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LETTERS
ON THE
EQUALITY OF THE SEXES,
AND THE
WOMAN'S CONDITION.

ADDRESSED TO
MARY S. PARKER,
PRESIDENT OF THE
Boston Female Anti-Slavery Society.

ADDRESSED TO
MARY S. PARKER,
PRESIDENT OF THE
Boston Female Anti-Slavery Society.


BOSTON:
PUBLISHED BY ISAAC KNAPP,
25, CORNHILL.

BOSTON:
PUBLISHED BY ISAAC KNAPP,
25, CORNHILL.


1838.

1838.


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LETTERS.


LETTER I.
WOMEN'S ORIGINAL EQUALITY.

Amesbury, 7th Mo. 11th, 1837.

Amesbury, July 11, 1837.

My Dear Friend,—In attempting to comply with thy request to give my views on the Province of Woman, I feel that I am venturing on nearly untrodden ground, and that I shall advance arguments in opposition to a corrupt public opinion, and to the perverted interpretation of Holy Writ, which has so universally obtained. But I am in search of truth; and no obstacle shall prevent my prosecuting that search, because I believe the welfare of the world will be materially advanced by every new discovery we make of the designs of Jehovah in the creation of woman. It is impossible that we can answer the purpose of our being, unless we understand that purpose. It is impossible that we should fulfil our duties, unless we comprehend them; or live up to our privileges, unless we know what they are.

My Dear Friend,—As I try to fulfill your request to share my thoughts on the role of women, I realize I'm stepping into almost uncharted territory. I know I’ll be presenting ideas that go against widely held beliefs and the distorted interpretations of religious texts that are so common. However, I am in search of the truth, and nothing will stop me from pursuing it, because I believe that every new insight we gain about God's intentions for women will significantly improve the world. We cannot fulfill our purpose in life unless we understand what that purpose is. We cannot do our duties unless we grasp what they are, nor can we embrace our privileges unless we know what they entail.

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In examining this important subject, I shall depend solely on the Bible to designate the sphere of woman, because I believe almost every thing that has been written on this subject, has been the result of a misconception of the simple truths revealed in the Scriptures, in consequence of the false translation of many passages of Holy Writ. My mind is entirely delivered from the superstitious reverence which is attached to the English version of the Bible. King James’s translators certainly were not inspired. I therefore claim the original as my standard, believing that to have been inspired, and I also claim to judge for myself what is the meaning of the inspired writers, because I believe it to be the solemn duty of every individual to search the Scriptures for themselves, with the aid of the Holy Spirit, and not be governed by the views of any man, or set of men.

In looking at this important topic, I will rely entirely on the Bible to define the role of women, because I think almost everything written about this has stemmed from a misunderstanding of the straightforward truths found in the Scriptures, due to incorrect translations of many passages in the Bible. I’m completely free from the superstitious reverence that tends to surround the English version of the Bible. The translators of the King James version certainly weren’t inspired. Therefore, I take the original texts as my standard, believing that they were inspired, and I also believe it’s my responsibility to interpret the meaning of the inspired authors for myself, as I feel it’s the serious duty of each person to search the Scriptures independently, with the help of the Holy Spirit, rather than being influenced by the opinions of any individual or group.

We must first view woman at the period of her creation. ‘And God said, Let us make man in our own image, after our likeness; and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him, male and female created he them.’ In all this sublime description of the creation of man, (which is a generic term including man and woman,) there is not one particle of difference intimated as existing between them. They were both made in the image of God; dominion was given to both over every other creature, but not over each other. Created in perfect equality, they were[Pg 5] expected to exercise the vicegerence intrusted to them by their Maker, in harmony and love.

We need to first look at women at the time of their creation. ‘And God said, let us make man in our own image, after our likeness; and let them have control over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, the livestock, all the earth, and every crawling thing that crawls on the earth. So God created man in His own image; in the image of God, He created him; male and female, He created them.’ In all this amazing description of the creation of humankind (which refers to both men and women), there's no indication of any difference between them. Both were made in the image of God; both were given dominion over every other creature, but not over each other. Created in perfect equality, they were[Pg 5]expected to carry out the stewardship entrusted to them by their Creator, in harmony and love.

Let us pass on now to the recapitulation of the creation of man:—‘The Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. And the Lord God said, it is not good that man should be alone, I will make him an help meet for him.’ All creation swarmed with animated beings capable of natural affection, as we know they still are; it was not, therefore, merely to give man a creature susceptible of loving, obeying, and looking up to him, for all that the animals could do and did do. It was to give him a companion, in all respects his equal; one who was like himself a free agent, gifted with intellect and endowed with immortality; not a partaker merely of his animal gratifications, but able to enter into all his feelings as a moral and responsible being. If this had not been the case, how could she have been an help meet for him? I understand this as applying not only to the parties entering into the marriage contract, but to all men and women, because I believe God designed woman to be an help meet for man in every good and perfect work. She was a part of himself, as if Jehovah designed to make the oneness and identity of man and woman perfect and complete; and when the glorious work of their creation was finished, ‘the morning stars sang together, and all the sons of God shouted for joy.’

Let’s move on to summarize the creation of man:—‘The Lord God made man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. And the Lord God said, it’s not good for man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.’ All of creation was filled with living beings capable of love, just like they still are; it wasn’t just to give man a creature that could love, obey, and look up to him, since the animals could already do that. It was to give him a companion, in all respects his equal; someone who was like him a free agent, gifted with intellect and blessed with immortality; not just someone who shared in his physical pleasures, but someone who could truly engage with his feelings as a moral and responsible being. If that weren’t true, how could she have been a suitable helper for him? I believe this applies not only to those entering into marriage, but to all men and women, because I believe God intended for woman to be a helper suitable for man in all good and perfect work. She was a part of him, as if God aimed to make the unity and identity of man and woman perfect and complete; and when the amazing work of their creation was complete, ‘the morning stars sang together, and all the sons of God shouted for joy.’

This blissful condition was not long enjoyed by our first parents. Eve, it would seem from the history, was wandering alone amid the bowers of Paradise, when the serpent[Pg 6] met with her. From her reply to Satan, it is evident that the command not to eat ‘of the tree that is in the midst of the garden,’ was given to both, although the term man was used when the prohibition was issued by God. ‘And the woman said unto the serpent, WE may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden, but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, YE shall not eat of it, neither shall YE touch it, lest YE die.’ Here the woman was exposed to temptation from a being with whom she was unacquainted. She had been accustomed to associate with her beloved partner, and to hold communion with God and with angels; but of satanic intelligence, she was in all probability entirely ignorant. Through the subtlety of the serpent, she was beguiled. And ‘when she saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof and did eat.’

This happy time didn’t last long for our first parents. Eve, as the story goes, was wandering alone in the gardens of Paradise when the serpent met her. From her response to Satan, it’s clear that the command not to eat 'from the tree in the middle of the garden' was given to both of them, even though God referred to 'man' when issuing the prohibition. 'And the woman said to the serpent, WE can eat the fruit from the trees in the garden, but from the fruit of the tree that is in the middle of the garden, God has said, Yeah shall not eat it, nor shall YE touch it, or else Yup will die.' In this moment, the woman faced temptation from someone she didn’t know. She was used to being with her beloved partner, communicating with God and angels; but she probably had no knowledge of satanic beings. The serpent’s cunning led her astray. And ‘when she saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasing to the eye, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took the fruit from it and ate.’

We next find Adam involved in the same sin, not through the instrumentality of a supernatural agent, but through that of his equal, a being whom he must have known was liable to transgress the divine command, because he must have felt that he was himself a free agent, and that he was restrained from disobedience only by the exercise of faith and love towards his Creator. Had Adam tenderly reproved his wife, and endeavored to lead her to repentance instead of sharing in her guilt, I should be much more ready to accord to man that superiority which he claims; but as the facts stand disclosed by the sacred historian, it appears to me that to say the least, there was as much weakness exhibited by Adam as by Eve.[Pg 7] They both fell from innocence, and consequently from happiness, but not from equality.

We then see Adam getting involved in the same sin, not through the influence of a supernatural being, but through the actions of his equal, someone he must have known could violate the divine command, because he must have felt that he was also a free agent, and that he was only kept from disobedience by having faith and love towards his Creator. If Adam had gently corrected his wife and tried to guide her towards repentance instead of sharing in her guilt, I would be much more inclined to agree with the superiority that man claims; but given the facts presented by the sacred historian, it seems to me that, at the very least, Adam showed as much weakness as Eve. They both fell from innocence, and therefore from happiness, but not from equality.[Pg 7]

Let us next examine the conduct of this fallen pair, when Jehovah interrogated them respecting their fault. They both frankly confessed their guilt. ‘The man said, the woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree and I did eat. And the woman said, the serpent beguiled me and I did eat.’ And the Lord God said unto the woman, ‘Thou wilt be subject unto thy husband, and he will rule over thee.’ That this did not allude to the subjection of woman to man is manifest, because the same mode of expression is used in speaking to Cain of Abel. The truth is that the curse, as it is termed, which was pronounced by Jehovah upon woman, is a simple prophecy. The Hebrew, like the French language, uses the same word to express shall and will. Our translators having been accustomed to exercise lordship over their wives, and seeing only through the medium of a perverted judgment, very naturally, though I think not very learnedly or very kindly, translated it shall instead of will, and thus converted a prediction to Eve into a command to Adam; for observe, it is addressed to the woman and not to the man. The consequence of the fall was an immediate struggle for dominion, and Jehovah foretold which would gain the ascendency; but as he created them in his image, as that image manifestly was not lost by the fall, because it is urged in Gen. 9: 6, as an argument why the life of man should not be taken by his fellow man, there is no reason to suppose that sin produced any distinction between them as moral, intellectual and responsible beings. Man might[Pg 8] just as well have endeavored by hard labor to fulfil the prophecy, thorns and thistles will the earth bring forth to thee, as to pretend to accomplish the other, ‘he will rule over thee,’ by asserting dominion over his wife.

Let’s take a look at how this fallen couple behaved when God questioned them about their wrongdoing. They both openly admitted their guilt. The man said, “The woman you gave me—she gave me fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” The Lord God told the woman, “You will be subject to your husband, and he will rule over you.” It's clear that this doesn’t imply a woman’s subjugation to a man, as the same phrasing is used when God speaks to Cain about Abel. The so-called curse that God pronounced on woman is actually a straightforward prophecy. In Hebrew, like in French, the same word expresses both shall and will. Our translators, influenced by their own authority over their wives and a distorted perspective, understandably—though I believe not very wisely or kindly—translated it as shall instead of will, thus turning Eve’s prediction into a command for Adam; importantly, it’s directed at the woman and not the man. The result of the fall was an immediate power struggle, and God predicted who would dominate. However, since they were created in His image and that image clearly wasn’t lost due to the fall—being referenced in Gen. 9:6 as a reason why one person should not take another’s life—there’s no reason to believe that sin created any difference between them in terms of morality, intellect, or responsibility. Just as easily, the man could have tried to live up to the prophecy of “thorns and thistles the ground will produce for you” through hard work, rather than attempting to fulfill “he will rule over you” by exercising control over his wife.

‘Authority usurped from God, not given.
He gave him only over beast, flesh, fowl,
Dominion absolute: that right he holds
By God’s donation: but man o’er woman
He made not Lord, such title to himself
Reserving, human left from human free.’

"Authority comes from God, not from being given."
He only gave him power over animals,
Complete control: that's the right he has.
By God’s gift: but man is above woman
He didn't give himself the title of ruler.
Keeping humanity free from itself.

Here then I plant myself. God created us equal;—he created us free agents;—he is our Lawgiver, our King and our Judge, and to him alone is woman bound to be in subjection, and to him alone is she accountable for the use of those talents with which her Heavenly Father has entrusted her. One is her Master even Christ.

Here I stand. God made us equal; he created us as free beings; he is our Lawgiver, our King, and our Judge, and to him alone is a woman bound to be submissive, and to him alone is she responsible for the use of the talents with which her Heavenly Father has entrusted her. Her only Master is Christ.

Thine for the oppressed in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine for the oppressed in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER II.
Woman Subject Only to God.

Newburyport, 7th mo. 17, 1837.

Newburyport, July 17, 1837.

My dear Sister,—In my last, I traced the creation and the fall of man and woman from that state of purity and happiness which their beneficent Creator designed them to enjoy. As they were one in transgression, their chastisement was the same. ‘So God drove out the man, and he placed at the East of the garden of Eden a cherubim and a flaming sword, which turned every way to keep the way of the tree of life.’ We now behold them expelled from Paradise, fallen from their original loveliness, but still bearing on their foreheads the image and superscription of Jehovah; still invested with high moral responsibilities, intellectual powers, and immortal souls. They had incurred the penalty of sin, they were shorn of their innocence, but they stood on the same platform side by side, acknowledging no superior but their God. Notwithstanding what has been urged, woman I am aware stands charged to the present day with having brought sin into the world. I shall not repel the charge by any counter assertions, although, as was before hinted, Adam’s ready acquiescence with his wife’s proposal,[Pg 10] does not savor much of that superiority in strength of mind, which is arrogated by man. Even admitting that Eve was the greater sinner, it seems to me man might be satisfied with the dominion he has claimed and exercised for nearly six thousand years, and that more true nobility would be manifested by endeavoring to raise the fallen and invigorate the weak, than by keeping woman in subjection. But I ask no favors for my sex. I surrender not our claim to equality. All I ask of our brethren is, that they will take their feet from off our necks, and permit us to stand upright on that ground which God designed us to occupy. If he has not given us the rights which have, as I conceive, been wrested from us, we shall soon give evidence of our inferiority, and shrink back into that obscurity, which the high souled magnanimity of man has assigned us as our appropriate sphere.

My dear sister,—In my last letter, I discussed the creation and the fall of man and woman from the state of purity and happiness that their benevolent Creator intended for them. They were united in their transgression, and as a result, they faced the same punishment. ‘So God drove out the man, and placed at the East of the garden of Eden a cherubim and a flaming sword, which turned every way to keep the way of the tree of life.’ We now see them cast out of Paradise, fallen from their original beauty, but still bearing the image and inscription of Jehovah on their foreheads; still endowed with significant moral responsibilities, intellectual abilities, and immortal souls. They faced the penalty of sin, they lost their innocence, but they stood on equal ground, acknowledging no superior but their God. Despite what has been said, I know that women are still blamed for bringing sin into the world today. I won’t counter that charge with other arguments, although, as I previously mentioned, Adam's quick agreement with his wife's suggestion doesn’t really show the superiority in strength of mind that men claim. Even if Eve was the greater sinner, it seems to me that man might be content with the power he has held for nearly six thousand years and that true nobility would be shown by trying to uplift the fallen and strengthen the weak, rather than keeping women in subservience. But I don’t ask for special treatment for my gender. I do not give up our claim to equality. All I ask of our brothers is that they remove their feet from our necks and allow us to stand upright on the ground that God intended us to occupy. If He has not granted us the rights that, as I believe, have been taken from us, we will soon show our inferiority and retreat back into the obscurity that the noble spirit of man has assigned us as our proper place.

As I am unable to learn from sacred writ when woman was deprived by God of her equality with man, I shall touch upon a few points in the Scriptures, which demonstrate that no supremacy was granted to man. When God had destroyed the world, except Noah and his family, by the deluge, he renewed the grant formerly made to man, and again gave him dominion over every beast of the earth, every fowl of the air, over all that moveth upon the earth, and over all the fishes of the sea; into his hands they were delivered. But was woman, bearing the image of her God, placed under the dominion of her fellow man? Never! Jehovah could not surrender his authority to govern his own immortal creatures into the hands of a being, whom he knew, and whom his[Pg 11] whole history proved, to be unworthy of a trust so sacred and important. God could not do it, because it is a direct contravention of his law, ‘Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.’ If Jehovah had appointed man as the guardian, or teacher of woman, he would certainly have given some intimation of this surrender of his own prerogative. But so far from it, we find the commands of God invariably the same to man and woman; and not the slightest intimation is given in a single passage of the Bible, that God designed to point woman to man as her instructor. The tenor of his language always is, ‘Look unto ME, and be ye saved, all the ends of the earth, for I am God, and there is none else.’

As I can't find anything in sacred texts that shows when God took away a woman's equality with man, I’ll highlight a few points in the Scriptures that show man wasn't given any supremacy. After God wiped out the world, except for Noah and his family, with the flood, He renewed what He had previously granted to man and gave him authority over every beast of the earth, every bird of the air, everything that moves on the ground, and all the fish of the sea; they were all handed over to him. But was woman, created in God's image, put under the control of man? Never! God couldn't just give His authority over His immortal creations to someone He knew, as history shows, was unworthy of such a sacred and important responsibility. God wouldn't do that because it goes against His law, ‘You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only shall you serve.’ If God had appointed man as the protector or teacher of woman, He would have certainly indicated this transfer of His own authority. However, far from that, we see that God's commands are consistently the same for both man and woman, and there isn’t the slightest suggestion in any part of the Bible that God intended man to be woman’s instructor. His message is always, ‘Look to ME, and be saved, all you ends of the earth, for I am God, and there is no other.’

The lust of dominion was probably the first effect of the fall; and as there was no other intelligent being over whom to exercise it, woman was the first victim of this unhallowed passion. We afterwards see it exhibited by Cain in the murder of his brother, by Nimrod in his becoming a mighty hunter of men, and setting up a kingdom over which to reign. Here we see the origin of that Upas of slavery, which sprang up immediately after the fall, and has spread its pestilential branches over the whole face of the known world. All history attests that man has subjected woman to his will, used her as a means to promote his selfish gratification, to minister to his sensual pleasures, to be instrumental in promoting his comfort; but never has he desired to elevate her to that rank she was created to fill. He has done all he could to debase and enslave her mind; and now he looks triumphantly on the ruin he has wrought, and says, the being he has thus deeply injured is his inferior.

The desire for control was probably the first consequence of humanity's fall, and since there was no other intelligent being to dominate, woman became the first victim of this unholy desire. Later, we see this manifested in Cain when he killed his brother, and in Nimrod as he became a powerful hunter of men and established a kingdom to rule over. This marks the beginning of the terrible legacy of slavery, which emerged right after the fall and has spread its toxic branches across the entire known world. All of history shows that man has forced woman to submit to his will, using her to satisfy his selfish desires, to indulge in his pleasures, and to enhance his comfort; yet he has never sought to raise her to the role she was meant to fulfill. Instead, he has done everything possible to degrade and enslave her mind; and now he looks proudly at the destruction he has caused and claims that the being he has so profoundly harmed is his inferior.

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Woman has been placed by John Quincy Adams, side by side with the slave, whilst he was contending for the right side of petition. I thank him for ranking us with the oppressed; for I shall not find it difficult to show, that in all ages and countries, not even excepting enlightened republican America, woman has more or less been made a means to promote the welfare of man, without due regard to her own happiness, and the glory of God as the end of her creation.

Woman has been placed by John Quincy Adams alongside the slave, while he was arguing for the right to petition. I appreciate him for putting us in the same category as the oppressed; because I can easily demonstrate that throughout history and across different cultures, including enlightened republican America, woman has often been used as a means to improve the welfare of man, without proper consideration for her own happiness or the glory of God as the purpose of her creation.

During the patriarchal ages, we find men and women engaged in the same employments. Abraham and Sarah both assisted in preparing the food which was to be set before the three men, who visited them in the plains of Mamre; but although their occupations were similar, Sarah was not permitted to enjoy the society of the holy visitant; and as we learn from Peter, that she ‘obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord,’ we may presume he exercised dominion over her. We shall pass on now to Rebecca. In her history, we find another striking illustration of the low estimation in which woman was held. Eleazur is sent to seek a wife for Isaac. He finds Rebecca going down to the well to fill her pitcher. He accosts her; and she replies with all humility, ‘Drink, my lord.’ How does he endeavor to gain her favor and confidence? Does he approach her as a dignified creature, whom he was about to invite to fill an important station in his master’s family, as the wife of his only son? No. He offered incense to her vanity, and ‘he took a golden ear-ring of half a shekel weight, and two bracelets for her hands of ten shekels weight of gold,’ and gave them to Rebecca.

During the patriarchal ages, men and women were involved in the same tasks. Abraham and Sarah both helped prepare the food for the three visitors who came to them in the plains of Mamre; however, even though their roles were similar, Sarah was not allowed to join the holy guest. According to Peter, she ‘obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord,’ suggesting he had authority over her. Let’s move on to Rebecca. Her story offers another clear example of how women were viewed. Eliezer was sent to find a wife for Isaac. He discovers Rebecca at the well, filling her pitcher. He approaches her, and she respectfully replies, ‘Drink, my lord.’ How does he try to win her favor and trust? Does he treat her as a respected individual he was inviting to a significant position in his master's family as the wife of his only son? No. He flatters her vanity and ‘he took a golden ear-ring weighing half a shekel, and two bracelets for her arms weighing ten shekels of gold,’ and gave them to Rebecca.

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The cupidity of man soon led him to regard woman as property, and hence we find them sold to those, who wished to marry them, as far as appears, without any regard to those sacred rights which belong to woman, as well as to man in the choice of a companion. That women were a profitable kind of property, we may gather from the description of a virtuous woman in the last chapter of Proverbs. To work willingly with her hands, to open her hands to the poor, to clothe herself with silk and purple, to look well to her household, to make fine linen and sell it, to deliver girdles to the merchant, and not to eat the bread of idleness, seems to have constituted in the view of Solomon, the perfection of a woman’s character and achievements. ‘The spirit of that age was not favorable to intellectual improvement; but as there were wise men who formed exceptions to the general ignorance, and were destined to guide the world into more advanced states, so there was a corresponding proportion of wise women; and among the Jews, as well as other nations, we find a strong tendency to believe that women were in more immediate connection with heaven than men.’—L. M. Child’s Con. of Woman. If there be any truth in this tradition, I am at a loss to imagine in what the superiority of man consists.

The greed of humans quickly led them to see women as possessions, and as a result, we see them sold to those who wanted to marry them, seemingly without any consideration for the inherent rights that belong to both women and men when choosing a partner. We can gather that women were viewed as a valuable type of property from the depiction of a virtuous woman in the last chapter of Proverbs. Working diligently with her hands, reaching out to the poor, dressing in fine fabric, managing her household well, creating and selling fine linen, providing belts to merchants, and not living off idleness all seem to define, in Solomon's view, the ideal character and accomplishments of a woman. ‘The spirit of that age was not supportive of intellectual growth; but just as there were wise men who stood out amidst the widespread ignorance and were destined to lead the world toward greater progress, there were also wise women. Among the Jews and other cultures, there was a strong belief that women had a closer connection to the divine than men.’—L. M. Child’s Con. of Woman. If this tradition holds any truth, I can't quite understand in what man's superiority lies.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER III.
The Pastoral Letter of the General Association of Congregational Ministers of Massachusetts.

Haverhill, 7th Mo. 1837.

Haverhill, July 1837.

Dear Friend,—When I last addressed thee, I had not seen the Pastoral Letter of the General Association. It has since fallen into my hands, and I must digress from my intention of exhibiting the condition of women in different parts of the world, in order to make some remarks on this extraordinary document. I am persuaded that when the minds of men and women become emancipated from the thraldom of superstition and ‘traditions of men,’ the sentiments contained in the Pastoral Letter will be recurred to with as much astonishment as the opinions of Cotton Mather and other distinguished men of his day, on the subject of witchcraft; nor will it be deemed less wonderful, that a body of divines should gravely assemble and endeavor to prove that woman has no right to ‘open her mouth for the dumb,’ than it now is that judges should have sat on the trials of witches, and solemnly condemned nineteen persons and one dog to death for witchcraft.

Hey there!,—When I last wrote to you, I hadn't yet seen the Pastoral Letter of the General Association. Since then, I've come across it, and I need to shift my focus from discussing the condition of women in various parts of the world to share some thoughts on this remarkable document. I believe that when both men and women break free from the grip of superstition and ‘traditions of men,’ the ideas in the Pastoral Letter will be looked back on with as much surprise as the views of Cotton Mather and other notable figures of his time on witchcraft. It won’t be seen as any less amazing that a group of religious leaders would seriously come together to argue that a woman has no right to ‘speak up for those who can't,’ just as it is now astonishing that judges once presided over witch trials and solemnly sentenced nineteen people and one dog to death for witchcraft.

But to the letter. It says, ‘We invite your[Pg 15] attention to the dangers which at present seem to threaten the FEMALE CHARACTER with wide-spread and permanent injury.’ I rejoice that they have called the attention of my sex to this subject, because I believe if woman investigates it, she will soon discover that danger is impending, though from a totally different source from that which the Association apprehends,—danger from those who, having long held the reins of usurped authority, are unwilling to permit us to fill that sphere which God created us to move in, and who have entered into league to crush the immortal mind of woman. I rejoice, because I am persuaded that the rights of woman, like the rights of slaves, need only be examined to be understood and asserted, even by some of those, who are now endeavoring to smother the irrepressible desire for mental and spiritual freedom which glows in the breast of many, who hardly dare to speak their sentiments.

But let's get to the point. It says, ‘We invite your[Pg 15] attention to the dangers that currently seem to threaten the FEMALE CHARACTER with widespread and lasting harm.’ I'm glad they've brought this issue to the attention of my gender, because I believe if women look into it, they'll quickly realize that danger is looming, but from a completely different source than what the Association fears—danger from those who, having long held the reins of usurped authority, are unwilling to let us occupy the roles that God intended for us, and who have come together to stifle the immortal spirit of women. I'm glad because I'm convinced that the rights of women, like the rights of slaves, only need to be examined to be understood and claimed, even by some of those who are currently trying to suppress the unstoppable desire for mental and spiritual freedom that burns within many, who barely dare to express their feelings.

‘The appropriate duties and influence of women are clearly stated in the New Testament. Those duties are unobtrusive and private, but the sources of mighty power. When the mild, dependent, softening influence of woman upon the sternness of man’s opinions is fully exercised, society feels the effects of it in a thousand ways.’ No one can desire more earnestly than I do, that woman may move exactly in the sphere which her Creator has assigned her; and I believe her having been displaced from that sphere has introduced confusion into the world. It is, therefore, of vast importance to herself and to all the rational creation, that she should ascertain what are her duties and her privileges as a responsible and immortal being.[Pg 16] The New Testament has been referred to, and I am willing to abide by its decisions, but must enter my protest against the false translation of some passages by the MEN who did that work, and against the perverted interpretation by the MEN who undertook to write commentaries thereon. I am inclined to think, when we are admitted to the honor of studying Greek and Hebrew, we shall produce some various readings of the Bible a little different from those we now have.

‘The proper roles and impact of women are clearly outlined in the New Testament. These roles may be subtle and personal, yet they are sources of mighty power. When women’s gentle, supportive, and calming influence on men’s often rigid views is fully realized, society benefits in countless ways.’ No one wishes more than I do for women to operate exactly within the roles assigned to them by their Creator; I believe that stepping outside of these roles has brought chaos into the world. It is, therefore, crucial for women and for all of humanity to understand what their responsibilities and rights are as accountable and eternal beings.[Pg 16] The New Testament has been mentioned, and I am ready to accept its guidance, but I must express my objection to the inaccurate translations of certain passages by the GUYS who conducted that work, as well as to the distorted interpretations by the MEN who wrote commentaries on it. I believe that once we have the privilege of studying Greek and Hebrew, we will produce alternative versions of the Bible that differ somewhat from those we currently possess.

The Lord Jesus defines the duties of his followers in his Sermon on the Mount. He lays down grand principles by which they should be governed, without any reference to sex or condition:—‘Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick, and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in Heaven.’ I follow him through all his precepts, and find him giving the same directions to women as to men, never even referring to the distinction now so strenuously insisted upon between masculine and feminine virtues: this is one of the anti-christian ‘traditions of men’ which are taught instead of the ‘commandments of God.’ Men and women were CREATED EQUAL; they are both moral and accountable beings, and whatever is right for man to do, is right for woman.

The Lord Jesus outlines the responsibilities of his followers in his Sermon on the Mount. He establishes important principles that everyone should follow, regardless of gender or status: ‘You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. Let your light shine before others, so they may see your good deeds and give glory to your Father in heaven.’ I follow his teachings and see that he gives the same guidance to women as to men, never even acknowledging the distinction that is now so heavily emphasized between male and female virtues: this is one of the anti-Christian ‘traditions of men’ that are taught instead of the ‘commandments of God.’ Men and women were Created equal; they are both moral and accountable beings, and whatever is right for a man to do is right for a woman.

But the influence of woman, says the Association, is to be private and unobtrusive; her light is not to shine before man like that of her brethren; but she is passively to let the lords[Pg 17] of the creation, as they call themselves, put the bushel over it, lest peradventure it might appear that the world has been benefitted by the rays of her candle. So that her quenched light, according to their judgment, will be of more use than if it were set on the candlestick. ‘Her influence is the source of mighty power.’ This has ever been the flattering language of man since he laid aside the whip as a means to keep woman in subjection. He spares her body; but the war he has waged against her mind, her heart, and her soul, has been no less destructive to her as a moral being. How monstrous, how anti-christian, is the doctrine that woman is to be dependent on man! Where, in all the sacred Scriptures, is this taught? Alas! she has too well learned the lesson which MAN has labored to teach her. She has surrendered her dearest RIGHTS, and been satisfied with the privileges which man has assumed to grant her; she has been amused with the show of power, whilst man has absorbed all the reality into himself. He has adorned the creature whom God gave him as a companion, with baubles and gewgaws, turned her attention to personal attractions, offered incense to her vanity, and made her the instrument of his selfish gratification, a play-thing to please his eye and amuse his hours of leisure. ‘Rule by obedience and by submission sway,’ or in other words, study to be a hypocrite, pretend to submit, but gain your point, has been the code of household morality which woman has been taught. The poet has sung, in sickly strains, the loveliness of woman’s dependence upon man, and now we find it re-echoed by those who profess to teach the religion of the Bible. God says, ‘Cease ye from[Pg 18] man whose breath is in his nostrils, for wherein is he to be accounted of?’ Man says, depend upon me. God says, ‘HE will teach us of his ways.’ Man says, believe it not, I am to be your teacher. This doctrine of dependence upon man is utterly at variance with the doctrine of the Bible. In that book I find nothing like the softness of woman, nor the sternness of man: both are equally commanded to bring forth the fruits of the Spirit, love, meekness, gentleness, &c.

But the influence of a woman, the Association says, should be private and subtle; her light shouldn't shine before men like that of her male counterparts; instead, she should passively allow the so-called lords of creation to cover it with a bushel, so it doesn’t seem that the world has benefited from the light of her candle. According to their viewpoint, her extinguished light is more valuable than if it were placed on a candlestick. "Her influence is the source of great power." This has always been the flattering language of men since they stopped using force to keep women in subjugation. He spares her physical body, but the war he has fought against her mind, heart, and soul has been just as destructive to her as a moral being. How monstrous, how un-Christian, is the belief that a woman should be dependent on a man! Where is this taught in any sacred Scriptures? Unfortunately, she has learned the lesson that MAN has worked hard to instill in her. She has given up her most cherished RIGHTS and been satisfied with the privileges that men have taken it upon themselves to give her; she has been entertained by the illusion of power, while men have taken all the real power for themselves. He has adorned the companion that God gave him with trinkets and distractions, focused her attention on physical appearance, flattered her vanity, and made her an instrument for his selfish enjoyment—a plaything to please his eyes and entertain his leisure hours. "Rule through obedience and submission," or in other words, pretend to comply but achieve your own aims, has been the household moral code taught to women. The poet has sung, in sickly tones, about the beauty of a woman's dependence on man, and now we hear it repeated by those who claim to teach the Bible's religion. God says, "Cease from man whose breath is in his nostrils, for what is he worth?" Man says, "Depend on me." God says, "HE will guide us in His ways." Man claims, "Don't believe that; I am your teacher." This belief in dependence on man completely contradicts the teachings of the Bible. In that book, I find nothing that suggests the softness of women or the harshness of men: both are equally commanded to bear the fruits of the Spirit, such as love, meekness, gentleness, etc.

But we are told, ‘the power of woman is in her dependence, flowing from a consciousness of that weakness which God has given her for her protection.’ If physical weakness is alluded to, I cheerfully concede the superiority; if brute force is what my brethren are claiming, I am willing to let them have all the honor they desire; but if they mean to intimate, that mental or moral weakness belongs to woman, more than to man, I utterly disclaim the charge. Our powers of mind have been crushed, as far as man could do it, our sense of morality has been impaired by his interpretation of our duties; but no where does God say that he made any distinction between us, as moral and intelligent beings.

But we’re told, “the power of a woman lies in her dependence, stemming from an awareness of the weakness that God has given her for her protection.” If we’re talking about physical weakness, I readily concede that point; if my peers are claiming brute strength, I’m happy to let them have all the recognition they want. But if they’re suggesting that mental or moral weakness is something that belongs to women more than to men, I completely reject that idea. Our mental strengths have been diminished as much as men could manage, and our sense of morality has been undermined by their view of our responsibilities; however, nowhere does God say that He made any distinction between us as moral and intelligent beings.

‘We appreciate,’ say the Association, ‘the unostentatious prayers and efforts of woman in advancing the cause of religion at home and abroad, in leading religious inquirers TO THE PASTOR for instruction.’ Several points here demand attention. If public prayers and public efforts are necessarily ostentatious, then ‘Anna the prophetess, (or preacher,) who departed not from the temple, but served God with fastings and prayers night and day,’ ‘and spake of[Pg 19] Christ to all them that looked for redemption in Israel,’ was ostentatious in her efforts. Then, the apostle Paul encourages women to be ostentatious in their efforts to spread the gospel, when he gives them directions how they should appear, when engaged in praying, or preaching in the public assemblies. Then, the whole association of Congregational ministers are ostentatious, in the efforts they are making in preaching and praying to convert souls.

‘We appreciate,’ say the Association, ‘the humble prayers and efforts of women in promoting the cause of religion both at home and abroad, in guiding those seeking guidance FOR THE PASTOR for instruction.’ Several points here need attention. If public prayers and public efforts are necessarily showy, then ‘Anna the prophetess, who did not leave the temple but served God with fastings and prayers night and day,’ ‘and spoke of [Pg 19] Christ to all those looking for redemption in Israel,’ was showy in her efforts. Then, the apostle Paul encourages women to be showy in their efforts to spread the gospel when he gives them guidance on how they should present themselves while praying or preaching in public gatherings. Then, the entire association of Congregational ministers are being showy in their efforts to preach and pray to convert souls.

But woman may be permitted to lead religious inquirers to the PASTORS for instruction. Now this is assuming that all pastors are better qualified to give instruction than woman. This I utterly deny. I have suffered too keenly from the teaching of man, to lead any one to him for instruction. The Lord Jesus says,—‘Come unto me and learn of me.’ He points his followers to no man; and when woman is made the favored instrument of rousing a sinner to his lost and helpless condition, she has no right to substitute any teacher for Christ; all she has to do is, to turn the contrite inquirer to the ‘Lamb of God which taketh away the sins of the world.’ More souls have probably been lost by going down to Egypt for help, and by trusting in man in the early stages of religious experience, than by any other error. Instead of the petition being offered to God,—‘Lead me in thy truth, and TEACH me, for thou art the God of my salvation,’—instead of relying on the precious promises—‘What man is he that feareth the Lord? him shall HE TEACH in the way that he shall choose’—‘I will instruct thee and TEACH thee in the way which thou shalt go—I will guide thee with mine eye’—the young convert is directed to go to man, as if he were[Pg 20] in the place of God, and his instructions essential to an advancement in the path of righteousness. That woman can have but a poor conception of the privilege of being taught of God, what he alone can teach, who would turn the ‘religious inquirer aside’ from the fountain of living waters, where he might slake his thirst for spiritual instruction, to those broken cisterns which can hold no water, and therefore cannot satisfy the panting spirit. The business of men and women, who are ordained of God to preach the unsearchable riches of Christ to a lost and perishing world, is to lead souls to Christ, and not to Pastors for instruction.

