life on the solid foundation of a simple fundamental truth: this beautiful creation with its countless amazing phenomena, always in sync with eternal law, must have a Creator, and that Creator must be all-knowing and all-powerful. However, that Creator cannot justifiably ask any being for more than the best that individual can offer. Each day, in every moment, I will do the best I can with the insight I have; I will continually seek more understanding, more perfect clarity of truth, and strive to live as best I can in harmony with the truth as I perceive it. If failure comes, I will face it courageously; if my journey leads me through trials, sorrow, and suffering, I will find the peace and strength of someone who has done their utmost, who can look back without regret, and who possesses the bravery to confront the outcomes, whatever they may be, knowing that I could not have done differently."
Upon this life-plan, this foundation, man may erect any superstructure of religion or philosophy that he conscientiously can erect; he should add to his equipment for living every shred of strength and inspiration, moral, mental or spiritual that is in his power to secure. This simple working faith is opposed to no creed, is a substitute for none; it is but a primary belief, a citadel, a refuge where the individual can retire for strength when the battle of life grows hard.
On this life plan, this foundation, a person can build any structure of religion or philosophy that they sincerely can create; they should gather every bit of strength and inspiration—moral, mental, or spiritual—that they can obtain to help them live. This straightforward working faith doesn’t contradict any belief system and isn’t a replacement for any; it’s just a basic belief, a stronghold, a safe place where someone can go for strength when life gets tough.
A mere theory of life, that remains but a theory, is about as useful to a man, as a gilt-edged menu is to a starving sailor on a raft in mid-ocean. It is irritating but not stimulating. No rule for higher living will help a man in the slightest, until he reach out and appropriate it for himself, until he make it practical in his daily life, until that seed of theory in his mind blossom into a thousand flowers of thought and word and act.
A simple theory of life that stays just a theory is about as helpful to someone as a fancy menu is to a starving sailor on a raft in the middle of the ocean. It's frustrating but not inspiring. No guideline for better living will benefit a person at all until they grasp it for themselves, make it relevant in their everyday life, and let that seed of theory in their mind grow into countless ideas, words, and actions.
If a man honestly seeks to live his best at all times, that determination is visible in every moment of his living, no trifle in his life can be too insignificant to reflect his principle of living. The sun illuminates and beautifies a fallen leaf by the roadside as impartially as a towering mountain peak in the Alps. Every drop of water in the ocean is an epitome of the chemistry of the whole ocean; every drop is subject to precisely the same laws as dominate the united infinity of billions of drops that make that miracle of Nature, men call the Sea. No matter how humble the calling of the individual, how uninteresting and dull the round of his duties, he should do his best. He should dignify what he is doing by the mind he puts into it, he should vitalize what little he has of power or energy or ability or opportunity, in order to prepare himself to be equal to higher privileges when they come. This will never lead man to that weak content that is satisfied with whatever falls to his lot. It will rather fill his mind with that divine discontent that cheerfully accepts the best,--merely as a temporary substitute for something better.
If a person genuinely strives to live their best life at all times, that commitment is evident in every moment they live; no detail in their life is too small to showcase their principles. The sun lights up and enhances a fallen leaf by the side of the road just as much as it does a majestic mountain peak in the Alps. Every drop of water in the ocean represents the entire chemistry of the ocean; each drop is governed by the same laws as the collective infinity of billions of drops that create the wonder of Nature we call the Sea. Regardless of how humble someone’s job may be or how boring their daily tasks are, they should always give their best. They should elevate what they’re doing with the effort they put into it, breathing life into the limited power, energy, ability, or opportunity they possess to prepare themselves for greater opportunities when they arise. This approach won’t lead someone to a weak satisfaction with whatever comes their way. Instead, it will fill their mind with a healthy dissatisfaction that gladly accepts the best as just a temporary stand-in for something even better.
The man who is seeking ever to do his best is the man who is keen, active, wide-awake, and aggressive. He is ever watchful of himself in trifles; his standard is not "What will the world say?" but "Is it worthy of me?"