But women can be allowed to guide those exploring faith to the PASTORS for guidance. This assumes that all pastors have better qualifications to teach than women. I completely disagree with this. I've been hurt too much by male teachings to bring anyone to them for instruction. The Lord Jesus says, “Come to me and learn from me.” He directs his followers to no one else; when a woman is chosen to awaken someone to their lost and helpless state, she shouldn’t replace Christ with any other teacher. Her role is simply to direct the penitent seeker to the “Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world.” More souls have probably been lost by seeking help in earthly ways and relying on men during the early stages of their faith journey than by any other mistake. Instead of praying to God, “Lead me in your truth and Teach me, for you are the God of my salvation,” instead of holding onto the precious promises, “What man is he that fears the Lord? Him shall HE TEACHES in the way he shall choose”—“I will instruct you and Teach you in the way you should go—I will guide you with my eye”—the young convert is told to seek out a man, as if he were [Pg 20] taking the place of God, and his guidance is essential for moving forward on the path of righteousness. A woman who would divert a “religious inquirer” from the source of living waters, where they can satisfy their thirst for spiritual knowledge, to broken cisterns that can hold no water and thus can't nourish the thirsty spirit has a limited understanding of the privilege of being taught by God, who alone can teach. The true purpose of men and women ordained by God to share the immeasurable riches of Christ with a lost and dying world is to lead souls to Christ, not to pastors for instruction.

The General Association say, that ‘when woman assumes the place and tone of man as a public reformer, our care and protection of her seem unnecessary; we put ourselves in self-defence against her, and her character becomes unnatural.’ Here again the unscriptural notion is held up, that there is a distinction between the duties of men and women as moral beings; that what is virtue in man, is vice in woman; and women who dare to obey the command of Jehovah, ‘Cry aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression,’ are threatened with having the protection of the brethren withdrawn. If this is all they do, we shall not even know the time when our chastisement is inflicted; our trust is in the Lord Jehovah, and in him is ever-lasting strength. The motto of woman, when she is engaged in the great work of public reformation should be,—‘The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?’ She must feel, if she feels rightly,[Pg 21] that she is fulfilling one of the important duties laid upon her as an accountable being, and that her character, instead of being ‘unnatural,’ is in exact accordance with the will of Him to whom, and to no other, she is responsible for the talents and the gifts confided to her. As to the pretty simile, introduced into the ‘Pastoral Letter,’ ‘If the vine whose strength and beauty is to lean upon the trellis work, and half conceal its clusters, thinks to assume the independence and the overshadowing nature of the elm,’ &c. I shall only remark that it might well suit the poet’s fancy, who sings of sparkling eyes and coral lips, and knights in armor clad; but it seems to me utterly inconsistent with the dignity of a Christian body, to endeavor to draw such an anti-scriptural distinction between men and women. Ah! how many of my sex feel in the dominion, thus unrighteously exercised over them, under the gentle appellation of protection, that what they have leaned upon has proved a broken reed at best, and oft a spear.

The General Association states that when a woman takes on the role and attitude of a man as a public reformer, our care and protection of her seem unnecessary; we put ourselves in a defensive position against her, and her character appears unnatural. Here again, there's the unbiblical idea that there’s a difference between the responsibilities of men and women as moral beings; that what is considered virtuous in a man is seen as vice in a woman. Women who dare to follow the command of the Lord to "Cry aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression" are threatened with losing the protection of their male counterparts. If this is all they do, we may not even recognize when our punishment is coming; our trust is in the Lord, and in Him is everlasting strength. The motto for women engaged in the important work of public reform should be: “The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?” She must understand, if she is thinking clearly, that she is fulfilling one of the essential duties given to her as a responsible being, and that her character, instead of being “unnatural,” aligns perfectly with the will of the One to whom she is accountable for the talents and gifts entrusted to her. Regarding the quaint metaphor introduced in the "Pastoral Letter," “If the vine whose strength and beauty is to lean upon the trellis work, and half conceal its clusters, thinks to assume the independence and the overshadowing nature of the elm,” I will only say that it may fit the poet’s imagination, who praises sparkling eyes and coral lips, and knights in armor; but it seems utterly inconsistent with the dignity of a Christian organization to try to create such an unbiblical distinction between men and women. Ah! How many women feel that the control exercised over them, under the gentle term of protection, has proven to be a broken support at best, and often a weapon.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thy in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER IV.
Social interactions between genders.

Andover, 7th Mo. 27th, 1837.

Andover, July 27, 1837.

My Dear Friend,—Before I proceed with the account of that oppression which woman has suffered in every age and country from her protector, man, permit me to offer for your consideration, some views relative to the social intercourse of the sexes. Nearly the whole of this intercourse is, in my apprehension, derogatory to man and woman, as moral and intellectual beings. We approach each other, and mingle with each other, under the constant pressure of a feeling that we are of different sexes; and, instead of regarding each other only in the light of immortal creatures, the mind is fettered by the idea which is early and industriously infused into it, that we must never forget the distinction between male and female. Hence our intercourse, instead of being elevated and refined, is generally calculated to excite and keep alive the lowest propensities of our nature. Nothing, I believe, has tended more to destroy the true dignity of woman, than the fact that she is approached by man in the character of a female. The idea that she is sought as an intelligent and heaven-born creature, whose society[Pg 23] will cheer, refine and elevate her companion, and that she will receive the same blessings she confers, is rarely held up to her view. On the contrary, man almost always addresses himself to the weakness of woman. By flattery, by an appeal to her passions, he seeks access to her heart; and when he has gained her affections, he uses her as the instrument of his pleasure—the minister of his temporal comfort. He furnishes himself with a housekeeper, whose chief business is in the kitchen, or the nursery. And whilst he goes abroad and enjoys the means of improvement afforded by collision of intellect with cultivated minds, his wife is condemned to draw nearly all her instruction from books, if she has time to peruse them; and if not, from her meditations, whilst engaged in those domestic duties, which are necessary for the comfort of her lord and master.

My Dear Friend,—Before I continue with the account of the oppression that women have faced throughout history from their so-called protectors, men, I'd like to share some thoughts on the social interactions between the sexes. I believe that most of these interactions are harmful to both men and women as moral and intellectual beings. We come together under the constant reminder that we are of different sexes; instead of seeing each other as immortal beings, our minds are constrained by the idea that we should never forget the distinction between male and female. As a result, our interactions tend to excite and keep alive the least admirable aspects of our nature. Nothing, I think, has contributed more to undermining the true dignity of women than the fact that men approach them as women first. The notion that a woman is sought after as an intelligent and divine being, whose company will uplift, refine, and enrich her partner, is rarely emphasized. Instead, men typically appeal to women's weaknesses. Through flattery and by appealing to her emotions, he seeks to win her heart; and once he has her affections, he often treats her as a means of his own pleasure—the provider of his immediate comfort. He secures a housekeeper, whose primary role is in the kitchen or nursery. Meanwhile, as he goes out and benefits from engaging with cultivated minds, his wife is often left to seek knowledge primarily from books, if she can find the time to read them; and if not, from her thoughts while handling the domestic duties essential for her husband's comfort.

Surely no one who contemplates, with the eye of a Christian philosopher, the design of God in the creation of woman, can believe that she is now fulfilling that design. The literal translation of the word ‘help-meet’ is a helper like unto himself; it is so rendered in the Septuagint, and manifestly signifies a companion. Now I believe it will be impossible for woman to fill the station assigned her by God, until her brethren mingle with her as an equal, as a moral being; and lose, in the dignity of her immortal nature, and in the fact of her bearing like himself the image and superscription of her God, the idea of her being a female. The apostle beautifully remarks, ‘As many of you as have been baptized into Christ, have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek,[Pg 24] there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female; for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.’ Until our intercourse is purified by the forgetfulness of sex,—until we rise above the present low and sordid views which entwine themselves around our social and domestic interchange of sentiment and feelings, we never can derive that benefit from each other’s society which it is the design of our Creator that we should. Man has inflicted an unspeakable injury upon woman, by holding up to her view her animal nature, and placing in the back ground her moral and intellectual being. Woman has inflicted an injury upon herself by submitting to be thus regarded; and she is now called upon to rise from the station where man, not God, has placed her, and claim those sacred and inalienable rights, as a moral and responsible being, with which her Creator has invested her.

Surely no one who reflects, with the perspective of a Christian thinker, on God's purpose in creating woman can believe she is currently fulfilling that purpose. The literal translation of the term 'help-meet' means a helper like unto himself; it is translated this way in the Septuagint and clearly signifies a companion. I believe it will be impossible for woman to truly occupy the role assigned to her by God until her brothers recognize her as an equal, as a moral being; and move beyond seeing her simply as a female, embracing her dignity as a being created in the image of her God. The apostle beautifully notes, ‘As many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek,[Pg 24] there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.’ Until our interactions are free from the constraints of gender—until we elevate ourselves above the current low and narrow views that entangle our social and personal exchanges—we will never fully benefit from each other’s company as our Creator intended. Man has inflicted a deep injury on woman by emphasizing her animal nature while downplaying her moral and intellectual being. Woman has harmed herself by accepting this perspective, and she is now called to rise from the position where man, not God, has placed her, and reclaim her sacred and inalienable rights as a moral and responsible being, which her Creator has endowed her with.

What but these views, so derogatory to the character of woman, could have called forth the remark contained in the Pastoral Letter? ‘We especially deplore the intimate acquaintance and promiscuous conversation of females with regard to things “which ought not to be named,” by which that modesty and delicacy, which is the charm of domestic life, and which constitutes the true influence of woman, is consumed.’ How wonderful that the conceptions of man relative to woman are so low, that he cannot perceive that she may converse on any subject connected with the improvement of her species, without swerving in the least from that modesty which is one of her greatest virtues! Is it designed to insinuate that woman should possess a greater degree of modesty than man?[Pg 25] This idea I utterly reprobate. Or is it supposed that woman cannot go into scenes of misery, the necessary result of those very things, which the Pastoral Letter says ought not to be named, for the purpose of moral reform, without becoming contaminated by those with whom she thus mingles?

What else but these negative views, so disrespectful to women, could have prompted the comment in the Pastoral Letter? ‘We especially regret the close familiarity and casual conversations of females about things “that shouldn’t be mentioned,” which erodes that modesty and sensitivity that are the essence of home life and define a woman's true influence.’ It's astonishing that men's perceptions of women are so low that they can't see that women can discuss any topic related to the betterment of their species without straying from the modesty that is one of her greatest virtues! Is it meant to suggest that women should have a higher standard of modesty than men?[Pg 25] I completely reject this idea. Or is it assumed that women cannot witness scenes of suffering, the inevitable outcome of those very things that the Pastoral Letter claims shouldn’t be mentioned, for the sake of moral improvement, without becoming tainted by those they interact with?

This is a false position; and I presume has grown out of the never-forgotten distinction of male and female. The woman who goes forth, clad in the panoply of God, to stem the tide of iniquity and misery, which she beholds rolling through our land, goes not forth to her labor of love as a female. She goes as the dignified messenger of Jehovah, and all she does and says must be done and said irrespective of sex. She is in duty bound to communicate with all, who are able and willing to aid her in saving her fellow creatures, both men and women, from that destruction which awaits them.

This is a false assumption, and I believe it stems from the ever-present distinction between men and women. The woman who steps out, armed with the strength of God, to combat the wave of wrongdoing and suffering that she sees sweeping through our society, does not set out to help as a female. She acts as a dignified messenger of God, and everything she says and does should be without regard to gender. She is obligated to connect with everyone who is able and willing to help her in saving her fellow beings, both men and women, from the destruction that lies ahead.

So far from woman losing any thing of the purity of her mind, by visiting the wretched victims of vice in their miserable abodes, by talking with them, or of them, she becomes more and more elevated and refined in her feelings and views. While laboring to cleanse the minds of others from the malaria of moral pollution, her own heart becomes purified, and her soul rises to nearer communion with her God. Such a woman is infinitely better qualified to fulfil the duties of a wife and a mother, than the woman whose false delicacy leads her to shun her fallen sister and brother, and shrink from naming those sins which she knows exist, but which she is too fastidious to labor by deed and by word to exterminate. Such a woman feels when she enters upon the marriage relation,[Pg 26] that God designed that relation not to debase her to a level with the animal creation, but to increase the happiness and dignity of his creatures. Such a woman comes to the important task of training her children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, with a soul filled with the greatness of the beings committed to her charge. She sees in her children, creatures bearing the image of God; and she approaches them with reverence, and treats them at all times as moral and accountable beings. Her own mind being purified and elevated, she instils into her children that genuine religion which induces them to keep the commandments of God. Instead of ministering with ceaseless care to their sensual appetites, she teaches them to be temperate in all things. She can converse with her children on any subject relating to their duty to God, can point their attention to those vices which degrade and brutify human nature, without in the least defiling her own mind or theirs. She views herself, and teaches her children to regard themselves as moral beings; and in all their intercourse with their fellow men, to lose the animal nature of man and woman, in the recognition of that immortal mind wherewith Jehovah has blessed and enriched them.

Instead of a woman losing any purity of mind by visiting the unfortunate victims of vice in their terrible living situations and talking with them or about them, she actually becomes more elevated and refined in her feelings and perspectives. While working to help others cleanse their minds of the toxic effects of moral corruption, her own heart becomes purified, and her soul moves closer to communion with God. Such a woman is far better suited to fulfill the responsibilities of being a wife and mother than a woman whose false delicacy prompts her to avoid her fallen sisters and brothers and to shy away from naming those sins she knows exist but is too squeamish to tackle through action and conversation. Such a woman understands when she enters into marriage that God intended that relationship not to bring her down to a level with animals, but to enhance the happiness and dignity of His creations. This woman approaches the important task of raising her children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord with a heart full of the significance of the beings entrusted to her care. She sees in her children creatures made in the image of God and treats them with respect, always considering them as moral and accountable beings. With her own mind purified and elevated, she instills in her children the true religion that encourages them to follow God's commandments. Instead of constantly catering to their physical desires, she teaches them to be moderate in all things. She can discuss any topic about their duties to God with her children and can draw their attention to the vices that degrade and dehumanize people without dirtying her own mind or theirs. She perceives herself, and teaches her children to see themselves as moral beings; and in all their interactions with others, she encourages them to rise above their animal nature and recognize the immortal minds with which Jehovah has blessed and enriched them.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER V.
Conditions in Asia and Africa.

Groton, 8th Mo. 4th, 1837.

Groton, Oct. 4, 1837.

My Dear Sister,—I design to devote this letter to a brief examination of the condition of women in Asia and Africa. I believe it will be found that men, in the exercise of their usurped dominion over woman, have almost invariably done one of two things. They have either made slaves of the creatures whom God designed to be their companions and their coadjutors in every moral and intellectual improvement, or they have dressed them like dolls, and used them as toys to amuse their hours of recreation.

My Dearest Sister,—I plan to dedicate this letter to a quick look at the status of women in Asia and Africa. I think it will become clear that men, in the exercise of their claimed authority over women, have almost always done one of two things. They have either turned women into slaves, despite the fact that God intended them to be companions and partners in all moral and intellectual growth, or they have dressed them up like dolls and treated them as toys to entertain themselves in their leisure time.

I shall commence by stating the degrading practice of SELLING WOMEN, which we find prevalent in almost all the Eastern nations.

I will start by pointing out the degrading practice of SELLING WOMEN, which is common in almost all Eastern nations.

Among the Jews,—

Among Jewish people,—

‘Whoever wished for a wife must pay the parents for her, or perform a stipulated period of service; sometimes the parties were solemnly betrothed in childhood, and the price of the bride stipulated.’

‘Whoever wanted a wife had to pay her parents for her or complete a set period of service; sometimes the couples were officially engaged in childhood, and the bride's price was agreed upon.’

In Babylon, they had a yearly custom of a peculiar kind.

In Babylon, they had an annual tradition that was quite unusual.

‘In every district, three men, respectable for their virtue, were chosen to conduct all the marriageable girls to the public assembly. Here they were put up at auction by the[Pg 28] public crier, while the magistrate presided over the sales. The most beautiful were sold first, and the rich contended eagerly for a choice. The most ugly, or deformed girl was sold next in succession to the handsomest, and assigned to any person who would take her with the least sum of money. The price given for the beautiful was divided into dowries for the homely.’

‘In every district, three respected men known for their integrity were selected to take all the eligible girls to the public assembly. There, they were auctioned off by the public crier, while the magistrate oversaw the proceedings. The most beautiful girls were sold first, and wealthy bidders competed eagerly for them. The least attractive or deformed girl was sold right after the most beautiful, going to whoever would take her for the lowest price. The money received for the beautiful girls was split into dowries for the less attractive.’

Two things may here be noticed; first, the value set upon personal charms, just as a handsome horse commands a high price; and second, the utter disregard which is manifested towards the feelings of woman.

Two things can be observed here: first, the value placed on personal attractiveness, similar to how a beautiful horse commands a high price; and second, the complete disregard shown for women's feelings.

‘In no part of the world does the condition of women appear more dreary than in Hindostan. The arbitrary power of a father disposes of them in childhood. When they are married, their husbands have despotic control over them; if unable to support them, they can lend or sell them to a neighbor, and in the Hindoo rage for gambling, wives and children are frequently staked and lost. If they survive their husbands, they must pay implicit obedience to the oldest son; if they have no sons, the nearest male relation holds them in subjection; and if there happen to be no kinsmen, they must be dependent on the chief of the tribe.’

‘In no part of the world do women’s lives seem more miserable than in Hindostan. A father has absolute power over them during their childhood. Once they marry, their husbands exercise complete control over them; if they can't provide for them, they can lend or sell them to someone else, and due to the Hindoo obsession with gambling, wives and children are often wagered and lost. If they outlive their husbands, they must obey the oldest son without question; if there are no sons, the closest male relative keeps them under control; and if there are no relatives, they have to rely on the chief of the tribe.’

Even the English, who are numerous in Hindostan, have traded in women.

Even the English, who are numerous in India, have been involved in the trade of women.

‘India has been a great marriage market, on account of the emigration of young enterprising Englishmen, without a corresponding number of women. Some persons actually imported women to the British settlements, in order to sell them to rich Europeans, or nabobs, who would give a good price for them. How the importers acquired a right thus to dispose of them is not mentioned; it is probable that the women themselves, from extreme poverty, or some other cause, consented to become articles of speculation, upon consideration of receiving a certain remuneration. In September, 1818, the following advertisement appeared in the Calcutta Advertiser:

‘India has become a major marriage market due to the emigration of young, ambitious Englishmen, without a matching number of women. Some people actually brought women to the British settlements to sell them to wealthy Europeans or nabobs, who were willing to pay a good price for them. It’s not mentioned how the importers obtained the right to sell these women; it’s likely that the women themselves, driven by extreme poverty or other reasons, agreed to become commodities in exchange for some payment. In September 1818, the following advertisement appeared in the Calcutta Advertiser:

FEMALES RAFFLED FOR.

GIRLS RAFFLED FOR.

Be it known, that six fair pretty young ladies, with two sweet engaging children, lately imported from Europe, having the roses of health blooming on their cheeks, and joy sparkling in their eyes, possessing amiable tempers and highly accomplished, whom the most indifferent cannot behold without rapture, are to be raffled for next door to the British gallery.’

Be it known that six beautiful young ladies, along with two charming children recently brought over from Europe, displaying the rosy glow of health on their cheeks and joy shining in their eyes, possessing friendly personalities and impressive skills, whom even the most indifferent cannot see without feeling delighted, will be raffled next to the British gallery.

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The enemy of all good could not have devised a better means of debasing an immortal creature, than by turning her into a saleable commodity; and hence we find that wherever this custom prevails, woman is regarded as a mere machine to answer the purposes of domestic combat or sensual indulgence, or to gratify the taste of her oppressor by a display of personal attractions.

The enemy of all that's good couldn't have come up with a better way to degrade an immortal being than by turning her into something that can be bought and sold. That's why, wherever this practice exists, women are seen as nothing more than tools for domestic conflict or physical pleasure, or to please their oppressors with their appearance.

‘Weighed in the balance with a tyrant’s gold,
Though nature cast her in a heavenly mould.’

'Measured against a dictator's wealth,
Even though she was made with divine beauty.

I shall now take a brief survey of the EMPLOYMENTS of women in Asia and Africa. In doing this, I have two objects in view; first to show, that women are capable of acquiring as great physical power as men, and secondly to show, that they have been more or less the victims of oppression and contempt.

I will now give a quick overview of the JOBS of women in Asia and Africa. In doing this, I have two goals: first, to demonstrate that women can achieve as much physical strength as men, and second, to highlight that they have often been victims of oppression and disrespect.

‘The occupations of the ancient Jewish women were laborious. They spent their time in spinning and weaving cloth for garments, and for the covering of the tents, in cooking the food, tending the flocks, grinding the corn, and drawing water from the wells.’

‘The jobs of ancient Jewish women were demanding. They spent their time spinning and weaving fabric for clothing and tents, cooking meals, taking care of livestock, grinding grain, and fetching water from the wells.’

Of Trojan women we know little, but we find that—

Of Trojan women, we know very little, but we find that—

‘Andromache, though a princess and well beloved by her husband, fed and took care of the horses of Hector.’

‘Andromache, although she was a princess and deeply loved by her husband, fed and cared for Hector's horses.’

So in Persia, women of the middling class see that proper care is taken of the horses. They likewise do all the laborious part of the house work.

So in Persia, women from the middle class ensure that the horses are well cared for. They also handle all the hard work around the house.

‘The Hindoo women are engaged in every variety of occupation, according to the caste of their husbands. They cultivate the land, make baskets and mats, bring water in jars, carry manure and various other articles to market in[Pg 30] baskets on their heads, cook food, tend children, weave cloth, reel thread and wind cocoons.’

‘Hindu women are involved in a variety of jobs based on their husbands' caste. They farm the land, make baskets and mats, carry water in jars, transport manure and various other items to the market in[Pg 30] baskets on their heads, cook meals, look after children, weave fabric, spin thread, and wind cocoons.’

‘The Thibetian women of the laboring classes are inured to a great deal of toil. They plant, weed, reap, and thresh grain, and are exposed to the roughest weather, while their indolent husbands are perhaps living at their ease.’

‘The Tibetan women from the working class are used to a lot of hard work. They plant, weed, harvest, and thresh grain, facing the harshest weather, while their lazy husbands might be relaxing.’

‘Females of the lower classes among the Chinese endure as much labor and fatigue as the men. A wife sometimes drags the plough in rice fields with an infant tied upon her back, while her husband performs the less arduous task of holding the plough.’

‘Women from the lower classes in China endure as much hard work and exhaustion as the men. A wife sometimes pulls the plow in rice fields with a baby strapped to her back, while her husband does the easier job of guiding the plow.’

‘The Tartar women in general perform a greater share of labor than the men; for it is a prevalent opinion that they were sent into the world for no other purpose, but to be useful and convenient SLAVES to the stronger sex.’ ‘Among some of the Tartar tribes of the present day, females manage a horse, hurl a javelin, hunt wild animals, and fight an enemy as well as the men.’

‘Tartar women, in general, do more work than men because many believe they were put here solely to be useful and convenient Enslaved people to the stronger sex.’ ‘In some of today’s Tartar tribes, women can manage horses, throw javelins, hunt wild animals, and fight enemies just as effectively as men.’

‘In the island of Sumatra, the women do all the work, while their husbands lounge in idleness, playing on the flute, with wreaths of globe amaranth on their heads, or racing with each other, without saddle or stirrup, or hunting deer, or gambling away their wives, their children, or themselves. The Battas consider their wives and children as slaves, and sell them whenever they choose.’

‘On the island of Sumatra, the women do all the work while their husbands relax, playing the flute with wreaths of globe amaranth on their heads, racing each other without saddles or stirrups, hunting deer, or gambling away their wives, children, or even themselves. The Battas view their wives and children as property and sell them whenever they want.’

‘The Moors are indolent to excess. They lie whole days upon their mats, sleeping and smoking, while the women and slaves perform all the labor. Owing to their uncleanly habits, they are much infested with vermin; and as they consider it beneath their dignity to remove this annoyance, the task is imposed on the women. They are very impatient and tyrannical, and for the slightest offence beat their wives most cruelly.’

‘The Moors are excessively lazy. They spend whole days on their mats, sleeping and smoking, while the women and slaves do all the work. Due to their unclean habits, they're heavily infested with vermin, and since they think it’s beneath them to deal with this annoyance, the women have to handle it. They're very impatient and abusive, and for the smallest infractions, they beat their wives very severely.’

In looking over the condition of woman as delineated in this letter, how amply do we find the prophecy of Jehovah to Eve fulfilled, ‘Thy husband will rule over thee.’ And yet we perceive that where the physical strength of woman is called into exercise, there is no inferiority even in this respect; she performs the labor, while man enjoys what are termed the pleasures of life.

In examining the status of women as described in this letter, we clearly see the fulfillment of Jehovah's prophecy to Eve, "Your husband will rule over you." However, we notice that when it comes to physical strength, women are not inferior; they do the hard work while men enjoy what are known as the pleasures of life.

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I have thought it necessary to adduce various proofs of my assertion, that men have always in some way regarded women as mere instruments of selfish gratification; and hope this sorrowful detail of the wrongs of woman will not be tedious to thee.

I felt it was important to provide different pieces of evidence for my claim that men have always viewed women as mere tools for their own pleasure; and I hope this sad account of women's injustices won't be boring for you.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thy in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER VI.
Women in Asia and Africa.

Groton, 8th Mo. 15th, 1837.

Groton, August 15, 1837.

Dear Friend,—In pursuing the history of woman in different ages and countries, it will be necessary to exhibit her in all the various situations in which she has been placed.

Hey Friend,—In exploring the history of women throughout different times and places, it's important to show her in all the various situations she has encountered.

We find her sometimes filling the throne, and exercising the functions of royalty. The name of Semiramis is familiar to every reader of ancient history. She succeeded Ninus in the government of the Assyrian empire; and to render her name immortal, built the city of Babylon. Two millions of men were constantly employed upon it. Certain dykes built by order of this queen, to defend the city from inundations, are spoken of as admirable.

We sometimes see her sitting on the throne and carrying out royal duties. The name Semiramis is known to everyone who reads ancient history. She took over from Ninus in ruling the Assyrian empire, and to make her name unforgettable, she built the city of Babylon. Two million people were constantly working on it. The dykes that this queen ordered to be built to protect the city from flooding are referred to as impressive.

Nicotris, wife of Nabonadius, the Evil-Merodach of Scripture, was a woman of great endowments. While her husband indulged in a life of ease and pleasure, she managed the affairs of state with wisdom and prudence.

Nicotris, wife of Nabonadius, the Evil-Merodach of Scripture, was a woman of remarkable abilities. While her husband enjoyed a life of comfort and indulgence, she skillfully managed the affairs of state with wisdom and care.

‘Zenobia queen of Palmyra and the East, is the most remarkable among Asiatic women. Her genius struggled with and overcame all the obstacles presented by oriental laws and customs. She knew the Latin, Greek, Syriac, and Egyptian languages; and had drawn up for her own use an abridgement of oriental history. She was the companion[Pg 33] and friend of her husband, and accompanied him on his hunting excursions with eagerness and courage equal to his own. She despised the effeminacy of a covered carriage, and often appeared on horseback in military costume. Sometimes she marched several miles on foot, at the head of the troops. Having revenged the murder of her husband, she ascended the throne, and for five years governed Palmyra, Syria, and the East, with wonderful steadiness and wisdom.’

‘Zenobia, queen of Palmyra and the East, is the most remarkable among Asian women. Her intelligence confronted and overcame all the challenges posed by Eastern laws and customs. She was fluent in Latin, Greek, Syriac, and Egyptian; and had created a condensed version of Eastern history for her own reference. She was the companion[Pg 33] and friend of her husband, joining him eagerly and courageously on his hunting trips. She looked down on the weakness of riding in a covered carriage and often showed up on horseback in military attire. Sometimes she marched several miles on foot at the front of the troops. After avenging her husband’s murder, she took the throne and governed Palmyra, Syria, and the East for five years with remarkable stability and wisdom.’

‘Previous to the introduction of Mohammedism into Java, women often held the highest offices of government; and when the chief of a district dies, it is even now not uncommon for the widow to retain the authority that belonged to her deceased husband.’

‘Before the introduction of Islam in Java, women often held the highest government positions; and even now, when a district chief dies, it's not unusual for the widow to keep the authority that belonged to her late husband.’

Other instances might be adduced to prove that there is no natural inferiority in woman. Not that I approve of woman’s holding the reins of government over man. I maintain that they are equal, and that God never invested fallen man with unlimited power over his fellow man; and I rejoice that circumstances have prevented woman from being more deeply involved in the guilt which appears to be inseparable from political affairs. The few instances which I have mentioned prove that intellect is not sexed; and doubtless if woman had not almost universally been depressed and degraded, the page of history would have exhibited as many eminent statesmen and politicians among women as men. We are much in the situation of the slave. Man has asserted and assumed authority over us. He has, by virtue of his power, deprived us of the advantages of improvement which he has lavishly bestowed upon himself, and then, after having done all he can to take from us the means of proving our equality, and our capability of mental cultivation, he throws upon us the burden of proof that God created man and woman equal, and endowed them, without any reference to sex, with[Pg 34] intelligence and responsibilities, as rational and accountable beings. Hence in Hindostan, even women of the higher classes are forbidden to read or write; because the Hindoos think it would inevitably spoil them for domestic life, and assuredly bring some great misfortune upon them. May we not trace to the same feeling, the disadvantages under which women labor even in this country, for want of an education, which would call into exercise the powers of her mind, and fortify her soul with those great moral principles by which she would be qualified to fill every department in social, domestic and religious life with dignity?

Other examples could be cited to show that there is no natural inferiority in women. It's not that I support women having control over men. I believe they are equal, and that God never gave fallen man unlimited power over his fellow human beings; I’m glad that circumstances have kept women from being more deeply involved in the guilt that seems to come with political affairs. The few examples I've mentioned demonstrate that intelligence isn't determined by gender; and if women hadn't been so widely suppressed and degraded, history would likely show as many outstanding statesmen and politicians among women as among men. We are much like slaves. Men have claimed and assumed authority over us. Through their power, they have denied us the opportunities for improvement that they have freely given to themselves, and then, after trying to strip us of any means to prove our equality and ability for intellectual growth, they place the burden on us to show that God created men and women equal, and endowed them, regardless of gender, with[Pg 34] intelligence and responsibilities as rational and accountable beings. Thus, in India, even women from upper classes are forbidden to read or write, because the Hindus believe it would ruin them for domestic life and surely bring misfortune upon them. Can we not trace to this same attitude the challenges that women face even in our country, due to the lack of an education that would encourage their mental abilities and strengthen their spirits with the essential moral principles that would qualify them to excel in every area of social, domestic, and religious life with dignity?

In Hindostan, the evidence of women is not received in a court of justice.

In Hindostan, women's testimony is not accepted in a court of law.

In Burmah, their testimony is not deemed equal to that of a man, and they are not allowed to ascend the steps of a court of justice, but are obliged to give their testimony outside of the building.

In Burma, their testimony isn't considered equal to that of a man, and they can't go inside a court of justice; they have to give their testimony outside the building.

In Siberia, women are not allowed to step across the foot-prints of men, or reindeer; they are not allowed to eat with men, or to partake of particular dainties. Among many tribes, they seem to be regarded as impure, unholy beings.

In Siberia, women are not allowed to step in the footprints of men or reindeer; they can't eat with men or share certain delicacies. In many tribes, they appear to be seen as impure, unholy beings.

‘The Mohammedan law forbids pigs, dogs, women and other impure animals to enter a mosque; and the hour of prayers must not be proclaimed by a female, a madman, a drunkard, or a decrepit person.’

‘The Islamic law prohibits pigs, dogs, women, and other unclean animals from entering a mosque; and the call to prayer must not be made by a female, someone insane, a drunk, or a physically disabled person.’

Here I am reminded of the resemblance between the situation of women in heathen and Mohammedan countries, and our brethren and sisters of color in this Christian land, where[Pg 35] they are despised and cast out as though they were unclean. And on precisely the same ground, because they are said to be inferior.

Here I am reminded of the similarity between the situation of women in pagan and Muslim countries and our brothers and sisters of color in this Christian land, where[Pg 35] they are looked down upon and rejected as if they were unclean. And for exactly the same reason, because they are considered to be inferior.

The treatment of women as wives is almost uniformly the same in all heathen countries.

The way women are treated as wives is pretty much the same across all non-Christian countries.

The ancient Lydians are the only exception that I have met with, and the origin of their peculiar customs is so much obscured by fable, that it is difficult to ascertain the truth. Probably they arose from some great benefit conferred on the state by women.

The ancient Lydians are the only exception I've come across, and the origin of their unique customs is so shrouded in myth that it's hard to determine the truth. They probably originated from some significant advantage given to the state by women.

Among the Druses who reside in the mountains of the Anti Libanus, a wife is often divorced on the slightest pretext. If she ask her husband’s permission to go out, and he says,—‘Go,’ without adding ‘but come back again,’ she is divorced.

Among the Druses living in the mountains of the Anti-Libanus, a wife can easily be divorced for the smallest reason. If she asks her husband for permission to go out and he replies, “Go,” without adding “but come back,” she is divorced.

In Siberia, it is considered a wife’s duty to obey the most capricious and unreasonable demands of her husband, without one word of expostulation or inquiry. If her master be dissatisfied with the most trifling particular in her conduct, he tears the cap or veil from her head, and this constitutes a divorce.

In Siberia, a wife's duty is to comply with even the most unreasonable and whimsical demands of her husband, without a single word of protest or question. If her husband is unhappy with the slightest detail in her behavior, he rips the cap or veil off her head, which serves as a divorce.

A Persian woman, under the dominion of the kindest master, is treated much in the same manner as a favorite animal. To vary her personal graces for his pleasure, is the sole end and aim of her existence. As moral or intellectual beings, it would be better for them to be among the dead than the living. The mother instructs her daughter in all the voluptuous coquetry, by which she herself acquired precarious ascendency over her absolute master; but all that is truly estimable in female character is utterly neglected.

A Persian woman, under the rule of a kind master, is treated much like a beloved pet. The only purpose of her life is to enhance her beauty for his enjoyment. As moral or intellectual beings, they might be better off dead than alive. The mother teaches her daughter all the seductive tricks that helped her gain temporary power over her absolute master, but everything genuinely valuable about a woman's character is completely overlooked.

Hence we find women extravagantly fond of[Pg 36] adorning their persons. Regarded as instruments of pleasure, they have been degraded into mere animals, and have found their own gratification principally in the indulgence of personal vanity, because their external charms procured for them, at least a temporary ascendency over those, who held in their hands the reins of government. A few instances must suffice, or I shall exceed the limits I have prescribed to myself in this letter.

Hence we find women overly passionate about adorning themselves. Seen as objects of pleasure, they have been reduced to mere animals, seeking gratification mainly through personal vanity, as their looks earned them, at least temporarily, some power over those in control. A few examples will be enough, or I will go beyond the limits I set for myself in this letter.

During the magnificent prosperity of Israel, marriages were conducted with great pomp; and with the progress of luxury and refinement, women became expensive, rather than profitable in a pecuniary point of view. Hence probably arose the custom of wealthy parents giving a handsome dowry with their daughters. On the day of the nuptials, the bride was conducted by her female relations to the bath, where she was anointed with the choicest perfumes, her hair perfumed and braided, her eyebrows deepened with black powder, and the tips of her fingers tinged with rose color. She was then arrayed in a marriage robe of brilliant color; the girdle and bracelets were more or less costly.

During the great prosperity of Israel, weddings were celebrated with a lot of extravagance; as luxury and sophistication increased, women became seen as costly rather than beneficial in financial terms. This likely led to the practice of wealthy parents providing a substantial dowry for their daughters. On the wedding day, the bride was taken by her female relatives to the bath, where she was anointed with the finest perfumes, her hair was perfumed and styled, her eyebrows were darkened with black powder, and the tips of her fingers were tinted with rose color. She was then dressed in a bright wedding gown; the belt and bracelets varied in terms of expense.

Notwithstanding the Chinese women have no opportunity to rival each other in the conquest of hearts, they are nevertheless very fond of ornaments. Bunches of silver or gilt flowers are always interspersed among their ringlets, and sometimes they wear the Chinese phœnix made of silver gilt. It moves with the slightest motion of the wearer, and the spreading tail forms a glittering aigrette on the middle of the head, and the wings wave over the front. Yet a Chinese ballad says,—The pearls and precious stones, the silk and gold with which a coquette[Pg 37] so studiously bedecks herself, are a transparent varnish which makes all her defects the more apparent.

Even though Chinese women don’t have the chance to compete with each other for romance, they still love to wear ornaments. Bunches of silver or gold-plated flowers are regularly woven through their curls, and sometimes they sport a silver-gilt phoenix. It moves with the slightest motion of the wearer, and its spreading tail creates a sparkling accent at the center of the head, while the wings sway in front. Yet a Chinese ballad says, —The pearls and precious stones, the silk and gold that a flirtatious woman carefully adorns herself with, are just a clear layer that highlights all her flaws even more.[Pg 37]

The Moorish women have generally a great passion for ornament. They decorate their persons with heavy gold ear-rings, necklaces of amber, coral and gold; gold bracelets; gold chains and silver bells for the ankles; rings on the fingers, &c. &c. The poorer class wear glass beads around the head, and curl the hair in large ringlets. Men are proud of having their wives handsomely dressed.

The Moorish women are typically very fond of adornment. They embellish themselves with heavy gold earrings, necklaces made of amber, coral, and gold; gold bracelets; gold chains; and silver bells on their ankles; rings on their fingers, etc. The poorer women wear glass beads in their hair and curl their hair in large ringlets. Men take pride in having their wives dressed elegantly.

The Moors are not peculiar in this fancy. Christian men still admire women who adorn their persons to gratify the lust of the eye and the pride of life. Women, says a Brahminical expositor, are characterized by an inordinate love of jewels, fine clothes, &c. &c. I cannot deny this charge, but it is only one among many instances, wherein men have reproached us with those very faults and vices which their own treatment has engendered. Is it any matter of surprise that women, when unnaturally deprived of the means of cultivating their minds, of objects which would elevate and refine their passions and affections, should seek gratification in the toys and the trifles which now too generally engage their attention?

The Moors aren't unique in this regard. Christian men still admire women who dress up to please the eye and feed their own pride. Women, according to a Brahminical commentator, are marked by an excessive love for jewelry, nice clothes, etc. I can’t deny this accusation, but it’s just one of many examples where men have blamed us for the very faults and vices that their own actions have created. Is it any wonder that women, when they’re unfairly denied the chance to grow their minds and are deprived of things that would elevate and refine their feelings and desires, would seek satisfaction in the superficial and trivial things that often capture their attention?

I cannot close this, without acknowledging the assistance and information I have derived, and shall continue to derive on this part of my subject, from a valuable work entitled ‘Condition of Women, by Lydia M. Child.’ It is worth the perusal of every one who is interested in the subject.

I can’t wrap this up without recognizing the help and insights I’ve gained—and will keep gaining—on this topic from a valuable book titled ‘Condition of Women, by Lydia M. Child.’ It’s worth reading for anyone interested in the subject.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER VII.
CONDITION IN CERTAIN AREAS OF EUROPE AND AMERICA.

Brookline, 8th Mo., 22d, 1837.

Brookline, Oct. 22, 1837.

Dear Sister,—I now come to the consideration of the condition of woman in Europe.—In this portion of the world, she does not appear to have been as uniformly or as deeply debased, as in Eastern countries; yet we shall find little in her history which can yield us satisfaction, when we regard the high station she was designed to occupy as a moral and intellectual being.

Hey Sis,—I now turn to the status of women in Europe.—In this part of the world, she doesn’t seem to have been as consistently or as severely oppressed as in Eastern countries; however, we will discover that there is little in her history that brings us satisfaction when we consider the elevated position she was meant to hold as a moral and intellectual being.

In Greece, if we may judge from what Eustathius says, ‘women should keep within doors, and there talk,’—we may conclude, that in general their occupations were chiefly domestic. Thucydides also declares, that ‘she was the best woman, of whom the least was said, either of good or of harm.’ The heathen philosophers doubtless wished to keep woman in her ‘appropriate sphere;’ and we find our clerical brethren of the present day re-echoing these pagan sentiments, and endeavoring to drive woman from the field of moral labor and intellectual culture, to occupy her talents in the pursuit[Pg 39] of those employments which will enable her to regale the palate of her lord with the delicacies of the table, and in every possible way minister to his animal comfort and gratification. In my humble opinion, woman has long enough subserved the interests of man; and in the spirit of self-sacrifice, submitted almost without remonstrance to his oppression; and now that her attention is solicited to the subject of her rights, her privileges and her duties, I would entreat her to double her diligence in the performance of all her obligations as a wife, a mother, a sister, and a daughter. Let us remember that our claim to stand on perfect equality with our brethren, can only be substantiated by a scrupulous attention to our domestic duties, as well as by aiding in the great work of moral reformation—a work which is now calling for the energies and consecrated powers of every man and woman who desires to see the Redeemer’s kingdom established on earth. That man must indeed be narrow minded, and can have but a poor conception of the power of moral truth on the female heart, who supposes that a correct view of her own rights can make woman less solicitous to fill up every department of duty. If it should have this effect, it must be because she has not taken a comprehensive view of the whole subject.

In Greece, judging from what Eustathius says, “women should stay indoors and talk there,” we can conclude that, in general, their roles were mostly domestic. Thucydides also states that “the best woman is the one about whom the least is said, either good or bad.” The ancient philosophers wanted to keep women in their “appropriate sphere;” and we see our modern clerical colleagues echoing these old beliefs, trying to push women away from moral work and intellectual growth, steering them instead toward roles that involve pleasing their husbands with gourmet meals and, in every possible way, taking care of their comfort and satisfaction. In my opinion, women have served men's interests long enough; they have sacrificed themselves and endured oppression with little resistance. Now that the focus is on their rights, privileges, and responsibilities, I urge women to be even more diligent in fulfilling all their roles as a wife, a mother, a sister, and a daugher. Let’s remember that our claim to stand on equal footing with men can only be justified by thoroughly attending to our domestic duties and contributing to the important work of moral reform—a task that calls for the efforts and dedication of everyone who wants to see the Redeemer’s kingdom established on earth. Only someone who is narrow-minded and has a limited understanding of the impact of moral truth on women’s hearts would think that having a clear understanding of their own rights would make women less eager to fulfill every duty. If that happens, it must be because they haven't taken a complete view of the entire topic.

In the history of Rome, we find a little spot of sunshine in the valley where woman has been destined to live, unable from her lowly situation to take an expansive view of that field of moral and mental improvement, which she should have been busy in cultivating.

In the history of Rome, we find a small ray of hope in the valley where women have been meant to live, unable due to their low status to see the bigger picture of moral and intellectual growth that they should have been working to develop.

‘In the earliest and best days of Rome, the first magistrates and generals of armies ploughed their own fields, and[Pg 40] threshed their own grain. Integrity, industry and simplicity, were the prevailing virtues of the times; and the character of woman was, as it always must be, graduated in a degree by that of man. Columella says, Roman husbands, having completed the labors of the day, entered their houses free from all care, and there enjoyed perfect repose. There reigned union and concord and industry, supported by mutual affections. The most beautiful woman depended for distinction on her economy and endeavors to assist in crowning her husband’s diligence with prosperity. All was in common between them; nothing was thought to belong more to one than another. The wife by her assiduity and activity within doors, equalled and seconded the industry and labor of her husband.’

‘In the early and best days of Rome, the first leaders and army generals farmed their own land and harvested their own crops. Honesty, hard work, and simplicity were the main virtues of the time, and a woman's character was, as it always should be, shaped in part by that of the man. Columella mentions that Roman husbands, after finishing their work for the day, returned home carefree and enjoyed complete relaxation. There was unity, harmony, and hard work, supported by mutual love. The most beautiful woman gained recognition through her skills in managing the household and helping to ensure her husband's success. Everything was shared between them; nothing was considered to belong more to one than the other. The wife, through her dedication and effort at home, matched and complemented her husband's hard work.’

In the then state of the world, we may conclude from this description, that woman enjoyed as much happiness as was consistent with that comparatively unimproved condition of our species; but now a new and vast sphere of usefulness is opened to her, and she is pressed by surrounding circumstances to come up to the help of the Lord against the giant sins which desolate our beloved country. Shall woman shrink from duty in this exigency, and retiring within her own domestic circle, delight herself in the abundance of her own selfish enjoyments? Shall she rejoice in her home, her husband, her children, and forget her brethren and sisters in bondage, who know not what it is to call a spot of earth their own, whose husbands and wives are torn from them by relentless tyrants, and whose children are snatched from their arms by their unfeeling task-masters, whenever interest, or convenience, tempts them to this sacrilegious act? Shall woman disregard the situation of thousands of her fellow creatures, who are the victims of intemperance and licentiousness, and retreating to the privacy of her own comfortable home, be satisfied that her whole duty is performed, when[Pg 41] she can exhibit ‘her children well clad and smiling, and her table neatly spread with wholesome provisions?’ Shall she, because ‘her house is her home,’ refuse her aid and her sympathy to the down trodden slave, to the poor unhappy outcasts who are deprived of those blessings which she so highly prizes? Did God give her those blessings to steel her heart to the sufferings of her fellow creatures? Did he grant her the possession of husband and children, to dry up the fountains of feeling for those who know not the consolations of tenderness and reciprocal affection? Ah no! for every such blessing, God demands a grateful heart; and woman must be recreant to her duty, if she can quietly sit down in the enjoyments of her own domestic circle, and not exert herself to procure the same happiness for others.

In today's world, we can infer from this description that women experienced as much happiness as was possible given the relatively underdeveloped state of our society; however, now a new and vast area of opportunity is available to them, and they are urged by their circumstances to step up and contribute to the fight against the significant injustices that afflict our beloved country. Will women shy away from their responsibilities in this critical time, retreating into their domestic lives and indulging in their own selfish pleasures? Will they take joy in their home, their husband, their children, and disregard their brothers and sisters in bondage, who lack a place to call their own, whose partners are torn away by ruthless oppressors, and whose children are snatched from their arms by unfeeling taskmasters whenever it serves their interests? Will women ignore the plight of thousands of their fellow humans who are victims of addiction and immorality, and, while retreating to the comfort of their own homes, be satisfied that they have fulfilled their duty when [Pg 41] they can show off their well-dressed and happy children, and their table filled with nutritious food? Will they, because "their house is their home," refuse to assist and empathize with the oppressed slave, with the unfortunate outcasts who are deprived of the blessings they cherish so much? Did God give them those blessings to harden their hearts to the suffering of others? Did He bestow upon them the love of a husband and children to close off their compassion for those who don’t experience the comfort of love and mutual affection? Certainly not! For every blessing, God expects a grateful heart; and women neglect their duty if they can simply enjoy their domestic happiness without making efforts to share that same joy with others.

But it is said woman has a mighty weapon in secret prayer. She has, I acknowledge, in common with man; but the woman who prays in sincerity for the regeneration of this guilty world, will accompany her prayers by her labors. A friend of mine remarked—‘I was sitting in my chamber, weeping over the miseries of the slave, and putting up my petitions for his deliverance from bondage; when in the midst of my meditations, it occurred to me that my tears, unaided by effort, could never melt the chain of the slave. I must be up and doing.’ She is now an active abolitionist—her prayers and her works go hand in hand.

But it's said that women have a powerful tool in secret prayer. They do, just like men; however, a woman who sincerely prays for the betterment of this troubled world will pair her prayers with her actions. A friend of mine once said, “I was sitting in my room, crying over the suffering of the enslaved and praying for their freedom; then, while I was deep in thought, it hit me that my tears alone, without any action, could never break the chains of the enslaved. I needed to get up and do something.” She is now an active abolitionist—her prayers and her efforts go hand in hand.

I am here reminded of what a slave once said to his master, a Methodist minister. The slaveholder inquired, ‘How did you like my[Pg 42] sermon to-day?’ ‘Very good, master, but it did not preach me free.’

I remember what a slave once said to his master, a Methodist minister. The slaveholder asked, ‘How did you like my[Pg 42] sermon today?’ ‘Very good, master, but it didn’t set me free.’

Oh, my sisters, suffer me to entreat you to assert your privileges, and to perform your duties as moral beings. Be not dismayed at the ridicule of man; it is a weapon worthy only of little minds, and is employed by those who feel that they cannot convince our judgment. Be not alarmed at contumely, or scorn; we must expect this. I pray that we may meet it with forbearance and love; and that nothing may drive us from the performance of our high and holy duties. Let us ‘cease from man, whose breath is in his nostrils, for wherein is he to be accounted of?’ and press forward in all the great moral enterprises of the age, leaning only on the arm of our Beloved.

Oh, my sisters, please allow me to ask you to stand up for your rights and fulfill your responsibilities as moral individuals. Don’t be discouraged by the mockery of others; it’s a tactic used only by small-minded people, who resort to it because they know they can't sway our judgment. Don’t be intimidated by insults or disdain; we should expect it. I hope that we can face it with patience and love, and that nothing will deter us from carrying out our important and noble duties. Let’s “not rely on man, whose breath is in his nostrils, for how much is he worth?” and continue to push forward in all the significant moral causes of our time, leaning only on the support of our Beloved.

But I must return to the subject I commenced with, viz. the condition of woman in Europe.

But I have to go back to the topic I started with, which is the status of women in Europe.

‘The northern nations bore a general resemblance to each other. War and hunting were considered the only honorable occupations for men, and all other employments were left to women and slaves. Even the Visigoths, on the coasts of Spain, left their fields and flocks to the care of women. The people who inhabit the vast extent of country between the Black sea and the North sea, are divided into various distinct races. The women are generally very industrious; even in their walks, they carry a portable distaff, and spin every step of the way. Both Croatian and Walachian women perform all the agricultural operations in addition to their own domestic concerns.’

‘The northern nations looked quite similar to each other. War and hunting were seen as the only respected jobs for men, while women and slaves handled all other work. Even the Visigoths on the coasts of Spain left their fields and livestock in the hands of women. The people living in the large area between the Black Sea and the North Sea are divided into several distinct races. Women are generally very hardworking; they carry a portable distaff while they walk and spin as they go. Both Croatian and Wallachian women take care of all farming tasks in addition to their household duties.’

Speaking of the Morlachian women, M. Fortis says, ‘Being treated like beasts of burden, and expected to endure submissively every species of hardship, they naturally become very dirty and careless in their habits.’

Speaking of the Morlachian women, M. Fortis says, ‘Being treated like pack animals and expected to endure every kind of hardship without complaint, they naturally become very dirty and careless in their habits.’

The Cossack women afford a contrast to this disgusting picture. They are very cleanly and[Pg 43] industrious, and in the absence of their husbands, supply their places by taking charge of all their usual occupations, in addition to their own. It is rare for a Cossack woman not to know some trade, such as dyeing cloth, tanning leather, &c.

The Cossack women stand in stark contrast to this awful image. They are very clean and industrious, and when their husbands are away, they step in to handle all the usual tasks along with their own. It's uncommon for a Cossack woman not to have a skill, like dyeing cloth or tanning leather. [Pg 43]

The condition of Polish and Russian serfs in modern times is about the same. The Polish women have scarcely clothing enough for decency, and they are subjected to great hardships and privations. ‘In Russia, women have been seen paving the streets, and performing other similar drudgery. In Finland, they work like beasts of burden, and may be seen for hours in snow water, up to the middle, tugging at boats and sledges.’

The situation for Polish and Russian serfs today is pretty similar. Polish women barely have enough clothing to be considered decent, and they're faced with significant hardships and deprivation. 'In Russia, women have been seen paving the streets and doing similar hard labor. In Finland, they work like pack animals and can be seen for hours in icy water, up to their waists, struggling with boats and sleds.'

In Flanders and in France, women are engaged in performing laborious tasks; and even in England, it is not unusual to see them scraping up manure from the streets with their hands, and gathering it into baskets.

In Flanders and France, women are involved in hard work; and even in England, it’s common to see them picking up manure from the streets by hand and putting it into baskets.

In Greece, even now the women plough and carry heavy burdens, while the lordly master of the family may be seen walking before them without any incumbrance.[1]

In Greece, even today, women plow and carry heavy loads, while the esteemed head of the family can be seen walking ahead of them without any burden. [1]

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Generally speaking, however, there is much more comparative equality of labor between the sexes in Europe than among the Orientals.

Generally speaking, though, there is much more equal distribution of labor between the sexes in Europe than among the people in the East.

I shall close this letter with a brief survey of the condition of women among the Aborigines of America.

I will finish this letter with a quick look at the status of women among the Indigenous peoples of America.

‘Before America was settled by Europeans, it was inhabited by Indian tribes, which greatly resembled each other in the treatment of their women. Every thing, except war and hunting, was considered beneath the dignity of man.—During long and wearisome marches, women were obliged to carry children, provisions and hammocks on their shoulders; they had the sole care of the horses and dogs, cut wood, pitched the tents, raised the corn, and made the clothing. When the husband killed game, he left it by a tree in the forest, returned home, and sent his wife several miles in search of it. In most of the tribes, women were not allowed to eat and drink with men, but stood and served them, and then ate what they left.’

‘Before Europeans settled in America, it was home to Indian tribes that were quite similar in how they treated their women. Everything except war and hunting was seen as beneath men's dignity. During long and exhausting marches, women had to carry children, supplies, and hammocks on their shoulders; they took care of the horses and dogs, chopped wood, set up tents, grew corn, and made clothing. When a husband killed game, he would leave it by a tree in the forest, go back home, and send his wife several miles to find it. In most tribes, women weren’t allowed to eat or drink with the men; instead, they stood and served them, then ate whatever was left behind.’

The following affecting anecdote may give some idea of the sufferings of these women:

The following touching story may give some insight into the struggles these women faced:

‘Father Joseph reproved a female savage for destroying her infant daughter. She replied, “I wish my mother had thus prevented the manifold sufferings I have endured. Consider, father, our deplorable situation. Our husbands go out to hunt; we are dragged along with one infant at our breast, and another in a basket. Though tired with long walking, we are not allowed to sleep when we return, but must labor all night in grinding maize and making chica for them.—They get drunk and beat us, draw us by the hair of the head, and tread us under foot. Would to God my mother had put me under ground the moment I was born.”’

‘Father Joseph criticized a woman for killing her baby daughter. She responded, “I wish my mother had stopped me from suffering so much. Think about it, Father, our terrible situation. Our husbands go out to hunt; we’re forced to take one baby on our breast and carry another in a basket. Even though we're exhausted from walking, we can’t sleep when we get back; instead, we have to work all night grinding maize and making chica for them. They get drunk and hit us, pull us by our hair, and step on us. I wish my mother had buried me the moment I was born.”’

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In Greenland, the situation of woman is equally deplorable. The men hunt bears and catch seals; but when they have towed their booty to land, they would consider it a disgrace to help the women drag it home, or skin and dress it. They often stand and look idly on, while their wives are staggering beneath the load that almost bends them to the earth. The women are cooks, butchers, masons, curriers, shoemakers and tailors. They will manage a boat in the roughest seas, and will often push off from the shore in the midst of a storm, that would make the hardiest European sailor tremble.

In Greenland, the situation for women is just as dire. The men hunt bears and catch seals, but when they bring their catch to shore, they see it as shameful to help the women carry it home or to skin and prepare it. They often just stand by and watch while their wives struggle under the heavy load that nearly crushes them. The women take on roles as cooks, butchers, masons, leather workers, shoemakers, and tailors. They can navigate a boat through the roughest seas and often set off from the shore in the middle of a storm that would make even the toughest European sailor anxious.

The page of history teems with woman’s wrongs, and it is wet with woman’s tears.—For the sake of my degraded sex every where, and for the sake of my brethren, who suffer just in proportion as they place woman lower in the scale of creation than man, lower than her Creator placed her, I entreat my sisters to arise in all the majesty of moral power, in all the dignity of immortal beings, and plant themselves, side by side, on the platform of human rights, with man, to whom they were designed to be companions, equals and helpers in every good word and work.

The history books are filled with the injustices faced by women, and they are soaked with women's tears. For the sake of my marginalized sisters everywhere, and for my brothers who suffer whenever they view women as lesser beings than men, even lower than how their Creator intended, I urge my sisters to stand up with all the strength of moral authority, with the dignity of eternal beings, and join men on the platform of human rights, as they were meant to be companions, equals, and supporters in every good deed and action.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood

Thine in the bonds of womanhood

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimké.

FOOTNOTES:

[1] Since the preceding letters were in type, I have met with the following account in a French work entitled ‘De l’education des meres de famille ou de la civilization du Genre Humain par les femmes,’ printed at Brussels in 1837. ‘The periodicals have lately published the following circumstance from the journal of an English physician, who travelled in the East. He visited a slave market, where he saw about twenty Greek women half naked, lying on the ground waiting for a purchaser. One of them attracted the attention of an old Turk. The barbarian examined her shoulders, her legs, her ears, her mouth, her neck, with the minutest care, just as a horse is examined, and during the inspection, the merchant praised the beauty of her eyes, the elegance of her shape, and other perfections; he protested that the poor girl was but thirteen years of age, &c. After a severe scrutiny and some dispute about the price, she was sold body and soul for 1375 francs. The soul, it is true, was accounted of little value in the bargain. The unfortunate creature, half fainting in the arms of her mother, implored help in the most touching accents, but it availed nothing.—This infernal scene passed in Europe in 1829, only 600 leagues from Paris and London, the two capitals of the human species, and at the time in which I write, it is the living history of two thirds of the inhabitants of the earth.’

[1] Since the previous letters were typed, I came across the following account in a French work titled ‘De l’education des meres de famille ou de la civilization du Genre Humain par les femmes,’ published in Brussels in 1837. ‘Recently, a journal reported a story from an English doctor who traveled to the East. He visited a slave market, where he saw about twenty Greek women half-naked, lying on the ground waiting for buyers. One of them caught the eye of an old Turk. The man examined her shoulders, legs, ears, mouth, and neck in minute detail, just like checking out a horse. During the inspection, the merchant praised her beautiful eyes, elegant shape, and other qualities; he insisted that she was only thirteen years old, etc. After a careful inspection and some back-and-forth over the price, she was sold, body and soul, for 1,375 francs. The soul, it seems, was considered of little worth in the deal. The unfortunate girl, almost fainting in her mother’s arms, pleaded for help in the most heart-wrenching way, but it was of no use.—This horrific scene happened in Europe in 1829, only 600 leagues from Paris and London, the two capitals of the human race, and at the time I write this, it reflects the living reality of two-thirds of the world’s population.’


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LETTER VIII.
ON THE STATUS OF WOMEN IN THE UNITED STATES.

Brookline, 1837.

Brookline, 1837.

My dear Sister,—I have now taken a brief survey of the condition of woman in various parts of the world. I regret that my time has been so much occupied by other things, that I have been unable to bestow that attention upon the subject which it merits, and that my constant change of place has prevented me from having access to books, which might probably have assisted me in this part of my work. I hope that the principles I have asserted will claim the attention of some of my sex, who may be able to bring into view, more thoroughly than I have done, the situation and degradation of woman. I shall now proceed to make a few remarks on the condition of women in my own country.

Dear Sis,—I've taken a quick look at the status of women in different parts of the world. I wish I had more time to focus on this important issue and that my constant travels hadn't made it hard for me to access books that could have helped with my work. I hope that the ideas I've shared will catch the attention of some women who can explore more deeply than I have the struggles and degradation faced by women. Now, I'll share some thoughts on the situation of women in my own country.

During the early part of my life, my lot was cast among the butterflies of the fashionable world; and of this class of women, I am constrained to say, both from experience and observation, that their education is miserably deficient; that they are taught to regard marriage as the one thing needful, the only avenue to[Pg 47] distinction; hence to attract the notice and win the attentions of men, by their external charms, is the chief business of fashionable girls. They seldom think that men will be allured by intellectual acquirements, because they find, that where any mental superiority exists, a woman is generally shunned and regarded as stepping out of her ‘appropriate sphere,’ which, in their view, is to dress, to dance, to set out to the best possible advantage her person, to read the novels which inundate the press, and which do more to destroy her character as a rational creature, than any thing else. Fashionable women regard themselves, and are regarded by men, as pretty toys or as mere instruments of pleasure; and the vacuity of mind, the heartlessness, the frivolity which is the necessary result of this false and debasing estimate of women, can only be fully understood by those who have mingled in the folly and wickedness of fashionable life; and who have been called from such pursuits by the voice of the Lord Jesus, inviting their weary and heavy laden souls to come unto Him and learn of Him, that they may find something worthy of their immortal spirit, and their intellectual powers; that they may learn the high and holy purposes of their creation, and consecrate themselves unto the service of God; and not, as is now the case, to the pleasure of man.

During the early part of my life, I found myself surrounded by the butterflies of the fashionable world. From both my own experiences and observations, I must say that their education is sadly lacking. They are taught to view marriage as the one essential goal, the only path to[Pg 47] distinction. As a result, attracting attention and winning the favors of men through their looks is the main focus for fashionable girls. They rarely consider that men might be drawn to intellectual achievements because they see that when a woman possesses any mental superiority, she is often avoided and seen as stepping out of her 'proper sphere,' which they believe is to dress well, dance, showcase her appearance, read the endless stream of novels flooding the market, and which do more to undermine her character as a rational being than anything else. Fashionable women see themselves, and are seen by men, as pretty toys or mere objects of pleasure. The emptiness of thought, the lack of heart, and the superficiality that stem from this misguided and degrading view of women can only be truly appreciated by those who have participated in the folly and immorality of fashionable life, and who have been called away from such pursuits by the voice of the Lord Jesus, inviting their weary and burdened souls to come to Him and learn from Him, so they can discover something worthy of their immortal spirit and intellectual abilities; to understand the high and holy purposes of their creation, and to dedicate themselves to the service of God, rather than, as is currently the case, to the pleasure of man.

There is another and much more numerous class in this country, who are withdrawn by education or circumstances from the circle of fashionable amusements, but who are brought up with the dangerous and absurd idea, that marriage is a kind of preferment; and that to be able to keep their husband’s house, and render[Pg 48] his situation comfortable, is the end of her being. Much that she does and says and thinks is done in reference to this situation; and to be married is too often held up to the view of girls as the sine qua non of human happiness and human existence. For this purpose more than for any other, I verily believe the majority of girls are trained. This is demonstrated by the imperfect education which is bestowed upon them, and the little pains taken to cultivate their minds, after they leave school, by the little time allowed them for reading, and by the idea being constantly inculcated, that although all household concerns should be attended to with scrupulous punctuality at particular seasons, the improvement of their intellectual capacities is only a secondary consideration, and may serve as an occupation to fill up the odds and ends of time. In most families, it is considered a matter of far more consequence to call a girl off from making a pie, or a pudding, than to interrupt her whilst engaged in her studies. This mode of training necessarily exalts, in their view, the animal above the intellectual and spiritual nature, and teaches women to regard themselves as a kind of machinery, necessary to keep the domestic engine in order, but of little value as the intelligent companions of men.

There is another, much larger group in this country who, due to education or circumstances, are removed from the realm of fashionable entertainment. They grow up with the harmful and ridiculous belief that marriage is a kind of promotion; that being able to manage their husband’s household and make his life comfortable is the ultimate purpose of their existence. Much of what they do, say, and think revolves around this role, and getting married is often presented to girls as the essential key to happiness and fulfillment in life. I genuinely believe that more than any other reason, this is how the majority of girls are raised. This is evident in the incomplete education they receive and the lack of effort put into developing their minds after they finish school, with the little time they have for reading, and the ongoing message that while household responsibilities should be handled meticulously at specific times, improving their intellectual abilities is merely a secondary priority to fill their spare moments. In most households, it’s seen as far more important to interrupt a girl while she’s making a pie or pudding than while she’s studying. This kind of upbringing inherently elevates physical tasks over intellectual and spiritual pursuits, teaching women to view themselves as mere tools necessary for maintaining the domestic environment, with little worth as intelligent partners to men.

Let no one think, from these remarks, that I regard a knowledge of housewifery as beneath the acquisition of women. Far from it: I believe that a complete knowledge of household affairs is an indispensable requisite in a woman’s education,—that by the mistress of a family, whether married or single, doing her duty thoroughly and understandingly, the happiness of the family is increased to an incalculable degree, as well as a vast amount of time and money[Pg 49] saved. All I complain of is, that our education consists so almost exclusively in culinary and other manual operations. I do long to see the time, when it will no longer be necessary for women to expend so many precious hours in furnishing ‘a well spread table,’ but that their husbands will forego some of their accustomed indulgences in this way, and encourage their wives to devote some portion of their time to mental cultivation, even at the expense of having to dine sometimes on baked potatoes, or bread and butter.

Let no one assume from these comments that I think learning household skills is beneath women. Quite the opposite: I believe that having a thorough understanding of household management is essential in a woman's education. When the head of a household, whether married or single, fulfills her responsibilities thoughtfully and completely, it greatly enhances the family's happiness and saves a significant amount of time and money[Pg 49]. My only complaint is that our education focuses almost entirely on cooking and other manual tasks. I truly hope for the day when women are no longer required to spend so many valuable hours preparing ‘a well-set table,’ and instead, their husbands will give up some of their usual luxuries in this area, encouraging their wives to dedicate some of their time to intellectual growth, even if it means occasionally having to eat baked potatoes or bread and butter.

I believe the sentiment expressed by the author of ‘Live and let Live,’ is true:

I believe the feeling shared by the writer of ‘Live and let Live’ is accurate:

‘Other things being equal, a woman of the highest mental endowments will always be the best housekeeper, for domestic economy, is a science that brings into action the qualities of the mind, as well as the graces of the heart. A quick perception, judgment, discrimination, decision and order are high attributes of mind, and are all in daily exercise in the well ordering of a family. If a sensible woman, an intellectual woman, a woman of genius, is not a good housewife, it is not because she is either, or all of those, but because there is some deficiency in her character, or some omission of duty which should make her very humble, instead of her indulging in any secret self-complacency on account of a certain superiority, which only aggravates her fault.’

‘Other things being equal, a woman with the highest intelligence will always be the best housekeeper, because managing a household is a skill that involves both mental abilities and emotional depth. Quick perception, judgment, discrimination, decision-making, and organization are all important mental skills that are used every day in running a family. If a sensible, intellectual, or talented woman isn’t a good housewife, it’s not due to her intelligence or abilities but because there’s a flaw in her character or a neglect of her responsibilities, which should humble her instead of leading her to feel secretly proud of her superiority, which only makes her shortcomings worse.’

The influence of women over the minds and character of children of both sexes, is allowed to be far greater than that of men. This being the case by the very ordering of nature, women should be prepared by education for the performance of their sacred duties as mothers and as sisters. A late American writer,[2] speaking on this subject, says in reference to an article in the Westminster Review:

The influence of women on the thoughts and character of children of both genders is recognized to be much stronger than that of men. Since this is a natural order, women should be educated to fulfill their important roles as mothers and sisters. A recent American writer, [2] discussing this topic, refers to an article in the Westminster Review:

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‘I agree entirely with the writer in the high estimate which he places on female education, and have long since been satisfied, that the subject not only merits, but imperiously demands a thorough reconsideration. The whole scheme must, in my opinion, be reconstructed. The great elements of usefulness and duty are too little attended to. Women ought, in my view of the subject, to approach to the best education now given to men, (I except mathematics and the classics,) far more I believe than has ever yet been attempted. Give me a host of educated, pious mothers and sisters, and I will do more to revolutionize a country, in moral and religious taste, in manners and in social virtues and intellectual cultivation, than I can possibly do in double or treble the time, with a similar host of educated men. I cannot but think that the miserable condition of the great body of the people in all ancient communities, is to be ascribed in a very great degree to the degradation of women.’

‘I completely agree with the writer about the high value of female education and have long been convinced that this topic not only deserves attention but urgently requires a thorough reevaluation. In my opinion, the entire system needs to be rebuilt. The key aspects of usefulness and duty are too often overlooked. Women should, in my understanding of the topic, have access to the same quality of education that is given to men (with the exception of mathematics and the classics), much more than has ever been attempted. If we educate a large number of devoted and knowledgeable mothers and sisters, I believe it would do more to transform a country in terms of moral and religious standards, manners, social virtues, and intellectual development than I could achieve in double or triple the time with an equivalent number of educated men. I can’t help but think that the terrible condition of the vast majority of people in all ancient societies is largely due to the mistreatment of women.’

There is another way in which the general opinion, that women are inferior to men, is manifested, that bears with tremendous effect on the laboring class, and indeed on almost all who are obliged to earn a subsistence, whether it be by mental or physical exertion—I allude to the disproportionate value set on the time and labor of men and of women. A man who is engaged in teaching, can always, I believe, command a higher price for tuition than a woman—even when he teaches the same branches, and is not in any respect superior to the woman. This I know is the case in boarding and other schools with which I have been acquainted, and it is so in every occupation in which the sexes engage indiscriminately. As for example, in tailoring, a man has twice, or three times as much for making a waistcoat or pantaloons as a woman, although the work done by each may be equally good. In those employments which are peculiar to women, their time is estimated at only half the value of that of men. A woman who goes out to wash, works as hard in proportion as a wood sawyer, or a coal heaver, but she is[Pg 51] not generally able to make more than half as much by a day’s work. The low remuneration which women receive for their work, has claimed the attention of a few philanthropists, and I hope it will continue to do so until some remedy is applied for this enormous evil. I have known a widow, left with four or five children, to provide for, unable to leave home because her helpless babes demand her attention, compelled to earn a scanty subsistence, by making coarse shirts at 12¹⁄₂ cents a piece, or by taking in washing, for which she was paid by some wealthy persons 12¹⁄₂ cents per dozen. All these things evince the low estimation in which woman is held. There is yet another and more disastrous consequence arising from this unscriptural notion—women being educated, from earliest childhood, to regard themselves as inferior creatures, have not that self-respect which conscious equality would engender, and hence when their virtue is assailed, they yield to temptation with facility, under the idea that it rather exalts than debases them, to be connected with a superior being.

There’s another way that the prevailing belief that women are inferior to men shows itself, which has a huge impact on the working class and practically everyone who needs to earn a living, whether through mental or physical work. I’m talking about the unfair value placed on the time and labor of men compared to women. A man who teaches can usually command a higher rate for lessons than a woman, even when they are teaching the same subjects and the man isn’t any better than the woman. I’ve seen this in boarding schools and other schools I’m familiar with, and it’s true in every job where both genders are involved. For instance, in tailoring, a man earns two to three times more for making a waistcoat or pants than a woman does, even though both might do equally good work. In jobs traditionally done by women, their time is valued at only half that of men. A woman who does laundry works just as hard as a woodworker or a coal miner, but typically she can’t make more than half of what a man earns in a day. The low wages women receive for their work have caught the eye of some compassionate people, and I hope this issue continues to get attention until a solution is found for this massive injustice. I’ve known a widow with four or five children to support, who couldn’t leave home because her dependent kids needed her, and had to scrape by making cheap shirts for 12½ cents each, or doing laundry for some wealthy clients who would pay her 12½ cents per dozen. All of this shows how undervalued women are. There’s also a more damaging effect stemming from this unbiblical belief—women are taught from a young age to see themselves as inferior and therefore lack the self-respect that comes from recognizing their equality. This leads to a situation where, when their virtue is threatened, they may easily give in to temptation, believing it elevates them rather than diminishes them to be involved with someone they perceive as superior.