The man who is always trying to do his best is the one who is enthusiastic, energetic, alert, and determined. He constantly keeps an eye on himself in small matters; his standard is not "What will others think?" but "Is this worthy of me?"
Edwin Booth, one of the greatest actors on the American stage, would never permit himself to assume an ungraceful attitude, even in his hours of privacy. In this simple thing, he ever lived his best. On the stage every move was one of unconscious grace. Those of his company who were conscious of their motions were the awkward ones, who were seeking in public to undo or to conceal the carelessness of the gestures and motions of their private life. The man who is slipshod and thoughtless in his daily speech, whose vocabulary is a collection of anæmic commonplaces, whose repetitions of phrases and extravagance of interjections act but as feeble disguises to his lack of ideas, will never be brilliant on an occasion when he longs to outshine the stars. Living at one's best is constant preparation for instant use. It can never make one over-precise, self-conscious, affected, or priggish. Education, in its highest sense, is conscious training of mind or body to act unconsciously. It is conscious formation of mental habits, not mere acquisition of information.
Edwin Booth, one of the greatest actors on the American stage, would never let himself adopt an awkward posture, even when he was by himself. In this simple aspect, he always lived his best. On stage, every movement had an effortless grace. Those in his company who were aware of their movements were the clumsy ones, trying to hide or fix the carelessness of their gestures and actions in private. A person who speaks carelessly and without thought, whose vocabulary is just a collection of bland phrases, whose repeated expressions and over-the-top interjections are weak attempts to mask their lack of ideas, will never shine when they want to stand out. Living at your best means being prepared at all times. It can't make you overly precise, self-aware, pretentious, or overly fussy. Education, in its highest form, is the conscious training of the mind or body to act unconsciously. It involves intentionally shaping mental habits, not just gathering information.
One of the many ways in which the individual unwisely eclipses himself, is in his worship of the fetich of luck. He feels that all others are lucky, and that whatever he attempts, fails. He does not realize the untiring energy, the unremitting concentration, the heroic courage, the sublime patience that is the secret of some men's success. Their "luck" was that they had prepared themselves to be equal to their opportunity when it came and were awake to recognize it and receive it. His own opportunity came and departed unnoted, it would not waken him from his dreams of some untold wealth that would fall into his lap. So he grows discouraged and envies those whom he should emulate, and he bandages his arm and chloroforms his energies, and performs his duties in a perfunctory way, or he passes through life, just ever "sampling" lines of activity.
One of the many ways a person foolishly holds themselves back is by obsessing over the idea of luck. They think everyone else is lucky while whatever they try just fails. They don’t see the relentless effort, constant focus, brave determination, and incredible patience that are behind some people’s success. Their “luck” was really about being ready to seize opportunities when they arose and being alert enough to recognize and take advantage of them. His own opportunity came and went unnoticed because he was lost in dreams of some hidden fortune that would just appear out of nowhere. So, he becomes discouraged and envies those he should look up to, and he ends up nursing his wounds and numbing his drive, doing his tasks in a half-hearted way, or he just floats through life, always “sampling” different activities.
The honest, faithful struggler should always realize that failure is but an episode in a true man's life,--never the whole story. It is never easy to meet, and no philosophy can make it so, but the steadfast courage to master conditions, instead of complaining of them, will help him on his way; it will ever enable him to get the best out of what he has. He never knows the long series of vanquished failures that give solidity to some one else's success; he does not realize the price that some rich man, the innocent football of political malcontents and demagogues, has heroicly paid for wealth and position.
The honest, faithful fighter should always understand that failure is just a chapter in a real man's life—not the entire story. It's never easy to deal with, and no philosophy can change that, but having the determination to tackle challenges instead of complaining about them will help him on his journey; it will allow him to make the most of what he has. He’s unaware of the long list of overcome failures that solidify someone else's success; he doesn’t recognize the price that some wealthy individual, tossed around by political discontent and demagogues, has heroically paid for their wealth and status.
The man who has a pessimist's doubt of all things; who demands a certified guarantee of his future; who ever fears his work will not be recognized or appreciated; or that after all, it is really not worth while, will never live his best. He is dulling his capacity for real progress by his hypnotic course of excuses for inactivity, instead of a strong tonic of reasons for action.
The man who doubts everything like a pessimist; who insists on a guaranteed future; who constantly worries that his work won’t be acknowledged or valued; or that in the end, it’s just not worth it, will never reach his full potential. He is dulling his ability to truly progress with his endless excuses for not taking action, instead of embracing strong reasons to move forward.
One of the most weakening elements in the individual make-up is the surrender to the oncoming of years. Man's self-confidence dims and dies in the fear of age. "This new thought," he says of some suggestion tending to higher development, "is good; it is what we need. I am glad to have it for my children; I would have been happy to have had some such help when I was at school, but it is too late for me. I am a man advanced in years."
One of the most weakening factors in a person's character is giving in to the passage of time. A person's self-confidence fades and disappears in the fear of growing old. "This new idea," he says of a suggestion for personal growth, "is great; it's exactly what we need. I'm happy to have it for my kids; I would have loved to have had some help like this when I was in school, but it's too late for me. I'm an older man now."
This is but blind closing of life to wondrous possibilities. The knell of lost opportunity is never tolled in this life. It is never too late to recognize truth and to live by it. It requires only greater effort, closer attention, deeper consecration; but the impossible does not exist for the man who is self-confident and is willing to pay the price in time and struggle for his success or development. Later in life, the assessments are heavier in progress, as in life insurance, but that matters not to that mighty self-confidence that will not grow old while knowledge can keep it young.
This is just a foolish rejection of life's amazing possibilities. The sound of lost opportunity is never heard in this life. It’s never too late to recognize the truth and live by it. It only takes more effort, more focus, and deeper commitment; but nothing is impossible for a person who believes in themselves and is ready to invest the time and effort to achieve their goals or personal growth. Later in life, the stakes are higher in terms of progress, like with life insurance, but that doesn’t matter to that strong self-confidence that will never age as long as knowledge can keep it youthful.
Socrates, when his hair whitened with the snow of age, learned to play on instruments of music. Cato, at fourscore, began his study of Greek, and the same age saw Plutarch beginning, with the enthusiasm of a boy, his first lessons in Latin. The Character of Man, Theophrastus' greatest work, was begun on his ninetieth birthday. Chaucer's Canterbury Tales was the work of the poet's declining years. Ronsard, the father of French poetry, whose sonnets even translation cannot destroy, did not develop his poetic faculty until nearly fifty. Benjamin Franklin at this age had just taken his really first steps of importance in philosophic pursuits. Arnauld, the theologian and sage, translated Josephus in his eightieth year. Winckelmann, one of the most famous writers on classic antiquities, was the son of a shoemaker, and lived in obscurity and ignorance until the prime of life. Hobbes, the English philosopher, published his version of the Odyssey in his eighty-seventh year, and his Iliad one year later. Chevreul, the great French scientist, whose untiring labors in the realm of color have so enriched the world, was busy, keen and active when Death called him, at the age of 103.
Socrates, when his hair turned white with age, learned to play musical instruments. Cato, at eighty, started studying Greek, and at the same age, Plutarch began, with the enthusiasm of a young boy, his first lessons in Latin. The Character of Man, Theophrastus' greatest work, was started on his ninetieth birthday. Chaucer's Canterbury Tales was created during the poet's later years. Ronsard, the father of French poetry, whose sonnets translation cannot diminish, didn't develop his poetic talent until he was nearly fifty. Benjamin Franklin was just starting to take significant steps in philosophy at this age. Arnauld, the theologian and philosopher, translated Josephus in his eightieth year. Winckelmann, one of the most renowned writers on classical antiquities, was the son of a shoemaker and lived in obscurity and ignorance until the peak of his life. Hobbes, the English philosopher, published his version of the Odyssey in his eighty-seventh year, and his Iliad one year later. Chevreul, the great French scientist, whose tireless work in the field of color has greatly enriched the world, was busy, sharp, and active when Death called him at the age of 103.