There is another class of women in this country, to whom I cannot refer, without feelings of the deepest shame and sorrow. I allude to our female slaves. Our southern cities are whelmed beneath a tide of pollution; the virtue of female slaves is wholly at the mercy of irresponsible tyrants, and women are bought and sold in our slave markets, to gratify the brutal lust of those who bear the name of Christians. In our slave States, if amid all her degradation and ignorance, a woman desires to preserve her virtue unsullied, she is either bribed or whipped into compliance, or if she dares resist her seducer,[Pg 52] her life by the laws of some of the slave States may be, and has actually been sacrificed to the fury of disappointed passion. Where such laws do not exist, the power which is necessarily vested in the master over his property, leaves the defenceless slave entirely at his mercy, and the sufferings of some females on this account, both physical and mental, are intense. Mr. Gholson, in the House of Delegates of Virginia, in 1832, said, ‘He really had been under the impression that he owned his slaves. He had lately purchased four women and ten children, in whom he thought he had obtained a great bargain; for he supposed they were his own property, as were his brood mares.’ But even if any laws existed in the United States, as in Athens formerly, for the protection of female slaves, they would be null and void, because the evidence of a colored person is not admitted against a white, in any of our Courts of Justice in the slave States. ‘In Athens, if a female slave had cause to complain of any want of respect to the laws of modesty, she could seek the protection of the temple, and demand a change of owners; and such appeals were never discountenanced, or neglected by the magistrate.’ In Christian America, the slave has no refuge from unbridled cruelty and lust.

There’s another group of women in this country that I can’t mention without feeling deep shame and sadness. I’m talking about our female slaves. Our southern cities are overwhelmed by a wave of corruption; the dignity of female slaves is entirely in the hands of irresponsible oppressors, and women are bought and sold in our slave markets to satisfy the brutal desires of those who call themselves Christians. In our slave states, if a woman, despite all her degradation and ignorance, wants to keep her virtue intact, she is either bribed or beaten into submission, or if she dares to resist her attacker, her life can be—and has been—sacrificed to the rage of frustrated passion under the laws of some slave states. Where such laws don’t exist, the power that the master holds over his property leaves the defenseless slave completely at his mercy, and the suffering of some women due to this, both physical and mental, is intense. Mr. Gholson, in the House of Delegates of Virginia, in 1832, said, ‘He really believed he owned his slaves. He had recently bought four women and ten children, whom he thought were a great bargain; because he considered them his own property, just like his brood mares.’ But even if there were any laws in the United States, like those in ancient Athens, to protect female slaves, they would be useless because the testimony of a person of color isn’t accepted against a white person in any of our courts in the slave states. ‘In Athens, if a female slave had reason to complain about any disrespect for the laws of modesty, she could seek refuge at the temple and ask for a change of owners; and such requests were never ignored or dismissed by the magistrate.’ In Christian America, the slave has no escape from unchecked cruelty and desire.

S. A. Forrall, speaking of the state of morals at the South, says, ‘Negresses when young and likely, are often employed by the planter, or his friends, to administer to their sensual desires. This frequently is a matter of speculation, for if the offspring, a mulatto, be a handsome female, 800 or 1000 dollars may be obtained for her in the New Orleans market. It is an occurrence of no uncommon nature to see a Christian[Pg 53] father sell his own daughter, and the brother his own sister.’ The following is copied by the N. Y. Evening Star from the Picayune, a paper published in New Orleans. ‘A very beautiful girl, belonging to the estate of John French, a deceased gambler at New Orleans, was sold a few days since for the round sum of $7,000. An ugly-looking bachelor named Gouch, a member of the Council of one of the Principalities, was the purchaser. The girl is a brunette; remarkable for her beauty and intelligence, and there was considerable contention, who should be the purchaser. She was, however, persuaded to accept Gouch, he having made her princely promises.’ I will add but one more from the numerous testimonies respecting the degradation of female slaves, and the licentiousness of the South. It is from the Circular of the Kentucky Union, for the moral and religious improvement of the colored race. ‘To the female character among our black population, we cannot allude but with feelings of the bitterest shame. A similar condition of moral pollution and utter disregard of a pure and virtuous reputation, is to be found only without the pale of Christendom. That such a state of society should exist in a Christian nation, claiming to be the most enlightened upon earth, without calling forth any particular attention to its existence, though ever before our eyes and in our families, is a moral phenomenon at once unaccountable and disgraceful.’ Nor does the colored woman suffer alone: the moral purity of the white woman is deeply contaminated. In the daily habit of seeing the virtue of her enslaved sister sacrificed without hesitancy or remorse, she looks upon the crimes[Pg 54] of seduction and illicit intercourse without horror, and although not personally involved in the guilt, she loses that value for innocence in her own, as well as the other sex, which is one of the strongest safeguards to virtue. She lives in habitual intercourse with men, whom she knows to be polluted by licentiousness, and often is she compelled to witness in her own domestic circle, those disgusting and heart-sickening jealousies and strifes which disgraced and distracted the family of Abraham. In addition to all this, the female slaves suffer every species of degradation and cruelty, which the most wanton barbarity can inflict; they are indecently divested of their clothing, sometimes tied up and severely whipped, sometimes prostrated on the earth, while their naked bodies are torn by the scorpion lash.

S. A. Forrall, discussing the state of morals in the South, says, ‘Young and attractive enslaved women are often used by the plantation owners or their friends to satisfy their desires. This is often treated as a business transaction, because if the child, a mixed-race girl, is beautiful, $800 or $1,000 could be made from her in the New Orleans market. It's not uncommon to see a Christian father sell his own daughter, or a brother sell his own sister.’ The following is taken from the N.Y. Evening Star and originally published in the Picayune, a newspaper in New Orleans. ‘A very beautiful girl, belonging to the estate of John French, a deceased gambler in New Orleans, was sold a few days ago for the sum of $7,000. An unattractive bachelor named Gouch, who is a member of the Council in one of the Principalities, was the buyer. The girl is a brunette, noted for her beauty and intelligence, and there was a lot of competition over who would purchase her. She was eventually convinced to accept Gouch, as he had made her grand promises.’ I will add just one more from the many testimonies about the degradation of female slaves and the moral decay in the South. It is from the Circular of the Kentucky Union, which focuses on the moral and religious improvement of the colored community. ‘We can only mention the female character among our black population with the deepest shame. A similar level of moral corruption and complete disregard for a pure and virtuous reputation can be found only outside the bounds of Christendom. That such a state of society should exist in a Christian nation, claiming to be the most enlightened on earth, without drawing particular attention to its existence, despite being ever-present in our lives and in our families, is a moral phenomenon that is both incomprehensible and disgraceful.’ Moreover, the colored women are not the only ones suffering: the moral integrity of white women is also severely compromised. By routinely witnessing the virtue of their enslaved sisters being sacrificed without hesitation or regret, they become desensitized to the crimes of seduction and illicit relationships and, even though they may not be directly involved, they lose the value of innocence for themselves and for others, which is one of the strongest protections of virtue. They live in regular contact with men they know to be morally corrupt, and they are often forced to witness in their own households the disgusting and distressing jealousy and conflicts reminiscent of those that troubled the family of Abraham. Additionally, female slaves endure every form of degradation and cruelty that the most extreme savagery can impose; they are indecently stripped of their clothing, sometimes tied up and severely whipped, sometimes thrown to the ground while their bare bodies are lashed with a scorpion whip.

‘The whip on WOMAN’S shrinking flesh!
Our soil yet reddening with the stains
Caught from her scourging warm and fresh.’

‘The whip on woman’s shrinking skin!
Our land is still stained with blood.
"Just out of her punishment, feeling warm and renewed."

Can any American woman look at these scenes of shocking licentiousness and cruelty, and fold her hands in apathy, and say, ‘I have nothing to do with slavery’? She cannot and be guiltless.

Can any American woman look at these scenes of shocking immorality and cruelty, fold her hands in indifference, and say, ‘I have nothing to do with slavery’? She cannot and be guiltless.

I cannot close this letter, without saying a few words on the benefits to be derived by men, as well as women, from the opinions I advocate relative to the equality of the sexes. Many women are now supported, in idleness and extravagance, by the industry of their husbands, fathers, or brothers, who are compelled to toil out their existence, at the counting house, or in the printing office, or some other laborious occupation, while the wife and daughters and sisters take no part in the support of the family, and appear to think that their sole business is[Pg 55] to spend the hard bought earnings of their male friends. I deeply regret such a state of things, because I believe that if women felt their responsibility, for the support of themselves, or their families it would add strength and dignity to their characters, and teach them more true sympathy for their husbands, than is now generally manifested,—a sympathy which would be exhibited by actions as well as words. Our brethren may reject my doctrine, because it runs counter to common opinions, and because it wounds their pride; but I believe they would be ‘partakers of the benefit’ resulting from the Equality of the Sexes, and would find that woman, as their equal, was unspeakably more valuable than woman as their inferior, both as a moral and an intellectual being.

I can’t finish this letter without mentioning the advantages that both men and women can gain from the views I support regarding gender equality. Many women today are living off the hard work of their husbands, fathers, or brothers, who endure long hours at offices or in printing jobs, while their wives, daughters, and sisters contribute nothing to the family’s support and seem to believe that their only role is to spend the money earned by the men in their lives. I find this situation quite sad because I truly believe that if women acknowledged their responsibility for supporting themselves or their families, it would enhance their strength and dignity and foster genuine empathy for their husbands, which is often lacking today—empathy that would be shown through actions as well as words. Our male counterparts may dismiss my beliefs since they clash with common views and touch on their pride, but I believe they would truly benefit from gender equality and would realize that women, as their equals, hold immeasurable worth compared to women as their subordinates, both morally and intellectually.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.

FOOTNOTES:

[2] Thomas S. Grimke.

__A_TAG_PLACEHOLDER_0__ Thomas S. Grimke.


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LETTER IX.
Women’s Heroism—Women in Leadership.

Brookline, 8th Mo. 25th, 1837.

Brookline, Oct. 25, 1837.

My Dear Sister,—It seems necessary to glance at the conduct of women under circumstances which place them in juxtaposition with men, although I regard it as entirely unimportant in proving the moral equality of the sexes; because I condemn, in both, the exercise of that brute force which is as contrary to the law of God in men as in women; still, as a part of our history, I shall notice some instances of courage exhibited by females.

Dear Sister,—I think it’s important to look at how women behave in situations where they are alongside men, even though I believe this doesn’t really matter when it comes to proving that men and women are morally equal. I disapprove of the use of brute force by both genders, as it goes against God’s law for men just like it does for women. However, since it’s part of our history, I will mention a few examples of courage shown by women.

‘Philippa, wife of Edward III., was the principal cause of the victory gained over the Scots at Neville Cross. In the absence of her husband, she rode among the troops, and exhorted them to “be of good courage.”’ Jane, Countess of Mountfort, and a contemporary of Philippa, likewise possessed a great share of physical courage. The history of Joan of Arc is too familiar to need repetition. During the reign of James II. a singular instance of female intrepidity occurred in Scotland. Sir John Cochrane being condemned to be hung, his daughter twice disguised herself, and robbed the mail that brought his death warrant. In[Pg 57] the mean time, his pardon was obtained from the King. Instances might be multiplied, but it is unnecessary. I shall therefore close these proofs of female courage with one more fact. ‘During the revolutionary war, the women shared in the patriotism and bravery of the men. Several individuals carried their enthusiasm so far as to enter the army, where they faced all the perils and fatigues of the camp, until the close of the war.’

‘Philippa, the wife of Edward III, played a key role in the victory over the Scots at Neville Cross. While her husband was away, she rode among the troops, encouraging them to "stay strong."’ Jane, Countess of Mountfort, who lived at the same time as Philippa, also showed significant physical courage. The story of Joan of Arc is well-known and doesn’t need repeating. During the reign of James II, there was a remarkable act of bravery by a woman in Scotland. Sir John Cochrane was sentenced to be hanged, and his daughter disguised herself twice to steal the mail that carried his death warrant. In the meantime, his pardon was secured from the King. There are countless examples, but it's not necessary to elaborate on them. So, I will conclude these examples of female bravery with one more fact. ‘During the revolutionary war, women participated in the patriotism and bravery of the men. Several took their dedication so far as to enlist in the army, where they faced all the dangers and hardships of camp life until the war ended.’

When I view my countrywomen in the character of soldiers, or even behold them loading fire arms and moulding bullets for their brethren to destroy men’s lives, I cannot refrain a sigh. I cannot but contrast their conduct at that solemn crisis with the conduct of those women who followed their Lord and Master with unresisting submission, to Calvary’s Mount. With the precepts and example of a crucified Redeemer, who, in that sublime precept, ‘Resist not evil,’ has interdicted to his disciples all war and all violence, and taught us that the spirit of retaliation for injuries, whether in the camp, or at the fire-side, is wholly at variance with the peaceful religion he came to promulgate. How little do we comprehend that simple truth, ‘By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.’

When I see my fellow women as soldiers, or even watch them loading guns and making bullets for their brothers to take lives, I can't help but sigh. I can’t help but compare their actions during such a serious time with those of the women who followed their Lord and Master with total submission to Calvary's Mountain. With the teachings and example of a crucified Savior, who in that profound teaching, ‘Resist not evil,’ has forbidden his followers all war and all violence, and has shown us that seeking revenge for wrongs, whether in battle or at home, is completely at odds with the peaceful religion he came to spread. How little we understand that simple truth, ‘By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.’

Women have sometimes distinguished themselves in a way more consistent with their duties as moral beings. During the war between the Romans and the Sabines, the Sabine women who had been carried off by the Romans, repaired to the Sabine camp, dressed in deep mourning, with their little ones in their arms, to soften, if possible, the feelings of their parents. They knelt at the feet of their relatives;[Pg 58] and when Hersilia, the wife of Romulus, described the kindness of their husbands, and their unwillingness to be separated from them, their fathers yielded to their entreaties, and an alliance was soon agreed upon. In consequence of this important service, peculiar privileges were conferred on women by the Romans. Brutus said of his wife, ‘I must not answer Portia in the words of Hector, “Mind your wheel, and to your maids give law,” for in courage, activity and concern for her country’s freedom, she is inferior to none of us.’ After the fatal battle of Cannæ, the Roman women consecrated all their ornaments to the service of the state. But when the triumvirs attempted to tax them for the expenses of carrying on a civil war, they resisted the innovation. They chose Hortensia for their speaker, and went in a body to the market-place to expostulate with the magistrates. The triumvirs wished to drive them away, but they were compelled to yield to the wishes of the people, and give the women a hearing. Hortensia pleaded so well the cause of her sisters, who resolved that they would not voluntarily aid in a civil war, that the number of women taxed was reduced from 1400 to 400.

Women have sometimes stood out in ways that aligned with their roles as moral individuals. During the conflict between the Romans and the Sabines, the Sabine women who had been taken by the Romans went to the Sabine camp, dressed in black mourning, with their children in their arms, hoping to soften their parents' feelings. They knelt at their relatives' feet; [Pg 58] when Hersilia, the wife of Romulus, spoke about the kindness of their husbands and how they didn't want to be separated from them, their fathers gave in to their pleas, and an alliance was soon formed. As a result of this significant service, the Romans granted women special privileges. Brutus remarked about his wife, 'I can't respond to Portia with Hector's words, “Mind your wheel, and give orders to your maids,” because in bravery, action, and concern for her country’s freedom, she is as strong as any of us.' After the devastating battle of Cannæ, the Roman women dedicated all their jewelry to the state. However, when the triumvirs tried to tax them for the costs of a civil war, they pushed back against this change. They appointed Hortensia as their spokesperson and went together to the marketplace to argue with the magistrates. The triumvirs tried to dismiss them, but they were forced to listen to the people's demands and hear the women out. Hortensia argued so effectively for her fellow women, who decided they wouldn't willingly support a civil war, that the number of women taxed decreased from 1400 to 400.

In the wars of the Guelphs and the Ghibbelines, the emperor Conrad refused all terms of capitulation to the garrison of Winnisberg, but he granted the request of the women to pass out in safety with such of their effects as they could carry themselves. Accordingly, they issued from the besieged city, each bearing on her shoulders a husband, son, father, or brother. They passed unmolested through the enemy’s camp, which rung with acclamations of applause.

In the conflicts between the Guelphs and the Ghibellines, Emperor Conrad turned down all surrender terms from the garrison of Winnisberg, but he did allow the women to leave safely with whatever belongings they could carry. As a result, they emerged from the besieged city, each woman carrying a husband, son, father, or brother on her shoulders. They walked through the enemy camp without any harm, which was filled with cheers and applause.

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During our struggle for independence, the women were as exemplary as the men in various instances of self-denial: they refused every article of decoration for their persons; foreign elegances were laid aside, and they cheerfully abstained from luxuries for their tables.

During our fight for independence, the women showed just as much dedication as the men in many acts of selflessness: they turned down all forms of decoration for themselves, set aside foreign luxuries, and willingly gave up extravagant food for their meals.

English history presents many instances of women exercising prerogatives now denied them. In an action at law, it has been determined that an unmarried woman, having a freehold, might vote for members of Parliament; and it is recorded that lady Packington returned two. Lady Broughton was keeper of the gatehouse prison. And in a much later period, a woman was appointed governor of the house of correction at Chelmsford, by order of the court. In the reign of George II. the minister of Clerkenwell was chosen by a majority of women. The office of grand chamberlain in 1822 was filled by two women; and that of clerk of the crown, in the court of king’s bench, has been granted to a female. The celebrated Anne, countess of Pembroke, held the hereditary office of sheriff of Westmoreland, and exercised it in person, sitting on the bench with the judges.

English history shows many examples of women having powers that are now denied to them. In a legal case, it was decided that an unmarried woman who owned property could vote for members of Parliament; it’s noted that Lady Packington elected two. Lady Broughton served as the keeper of the gatehouse prison. Later on, a woman was appointed the governor of the house of correction in Chelmsford by court order. During the reign of George II, the minister of Clerkenwell was chosen by a majority of women. In 1822, the position of grand chamberlain was held by two women, and a woman was also granted the role of clerk of the crown in the king’s bench court. The famous Anne, countess of Pembroke, held the hereditary position of sheriff of Westmoreland and performed the duties herself, sitting on the bench with the judges.

I need hardly advert to the names of Elizabeth of England, Maria Theresa of Germany, Catharine of Russia, and Isabella of Spain, to prove that women are capable of swaying the sceptre of royalty. The page of history proves incontestibly, not only that they are as well qualified to do so as men, but that there has been a comparatively greater proportion of good queens, than of good kings; women who have purchased their celebrity by individual strength of character.

I hardly need to mention the names of Elizabeth of England, Maria Theresa of Germany, Catherine of Russia, and Isabella of Spain to show that women can hold the power of royalty. History clearly demonstrates not only that they are just as qualified for the role as men, but that there has been a relatively greater number of good queens than good kings—women who earned their fame through their individual strength of character.

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I mention these women only to prove that intellect is not sexed; that strength of mind is not sexed; and that our views about the duties of men and the duties of women, the sphere of man and the sphere of woman, are mere arbitrary opinions, differing in different ages and countries, and dependant solely on the will and judgment of erring mortals.

I mention these women just to show that intelligence isn't tied to gender; that mental strength isn't tied to gender; and that our beliefs about the roles of men and women, the domains of men and women, are just random opinions, varying across different times and places, and depend solely on the will and judgment of fallible humans.

As moral and responsible beings, men and women have the same sphere of action, and the same duties devolve upon both; but no one can doubt that the duties of each vary according to circumstances; that a father and a mother, a husband and a wife, have sacred obligations resting on them, which cannot possibly belong to those who do not sustain these relations. But these duties and responsibilities do not attach to them as men and as women, but as parents, husbands, and wives.

As moral and responsible individuals, men and women share the same range of actions, and both have the same responsibilities; however, it’s clear that their duties differ depending on the situation. A father and a mother, a husband and a wife, have important obligations that don't apply to those who aren't in these roles. But these duties and responsibilities are tied to them not as men and women, but as parents, husbands, and wives.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER X.
WOMAN'S INTELLECT.

Brookline, 8th Mo. 1837.

Brookline, October 1837.

My Dear Sister,—It will scarcely be denied, I presume, that, as a general rule, men do not desire the improvement of women. There are few instances of men who are magnanimous enough to be entirely willing that women should know more than themselves, on any subjects except dress and cookery; and, indeed, this necessarily flows from their assumption of superiority. As they have determined that Jehovah has placed woman on a lower platform than man, they of course wish to keep her there; and hence the noble faculties of our minds are crushed, and our reasoning powers are almost wholly uncultivated.

Hey Sis,—I think it’s safe to say that, as a general rule, men are not interested in advancing women. There are very few men who are generous enough to genuinely want women to know more than they do, on any topics except fashion and cooking; and this is largely because of their belief in their own superiority. Since they believe that God has placed women on a lower level than men, they naturally want to keep them there; as a result, the great potential of our minds is stifled, and our ability to think critically is mostly neglected.

A writer in the time of Charles I. says—‘She that knoweth how to compound a pudding, is more desirable than she who skilfully compounded a poem. A female poet I mislike at all times.’ Within the last century, it has been gravely asserted that, ‘chemistry enough to keep the pot boiling, and geography enough to know the location of the different rooms in her house, is learning sufficient for a woman.’ Byron, who was too sensual to conceive of a[Pg 62] pure and perfect companionship between the sexes, would limit a woman’s library to a Bible and cookery book. I have myself heard men, who knew for themselves the value of intellectual culture, say they cared very little for a wife who could not make a pudding, and smile with contempt at the ardent thirst for knowledge exhibited by some women.

A writer during the time of Charles I said, "A woman who knows how to make a pudding is more desirable than one who can write a poem well. I dislike female poets at all times." In the past century, it has been seriously claimed that "having enough knowledge of chemistry to keep the pot boiling, and enough geography to know where the different rooms in her house are, is sufficient learning for a woman." Byron, who was too focused on physical desires to imagine a pure and perfect relationship between men and women, believed a woman's reading list should only include the Bible and a cookbook. I've even heard men, who understood the value of education, say they didn't care much for a wife who couldn't make a pudding, and they would scoff at women’s passionate pursuit of knowledge.

But all this is miserable wit and worse philosophy. It exhibits that passion for the gratification of a pampered appetite, which is beneath those who claim to be so far above us, and may justly be placed on a par with the policy of the slaveholder, who says that men will be better slaves, if they are not permitted to learn to read.

But all this is just sad humor and worse thinking. It shows a desire for satisfying a spoiled craving that's beneath those who claim to be so superior, and can rightly be compared to the strategy of the slave owner, who argues that people will be better slaves if they aren’t allowed to learn to read.

In spite, however, of the obstacles which impede the progress of women towards that state of high mental cultivation for which her Creator prepared her, the tendency towards the universal dissemination of knowledge has had its influence on their destinies; and in all ages, a few have surmounted every hindrance, and proved, beyond dispute, that they have talents equal to their brethren.

In spite of the obstacles that hold women back from achieving the level of intellectual development their Creator intended for them, the push for widespread knowledge has impacted their futures. Throughout history, a few have overcome every barrier and demonstrated, without a doubt, that they possess talents equal to their male counterparts.

Cornelia, the daughter of Scipio Africanus, was distinguished for virtue, learning and good sense. She wrote and spoke with uncommon elegance and purity. Cicero and Quinctilian bestow high praise upon her letters, and the eloquence of her children was attributed to her careful superintendence. This reminds me of a remark made by my brother, Thomas S. Grimke, when speaking of the importance of women being well educated, that ‘educated men would never make educated women, but educated women would make educated men.’[Pg 63] I believe the sentiment is correct, because if the wealth of latent intellect among women was fully evolved and improved, they would rejoice to communicate to their sons all their own knowledge, and inspire them with desires to drink from the fountain of literature.

Cornelia, the daughter of Scipio Africanus, was known for her virtue, intelligence, and common sense. She wrote and spoke with exceptional elegance and clarity. Cicero and Quintilian highly praised her letters, and her careful guidance was credited for the eloquence of her children. This reminds me of a comment made by my brother, Thomas S. Grimke, about the importance of women receiving a good education: ‘educated men would never create educated women, but educated women would create educated men.’[Pg 63] I believe this sentiment is true, because if the wealth of untapped intellect in women were fully developed, they would happily share all their knowledge with their sons and inspire them to seek out literature.

I pass over many interesting proofs of the intellectual powers of women; but I must not omit glancing at the age of chivalry, which has been compared to a golden thread running through the dark ages. During this remarkable era, women who, before this period, had been subject to every species of oppression and neglect, were suddenly elevated into deities, and worshipped with a mad fanaticism. It is not improbable, however, that even the absurdities of chivalry were beneficial to women, as it raised them from that extreme degradation to which they had been condemned, and prepared the way for them to be permitted to enjoy some scattered rays from the sun of science and literature. As the age of knight-errantry declined, men began to take pride in learning, and women shared the advantages which this change produced. ‘Women preached in public, supported controversies, published and defended theses, filled the chairs of philosophy and law, harangued the popes in Latin, wrote Greek and read Hebrew. Nuns wrote poetry, women of rank became divines, and young girls publicly exhorted Christian princes to take up arms for the recovery of the holy sepulchre. Hypatia, daughter of Theon of Alexandria, succeeded her father in the government of the Platonic school, and filled with reputation a seat, where many celebrated philosophers had taught. The people regarded her as an oracle, and magistrates[Pg 64] consulted her in all important cases. No reproach was ever uttered against the perfect purity of her manners. She was unembarrassed in large assemblies of men, because their admiration was tempered with the most scrupulous respect. In the 13th century, a young lady of Bologna pronounced a Latin oration at the age of twenty-three. At twenty-six, she took the degree of doctor of laws, and began publicly to expound Justinian. At thirty, she was elevated to a professor’s chair, and taught the law to a crowd of scholars from all nations. Italy produced many learned and gifted women, among whom, perhaps none was more celebrated than Victoria Colonna, Marchioness of Pescara. In Spain, Isabella of Rosera converted Jews by her eloquent preaching;’ and in England the names of many women, from Lady Jane Gray down to Harriet Martineau, are familiar to every reader of history. Of the last mentioned authoress, Lord Brougham said that her writings on political economy were doing more good than those of any man in England. There is a contemporary of Harriet Martineau, who has recently rendered valuable services to her country. She presented a memorial to Parliament, stating the dangerous parts of the coast, where light-houses were needed, and at her suggestion, several were erected. She keeps a life-boat and sailors in her pay, and has been the means of saving many lives. Although she has been deprived of the use of her limbs since early childhood, yet even when the storm is unusually severe, she goes herself on the beach in her carriage, that she may be sure her men perform their duty. She understands several languages, and[Pg 65] is now engaged in writing a work on the Northern languages of Europe. ‘In Germany, the influence of women on literature is considerable, though less obvious than in some other countries. Literary families frequently meet at each others’ houses, and learned and intelligent women are often the brightest ornaments of these social circles.’ France has produced many distinguished women, whose names are familiar to every lover of literature. And I believe it is conceded universally, that Madame de Stael was intellectually the greatest woman that ever lived. The United States have produced several female writers, some of whom have talents of the highest order. But women, even in this free republic, do not enjoy all the intellectual advantages of men, although there is a perceptible improvement within the last ten or twenty years; and I trust there is a desire awakened in my sisters for solid acquirements, which will elevate them to their ‘appropriate sphere,’ and enable them to ‘adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour in all things.’

I skip over many fascinating examples of women’s intellectual abilities, but I can't overlook the age of chivalry, often seen as a golden thread through the dark ages. During this notable period, women, who had previously faced all sorts of oppression and neglect, were suddenly elevated to the status of goddesses and worshipped with a fervor. However, it’s likely that even the ridiculous aspects of chivalry benefited women, as it lifted them from the extreme degradation they had endured and paved the way for them to enjoy some glimpses of the light from science and literature. As the era of knight-errantry faded, men began to take pride in learning, which allowed women to share in the benefits of this change. Women preached in public, engaged in debates, published and defended their theses, held positions in philosophy and law, addressed popes in Latin, wrote in Greek, and read Hebrew. Nuns wrote poetry, noble women became theologians, and young girls urged Christian princes to take up arms for the recovery of the holy sepulcher. Hypatia, daughter of Theon of Alexandria, succeeded her father in leading the Platonic school and held a respected position where many renowned philosophers had taught. People viewed her as an oracle, and magistrates consulted her on important matters. No accusations were ever made against her impeccable character. She was at ease in large gatherings of men because their admiration was coupled with utmost respect. In the 13th century, a young woman from Bologna delivered a Latin speech at age twenty-three. By twenty-six, she earned her doctorate in law and began to publicly explain Justinian's work. At thirty, she became a professor and taught law to a diverse group of students from various nations. Italy had many learned and talented women, among whom perhaps none was more famous than Victoria Colonna, Marchioness of Pescara. In Spain, Isabella of Rosera converted Jews through her powerful preaching, and in England, names of many women, from Lady Jane Gray to Harriet Martineau, are known to every history reader. Of the latter, Lord Brougham remarked that her writings on political economy were doing more good than those of any man in England. There is a contemporary of Harriet Martineau who has recently made valuable contributions to her country. She presented a petition to Parliament highlighting the dangerous coastal areas that needed lighthouses, which led to several being built. She maintains a lifeboat and keeps sailors on her payroll, saving many lives. Though she has been unable to use her limbs since childhood, even during severe storms, she goes to the beach in her carriage to ensure her men perform their duties. She speaks several languages and is currently working on a book about the Northern languages of Europe. In Germany, women greatly influence literature, even if it’s less visible than in other countries. Literary families frequently gather at each other's homes, where knowledgeable and intelligent women often shine as the brightest stars in these social circles. France has produced many distinguished women, and it’s widely accepted that Madame de Stael was the most intellectually remarkable woman ever. The United States has also seen female writers emerge, some with exceptionally high talents. However, even in this free republic, women do not enjoy all the intellectual advantages that men have, although there has been noticeable progress over the last ten or twenty years; I hope there is a growing desire among my sisters for substantial knowledge that will raise them to their appropriate roles and enable them to embody the teachings of God our Savior in all things.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the ties of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER XI.
WOMEN'S DRESS.

Brookline, 9th Mo., 1837.

Brookline, September 1837.

My Dear Sister,—When I view woman as an immortal being, travelling through this world to that city whose builder and maker is God,—when I contemplate her in all the sublimity of her spiritual existence, bearing the image and superscription of Jehovah, emanating from Him and partaking of his nature, and destined, if she fulfils her duty, to dwell with him through the endless ages of eternity,—I mourn that she has lived so far below her privileges and her obligations, as a rational and accountable creature; and I ardently long to behold her occupying that sphere in which I believe her Creator designed her to move.

Dear Sister,—When I see woman as an immortal being, traveling through this world to that city whose builder and maker is God,—when I think of her in all the greatness of her spiritual existence, reflecting the image and inscription of God, coming from Him and sharing in His nature, and destined, if she fulfills her duty, to live with Him through the endless ages of eternity,—I feel sad that she has lived so far below her rights and responsibilities as a rational and accountable being; and I passionately hope to see her in the role that I believe her Creator intended her to have.

Woman, in all ages and countries, has been the scoff and the jest of her lordly master. If she attempted, like him, to improve her mind, she was ridiculed as pedantic, and driven from the temple of science and literature by coarse attacks and vulgar sarcasms. If she yielded to the pressure of circumstances, and sought relief from the monotony of existence by resorting to the theatre and the ball-room, by ornamenting her person with flowers and with jewels, while[Pg 67] her mind was empty and her heart desolate; she was still the mark at which wit and satire and cruelty levelled their arrows.

Woman, throughout history and across the world, has been mocked and belittled by her dominant counterpart. If she tried to educate herself like him, she was laughed at for being too serious and pushed away from the fields of knowledge and literature by crude attacks and mean-spirited jokes. If she caved to societal pressures and looked for an escape from a dull life by going to the theater or dance parties, adorning herself with flowers and jewelry while her mind was empty and her heart lonely, she still became the target of wit, satire, and cruelty.

‘Woman,’ says Adam Clarke, ‘has been invidiously defined, an animal of dress. How long will they permit themselves to be thus degraded?’ I have been an attentive observer of my sex, and I am constrained to believe that the passion for dress, which so generally characterizes them, is one cause why there so is little of that solid improvement and weight of character which might be acquired under almost any circumstances, if the mind were not occupied by the love of admiration, and the desire to gratify personal vanity. I have already adduced some instances to prove the inordinate love of dress, which is exhibited by women in a state of heathenism; I shall, therefore, confine myself now to what are called Christian countries; only remarking that previous to the introduction of Christianity into the Roman empire, the extravagance of apparel had arisen to an unprecedented height. ‘Jewels, expensive embroidery, and delicious perfumes, were used in great profusion by those who could afford them.’ The holy religion of Jesus Christ came in at this period, and stript luxury and wealth of all their false attractions. ‘Women of the noblest and wealthiest families, surrounded by the seductive allurements of worldly pleasure, renounced them all. Undismayed by severe edicts against the new religion, they appeared before the magistrates, and by pronouncing the simple words, “I am a Christian,” calmly resigned themselves to imprisonment, ignominy and death.’ Could such women have had their minds occupied by the foolish[Pg 68] vanity of ornamental apparel? No! Christianity struck at the root of all sin, and consequently we find the early Christians could not fight, or swear, or wear costly clothing. Cave, in his work entitled ‘Primitive Christianity,’ has some interesting remarks on this subject, showing that simplicity of dress was not then esteemed an unimportant part of Christianity.

‘Woman,’ says Adam Clarke, ‘has been unfairly labeled, an animal of dress. How long will they allow themselves to be degraded like this?’ I've been closely observing my gender, and I can't help but believe that the obsession with fashion, which often defines them, is one reason why there's so little real personal growth and depth of character that could be developed under almost any conditions, if the mind weren't consumed by the desire for attention and the need to satisfy personal vanity. I've already given examples of the excessive passion for dress exhibited by women in pagan societies; so now I'll focus on what are called Christian countries, just noting that before Christianity was introduced to the Roman Empire, the extravagance of clothing had reached an unprecedented level. ‘Jewels, costly embroidery, and fragrant perfumes were used lavishly by those who could afford them.’ The holy religion of Jesus Christ emerged during this time, stripping luxury and wealth of all their false allure. ‘Women from the noblest and wealthiest families, surrounded by the tempting distractions of worldly pleasure, turned their backs on it all. Undeterred by harsh laws against the new faith, they stood before the authorities, and by simply saying, “I am a Christian,” calmly accepted imprisonment, shame, and death.’ Could such women have been preoccupied with the trivial vanity of decorative clothing? No! Christianity addressed the root of all sin, which is why we find that early Christians wouldn't fight, curse, or wear expensive clothes. Cave, in his book titled ‘Primitive Christianity,’ makes some insightful comments on this topic, indicating that simplicity in dress was regarded as an important aspect of Christianity.

Very soon, however, when the fire of persecution was no longer blazing, pagan customs became interwoven with Christianity. The professors of the religion of a self-denying Lord, whose kingdom was not of this world, began to use the sword, to return railing for railing, to take oaths, to mingle heathen forms and ceremonies with Christian worship, to engraft on the beautiful simplicity of piety, the feasts and observances which were usual at heathen festivals in honor of the gods, and to adorn their persons with rich and ornamental apparel. And now if we look at Christendom, there is scarcely a vestige of that religion, which the Redeemer of men came to promulgate. The Christian world is much in the situation of the Jewish nation, when the babe of Bethlehem was born, full of outside observances, which they substitute for mercy and love, for self-denial and good works, rigid in the performance of religious duties, but ready, if the Lord Jesus came amongst them and judged them by their fruits, as he did the Pharisees formerly, to crucify him as a slanderer. Indeed, I believe the remark of a late author is perfectly correct:

Very soon, though, when the intensity of persecution diminished, pagan traditions started blending with Christianity. Followers of a self-denying Lord, whose kingdom was not of this world, began to wield the sword, respond to insults with insults, take oaths, mix pagan practices and rituals with Christian worship, and add to the pure simplicity of faith the celebrations and rituals common at pagan festivals honoring the gods. They also began to dress in luxurious and ornate clothing. Now, if we look at Christendom, there’s hardly any trace of the religion that the Redeemer of humanity came to teach. The Christian world resembles the Jewish nation at the time of the birth of the babe in Bethlehem, full of external rituals that they substitute for mercy and love, for self-denial and good deeds, strict in their religious duties, yet ready, if the Lord Jesus were to come among them and judge them by their actions, like he did with the Pharisees, to crucify him as a false accuser. Truly, I believe the statement of a recent author is completely accurate:

‘Strange as it may seem, yet I do not hesitate to declare my belief that it is easier to make Pagan nations Christians, than to reform Christian communities and fashion them[Pg 69] anew, after the pure and simple standard of the gospel. Cast your eye over Christian countries, and see what a multitude of causes combine to resist and impair the influence of Christian institutions. Behold the conformity of Christians to the world, in its prodigal pleasures and frivolous amusements, in its corrupt opinions and sentiments, of false honor. Behold the wide spread ignorance and degrading superstition; the power of prejudice and the authority of custom; the unchristian character of our systems of education; and the dread of the frowns and ridicule of the world, and we discover at once a host of more formidable enemies to the progress of true religion in Christian, than in heathen lands.’

‘As strange as it might sound, I firmly believe that it's easier to convert Pagan nations to Christianity than to reform Christian communities and reshape them[Pg 69] according to the pure and simple ideals of the gospel. Look at Christian countries and notice how many factors work together to resist and weaken the power of Christian institutions. Observe how Christians conform to the world, indulging in its lavish pleasures and trivial entertainment, embracing corrupt opinions and misguided notions of false honor. Notice the widespread ignorance and degrading superstitions; the strength of prejudice and the weight of tradition; the unchristian nature of our education systems; and the fear of disapproval and mockery from society, and you'll find a far greater number of serious obstacles to the advancement of true religion in Christian nations than in non-Christian ones.’

But I must proceed to examine what is the state of professing Christendom, as regards the subject of this letter. A few words will suffice. The habits and employments of fashionable circles are nearly the same throughout Christian communities. The fashion of dress, which varies more rapidly than the changing seasons, is still, as it has been from time immemorial, an all-absorbing object of interest. The simple cobbler of Agawam, who wrote in Massachusetts as early as 1647, speaking of women, says,

But I need to look into the state of professing Christianity concerning the topic of this letter. A few words will do. The habits and activities of fashionable circles are almost the same across Christian communities. The trends in clothing, which change faster than the seasons, continue to be an all-consuming focus of interest. The humble cobbler of Agawam, who wrote in Massachusetts as early as 1647, remarked about women, saying,

“It is no marvel they wear drailes on the hinder part of their heads, having nothing, as it seems, in the fore part, but a few squirrels’ brains to help them frisk from one fashion to another.’

“It’s not surprising they have tails on the back of their heads, having seemingly nothing at the front but a few squirrels’ brains to help them jump from one trend to another.”

It must, however, be conceded, that although there are too many women who merit this severe reprehension, there is a numerous class whose improvement of mind and devotion to the cause of humanity justly entitle them to our respect and admiration. One of the most striking characteristics of modern times, is the tendency toward a universal dissemination of knowledge in all Protestant communities. But the character of woman has been elevated more by participating[Pg 70] in the great moral enterprises of the day, than by anything else. It would astonish us if we could see at a glance all the labor, the patience, the industry, the fortitude which woman has exhibited, in carrying on the causes of Moral Reform, Anti-Slavery, &c. Still, even these noble and ennobling pursuits have not destroyed personal vanity. Many of those who are engaged in these great and glorious reformations, watch with eager interest, the ever varying freaks of the goddess of fashion, and are not exceeded by the butterflies of the ball-room in their love of curls, artificial flowers, embroidery and gay apparel. Many a woman will ply her needle with ceaseless industry, to obtain money to forward a favorite benevolent scheme, while at the same time she will expend on useless articles of dress, more than treble the sum which she procures by the employment of her needle, and which she might throw into the Lord’s treasury, and leave herself leisure to cultivate her mind, and to mingle among the poor and the afflicted more than she can possibly do now.

It must be acknowledged that while there are many women who deserve strong criticism, there is also a significant group whose intellectual growth and commitment to humanitarian causes truly earn our respect and admiration. One of the most notable features of modern times is the push for widespread knowledge within Protestant communities. However, women's status has risen more through their involvement in the major moral movements of today than through anything else. It would amaze us to see the vast amounts of labor, patience, effort, and resilience that women have shown while advocating for causes like Moral Reform and Anti-Slavery. Still, even these admirable and uplifting pursuits haven’t eliminated personal vanity. Many of those involved in these significant reforms closely follow the ever-changing trends of fashion and are just as obsessed as the socialites of the ballroom with their hairstyles, fake flowers, embroidery, and stylish clothes. Many women will tirelessly sew to raise money for a favored charity, while simultaneously spending more than three times that amount on frivolous clothing, money that could instead go into charitable causes, allowing them more time to develop their minds and to engage with the poor and the suffering more than they currently can.

I feel exceedingly solicitous to draw the attention of my sisters to this subject. I know that it is called trifling, and much is said about dressing fashionably, and elegantly, and becomingly, without thinking about it. This I do not believe can be done. If we indulge our fancy in the chameleon caprices of fashion, or in wearing ornamental and extravagant apparel, the mind must be in no small degree engaged in the gratification of personal vanity.

I feel really concerned to bring this topic to my sisters' attention. I know it's often considered trivial, and a lot is said about dressing stylishly, elegantly, and appropriately without much thought. I don’t believe that’s possible. If we indulge in the ever-changing whims of fashion or in wearing flashy and extravagant clothes, it means our minds are significantly focused on satisfying our personal vanity.

Lest any one may suppose from my being a Quaker, that I should like to see a uniform dress adopted, I will say, that I have no partiality[Pg 71] for their peculiar costume, except so far as I find it simple and convenient; and I have not the remotest desire to see it worn, where one more commodious can be substituted. But I do believe one of the chief obstacles in the way of woman’s elevation to the same platform of human rights, and moral dignity, and intellectual improvement, with her brother, on which God placed her, and where he designed her to act her part as an immortal creature, is her love of dress. ‘It has been observed,’ says Scott, ‘that foppery and extravagance as to dress in men are most emphatically condemned by the apostle’s silence on the subject, for this intimated that surely they could be under no temptation to such a childish vanity.’ But even those men who are superior to such a childish vanity in themselves, are, nevertheless, ever ready to encourage it in women. They know that so long as we submit to be dressed like dolls, we never can rise to the stations of duty and usefulness from which they desire to exclude us; and they are willing to grant us paltry indulgences, which forward their own design of keeping us out of our appropriate sphere, while they deprive us of essential rights.

I want to clarify that just because I'm a Quaker, it doesn't mean I want to push for a uniform dress style. I actually don’t have any strong feelings about their unique clothing, except that I find it simple and practical. I really have no desire to see it everywhere if there's something more comfortable available. However, I believe one of the main barriers to women's advancement in terms of equal rights, moral dignity, and intellectual growth—just like men enjoy—is their obsession with clothing. Scott noted that the lack of mention of foppery and extravagance in men’s dress by the apostle implies they must not be tempted by such childish vanity. Yet, even men who rise above this silliness are quick to encourage it in women. They understand that as long as we let ourselves be dressed like dolls, we can never rise to the roles of duty and usefulness that they want to keep us from. They are happy to give us trivial allowances that serve their agenda of keeping us out of our rightful place while stripping us of our basic rights.

To me it appears beneath the dignity of woman to bedeck herself in gewgaws and trinkets, in ribbons and laces, to gratify the eye of man. I believe, furthermore, that we owe a solemn duty to the poor. Many a woman, in what is called humble life, spends nearly all her earnings in dress, because she wants to be as well attired as her employer. It is often argued that, as the birds and the flowers are gaily adorned by nature’s hand, there can be no sin in woman’s ornamenting her person. My reply[Pg 72] is, God created me neither a bird nor a flower; and I aspire to something more than a resemblance to them. Besides, the gaudy colors in which birds and flowers are arrayed, create in them no feelings of vanity; but as human beings, we are susceptible of these passions, which are nurtured and strengthened by such adornments. ‘Well,’ I am often asked, ‘where is the limitation?’ This it is not my business to decide. Every woman, as Judson remarks, can best settle this on her knees before God. He has commanded her not to be conformed to this world, but to be transformed by the renewing of her mind, that she may know what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God. He made the dress of the Jewish women the subject of special denunciation by his prophet—Is. 3: 16-26; yet the chains and the bracelets, the rings and the ear-rings, and the changeable suits of apparel, are still worn by Christian women. He has commanded them, through his apostles, not to adorn themselves with broidered hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array. Not to let their adorning be the ‘outward adorning of plaiting the hair, or of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel, but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price;’ yet we disregard these solemn admonitions. May we not form some correct estimate of dress, by asking ourselves how we should feel, if we saw ministers of the gospel rise to address an audience with ear-rings dangling from their ears, glittering rings on their fingers, and a wreath of artificial flowers on their brow, and the rest[Pg 73] of their apparel in keeping? If it would be wrong for a minister, it is wrong for every professing Christian. God makes no distinction between the moral and religious duties of ministers and people. We are bound to be ‘a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a peculiar people, a holy nation; that we should show forth the praises of him who hath called us out of darkness into his marvellous light.’

To me, it seems beneath a woman's dignity to adorn herself with flashy decorations and jewelry, ribbons, and lace, just to please a man's eye. I also believe we have a serious responsibility to the poor. Many women in so-called humble jobs spend nearly all their earnings on clothing because they want to look just as well-dressed as their employers. Some argue that, since birds and flowers are beautifully decorated by nature, there's no sin in a woman decorating herself. My response is, God created me neither a bird nor a flower; I aspire to more than just resembling them. Besides, the bright colors that adorn birds and flowers don’t make them feel vain; however, as human beings, we're vulnerable to such feelings, which are encouraged and intensified by these decorations. 'Well,' people often ask, 'where should we draw the line?' It's not my place to determine that. Every woman, as Judson suggests, can best figure this out in prayer before God. He has commanded her not to conform to this world but to be transformed by renewing her mind, so she can understand what is good and pleasing and perfect according to His will. He made the way Jewish women dressed a subject of special condemnation through his prophet—Is. 3: 16-26; yet the chains, bracelets, rings, and earrings, along with changing outfits, are still worn by Christian women. Through his apostles, He has instructed them not to adorn themselves with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or expensive clothing. We should not focus our adornment on what's outward, like braiding hair, wearing gold, or putting on nice clothes, but instead let it be the hidden person of the heart, which is imperishable, even the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in God’s sight; yet we ignore these serious warnings. Shouldn’t we assess our clothing choices by considering how we would feel if we saw ministers of the gospel rise to speak wearing earrings, flashy rings, and a crown of artificial flowers, with their outfits matching? If it would be wrong for a minister, then it’s wrong for any professing Christian. God makes no distinction between the moral and religious responsibilities of ministers and laypeople. We are called to be ‘a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a peculiar people, a holy nation; that we should proclaim the praises of Him who has called us out of darkness into His marvelous light.’

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER XII.
Women's Legal Disabilities.

Concord, 9th Mo., 6th, 1837.

Concord, November 6, 1837.

My Dear Sister,—There are few things which present greater obstacles to the improvement and elevation of woman to her appropriate sphere of usefulness and duty, than the laws which have been enacted to destroy her independence, and crush her individuality; laws which, although they are framed for her government, she has had no voice in establishing, and which rob her of some of her essential rights. Woman has no political existence. With the single exception of presenting a petition to the legislative body, she is a cipher in the nation; or, if not actually so in representative governments, she is only counted, like the slaves of the South, to swell the number of law-makers who form decrees for her government, with little reference to her benefit, except so far as her good may promote their own. I am not sufficiently acquainted with the laws respecting women on the continent of Europe, to say anything about them. But Prof. Follen, in his essay on ‘The Cause of Freedom in our Country,’ says, ‘Woman, though fully possessed of that rational and[Pg 75] moral nature which is the foundation of all rights, enjoys amongst us fewer legal rights than under the civil law of continental Europe.’ I shall confine myself to the laws of our country. These laws bear with peculiar rigor on married women. Blackstone, in the chapter entitled ‘Of husband and wife,’ says:—

Hey Sis,—There are few things that create bigger obstacles to improving and uplifting women to their rightful place of usefulness and duty than the laws designed to undermine their independence and suppress their individuality. These laws, even though they are made for her governance, are established without her input, stealing some of her essential rights. Women have no political existence. With the single exception of submitting a petition to the legislative body, she is a non-entity in the nation; or, if she isn't completely ignored in representative governments, she is only counted, like the slaves of the South, to increase the number of lawmakers who create decisions affecting her life, with little consideration for her well-being, except in ways that serve their own interests. I am not well enough informed about the laws concerning women in Europe to comment on them. However, Prof. Follen, in his essay titled ‘The Cause of Freedom in our Country,’ states, ‘Woman, though fully possessed of that rational and [Pg 75] moral nature which is the foundation of all rights, enjoys amongst us fewer legal rights than under the civil law of continental Europe.’ I will limit my discussion to the laws of our own country. These laws are particularly harsh on married women. Blackstone, in the chapter titled ‘Of husband and wife,’ states:—

‘By marriage, the husband and wife are one person in law; that is, the very being, or legal existence of the woman is suspended during the marriage, or at least is incorporated and consolidated into that of the husband under whose wing, protection and cover she performs everything.’ ‘For this reason, a man cannot grant anything to his wife, or enter into covenant with her; for the grant would be to suppose her separate existence, and to covenant with her would be to covenant with himself; and therefore it is also generally true, that all compacts made between husband and wife when single, are voided by the intermarriage. A woman indeed may be attorney for her husband; but that implies no separation from, but is rather a representation of, her love.’

‘By getting married, the husband and wife become one legal entity; that is, the woman's legal identity is set aside during the marriage, or at least is included and merged into that of the husband, under whose support and protection she carries out everything.’ ‘For this reason, a man cannot give anything to his wife or enter into any agreements with her; because that would imply her separate existence, and making an agreement with her would be like making an agreement with himself; and therefore it’s generally true that all agreements made between a husband and wife while single are nullified by the marriage. A woman can act as an attorney for her husband; but that doesn’t indicate separation from him, but rather reflects her love for him.’

Here now, the very being of a woman, like that of a slave, is absorbed in her master. All contracts made with her, like those made with slaves by their owners, are a mere nullity. Our kind defenders have legislated away almost all our legal rights, and in the true spirit of such injustice and oppression, have kept us in ignorance of those very laws by which we are governed. They have persuaded us, that we have no right to investigate the laws, and that, if we did, we could not comprehend them; they alone are capable of understanding the mysteries of Blackstone, &c. But they are not backward to make us feel the practical operation of their power over our actions.

Here and now, the existence of a woman, similar to that of a slave, is completely dependent on her master. All agreements made with her, just like those made by slave owners with their slaves, are essentially worthless. Our supposed protectors have stripped us of nearly all our legal rights and, in line with this injustice and oppression, have kept us uninformed about the very laws that govern us. They have convinced us that we have no right to examine these laws and that, even if we tried, we wouldn't be able to understand them; they alone possess the ability to grasp the complexities of Blackstone, etc. Yet, they are quick to make us aware of how their power affects our actions.

‘The husband is bound to provide his wife with necessaries by law, as much as himself; and if she contracts debts for them, he is obliged to pay for them; but for anything besides necessaries, he is not chargeable.’

‘The husband is legally required to provide his wife with necessities just like he does for himself; if she incurs debts for those necessities, he must cover them; however, for anything beyond necessities, he isn't responsible.’

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Yet a man may spend the property he has acquired by marriage at the ale-house, the gambling table, or in any other way that he pleases. Many instances of this kind have come to my knowledge; and women, who have brought their husbands handsome fortunes, have been left, in consequence of the wasteful and dissolute habits of their husbands, in straitened circumstances, and compelled to toil for the support of their families.

Yet a man can spend the money he gained through marriage at the bar, the casino, or however he chooses. I've seen many examples of this; women who have brought their husbands substantial wealth have ended up in difficult situations because of their husbands' careless and reckless habits, and they have had to work hard to support their families.

‘If the wife be indebted before marriage, the husband is bound afterwards to pay the debt; for he has adopted her and her circumstances together.’

‘If a wife has debts before getting married, her husband is obligated to pay them afterward; because he has taken her and her situation on as part of the deal.’

The wife’s property is, I believe, equally liable for her husband’s debts contracted before marriage.

The wife's property is, I think, also responsible for her husband's debts incurred before marriage.

‘If the wife be injured in her person or property, she can bring no action for redress without her husband’s concurrence, and his name as well as her own: neither can she be sued, without making her husband a defendant.’

‘If the wife is harmed in her person or property, she cannot file a lawsuit for compensation without her husband's agreement, and his name as well as hers must be included: nor can she be sued without including her husband as a defendant.’

This law that ‘a wife can bring no action,’ &c., is similar to the law respecting slaves, ‘A slave cannot bring a suit against his master, or any other person, for an injury—his master, must bring it.’ So if any damages are recovered for an injury committed on a wife, the husband pockets it; in the case of the slave, the master does the same.

This law stating that "a wife can't file a lawsuit" is similar to the law regarding slaves: "A slave can't sue his master or anyone else for a wrongdoing—his master must do that." So, if any damages are awarded for harm done to a wife, the husband keeps it; in the case of the slave, the master does the same.

‘In criminal prosecutions, the wife may be indicted and punished separately, unless there be evidence of coercion from the fact that the offence was committed in the presence, or by the command of her husband. A wife is excused from punishment for theft committed in the presence, or by the command of her husband.’

‘In criminal cases, a wife can be charged and punished separately, unless there's proof that she was forced into it because the crime happened in front of her husband or at his command. A wife is not punished for theft committed in front of her husband or at his command.’

It would be difficult to frame a law better calculated to destroy the responsibility of woman as a moral being, or a free agent. Her husband[Pg 77] is supposed to possess unlimited control over her; and if she can offer the flimsy excuse that he bade her steal, she may break the eighth commandment with impunity, as far as human laws are concerned.

It would be hard to create a law better designed to eliminate a woman's responsibility as a moral being or as an independent person. Her husband[Pg 77] is assumed to have complete control over her; and if she can give the weak excuse that he told her to steal, she can break the eighth commandment without consequences, at least in terms of human laws.

‘Our law, in general, considers man and wife as one person; yet there are some instances in which she is separately considered, as inferior to him and acting by his compulsion. Therefore, all deeds executed, and acts done by her during her coverture (i. e. marriage,) are void, except it be a fine, or like matter of record, in which case she must be solely and secretly examined, to learn if her act be voluntary.’

‘In general, our law views a husband and wife as one person; however, there are instances where the wife is seen separately, as subordinate to him and acting under his influence. As a result, any deeds executed or actions taken by her during her marriage are invalid, except for matters like fines or official records, in which case she must be privately and independently questioned to determine if her actions are voluntary.’

Such a law speaks volumes of the abuse of that power which men have vested in their own hands. Still the private examination of a wife, to know whether she accedes to the disposition of property made by her husband is, in most cases, a mere form; a wife dares not do what will be disagreeable to one who is, in his own estimation, her superior, and who makes her feel, in the privacy of domestic life, that she has thwarted him. With respect to the nullity of deeds or acts done by a wife, I will mention one circumstance. A respectable woman borrowed of a female friend a sum of money to relieve her son from some distressing pecuniary embarrassment. Her husband was from home, and she assured the lender, that as soon as he returned, he would gratefully discharge the debt. She gave her note, and the lender, entirely ignorant of the law that a man is not obliged to discharge such a debt, actually borrowed the money, and lent it to the distressed and weeping mother. The father returned home, refused to pay the debt, and the person who had loaned the money was obliged to pay both principal and interest to the friend who lent it to her. Women should certainly know the laws by[Pg 78] which they are governed, and from which they frequently suffer; yet they are kept in ignorance, nearly as profound, of their legal rights, and of the legislative enactments which are to regulate their actions, as slaves.

Such a law highlights the abuse of power that men hold over women. Yet, the private questioning of a wife to see if she agrees with her husband's decisions about property is often just a formality. A wife usually feels she can't do anything that might upset someone she sees as superior, especially in the private setting of home life, where she knows she's disappointed him. Regarding the invalidation of contracts or actions taken by a wife, I'll share an example. A respected woman borrowed money from a female friend to help her son out of a tough financial situation. Her husband was away, and she promised the lender that he would pay back the loan as soon as he returned. She wrote a note for the loan, and the lender, unaware of the law that states a husband isn’t required to cover such debts, lent the money to the distressed mother. When the father came home, he refused to repay the debt, leaving the lender responsible for paying both the principal and interest to her friend. Women definitely need to understand the laws that govern them and from which they often suffer; however, they are kept almost completely in the dark about their legal rights and the laws that should govern their actions, similar to slaves.

‘The husband, by the old law, might give his wife moderate correction, as he is to answer for her misbehavior. The law thought it reasonable to entrust him with this power of restraining her by domestic chastisement. The courts of law will still permit a husband to restrain a wife of her liberty, in case of any gross misbehavior.’

‘The husband, under the old law, could give his wife reasonable correction, as he is responsible for her behavior. The law found it appropriate to give him the authority to discipline her through domestic means. Courts will still allow a husband to limit his wife's freedom in cases of serious misbehavior.’

What a mortifying proof this law affords, of the estimation in which woman is held! She is placed completely in the hands of a being subject like herself to the outbursts of passion, and therefore unworthy to be trusted with power. Perhaps I may be told respecting this law, that it is a dead letter, as I am sometimes told about the slave laws; but this is not true in either case. The slaveholder does kill his slave by moderate correction, as the law allows; and many a husband, among the poor, exercises the right given him by the law, of degrading woman by personal chastisement. And among the higher ranks, if actual imprisonment is not resorted to, women are not unfrequently restrained of the liberty of going to places of worship by irreligious husbands, and of doing many other things about which, as moral and responsible beings, they should be the sole judges. Such laws remind me of the reply of some little girls at a children’s meeting held recently at Ipswich. The lecturer told them that God had created four orders of beings with which he had made us acquainted through the Bible. The first was angels, the second was man,[Pg 79] the third beasts; and now, children, what is the fourth? After a pause, several girls replied, ‘WOMEN.’

What a humiliating indication this law provides about how women are valued! She is entirely at the mercy of someone who, like her, is prone to emotional outbursts and therefore unfit to be given power. Maybe someone will tell me that this law is just a formality, like I’ve heard about the laws regarding slavery; but that’s not true in either situation. The slave owner does harm his slave through so-called reasonable punishment, as allowed by the law; and many husbands, especially among the less fortunate, use their legal rights to demean women through physical punishment. And among wealthier individuals, even if they don’t resort to actual imprisonment, women are often denied the freedom to attend worship services by their unspiritual husbands and are restricted from many other activities that, as moral and responsible beings, they should be the only ones to decide about. Such laws remind me of a response from some little girls at a children’s meeting that took place recently in Ipswich. The speaker told them that God created four types of beings that we know about from the Bible. The first was angels, the second was man,[Pg 79] the third was beasts; and now, children, what is the fourth? After a moment, several girls answered, ‘WOMEN.’

‘A woman’s personal property by marriage becomes absolutely her husband’s, which, at his death, he may leave entirely away from her.’

‘A woman's personal property through marriage completely belongs to her husband, and upon his death, he can leave it entirely to someone else.’

And farther, all the avails of her labor are absolutely in the power of her husband. All that she acquires by her industry is his; so that she cannot, with her own honest earnings, become the legal purchaser of any property. If she expends her money for articles of furniture, to contribute to the comfort of her family, they are liable to be seized for her husband’s debts: and I know an instance of a woman, who by labor and economy had scraped together a little maintenance for herself and a do-little husband, who was left, at his death, by virtue of his last will and testament, to be supported by charity. I knew another woman, who by great industry had acquired a little money which she deposited in a bank for safe keeping. She had saved this pittance whilst able to work, in hopes that when age or sickness disqualified her for exertion, she might have something to render life comfortable, without being a burden to her friends. Her husband, a worthless, idle man, discovered this hid treasure, drew her little stock from the bank, and expended it all in extravagance and vicious indulgence. I know of another woman, who married without the least idea that she was surrendering her rights to all her personal property. Accordingly, she went to the bank as usual to draw her dividends, and the person who paid her the money, and to whom she was personally known as an[Pg 80] owner of shares in that bank, remarking the change in her signature, withdrew the money, informing her that if she were married, she had no longer a right to draw her dividends without an order from her husband. It appeared that she intended having a little fund for private use, and had not even told her husband that she owned this stock, and she was not a little chagrined, when she found that it was not at her disposal. I think she was wrong to conceal the circumstance. The relation of husband and wife is too near and sacred to admit of secrecy about money matters, unless positive necessity demands it; and I can see no excuse for any woman entering into a marriage engagement with a design to keep her husband ignorant that she was possessed of property. If she was unwilling to give up her property to his disposal, she had infinitely better have remained single. The laws above cited are not very unlike the slave laws of Louisiana.

And furthermore, all the earnings from her work are entirely under her husband’s control. Everything she earns belongs to him, which means she can’t legally buy any property with her own money. If she spends her earnings on furniture to make their home more comfortable, those items could be taken away to pay her husband’s debts. I know of a woman who, through hard work and saving, managed to secure a little income for herself and her shiftless husband, but when he passed away, he left her reliant on charity according to his will. I also know another woman who worked hard and saved a small amount of money, which she kept in a bank for safety. She had saved this little sum while she could still work, hoping that when she got older or ill, she would have something to make her life comfortable without being a burden to her friends. Her husband, a lazy and worthless man, found this hidden savings, withdrew it all from the bank, and spent it on his own extravagances and vices. There’s yet another woman who married without any idea that she was giving up her rights to her personal property. When she went to the bank as usual to collect her dividends, the teller, who knew her as a shareholder there, noticed the change in her signature and informed her that if she was married, she could no longer withdraw her dividends without her husband’s permission. It turned out she wanted to keep a little personal fund and hadn’t even told her husband about her stock, and she was quite upset when she learned it was no longer under her control. I believe she was wrong to hide this information. The relationship between husband and wife is too close and sacred to allow secrets about money matters, unless absolutely necessary; there’s no excuse for a woman entering marriage with the intention of keeping her husband unaware of her property. If she wasn’t willing to let him make decisions about her property, she would have been better off staying single. The laws I’ve mentioned are not very different from the slave laws in Louisiana.

‘All that a slave possesses belongs to his master; he possesses nothing of his own, except what his master chooses he should possess.’

‘Everything a slave has belongs to his master; he owns nothing of his own, except for what his master decides he should have.’

‘By the marriage, the husband is absolutely master of the profits of the wife’s lands during the coverture, and if he has had a living child, and survives the wife, he retains the whole of those lands, if they are estates of inheritance, during his life; but the wife is entitled only to one third if she survives, out of the husband’s estates of inheritance. But this she has, whether she has had a child or not.’ ‘With regard to the property of women, there is taxation without representation; for they pay taxes without having the liberty of voting for representatives.’

‘Through marriage, the husband is completely in control of the profits from the wife’s property during their marriage. If he has a living child and outlives the wife, he keeps all those properties, as long as they are inheritance estates, for the rest of his life. However, if the wife survives him, she is only entitled to one-third of his inheritance estates, regardless of whether she has had a child.’ ‘Concerning women's property, there is taxation without representation; they pay taxes without having the right to vote for their representatives.’

And this taxation, without representation, be it remembered, was the cause of our Revolutionary war, a grievance so heavy, that it was thought necessary to purchase exemption from[Pg 81] it at an immense expense of blood and treasure, yet the daughters of New England, as well as of all the other States of this free Republic, are suffering a similar injustice—but for one, I had rather we should suffer any injustice or oppression, than that my sex should have any voice in the political affairs of the nation.

And this taxation without representation was the reason for our Revolutionary War, a burden so great that it was considered necessary to pay a huge price in blood and treasure to be free from it. Yet the daughters of New England, as well as those from all the other states in this free Republic, are facing a similar injustice. Still, I would rather endure any injustice or oppression than allow my gender to have any say in the political matters of the nation.[Pg 81]

The laws I have quoted, are, I believe, the laws of Massachusetts, and, with few exceptions, of all the States in this Union. ‘In Louisiana and Missouri, and possibly, in some other southern States, a woman not only has half her husband’s property by right at his death, but may always be considered as possessed of half his gains during his life; having at all times power to bequeath that amount.’ That the laws which have generally been adopted in the United States, for the government of women, have been framed almost entirely for the exclusive benefit of men, and with a design to oppress women, by depriving them of all control over their property, is too manifest to be denied. Some liberal and enlightened men, I know, regret the existence of these laws; and I quote with pleasure an extract from Harriet Martineau’s Society in America, as a proof of the assertion. ‘A liberal minded lawyer of Boston, told me that his advice to testators always is to leave the largest possible amount to the widow, subject to the condition of her leaving it to the children; but that it is with shame that he reflects that any woman should owe that to his professional advice, which the law should have secured to her as a right.’ I have known a few instances where men have left their whole property to their wives, when they have died, leaving only minor children; but I have known[Pg 82] more instances of ‘the friend and helper of many years, being portioned off like a salaried domestic,’ instead of having a comfortable independence secured to her, while the children were amply provided for.

The laws I’ve mentioned are, I believe, the laws of Massachusetts and, with few exceptions, of all the states in this country. "In Louisiana and Missouri, and possibly in some other southern states, a woman not only has half her husband’s property by right at his death but may always be considered to have half of his earnings during his life; she has the power to leave that amount in her will." It’s quite clear that the laws generally adopted in the U.S. regarding women have been created mostly for the benefit of men, aiming to oppress women by taking away their control over their property. Some open-minded and enlightened men regret these laws, and I’m happy to quote an extract from Harriet Martineau’s *Society in America* as evidence of this claim. "A progressive lawyer from Boston told me that he always advises his clients to leave the largest possible amount to the widow, with the condition that she will pass it on to their children; but he feels ashamed that any woman should have to rely on his professional advice for something the law should have guaranteed her as a right." I’ve seen a few cases where men left all their property to their wives upon their death, leaving only minor children; however, I’ve seen many more instances where "the friend and helper of many years is treated like a paid servant," instead of having a comfortable independence secured for her while the children are well taken care of.

As these abuses do exist, and women suffer intensely from them, our brethren are called upon in this enlightened age, by every sentiment of honor, religion and justice, to repeal these unjust and unequal laws, and restore to woman those rights which they have wrested from her. Such laws approximate too nearly to the laws enacted by slaveholders for the government of their slaves, and must tend to debase and depress the mind of that being, whom God created as a help meet for man, or ‘helper like unto himself,’ and designed to be his equal and his companion. Until such laws are annulled, woman never can occupy that exalted station for which she was intended by her Maker. And just in proportion as they are practically disregarded, which is the case to some extent, just so far is woman assuming that independence and nobility of character which she ought to exhibit.

As these abuses exist, and women suffer deeply from them, our peers are urged in this enlightened age, by every sense of honor, religion, and justice, to repeal these unfair and unequal laws, and restore to women the rights that have been taken from them. Such laws are too similar to those created by slaveholders for governing their slaves, and they must degrade and demean the mind of the being whom God made to be a partner for man, or ‘helper like unto himself,’ and meant to be his equal and companion. Until such laws are overturned, women can never achieve the elevated status for which they were intended by their Creator. And just to the extent that these laws are practically ignored, which happens to some degree, is how far women are gaining the independence and dignity of character that they should demonstrate.

The various laws which I have transcribed, leave women very little more liberty, or power, in some respects, than the slave. ‘A slave,’ says the civil code of Louisiana, ‘is one who is in the power of a master, to whom he belongs. He can possess nothing, nor acquire anything, but what must belong to his master.’ I do not wish by any means to intimate that the condition of free women can be compared to that of slaves in suffering, or in degradation; still, I believe the laws which deprive married women of their rights and privileges, have a[Pg 83] tendency to lessen them in their own estimation as moral and responsible beings, and that their being made by civil law inferior to their husbands, has a debasing and mischievous effect upon them, teaching them practically the fatal lesson to look unto man for protection and indulgence.

The various laws I've noted give women very little more freedom or power, in some ways, than a slave. "A slave," according to the civil code of Louisiana, "is one who is under the control of a master, to whom he belongs. He cannot own anything or gain anything that doesn't belong to his master." I don’t mean to suggest that the situation of free women can be compared to that of slaves in terms of suffering or degradation; however, I believe the laws that strip married women of their rights and privileges tend to diminish their view of themselves as moral and responsible individuals. The fact that civil law makes them inferior to their husbands has a degrading and harmful effect on them, teaching them that they should rely on men for protection and support.

Ecclesiastical bodies, I believe, without exception, follow the example of legislative assemblies, in excluding woman from any participation in forming the discipline by which she is governed. The men frame the laws, and, with few exceptions, claim to execute them on both sexes. In ecclesiastical, as well as civil courts, woman is tried and condemned, not by a jury of her peers, but by beings, who regard themselves as her superiors in the scale of creation. Although looked upon as an inferior, when considered as an intellectual being, woman is punished with the same severity as man, when she is guilty of moral offences. Her condition resembles, in some measure, that of the slave, who, while he is denied the advantages of his more enlightened master, is treated with even greater rigor of the law. Hoping that in the various reformations of the day, women may be relieved from some of their legal disabilities, I remain,

Ecclesiastical organizations, in my opinion, without exception, follow the lead of legislative bodies by excluding women from any role in shaping the rules that govern them. The men create the laws and, with few exceptions, claim the right to enforce them on everyone. In both religious and civil courts, women are judged and punished not by a jury of their equals, but by individuals who see themselves as superior in the hierarchy of creation. Although women are viewed as lesser beings in terms of intellect, they face the same harsh penalties as men for moral transgressions. Their situation is somewhat similar to that of a slave, who, while lacking the advantages of their more educated master, is subjected to even stricter laws. I hope that as reforms continue today, women can be freed from some of their legal limitations. Sincerely,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER XIII.
Husband and wife relationship.

Brookline, 9th Mo., 1837.

Brookline, September 1837.

My Dear Sister,—Perhaps some persons may wonder that I should attempt to throw out my views on the important subject of marriage, and may conclude that I am altogether disqualified for the task, because I lack experience. However, I shall not undertake to settle the specific duties of husbands and wives, but only to exhibit opinions based on the word of God, and formed from a little knowledge of human nature, and close observation of the working of generally received notions respecting the dominion of man over woman.

My Dear Sis,—Some people might question why I would share my thoughts on the significant topic of marriage and assume I'm unqualified for it because I don't have much experience. However, I won’t try to define the exact roles of husbands and wives; instead, I aim to present ideas grounded in the word of God and based on some understanding of human nature, along with careful observation of the common beliefs regarding men’s authority over women.