These men did not fear age; these few names from the great muster-roll of the famous ones who defied the years, should be voices of hope and heartening to every individual whose courage and confidence is weak. The path of truth, higher living, truer development in every phase of life, is never shut from the individual--until he closes it himself. Let man feel this, believe it and make this faith a real and living factor in his life and there are no limits to his progress. He has but to live his best at all times, and rest calm and untroubled no matter what results come to his efforts. The constant looking backward to what might have been, instead of forward to what may be, is a great weakener of self-confidence. This worry for the old past, this wasted energy, for that which no power in the world can restore, ever lessens the individual's faith in himself, weakens his efforts to develop himself for the future to the perfection of his possibilities.
These guys didn’t fear getting older; these few names from the impressive list of famous people who challenged time should be a source of hope and encouragement for anyone whose courage and confidence is lacking. The journey of truth, better living, and genuine growth in every area of life is never closed off to anyone—unless they close it themselves. If a person feels this, believes it, and makes this belief a real part of their life, there are no limits to their progress. They just need to do their best at all times and stay calm and untroubled, no matter what results come from their efforts. Constantly looking back at what could have been, instead of forward to what might be, really weakens self-confidence. This worrying about the past, this wasted energy on something that can’t be changed, always diminishes a person’s belief in themselves and weakens their chances to grow into the best version of themselves for the future.
Nature in her beautiful love and tenderness, says to man, weakened and worn and weary with the struggle, "Do in the best way you can the trifle that is under your hand at this moment; do it in the best spirit of preparation for the future your thought suggests; bring all the light of knowledge from all the past to aid you. Do this and you have done your best. The past is forever closed to you. It is closed forever to you. No worry, no struggle, no suffering, no agony of despair can alter it. It is as much beyond your power as if it were a million years of eternity behind you. Turn all that past, with its sad hours, weakness and sin, its wasted opportunities as light; in confidence and hope, upon the future. Turn it all in fuller truth and light so as to make each trifle of this present a new past it will be joy to look back to; each trifle a grander, nobler, and more perfect preparation for the future. The present and the future you can make from it, is yours; the past has gone back, with all its messages, all its history, all its records to the God who loaned you the golden moments to use in obedience to His law."
Nature, in her beautiful love and tenderness, says to man, who is weakened, worn, and weary from the struggle, "Do the best you can with the little task in front of you right now; approach it with a mindset that prepares you for the future your thoughts suggest; bring all the knowledge from the past to help you. If you do this, you've done your best. The past is permanently closed to you. It is forever beyond your reach. No worry, no struggle, no suffering, no agony of despair can change it. It is as out of your control as if it were a million years of eternity behind you. Turn all that past, with its sorrowful hours, weaknesses, and sins, its wasted opportunities into light; focus on the future with confidence and hope. Turn it all into fuller truth and light so that each small moment in the present becomes a new past that you can joyfully reflect on; each moment a greater, nobler, and more perfect preparation for what’s to come. The present and the future that you can create are yours; the past has returned, with all its messages, all its history, all its records to the God who gave you those golden moments to use in accordance with His law."
VII
The Royal Road to Happiness
"During my whole life I have not had twenty-four hours of happiness." So said Prince Bismarck, one of the greatest statesmen of the nineteenth century. Eighty-three years of wealth, fame, honors, power, influence, prosperity and triumph, – years when he held an empire in his fingers, – but not one day of happiness!
"Throughout my entire life, I haven't experienced twenty-four hours of happiness." That’s what Prince Bismarck, one of the most significant statesmen of the nineteenth century, said. Eighty-three years filled with wealth, fame, honors, power, influence, prosperity, and triumph—years when he had an empire at his fingertips—but not a single day of happiness!