When Jehovah ushered into existence man, created in his own image, he instituted marriage as a part of paradisaical happiness: it was a divine ordination, not a civil contract. God established it, and man, except by special permission, has no right to annul it. There can be no doubt that the creation of Eve perfected the happiness of Adam; hence, our all-wise and merciful Father made her as he made Adam, in his own image after his likeness, crowned her with glory and honor, and placed in her hand, as well as in his, the sceptre of dominion[Pg 85] over the whole lower creation. Where there was perfect equality, and the same ability to receive and comprehend divine truth, and to obey divine injunctions, there could be no superiority. If God had placed Eve under the guardianship of Adam, after having endowed her, as richly as him, with moral perceptions, intellectual faculties, and spiritual apprehensions, he would at once have interposed a fallible being between her and her Maker. He could not, in simple consistency with himself, have done this; for the Bible teems with instructions not to put any confidence in man.

When Jehovah brought man into existence, created in His own image, He established marriage as a part of paradise-like happiness: it was a divine ordination, not a civil contract. God set it up, and man, except by special permission, has no right to dissolve it. There’s no doubt that creating Eve completed Adam’s happiness; therefore, our all-wise and merciful Father made her, just as He made Adam, in His own image and likeness, crowned her with glory and honor, and gave her, as well as him, the power to rule[Pg 85] over all of creation. Where there was perfect equality and the same ability to understand and accept divine truths and to follow divine commands, there could be no superiority. If God had placed Eve under Adam’s guardianship after equipping her, just as He did with him, with moral perception, intellectual abilities, and spiritual understanding, He would have put a fallible being between her and her Creator. He could not have done this consistently with Himself; the Bible warns against placing trust in man.

The passage on which the generally received opinion, that husbands are invested by divine command with authority over their wives, as I have remarked in a previous letter, is a prediction; and I am confirmed in this belief, because the same language is used to Cain respecting Abel. The text is obscure; but on a comparison of it with subsequent events, it appears to me that it was a prophecy of the dominion which Cain would usurp over his brother, and which issued in the murder of Abel. It could not allude to any thing but physical dominion, because Cain had already exhibited those evil passions which subsequently led him to become an assassin.

The passage that supports the commonly held belief that husbands have divine authority over their wives, as I mentioned in a previous letter, is actually a prediction. I'm further convinced of this because the same wording is used about Cain in relation to Abel. The text is unclear, but when I compare it to what happened later, it seems to me that it was a prophecy about the control Cain would take over his brother, which ultimately resulted in Abel's murder. It can only refer to physical dominance since Cain had already shown the violent tendencies that would later turn him into a murderer.

I have already shown, that man has exercised the most unlimited and brutal power over woman, in the peculiar character of husband,—a word in most countries synonymous with tyrant. I shall not, therefore, adduce any further proofs of the fulfilment of that prophecy, ‘He will rule over thee,’ from the history of heathen nations, but just glance at the condition of[Pg 86] woman in the relation of wife in Christian countries.

I have already shown that men have exercised the most unchecked and brutal power over women, especially in the role of husband—a term that in most countries is synonymous with tyrant. Therefore, I won’t provide any more evidence to support the prophecy, ‘He will rule over thee,’ from the history of pagan nations. Instead, I will briefly look at the status of [Pg 86] women in the role of wife in Christian countries.

‘Previous to the introduction of the religion of Jesus Christ, the state of society was wretchedly diseased. The relation of the sexes to each other had become so gross in its manifested forms, that it was difficult to perceive the pure conservative principle in its inward essence.’ Christianity came in, at this juncture, with its hallowed influence, and has without doubt tended to lighten the yoke of bondage, to purify the manners, and give the spiritual in some degree an empire over the animal nature. Still, that state which was designed by God to increase the happiness of woman as well as man, often proves the means of lessening her comfort, and degrading her into the mere machine of another’s convenience and pleasure. Woman, instead of being elevated by her union with man, which might be expected from an alliance with a superior being, is in reality lowered. She generally loses her individuality, her independent character, her moral being. She becomes absorbed into him, and henceforth is looked at, and acts through the medium of her husband.

‘Before the arrival of the religion of Jesus Christ, society was in a terrible state. The relationship between the sexes had become so coarse that it was hard to see the fundamental conservatism in its true essence.’ Christianity came onto the scene at this time, bringing its sacred influence, and has undoubtedly helped to ease the burden of oppression, improve social behavior, and allow the spiritual to have some control over the physical nature. Still, the state that God intended to increase the happiness of both women and men often ends up diminishing her comfort and reducing her to merely serving someone else's convenience and pleasure. Instead of being uplifted by her connection with man, which one might expect from joining with a superior being, she is actually brought down. She usually loses her individuality, her independence, her moral identity. She becomes absorbed into him, and from that point on, she is seen through the lens of her husband and acts accordingly.

In the wealthy classes of society, and those who are in comfortable circumstances, women are exempt from great corporeal exertion, and are protected by public opinion, and by the genial influence of Christianity, from much physical ill treatment. Still, there is a vast amount of secret suffering endured, from the forced submission of women to the opinions and whims of their husbands. Hence they are frequently driven to use deception, to compass their ends. They are early taught that to appear[Pg 87] to yield, is the only way to govern. Miserable sophism! I deprecate such sentiments, as being peculiarly hostile to the dignity of woman. If she submits, let her do it openly, honorably, not to gain her point, but as a matter of Christian duty. But let her beware how she permits her husband to be her conscience-keeper. On all moral and religious subjects, she is bound to think and to act for herself. Where confidence and love exist, a wife will naturally converse with her husband as with her dearest friend, on all that interests her heart, and there will be a perfectly free interchange of sentiment; but she is no more bound to be governed by his judgment, than he is by hers. They are standing on the same platform of human rights, are equally under the government of God, and accountable to him, and him alone.

In wealthy social classes and among those living comfortably, women generally don’t face much physical labor and are shielded by societal views and the positive influence of Christianity from severe mistreatment. However, there’s still a lot of hidden suffering from the pressure to conform to their husbands' opinions and desires. As a result, they often resort to deception to achieve their goals. They are taught early on that appearing to yield is the only way to have influence. What a miserable misconception! I strongly oppose such ideas, as they are especially detrimental to women’s dignity. If she chooses to submit, she should do so openly and honorably, not to manipulate outcomes, but as a matter of Christian duty. But she must be cautious about letting her husband dictate her conscience. On all moral and religious matters, she is obligated to think and act independently. When love and trust are present, a wife will naturally share her thoughts with her husband as she would with her closest friend, engaging in open dialogue; however, she is no more obligated to be guided by his judgment than he is by hers. They stand on equal ground of human rights, both under God's authority and accountable only to Him.

I have sometimes been astonished and grieved at the servitude of women, and at the little idea many of them seem to have of their own moral existence and responsibilities. A woman who is asked to sign a petition for the abolition of slavery in the District of Columbia, or to join a society for the purpose of carrying forward the annihilation of American slavery, or any other great reformation, not unfrequently replies, ‘My husband does not approve of it.’ She merges her rights and her duties in her husband, and thus virtually chooses him for a savior and a king, and rejects Christ as her Ruler and Redeemer. I know some women are very glad of so convenient a pretext to shield themselves from the performance of duty; but there are others, who, under a mistaken view of their obligations as wives, submit conscientiously[Pg 88] to this species of oppression, and go mourning on their way, for want of that holy fortitude, which would enable them to fulfil their duties as moral and responsible beings, without reference to poor fallen man. O that woman may arise in her dignity as an immortal creature, and speak, think and act as unto God, and not unto man!

I have sometimes been shocked and saddened by the subservience of women, and by the limited understanding many of them seem to have of their own moral existence and responsibilities. When asked to sign a petition for the abolition of slavery in the District of Columbia, or to join a society working towards the end of American slavery, or any other major reform, a woman often replies, ‘My husband doesn't approve of it.’ She effectively gives up her rights and responsibilities to her husband, choosing him as her savior and king, while rejecting Christ as her Ruler and Redeemer. I know some women appreciate this convenient excuse to avoid their responsibilities; however, there are others who, under a mistaken understanding of their duties as wives, submit to this kind of oppression unnecessarily, mourning their situation instead of having the strength to fulfill their duties as moral and responsible individuals, independently of flawed men. Oh, that women might rise up in their dignity as immortal beings, and speak, think, and act as if they were accountable to God, not to man!

There is, perhaps, less bondage of mind among the poorer classes, because their sphere of duty is more contracted, and they are deprived of the means of intellectual culture, and of the opportunity of exercising their judgment, on many moral subjects of deep interest and of vital importance. Authority is called into exercise by resistance, and hence there will be mental bondage only in proportion as the faculties of mind are evolved, and woman feels herself as a rational and intelligent being, on a footing with man. But women, among the lowest classes of society, so far as my observation has extended, suffer intensely from the brutality of their husbands. Duty as well as inclination has led me, for many years, into the abodes of poverty and sorrow, and I have been amazed at the treatment which women receive at the hands of those, who arrogate to themselves the epithet of protectors. Brute force, the law of violence, rules to a great extent in the poor man’s domicil; and woman is little more than his drudge. They are less under the supervision of public opinion, less under the restraints of education, and unaided or unbiased by the refinements of polished society. Religion, wherever it exists, supplies the place of all these; but the real cause of woman’s degradation[Pg 89] and suffering in married life is to be found in the erroneous notion of her inferiority to man; and never will she be rightly regarded by herself, or others, until this opinion, so derogatory to the wisdom and mercy of God, is exploded, and woman arises in all the majesty of her womanhood, to claim those rights which are inseparable from her existence as an immortal, intelligent and responsible being.

There is probably less mental bondage among poorer classes because their responsibilities are more limited. They lack access to education and the chance to exercise their judgment on many important moral issues. Authority comes into play when there's resistance, so mental bondage will exist only to the extent that one's mental abilities are developed, and women see themselves as rational, intelligent beings on equal ground with men. However, women in the lowest socioeconomic classes, based on what I've observed, often endure severe mistreatment from their husbands. For many years, duty and personal interest have taken me into the homes of the impoverished and sorrowful, and I have been shocked by how women are treated by those who take on the title of protectors. Brutal force and violence dominate in the homes of poor men, and women are often seen as little more than their servants. They experience less oversight from public opinion, fewer educational constraints, and are untouched by the niceties of refined society. Religion, wherever it is practiced, fills in for these influences; however, the true reason for women’s degradation and suffering in marriage stems from the mistaken belief in their inferiority to men. Women will never be viewed appropriately by themselves or others until this degrading belief, which contradicts the wisdom and mercy of God, is eradicated, and women rise in all the dignity of their womanhood to claim the rights that are inherent to their existence as immortal, intelligent, and accountable beings.

Independent of the fact, that Jehovah could not, consistently with his character as the King, the Lawgiver, and the Judge of his people, give the reins of government over woman into the hands of man, I find that all his commands, all his moral laws, are addressed to women as well as to men. When he assembled Israel at the foot of Mount Sinai, to issue his commandments, we may reasonably suppose he gave all the precepts, which he considered necessary for the government of moral beings. Hence we find that God says,—‘Honor thy father and thy mother,’ and he enforces this command, by severe penalties upon those who transgress it: ‘He that smiteth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death’—‘He that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death’—Ex. 21: 15, 17. But in the decalogue, there is no direction given to women to obey their husbands: both are commanded to have no other God but Jehovah, and not to bow down, or serve any other. When the Lord Jesus delivered his sermon on the Mount, full of the practical precepts of religion, he did not issue any command to wives to obey their husbands. When he is speaking on the subject of divorce, Mark 16: 11, 12, he places men and women on the same ground. And the Apostle,[Pg 90] 1st Cor. 7: 12, 13, speaking of the duties of the Corinthian wives and husbands, who had embraced Christianity, to their unconverted partners, points out the same path to both, although our translators have made a distinction. ‘Let him not put her away,’ 12—‘Let her not leave him,’ 13—is precisely the same in the original. If man is constituted the governor of woman, he must be her God; and the sentiment expressed to me lately, by a married man, is perfectly correct: ‘In my opinion,’ said he, ‘the greatest excellence to which a married woman can attain, is to worship her husband.’ He was a professor of religion—his wife a lovely and intelligent woman. He only spoke out what thousands think and act. Women are indebted to Milton for giving to this false notion, ‘confirmation strong as proof of holy writ.’ His Eve is embellished with every personal grace, to gratify the eye of her admiring husband; but he seems to have furnished the mother of mankind with just intelligence enough to comprehend her supposed inferiority to Adam, and to yield unresisting submission to her lord and master. Milton puts into Eve’s mouth the following address to Adam:

Independent of the fact that Jehovah, as the King, Lawgiver, and Judge of his people, couldn't hand over the reins of government over women to men, I see that all his commands, all his moral laws, are directed at women as well as men. When he gathered Israel at the foot of Mount Sinai to deliver his commandments, we can reasonably assume he provided all the necessary precepts for governing moral beings. Therefore, we see that God says, ‘Honor your father and your mother,’ and he enforces this command with severe penalties for those who break it: ‘Anyone who strikes their father or mother shall certainly be put to death’—‘Anyone who curses their father or mother shall certainly be put to death’—Ex. 21: 15, 17. But in the Ten Commandments, there is no instruction for women to obey their husbands: both are commanded to have no other God but Jehovah and not to bow down or serve any other. When Lord Jesus delivered his sermon on the Mount, filled with practical religious teachings, he did not command wives to obey their husbands. When discussing divorce, in Mark 16: 11, 12, he places men and women on equal ground. And the Apostle,[Pg 90] 1st Cor. 7: 12, 13, when addressing the duties of Corinthian wives and husbands who had embraced Christianity toward their unconverted partners, points out the same path for both, even though our translators have created a distinction. ‘Let him not put her away,’ 12—‘Let her not leave him,’ 13—are exactly the same in the original. If man is made the governor of woman, he must be her God; and the sentiment expressed to me recently by a married man is completely accurate: ‘In my opinion,’ he said, ‘the greatest accomplishment a married woman can achieve is to worship her husband.’ He was a religious man—his wife a lovely and intelligent woman. He simply voiced what thousands think and do. Women owe it to Milton for giving this false idea ‘confirmation strong as proof of holy writ.’ His Eve is portrayed with every personal grace, to please the eyes of her admiring husband; but he seems to have given the mother of mankind just enough intelligence to understand her supposed inferiority to Adam and to yield to her lord and master without resistance. Milton has Eve say the following to Adam:

‘My author and disposer, what thou bidst,
Unargued I obey; so God ordains—
God is thy law, thou mine: to know no more,
Is woman’s happiest knowledge and her praise.’

'My creator and guide, whatever you ask,
I follow without question; that's how God intends it—
God is your law, and you are my law: knowing anything more, __A_TAG_PLACEHOLDER_0__
Is a woman’s greatest insight and her virtue.

This much admired sentimental nonsense is fraught with absurdity and wickedness. If it were true, the commandment of Jehovah should have run thus: Man shall have no other gods before ME, and woman shall have no other gods before MAN.

This widely praised sentimental nonsense is filled with absurdity and evil. If it were true, the commandment of Jehovah should have said: Man shall have no other gods before ME, and woman shall have no other gods before MAN.

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The principal support of the dogma of woman’s inferiority, and consequent submission to her husband, is found in some passages of Paul’s epistles. I shall proceed to examine those passages, premising 1st, that the antiquity of the opinions based on the false construction of those passages, has no weight with me: they are the opinions of interested judges, and I have no particular reverence for them, merely because they have been regarded with veneration from generation to generation. So far from this being the case, I examine any opinions of centuries standing, with as much freedom, and investigate them with as much care, as if they were of yesterday. I was educated to think for myself, and it is a privilege I shall always claim to exercise. 2d. Notwithstanding my full belief that the apostle Paul’s testimony, respecting himself, is true, ‘I was not a whit behind the chiefest of the apostles,’ yet I believe his mind was under the influence of Jewish prejudices respecting women, just as Peter’s and the apostles were about the uncleanness of the Gentiles. ‘The Jews,’ says Clarke, ‘would not suffer a woman to read in the synagogue, although a servant, or even a child, had this permission.’ When I see Paul shaving his head for a vow, and offering sacrifices, and circumcising Timothy, to accommodate himself to the prepossessions of his countrymen, I do not conceive that I derogate in the least from his character as an inspired apostle, to suppose that he may have been imbued with the prevalent prejudices against women.

The main support for the belief in women's inferiority and their submission to their husbands comes from some passages in Paul’s letters. I will examine those passages, starting with the first point: the age of the views based on a misinterpretation of those passages doesn’t matter to me. They come from biased sources, and I don’t hold them in high regard just because they've been respected over time. In fact, I approach longstanding opinions with as much openness and diligence as if they were brand new. I was raised to think for myself, and I will always exercise that privilege. Second, while I fully believe that Paul’s statement about himself is true—‘I was not a whit behind the chiefest of the apostles’—I also think his views were influenced by the common Jewish biases against women, just as Peter and the other apostles had biases regarding the purity of Gentiles. ‘The Jews,’ says Clarke, ‘would not allow a woman to read in the synagogue, while a servant or even a child had that permission.’ When I see Paul shaving his head for a vow, offering sacrifices, and circumcising Timothy to fit in with the beliefs of his fellow Jews, I don’t think I diminish his character as an inspired apostle by suggesting he might have shared the widespread prejudices against women.

In 1st Cor. 11: 3, after praising the Corinthian converts, because they kept the ‘ordinances,’ or ‘traditions,’ as the margin reads, the[Pg 92] apostle says, ‘I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.’ Eph. 5: 23, is a parallel passage. ‘For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church.’ The apostle closes his remarks on this subject, by observing, ‘This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the Church.’ I shall pass over this with simply remarking, that God and Christ are one. ‘I and my Father are one,’ and there can be no inferiority where there is no divisibility. The commentaries on this and similar texts, afford a striking illustration of the ideas which men entertain of their own superiority, I shall subjoin Henry’s remarks on 1st Cor. 11: 5, as a specimen: ‘To understand this text, it must be observed, that it was a signification either of shame, or subjection, for persons to be veiled, or covered in Eastern countries; contrary to the custom of ours, where the being bare-headed betokens subjection, and being covered superiority and dominion; and this will help us the better to understand the reason on which he grounds his reprehension, ‘Every man praying, &c. dishonoreth his head,’ i. e. Christ, the head of every man, by appearing in a habit unsuitable to the rank in which God had placed him. The woman, on the other hand, that prays, &c. dishonoreth her head, i. e. the man. She appears in the dress of her superior, and throws off the token of her subjection; she might with equal decency cut her hair short, or cut it off, the common dress of the man in that age. Another reason against this conduct was, that the man is the image and glory of God, the representative[Pg 93] of that glorious dominion and headship which God has over the world. It is the man who is set at the head of this lower creation, and therein bears the resemblance of God. The woman, on the other hand, is the glory of the man: she is his representative. Not but she has dominion over the inferior creatures, and she is a partaker of human nature, and so far is God’s representative too, but it is at second hand. She is the image of God, inasmuch as she is the image of the man. The man was first made, and made head of the creation here below, and therein the image of the divine dominion; and the woman was made out of the man, and shone with a reflection of his glory, being made superior to the other creatures here below, but in subjection to her husband, and deriving that honor from him, out of whom she was made. The woman was made for the man to be his help meet, and not the man for the woman. She was, naturally, therefore, made subject to him, because made for him, for HIS USE AND HELP AND COMFORT.’

In 1st Cor. 11:3, after praising the Corinthian converts for following the ‘ordinances’ or ‘traditions,’ as the margin states, the[Pg 92] apostle says, ‘I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of the woman is the man, and the head of Christ is God.’ Eph. 5:23 is a similar passage: ‘For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the Church.’ The apostle concludes his comments on this topic by noting, ‘This is a great mystery, but I’m speaking about Christ and the Church.’ I’ll briefly mention that God and Christ are one. ‘I and my Father are one,’ and there can't be any inferiority when there's no separation. The commentaries on this and similar verses provide a striking illustration of how people perceive their own superiority. I’ll include Henry’s comments on 1st Cor. 11:5 as an example: ‘To understand this text, it must be noted that in Eastern countries, being veiled or covered was a sign of either shame or subjection; unlike in our culture, where being bare-headed indicates subjection and being covered signifies superiority and authority. This context helps us to understand the basis of his criticism, ‘Every man praying, etc., dishonors his head,’ meaning Christ, the head of every man, by appearing in a way that does not match the status God has given him. The woman, however, who prays, etc., dishonors her head, meaning the man. She appears in the attire of her superior and casts off the sign of her subjection; she could just as appropriately cut her hair short or shave it off, which was the common attire for men at that time. Another point against this behavior is that the man is the image and glory of God, representing that glorious authority and headship God has over the world. The man is placed at the head of this lower creation, reflecting God’s image. The woman, on the other hand, is the glory of the man; she represents him. It’s not that she doesn’t have authority over the inferior creatures, and she shares in human nature, making her a representative of God as well, but in a secondary way. She is God’s image as she is the image of the man. The man was created first and is the head of creation here on earth, embodying the image of divine authority; the woman was made from the man and displays a reflection of his glory, being made superior to other creatures on earth, but in submission to her husband, deriving that honor from him out of whom she was made. The woman was created for the man to be his suitable helper, not the other way around. She was thus naturally made subordinate to him because she was made for him, for HIS USE, HELP, AND COMFORT.’

We see in the above quotation, what degrading views even good men entertain of women. Pity the Psalmist had not thrown a little light on this subject, when he was paraphrasing the account of man’s creation. ‘Thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honor. Thou madest him to have dominion over the works of thy hands; thou hast put all things under his feet.’ Surely if woman had been placed below man, and was to shine only by a lustre borrowed from him, we should have some clear evidence of it in the sacred volume. Henry puts her exactly on a level with the beasts; they[Pg 94] were made for the use, help and comfort of man; and according to this commentator, this was the whole end and design of the creation of woman. The idea that man, as man is superior to woman, involves an absurdity so gross, that I really wonder how any man of reflection can receive it as of divine origin; and I can only account for it, by that passion for supremacy, which characterizes man as a corrupt and fallen creature. If it be true that he is more excellent than she, as man, independent of his moral and intellectual powers, then every man is superior by virtue of his manship, to every woman. The man who sinks his moral capacities and spiritual powers in his sensual appetites, is still, as a man, simply by the conformation of his body, a more dignified being, than the woman whose intellectual powers are highly cultivated, and whose approximation to the character of Jesus Christ is exhibited in a blameless life and conversation.

We can see in the quote above how even decent men have some pretty degrading views about women. It's a shame the Psalmist didn't shed more light on this topic when he described how man was created. "You made him a little lower than the angels and crowned him with glory and honor. You made him to have dominion over the works of your hands; you put all things under his feet." If women were meant to be below men and only shine by reflecting their light, we should have some clear evidence of that in the sacred texts. Henry puts women on the same level as animals; they were created for the use, help, and comfort of men. According to this commentator, that was the entire purpose behind the creation of women. The idea that men, simply because they're men, are superior to women is so absurd that I really can't understand how any thoughtful man could accept it as divinely inspired; I can only attribute it to that desire for power that defines man as a corrupted and fallen being. If it’s true that men are superior to women merely because of their gender, then every man is superior to every woman, solely based on being male. A man who degrades his moral and spiritual capacities due to his physical desires is still, just by being male, considered a more dignified being than a woman whose intellectual abilities are advanced and who resembles the character of Jesus Christ through her blameless life and actions.

But it is strenuously urged by those, who are anxious to maintain their usurped authority, that wives are, in various passages of the New Testament, commanded to obey their husbands. Let us examine these texts.

But those who are eager to keep their stolen power strongly argue that wives are told in several parts of the New Testament to obey their husbands. Let’s take a look at these texts.

Eph. 5: 22. ‘Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord.’ ‘As the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.’

Eph. 5: 22. ‘Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.’ ‘Just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.’

Col. 3: 18. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.’

Col. 3: 18. Wives, be supportive of your husbands, as is appropriate in the Lord.

1st Pet. 3: 2. ‘Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that if any obey not the word, they may also without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.’

1st Pet. 3: 2. ‘In the same way, you wives, submit to your own husbands, so that if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.’

Accompanying all these directions to wives, are commands to husbands.

Accompanying all these instructions for wives are guidelines for husbands.

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Eph. 5: 25. ‘Husbands, love your wives even as Christ loved the Church, and gave himself for it.’ ‘So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife, loveth himself.’

Eph. 5: 25. ‘Husbands, love your wives just like Christ loved the Church and gave himself for it.’ ‘In the same way, men should love their wives as they love their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.’

Col. 3: 19. ‘Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.’

Col. 3: 19. ‘Husbands, love your wives and don't be resentful towards them.’

1st Pet. 3: 7. ‘Likewise ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life.’

1st Pet. 3: 7. ‘In the same way, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the wife as the weaker partner, and as fellow heirs of the grace of life.’

I may just remark, in relation to the expression ‘weaker vessel,’ that the word in the original has no reference to intellect: it refers to physical weakness merely.

I just want to point out that when it comes to the term 'weaker vessel,' the original word doesn't refer to intellect at all; it only relates to physical weakness.

The apostles were writing to Christian converts, and laying down rules for their conduct towards their unconverted consorts. It no doubt frequently happened, that a husband or a wife would embrace Christianity, while their companions clung to heathenism, and husbands might be tempted to dislike and despise those, who pertinaciously adhered to their pagan superstitions. And wives who, when they were pagans, submitted as a matter of course to their heathen husbands, might be tempted knowing that they were superior as moral and religious characters, to assert that superiority, by paying less deference to them than heretofore. Let us examine the context of these passages, and see what are the grounds of the directions here given to husbands and wives. The whole epistle to the Ephesians breathes a spirit of love. The apostle beseeches the converts to walk worthy of the vocation wherewith they are called, with all lowliness and meekness, with long suffering, forbearing one another in love. The verse preceding 5, 22, is ‘SUBMITTING YOURSELVES ONE TO ANOTHER IN THE FEAR OF GOD.’ Colossians 3, from[Pg 96] 11 to 17, contains similar injunctions. The 17th verse says, ‘Whatsoever ye do in word, or in deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus.’ Peter, after drawing a most touching picture of Christ’s sufferings for us, and reminding the Christians, that he had left us an example that we should follow his steps, ‘who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth,’ exhorts wives to be in subjection, &c.

The apostles were writing to Christian converts, setting guidelines for how they should behave towards their non-Christian partners. It often happened that one spouse would embrace Christianity while the other remained committed to paganism, leading to a situation where husbands might find it hard to accept and respect their partners who stubbornly held onto their old beliefs. Wives, who previously submitted to their pagan husbands without question, might feel tempted—aware of their moral and spiritual superiority—to show less respect than before. Let's explore the context of these passages to understand the basis for the advice given to husbands and wives. The entire letter to the Ephesians conveys a message of love. The apostle urges the converts to live up to their calling with all humility and gentleness, being patient and forgiving one another in love. The verse before 5:22 states, ‘SUBMITTING YOURSELVES ONE TO ANOTHER IN THE FEAR OF GOD.’ Colossians 3, from[Pg 96] 11 to 17, includes similar instructions. The 17th verse says, ‘Whatever you do in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus.’ Peter, after painting a deeply moving picture of Christ's sufferings for us, and reminding Christians that He has given us an example to follow—‘who did no sin, nor was deceit found in his mouth’—urges wives to be submissive, etc.

From an attentive consideration of these passages, and of those in which the same words ‘submit,’ ‘subjection,’ are used, I cannot but believe that the apostles designed to recommend to wives, as they did to subjects and to servants, to carry out the holy principle laid down by Jesus Christ, ‘Resist not evil.’ And this without in the least acknowledging the right of the governors, masters, or husbands, to exercise the authority they claimed. The recognition of the existence of evils does not involve approbation of them. God tells the Israelites, he gave them a king in his wrath, but nevertheless as they chose to have a king, he laid down directions for the conduct of that king, and had him anointed to reign over them. According to the generally received meaning of the passages I have quoted, they directly contravene the laws of God, as given in various parts of the Bible. Now I must understand the sacred Scriptures as harmonizing with themselves, or I cannot receive them as the word of God. The commentators on these passages exalt man to the station of a Deity in relation to woman. Clarke says, ‘As the Lord Christ is the head, or governor of the church, and the head of the man, so is the man the head, or governor of the woman. This is God’s ordinance, and should not[Pg 97] be transgressed. ‘As unto the Lord.’ The word church seems necessarily to be understood here: that is, act under the authority of your husbands, as the church acts under the authority of Christ. As the church submits to the Lord, so let wives submit to their husbands.’ Henry goes even further—‘For the husband is the head of the wife. The metaphor is taken from the head in the natural body, which being the seat of reason, of wisdom and of knowledge, and the fountain of sense and motion, is more excellent than the rest of the body.’ Now if God ordained man the governor of woman, he must be able to save her, and to answer in her stead for all those sins which she commits by his direction. Awful responsibility. Do husbands feel able and willing to bear it? And what becomes of the solemn affirmation of Jehovah? ‘Hear this, all ye people, give ear all ye inhabitants of the world, both low and high, rich and poor.’ ‘None can by any means redeem his brother, or give to God a ransom for him, for the redemption of the soul is precious, and man cannot accomplish it.’—French Bible.

From a careful look at these passages, and those where the words 'submit' and 'subjection' are used, I can't help but think that the apostles meant for wives, just like subjects and servants, to uphold the holy principle taught by Jesus Christ, ‘Resist not evil.’ And this does not in any way acknowledge the right of governors, masters, or husbands to use the authority they claimed. Recognizing the existence of evils does not mean approving of them. God tells the Israelites that he gave them a king in his anger, but nonetheless, since they chose to have a king, he laid out guidelines for how that king should conduct himself and had him anointed to rule over them. According to the common interpretation of the passages I quoted, they directly go against the laws of God as presented in different parts of the Bible. I have to understand the sacred Scriptures as consistent with each other, or I can't accept them as the word of God. Commentators on these passages elevate man to the position of a deity in relation to women. Clarke says, ‘Just as Christ is the head, or leader of the church, and the head of the man, so the man is the head, or leader of the woman. This is God’s ordinance and should not be violated. “As unto the Lord.”' The word church is necessary here: that is, act under the authority of your husbands, as the church acts under the authority of Christ. Just as the church submits to the Lord, so let wives submit to their husbands.’ Henry goes even further—‘For the husband is the head of the wife. The metaphor comes from the head in the natural body, which, being the seat of reason, wisdom, and knowledge, and the source of senses and movement, is more significant than the rest of the body.’ Now, if God appointed man as the leader of woman, he must be able to save her and answer for all the sins she commits under his direction. What an incredible responsibility. Do husbands feel capable and willing to bear it? And what happens to the solemn statement of Jehovah? ‘Listen to this, all you people, pay attention all you inhabitants of the world, both low and high, rich and poor.’ ‘No one can redeem his brother, or give God a ransom for him, for the redemption of the soul is valuable, and man cannot achieve it.’—French Bible.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


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LETTER XIV.
WOMEN'S MINISTRY.

Brookline, 9th Mo. 1837.

Brookline, September 1837.

My Dear Sister,—According to the principle which I have laid down, that man and woman were created equal, and endowed by their beneficent Creator with the same intellectual powers and the same moral responsibilities, and that consequently whatever is morally right for a man to do, is morally right for a woman to do, it follows as a necessary corollary, that if it is the duty of man to preach the unsearchable riches of Christ, it is the duty also of woman.

Dear Sister,—Based on the principle I've established that men and women are created equal, and both are given the same intellectual abilities and moral responsibilities by their caring Creator, it logically follows that whatever is morally right for a man to do is also morally right for a woman. Therefore, if it is a man's duty to share the unsearchable riches of Christ, it is also a woman's duty.

I am aware, that I have the prejudices of education and custom to combat, both in my own and the other sex, as well as ‘the traditions of men,’ which are taught for the commandments of God. I feel that I have no sectarian views to advance; for although among the Quakers, Methodists, and Christians, women are permitted to preach the glad tidings of peace and salvation, yet I know of no religious body, who entertain the Scripture doctrine of the perfect equality of man and woman, which is the fundamental principle of my argument in favor of the ministry of women. I wish simply[Pg 99] to throw my views before thee. If they are based on the immutable foundation of truth, they cannot be overthrown by unkind insinuations, bitter sarcasms, unchristian imputations, or contemptuous ridicule. These are weapons which are unworthy of a good cause. If I am mistaken, as truth only can prevail, my supposed errors will soon vanish before her beams; but I am persuaded that woman is not filling the high and holy station which God allotted to her, and that in consequence of her having been driven from her ‘appropriate sphere,’ both herself and her brethren have suffered an infinity of evils.

I realize that I have to face the biases of education and tradition, both in myself and in others, as well as “the traditions of men,” which are presented as if they were God’s commandments. I don't have any sectarian beliefs to promote; although women can preach the good news of peace and salvation among the Quakers, Methodists, and Christians, I don’t know of any religious group that truly embraces the biblical principle of perfect equality between men and women, which is the core of my argument for women's ministry. I just want to share my views with you. If they are grounded in enduring truth, they can't be undermined by cruel insinuations, harsh sarcasm, un-Christian accusations, or scornful ridicule. These are not valid tools for a worthy cause. If I’m wrong, then, as truth always prevails, my perceived mistakes will quickly disappear in its light; but I am convinced that women are not occupying the important and sacred role that God intended for them, and because they have been pushed from their “proper sphere,” both they and their peers have endured countless hardships.

Before I proceed to prove, that woman is bound to preach the gospel, I will examine the ministry under the Old Testament dispensation. Those who were called to this office were known under various names. Enoch, who prophesied, is designated as walking with God. Noah is called a preacher of righteousness. They were denominated men of God, seers, prophets, but they all had the same great work to perform, viz. to turn sinners from the error of their ways. This ministry existed previous to the institution of the Jewish priesthood, and continued after its abolition. It has nothing to do with the priesthood. It was rarely, as far as the Bible informs us, exercised by those of the tribe of Levi, and was common to all the people, women as well as men. It differed essentially from the priesthood, because there was no compensation received for calling the people to repentance. Such a thing as paying a prophet for preaching the truth of God is not even mentioned. They were called of Jehovah to go forth in his name, one from his plough, another[Pg 100] from gathering of sycamore fruit, &c. &c. Let us for a moment imagine Jeremiah, when God says to him, ‘Gird up thy loins, and arise and speak unto the people all that I command thee,’ replying to Jehovah, ‘I will preach repentance to the people, if they will give me gold, but if they will not pay me for the truth, then let them perish in their sins.’ Now, this is virtually the language of the ministers of the present day; and I believe the secret of the exclusion of women from the ministerial office is, that that office has been converted into one of emolument, of honor, and of power. Any attentive observer cannot fail to perceive, that as far as possible, all such offices are reserved by men for themselves.

Before I move on to show that women should preach the gospel, I will look at the ministry in the Old Testament. Those called to this role had various names. Enoch, who prophesied, is referred to as walking with God. Noah is called a preacher of righteousness. They were labeled men of God, seers, and prophets, but they all had the same important mission: to turn sinners away from their wrong paths. This ministry existed before the establishment of the Jewish priesthood and continued after it ended. It has nothing to do with the priesthood. It was rarely exercised by those from the tribe of Levi, and it was for everyone—women included. It was fundamentally different from the priesthood, as there was no payment for calling people to repent. The idea of paying a prophet for sharing God’s truth is never mentioned. They were called by Jehovah to go out in His name, with one coming from his plow, another[Pg 100] from picking sycamore fruit, and so on. Let’s imagine Jeremiah, when God tells him, ‘Gird up your loins, and rise and speak to the people all that I command you,’ replying to Jehovah, ‘I’ll preach repentance to the people if they pay me gold, but if they won’t pay for the truth, then let them perish in their sins.’ This is essentially the attitude of many ministers today, and I believe the reason women are excluded from the ministry is that it has become a position of financial gain, honor, and power. Anyone paying attention can see that these roles are largely kept by men for themselves.