Happiness is the greatest paradox in Nature. It can grow in any soil, live under any conditions. It defies environment. It comes from within; it is the revelation of the depths of the inner life as light and heat proclaim the sun from which they radiate. Happiness consists not of having, but of being; not of possessing, but of enjoying. It is the warm glow of a heart at peace with itself. A martyr at the stake may have happiness that a king on his throne might envy. Man is the creator of his own happiness; it is the aroma of a life lived in harmony with high ideals. For what a man has, he may be dependent on others; what he is, rests with him alone. What he obtains in life is but acquisition; what he attains, is growth. Happiness is the soul's joy in the possession of the intangible. Absolute, perfect, continuous happiness in life, is impossible for the human. It would mean the consummation of attainments, the individual consciousness of a perfectly fulfilled destiny. Happiness is paradoxic because it may coexist with trial, sorrow and poverty. It is the gladness of the heart, – rising superior to all conditions.
Happiness is the biggest paradox in nature. It can thrive in any environment and adapt to any situation. It defies surroundings. It comes from inside; it's the expression of the depths of our inner life, much like light and warmth come from the sun. Happiness isn’t about having, but about being; not about owning, but about enjoying. It’s the warm glow of a heart at peace with itself. A martyr facing execution might feel a happiness that a king on his throne could envy. People create their own happiness; it’s the sweet scent of a life lived in harmony with high ideals. For what a person has may depend on others; what a person is depends solely on them. What a person obtains in life is just acquisition; what they attain is growth. Happiness is the soul's joy in having the intangible. Absolute, perfect, continuous happiness in life is impossible for humans. It would mean reaching all goals, having the individual awareness of a perfectly fulfilled destiny. Happiness is paradoxical because it can coexist with struggle, sorrow, and poverty. It is the joy of the heart, rising above all circumstances.
Happiness has a number of under-studies, – gratification, satisfaction, content, and pleasure, – clever imitators that simulate its appearance rather than emulate its method. Gratification is a harmony between our desires and our possessions. It is ever incomplete, it is the thankful acceptance of part. It is a mental pleasure in the quality of what one receives, an unsatisfiedness as to the quantity. It may be an element in happiness, but, in itself, – it is not happiness.
Happiness has several offshoots – gratification, satisfaction, contentment, and pleasure – clever copies that mimic its look rather than replicate its essence. Gratification is the balance between our desires and what we have. It's always partial; it's the grateful acceptance of a part. It brings a mental pleasure from the quality of what we receive, but there's a lingering dissatisfaction with the amount. It might contribute to happiness, but on its own, it isn’t happiness.
Satisfaction is perfect identity of our desires and our possessions. It exists only so long as this perfect union and unity can be preserved. But every realized ideal gives birth to new ideals, every step in advance reveals large domains of the unattained; every feeding stimulates new appetites, – then the desires and possessions are no longer identical, no longer equal; new cravings call forth new activities, the equipoise is destroyed, and dissatisfaction reënters. Man might possess everything tangible in the world and yet not be happy, for happiness is the satisfying of the soul, not of the mind or the body. Dissatisfaction, in its highest sense, is the keynote of all advance, the evidence of new aspirations, the guarantee of the progressive revelation of new possibilities.
Satisfaction is the perfect alignment of our desires and what we have. It lasts only as long as that perfect connection can be maintained. However, every time we achieve an ideal, we create new ideals; every move forward uncovers vast areas of what we still haven't attained. Each satisfaction fuels new desires—then desires and possessions are no longer the same, and new cravings spark new actions, disrupting the balance, and dissatisfaction returns. A person could have every material thing in the world and still not be happy, because happiness comes from fulfilling the soul, not just the mind or body. In its deepest sense, dissatisfaction drives all progress, showing evidence of new ambitions and ensuring the ongoing discovery of new possibilities.
Content is a greatly overrated virtue. It is a kind of diluted despair; it is the feeling with which we continue to accept substitutes, without striving for the realities. Content makes the trained individual swallow vinegar and try to smack his lips as if it were wine. Content enables one to warm his hands at the fire of a past joy that exists only in memory. Content is a mental and moral chloroform that deadens the activities of the individual to rise to higher planes of life and growth. Man should never be contented with anything less than the best efforts of his nature can possibly secure for him. Content makes the world more comfortable for the individual, but it is the death-knell of progress. Man should be content with each step of progress merely as a station, discontented with it as a destination; contented with it as a step; discontented with it as a finality. There are times when a man should be content with what he has, but never with what he is.