The common error that Christian ministers are the successors of the priests, is founded in mistake. In the particular directions given to Moses to consecrate Aaron and his sons to the office of the priesthood, their duties are clearly defined: see Ex. 28th, 29th and 30th chap. There is no commission to Aaron to preach to the people; his business was to offer sacrifice. Now why were sacrifices instituted? They were types of that one great sacrifice, which in the fulness of time was offered up through the eternal Spirit without spot to God. Christ assumed the office of priest; he ‘offered himself,’ and by so doing, abolished forever the order of the priesthood, as well as the sacrifices which the priests were ordained to offer.[3]

The common mistake that Christian ministers are the successors of the priests is based on a misunderstanding. In the specific instructions given to Moses for consecrating Aaron and his sons to the priesthood, their responsibilities are clearly outlined: see Ex. chapters 28, 29, and 30. There is no directive for Aaron to preach to the people; his role was to offer sacrifices. So, why were sacrifices established? They were symbols of that one significant sacrifice, which was made in due time through the eternal Spirit, flawless and presented to God. Christ took on the role of priest; he ‘offered himself,’ and by doing so, permanently ended the priestly order, along with the sacrifices that the priests were assigned to make.[3]

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[Pg 101]

But it may be inquired, whether the priests were not to teach the people. As far as I can discover from the Bible, they were simply commanded to read the law to the people. There was no other copy that we know of, until the time of the kings, who were to write out a copy for their own use. As it was deposited in the ark, the priests were required, ‘When all Israel is come to appear before the Lord thy God in the place which he shall choose, thou shalt read this law before all Israel in their hearing. Gather the people together, men, women, and children, that they may hear,’ Deut. 31: 9-33. See also Lev. 10: 11, Deut. 33: 10, 2d Chr. 17: 7-9, and numerous other passages. When God is enumerating the means he has used to call his people to repentance, he never, as far as I can discover, speaks of sending his priests to warn them; but in various passages we find language similar to this: ‘Since the day that your fathers came forth out of the land of Egypt unto this day, I have even sent unto you all my servants, the PROPHETS, daily rising up early and sending them. Yet they hearkened not unto me, nor inclined their ear, but hardened their neck; they did worse than their fathers.’ Jer. 7: 25, 26. See also, 25: 4. 2 Chr. 36: 15. and parallel passages. God says, Is. 9: 15, 16. ‘The prophet that teacheth lies, he is the tail; for the leaders of this people cause them to err.’ The distinction between priests and prophets is evident from their being mentioned as two classes. ‘The prophets prophesy falsely, and the priests bear rule by their means,’ Jer. 5: 31. See also, Ch. 2: 8. 8: 1-10. and many others.

But it can be questioned whether the priests were meant to teach the people. From what I can gather from the Bible, they were simply instructed to read the law to the people. There was no other copy known until the time of the kings, who were meant to create a copy for their own use. Since it was stored in the ark, the priests were required, “When all Israel comes to appear before the Lord your God in the place that He will choose, you shall read this law before all Israel in their hearing. Gather the people together, men, women, and children, so that they may hear,” Deut. 31: 9-33. See also Lev. 10: 11, Deut. 33: 10, 2 Chr. 17: 7-9, and many other passages. When God lists the ways He has called His people to repentance, He never mentions sending His priests to warn them; instead, we find wording like this: “Since the day your ancestors came out of the land of Egypt until this day, I have sent to you all my servants, the Prophets, rising up early and sending them daily. Yet they did not listen to me or incline their ear, but hardened their neck; they were worse than their ancestors.” Jer. 7: 25, 26. See also, 25: 4. 2 Chr. 36: 15. and similar passages. God states, Is. 9: 15, 16, “The prophet who teaches lies is the tail; for the leaders of this people cause them to err.” The distinction between priests and prophets is clear from their being mentioned as two separate groups. “The prophets prophesy falsely, and the priests rule by their means,” Jer. 5: 31. See also, Ch. 2: 8. 8: 1-10. and many others.

That women were called to the prophetic[Pg 102] office, I believe is universally admitted. Miriam, Deborah and Huldah were prophetesses. The judgments of the Lord are denounced by Ezekiel on false prophetesses, as well as false prophets. And if Christian ministers are, as I apprehend, successors of the prophets, and not of the priests, then of course, women are now called to that office as well as men, because God has no where withdrawn from them the privilege of doing what is the great business of preachers, viz. to point the penitent sinner to the Redeemer. ‘Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sins of the world.’

That women have been called to the prophetic office is something I believe is widely accepted. Miriam, Deborah, and Huldah were prophetesses. Ezekiel warns against false prophetesses just as he does against false prophets. And if Christian ministers are, as I believe, the successors of the prophets rather than the priests, then women are equally called to that office alongside men, because God has not taken away their right to do what is the main role of preachers: to lead the repentant sinner to the Redeemer. ‘Behold the Lamb of God, who takes away the sins of the world.’

It is often triumphantly inquired, why, if men and women are on an equality, are not women as conspicuous in the Bible as men? I do not intend to assign a reason, but I think one may readily be found in the fact, that from the days of Eve to the present time, the aim of man has been to crush her. He has accomplished this work in various ways; sometimes by brute force, sometimes by making her subservient to his worst passions, sometimes by treating her as a doll, and while he excluded from her mind the light of knowledge, decked her person with gewgaws and frippery which he scorned for himself, thus endeavoring to render her like unto a painted sepulchre.

It’s often asked triumphantly, if men and women are equal, why aren’t women as prominent in the Bible as men? I don’t plan to give a definitive answer, but I think it’s easy to see that, from the days of Eve to now, men have tried to suppress women. They’ve done this in various ways: sometimes through brute force, sometimes by making women cater to their worst desires, and sometimes by treating them like objects. While keeping women in the dark about knowledge, they’ve adorned them with trinkets and frills that they themselves looked down on, trying to turn them into mere painted tombs.

It is truly marvellous that any woman can rise above the pressure of circumstances which combine to crush her. Nothing can strengthen her to do this in the character of a preacher of righteousness, but a call from Jehovah himself. And when the voice of God penetrates the deep recesses of her heart, and commands her to go and cry in the ears of the people, she is ready to exclaim, ‘Ah, Lord God, behold I cannot[Pg 103] speak, for I am a woman.’ I have known women in different religious societies, who have felt like the prophet. ‘His word was in my heart as a burning fire shut up in my bones, and I was weary with forbearing.’ But they have not dared to open their lips, and have endured all the intensity of suffering, produced by disobedience to God, rather than encounter heartless ridicule and injurious suspicions. I rejoice that we have been the oppressed, rather than the oppressors. God thus prepared his people for deliverance from outward bondage; and I hope our sorrows have prepared us to fulfil our high and holy duties, whether public or private, with humility and meekness; and that suffering has imparted fortitude to endure trials, which assuredly await us in the attempt to sunder those chains with which man has bound us, galling to the spirit, though unseen by the eye.

It’s truly amazing that any woman can rise above the pressure of circumstances that try to crush her. Nothing can empower her to do this as a messenger of righteousness like a call from God himself. And when the voice of God reaches the depths of her heart and commands her to speak to the people, she is ready to say, ‘Ah, Lord God, look, I cannot[Pg 103] speak, for I am a woman.’ I have known women in various religious groups who have felt like the prophet. ‘His word was in my heart like a burning fire shut up in my bones, and I was weary from holding it in.’ But they haven’t dared to speak up and have tolerated all the pain caused by disobeying God rather than face cruel ridicule and harmful suspicions. I am glad that we have been the oppressed, not the oppressors. God thus prepared his people for freedom from external bondage; and I hope our struggles have equipped us to carry out our important responsibilities, whether in public or private, with humility and grace; and that suffering has given us the strength to endure the trials that certainly lie ahead as we try to break those chains that bind us, painful to the spirit, even if they are invisible to the eye.

Surely there is nothing either astonishing or novel in the gifts of the Spirit being bestowed on woman: nothing astonishing, because there is no respect of persons with God; the soul of the woman in his sight is as the soul of the man, and both are alike capable of the influence of the Holy Spirit. Nothing novel, because, as has been already shown, in the sacred records there are found examples of women, as well as of men, exercising the gift of prophecy.

Surely there is nothing surprising or new about the gifts of the Spirit being given to women: nothing surprising, because God shows no favoritism; the soul of a woman in His eyes is just as valuable as the soul of a man, and both can equally receive the influence of the Holy Spirit. Nothing new, because, as has already been demonstrated, the sacred texts contain examples of women, just like men, exercising the gift of prophecy.

We attach to the word prophecy, the exclusive meaning of foretelling future events, but this is certainly a mistake; for the apostle Paul defines it to be ‘speaking to edification, exhortation and comfort.’ And there appears no possible reason, why women should not do this as well as men. At the time that the Bible was translated into English, the meaning of the[Pg 104] word prophecy, was delivering a message from God, whether it was to predict future events, or to warn the people of the consequences of sin. Governor Winthrop, of Massachusetts, mentions in a letter, that the minister being absent, he went to, —— to prophecy to the people.

We associate the word prophecy with only the idea of predicting future events, but that's definitely a mistake; because the apostle Paul defines it as 'speaking for edification, encouragement, and comfort.' There seems to be no valid reason why women shouldn't be able to do this just as well as men. When the Bible was translated into English, the meaning of the[Pg 104] word prophecy included delivering a message from God, whether it was to foresee future events or to warn people about the consequences of sin. Governor Winthrop of Massachusetts mentions in a letter that when the minister was absent, he went to, —— to prophesy to the people.

Before I proceed to prove that women, under the Christian dispensation, were anointed of the Holy Ghost to preach, or prophecy, I will mention Anna, the (last) prophetess under the Jewish dispensation. ‘She departed not from the temple, but served God with fasting and prayers night and day.’ And coming into the temple, while Simeon was yet speaking to Mary, with the infant Savior in his arms, ‘spake of Christ to all them that looked for redemption in Jerusalem.’ Blackwall, a learned English critic, in his work entitled, ‘Sacred Classics,’ says, in reference to this passage, Luke 2: 37—‘According to the original reading, the sense will be, that the devout Anna, who attended in the temple, both night and day, spoke of the Messiah to all the inhabitants of that city, who constantly worshipped there, and who prepared themselves for the worthy reception of that divine person, whom they expected at this time. And ’tis certain, that other devout Jews, not inhabitants of Jerusalem, frequently repaired to the temple-worship, and might, at this remarkable time, and several others, hear this admirable woman discourse upon the blessed advent of the Redeemer. A various reading has Israel instead of Jerusalem, which expresses that religious Jews, from distant places, came thither to divine offices, and would with high pleasure hear the discourses of this great prophetess, so famed for her extraordinary piety and valuable[Pg 105] talents, upon the most important and desirable subject.’

Before I prove that women, under Christianity, were empowered by the Holy Spirit to preach or prophesy, I’ll mention Anna, the last prophetess under the Jewish tradition. ‘She didn’t leave the temple but served God with fasting and prayers night and day.’ When she entered the temple while Simeon was still speaking to Mary, holding the infant Savior in his arms, ‘she spoke about Christ to all who were looking for redemption in Jerusalem.’ Blackwall, a knowledgeable English critic, in his work titled ‘Sacred Classics,’ says, regarding this passage, Luke 2:37—‘According to the original reading, it means that the devout Anna, who attended the temple both night and day, spoke of the Messiah to all the worshippers in that city, who were preparing themselves to receive that divine person, whom they were expecting at that moment. It is certain that other devout Jews, not residents of Jerusalem, often came to the temple worship and could have heard this remarkable woman speak about the blessed arrival of the Redeemer during this significant time, among others. A variant reading has Israel instead of Jerusalem, indicating that religious Jews from faraway places came there for divine services and would have eagerly listened to the teachings of this great prophetess, renowned for her extraordinary piety and valuable talents, on the most important and desirable subject.’

I shall now examine the testimony of the Bible on this point, after the ascension of our Lord, beginning with the glorious effusion of the Holy Spirit on the day of Pentecost. I presume it will not be denied, that women, as well as men, were at that time filled with the Holy Ghost, because it is expressly stated, that women were among those who continued in prayer and supplication, waiting for the fulfilment of the promise, that they should be endued with power from on high. ‘When the day of Pentecost was fully come, they were ALL with one accord in one place. And there appeared unto them cloven tongues like as of fire, and it sat upon each of them; and they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues as the Spirit gave them utterance.’ Peter says, in reference to this miracle, ‘This is that which was spoken by the prophet Joel. And it shall come to pass in the last days, said God, I will pour out my Spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy—and on my servants and on my hand-maidens, I will pour out in those days of my Spirit, and they shall prophesy.’ There is not the least intimation that this was a spasmodic influence which was soon to cease. The men and women are classed together; and if the power to preach the gospel was a supernatural and short-lived impulse in women, then it was equally so in men. But we are told, those were the days of miracles. I grant it; but the men, equally with the women, were the subjects of this marvellous fulfilment of prophecy, and of course, if women[Pg 106] have lost the gift of prophesying, so have men. We are also gravely told, that if a woman pretends to inspiration, and thereupon grounds the right to plead the cause of a crucified Redeemer in public, she will be believed when she shows credentials from heaven, i. e. when she works a miracle. I reply, if this be necessary to prove her right to preach the gospel, then I demand of my brethren to show me their credentials; else I cannot receive their ministry, by their own showing. John Newton has justly said, that no power but that which created a world, can make a minister of the gospel; and man may task his ingenuity to the utmost, to prove that this power is not exercised on women as well as men. He cannot do it until he has first disclaimed that simple, but all comprehensive truth, ‘in Christ Jesus there is neither male nor female.’

I will now look into what the Bible says about this after our Lord ascended, starting with the amazing outpouring of the Holy Spirit on Pentecost. It shouldn't be denied that both women and men were filled with the Holy Spirit at that time, as it's clearly stated that women were among those who prayed and waited for the promise of receiving power from on high. "When the day of Pentecost had fully come, they were ALL together in one place. And there appeared to them divided tongues like fire, and it sat on each of them; and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak in other tongues as the Spirit gave them the ability." Peter refers to this miracle, saying, "This is what was spoken by the prophet Joel. And it shall come to pass in the last days, says God, that I will pour out my Spirit on all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy – and my servants and my handmaidens, I will pour out my Spirit in those days, and they will prophesy." There’s no indication that this was a temporary influence that would soon fade. Men and women are mentioned together; and if the ability to preach the gospel was a supernatural and brief impulse in women, then it was the same for men. Yet we are told those were the days of miracles. I agree; however, both men and women were part of this amazing fulfillment of prophecy, and if women have lost the gift of prophesying, so have men. We are also seriously told that if a woman claims to be inspired and bases her right to advocate for a crucified Savior in public on that, she will be believed only if she has proof from heaven, meaning if she performs a miracle. I say, if this is necessary to validate her right to preach the gospel, then I ask my fellow men to show me their credentials; otherwise, I cannot accept their ministry, according to their own reasoning. John Newton wisely stated that only the power that created the world can make a minister of the gospel; and no one can claim that this power isn't given to women as well as men. They cannot do this without first denying the simple but all-encompassing truth, "in Christ Jesus there is neither male nor female."

Women then, according to the Bible, were, under the New Testament dispensation, as well as the Old, the recipients of the gift of prophecy. That this is no sectarian view may be proved by the following extracts. The first I shall offer is from Stratton’s ‘Book of the Priesthood.’

Women, according to the Bible, were, under both the New Testament and the Old, recipients of the gift of prophecy. This is not just a sectarian view, as shown by the following excerpts. The first one I’ll present is from Stratton’s ‘Book of the Priesthood.’

‘While they were assembled in the upper room to wait for the blessing, in number about one hundred and twenty, they received the miraculous gifts of the Holy Spirit’s grace; they became the channels through which its more ordinary, but not less saving streams flowed to three thousand persons in one day. The whole company of the assembled disciples, male and female, young and old, were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues as the Spirit gave them utterance. They all contributed in producing that impression upon the assembled multitude, which Peter was instrumental in advancing to its decisive results.’

‘While they were gathered in the upper room waiting for the blessing, about one hundred and twenty of them received the miraculous gifts of the Holy Spirit’s grace; they became the channels through which its more ordinary, but still life-saving, streams flowed to three thousand people in one day. The entire group of gathered disciples, both men and women, young and old, were all filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak in different languages as the Spirit enabled them. They all played a part in creating the impression on the assembled crowd, which Peter helped to advance to its decisive conclusions.’

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[Pg 107]

Scott, in his commentary on this passage, says—

Scott, in his commentary on this section, says—

‘At the same time, there appeared the form of tongues divided at the tip and resembling fire; one of which rested on each of the whole company.’ ‘They sat on every one present, as the original determines. At the time of these extraordinary appearances, the whole company were abundantly replenished with the gifts and graces of the Holy Spirit, so that they began to speak with other tongues.’

‘At the same time, there appeared shapes like tongues divided at the tip and resembling fire; one rested on each person in the group.’ ‘They sat on everyone present, as originally stated. During these remarkable events, the entire group was filled with the gifts and graces of the Holy Spirit, so they began to speak in other languages.’

Henry in his notes confirms this:

Henry in his notes confirms this:

‘It seems evident to me that not the twelve apostles only, but all the one hundred and twenty disciples were filled with the Holy Ghost alike at this time,—all the seventy disciples, who were apostolical men and employed in the same work, and all the rest too that were to preach the gospel, for it is said expressly, Eph. 4: 8-12: ‘When Christ ascended up on high, (which refers to this) he gave gifts unto men.’ The all here must refer to the all that were together.’

‘It seems clear to me that not just the twelve apostles, but all one hundred and twenty disciples were filled with the Holy Spirit at this time—all seventy disciples, who were apostolic men engaged in the same work, and all the others who were to preach the gospel. It is explicitly stated in Eph. 4: 8-12: ‘When Christ ascended on high, (which refers to this) he gave gifts to men.’ The term "all" here must refer to everyone who was gathered together.’

I need hardly remark that man is a generic term, including both sexes.

I should hardly point out that "man" is a general term that includes both genders.

Let us now examine whether women actually exercised the office of minister, under the gospel dispensation. Philip had four daughters, who prophesied or preached. Paul calls Priscilla, as well as Aquila, his helpers; or, as in the Greek, his fellow laborers[4] in Christ Jesus. Divers other passages might be adduced to prove that women continued to be preachers, and that many of them filled this dignified station.

Let’s take a look at whether women truly held the role of ministers in the context of the gospel. Philip had four daughters who prophesied or preached. Paul refers to Priscilla, along with Aquila, as his helpers; or, as it says in Greek, his fellow workers in Christ Jesus. Several other passages could be cited to show that women continued to preach, and that many of them held this respected position.

We learn also from ecclesiastical history, that female ministers suffered martyrdom in the early ages of the Christian church. In ancient councils, mention is made of deaconesses; and in an edition of the New Testament, printed in 1574, a woman is spoken of as minister of a[Pg 108] church. The same word, which, in our common translation, is now rendered a servant of the church, in speaking of Phebe, Rom. 16: 1, is rendered minister, Eph. 6: 21, when applied to Tychicus. A minister, with whom I had lately the pleasure of conversing, remarked, ‘My rule is to expound scripture by scripture, and I cannot deny the ministry of women, because the apostle says, ‘help those women who labored with me IN THE GOSPEL.’ He certainly meant something more than pouring out tea for him.’

We also learn from church history that female ministers faced martyrdom in the early days of the Christian church. Ancient councils mention deaconesses, and in a 1574 edition of the New Testament, a woman is referred to as the minister of a[Pg 108] church. The same term that is translated as a servant of the church when referring to Phoebe in Romans 16:1 is translated as minister in Ephesians 6:21 when talking about Tychicus. A minister I recently discussed this with said, ‘My principle is to interpret scripture with scripture, and I can’t deny the ministry of women because the apostle says, ‘help those women who labored with me IN THE BIBLE.’ He definitely meant something more than just serving him tea.’

In the 11th Ch. of 1 Cor., Paul gives directions to women and men how they should appear when they prophesy, or pray in public assemblies. It is evident that the design of the apostle, in this and the three succeeding chapters, is to rectify certain abuses which had crept into the Christian church. He therefore admonishes women to pray with their heads covered, because, according to the fashion of that day, it was considered immodest and immoral to do otherwise. He says, ‘that were all one as if she were shaven;’ and shaving the head was a disgraceful punishment that was inflicted on women of bad character.

In the 11th chapter of 1 Corinthians, Paul gives guidance to both women and men on how they should look when praying or prophesying in public gatherings. It's clear that the apostle's purpose in this chapter and the next three is to correct some issues that had arisen in the Christian church. He instructs women to cover their heads while praying because, at that time, it was seen as immodest and inappropriate not to do so. He points out that it’s the same as if they were shaven, and having a shaved head was a humiliating punishment for women who were seen as immoral.

‘These things,’ says Scott, ‘the apostle stated as decent and proper, but if any of the Corinthian teachers inclined to excite contention about them, he would only add, v. 16, that he and his brethren knew of no such custom as prevailed among them, nor was there any such in the churches of God which had been planted by the other apostles.’

‘These things,’ Scott says, ‘the apostle mentioned as decent and proper, but if any of the teachers in Corinth wanted to stir up controversy about them, he would just add, v. 16, that he and his fellow apostles were not aware of any such custom that was practiced among them, nor was there any like it in the churches of God established by the other apostles.’

John Locke, whilst engaged in writing his notes on the Epistles of St. Paul, was at a meeting where two women preached. After hearing them, he became convinced of their commission to publish the gospel, and thereupon[Pg 109] altered his notes on the 11th Ch. 1 Cor. in favor of women’s preaching. He says,—

John Locke, while writing his notes on the letters of St. Paul, attended a meeting where two women were preaching. After hearing them, he became convinced that they were called to share the gospel, and he then[Pg 109] changed his notes on the 11th Chapter of 1 Corinthians to support women preaching. He says,—

‘This about women seeming as difficult a passage as most in St. Paul’s Epistles, I crave leave to premise some few considerations. It is plain that this covering the head in women is restrained to some peculiar actions which they performed in the assembly, expressed by the words praying, prophesying, which, whatever they signify, must have the same meaning applied to women in the 5th verse, that they have when applied to men in the 4th, &c. The next thing to be considered is, what is here to be understood by praying and prophesying. And that seems to me the performing of some public action in the assembly, by some one person which was for that time peculiar to that person, and whilst it lasted, the rest of the assembly silently assisted. As to prophesying, the apostle in express words tells us, Ch. 14: 3, 12, that it was speaking in the assembly. The same is evident as to praying, that the apostle means by it publicly with an audible voice, ch. 14: 19.’

‘Regarding women, this topic poses as challenging a discussion as many found in St. Paul’s letters. I would like to start with a few points. It’s clear that women covering their heads is limited to specific actions they performed during gatherings, indicated by the terms praying and prophesying. Whatever those actions mean, they must apply the same way to women in verse 5 as they do to men in verse 4, etc. Next, we need to clarify what is meant by praying and prophesying here. It seems to refer to a public action done by an individual during the assembly, which was specific to them at that moment, while the rest of the congregation quietly supported. About prophesying, the apostle explicitly states in Chapter 14: 3, 12 that it involves speaking in the assembly. The same is clear for praying; the apostle refers to it as being done publicly and audibly, as noted in chapter 14: 19.’

In a letter to these two women, Rebecca Collier and Rachel Bracken, which accompanied a little testimony of his regard, he says,

In a letter to these two women, Rebecca Collier and Rachel Bracken, which included a small token of his appreciation, he says,

‘I admire no converse like that of Christian freedom; and I fear no bondage like that of pride and prejudice. I now see that acquaintance by sight cannot reach the height of enjoyment, which acquaintance by knowledge arrives unto. Outward hearing may misguide us, but internal knowledge cannot err.’ ‘Women, indeed, had the honor of first publishing the resurrection of the God of love—why not again the resurrection of the spirit of love? And let all the disciples of Christ rejoice therein, as doth your partner, John Locke.’

‘I really appreciate conversations that embrace Christian freedom, and I dread any kind of restriction that comes from pride and prejudice. I've come to realize that knowing someone by sight doesn't compare to the joy that comes from truly knowing them. We can be misled by what we hear on the outside, but true knowledge from within is always accurate.’ ‘Women were the first to announce the resurrection of the God of love—so why not also celebrate the revival of the spirit of love? Let all of Christ's followers rejoice in that, just like your partner, John Locke, does.’

See ‘The Friend,’ a periodical published in Philadelphia.

See ‘The Friend,’ a magazine published in Philadelphia.

Adam Clarke’s comment on 1 Cor. 11: 5, is similar to Locke’s:

Adam Clarke’s comment on 1 Cor. 11: 5 is similar to Locke’s:

‘Whatever be the meaning of praying and prophesying in respect to the man, they have precisely the same meaning in respect to the woman. So that some women at least, as well as some men, might speak to others to edification and exhortation and comfort. And this kind of prophesying, or teaching, was predicted by Joel 2: 28, and referred[Pg 110] to by Peter; and had there not been such gifts bestowed on women, the prophesy could not have had its fulfilment.’

‘Whatever the meaning of praying and prophesying is for men, it has exactly the same meaning for women. This means that some women, just like some men, can speak to others for encouragement, instruction, and comfort. This type of prophesying or teaching was predicted by Joel 2:28 and referenced by Peter; if women hadn't been given such gifts, the prophecy wouldn't have been fulfilled.’

In the autobiography of Adam Clarke, there is an interesting account of his hearing Mary Sewall and another female minister preach, and he acknowledges that such was the power accompanying their ministry, that though he had been prejudiced against women’s preaching, he could not but confess that these women were anointed for the office.

In Adam Clarke's autobiography, he shares an intriguing experience of watching Mary Sewall and another female minister preach. He admits that the strength of their ministry was so compelling that, despite his initial bias against women preaching, he had to acknowledge that these women were truly called for the role.

But there are certain passages in the Epistles of St. Paul, which seem to be of doubtful interpretation; at which we cannot much marvel, seeing that his brother Peter says, there are some things in them hard to be understood. Most commentators, having their minds preoccupied with the prejudices of education, afford little aid; they rather tend to darken the text by the multitude of words. One of these passages occurs in 1 Cor. 14. I have already remarked, that this chapter, with several of the preceding, was evidently designed to correct abuses which had crept into the assemblies of Christians in Corinth. Hence we find that the men were commanded to be silent, as well as the women, when they were guilty of any thing which deserved reprehension. The apostle says, ‘If there be no interpreter, let him keep silence in the church.’ The men were doubtless in the practice of speaking in unknown tongues, when there was no interpreter present; and Paul reproves them, because this kind of preaching conveyed no instruction to the people. Again he says, ‘If any thing be revealed to another that sitteth by, let the first hold his peace.’ We may infer from this, that two men[Pg 111] sometimes attempted to speak at the same time, and the apostle rebukes them, and adds, ‘Ye may ALL prophesy one by one, for God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.’ He then proceeds to notice the disorderly conduct of the women, who were guilty of other improprieties. They were probably in the habit of asking questions, on any points of doctrine which they wished more thoroughly explained. This custom was common among the men in the Jewish synagogues, after the pattern of which, the meetings of the early Christians were in all probability conducted. And the Christian women, presuming on the liberty which they enjoyed under the new religion, interrupted the assembly, by asking questions. The apostle disapproved of this, because it disturbed the solemnity of the meeting: he therefore admonishes the women to keep silence in the churches. That the apostle did not allude to preaching is manifest, because he tells them, ‘If they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home.’ Now a person endowed with a gift in the ministry, does not ask questions in the public exercise of that gift, for the purpose of gaining information: she is instructing others. Moreover, the apostle, in closing his remarks on this subject, says, ‘Wherefore, brethren, (a generic term, applying equally to men and women,) covet to prophesy, and forbid not to speak with tongues. Let all things be done decently and in order.’

But there are certain parts in the letters of St. Paul that seem to be open to interpretation, which isn’t surprising since Peter, his brother, mentions that some things in them are hard to understand. Most commentators, influenced by their educational biases, offer little help; they tend to complicate the text with too many words. One of these passages is in 1 Cor. 14. I’ve already pointed out that this chapter, along with several of the previous ones, was clearly meant to address issues that had arisen in the Christian gatherings in Corinth. Thus, we see that both men and women were instructed to be silent when they were doing something that needed correction. The apostle says, “If there’s no interpreter, let him keep silent in the church.” The men were likely speaking in unknown tongues when there was no interpreter available, and Paul reprimands them because this type of preaching provided no guidance to the audience. He also mentions, “If something is revealed to another sitting nearby, let the first hold his peace.” From this, we can gather that two men sometimes tried to speak at the same time, and the apostle scolds them, adding, “You may all prophesy one by one, for God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.” He then goes on to address the inappropriate behavior of the women, who were likely asking questions about points of doctrine they wanted clarified. This practice was common among men in the Jewish synagogues, which likely influenced how the early Christians held their meetings. The Christian women, feeling empowered under the new faith, interrupted the gathering by asking questions. The apostle disapproved of this because it disrupted the reverence of the meeting; he therefore advises the women to remain silent in the churches. It’s clear that the apostle wasn’t referring to preaching when he tells them, “If they want to learn anything, let them ask their husbands at home.” A person who has a gift in ministry doesn’t ask questions in public to gain information; she’s there to teach others. Furthermore, as he wraps up his comments on this topic, he says, “Therefore, brothers and sisters (a term that includes both men and women), desire to prophesy, and don’t forbid speaking in tongues. Let everything be done decently and in order.”

Clarke, on the passage, ‘Let women keep silence in the churches,’ says:

Clarke, regarding the statement, "Let women keep silence in the churches," says:

‘This was a Jewish ordinance. Women were not permitted to teach in the assemblies, or even to ask questions. The rabbins taught that a woman should know nothing but[Pg 112] the use of her distaff; and the saying of Rabbi Eliezer is worthy of remark and execration: ‘Let the words of the law be burned, rather than that they should be delivered by women.’

‘This was a Jewish rule. Women were not allowed to teach in gatherings or even ask questions. The rabbis taught that a woman should know nothing except for[Pg 112] how to use her distaff; and the saying of Rabbi Eliezer is notable and shocking: ‘Let the teachings of the law be destroyed rather than delivered by women.’

Are there not many of our Christian brethren, whose hostility to the ministry of women is as bitter as was that of Rabbi Eliezer, and who would rather let souls perish, than that the truths of the gospel should be delivered by women?

Are there not many of our Christian brothers and sisters whose opposition to women in ministry is as strong as that of Rabbi Eliezer, and who would prefer to let souls be lost rather than allow the truths of the gospel to be shared by women?

‘This,’ says Clarke, ‘was their condition till the time of the gospel, when, according to the prediction of Joel, the Spirit of God was to be poured out on the women as well as the men, that they might prophesy, that is, teach. And that they did prophesy, or teach, is evident from what the apostle says, ch. 11: 5, where he lays down rules to regulate this part of their conduct while ministering in the church. But does not what the apostle says here, let your women keep silence in the churches, contradict that statement, and show that the words in ch. 11, should be understood in another sense? for here it is expressly said, that they should keep silence in the churches, for it was not permitted to a woman to speak. Both places seem perfectly consistent. It is evident from the context, that the apostle refers here to asking questions, and what we call dictating in the assemblies.’

‘This,’ says Clarke, ‘was their situation until the time of the gospel, when, as predicted by Joel, the Spirit of God was to be given to both women and men, so they could prophesy, or teach. That they did prophesy, or teach, is clear from what the apostle states in ch. 11: 5, where he outlines guidelines to govern this aspect of their behavior while serving in the church. But doesn’t what the apostle says here, that women should remain silent in the churches, contradict that statement and suggest that the words in ch. 11 should be interpreted differently? Here, it’s clearly stated that women should be silent in the churches, as it was not permitted for them to speak. Both sections seem to fit together perfectly. It’s clear from the context that the apostle is referring to asking questions and what we now call dictating in meetings.’

The other passage on which the opinion, that women are not called to the ministry, is founded, is 1 Tim. 2d ch. The apostle speaks of the duty of prayer and supplication, mentions his own ordination as a preacher, and then adds, ‘I will, therefore, that men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel,’ &c. I shall here premise, that as the punctuation and division into chapters and verses is no part of the original arrangement, they cannot determine the sense of a passage. Indeed, every attentive reader of the Bible must observe, that the injudicious separation of sentences often[Pg 113] destroys their meaning and their beauty. Joseph John Gurney, whose skill as a biblical critic is well known in England, commenting on this passage, says,

The other passage that supports the idea that women are not meant for the ministry is 1 Tim. 2. The apostle talks about the importance of prayer and supplication, mentions his own ordination as a preacher, and then says, “I want men to pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without anger or doubt. In the same way, I want women to dress modestly,” etc. I want to note that punctuation and the division into chapters and verses are not part of the original text, so they cannot define the meaning of a passage. In fact, any careful reader of the Bible will notice that poorly placed breaks often ruin the meaning and beauty of the text. Joseph John Gurney, whose expertise as a biblical critic is well recognized in England, comments on this passage, says,

‘It is worded in a manner somewhat obscure; but appears to be best construed according to the opinion of various commentators (See Pool’s Synopsis) as conveying an injunction, that women as well as men should pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands without wrath and doubting. 1 Tim. 2: 8, 9. ‘I will therefore that men pray everywhere, &c.; likewise also the women in a modest dress.’ (Compare 1 Cor. 11: 5.) ‘I would have them adorn themselves with shamefacedness and sobriety.’’

‘It’s phrased in a somewhat unclear way; however, it seems to be best understood according to the views of various commentators (See Pool’s Synopsis) as expressing a directive that both women and men should pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands without anger or doubt. 1 Tim. 2: 8, 9. ‘So, I want men to pray everywhere, etc.; likewise, women should dress modestly.’ (See 1 Cor. 11: 5.) ‘I want them to adorn themselves with modesty and self-control.’’

I have no doubt this is the true meaning of the text, and that the translators would never have thought of altering it had they not been under the influence of educational prejudice. The apostle proceeds to exhort the women, who thus publicly made intercession to God, not to adorn themselves with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array, but (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.’ The word in this verse translated ‘professing,’ would be more properly rendered preaching godliness, or enjoining piety to the gods, or conducting public worship. After describing the duty of female ministers about their apparel, the apostle proceeds to correct some improprieties which probably prevailed in the Ephesian church, similar to those which he had reproved among the Corinthian converts. He says, ‘Let the women LEARN in silence with all subjection; but I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence,’ or quietness. Here again it is evident that the women, of whom he was speaking, were admonished to learn in silence, which could not refer to their public ministrations[Pg 114] to others. The verb to teach, verse 12, is one of very general import, and may in this place more properly be rendered dictate. It is highly probable that women who had long been in bondage, when set free by Christianity from the restraints imposed upon them by Jewish traditions and heathen customs, run into an extreme in their public assemblies, and interrupted the religious services by frequent interrogations, which they could have had answered as satisfactorily at home.

I am sure this is the true meaning of the text, and that the translators would never have thought of changing it if they hadn’t been influenced by educational biases. The apostle goes on to encourage the women, who were openly praying to God, not to decorate themselves with braided hair, gold, pearls, or expensive clothes, but (which is fitting for women who profess godliness) with good deeds.’ The word translated as ‘professing’ in this verse would be better expressed as preaching godliness, or promoting piety towards the gods, or conducting public worship. After addressing the clothing of female ministers, the apostle then corrects some issues that likely existed in the Ephesian church, similar to those he had reprimanded among the Corinthian believers. He says, ‘Let the women Learn in silence with all submission; but I do not allow a woman to teach, nor to assume authority over the man, but to be in silence,’ or quietness. Here again, it’s clear that the women he was referring to were being instructed to learn in silence, which could not mean their public roles[Pg 114] to others. The verb to teach, in verse 12, is very broad and could more accurately be rendered as dictate in this context. It’s highly probable that women who had long been oppressed, when liberated by Christianity from the limitations imposed by Jewish traditions and pagan customs, went to an extreme in their public meetings and disrupted religious services with frequent questions, which they could have easily had answered at home.