Content is a vastly overrated quality. It’s a sort of diluted despair; it’s the mindset that leads us to accept substitutes instead of striving for what’s real. Contentment makes a trained person pretend that vinegar is wine. It allows someone to warm their hands by recalling a past joy that only exists in memory. Contentment acts like mental and moral chloroform, numbing a person's desire to reach for higher levels of life and growth. People should never settle for anything less than the best their potential can provide. While contentment makes the world feel more comfortable for individuals, it stifles progress. People should be satisfied with each step of progress as just a milestone, but never as the final goal; satisfied as a step, but dissatisfied as an endpoint. There are moments when someone should be content with what they have, but never with who they are.
But content is not happiness; neither is pleasure. Pleasure is temporary, happiness is continuous; pleasure is a note, happiness is a symphony; pleasure may exist when conscience utters protests; happiness, – never. Pleasure may have its dregs and its lees; but none can be found in the cup of happiness.
But contentment isn't happiness; neither is pleasure. Pleasure is temporary, happiness is ongoing; pleasure is a note, happiness is a symphony; pleasure can exist even when conscience raises objections; happiness never does. Pleasure might have its leftovers and residue; but nothing can be found in the cup of happiness.
Man is the only animal that can be really happy. To the rest of the creation belong only weak imitations of the understudies. Happiness represents a peaceful attunement of a life with a standard of living. It can never be made by the individual, by himself, for himself. It is one of the incidental by-products of an unselfish life. No man can make his own happiness the one object of his life and attain it, any more than he can jump on the far end of his shadow. If you would hit the bull's-eye of happiness on the target of life, aim above it. Place other things higher than your own happiness and it will surely come to you. You can buy pleasure, you can acquire content, you can become satisfied, – but Nature never put real happiness on the bargain-counter. It is the undetachable accompaniment of true living. It is calm and peaceful; it never lives in an atmosphere of worry or of hopeless struggle.
Man is the only animal that can truly be happy. The rest of creation only experiences weak imitations of that happiness. Happiness is a peaceful alignment of life with a standard of living. It can't be created by an individual alone for themselves. It's one of the by-products of living selflessly. No one can make their own happiness the sole purpose of their life and actually achieve it, just as they can't leap to the far end of their own shadow. If you want to hit the bull's-eye of happiness on the target of life, aim higher. Put other things above your own happiness, and it will surely come to you. You can buy pleasure, you can seek contentment, you can find satisfaction, but Nature never placed real happiness on the discount rack. It's an inseparable part of genuine living. It's calm and peaceful; it never exists in an atmosphere of worry or futile struggle.
The basis of happiness is the love of something outside self. Search every instance of happiness in the world, and you will find, when all the incidental features are eliminated, there is always the constant, unchangeable element of love, – love of parent for child; love of man and woman for each other; love of humanity in some form, or a great life work into which the individual throws all his energies.
The foundation of happiness is the love for something beyond oneself. Look at every case of happiness in the world, and you'll notice that when all the extra details are stripped away, there's always a constant, unchanging element of love—love of a parent for their child; love between partners; love for humanity in some way, or a significant life work where a person invests all their energy.
Happiness is the voice of optimism, of faith, of simple, steadfast love. No cynic or pessimist can be really happy. A cynic is a man who is morally near-sighted, – and brags about it. He sees the evil in his own heart, and thinks he sees the world. He lets a mote in his eye eclipse the sun. An incurable cynic is an individual who should long for death, – for life cannot bring him happiness, death might. The keynote of Bismarck's lack of happiness was his profound distrust of human nature.
Happiness is the voice of optimism, faith, and simple, steady love. No cynic or pessimist can truly be happy. A cynic is someone who is morally shortsighted and proud of it. He recognizes the flaws in his own heart and believes he understands the world. He allows a small flaw in his vision to overshadow everything. An incurable cynic is someone who should wish for death—because life can't bring him happiness, but maybe death could. The core of Bismarck's unhappiness was his deep distrust of human nature.
There is a royal road to happiness; it lies in Consecration, Concentration, Conquest and Conscience.
There’s a direct path to happiness; it’s found in dedication, focus, overcoming challenges, and awareness.
Consecration is dedicating the individual life to the service of others, to some noble mission, to realizing some unselfish ideal. Life is not something to be lived through; it is something to be lived up to. It is a privilege, not a penal servitude of so many decades on earth. Consecration places the object of life above the mere acquisition of money, as a finality. The man who is unselfish, kind, loving, tender, helpful, ready to lighten the burden of those around him, to hearten the struggling ones, to forget himself sometimes in remembering others, – is on the right road to happiness. Consecration is ever active, bold and aggressive, fearing naught but possible disloyalty to high ideals.
Consecration is about dedicating your life to serving others, pursuing a noble mission, or realizing a selfless ideal. Life isn't something to just get through; it's something to aspire to. It's a privilege, not just a long sentence on earth. Consecration places the purpose of life above simply making money. A person who is selfless, kind, loving, caring, helpful, and willing to lighten the load for those around them—who encourages those who are struggling and sometimes forgets themselves to think of others—is on the right path to happiness. Consecration is always active, bold, and determined, fearing only the betrayal of high ideals.
Concentration makes the individual life simpler and deeper. It cuts away the shams and pretences of modern living and limits life to its truest essentials. Worry, fear, useless regret, – all the great wastes that sap mental, moral or physical energy must be sacrificed, or the individual needlessly destroys half the possibilities of living. A great purpose in life, something that unifies the strands and threads of each day's thinking, something that takes the sting from the petty trials, sorrows, sufferings and blunders of life, is a great aid to Concentration. Soldiers in battle may forget their wounds, or even be unconscious of them, in the inspiration of battling for what they believe is right. Concentration dignifies an humble life; it makes a great life, – sublime. In morals it is a short-cut to simplicity. It leads to right for right's sake, without thought of policy or of reward. It brings calm and rest to the individual, – a serenity that is but the sunlight of happiness.
Concentration makes life simpler and more meaningful. It strips away the fakeness and pretenses of modern living and focuses on what truly matters. Worry, fear, and pointless regrets—these major drains on mental, moral, and physical energy—must be let go, or a person unnecessarily squanders half their opportunities for life. Having a big purpose in life, something that ties together the thoughts of each day and helps lessen the impact of everyday challenges, sorrows, sufferings, and mistakes, greatly supports concentration. Soldiers in battle might forget their injuries, or even not feel them at all, when inspired by fighting for what they believe is right. Concentration elevates a simple life; it transforms a good life into something extraordinary. In terms of morals, it offers a straightforward path to simplicity. It leads to doing the right thing for its own sake, without considering strategy or rewards. It provides calm and rest to the individual, creating a sense of peace that feels like the light of happiness.
Conquest is the overcoming of an evil habit, the rising superior to opposition and attack, the spiritual exaltation that comes from resisting the invasion of the grovelling material side of life. Sometimes when you are worn and weak with the struggle; when it seems that justice is a dream, that honesty and loyalty and truth count for nothing, that the devil is the only good paymaster; when hope grows dim and flickers, then is the time when you must tower in the great sublime faith that Right must prevail, then must you throttle these imps of doubt and despair, you must master yourself to master the world around you. This is Conquest; this is what counts. Even a log can float with the current, it takes a man to fight sturdily against an opposing tide that would sweep his craft out of its course. When the jealousies, the petty intrigues and the meannesses and the misunderstandings in life assail you, – rise above them. Be like a lighthouse that illumines and beautifies the snarling, swashing waves of the storm that threaten it, that seek to undermine it and seek to wash over it. This is Conquest. When the chance to win fame, wealth, success or the attainment of your heart's desire, by sacrifice of honor or principle, comes to you and it does not affect you long enough even to seem a temptation, you have been the victor. That too is Conquest. And Conquest is part of the royal road to Happiness.