On a candid examination and comparison of the passages which I have endeavored to explain, viz., 1 Cor. chaps. 11 and 14, and 1 Tim. 2, 8-12. I think we must be compelled to adopt one of two conclusions; either that the apostle grossly contradicts himself on a subject of great practical importance, and that the fulfilment of the prophecy of Joel was a shameful infringement of decency and order; or that the directions given to women, not to speak, or to teach in the congregations, had reference to some local and peculiar customs, which were then common in religious assemblies, and which the apostle thought inconsistent with the purpose for which they were met together. No one, I suppose, will hesitate which of these two conclusions to adopt. The subject is one of vital importance. That it may claim the calm and prayerful attention of Christians, is the desire of

On a straightforward look at the passages I’ve tried to explain—1 Corinthians chapters 11 and 14, and 1 Timothy 2, verses 8-12—I believe we have to reach one of two conclusions: either the apostle is severely contradicting himself on a matter of great practical significance, and the fulfillment of Joel's prophecy was a disgraceful breach of decency and order; or the instructions given to women, not to speak or teach in the congregations, were related to specific local customs that were common in religious gatherings at the time, which the apostle deemed inconsistent with the purpose of their meeting. I think no one would hesitate regarding which of these two conclusions to choose. This topic is critically important. It deserves the calm and prayerful attention of Christians, which is my wish for

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimké.

FOOTNOTES:

[3] I cannot enter fully into this part of my subject. It is, however, one of great importance, and I recommend those who wish to examine it, to read ‘The Book of the Priesthood,’ by an English Dissenter, and Beverly’s ‘View of the Present State of the Visible Church of Christ.’ They are both masterly productions.

[3] I can't dive deeply into this part of my topic. However, it's really important, and I suggest those who want to explore it read ‘The Book of the Priesthood’ by an English Dissenter and Beverly’s ‘View of the Present State of the Visible Church of Christ.’ Both are outstanding works.

[4] Rom. 16: 3, compare Gr. text of v. 21, 2. Cor. 8: 23; Phil. 2: 25; 1 Thes. 3: 2.

[4] Rom. 16: 3, compare Gr. text of v. 21, 2. Cor. 8: 23; Phil. 2: 25; 1 Thes. 3: 2.


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[Pg 115]

LETTER XV.
MAN IS AS GUILTY AS WOMAN IN THE FALL.

Uxbridge, 10th Mo. 20th, 1837.

Uxbridge, October 20, 1837.

My Dear Sister,—It is said that ‘modern Jewish women light a lamp every Friday evening, half an hour before sunset, which is the beginning of their Sabbath, in remembrance of their original mother, who first extinguished the lamp of righteousness,—to remind them of their obligation to rekindle it.’ I am one of those who always admit, to its fullest extent, the popular charge, that woman brought sin into the world. I accept it as a powerful reason, why woman is bound to labor with double diligence, for the regeneration of that world she has been instrumental in ruining.

Dear Sister,—It’s said that ‘modern Jewish women light a lamp every Friday evening, half an hour before sunset, marking the start of their Sabbath, to honor their first mother, who extinguished the lamp of righteousness,—as a reminder of their duty to rekindle it.’ I am one of those who fully acknowledge the common belief that women brought sin into the world. I see it as a strong reason why women are compelled to work twice as hard to restore the world they played a part in damaging.

But, although I do not repel the imputation, I shall notice some passages in the sacred Scriptures, where this transaction is mentioned, which prove, I think, the identity and equality of man and woman, and that there is no difference in their guilt in the view of that God who searcheth the heart and trieth the reins of the children of men. In Is. 43: 27, we find the following passage—‘Thy first father hath sinned,[Pg 116] and thy teachers have transgressed against me’—which is synonymous with Rom. 5: 12. ‘Wherefore, as by ONE MAN sin entered into the world, and death by sin, &c.’ Here man and woman are included under one term, and no distinction is made in their criminality. The circumstances of the fall are again referred to in 2 Cor. 11: 3—‘But I fear lest, by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtility, so your mind should be beguiled from the simplicity that is in Christ.’ Again, 1st Tim. 2: 14—‘Adam was not deceived; but the woman being deceived, was in the transgression.’ Now, whether the fact, that Eve was beguiled and deceived, is a proof that her crime was of deeper dye than Adam’s, who was not deceived, but was fully aware of the consequences of sharing in her transgression, I shall leave the candid reader to determine.

But, while I don’t reject the accusation, I want to point out some passages in the sacred Scriptures where this event is mentioned that I believe demonstrate the identity and equality of man and woman, and show that there is no difference in their guilt before God, who examines the heart and tests the minds of humanity. In Is. 43:27, we find the following passage—‘Your first father has sinned,[Pg 116] and your teachers have transgressed against me’—which is similar to Rom. 5:12. ‘Therefore, just as through ONE GUY sin entered the world, and death through sin, etc.’ Here, man and woman are included under one term, and there is no distinction made in their wrongdoing. The circumstances of the fall are again referenced in 2 Cor. 11:3—‘But I am afraid that, just as the serpent deceived Eve with his cunning, your minds may be led astray from the simplicity that is in Christ.’ Again, in 1st Tim. 2:14—‘Adam was not deceived; but the woman being deceived fell into transgression.’ Now, whether the fact that Eve was deceived means her sin was worse than Adam’s, who was not deceived but fully understood the consequences of participating in her sin, I will leave for the thoughtful reader to decide.

My present object is to show, that, as woman is charged with all the sin that exists in the world, it is her solemn duty to labor for its extinction; and that this she can never do effectually and extensively, until her mind is disenthralled of those shackles which have been riveted upon her by a ‘corrupt public opinion, and a perverted interpretation of the holy Scriptures.’ Woman must feel that she is the equal, and is designed to be the fellow laborer of her brother, or she will be studying to find out the imaginary line which separates the sexes, and divides the duties of men and women into two distinct classes, a separation not even hinted at in the Bible, where we are expressly told, ‘there is neither male nor female, for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.’

My current aim is to demonstrate that because women are blamed for all the sin in the world, it is their serious responsibility to work towards its elimination. However, they cannot do this effectively and thoroughly until they free their minds from the constraints imposed by a ‘corrupt public opinion and a distorted interpretation of the holy Scriptures.’ Women must recognize that they are equals and intended to be co-workers with men; otherwise, they will be focused on identifying the imaginary boundaries that separate the genders and split the responsibilities of men and women into two distinct categories, a division that isn't mentioned in the Bible, where we are explicitly told, ‘there is neither male nor female, for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.’

My views on this subject are so much better[Pg 117] embodied in the language of a living author than I can express them, that I quote the passage entire: ‘Woman’s rights and man’s rights are both contained in the same charter, and held by the same tenure. All rights spring out of the moral nature: they are both the root and the offspring of responsibilities. The physical constitution is the mere instrument of the moral nature; sex is a mere incident of this constitution, a provision necessary to this form of existence; its only design, not to give, nor to take away, nor in any respect to modify or even touch rights or responsibilities in any sense, except so far as the peculiar offices of each sex may afford less or more opportunity and ability for the exercise of rights, and the discharge of responsibilities; but merely to continue and enlarge the human department of God’s government. Consequently, I know nothing of man’s rights, or woman’s rights; human rights are all that I recognise. The doctrine, that the sex of the body presides over and administers upon the rights and responsibilities of the moral, immortal nature, is to my mind a doctrine kindred to blasphemy, when seen in its intrinsic nature. It breaks up utterly the relations of the two natures, and reverses their functions; exalting the animal nature into a monarch, and humbling the moral into a slave; making the former a proprietor, and the latter its property.’

My views on this topic are better expressed in the words of a living author than I could express myself, so I’ll quote the passage in full: ‘Women’s rights and men’s rights are both part of the same charter and held by the same tenure. All rights come from the moral nature; they are both the root and the offspring of responsibilities. The physical body is just an instrument of the moral nature; gender is a mere incident of this body, a necessary part of this form of existence; its only purpose is not to give, take away, or modify rights or responsibilities in any way, except as the unique roles of each gender may provide more or less opportunity and ability to exercise rights and fulfill responsibilities; but simply to continue and expand the human role in God’s governance. Therefore, I don’t recognize man’s rights or woman’s rights; I only recognize human rights. The belief that the gender of the body governs the rights and responsibilities of the moral, immortal nature seems to me to be a belief close to blasphemy, when viewed in its true essence. It utterly disrupts the relationships between the two natures and reverses their functions; elevating the animal nature to a throne and reducing the moral to a servant; turning the former into an owner and the latter into its property.’

To perform our duties, we must comprehend our rights and responsibilities; and it is because we do not understand, that we now fall so far short in the discharge of our obligations. Unaccustomed to think for ourselves, and to search the sacred volume, to see how far we are living up to the design of Jehovah in our creation, we[Pg 118] have rested satisfied with the sphere marked out for us by man, never detecting the fallacy of that reasoning which forbids woman to exercise some of her noblest faculties, and stamps with the reproach of indelicacy those actions by which women were formerly dignified and exalted in the church.

To fulfill our responsibilities, we need to understand our rights and obligations; and it’s our lack of understanding that leads us to fall short in meeting our duties. Not used to thinking for ourselves and exploring the sacred texts to see how well we align with God's purpose in our creation, we[Pg 118] have complacently accepted the limits set for us by society, overlooking the flawed reasoning that discourages women from using some of their greatest abilities and labels those actions that once brought dignity and honor to women in the church as inappropriate.

I should not mention this subject again, if it were not to point out to my sisters what seems to me an irresistible conclusion from the literal interpretation of St. Paul, without reference to the context, and the peculiar circumstances and abuses which drew forth the expressions, ‘I suffer not a woman to teach’—‘Let your women keep silence in the church,’ i. e. congregation. It is manifest, that if the apostle meant what his words imply, when taken in the strictest sense, then women have no right to teach Sabbath or day schools, or to open their lips to sing in the assemblies of the people; yet young and delicate women are engaged in all these offices; they are expressly trained to exhibit themselves, and raise their voices to a high pitch in the choirs of our places of worship. I do not intend to sit in judgment on my sisters for doing these things; I only want them to see, that they are as really infringing a supposed divine command, by instructing their pupils in the Sabbath or day schools, and by singing in the congregation, as if they were engaged in preaching the unsearchable riches of Christ to a lost and perishing world. Why, then, are we permitted to break this injunction in some points, and so sedulously warned not to overstep the bounds set for us by our brethren in another? Simply, as I believe, because in the one case we subserve their views and their interests, and[Pg 119] act in subordination to them; whilst in the other, we come in contact with their interests, and claim to be on an equality with them in the highest and most important trust ever committed to man, namely, the ministry of the word. It is manifest, that if women were permitted to be ministers of the gospel, as they unquestionably were in the primitive ages of the Christian church, it would interfere materially with the present organized system of spiritual power and ecclesiastical authority, which is now vested solely in the hands of men. It would either show that all the paraphernalia of theological seminaries, &c. &c. to prepare men to become evangelists, is wholly unnecessary, or it would create a necessity for similar institutions in order to prepare women for the same office; and this would be an encroachment on that learning, which our hind brethren have so ungenerously monopolized. I do not ask any one to believe my statements, or adopt my conclusions, because they are mine; but I do earnestly entreat my sisters to lay aside their prejudices, and examine these subjects for themselves, regardless of the ‘traditions of men,’ because they are intimately connected with their duty and their usefulness in the present important crisis.

I shouldn’t bring this up again, but I feel it's important to point out to my sisters an unavoidable conclusion from taking St. Paul’s words literally, without considering the context or the specific issues that prompted phrases like ‘I do not permit a woman to teach’ and ‘Let your women remain silent in the church,’ which means the congregation. It’s clear that if the apostle meant what his words say at face value, women wouldn’t have the right to teach in Sabbath or day schools, or to sing in the assemblies of people; yet young women participate in all these activities. They are specifically trained to showcase their talents and raise their voices high in the choirs of our places of worship. I’m not trying to judge my sisters for doing these things; I just want them to recognize that they are actually breaking a so-called divine command by teaching their students in Sabbath or day schools and singing in the congregation, just as if they were preaching the incredible riches of Christ to a lost world. So, why are we allowed to ignore this rule in some areas while being strongly warned not to overstep the boundaries set by our brothers in others? I believe it’s simply because in one situation, we are serving their views and interests, acting in subordination to them; while in the other, we interact with their interests and seek equality with them in the most significant trust ever given to humanity, which is the ministry of the word. It’s clear that if women were allowed to be ministers of the gospel, as they undoubtedly were in the early days of the Christian church, it would greatly challenge the current organized system of spiritual power and church authority, which is now completely controlled by men. This would either prove that all the training and structure of theological seminaries to prepare men for evangelism is totally unnecessary, or it would create a need for similar institutions to prepare women for the same role, which would encroach on the knowledge that our male counterparts have unfairly monopolized. I’m not asking anyone to believe my statements or accept my conclusions just because they’re mine; I earnestly urge my sisters to set aside their biases and examine these issues for themselves, regardless of ‘the traditions of men,’ because they are closely related to their responsibilities and their role in this crucial moment.

All who know any thing of the present system of benevolent and religious operations, know that women are performing an important part in them, in subserviency to men, who guide our labors, and are often the recipients of those benefits of education we toil to confer, and which we rejoice they can enjoy, although it is their mandate which deprives us of the same advantages. Now, whether our brethren have defrauded us intentionally, or unintentionally,[Pg 120] the wrong we suffer is equally the same. For years, they have been spurring us up to the performance of our duties. The immense usefulness and the vast influence of woman have been eulogized and called into exercise, and many a blessing has been lavished upon us, and many a prayer put up for us, because we have labored by day and by night to clothe and feed and educate young men, whilst our own bodies sometimes suffer for want of comfortable garments, and our minds are left in almost utter destitution of that improvement which we are toiling to bestow upon the brethren.

Everyone who knows anything about the current system of charitable and religious activities understands that women play a significant role in them, in serving men, who guide our efforts and often benefit from the education we work to provide. We’re glad they can enjoy those benefits, even though it is their mandate that denies us the same advantages. Now, whether our brothers have shortchanged us intentionally or not,[Pg 120] the injustice we experience is the same. For years, they have encouraged us to fulfill our responsibilities. The immense value and vast influence of women have been praised and called upon, and we've received many blessings and prayers because we have worked tirelessly to clothe, feed, and educate young men, while our own bodies sometimes suffer from a lack of proper clothing, and our minds are left almost completely deprived of the knowledge and improvement we are striving to provide for our brothers.

‘Full many a gem of purest ray serene,
The dark unfathomed caves of ocean bear;
Full many a flower is born to blush unseen
And waste its sweetness on the desert air.’

“There are many gems that have a pure, calm light,
That the dark, endless caves of the ocean contain;
So many flowers are born to bloom without anyone noticing.
And lose their sweetness in the empty air.

If the sewing societies, the avails of whose industry are now expended in supporting and educating young men for the ministry, were to withdraw their contributions to these objects, and give them where they are more needed, to the advancement of their own sex in useful learning, the next generation might furnish sufficient proof, that in intelligence and ability to master the whole circle of sciences, woman is not inferior to man; and instead of a sensible woman being regarded as she now is, is a lusus naturæ, they would be quite as common as sensible men. I confess, considering the high claim men in this country make to great politeness and deference to women, it does seem a little extraordinary that we should be urged to work for the brethren. I should suppose it would be more in character with ‘the generous promptings of chivalry, and the poetry of romantic gallantry,’ for which Catherine E.[Pg 121] Beecher gives them credit, for them to form societies to educate their sisters, seeing our inferior capacities require more cultivation to bring them into use, and qualify us to be helps meet for them. However, though I think this would be but a just return for all our past kindnesses in this way, I should be willing to balance our accounts, and begin a new course. Henceforth, let the benefit be reciprocated, or else let each sex provide for the education of their own poor, whose talents ought to be rescued from the oblivion of ignorance. Sure I am, the young men who are now benefitted by the handy work of their sisters, will not be less honorable if they occupy half their time in earning enough to pay for their own education, instead of depending on the industry of women, who not unfrequently deprive themselves of the means of purchasing valuable books which might enlarge their stock of useful knowledge, and perhaps prove a blessing to the family by furnishing them with instructive reading. If the minds of women were enlightened and improved, the domestic circle would be more frequently refreshed by intelligent conversation, a means of edification now deplorably neglected, for want of that cultivation which these intellectual advantages would confer.

If the sewing societies, whose work is currently focused on supporting and educating young men for the ministry, were to redirect their contributions to areas where they are more needed, specifically to uplift their own sex through useful education, the next generation might clearly show that women are just as intelligent and capable of mastering all fields of knowledge as men are. Instead of a sensible woman being seen, as she often is now, as an exception, they would be just as common as sensible men. I find it a bit surprising, given the high regard men in this country claim for their politeness and respect towards women, that we should be encouraged to work for the brothers. I would think it would be more in line with 'the generous spirit of chivalry and the poetry of romantic gallantry,' which Catherine E.[Pg 121] Beecher attributes to them, for men to create societies to educate their sisters, considering that our lesser abilities need more development to make us truly capable partners. Nonetheless, while I believe this would be a fair return for all the kindness we've shown in this regard, I'm open to balancing the scales and starting fresh. From now on, let the benefits be mutual, or let each gender take care of the education of their own less fortunate, whose talents should be saved from the darkness of ignorance. I am certain that the young men benefiting from their sisters' hard work would not lose honor by spending part of their time earning enough to pay for their own education, rather than relying on the labor of women, who often deprive themselves of the means to buy valuable books that could expand their pool of useful knowledge and possibly benefit the family by providing them with insightful reading. If women's minds were enlightened and improved, the home would be more often enriched by intelligent conversation, a form of growth that is sadly neglected due to the lack of education these intellectual opportunities would provide.

DUTIES OF WOMEN.

One of the duties which devolve upon women in the present interesting crisis, is to prepare themselves for more extensive usefulness, by making use of those religious and literary privileges and advantages that are within their reach, if they will only stretch out their hands and possess them. By doing this, they will[Pg 122] become better acquainted with their rights as moral beings, and with their responsibilities growing out of those rights: they will regard themselves, as they really are, FREE AGENTS, immortal beings, amenable to no tribunal but that of Jehovah, and bound not to submit to any restriction imposed for selfish purposes, or to gratify that love of power which has reigned in the heart of man from Adam down to the present time. In contemplating the great moral reformations of the day, and the part which they are bound to take in them, instead of puzzling themselves with the harassing, because unnecessary inquiry, how far they may go without overstepping the bounds of propriety, which separate male and female duties, they will only inquire, ‘Lord, what wilt thou have us to do?’ They will be enabled to see the simple truth, that God has made no distinction between men and women as moral beings; that the distinction now so much insisted upon between male and female virtues is as absurd as it is unscriptural, and has been the fruitful source of much mischief—granting to man a license for the exhibition of brute force and conflict on the battle field; for sternness, selfishness, and the exercise of irresponsible power in the circle of home—and to woman a permit to rest on an arm of flesh, and to regard modesty and delicacy, and all the kindred virtues, as peculiarly appropriate to her. Now to me it is perfectly clear, that WHATSOEVER IT IS MORALLY RIGHT FOR A MAN TO DO, IT IS MORALLY RIGHT FOR A WOMAN TO DO; and that confusion must exist in the moral world, until women takes her stand on the same platform with man, and feels that she is clothed[Pg 123] by her Maker with the same rights, and, of course, that upon her devolve the same duties.

One of the responsibilities that women have in this crucial time is to prepare themselves for greater usefulness by taking advantage of the religious and literary opportunities available to them, if they would just reach out and claim them. By doing this, they will[Pg 122] become more aware of their rights as moral beings and their responsibilities that come with those rights. They will see themselves for what they truly are, Free Agents, immortal beings, accountable only to God, and not bound to submit to any restrictions set for selfish reasons or to satisfy that desire for power that has existed in humanity since Adam's time. When considering the major moral reforms of today and the role they must play in them, instead of stressing over the unnecessary question of how far they can go without crossing the line between male and female responsibilities, they should simply ask, ‘Lord, what do you want us to do?’ They will understand the clear truth that God has made no distinction between men and women as moral beings; that the differences often highlighted between male and female virtues are not only ridiculous but also unbiblical, leading to much harm—giving men a license to display brute force and engage in conflict on the battlefield, to be stern, selfish, and wield unaccountable power at home, while allowing women to rely on a man's support and consider modesty and delicacy, among other virtues, as mainly theirs. To me, it is perfectly clear that Whatever is morally right for a man to do is also morally right for a woman to do.; and confusion will persist in the moral realm until women stand alongside men on equal ground and recognize that they have been given by their Creator the same rights, and therefore, also bear the same duties.

It is not my intention, nor indeed do I think it is in my power, to point out the precise duties of women. To him who still teacheth by his Holy Spirit as never man taught, I refer my beloved sisters. There is a vast field of usefulness before them. The signs of the times give portentous evidence, that a day of deep trial is approaching; and I urge them, by every consideration of a Savior’s dying love, by the millions of heathen in our midst, by the sufferings of woman in almost every portion of the world, by the fearful ravages which slavery, intemperance, licentiousness and other iniquities are making of the happiness of our fellow creatures, to come to the rescue of a ruined world, and to be found co-workers with Jesus Christ.

It’s not my aim, nor do I think I have the authority, to define the exact roles of women. I trust my dear sisters to the guidance of the Holy Spirit, who teaches like no one else can. There’s a huge opportunity for them to make a difference. The signs we see around us clearly indicate that tough times are ahead; and I urge them, with all the love of our Savior, by the millions of people in need around us, by the suffering women everywhere, and by the devastating impact of slavery, addiction, immorality, and other evils on the happiness of our fellow humans, to step in and help save a broken world, and to work alongside Jesus Christ.

‘Ho! to the rescue, ho!
Up every one that feels—
’Tis a sad and fearful cry of woe
From a guilty world that steals.
Hark! hark! how the horror rolls,
Whence can this anguish be?
’Tis the groan of a trammel’d people’s souls,
Now bursting to be free.’

"Hey! Here to save you, hey!"
Everyone who cares, stand up—
It’s a heartbreaking and frightening cry of anguish.
From a world filled with guilt that consumes.
Listen! Listen! How the terror unfolds,
Where could this pain be coming from?
It’s the sigh of oppressed people's souls,
Now breaking free.

And here, with all due deference for the office of the ministry, which I believe was established by Jehovah himself, and designed by Him to be the means of spreading light and salvation through a crucified Savior to the ends of the earth, I would entreat my sisters not to compel the ministers of the present day to give their names to great moral reformations. The practice of making ministers life members, or officers of societies, when their hearts have not been touched with a live coal from the altar,[Pg 124] and animated with love for the work we are engaged in, is highly injurious to them, as well as to the cause. They often satisfy their consciences in this way, without doing anything to promote the anti-slavery, or temperance, or other reformations; and we please ourselves with the idea, that we have done something to forward the cause of Christ, when, in effect, we have been sewing pillows like the false prophetesses of old under the arm-holes of our clerical brethren. Let us treat the ministers with all tenderness and respect, but let us be careful how we cherish in their hearts the idea that they are of more importance to a cause than other men. I rejoice when they take hold heartily. I love and honor some ministers with whom I have been associated in the anti-slavery ranks, but I do deeply deplore, for the sake of the cause, the prevalent notion, that the clergy must be had, either by persuasion or by bribery. They will not need persuasion or bribery, if their hearts are with us; if they are not, we are better without them. It is idle to suppose that the kingdom of heaven cannot come on earth, without their co-operation. It is the Lord’s work, and it must go forward with or without their aid. As well might the converted Jews have despaired of the spread of Christianity, without the co-operation of Scribes and Pharisees.

And here, with all due respect for the role of the ministry, which I believe was established by God himself to spread light and salvation through a crucified Savior across the world, I would urge my sisters not to force today's ministers to become involved in major moral reforms. The practice of making ministers lifetime members or officers of societies when their hearts haven't been ignited by a true calling, and aren't filled with love for the work we’re doing, is very harmful both to them and to the cause. They often feel they’ve satisfied their conscience this way, without actually contributing to the anti-slavery, temperance, or other reforms; and we deceive ourselves into thinking we've done something for Christ's cause when, in reality, we've been providing false comfort, like the false prophetesses of old, to our clerical brothers. Let us treat the ministers with kindness and respect, but let’s be careful not to reinforce the idea that they are more important to a cause than others. I feel joy when they engage fully. I love and respect certain ministers I’ve worked with in the anti-slavery movement, but I deeply regret, for the sake of the cause, the common belief that we must win over the clergy, whether through persuasion or bribery. They won’t need persuasion or bribery if their hearts are with us; if they aren't, we’re better off without them. It’s pointless to think that the kingdom of heaven cannot come to earth without their cooperation. It is the Lord’s work, and it must move forward with or without their support. Just as the early believers should not have despaired about spreading Christianity without the help of Scribes and Pharisees.

Let us keep in mind, that no abolitionism is of any value, which is not accompanied with deep, heartfelt repentance; and that, whenever a minister sincerely repents of having, either by his apathy or his efforts, countenanced the fearful sin of slavery, he will need no inducement to come into our ranks; so far from it, he[Pg 125] will abhor himself in dust and ashes, for his past blindness and indifference to the cause of God’s poor and oppressed: and he will regard it as a privilege to be enabled to do something in the cause of human rights. I know the ministry exercise vast power; but I rejoice in the belief, that the spell is broken which encircled them, and rendered it all but blasphemy to expose their errors and their sins. We are beginning to understand that they are but men, and that their station should not shield them from merited reproof.

Let's remember that any abolitionism that doesn't come with genuine, heartfelt repentance is worthless. Whenever a minister truly repents for having, through their indifference or actions, supported the terrible sin of slavery, they won’t need any convincing to join our cause. On the contrary, they will detest their past ignorance and indifference towards God’s poor and oppressed, and they will see it as a privilege to contribute to the fight for human rights. I recognize the ministry holds significant power, but I’m glad to believe that the hold they had on us is broken, and it’s no longer considered blasphemy to call out their mistakes and wrongdoings. We are starting to realize they are just human, and their position shouldn’t protect them from deserved criticism.

I have blushed for my sex when I have heard of their entreating ministers to attend their associations, and open them with prayer. The idea is inconceivable to me, that Christian women can be engaged in doing God’s work, and yet cannot ask his blessing on their efforts, except through the lips of a man. I have known a whole town scoured to obtain a minister to open a female meeting, and their refusal to do so spoken of as quite a misfortune. Now, I am not glad that the ministers do wrong; but I am glad that my sisters have been sometimes compelled to act for themselves: it is exactly what they need to strengthen them, and prepare them to act independently. And to say the truth, there is something really ludicrous in seeing a minister enter the meeting, open it with prayer, and then take his departure. However, I only throw out these hints for the consideration of women. I believe there are solemn responsibilities resting upon us, and that in this day of light and knowledge, we cannot plead ignorance of duty. The great moral reformations now on the wheel are only practical Christianity; and if the ministry is not prepared to labor with[Pg 126] us in these righteous causes, let us press forward, and they will follow on to know the Lord.

I’ve felt embarrassed for my gender when I’ve heard about them asking ministers to come to their gatherings and start with a prayer. I can’t believe that Christian women can be focused on doing God’s work but can’t ask for His blessing on their efforts unless a man does it for them. I’ve seen an entire town searched for a minister to kick off a women’s meeting, and when they refuse, it’s treated like a big loss. Now, I’m not happy that the ministers are acting incorrectly; but I do appreciate that my sisters have sometimes had to step up for themselves: it’s just what they need to empower them and help them become more independent. Honestly, it’s kind of ridiculous to see a minister come into the meeting, pray, and then leave. Still, I’m just putting these thoughts out there for women to consider. I believe we have serious responsibilities, and in this time of knowledge and enlightenment, we can’t claim ignorance about our duties. The significant moral changes happening now are simply practical Christianity; and if the ministry isn’t ready to work with us on these just causes, let’s keep moving forward, and they will follow to get to know the Lord.

CONCLUSION.

I have now, my dear sister, completed my series of letters. I am aware, they contain some new views; but I believe they are based on the immutable truths of the Bible. All I ask for them is, the candid and prayerful consideration of Christians. If they strike at some of our bosom sins, our deep-rooted prejudices, our long cherished opinions, let us not condemn them on that account, but investigate them fearlessly and prayerfully, and not shrink from the examination; because, if they are true, they place heavy responsibilities upon women. In throwing them before the public, I have been actuated solely by the belief, that if they are acted upon, they will exalt the character and enlarge the usefulness of my own sex, and contribute greatly to the happiness and virtue of the other. That there is a root of bitterness continually springing up in families and troubling the repose of both men and women, must be manifest to even a superficial observer; and I believe it is the mistaken notion of the inequality of the sexes. As there is an assumption of superiority on the one part, which is not sanctioned by Jehovah, there is an incessant struggle on the other to rise to that degree of dignity, which God designed women to possess in common with men, and to maintain those rights and exercise those privileges which every woman’s common sense, apart from the prejudices of education, tells her are inalienable; they are a part of her moral[Pg 127] nature, and can only cease when her immortal mind is extinguished.

I have now, dear sister, finished my series of letters. I know they contain some new ideas; but I believe they are grounded in the unchanging truths of the Bible. All I ask is for Christians to consider them thoughtfully and prayerfully. If they challenge some of our closely held sins, deep-seated biases, and long-held beliefs, let's not dismiss them for that reason, but rather examine them courageously and prayerfully, without shying away from the inquiry; because, if they are true, they impose significant responsibilities on women. In sharing them with the public, I am motivated solely by the belief that if acted upon, they will elevate the status and increase the contributions of my own gender, while also greatly enhancing the happiness and virtue of the other. It should be obvious to even a casual observer that there is a source of bitterness continually arising within families, disrupting the peace of both men and women; and I think it stems from the mistaken idea of gender inequality. While one side assumes superiority, which is not supported by God, the other side struggles relentlessly to attain the dignity that God intended for women to share with men, while also affirming their rights and exercising privileges that any woman's common sense, beyond the biases of upbringing, tells her are undeniable; they are part of her moral[Pg 127] nature, and will only cease when her immortal soul is extinguished.

One word more. I feel that I am calling upon my sex to sacrifice what has been, what is still dear to their hearts, the adulation, the flattery, the attentions of trifling men. I am asking them to repel these insidious enemies whenever they approach them; to manifest by their conduct, that, although they value highly the society of pious and intelligent men, they have no taste for idle conversation, and for that silly preference which is manifested for their personal accommodation, often at the expense of great inconvenience to their male companions. As an illustration of what I mean, I will state a fact.

One more thing. I feel like I'm asking my fellow women to give up what has been, and what still is, precious to them—the admiration, the flattery, the attention from superficial men. I'm urging them to reject these sneaky enemies whenever they show up; to show through their actions that, while they truly value the company of thoughtful and respectful men, they have no interest in pointless chatter and that silly preference for their own comfort, often at the expense of their male companions' convenience. To illustrate my point, let me share a fact.

I was traveling lately in a stage coach. A gentleman, who was also a passenger, was made sick by riding with his back to the horses. I offered to exchange seats, assuring him it did not affect me at all unpleasantly; but he was too polite to permit a lady to run the risk of being discommoded. I am sure he meant to be very civil, but I really thought it was a foolish piece of civility. This kind of attention encourages selfishness in woman, and is only accorded as a sort of quietus, in exchange for those rights of which we are deprived. Men and women are equally bound to cultivate a spirit of accommodation; but I exceedingly deprecate her being treated like a spoiled child, and sacrifices made to her selfishness and vanity. In lieu of these flattering but injurious attentions, yielded to her as an inferior, as a mark of benevolence and courtesy, I want my sex to claim nothing from their brethren but what their brethren may justly claim from them,[Pg 128] in their intercourse as Christians. I am persuaded woman can do much in this way to elevate her own character. And that we may become duly sensible of the dignity of our nature, only a little lower than the angels, and bring forth fruit to the glory and honor of Emanuel’s name, is the fervent prayer of

I was traveling recently in a stagecoach. A gentleman, who was also a passenger, got sick from sitting with his back to the horses. I offered to switch seats, assuring him that it didn't bother me at all; but he was too polite to let a lady risk being uncomfortable. I believe he meant to be very kind, but I really thought it was a silly kind of politeness. This sort of attention encourages selfishness in women and is only given as a sort of compensation for the rights we are denied. Men and women are equally responsible for fostering a spirit of cooperation; however, I strongly dislike her being treated like a spoiled child, with sacrifices made to her selfishness and vanity. Instead of these flattering but harmful attentions given to her as an inferior, as a gesture of kindness and courtesy, I want my gender to claim nothing from their counterparts that their counterparts cannot justly claim from them in their relationships as Christians. I truly believe women can do a lot to improve their own standing in this way. That we may come to appreciate the dignity of our nature, only a little lower than the angels, and produce good deeds for the glory and honor of Emmanuel’s name, is my fervent prayer.

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Thine in the bonds of womanhood,

Sarah M. Grimke.

Sarah M. Grimke.


Transcriber’s Notes

Errors in punctuation have been fixed.

Errors in punctuation have been fixed.

Page 7: “Thy both” changed to “They both”

Page 7: “They both” changed to “They both”

Page 8: “flesh, flowl” changed to “flesh, fowl”

Page 8: “flesh, flowl” changed to “flesh, fowl”

Page 9: “moral responsibilites” changed to “moral responsibilities”

Page 9: “moral responsibilities” changed to “moral responsibilities”

Page 21: “Pastoral Lerter” changed to “Pastoral Letter”

Page 21: “Pastoral Lerter” changed to “Pastoral Letter”

Page 25: “messenger of Jehevah” changed to “messenger of Jehovah”

Page 25: “messenger of Jehevah” changed to “messenger of Jehovah”

Page 36: “and someties” changed to “and sometimes”

Page 36: “and someties” changed to “and sometimes”

Page 43: In the footnote, “de famille on de” changed to “de famille ou de” and “Paris and Loudon” changed to “Paris and London”

Page 43: In the footnote, “de famille on de” changed to “de famille ou de” and “Paris and Loudon” changed to “Paris and London”

Page 48: “os well as” changed to “as well as”

Page 48: “as well as” changed to “as well as”

Page 50: “making a waistcoast” changed to “making a waistcoat”

Page 50: “making a waistcoast” changed to “making a waistcoat”

Page 57: “he mean time” changed to “the mean time”

Page 57: “the mean time” changed to “the meantime”

Page 61: “INTELLLECT OF WOMAN” changed to “INTELLECT OF WOMAN”

Page 61: “INTELLECT OF WOMAN” changed to “INTELLECT OF WOMAN”

Page 67: “Christian countres” changed to “Christian countries”

Page 67: “Christian countres” changed to “Christian countries”

Page 70: “glorions reformations” changed to “glorious reformations”

Page 70: “glorions reformations” changed to “glorious reformations”

Page 79: “der husband’s” changed to “her husband’s”

Page 79: “her husband’s” changed to “her husband’s”

Page 89: “the same gound” changed to “the same ground”

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Page 101: “but hardende” changed to “but hardened”

Page 101: “but hardende” changed to “but hardened”

Page 118: “so seduously” changed to “so sedulously”

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Page 120: “lusses naturæ” changed to “lusus naturæ”

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Page 122: “forst ernness” changed to “for sternness”

Page 122: “forst ernness” changed to “for sternness”

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