Conquest is overcoming a bad habit, rising above challenges and attacks, and the spiritual uplift that comes from resisting the pull of the material side of life. Sometimes, when you're tired and struggling; when it feels like justice is just a dream, that honesty, loyalty, and truth don’t matter, and that the devil is the only one who pays well; when hope dims and flickers, that’s when you must stand tall in the deep belief that what’s right will win out. You must push back against the doubts and despair, mastering yourself to take control of the world around you. This is Conquest; this is what truly matters. Even a log can float with the current; it takes a person to fight vigorously against an opposing tide that could drift their vessel off course. When jealousy, petty schemes, meanness, and misunderstandings attack you—rise above them. Be like a lighthouse that brightens and beautifies the swirling, crashing waves of the storm that threaten it, that try to undermine it and wash over it. This is Conquest. When the opportunity to gain fame, wealth, success, or your heart’s desire by sacrificing honor or principle comes your way, and it doesn’t tempt you for long enough to even seem like a choice, you have won. That too is Conquest. And Conquest is part of the royal path to Happiness.
Conscience, as the mentor, the guide and compass of every act, leads ever to Happiness. When the individual can stay alone with his conscience and get its approval, without using force or specious logic, then he begins to know what real Happiness is. But the individual must be careful that he is not appealing to a conscience perverted or deadened by the wrongdoing and subsequent deafness of its owner. The man who is honestly seeking to live his life in Consecration, Concentration and Conquest, living from day to day as best he can, by the light he has, may rely explicitly on his Conscience. He can shut his ears to "what the world says" and find in the approval of his own conscience the highest earthly tribune, – the voice of the Infinite communing with the Individual.
Conscience, as the mentor, guide, and compass of every action, always leads to happiness. When a person can be alone with their conscience and gain its approval without using force or misleading reasoning, they begin to understand what true happiness is. However, one must be careful not to rely on a conscience that has been twisted or numbed by wrongdoing and the resulting indifference of its owner. A person who genuinely seeks to live their life with dedication, focus, and achievement, doing their best day by day with the knowledge they have, can trust their conscience completely. They can ignore "what the world says" and find in their own conscience's approval the highest earthly authority—the voice of the Infinite connecting with the Individual.
Unhappiness is the hunger to get; Happiness is the hunger to give. True happiness must ever have the tinge of sorrow outlived, the sense of pain softened by the mellowing years, the chastening of loss that in the wondrous mystery of time transmutes our suffering into love and sympathy with others.
Unhappiness is the desire to take; happiness is the desire to share. Real happiness always carries a hint of sorrow we've overcome, the feeling of pain eased by the passing years, the lessons learned from loss that, in the amazing mystery of time, turn our suffering into love and compassion for others.
If the individual should set out for a single day to give Happiness, to make life happier, brighter and sweeter, not for himself, but for others, he would find a wondrous revelation of what Happiness really is. The greatest of the world's heroes could not by any series of acts of heroism do as much real good as any individual living his whole life in seeking, from day to day, to make others happy.
If a person were to spend just one day focused on bringing Happiness, making life happier, brighter, and sweeter, not for their own gain but for others, they would discover an incredible revelation about what Happiness truly means. The greatest heroes in the world couldn’t achieve as much genuine good through heroic acts as someone who dedicates their entire life to making others happy every single day.
Each day there should be fresh resolution, new strength, and renewed enthusiasm. "Just for Today" might be the daily motto of thousands of societies throughout the country, composed of members bound together to make the world better through constant simple acts of kindness, constant deeds of sweetness and love. And Happiness would come to them, in its highest and best form, not because they would seek to absorb it, but, – because they seek to radiate it.
Each day should bring a fresh determination, new energy, and a renewed excitement. "Just for Today" could easily be the daily motto for thousands of groups across the country, made up of members united to improve the world through ongoing simple acts of kindness and consistent gestures of sweetness and love. True Happiness would come to them in its highest and purest form, not because they aim to absorb it, but because they strive to radiate it.
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